I have okay day game and I’m confident enough asking girls to go out. My night game is horrendous.

I think being in the presence of taller men etc makes me feel unworthy. I’m average height but I feel like I’m intruding if I speak to a girl. So even when my friend has opened a set, I will never speak to the other girls and will just sit outside and smoke/whatever. It’s the feeling of “maybe they are into my friend but they will feel repulsed if I go there”

Yesterday, I was really anxious and self-conscious after feeling rejected (after having spoken to 0 girls and never talking to groups that my friend went up to) that I sat on a couch in the bar. I was going to DM a girl, that I was seeing, that “She can do better than me and that I don’t think it’s fair on her for me to be robbing her of the men that she can hang out with/fuck”. As I was going to send the message, a really cute girl literally sat on the couch (and slid over a slice of passion fruit from a random drink 😐) so that she could be next to me, and told me to kiss her. No introduction or anything, she just stuck her tongue out next to me and said kiss me.

We made out for a while, she wanted my hands everywhere so I pretty much obliged, then she said “you’re so sexy”. It ended after 15 mins because I realised that my friend had kissed her earlier that night. But it gave me enough of an ego boost to actually socialise with other people after that.

My learning points:

1) It’s okay not to approach at night clubs. If you’re in a place where girls can subtly approach you, by sitting close to you etc, you can do your own thing and let them come to you.

2) I have a HUGE self-esteem problem. Being around taller guys makes me feel completely shadowed and then guilty for looking/talking to girls. Even though I’m quite good looking, to other people, after a lot of self-improvement and work on my appearance.

3) I need to learn to approach. I used to read a lot of black pill stuff so I make excuses for being a pussy, like “if I was a little bit taller then I would approach”, and this makes me comfortable with not approaching, even though I really hate being alone in a bar without ever having tried talking to people.

4) I need to stop spiralling into anxiety whenever I look at girls. I literally feel my heart racing when my friend asks me to talk to the other girls in the set, and I just end up going outside without even saying a polite “hi” to the other girls, or even just looking at them. I just ignore them to the point of rudeness. In my mind, they want nothing to do with a guy like me, when there are taller guys around. EVEN THOUGH, I know that height hasn’t held me back from anything (5’10) in club shoes. And in honesty, even if I was taller, I would just make another excuse.