It’s as though with me things just naturally stay platonic with girls I’m interested in whereas with other dudes - and indeed as nature fucking intended - things move along in a sexual and intimate direction.

I can be charming and funny but even when I try to use strong eyes contact and touch and shit I keep getting stuck in platonic territory - either they’re not interested or I just can’t seem to push through the platonic barrier. And when I try to get more sexual and direct it usually gets knocked back.

I work with a guy who’s had multiple long term relationships with fairly cute girls, and I know him enough to say he’s a witless, charmless, dopy bore, who’s pretty average looking - I’ve seen a female coworker become infatuated with him, when he’s just being his usual unremarkable self and I really can’t understand it.

Couples come in all the time, cute sweet girls, their partners are out of shape and can barely string together a sentence but they’re together so clearly he’s doing something right.

So I’m thinking maybe I’m misjudging what girls are even looking for.

Or maybe the secret is just being extremely direct and turning away a few bit eventually landing someone? What do you think?