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| 1 | LTR said she wants me to be a "sub" for atleast the day.Do you want to try it? BDSM is not (nessecarily) about being sub/dom all the time. Its roleplay. You play roles to discover emotions, sensations and ultimately enjoy. If you wanna try it - do it! If you see her start to mistreat you afterwards outside your roleplay sessions - remind her who's the boss. If you don't feel like continuing at any point just tell her so - that you don't enjoy it. There is nothing you should be ashamed of, neither there is anything you should be doing "in bed" "for he… | /r/askTRP | 24/02/21 12:03 PM |
| 7 | Why do women get angry when you deny sex or just not in the mood?Hurt ego, taking it personally, not getting the pleasure, many reasons really. Why would they not get angry? Not to mention, women are not used to being denied sex. Rarely happens. | /r/askTRP | 01/02/21 08:18 AM |
| 1 | Bored with sexBelieve it or not, that is the case. Men reproduced by uaing many sexual strategies, not only polygamy. Whatever led to reproduction got passed on. Thats how natural selection works. Now tell me, do you think it is true that absolute majority of men that reproduced have had polygamous relationships? Living for thousands of years i society where monogamy was so widely spread and enforced? | /r/askTRP | 29/01/21 07:46 PM |
| 6 | Bored with sexIt is just natural, unfortunately. Its in your instincts. Biological programming. Thats why they call males polygamous b nature. Most are this way. You can build on top of it, control and reroute this desire, but you will have to make effort, practice self discipline, and you will feel like you are depriving yourself of something... Thats how biological urges work. Its the same with binging on high calorie food, or drugs, etc. It is also very individual. I, personally, have no desire to cheat on… | /r/askTRP | 25/01/21 10:36 AM |
| 2 | MRP: why did u get married and what are your biggest lessons?five years LTR, three years married | /r/askMRP | 20/06/20 07:28 AM |
| 4 | MRP: why did u get married and what are your biggest lessons?Got married when I considered myself RP. I thought I have met my unicorn. (I was 28, she 19) Why married: The way society works in Russia, if I would not marry, given our age difference, and me being divorced, that would be absolute hell for her. She would be bombarded with "what are you doing he's going to dump you for another young chick" "ure a slut" "ure wasting ur time with him" and shit. She would no be able to have normal conversation with her family, parents, and most of her friends. I t… | /r/askMRP | 19/06/20 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Can you step inside my shoes for a second?Life is full of awesome stuff and unfortunately, you cannot have it all. Your time, your effort is limited. And some choices, as you see here yourself, are mutually exclusive. My advice would be to focus on what you will gain, not what you will lose. What you will have, not what will be missing. Positive, not negative approach. Think backwards in time. Think what you desire to have in the future, and from that point decide what to do in the present. If you keep true to your monogamous obligation… | /r/askTRP | 21/06/17 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Why we need a dating app that understands Nash’s equilibriumThe problem is simply that people are lazy. Both women and men. No artificial incentives will change that. Men want to fuck without putting in any effort, women want to be provided with goods and affection, again, without any effort. The solution is the TRP way. First, put effort and become a person of worth. Second, don't let women get away with their lazyness by upholding standarts (checking for red flags, three strike system etc.) Simple and works for the man in question (you). Society though… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 08:15 AM |
| 3 | The Privilege of Being a Stay-At-Home WifeWhat does a woman want? I think this is often spoken about on this reddit and in pickup community. Simple really. Women want emotion and validation. They want strong varied emotional experiences. They also want to have their status/achievement/beatuy/whatever validated. We can immediately draw numerous conclusions as to why that is: attraction to higher emotion is a filter that finds the best man to reproduce with, as she will theoretically have the most strong emotional response to his presence… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/04/17 07:54 AM |
| 3 | Women themselves confirm that TRP is correct about which kind of male sexual behavior is attractiveActually, for me SGM was something that gave me motivation to actually start treating my life seriously, force TRP down my throat, eventually leading to me leaving my obese 5yo older than me wife that didn't desire me, and finding my woman I'm with now, which is almost a "unicorn" I'd say. Literally. I've almost given up on sex because it was always unsatisfying. My wife never desired me, never lusted for me, sex was always rare, it was boring, I couldn't do anything (I always had to make her or… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/16 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Women themselves confirm that TRP is correct about which kind of male sexual behavior is attractiveYes, that you have to remember. It's seductive when you're High SMV and creepy when you're Low SMV | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/16 09:22 AM |
| 2 | Women themselves confirm that TRP is correct about which kind of male sexual behavior is attractiveYou can just visit the site and see it (click View Statistics). My take from that is actually that men want their women to be more sexually expressive and less shy. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/16 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Why do men want to marry? Why?Well, that's the thing. Technically, marriage nowadays is nothing like marriage before. Marriage before was a lifetime partnership deal. The only way out was if other partner betrays you, dies or goes nuts. Marriage nowadays is just a contract that defines how you split your shit when you part ways. It's basically a divorce agreement signed in advance. But it's an agreement that government (or whatever institutions) can change without notice, and that courts and judges can twist in whichever way… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/12/16 09:14 AM |
| 4 | Why do men want to marry? Why?There are three aspects to marriage, as I see it. Monogamous sex. Commitment to a liftetime partnership. Contract with the government. First, monogamous sex, is up to personal preference. Most men, as I understand, are polygamous. I am not. I never had an urge to cheat if sex is good with my primary. I don't know how much other men desire to fuck other women just for the sake of fucking other women. Maybe if it's too much they really need to either just abandon the idea of partnering up with som… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/12/16 09:00 AM |
| 9 | Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Submissive Women {NSFW-ish}Shit tests or not, a proper submissive girl will not submit randomly "without challenge". A shit rest, really, is a failure at judging a person in a natural way. Modern date hardly provides good way to test if a man really is a man - he doesn't have to make tough decisions, face dangers, get out of harsh situations etc. How does she know you're a proper man? She shit tests you. But if she's experienced, or the environment provides for it, she can have enough input to judge you without creating a… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/11/15 01:42 PM |
| 1 | LTRs: Even when you win you are still losing (or why the fuck do I do this)Yes, you are expected to do this, the same manner as she is expected to provide you with benefits of femininity. Like, be cute, excite you, do nice things for you, respect you, adore you etc. I think if "Why the fuck do I do this?" is not a rethoric question for you, then indeed, either LTRs are not for you, or this girl does not fit your job description of a proper LTR mate. But if she's worth LTRing, then after thinking for some time, you will find out what benefits does she bring into your li… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/11/15 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Is it a shit test if she asks nicely?If you fail a shit test you'll notice she's not respecting you for it. And vice versa. Does she actually enjoy you bringing her whatever she asked nicely for? Does she thank you from-the-bottom-of-her-heart kind of way (not the fake kind)? Does she get in a bad mood? Is it followed by less respectful behavior? Just see for yourself. When it's isolated, it's easy to judge. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/15 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Wife here: How can I encourage my man to take the red pill?Read Facinating Womanhood. It's a book by a woman for women, and it says how you can promote behavior in a man without taking the lead role. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/09/15 12:23 PM |
| 4 | Want a ménage à trois with the government and your LTR? Well, you need to kick the pedestal from under your unicorn. This is how you do it.Please give more examples. I get your post but I don't exactly get how do you "kick the pedestal from under your unicorn", when do you do it and what exactly does it mean? Personal example: I'm extremely happy in my current Capitain - First Mate dynamic LTR of 9 months. She's a traditional russian girl, from a traditional family which is still intact. Everything's great. It's like a dream come true. However, she does not feel she's completely in control of her life. She is studying at a universt… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/09/15 12:09 PM |
| 5 | Wife gets 50% pay bump, Now out earns me.Maybe read redpillroom blog, for an example of how a woman earning more than a man doesn't change shit | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/15 01:24 PM |
| 46 | Day One of your Captain & First mate dynamicThis was a gamechanger. After 6 years of near-db marriage with a fat uninterested older-than-me wife, where she constantly complaining I'm not doing enough stuff with her... After constantly having to do stuff "with my girl" (that I don't really enjoy) in my past relationships... I just started doing what I enjoy! And taking my new 20-yo LTR with me (I'm 29). And she's extatic 90% of the time! (other 10% she just loves it) I took her to do stuff I like doing and am proficient in, and trained/hel… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/15 01:17 PM |
| 1 | The hardest thing for a woman to see is your back as you walk awayOwnage. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/09/15 02:49 PM |
| 31 | Female duties vs Male duties in committed relationshipsEvery day it seems to me that we're the last bastion in this shitty world. Yes, we are. I say just keep looking for proper women who are free from feminist bullshit, meet women in places where you have a higher chance to find a proper woman, and try to build an LTR with her (and if it works - family). I live in Russia so there is an abundance of women free from bullshit, you just have to keep looking and you can find plenty. It seems it's harder in the USA but then again, there should be at leas… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/09/15 01:27 PM |
| -3 | FP: refused starfish..shit test..progress!Well done. And nice comments. Lol. So much brigaded hamstering. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/09/15 12:01 PM |
| 2 | [Noob] shit tests in the kitchenThis phenomena goes on something like this: You suck as a man, so you're getting no sex You change, she starts getting attracted to you, you start getting sex She realises she's fucking you, and goes "WTF? I shouldn't be fucking him, he sucks!" and starts bullshitting you harder than before That's where you're at. She's going EXTREMELY crazy because she can't understand why she's suddenly fucking you infinitely more frequently than before (5 vs 0). Hold fucking frame. Command respect, pass shit … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/09/15 11:55 AM |
| 1 | My wife had "butterflies" with her ex. Not with me. This hurts. I really need your help.You have received a LOT of good advice. Don't fuck it up. Listen and use it. You are on the right track. And you can fix this. First step is believing, second step is just going forward with it. No matter how good you get, he will always be special to her because he didn't commit. It's like, if you wanted something badly and didn't get it, it gets very hard to convince yourself it's not worth it. Even after 20 years you'll still think about that awesome toy parents didn't buy you or that first p… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/09/15 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?It's like a bad porn movie. Exactly. Except after I went SGM I kinda feel I'm missing something if I orgasm but don't fuck her, so I hardly want blowjobs anymore, fucking her gives me so much more pleasure... you should be tracking her period btw Doing it. No. Ignore it, or tease her that she has PMS or something. If you have to do something with her and her mood is ruining it, shrug and go do something else. If something real happened, she'd tell you, and if her father died of course you should… | /r/askTRP | 04/09/15 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?Yeah thing is my bros won't see how I interact with my woman in private. But I get it. I can only rely on my own self-awareness. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/15 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?The thing is that girls are attracted to guys that don't give a fuck. So you have to ask yourself, are you willing to sacrifice some attraction to know her preference? If you ask her, she'd say she prefer to have a more attractive alpha who didn't ask her such questions than a less attractive man who cooks the meat perfectly. I thought as much. Makes sense from TRP PIV. Makes no sense otherwise, but then agian, my "sense" comes from my BP past so I cannot trust it. After some more time spent thi… | /r/askTRP | 03/09/15 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?If you ask her, she'd say she prefer to have a more attractive alpha who didn't ask her such questions than a less attractive man who cooks the meat perfectly. I thought as much. Makes sense from TRP PIV. Makes no sense otherwise, but then agian, my "sense" comes from my BP past so I cannot trust it. Thank you for this. Don't DEER: defend, explain, excuse or rationalize. Don't say you value her opinion. FUCK ME.... I do have a problem with this, I know it, and I'm working hard on it. I've come a… | /r/askTRP | 03/09/15 11:24 PM |
| 2 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?I see. Thank you. So I cannot rely on her to give me advice on my self-improval, right? Like, I can ask my friends, but I can't ask her? | /r/askTRP | 03/09/15 10:32 PM |
| 0 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?She'll rather stick by your side as you confidently make decisions that inconvenience her, than hear you ask what she thinks of you. Really? Could you elaborate why that is? I mean, I get it why it's right when "inconvinience" is required, like, when I make a tough economical decision that makes us tighten our belts short term vs long term benefit. I get it why it's wrong when you ask for "where do you want to go" or "what do you want to do on a weekend" and accept her idea regardless of your op… | /r/askTRP | 03/09/15 08:28 PM |
| 0 | Asking your LTR to give you negative feedback: good or bad?I know you can banter and joke just about everything and twist it around and shit. If that would be a joke I'd phrase it differently. I'm talking serious feedback here. I get it you're against it. | /r/askTRP | 03/09/15 08:10 PM |
| 1 | How to handle in-laws?I would argue that AWALT means everyone has a natural urge to manipulate you. Wether they follow it or not is a different story (same as the application of AWALT) | /r/askMRP | 27/08/15 10:38 AM |
| 1 | People take advantage of my soft nature. How do I gain respect?You may be right. Better get your ass kicked in school than in adult life. Less potential damage | /r/askTRP | 27/08/15 10:29 AM |
| 1 | People take advantage of my soft nature. How do I gain respect?Of course you calmly say "That is disrespectful of you, please stop doing that" or something like that, BUT if the person is a bully there's no point. He's not looking to be respectful, he can't be respectful unless you're another bully and his brother-in-bullying. What you're saying is when there's something at stake. Of course when someone cuts me in the line I tell him he's misbehaving and if he ignores me I'll cut him and we'll see how it goes on from there (unless I'm obviously outmached in… | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 09:31 PM |
| 2 | People take advantage of my soft nature. How do I gain respect?When I Say No I Feel Guilty | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Self Esteem issues in bed, and robotic. My SMV is top notch, 8 in aesthetics, 9 in clothing. Years of bullying in high school left me with issues.Practice it thoroughly and constantly. SGM has all you need. Meditations, breaths, letting go of any thoughts... | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:59 PM |
| 2 | People take advantage of my soft nature. How do I gain respect?NMMNG, WISNIFG and Maximum Achievement (esp. part about mastering relationships). Also read on power poses, open poses. How to present yourself, how to speak. And practice. Everything. A lot. Frequently. Practice speaking slowly. Practice walking with a proud posture. Practice taking open poses and standing upright. Practice slowly moving your gaze, long eye contact, never looking down to break eye contact. Keep your boundaries up. If you know someone's going to use your football and kick it awa… | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:52 PM |
| 3 | People take advantage of my soft nature. How do I gain respect?No you can. Someone disrespects you - you walk away and never waste your time on them again. Unless you're in an environment where you can't walk away - in which case you usually have other options (like, kick their ass). | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Self Esteem issues in bed, and robotic. My SMV is top notch, 8 in aesthetics, 9 in clothing. Years of bullying in high school left me with issues.What do you mean? Did you apply what you read? What stopped you? He explains everything, about bedroom techincian, about Immersion etc. Gives exact advice how to work on it. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:41 PM |
| 1 | What's the TRP opinion on professional escorts?Nope. Read books about financial independance, investment, and so on. Rich Dad Poor Dad, Path to Finaicial Freedom: First Million in Seven Years, etc. Spend your money wisely. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Girl sent a message, implying she's upset that I take time to reply to texts. How best to respond?THIS | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:39 PM |
| 1 | TRP Tenets Are Literally Cheat CodesI had this - kinda - and it turned up I was delusional. My advice would be: there is still a room to grow, and no room to get lazy and relax. Keep improving, keep growing, keep achieving. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/15 02:38 PM |
| 1 | After Sex Beta BehaviorYou're right though. It's obviously deep, so I'll have to work hard to get past this. I don't know what has programed me this way, but I'll dig a you suggest. I think it's more that I've been conditioned throughout my formative years and i just have to truck on and evolve and break past the dissonance. If you think this way, then my advice is precisely on point. I'll explain a little bit more how this "Reimprinting" thing works. How your reaction is formed: You have a shocking fresh experience a… | /r/askMRP | 26/08/15 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with women are "seeing" someone?So it's either a typical "I have a boyfriend" shit-test, or she's not interested in you and gracefully trying to decline your advances. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/15 06:29 PM |
| 1 | How to handle in-laws?Why do you have to communicate with them anyway? Do you live together? Why does she gets to voice her voice at all times? If she's calling your wife personally and fucks her brain, then... well, what I would do is I'd have a talk with my wife, and suggest blacklisting her for a while (a month). I am not sure if this is the right course of action, but my logic is this: as a man, it is my responsibility to handle foreign affairs as a man, it is my responsibility to protect my female from harm ther… | /r/askMRP | 25/08/15 06:28 PM |
| 1 | STFU results in, "I know what that means."She's shit testing you, that's what she's doing. Make sure you're not just giving the look but actually doing what "the look" means. Aka - you keep frame and make her enter yours, rather than deferring to hers. | /r/askMRP | 25/08/15 04:13 PM |
| 2 | After Sex Beta BehaviorI think there's a deep issue here that needs to be resolved. This guilt you're feeling for coming on your wife's face is not a simple beta feeling, it's a reaction you've acquired at some point in your life and reinforced throughout your life. It could be brute forced (make yourself feel "alpha", pat her on the butt et.) but there's a way more efficient way to fix it. What helped me in a similar situation is a process that's called Reimprinting. It's from NLP, and it's widely regarded as the onl… | /r/askMRP | 25/08/15 04:05 PM |
| 3 | How to handle in-laws?Set proper boundaries. Take control of the conversation. Yes it will require exactly fogging and broken record. Calmly repreat that you're not going to discuss A,B or C. Calmly repeat that they have no vote in how you handle your household. Calmly repeat that you are adults and free to choose how to act. Calmly repeat that you have already listened to and considered their advice. When they see there's no reaction, no nerves are being get on, no hamster is being riled up, they'll change their tac… | /r/askMRP | 25/08/15 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Like plate except the sex isn't amazing... what to do?I still have trouble with the verbal side but I am getting better There you have your answer. Become vocal yourself and lead by example. When you can tell her "Come for me baby! Scream, claw at me with your nails, show it to me!" and such, she will naturally start responding more. She's not vocal because she needs to trust you, that you'll accept it and won't freak out. I think you should develop your women. SGM talks about it. When you use plates as a solution to not improving yourself, like, l… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/15 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with women are "seeing" someone?Your post is hard to understand. Do you have regular sex with her? In that case, are you monogamous with her? If yes - stop being monogamous with her, if no - what do you care if she's seeing someone, you're seeing someone as well! | /r/askTRP | 25/08/15 03:26 PM |
| 1 | What is your daily routine?You cannot fight your bad habbits. You just can't. There's a lot of truths in the Bible, and this is one of them: if you clean yourself from crap, and leave the place empty, even worse crap will fill that void. The only way to counter bad habbits is to introduce good habbits that overwrite them. You cannot just stop surfing or playing video games. You have to figure out something WORTHY to do instead of surfing video games. You have to have a clear goal, a desired and wanted goal, and clear step… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/15 03:21 PM |
| 3 | Blue, when did you get so attractive?Holy shit why so negative? It's an awesome post and it makes good points. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/08/15 08:44 PM |
| 1 | OI & AffectionDid that help? Yes. I believe it did. In my version of the speech, I was too self focused (everything about my feelings, not hers), I was too serious (no fun in what I say) and I was too personal (I make it about myself, not men in general). Correct? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/15 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed: Wife makes "desperate plea" to save marriage, sends me article on narcissismIn that case my point is not relevant. However, I still think saying you don't care wether she thinks you are a narcissist is too harsh for a person you profess to love. Capitain - First Mate, she must feel like her input is appreciated, even when it's discarded in the end or does not influence the decision. Something akin to: "Thank you, I have considered your opinion, but I strongly disagree and I do not think you repeating is getting us anywhere". | /r/askMRP | 21/08/15 09:32 PM |
| 1 | OI & AffectionI have a hard time grasping that analogy, because the drill sergeant is in position of power, while the dude is not. The drill sergeant's volounteers are not actually "volounteers", they cannot refuse, they have to accept. In the situation with your wife, it's not the case. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/15 08:46 PM |
| 2 | OI & AffectionOkay now let's assume I'm in the situation OP is in, I'll try to abstain from whatever I've read, and formulate it how I would say it based on my current mindset and undestanding: Her: asks to cuddle Me: "I won't want to cuddle with you right now" Her: ? Me: "I will try to explain it to you. I am a man. For me, sex is the primary way, the only way feeling the intimate connection between us. Without regular sex, I have a hard time feeling anything, it is to me as if the link between us does not e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/15 08:43 PM |
| 1 | OI & AffectionI will ask you the same thing. Where do you draw the line between negotiating and explaining? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/15 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed: Wife makes "desperate plea" to save marriage, sends me article on narcissismNot that I didn't care about her feelings. I quoted your post. And your statement that my duty as a man is to make her happy goes against every red pill thing I've read. Maybe. I see it that way. I know myself it's hard to understand properly. Maybe I'm wrong. Thing is, it all goes around in a circle and it's hard to break, hard to find where to stop. Take sex, for example. It's your duty and to your benefit to make your woman feel good and experience orgasms - that will make you unique to her, … | /r/askMRP | 21/08/15 08:04 PM |
| 1 | OI & AffectionNot arguing. You obviously have more experience than me in the matter. Please explain, how do you not cross the line between explaining to her that cuddling comes after sex for men, and negotiating ("you give me sex I give you cuddles")? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/15 07:56 PM |
| 3 | OI & AffectionCuddling with her won't lead to sex. So don't get into covert contracts here. You don't have to cuddle with her to get sex later, nor will cuddling with her increase your chances of getting laid. If anything, not giving her cuddles can increase your chances to get sex. But you don't have to rely on it anyway. When you progress enough down the MRP path you'll get laid like a tile regardless. It's inevitable, just a matter of time. That said, do what you please. Want to cuddle? Cuddle. Don't want … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/15 03:03 PM |
| 1 | "Don't shit where you eat" clarification.I don't think that classifies as "Shit when you eat" then. You're basically talking about dating a person who works in a 1km radius, but otherwise is unrelated. Not the same business, not the same office. The "major issue" you describe seems like a good way to actually improve yourself. Yeah, stand there like they're nobodies, why the hell should you be affraid to stand nearby? They rejected your advances, that doesn't mean they're now somehow contagious to you! I don't think that should be an i… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 01:00 PM |
| 2 | "Don't shit where you eat" clarification.It has been found out that there are countless ways in which a disgrunted woman (or man) can ruin your career when they know your identity and have enough motivation. Hell, nowadays it's so easy to ruin someone you know it's ridiculous. Like, if I know your phone number, I'd put several ads on your name like you're selling some real estate, and you'd have to change your number or ban any incoming number that's not in your contact list. I could order countless shit to your house on pay-on-receive… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Past mistakes in LTRI assume you are asking after starting down the RP path, because if you're asking about our BP past then you don't need to ask, there's enough examples eveyrwhere around you. What I did wrong was that when after I started to apply RP in my life, and got into a dream LTR relationship, pefrect Capitain - First Mate dynamic, perfect sex, perfect everything, I didn't care to properly test myself. When later a situation happened, that forced me to not speak/see her for more than a week, and made unce… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Basic information requestRed Pill is a praxeology. You really cannot understand it without practicing it. It's like a religion, where you cannot really say you "grasp" it without being an active practicing believer. By reading it and agreeing with something and disagreeing with other, you will get a skewed view of TRP through the prism of your paradigms and beliefs. This is exactly the reason why people misunderstand TRP in the first place. | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 11:08 AM |
| 2 | TRP, and unstable LTR of 2 yearsIt IS in your blood, but you're been broken and violated by our society, by uneffective and harmful upbringing, and other factors, everything contributed to that natural programming being subdued in you. Life is a matter of acquiring proper habbits, and getting rid of bad ones. When you work on your frame over and over, keep passing shit tests, keep the balance in your favor (the 2/3 rule), eventually it does become "in your blood". I guarantee it. No, of course, challenges will always happen. W… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 10:40 AM |
| 2 | Theoretical: Why is (modern) Feminism so self-contradicting?Because it's fundamentally flawed. Voting rights are not rights. They're responsibilities. Men and women are not equal. They're fundamentally different. They desire different things, they operate under different frameworks and they have different biological imperatives and goals in life. There is no discrimination or sexism in the fact that women get paid less on average, or that certain areas like STEM have unequal percentages of male to female population. Any relationship requires a leader. An… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Am I too young to be reading The Red Pill?You're not too young. It's great you've come here early. Older men, like me, have already wasted several years of our life, and on top of that we have acquired traits, habbits and paradigms we have to overwrite, meaning, we lose more years changing ourselves, fixing the broken, replacing the bullshit. On the other hand, you won't have to go through any of that. You will, from the beginning of your sexually active life, start building yourself to be a proper male, start practicing and internalisi… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 10:27 AM |
| 2 | Best source of income for plates...Why are you asking? Are you afraid you'll get rejected when you try out? It doesn't take much time to test out all the sources you've laid out. Or have you tried everything, and want to compare your outcomes with others? | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 10:21 AM |
| 4 | What Do You Guys Think of Models. Attract Women Through Honesty By Mark Manson?Very good stuff. Some ideas bordering BP (like "vulnerability" concept) but still could be applied. Taken under the TRP scrutiny, it's valueable. | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 10:20 AM |
| 3 | "Don't shit where you eat" clarification.You're well versed in TRP. You should know by now that you should think for yourself. Do not accept any rule at face value, find the underlying reason and understand it deeply, then apply it to your life as it applies to YOUR life, your circumstances. How can it hurt? Word gets around. Women get jealous. Men get jealous. Women get crazy when you break up with them or they find out they're plate status or you're non-exclusive. Men get offended when you fast-seduce a woman they've orbited for year… | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 10:19 AM |
| 5 | [Early phase] Negotiating sex?Face it: you don't want the sex she's offering you. You don't want sex "wifes give to their husbands". That's bullshit, that's not sex. You acknowledge it too. The sex you want will only happen when she genuinely desires you. It will be nothing like the "duty sex" you get now. Until that point, healthy masturbation (it's from NMMNG I believe) is really more benefitial for you than having sex with your wife. Because the reason you want sex is that it confirms to you that your wife accepts you as … | /r/askMRP | 21/08/15 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Catch 22This. Fucking this. | /r/askMRP | 21/08/15 10:01 AM |
| 2 | Help with initiating...Should you though? Should you look to take out the feels out of sex? Read Sex God Method. Just read it and it will answer all your questions. Emotion is key, an emotionless robot will not satisfy her desires. You're either lacking Dominance, and your "wetness" makes you a submissive pussy, or you're thinking as a man you should not express emotion and desire, but rather be a stoic rock, or... whatever. We can guess, but that would be a waste of time, both ours and yours. If you spend just half a… | /r/askMRP | 21/08/15 09:56 AM |
| 1 | Advice needed: Wife makes "desperate plea" to save marriage, sends me article on narcissismI see everything you do as correct, except this: "didn't care what she thought." and then "I love her and want to keep the marriage." You may be going too fast, as people point out, but you're doing most of the things right, except this one. Don't you yourself see this just... doesn't match? Telling her you don't care about her feelings is essentially telling her you don't love her and don't care about the marriage. Do you actually care about her feelings? Well, as her husband, lover and SO, you… | /r/askMRP | 21/08/15 09:54 AM |
| 2 | LTR celibacy Shit test?I get you. Your opinion is perfectly valid. I just commented that randomly insulting religious people (which is the majority of the world) is not something you want to do, generally. | /r/askTRP | 21/08/15 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to maintain frame after disagreementI understand that if this happens again separation is the only outcome. What I found out both in studying TRP and in practice is that holding frame, OI and abundance menatlity are always the only way to go. Following these three, no matter what happens, you will always get the best outcome possible. If she concedes and submits, you get the girl who gets in a habbit of adjusting to your lifestyle and entering your frame. If she doesn't - you reinforce your frame, OI and abundance mentality, reinf… | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Phone PasswordYou will keep slipping and you should keep recovering. This is a long road, but eventually you'll be slipping less and less, and recovering will be easier and easier. It's a matter of ditching shitty habbits and acquiring good ones. Talking less is a good skill to have. However, it's also good to practice your speech (or writing) skills. When you talk, type, elaborate on your position and opinion, you both understand yourself better and learn to communicate better. I often write long replies and… | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 05:11 PM |
| 3 | LTR celibacy Shit test?You should care if you offend people because that's to your own benefit. If you do not see how it is to your own benefit not to offend vast amounts of people with unnesecary words, I'm not going to lecture you on that. | /r/askTRP | 20/08/15 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Why the woman with a n=1 count may be most dangerous LTR of allI was just explaining OP's point, as it was not clearly understood by those who commented, but for me it was simple to understand. I haven't actually tested his theory so I cannot vouch if it's true or false. PS: Your post is very good and very well factually supported. Thanks. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 05:07 PM |
| 2 | LTR celibacy Shit test?She always will. That's female nature. AWALT. That's not a reason in and out itself to next her. | /r/askTRP | 20/08/15 02:59 PM |
| 3 | LTR celibacy Shit test?There's no need to hammer religion and offend religious people. What she is doing is not religious, at least, not Christian. In the history of Christianity, this problem has already happened back in the old days, when after Christianity started to spread, wives who became strong believers often decided to become "pure" and stopped having sex with their husbands, and their husbands complained, and one of the holy fathers (I believe it was Saint John Chrysostom) said something akin to "By doing th… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/15 02:57 PM |
| 2 | LTR celibacy Shit test?You did the right thing. You are deciding 100% of the rules of the relationships you engage in. You are in total control. Fun thing is? She is too! She also is in total 100% control of the relationsihps she engages in. Noone is in control of these rules, not her, not you, because you're both free to choose wether or not to engage in a specific relationship with a specific person. Your relationship can function as long as you are compatible. If you are not, either one of you bulges, or the relati… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/15 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Am I too old to change?Without looking at your post: No, you are NEVER too old to change. After having read your post: Yes you have a mountain to climb, but no that's not a reason to give up prematurely. You see, everyone has his own problems. And it's all irrelevant because it's relative. Yeah, you may have to work harder than that other guy to attain the success level he gets (spinning a harem of plates) but at the same time just getting regular sex will already be a breakthrough for you. TRP has way more implicatio… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/15 02:40 PM |
| 7 | Being a top 20% male wont save you. How TRP gut punched me.It's a well known truth on TRP that a male she can get to fuck her will in vast majority of cases be of a higher SMV than a male that she can get to commit. Therefore, it is reasonable to assume, that whenever you enter into a commited relationship with a woman, there's always going to be a better man out there who would agree to fuck her if she offers herself to him. However, that does not mean she will. You have advantages over that other better alpha: You are proven to be good in bed and fuck… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 02:28 PM |
| 5 | Why the woman with a n=1 count may be most dangerous LTR of allIf you read the OP, he's saying that for girls, PB occurs more on the basis of love than on the basis of sex. Therefore, how she sees sex is secondary. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Phone PasswordI'm not rock solid on my position on the matter, but a little voice inside is whispering to hold. I have to admit, a part of me enjoys saying no. That is because saying no and holding your position is the right thing to do, but you've been conditioned by all sorts of sources to suppress it and allow others to violate you in all sorts of ways. Essentially, through guilt and shame and other coercing concepts you've been micro-raped over and over again all your life. Now you're regaining proper bou… | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Why the woman with a n=1 count may be most dangerous LTR of allYes, it is. But she may as well have just had casual hookups, you never know. So you can look at an n=0 woman who had deep love without sex, and at an n=3 woman who had three casual hookups, and the latter, not the former would be a better prospect in terms of capacity to PB. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 12:19 PM |
| 3 | "I feel like your happiness is all that matters, and I'm along for the ride."I think what he's saying is that you should plan out exactly when will you get her pregnant. She should feel certain when it will happen, then she can wait. When there is no exact plan, exact date, she's panicking because she feels you'll NEVER give her what she wants. You should reiterate to her that until you want to have a kid too, it's not happening. Period. Because this is a shared responsibility and only you two together can take it. No matter what clock is ticking for her, no matter what … | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 12:17 PM |
| 4 | Any tips for staying stoic when times are rough?Never vent to your wife, you should know that. Never show weakness to her. She's not made for that puropse. Again, you should already know that. In absence of friends, talk to yourself. Write your thoughts down, or voice your concerns, maybe even shout at yourself etc. You should be alone for this (obviously, don't want others to hear you or bother you). Reading "Art of Empathy", on the topic of "Conscious Complaining" can be benefitial. | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to maintain frame after disagreementYou did nothing wrong, neiter did she. The only, ONLY possible course of action is the one she proposed: you guys separating. There is nobody in control here. You are not fine with your girl showing off her pussy on the beach to other people, she's not fine with being restricted in showing off her pussy on the beach to other people. Until either of you change their stance, it is irrelevant what other values you bring to each other lives: you are incompatible, and the incompatibility cannot be re… | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Phone PasswordAll you are doing is establishing proper barriers and working on yourself. You are doing nothing wrong. However, as a Capitain, you noticed your First Mate is panicking and I think it is totally fine if you tell her "I noticed you are becoming worried lately. Do you want to talk?" and answer her concerns. It is fine if you confirm to her you are not gaming other women or actively looking for someone else. That you are indeed changing, not for her, not for other women, but for yourself, according… | /r/askMRP | 20/08/15 11:54 AM |
| 3 | Gabbi Reece describes how to keep an alpha male happyI just love the narrative spinning in the article. "he gave me some particularly fascinating insight to her marriage with Laird, who she says is an “alpha male.” Even though some may find the following advice controversial..." Of course he's an "alpha male" in quotes. Of course it's controversal, HOLY SHIT TRIGGERS ABOUND! "by honoring her partner in this way, it allows him to support her as a strong powerful woman, which is a key to their successful marriage" Of course, the key to a successful … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/08/15 11:04 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Told LTR about dad problems, worst mistake.You learnt a lesson. Never show weakness to your woman. If you follow up on it everything will be fine. When you never again show weakness to her, she will see that as an improvement. She will shit test you and you will pass it and she will see it as if you've grown. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 11:00 AM |
| 7 | Attract Versus LikeIt all boils down to what we already know: female sexual strategy has two goals, to lock down the best provider, and to get pregnant with the best genes. It can be the same man, but reallistically speaking the best male who she can get to fuck her will always be out of her league in trems of locking down. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 10:58 AM |
| 5 | Why the woman with a n=1 count may be most dangerous LTR of allToo many broken people nowadays. My LTR has all the green flags you could think of and almost no red flags, but this is one of them. Her friends are not exactly happy in their relationships. For example, one of her friends has a boyfriend who is a beta pussy (despite having been in the army). They broke up four times already, she's obviously dominating him. She's also not very attractive, smokes etc. He definetly deserves better but alas. Another of her friends is insanely introvert, to the poin… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 10:54 AM |
| 15 | Why the woman with a n=1 count may be most dangerous LTR of allNo he's not. Read his post carefully. Even a virgin could have a deep love for someone. Such a virgin is more dangerous than a woman who casually fucked 10 guys, never getting attached to any of them. His point is that partner count, even zero partner count, does not guarantee good capacity for Pair Bonding. Rather, "love count" does, but then, 0 is of course the best, but 1 is not better than more, in fact, more is better than 1, because she's more likely to get over it at that point (she learn… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?I always felt like the woman needs time in sex to build up to things. Of course she does. That's the dillema - if you violate her barriers you're a rapist, if you don't plow through her token resistance or shit tests you're a loser. If a girl you picked up says "we're not having sex tonight" and you consider it a form of LMR and plow through it you either get sex and she's hot for you because "you're the man that can handle her", or you rape her and go to jail because she really meant it when sh… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/15 08:33 AM |
| 1 | What do you feel when someone cheatsher love was unconditional, she went through some dark times with me and betrayed me when I was at my most vulnerable point I am a romantic myself and I hate to tell you this, but AWALT. Fucking AWALT. They will betray you at your most vulnerable point, they fucking will, even after sharing so many positive moments with you, even after promising to always love you, even after telling you how they're in heaven as you fuck them so damn good. Nothing you can give to a woman provdides you any guaran… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Affirmative Action is Good... Except when it isn'tMy point exactly. Fucking bullshit. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 03:50 PM |
| 2 | First tinder date...As I said, I don't do "late". I think a man should always stand by his word. If I said I'll be there at 10:00, I'll be there at 10:00. Therefore, Roosh's approach is not for me. However, from a theoretical standpoint, it should work. | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?you just want control of the situation. Following again on what you say, she indeed does want the control of the situation from you! Remember about betaization? She is trying to betaize you at every appropriate moment. If she succeeds, she gets a complacent, tamed resource provider at her disposal, and if she doesn't, she reaffirms to herself you still are the alpha she though you were, and gets the tingles. It's a win-win situation for her, every time. | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?I just know the girl I'm with now (haven't had sex yet, new dating relationship) isn't that open to anal, mentioned in passing once about maybe with her husband Dude, just read Sex God Method on anal! It describes a situation that matches your 100% ("maybe with husband") and how to break through that with ease. | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?The idea is that girls put up barriers for no reason. Oh, but there's plenty of reasons, are there not? You mentioned one yourself, and there's more obvious reasons why girls put up barriers: she doesn't want to be seen in a bad light - freak, whore, slut she fears you will be judgemental of her sexuality she tests your ability to get what you want and your confidence she tests your skill and knowledge, to be sure she can trust you with say, letting you hurt or choke her If she easilly accepts a… | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 11:27 AM |
| 1 | Should I stop trying to help my gf with her work issues?I think reading NMMNG is in order for you. You seem to be invested in other person's life and want to fix other person's problems. Other than that, yes, the correct course of action is that you should not try to solve a girl's problem, unless she directly asks you to solve them or you look like the best man for the job and the effort required is appropriate for your stage of the relationship. Like she says "My car's broken and I don't know what to do" you could ask "Should I go see it / Should I… | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 10:33 AM |
| 7 | First tinder date...Good job. Some advice on arriving earlier when she arrives late that helped me a lot: I am also a kind of person that "Doesn't do late". I am always early to any scheduled meeting in order to guarantee I will be there on time. Obviously, the other parties are often not as punctual, not only girls, but men as well. I often spent over 20 minutes waiting and obviously by the time the other party came I was often not in the best mood and inner state, sometimes even without their fault (I came 15 min… | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 10:21 AM |
| 1 | My nephew is making a huge mistake and watching him is killing meThere is no way out other than the only way out: stopping caring. I may sound harsh, but please ditch your emotions for a second and use your brain. Do not feel, think! In order to take care of something or someone, you must have the power to make choices for that something or someone. Like, if I want to take care of a plant, I must be allowed total control of it. I must be allowed to water it at the schedule of my choice, alter the soil with supplements I choose, decide on the environmental var… | /r/askTRP | 19/08/15 10:15 AM |
| 1 | What do you feel when someone cheatsYou are feeling the loss. You lost her, because you respect yourself enough to know the relationship is over when she cheated on you, no matter if she was frank with you about it or not. You lost her and you feel bad because she was a part (maybe a major part) of what made you happy. And now you no longer have her and are no longer happy. Read up on Inner Happiness. You need to become independent of outside sources for the purpose of happiness. If you say or think "If/When I have (something) I a… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 10:04 AM |
| 1 | Affirmative Action is Good... Except when it isn't-Women represent about 60 percent of university students in Sweden, a pioneer in gender equality. LOLWHAT? How is 60% an equality? | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?I introduced it gradually over the last 4 months actually. At the start, I wasn't kinky myself, heck, I hardly call it "sex", what I had before RP and SGM - it was an abomination of what sex really is, what I'm getting now. It was even worse than what's described in NMMNG. So, first 3 months were me solving the rest of my sex issues (erection, premature ejaculcation) and learning to be dominant in bed, speaking, varying things up etc (SGM's DEVI). Since she also had her issues (light case of vag… | /r/askTRP | 18/08/15 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Progress UpdateI realize now that better and more frequent sex is not the panacea I'd hoped it would be.... I am much more likely to have opportunities and thoughts of infidelity. I dunno about you guys, but I'm loving it! Yes, my situation is different, I'm not married, I'm divorced, but I've been monogamous all my life and couldn't change it even though I tried to spin plates (maybe it's for the best), so I'm in a commited LTR right now now, and I'd consider fucking someone else cheating, so I think it's clo… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/15 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?we know that a woman doesn't want to be asked to be kissed. By the same token a woman doesn't want you to ask her what she wants sexually... she wants you to be an animal and figure it out, or just do what you want and she'll want it too, etc. That's the point. It seems that BDSM's "communication" only works when you "game", but not in a relationship. In a relationship, she needs you to be a man, she needs you to explore her and open her up, she doesn't want to guide you. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/15 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Lauren Southern strolls through the Edmonton Slutwalk and reveals the sad alternative existence of non-TRP menI was one of them beta men once. Fuck me..... There is no alternative to TRP. Thank God I found it... | /r/TheRedPill | 18/08/15 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?I am already doing that, and I can continue doing so. I was just thinking the "communication" concept that I learned from BDSM literature makes sense, and after asking on BDSM subreddit and getting the response I got, I analyzed it again and came to a different conclusion, which I laid out in this post. I'm more interested not in how to act from now on, but wether my logic, detailed in the post above, is correct. | /r/askTRP | 18/08/15 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Communication about sex, kinks and fantasies: a bad thing to do?I have no problem reading unformatted posts. This was very useful, thank you. I also intuitively came to explaining concepts to her - like, the concept of "being curious what lies beyond tolerable levels" as in "isn't it curious, what will happen if I keep fucking you after you came several times and want me to stop"* or "what will happen if I tie you up and tickle you more than you thought you can handle". And I already had my share of "please keep going" moments. I don't think BDSM is useless … | /r/askTRP | 18/08/15 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Is a one-way open marriage unethical?Ethics exist in a situation where "right" and "wrong" are defined by someone. By asking if something is unethical you are asking if something is considered wrong by some authority. Is it wrong by today society's standarts? Yes, because this society values "equality" in it's most ridiculous of forms. Did you need us to tell you that? I think you're well aware it is so. You must however consider the goal of the authority. If you accept the authority's judgement and follow it's ethical standarts, w… | /r/askTRP | 18/08/15 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Maybe I do want kids or an LTR?Can't you be broken down, and if yes, is that a reason to cease your existence? I think you should not focus on bad examples only, simple as that. You say "you experienced how easy it is to break mariage material girls". What you actually experienced is a number of marriage material girls breaking. You have no way of asessing the amount of those who didn't break, or what pressure they handled while still not breaking. Your choice is yours. If you decided not to allow it anymore in your life - fi… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/08/15 09:21 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Unicorn my assWho has a romanticiszed view? Russian girls ON AVERAGE are of course better than western girls. This does not mean you cannot find a marriage-material western girl, or a russian slut. It's a matter of probability. On average, if you pick 100 random girls from the west and from Russia, you're more likely to find a quality material girl from Russia. Come on guys, use logic, operate probabilities and percentages properly, and no misunderstandings will happen. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/15 12:29 PM |
| 6 | Maybe I do want kids or an LTR?It's a matter of selection, IMHO. The more I read TRP submissions and interact with TRP posters, the more it comes to this. Men come to TRP because their sexual strategy (BP) does not get them laid. Their goal is to get laid. They study TRP, start implementing it and start getting laid. Since their goal is to get laid, spin plates etc., they select girls best fitting plate role - sluts. They mostly see sluts because their sexual strategy weeds out the girls that won't accept plate role and leave… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/15 12:17 PM |
| 1 | How to get my wife out of her sexual shell?That's the thing. Watching sex ed videos, I heard about how for women, learning their bodies, how to bring themselves to orgasm, will help them achieve orgasm with a partner. However, reading RP literature and SGM, as well as watching that video about how to make your girl squirt, this leads to a completely different conclusion: in order to orgasm, the woman must have no self-esteem issues, and you have to turn her on and fuck her good (DEVI). Knowing where to rub and at what angle to insert has… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/15 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Prenups can be overturned. Don't get married.Want more fucked up info? Here: http://www.rg.ru/2015/04/29/brak.html This is an article on common law marriage in Russia. They want to add it to our laws, that if you live together for X months and then break up you have to 50/50 split the property earned together. If the article can be trusted, then the total majority of men questioned are actually SUPPORTIVE of common law marriage proposal, but some women are AGAINST it, reason being, if they snatch a wealthy man from another woman, they don'… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/15 09:29 AM |
| 5 | Prenups can be overturned. Don't get married.That's not paranoid when you can't trust your stuff not being taken from you in a society where private property is considered a key right. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/15 09:22 AM |
| 3 | Prenups can be overturned. Don't get married.Russia is broken in it's own way. Business here is hard. Corruption is abound. That's fact. It may be slowly improving but that's just because the corrupt people have had enough money and don't really have use for more money, plus they're getting older and start getting affraid of being burnt on the pans in the afterlife for their sins, so they start to do at least some good. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | How to get my wife out of her sexual shell?Even though that's an idea that would stroke my ego in a very pleasant way, she didn't masturbate when there was no me in her life either, so no, it's just the way she is. I actually think this obsession with masturbation in the west is not very healthy. Sure every teen should do it when they explore their growing bodies, it's natural. But having to constantly masturbate, especially when you have a partner... I don't think it's healthy, especially armed with the RP knowledge on what men and wome… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/15 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Prenups can be overturned. Don't get married.Point is, if I get the author's idea correctly, that is all you can hope for nowadays, either this weak ass prenup or it will get torn down in court and you lose even more. Fucking bullshit. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/08/15 09:08 AM |
| 17 | Prenups can be overturned. Don't get married.It will not penalize at all, or only slightly penalize, "fault" -- i.e., it works whether she cheats on you, or vice versa. It will give your fiancee a small portion (how small dictated by local precedent) of the wedding-day value of your assets, the appreciation on that value, and the value of your career on the wedding day. Well fuck marriage under such rules then! I could understand this: It will give her a much larger share of the growth in the value of career and of assets you acquire from … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/15 08:26 PM |
| 2 | How to get my wife out of her sexual shell?I am dating a 20 y.o. now. We're from Russia. She's from a traditional religious family. An RPW you could say. Much green flags, close to zero red flags. She has no issues and inhibitions during sex, we have awesome time, she comes literally in one minute of PIV, accepts whatever I do to her, likes to both act and be submissive, is passionate, and we have just wild times together. You'd never call her asexual. She doesn't masturbate though. When I probed the matter she just said "I never had the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/08/15 08:17 PM |
| 0 | I am a sexist pigBP/RP care not for who is superior. RP is a sexual strategy for men, as is BP, difference being RP works and BP doesn't. What you're talking about is debate on sexism, sex supremacy and stuff, and what you're trying to do is ad hominem attack, calling me "BP" in order to strengthen your argument. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/15 07:06 PM |
| 1 | I am a sexist pigI have no problem with gender inequality or differences. I fully believe men and women are different. I do have problem, however, with men or women being considered "superior period". If you want logical argument, then here it is, I claim that this is false: this suggests male superiority unless you know of any areas where women are superior which are also genuinely important to human life. Please tell me how being the only sex that can bear children is not important to human life. Unless you ca… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/15 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Period Sex.Depending on intensity, a towel (maybe a thick towel) should be enough. | /r/askMRP | 15/08/15 09:03 AM |
| 1 | I am a sexist pigMen and women are inferior and superior to one another in different areas. There are two incorrect conclusions that can be drawn from that, and this is what I call a prime example of sexism: 1) Men are better than women at X => Women are lesser beings / Men are superior than women period 2) Men are better than women at X => Women suck at X These both are incorrect. If men are superior than women at, say, logic, or women are superior than men at, say, empathy, it does not mean women suck at logic… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/08/15 08:25 AM |
| 0 | My GF is annoyed with me because I'm not spending as much time with her recently...which is because I'm horribly sick.Maintain frame. You can let home come and take care of you (as suggested by DocRedPill - suck your dick and make soup) - only if you can still behave strong despite your sickness (you should not feel as "weak and hopeless to her", but rather "wounded in battle" or something). | /r/askTRP | 12/08/15 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Now open for business: askMRPAwesome! A very good idea. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/08/15 12:02 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Rules: Paying for her on dates?What am I supposed to be doing? You're supposed to hold frame. Which means, you're supposed to insist on doing what you want to do, what you expect to do, what you plan to do. You make a choice for yourself. You want to pay for dates - you pay, you do not want to do it - you don't. Paying for women on dates is not bad, neither is not paying. Everything else is just opinion and lifestyle choice. Of course society (women-dominated), your mother and other women will convince you that you should pay… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/15 11:59 AM |
| 0 | 220090’s Guide to Russian Girls, Pt. 1But we live in a society, not a biological world. Our world is structured. I'm not saying you should be honorable or pure or whatever, I'm saying that not resorting to dirty tactics such as conning women to get sex actually gets you further in the society, so it's more beneficial, more practical thing to do. Who gets more respect - a dude who's so awesome women fall for him in bunch, who leaves them better than he finds them, or a dude who cons women into sex, leaving them with buyer's remorse? | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/15 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Do you respect women?Do not respect women or men. Respect individuals for what they're worth and who they are. Don't fall prey to stereotypes. Give people reasonable benefit of a doubt. Judge them by their actions and respect appropriately. AWALT is no reason not to respect a woman. Do you not resepct yourself because you have the same instincts as other males? AWALT means she has same instincts as other women, nothing else. It's not bad AWALT. It's not good. It's just so. People value other people based on their ut… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 02:36 PM |
| 7 | Going away on business trip, LTR is worried I will cheatI think you should frame it in a way that the more she's nagging you the more likely you will cheat. She: jokingly asks if I'm gonna find a new girl on my trip to replace her. You: jokingly reply "I had no intention to find another woman, but if you want to suggest a change of plans, I'm all ears". | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Im new to TRP, and Im curious: why are so many men here such raging pricks?A lot of people here behave aggressively because yeah, that's how males should act. Don't you see pointless fights in animals? Like, one suddenly attacking the other for no reason? It's a constant fight for dominance, testing if you're good enough or not yet. It's actually part of becoming alpha. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Grand list of red flags?I asked similar question recently. First, read redpillroom blog, on choosing a wife. Basically same thing as LTR. It has a list of both red and green flag. It's probably the best resource there is on the topic. Second, MMSLP. Third, SGM I belive (may be wrong) also has info on chosing a girl. Fourth, best way is to meet her parents and see if you want the kind of relationship they're having as your future. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 02:28 PM |
| 9 | Asked for partner count constantlyLast one is golden | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 02:08 PM |
| -3 | I am a sexist pigI guess even the "rights" term is plagued nowadays. I must note that I indeed think despite differences, women and men should have same rights, at the same time I do not see some things commonly viewed as "rights" to be valid. For example, I do not think "voting rights" are rights, they're not, they're responsiblities that should not fall on women (as they are way worse than men at planning ahead and thinking logically). | /r/TheRedPill | 11/08/15 01:59 PM |
| 2 | I am a sexist pigThing is, sexism really exists! Thinking a woman is a lesser being than a man, deserving less rights, being more dumb - that's sexist. Thinking a man is by default more crude, less capable of empathy, etc. - that's also sexist. It would be great if we could actually work on fixing that. However, feminism distorted it to the point where dealing with real sexism is impossible, because it is misused by feminists to promote their bullshit. Now you cannot fix the real problem, because the minds of th… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/08/15 01:31 PM |
| 1 | GF is uncomfortable when I visit her while she's away because she's inconviniencing meWhat I meant was: common sense, instinct and natural behavior tells a man to protect his woman from any harm and worry about her well-being in all areas, including emotional security. TRP teaches us that we must rock the boat a little, so that the girl stays interested and remains horny for you after the initial honeymoon period wears off. TRP teaches us that there must be drama, there must be dread, etc. I haven't internalised this concept yet because I was as BP as it could get in that area - … | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 01:28 PM |
| 1 | GF is uncomfortable when I visit her while she's away because she's inconviniencing meShe genuinely enjoys the time you spend together, and she feels guilty and afraid that the situation will become off-putting for you and you will get tired of seeing her and no longer come In terms of the health of the relationship, it is good she's feeling that way, right? | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 10:00 AM |
| 2 | GF is uncomfortable when I visit her while she's away because she's inconviniencing meSo it's actually good I give her these reasons to be displeased? | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 09:58 AM |
| 1 | GF is uncomfortable when I visit her while she's away because she's inconviniencing meI try to frame it that following my own style of life is my priority. That if I don't want to be separated, if I think LDRs never work, if I think sex IS the relationship for men, then I make effort to find out ways to visit regularily, regardless or the obstacles in place. I never have nothing else to do, and she knows it. I guess I should be more snarky than I usually am. My BP past formed a plush teddy bear out of me, literally, with zero aggression, offense, danger. I'm making effort to chan… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 09:56 AM |
| 2 | 220090’s Guide to Russian Girls, Pt. 1Yeah, but when I said it in my past posts, people were like "you don't know shit, you're green, don't ever marry"... | /r/TheRedPill | 11/08/15 09:36 AM |
| 1 | How can I work on putting what I've learned into action?Exactly. It's a battle to constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone, of your defaults, into the new territory. You try to fallback to your default behavior because that takes less effort, but you have to make effort to try your new behavior and see how it works. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 09:36 AM |
| 1 | 220090’s Guide to Russian Girls, Pt. 1Ideal for? If your work can be done from home (freelancer, trader,...) then sure, you could live there, but your kids would get worse education compared to bigger cities, and have to travel and settle in a different city to enlist into university. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/08/15 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend trying to use dread game one me?That's what I'm talking about. Different use of the same words cause confusion. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 06:23 PM |
| -11 | 220090’s Guide to Russian Girls, Pt. 1Do you want to be a con though? What about your self-integrity? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/15 03:43 PM |
| 16 | 220090’s Guide to Russian Girls, Pt. 1As a Russian, living in Saint-Petersburg, I can say this is very true. There are gold diggers in Russia, and there are sluts, but they are mostly shunned by the society. Divorce rape exists, but to a lesser degree (for example, confirmed adultery equals no alimony, and it's hard to get alimony without kids). AWALT, but as an RP man, you are way more likely to find a woman who will respect you for your manliness and gladly provide the feminine counterpart to your relationship. "The good girls out… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/15 03:41 PM |
| 23 | [FR] "I'm getting married in 14 days, I'm gonna have some fun."I guess same sex marriage is worth something. Marry your RP-oriented friend and you're safe from that shit. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/15 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend trying to use dread game one me?As I said, maybe there is a confusion in the usage of terms. In MMSLP terms, for example, making sure she's satisfied during sex is beta. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend trying to use dread game one me?You can do nice things of course, but only if you want to do nice things. If you ever feel like "oh I better do it otherwise she wont like me" you are beta. 100% agree. There are also moments when even if you do something without trying to cater to her, but it feels like that for her because of instinct programming, it feels beta or DLV to her no matter your intentions. Like, that story about a millionare staying at home because he has enough income for life, but his woman panicking because she … | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 03:25 PM |
| 1 | GF is uncomfortable when I visit her while she's away because she's inconviniencing memight be blue balling you. If I do literally nothing will he still like me etc. Blue balling? Well she's definetly not witholding sex, that's for sure, she's always up to it when I want it, and I'm trying to adhere to SGM tenets so it's worth her while. She also seems to be very eager to do something for me, like, anything, she's even over the top sometimes. For example, we walk near the lake, I don't remember the reason, but I pick her up and carry her in my hands for a minute, kissing her, she… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 03:18 PM |
| 1 | GF is uncomfortable when I visit her while she's away because she's inconviniencing meI do pat(slap) her on the ass on a regular basis. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend trying to use dread game one me?It looks to me that OP read MMSLP and tries to balance alpha and beta as advised in the book. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Problem with goalsRead Maximum Achievement. It will help you. Author suggests, amongst others, to keep a "success journal" and "relationship journal" where you write about your successes in relationship and life, to reinforce this idea of you achieving stuff as a habbit. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/15 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend trying to use dread game one me?So you disagree with MMSLP that for a commited relationship, a mix of beta and alpha is required? It seems to me that you just use terms "alpha" and "beta" differently, and refuse to identify many traits of a Capitain as beta traits. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Wife found side bar material (mostly just the prereqs)Suggest Facinating Womanhood to her. Awesome book, and written by a christian author too. Has nothing about sucking dick btw. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/08/15 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Does TRP recommend LTR or plates?TRP teaches how the world works. How women work, how men work, how society works, how relationships work, how instincts work. In the modern western world, as I understand, women are so shitty there's hardly any available that are LTR/marriage material. Because of that, majority of men are delusional about the fact what is "LTR material" - because they are purposely misled by all sorts of propaganda (like that her partner count doesn't count, or that single mums are good for relationship and othe… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:52 AM |
| 3 | How do I feel emotionless with regards to relationship and high stress stituationFirst, you don't have to stop falling for girls. Love is an awesome feeling, and blocking emotions is not the way to go, but rather very destructive. Read "Art of Empathy" to know more. You need your emotions to function, do not aim to become emotionless, you will cripple yourself. What you need to learn is to keep your cool and act under emotions or stress. You need to learn to remain RP despite emotions trying to make you do BP stuff. You need to learn to not tremble or act in a stupid way whe… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:40 AM |
| 1 | What's your move when you do wrong in your LTR?Shitty situation to be in. Because instinctively, she has no way to distinguish wether you caved in to her manipulation, or actually did the right thing based on your own conclusions and reasons. So when you stop contact with ex, her perception of you will take a hit, but you can't really NOT do that. Therefore the only way to act here is indeed to admit nothing. In the long run, she will forget this, and if you behave correctly otherwise, your relationship will be fine. As a rule, you should ad… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend trying to use dread game one me?Kinda hijacking the thread but can you elaborate on this: First of get rid of the "you need to show beta traits in an LTR" mindset. That is bullshit. Would you behave 100% Alpha and 0% Beta in a commited monogamous LTR? Meaning, no helping her with common life stuff like move houses, no supporting her in time of need, no spending time doing cute romantic stuff, no spending more money than her on your dates (if you earn more)? | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:26 AM |
| 2 | How can I work on putting what I've learned into action?Practice. Take one thing and apply it. Make it a goal to apply something to practice. You can start taking past situations apart and seeing how they would progress if you would act RP. But better act now. Practice some elements and notice how they affect you and people around you. Make conclusions. Like, I was using smileys all over the place, I thought without smileys I would be misundestood, RP says do not use smileys, I stopped using smileys, nothing bad happened - lesson learned, it works. O… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:18 AM |
| 7 | I gave my number to an 18 year old. I'm 28. She just texted me. I feel like a little boy. I've never slept with someone so young. What do I say?I'm 29. My LTR is 20. When we started she was 19 I was 28. No problem whatsoever. Depends on her personality really. Her head may be full of shit, or she may be quite grown up already. Mine was the latter, and thus we had no problems. But I had another one that was the former. Stupid shit tests, stupid actions, random quirks of personality. Failed that myself by trying something new out and ended up behaving like a moron, but even if I wouldn't, it was really odd and... not enjoyable, the way sh… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:09 AM |
| 1 | 26, going 27, good looking, NO FRIENDS, NO LIFE, am I fucked?Maximum Achievement. Read it and follow it's tenets. This book will help you if you commit to it. | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Girlfriend won't give me head when I go down on her all the time...Part of me wants to leave this relationship, but another part of me thinks that all women are like this now. They've all of a sudden became entitled not to do anything for their man. All I want is the affection that I give in return. Is that too much to ask? I don't think so! I've been told that I'm a pathetic man for wanting to leave her over this and that I deserve to die alone and if that's the case then I'd rather be single! Man, did you read the sidebar? You still have a pre-RP attitude and… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 10:04 AM |
| 5 | How to show a woman the importance of low partner count to SMV.There is no point in explaining. It's a test. If she thinks partner count doesn't matter then she doesn't qualify for LTR position. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/08/15 10:44 PM |
| 4 | True or False: "The sluttier/more disloyal the girl, the better at sex she is."Depends on what you like. After I've read SGM, and started having actual sex, not pitiful nice-guy non-sex, I find my near-virgin LTR (I was her first) to be the best partner for me. I don't need an "experienced" slut, I don't need my woman to know how to apply some hand or mouth or vagina technique to my penis that will make me feel pleasure through simulation. Instead, I greatly enjoy having a naturally submissive woman who truly enjoys being submissive. I enjoy having my way with her and her … | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 01:40 PM |
| 1 | "He understands how lucky he really is"Yeah, problem is all common sources of information worry about getting paychecks, not getting the truth out. Studies are worried about getting more grants, not finding the truth. Therefore, they only say what is agreeable with. No common social media will educate men how to get power in relationship because it's against the mainstream. Studies won't study how men and women are different and how mechanics of relationships work. And that's why even if they start on the right foot, they start feedi… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 03:39 PM |
| 0 | "He understands how lucky he really is"I think a lot of people in RP do not dig this further and miss the point. A good girl is valueable. That's a fact, the way modern world destroys women by feeding them wrong ideals, it's hard to find a good girl, one with many green flags and little red flags, one that has evaded feminism and didn't partake in the cock carousel. Problem is, the rest of it. "Being affraid to lose her", putting her first in his life, everything the article talks about will make her resent him. The problem is that w… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:55 PM |
| 7 | Projection, changing an Alpha to a beta, and the Love/Hatred of Alpha males.I think the way modern world is "pacified" also contributes to the amount of shit-testing and man-breaking women partake in. We, in a modern westernised world, live in a situation where we are very safe and very protected, and therefore women have no natural way to appraise men's real value. He doesn't have to fight off sabetrooth tigers, doesn't have to hunt mammoths for everyday food, he doesn't have to fight off burglars and thiefs... And so on! A woman must be confident in his man in order t… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:15 PM |
| 1 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?Thing is I stayed at her house, it was late and tomorrow was the train back, and she lives in a place where there's not much to do at the time, so there was little point going out. But I get the idea. | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 07:09 PM |
| 1 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?After thorough thinking I think I'm getting it now. I wasn't sure enough in my judgement, I didn't manage to hold frame ("The chance is insignificant and there is no reason to worry") and deferred to her ("ohmygod my life is over"). And actually the probability of pregnancy is irrelevant, I should have still held frame that worrying is not going to do anything good, and therefore there should be no place for worrying. Indeed, correct course of action would be, first of all, believing in my judge… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 07:06 PM |
| 1 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?It's the same. Ignore it. If you already told her the naked facts and she still chooses to ignore them and wants to stay in hysteria, then let her. It's just her way of getting your attention and if you do not put an end to giving in to it, you are teaching her, that creating unnecessary drama is a liable and valid way in getting it. Thank you. I don't get it, but I will think about this. I hope I will get it eventually. | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 03:18 PM |
| 0 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?I've updated my post after you read it. I'll just repost again for convinience. 1) How do I show by the actions that "the fact that condom broke is no deal at all" without showing by the actions that "the fact she's terrified and devastated is no deal at all"? 2) Those pills really are harmful to a woman's body, and given the chances of the pregnancy occuring were already very low, it was not a valid action to take. | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 02:49 PM |
| 1 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?So I should behave like I described? Leave her alone with her tablet and go chat with people or do some other stuff like browse web on my pc, for the remainder of the evening, ignoring her unless she comes to me and wants to talk? | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 02:40 PM |
| 0 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?How do I show by the actions that "the fact that condom broke is no deal at all" without showing by the actions that "the fact she's terrified and devastated is no deal at all"? Plan B Is this some sort of slang I'm not aware of? If you're talking pills, it's not 100% effective (my ex-wife knows 3 people born after taking emergency contraception pills) and she's 100% against taking anything of sort (they really are harmful to a woman's body). Given the chances of the pregnancy occuring already v… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 02:39 PM |
| 1 | How do I "remain the rock" and "show it's not a big deal" when my First Mate is shocked / terrified / devastated?I don't undesrstand. So, the situation is like so: She's left for her home city to stay there for a month (business). I come to visit her for 2 days. For 1,5 days we're happily spending time together - fucking, swimming in the lake, she's showing me around the city etc. Evening of day 2 this happens. Now she's completely devastated, termbling. She obviously doesn't want to engage in anything else anymore. We're back at her home and she's sitting in a closed pose staring at her tablet with a blan… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Sex with the light off.Sometimes the light is too bright for sex. She feels like she's in a doctor's office. You gotta have dimmed lights for sex. Otherwise it can be insecurity. If it's first several times it's fine. Otherwise she might have issues. Your call - help her or not. You'll need to bump her perception of herself, so that she's not embarassed of her body. That will make her come more often as well, btw. | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 01:29 PM |
| 2 | I found a very good girl, near unicorn. In an LTR and need advice from older TRP members.LDR does not exist, well said by other posters. If you can find ways to meet her regularily during this abroad study - like, at least one a month for several days - then you can live through it all right (although it will require sacrifices on your and her end). If you will have no way of meeting her for 6 months... well, LDR does not exist. Overall, all you say means she's a good girl and definetly worth LTRing. She may be a unicorn but remember AWALT. No matter what upbringing, what age, and h… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Yesterday my wife's 30 day not asking for sex moratorium is over...what to do now?Good thing is SHE told him that, and showed him she wants him more when he doesn't beg for it. I guess the lesson is learnt here by OP, it's basic conditioning with rewards for good behavior, even a monkey would get it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/07/15 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Yesterday my wife's 30 day not asking for sex moratorium is over...what to do now?Your wife seems to be a very good one - she was able to tell you what turned her off (man begging for sex is a HUGE TURN OFF for women) and as you noted, sex frequency increased - good sign. Your number one thing to do is to get a frame. And hold on to it. The majority of what people advise here - "go out if she denies sex", "do not ask for sex" etc. - all comes down to holding a certain frame no matter the outcome of your initiation. Thoroughly understand what your frame should be. How you shou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/07/15 10:34 AM |
| 2 | Yesterday my wife's 30 day not asking for sex moratorium is over...what to do now?Read more carefully, he had lots of sex during these 30 days, it was just her choice when to initiate. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/07/15 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?I started with it! I learned (and continue to learn) from Gordon Ramsay's videos and I cook quite nice now (countless times already was I congratulated for awesome dishes I made for my friends and relatives). I've lost excess weight, I look good and people compliment me, the only part of my body I'm not satisfied with right now is my belly which is a bit plump still, I estimate my body fat % at about 15% (based on photos) and I'm working on it now. I'm lifting of course, 3x a week. I still don't… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?Thank you for this post. It was enlightening. It was what I needed to hear. It provided me with the understanding of what's happening. However natural it is, I do not want the consequences of it. I do not want to become a beta husband that lives only to serve his wife. I do not want to become a weak submissive pussy. That's not what I want, and that's not what she wanted either. She started dating me, and having wild sex with me, because of who I was - not dependent on her, self-sufficient etc. … | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?No, I mean, if I'm comfortable beling alone 24/7, what makes me go out and meet people? I'm a programmer, I can easilly even work from home, I was a gamer, I can fall back to that as my way of entertainment. I thought it's reasonable that you have urges that make you socialise, that make you desire to be social, that make you sad when you're lonely, I thought they're there exactly in order to make you move your ass and go socialise. Am I wrong? | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?Marriage ended because I did, in past, latch on to any girl that would "be with me". After I found out I can actually have desires and preferences I understood that I'm with a person I chose for all the wrong reasons, or rather never chose at all. And that we're just not compatible and won't be. I did evaluate myself and worked on improving myself and continued to do so. I read a lot, I practice what I read (Maximum Achievement, Art of Empathy, etc.) I am working on self-discipline, I'm lifting,… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?I see it. What do I do then? | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?So if I'm totally comfortable with loneliness.... what takes me out of my comfort zone then? I'm not arguing, I'm really trying to understand... | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Am I unfit for LTR if I feel this way?Isn't it human nature to be social? Should I really strive to become comfortable with loneliness? Will this make me... better? | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 08:26 PM |
| 1 | What kind of help can I provide to my First Mate as a Capitain when she's feeling devastatedGot it. This is so counter-intuitive, isn't it? You feel like "I should show to her it's a big deal for me so she knows I care" but in reality if I do that, I only make it worse. Makes me think, why are we filled with so much dysfunctional programming? Why do we have to learn and understand so much counter-intuitive stuff in order to become proper men?... | /r/askTRP | 22/07/15 12:02 PM |
| 1 | What kind of help can I provide to my First Mate as a Capitain when she's feeling devastatedI guess this makes most sense. After writing this I had serious re-thinking and it seems that best thing I can do is stop worrying and be the best man I can be. Because she doesn't need an emotional person who's feeling "compassion" - meaning, feeling as shitty as she is, since that's essentially another problem for HER to deal with, and I don't want to burden her more than she already is. So the answer, as usual with TRP, is to focus on yourself, not on women... huh... | /r/askTRP | 21/07/15 09:02 PM |
| 1 | What kind of help can I provide to my First Mate as a Capitain when she's feeling devastatedNo it's not, because it's not about me, it's about her. I'm not asking about how to avoid responsibility, or how to get out of this situation. I'm asking about what kind of support can I offer right now to a person who is very hurt and whom I care about. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/15 08:59 PM |
| 1 | What kind of help can I provide to my First Mate as a Capitain when she's feeling devastatedI don't know other place either. I don't know another sub that promotes Capitain - First Mate dynamic. If you know a better sub to post it then please tell me. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/15 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseThank you. This was helpful. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseWhy, if you are a successful married guy, you say so? What have you lost, personally? What was your negatives that outweighed positives? Would you not marry given the chance to go back in time with all the knowledge and skills you now have? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseOf course I'm fallible, like any human. Life is a constant struggle with yourself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseBy "pre-programmed" you mean I'm programmed to become lazy, content and uninspiring, while she's pre-programmed to domesticate and betafy me, while becoming lazy and fat? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseThank you. That is a good advice. My need of a checklist follows from the fact I have no real role model to follow. Maybe this is why people misunderstand me - you see, I don't really have a good example of a marriage, because all the marriages I personally experienced... sucked. My mother, father, stepfather, uncle, grandmother, stepfather's friends, father's friend - all the people I could have as role models. I am in essense looking for a role model of a proper marriage here. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseThank you for your post. However, if you want to believe I'm asking something that I'm NOT asking, instead of reading what I actually ask for, I don't see your advice being of much use. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 09:16 AM |
| -1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseAlternative? Waste your life just fucking girls left and right until you get old and lose your boner and die without leaving any offspring? Not my way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 12:25 AM |
| 0 | Wife checklist advice pleaseWhat?... Well, thanks for the link, and I'll think about the... other part of your post. I wanted to disagree at first, but then... I guess it means something if you see my post that way, even though I see it completely different. Interesting... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 12:20 AM |
| -1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseAs far as I understand from general consensus, science, my experience, word of the mouth, and TRP, it not only about me, it's about her as well. If she was poorly raised, has wrecked her own personality and damaged her ability to pair bond, it's not going to work. If we have mutually exclusive traits or unfitting personalities, it's going to be unnesecarily edgy. If she is perfect at the role of an LTR (meaning, sex and spending time doing stuff we both enjoy or partaking in leisure) that doesn'… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Wife checklist advice pleaseEureka! I think after about 29 years of my life, I finally understand what diplomas and education certificates are for. Because unless I include a wall-of-text disclaimer in my post I will get the same things thrown at me, which are completely not what I asked for, because people are not sure I am skilled or educated in certain matters. And even if I do, people have no reason to believe me (I might be delusional). Problem is, there is no authority that would issue a TRP-compliance certificate. S… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/15 12:12 AM |
| 0 | Wife checklist advice pleaseWhat? I'm considering marriage from the beginning. I'm also considering first properly vetting the candidate before I commit, that's why I'm here. Relationship length in absolute terms is irrelevant at this point. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/07/15 11:56 PM |
| 2 | My head is swimming, need to vent and could use some counsel.You should not really care about her right now. The way I see it, is when you unplug, you are essentially broken. So broken you can't really know what's best for you. You need to fix yourself at least a little to see the whole picture. Then you can decide. Therefore, try to focus on yourself. Not on indulging yourself, but fixing yourself. Distance a bit from your wife, if she starts nagging tell you that you need some time to get your life back in order. Put everything else on life support (ful… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/07/15 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Workout questions? Lack motivation? Want help? Ask and I shall answer.Thank you! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/07/15 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Workout questions? Lack motivation? Want help? Ask and I shall answer.Please comment on my approach and logic, based on your experience. What am I doing wrong or could be doing better. Here's my story. I absolutely cannot reguraliy go to a gym because of my schedule. I have little free time already, like, 3 to 4 hours a day, and switching from training at home to training at the gym would eat up another hour or more. Thus, the only way I can workout is at home, right after work. It is also good because I follow intermittent fasting and carbs backloading diet, so I… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/07/15 01:46 PM |
| 2 | I think this is a shit test...If she's SHAM and you're the provider, you have to manage the finances of the house. What you buy for yourself and for your family. The more you manage, the better. However, you also have to give her an allowance that is fair, close to what you spend on yourself, and let her spend it the way she wants. The way it is now, if I understood your post, is that she has no clear limits in how much she can spend, and she has to negotiate every expenditure with you, or risk having you "talk to her" about… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/15 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Spit v. SwallowI think it's not a shit test. She genuinely is disgusted by swallowing cum. It's just not her kink. There can be thousands of reasons why. And forcing the issue is not going anywhere. Also, do you really want her to fake it? Do you want her to provide you a sexual service that brings her discomfort, in return for you providing her with resources - basically, buy sexual favors from her? Flipping the script, would you want to fuck her in a pose that is uncomfortable, lackluster or even painful to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/15 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Probably the harshest slap in the face of reality and Red Pill truths.. Their really is no savour for a man.There's this very popular russian Orthodox preacher, Osipov Alexey Ilyich. One of the things he frequently said is that Christianity all over the world is degrading fast, like a train rushing full speed towards an abyss, and that Orthodoxy is no exception, but just happens to be located at the rear part of the train. And over time, I am more and more agreeing with him. It kinda applies to this society situation, because, well, the word "church" actually means "bunch of people that came together"… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/15 09:53 AM |
| 5 | Probably the harshest slap in the face of reality and Red Pill truths.. Their really is no savour for a man.Honestly, the society you western guys live in is FUBAR. I'm Russian. I live in Saint-Petersburg. I'm not a very social guy, I was a nice guy and an introvert for the majority of my life (almost 29 now, unplugged half a year ago). I hardly have any friends. I was in a near-dead-bedroom marriage for the last 6 years. However, I have been able to quickly (actually in 5 approaches, 3 of whom I've dated) find a 20 y.o. slim attractive girl who I'm currently in LTR with, who's very supportive, caring… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 12:59 PM |
| 1 | My theory on LTR vs Single/plate spinningUnfortunately, yes. I am monogamous and plates are really not for me. I tried hard to change that and it just doesn't work for me, period. In an LTR, however, when everything is going good there is indeed this moment of laziness that you are describing. My current LTR is my first after taking TRP. It's also my first Capitain - First Mate dynamic and first time I have a woman who's literally horny for me at all times. At first I was constantly affraid I'd lose her, etc etc, but as I've internalis… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Suits make men more attractive, ergo let's effectively ban suitsThing with status-representing clothes is that one way they represent status is by being useless and counter-productive. Long mantles, clothes that restrict movement, dresses that require five servants to put on or take off... They show that a person who wears such clothes does not have to frequently perform manual labor, and thus can afford wearing something that would prevent doing that (or make it very counter-productive). That's actually why I personally don't like suits. And ties. They're c… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Suits make men more attractive, ergo let's effectively ban suitsIf suits and ties would go I'd say "Good Riddance!" It's an unpractical and uncomfortable set of clothes that get in a way of productive work. There's one thing when you dress well - clothes all match colors and styles, clothes fit your bodytype - and another thing when some fashion dictates you should dress in an irrational fashion - say, wear a tie which is basically a suffocation device which makes your brain get less oxygen and thus function poorly, or, wear a suit in a room where tempreatur… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/07/15 02:29 PM |
| 11 | How do you show that you're interested in a girl while also seeming aloof and full of options?If you spend time thinking about it, you'll really start "getting" how it works. Trial and error. You can start from understanding the fact that abundance mentality (full of options) means you aren't actually invested into any girl before she proves her worth. You don't lose anything if you don't get anything going with her. This is different to (normal) scarcity mentality, where you think you'll lose a chance at this awesome girl if you don't do something to attract her. So, a normal kind of gu… | /r/askTRP | 02/07/15 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Recently Swallowed Red Pill need rational advise to help clean up residual blue pill baggageWhat do you mean by "putting her pussy on a pedestal"? Do you spend resources on her without getting an equal payback? Do her homework, lend her money, act as her emotional tampon? Because unless you do, there's actually no problem here. She is objectively better than other women you have. She is objectively more rich, more cute, more sexy and more interesting. She fits your personality better too. She is objectively the best girl you know. That's a fact. Should that stop you from acquiring bett… | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 03:04 PM |
| 6 | Final Warning: Keep Your Damn Morals To YourselfYou should also consider shaming towards people who prefer LTR, contemplate marriage, or think that women worthy of commitment exist in the world. There's quite a bunch of people on TRP, endorsed even, who shame you, begin ad hominem attacks, and so on, only for the fact that you consider commiting to a woman being an option. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/06/15 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.Do you really want a relationship with someone you "tolerate"? Why not date non-exclusively (plates) while actively screening for a proper relationship partner? | /r/askTRP | 19/06/15 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.Pretty much all TRPers date non-exclusively for sex only. Plates. Red flags are kinda irrelevant there as long as she's exciting you, giving you good sex and isn't crazy. If you're talking about LTR or marriage though (which majority of TRP followers don't really do) then red flags become important, because you're commiting to a relationship with a person, and thus become influenced by that person. You need proper screening and standarts in order to make sure this relationship makes you better, … | /r/askTRP | 19/06/15 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.Read the redpillroom blog, that dude is way ahead of me in terms of how to choose women and how to treat your preferences, red flags etc. Also, read Married Man Sex Life Primer, there's a chapter on how to pick a girl to be your wife. As for red flags in my case, they're so insignificant I don't really have to "tolerate" them. Things like, she tried going to the gym and dropped out (as most people do, not enough discipline to go there on schedule). Does excercises at home though, in the mornings… | /r/askTRP | 19/06/15 09:47 AM |
| 2 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.Sounds logical that you have to compromise. *Thing is, you don't! * Why? Because wielding TRP, we are the top men of the world, since only so little men in the modern world really understand what being man is about. Masculinity is vastly obliterated in modern men. Even men earning millions sometimes remain indoctrinated betas who can't satisfy women. You are on the top. And you can have any girl you want. And if you're not on top yet, you have all means to be! So work on yourself and you will be… | /r/askTRP | 19/06/15 09:41 AM |
| 3 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.Definetly do not guilt trip her into having sex with you. You are right, you're not negotiating desire here, that's pointless. You're exploring your situation. Your goal is to find out if she really wants the kind of sex life you want, if you can do something to help (or if you're doing something to hinder it), and if you can help her find out what's bothering her and preventing her from being more sex-positive. You must understand sex libido is a matter of preference and compatibility. If yours… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.If I were a girl, and I'm tired as fuck, I would naturally not want to give a blowjob (it's a lot of work). But it doesn't have to be a blowjob, there's your regular PIV sex, yes? Would you not want to relax and have pleasure basically given onto you? Because when she's tired, she can just relax, let you take her as you please, and just get pleasure delivered - all she has to do is breath heavilly, moan, reciprocate touches and scrap your back with her nails when you make her orgasm, while you d… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Financially AlphaThey will guide you to exactly what you need: how to become financially independant. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 12:00 PM |
| 3 | 1 year into TRP. I'm a better man and I understand women but I still can't keep them attracted. How do I kill my white knight heart?My story is very similar to yours. In many aspects. Here's what helped me: 1) I dwelled in rage at myself for being such a pussy, for having knowledge and understanding but being unable to actually implement it, for knowing everything about how to act properly and acting like a beta bitch. I just went full on shouting at myself for being such a fucking idiot. Got really angry with myself. Spent like 10 minutes straight at my home shouting at myself in the mirror, roaring, swearing and swinging f… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 11:04 AM |
| 1 | I ask a girl out, she rejects me. 6 months later, she asks me out. The tables turn."Sorry, I just think of you as a friend. I'm sure you'll find a nice guy, though :)" Holy shit that line was awesome! Good job, well done! | /r/TheRedPill | 18/06/15 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Financially AlphaRead "The road to financial freedom your first million in seven years" and "Rich Dad, Poor Dad". | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 10:48 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend with a low libido rejects sex from me because she "doesn't feel like it" or is "tired", but she still cooks for me, pays for food, and logistically works in my favor to meet me.There are no valid reasons for a girl not to want sex with a guy she desires, because biologically we're wired this way. Male initiates, female responds. In a proper relationship with two undamaged mates, whenever the male wants sex, the female will gladly have sex with him (barring temporary medical issues). This is how it should happen normally: you get all the sex you need, and she's glad to give it to you, unless she's obviously damaged (like she's having a fever and her body temp is 39C, or… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 10:45 AM |
| 14 | How to get past LMR with girlfriend/plate?It's not LMR. LMR is when you try to get your first sex. This is her not interested in fucking you. Treat it accordingly. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Why I have a love/hate relationship with TRP community.If I understand you correctly, your problem is the myth of "I am who I am and I cannot change" or "If I change myself it will no longer be me and I will be pretending to be someone I'm not". You are saying you are cynical, socially-insecure with people you socialize with. That's not who you are by definition, that's not your essense, your true self, your fate, your type - that's just who you are right now. Tomorrow you can be a different you, and you will still remain you. Therefore, your soluti… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/06/15 10:13 AM |
| 1 | This is much deeper than sex and women. Lessons learned from many years chasing skirts.How do you overcome an emotional state? With logic, no? Life is not fair, neither it should be, neither is "fair" defined when talking about life. "Life" in this context is the chaotic matter we're dealing with in our lifetime. Chaotic is it's nature, therefore it cannot be "fair". Learning to operate with this chaotic matter and making the most out of it is learning to succeed in life. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 02:26 PM |
| 12 | This is much deeper than sex and women. Lessons learned from many years chasing skirts.Anger phase maybe? You deal with it by understanding that noone is "against" you, noone is "mean" to you, the world just is as it is. There is no point getting depressed because now you are way more empowered by before, way more effective than before, and you can achieve great heights with this understanding of truth. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 08:55 AM |
| 2 | How to act like you don't want her too much?What others said, your goal with TRP is to be, not act. Don't focus on acting, focus on understanding the underlining personality traits and beliefs you need in order to be who you want to be. As for not being needy, that comes from inner happines first and foremost, and also from understanding that women are never your life goal. You are needy when you need (duh!) something to stay the way you want to stay (happy, content, satisfied, whatever). Your goal, therefore, is to be a person who depend… | /r/askTRP | 16/06/15 11:07 AM |
| 3 | My BP compliments during sex make her crazy wet - but should i stop?Pedistalising is when you defer authority to her, care for her needs before your needs, let her decide how you two will spend time together, things like that. Like you're working on a project and she asks you to ferry her a glass of water while she's watching tv in a kitchen and you go get it. What you're doing is fine. She craves being someone who evokes desire in a man. That's her "validation". That's what she gets from sex (some argue validation is more important than pleasure for women, when… | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend aborted our baby, parents "disowned me", lost job, lost everything (31 m)Your savings seem fine. You can find a job too. Your parents misunderstood you and you did all you could, there is hope they will understand their wrong, but if not, you're on your own and it's totaly fine, as you're a capable adult. And you are not old. I'm 28 dating a 19, why can't you, 31, date a 22 then? | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 06:41 PM |
| 3 | I've desperately wanted a GF my whole life but honestly sex has been less of a concern for me than being accepted, appreciated, cared for, and maybe even loved. Now that I know that's all bullshit I feel lost and beyond that I fear I'm broken.What? Okay man you're confused. It's all right. You can get out of this state. You will not be lost, you won't be broken, and you won't have anything to be affraid of. Here's the thing: You can be accepted, appreciated, cared for, and loved, by a woman. Yes you do. It will be harder to find a woman capable of that in the west, but you can. What you misinterpreted as "that's all bullshit" is the "unconditional" part and the atmosphere here at TRP, that, honestly, can feel quite misogynistic. Let'… | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 06:39 PM |
| 1 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRWow! Such alpha! Much scared! | /r/TheRedPill | 12/06/15 09:34 PM |
| 4 | I wanted to ask TRP as a whole, anyone else have an irrational fear of getting a girl pregnant?I did. I fingered a girl ~20 minutes after we had PIV sex and I touched my penis after removing the condom. Kinda irrational but still. I learnt my lesson: just don't do anything that will make you panic and worry later. Problem solved! So: No matter wether if she is on a pill or not, use a condom at all times. Never expect a woman to be on a pill. Use condoms you brought that she had no prior access to. Check it after you remove it, so that you're sure it's intact. Never throw the condom in her… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 11:58 AM |
| 1 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRWhat you used was an analogy, not a metaphor. And you have used a flawed analogy, as I have demonstrated. There is also nothing "broken" with hypergamy, it's a biological program that aims to recreate the best genes of the current generation in the next generation. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 09:41 AM |
| 1 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRWomen are not inanimate items. They're humans for fuck's sake! The difference is, a car is not affected by your expectations of her, of your feelings of her, of your attitude towards her. A woman is. And your attitude affects her directly. Either for the good or for the bad. If your woman "broke" because you expected her to break, it's part your fault. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/15 10:32 PM |
| 2 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRLaw of Attraction. You should not focus on "she sucks she's just hiding in" because that will make her to do exactly that (suck and go stupid). Not in some "mystic" sense, but through multiple cues you're giving her, encouragement you're not giving her, you selecting women with specific attitudes and traits (often unconsciously), and so on. When you think "All girls suck, this one might still suck because she is hiding it", all you do is prime yourself for a life of misery. That's a bad idea. Th… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/15 08:25 AM |
| 1 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRIt is. And BTW, it heavilly promotes plating and polygamy, but that's mostly because it's the easier way to achieve abundance mentality. You can also do it via LTR, it will just be slower and harder. When you're fucking around it's naturally easier to believe in abundance, and when you're only dating one at a time, and consider her special, it's naturally easier to believe in scarcity. Thing is, even though most girls suck and this girl is awesome, YOU are still in the focus, and you must keep i… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/15 08:16 AM |
| 5 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRMy problem is when they do seem dateable, I get obsessive and usually fuck it up. That is your problem then. Work on it. This is scarcity mentality. You should have abundance mentality instead. The Rational Male is a good place to start. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 11:51 PM |
| 5 | The paradox of not wanting a LTRThere is no problem in pursuing LTRs. There is a problem if you think the only way you can get sex is by giving up commitment beforehand. If you have a goal to "win" her, to make her want to LTR you. If it looks like you're seeking her validation, her approval. You may have LTR as a goal, but you still have to treat the process of finding a girl to LTR as a casting for the role of your LTR. You still have to screen and vet. Have preferences, list of traits you're looking for, list of things you … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 10:56 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you've been brainwashed?First off, you should not rely on anyone to support your opinions/beliefs. It is important that YOU believe in them, and YOU think so. Second, by all means do look for proper men. You may have to ditch your old buddies, but you may as well find new ones. You may also find out one of your friends is also quite RP. It's good to have male friends that you meet with regularily to discuss your life, give honest advice to, or ask for honest advice. Male friends in male-only environments can tell you t… | /r/askTRP | 04/06/15 09:47 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you've been brainwashed?Anger phase probably? | /r/askTRP | 04/06/15 01:16 AM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)She's 19, almost 20... I mentioned that in my post. | /r/askTRP | 03/06/15 12:54 AM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)And if she were to suffer an injury that leaves her disabled, immobile, tied to the bed for the rest of her life? Shit happens. We can only minimize the chance of bad shit happening and minimize the effect it brings, at the same time maximizing the chance and outcome of the good things. I plan on learning to invest money in order to get financial freedom so I'm not dependent on working 9/5. I also have quite enough property to inherit to get myself by in the worser cases. If all that fails, well… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 11:13 PM |
| 2 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)People told me I am. I didn't grieve when my grandmother died (despite me actually liking her, loved to spend time with her, she'd get into huge fights with me once a month, we'd threaten to kill each other, but other days she was a cute old lady and I loved spending time with her). My mother was in terminal cancer stage, I didn't really grieve or was in any way affraid of losing her. She miraculously survived. I'm glad for her, but again, I'm not affraid she will die. Well, maybe I'll be a litt… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 11:09 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)Women are like liquid. A quality woman is one that has, for one reason or another, managed to resist the direction this environment was pushing her in. Well, that I agree. And that's another argument why plate spinning is bad. Especially with women who're not CC riding sluts. We influence women to the detriment of them. Why? Why make the situation even worse when it's already that bad? I think instead I can be the "container" for her and guide her well. But then I am told unless I break a hundre… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 11:03 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)What I want is the following: Her doing all the house chores that are not outsourceable. Not only do I believe women are more suited for monotonous work, I also believe my time is better spent elsewhere. I respect her as an individual when I say this, but I still think it's better she does it than I do. Her being SHAM at least first 3 years after childbirth. Her not being exposed to the stress of working in emotionally damaging environments that are most offices and shops. Again I believe while … | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 10:52 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)Errrr... what? | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 10:44 PM |
| 6 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)You don't have the experience here to handle marriage. You're not yet put together. That's problem 1. I don't know your background, but after the comment I just addressed, and this: Yeah my life experience is shit. What do I do? I actually thought about that it would be better if I'd ended up with some bad women first for practice before I met her. Happened this way. What do I do? Dump her because of that? Lets be frank: What's the longest you've fucked a girl, no breakups? You mean before relat… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 10:42 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)Yeah please do! | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 10:25 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)Agreed. I know that and I'm acting accordingly. | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 10:25 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)Who provides more financially in the relationship? To what degree? I'm willing to bet it's you. Me and I want it to stay that way actually. Does she take her fitness seriously? What's her diet like? Does she go to the gym regularly? Yes she takes having a good body seriously. She's fit. We discussed obesity once, and I made my point that women are obese because men settle for them, men have to have standarts so that they don't settle for obese women, and she agreed. She's definetly staying fit. … | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 10:22 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)The only mistake I see you could make here is believing that a relationship at 6 months will be the same at 6 years. I'm not. Actually I am right now trying to figure out how to transition from dating phase to living together phase without the relationship suffering a hit. Like, right now, we meet once to twice a week, spend an evening and a morning together, sometimes a whole day (weekend). Obviously we're both dedicated to each other at that point. She gets my full attention. Fucking like rabb… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 09:46 PM |
| 2 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)Thank you. Good to hear a sane approach to AWALT. I completely agree. As for marriage, I'm more into it for traditional and religious reasons. Legally wise, I have ways to protect my assets and I live in Russia meaning way less crap against men in the law than USA. | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 09:41 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)I studied Ian Ironwood's blog and I am indeed going to approach marriage seriously. I'm not going to avoid it, I'm going to make sure I'm thoroughly prepared and thoroughly examined her and found her to be worthy. | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 09:39 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)In my case, it was until I found my cuddleminx. She's like yours. A keeper. Until she's not. I get you. I'm not oneitising for her, I'm not going to stick with her if she starts withholding sex, I know I have to be ready to walk if she stops doing her part. With a good basis in the art of interacting with your girl, you should be immediately be able to tell when things aren't right (like with her school/depression) and you two can work out issues. Unfortunately, I suck at empathy. We met right a… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 09:38 PM |
| 1 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)I know she's a woman, if that's what you mean. I know she will stop desiring me if I drop in SMV or become lazy and stop improving myself. I know she will have hard time supporting me if I share too many problems with her. I know she cannot be trusted to stay logical all the time. I know she does not really know what she needs, and sometimes even what she wants. Etc. Etc. AWALT. I however have factual evidence she is not like some which I have listed in the post. Besides, she's not the main poin… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 09:32 PM |
| 3 | I Feel Like I Have Missed the BoatI unplugged at 28 and 3 months. At 28 and 5 months I got a divorce (my marriage was going nowhere, married to a 5 year older obese woman, we both suffered and she agreed that divorce is the best option, even though later she decided to blame be for throwing her out, anyways, managed to divorce her with no problems). At 28 and 6 months I was dating two cute young women. Screwed everything up completely with one of them. Started sexual relationship with the second one. At 28 and 10 months I'm happ… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Social Skills That Attract WomanWhy would a TRP man waste his time on low-quality women? On the second thought, I guess if you're spinning plates you're settling for low-quality women, so it make sense.... | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Social Skills That Attract WomanThe article in question does not talk about advice, but actually about asking for confirmation, being affraid to act before you know everyone agrees with your course of action. This is obviously a feminine behavior that must be eradicated. As for general advice, yes, the more you can handle yourself without asking for advice the better, but once you learn your woman's strong points, which areas she's knowledgeable in, I think it's a good idea to ask her for advice. You should still make a decisi… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Social Skills That Attract WomanDo not ask for advice? What about Captain and First Mate dynamic? Edit: aha, you left "trivial" out of your post and it changes the meaning significantly. You might want to fix that. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/15 09:04 PM |
| 1 | "Example" of how to be in the bedroom?Best read. Will change your life. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Being too short I guess...Those matches are automatic. Tinder is flawed by design. Men will always swipe right (or wherever you swipe to get a match) and women will post fake pics. Nothing can be done against it. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 11:03 AM |
| 2 | "Men shouldn't expect sex from relationships with women" is really offensive.Exactly! It could maybe "offend? your hopes of building a utopian society maybe, but overall, this is just another case of human fallability at work. People fail and shit happens! Men fail to take their life into their own hands, allow women to exploit them, women start saying bullshit - natural sequence of events. It becomes mainstream? This means it became mainstream for men to settle for something they find undesirable! Offends your feelings? THIS IS A FUCKING FACT! If a fact offends your fee… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/15 11:01 AM |
| 3 | Being too short I guess...Online will always be like that. First impressions based on photos, parameters. That's why it's really low quality method of meeting potential partners - you focus on things that really are not very important, and then you meet the person and you find out it doesn't really work out between you too... but you have already declined many people who could be awesome but had too little cm or whatever. If you have bad "stats" then approach IRL I guess. Then you can your numerical disadvantage with gam… | /r/askTRP | 31/05/15 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Being A Highly Selective MaleI think modern world pushes men to be selective. The cost of having a baby is now bigger for a man than for a woman. A woman has choice in most countries - abortion or not. If she choses to give birth, in most countries she can extort money from the father, also get money from government, and be overall cared for and supported as a "single mum". Therefore, yes, nowadays men have to be more selective than women. And that probably affects their sexual strategy too. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/15 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Married couple have baby - it's not hisWhy would you worry about someone else THAT much? I mean, sure she behaved like a bitch, but there are a LOT of people who misbehave. If you are angry about every single one of them you'll have no spare time doing what you're supposed to be doing in life! I agree with having sympathy and compassion. If one would ask for your help because he was betrayed by his woman - help him by all means! But right now you're worrying about someone who CHOSES to be exploited by being willfully ignorant. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/15 02:33 PM |
| 11 | "Men shouldn't expect sex from relationships with women" is really offensive.Offsensive? Why? It's nonsense, it's not offensive. Noone "should" expect anything. Noone should tell others what to expect. People should expect and demand whatever they desire, and act accordingly. If a man decides to expect sex, it's fine. If a woman decides to expect her man not to expect sex, it's fine too. His and her choice. Problem only happens when people do not act according to their expectations and desires. When a man stays in a relationship where he expects sex but doesn't get any (… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/15 02:11 PM |
| 1 | First Manspreading arrest in NYCI'm not from USA, but AFAIK, your country has a lot of laws about sexes being equal, so I suppose you can prosecute women under this law. It may be called "manspreading" like it's called "manslaugter" when you kill people, but it must apply to both sexes. So I think you can very well make a picture and submit it to the police as a proof of crime, or something of sorts, and harass police into actually arresting women for this crime. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/15 02:06 PM |
| 2 | I've lost control of my relationship between sex and intimacy... what do I do to turn it around?In my opinion, you should be frank with her, but never make it look like you're negotiating. And never actually negotiate. Just whenever it first becomes a problem tell her, truthfully, how you operate. For me, it goes like this: "I am monogamous, I want all my needs to be satisfied by my only woman. As long as it is so, I'm not even considering anyone else. Otherwise, I'm not going to cheat, since it does not interest me, I'm going to look for someone who will statisfy my and she's going to bec… | /r/askTRP | 27/05/15 04:02 PM |
| -1 | On what used to be called marriageWhat if it just doesn't work out? Is it good to bind together two people who hate each other and want nothing to do with each other? Especially given that many marriages were arranged or heavilly influenced by parents, is it good that a person is bound to be in a living hell for his entire life without even being responsible for it? Someone else fucked up and you pay the price with your entire life? Society reproduces all right, but what does it reproduce? We should consider things went wrong wi… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 12:08 PM |
| 3 | What is your guide to redpill finances?Rich Dad, Poor Dad. Read it. This book will help you get it. Financial success comes from proper mindset. Actually it will help you with success in general. Viewing every activity as an investment of your assets (time, attention,...). Understanding what is an asset and what is aa liability. Paying the right people. Working for the right reasons. Having a plan how to reach financial freedom. And so on. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/15 03:33 PM |
| 4 | Found this book in a girls room, how should I go about this?Examine the problem with YOU. The proper attidude here would be IDGAF, since you do GAF, there's something wrong with YOU, and fixing that will be way more beneficial for you than spending time worrying about her using some book for advice. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/15 01:56 PM |
| 4 | My girlfriends strange way of dealing with my needs on her period, and what the fuck to think.This. IMHO it's very cute. If you're up for it then awesome. I'd personally love if my GF would do that to me. If you want to go further: You can try building the trust up (however, I think you should already have enough if you live together) and have a talk about why exactly she's not willing to suck you, tit fuck you, whatever during her period. You should first discuss what she feels when she's giving you a blowjob, how does she enjoy it (and maybe try SGM on her - direct her, dirty talk, so … | /r/askTRP | 25/05/15 01:54 PM |
| 7 | What if I have no interest in casual sex?TRP is not focused on casual sex, it's focused on making you a proper male, which, in turn, makes you attractive, allowing you to get casual sex easilly. With the low average quality of women in US/EU, as I understand from reading about it, as I am myself from Russia and cannot judge, anyways, with low average quality of women, there is no point in commiting to them. Therefore casual sex is indeed what people seek, since majority of males come to TRP because they're frustrated with their sex liv… | /r/askTRP | 25/05/15 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)Thank you. Will do. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I want to build a family. All the rulesets and principles I know for building a family (marriage) are based on blue pill beta bullshit that I can confirm does not work. It did not work for my father (my mother divorced him). It did not work for my step father (he's beta when it comes to women and suffers from it). It did not work for me. All I've found on building a family in RP material so far is "don't get married" and "having plates is more benefitial for a man nowadays than settling down". M… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I've read a lot. And practiced. And actually applied. If marriage is "we're together as long as we both enjoy it, and any party can quit the moment it stops being enjoyable" then how's it different to no marraige? I don't get it. Marriage is commitment to something, right? If anyone can get out at a moment's notice when he/she is unsatisfied with something, is that marriage? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I'm not looking for a surefire way to have a wife who will desire me 24/7 as long as I do X, Y and Z and she has LIST_1 of traits and lacks LIST_2 of red flags. I'm not looking for a surefire way to have her desire me 24/7 and loving me for who I am. This is about not wanting guarantees. As to what question I'm asking, I'm asking for advice on to how to build a working marriage, based on RP principles. That's in the topic. Everything else is just explaining one of the hurdles I have right now. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I want you to help me figure out how can it work and, more generally, what kinds of visions do work. There is no point having a vision of a future that does not work, right? Like, when a guy has a vision of a future where his wife will love him for who he is, that vision is useless because it's grounded on false assumptions. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I don't want to debate anyone, I just comment when people misunderstand me, to clear those misunderstandings up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I really do not have a clue. That's why I made this question. I started it with asking for "RP information to digest" because I don't have a fucking clue! Yes. I also explained one specific part where I don't have a clue (sex). I have no foundation because I have no clue. I want to build that foundation and for that I need to actually get a clue, and for that I need either information or advice, because I've tried hard to figure it out myself and couldn't do it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/05/15 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)Anyway, I'm all for having goals and a plan. And for a lot of us here ended up on the shit end of a stick because we either didn't have one or just let it be dictated to us by our wife or society. Exactly. And I ended up in the same shit as well. I don't want to end up there again. So to get it out of the way: ABI Always be improving. Right? Hit all the material , bump your SMV. Get fit, work on your career etc. I completely agree and thought this is like a no brainer for an adherent of TRP. You… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)They are the same. What is the problem? IF they are different in your mind- or in hers- then it is a REAL problem. Difference is commitment, no? In LTR, we're together as long as we both enjoy it, and any party can quit the moment it stops being enjoyable. The ruleset is simple - "we're together because we enjoy sharing positive experiences with each other and spending time together". If marriage is the same then... it's hardly worth anything, this won't even be marriage 2.0, this would be like … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 09:12 PM |
| -1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)So I should tell her, when it's time to talk about marriage, that one of the reasons we're together is that we desire and lust each other and enjoy frequent sex, and if that stops, I'll walk away? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)The most important thing a red pill man should be doing is improving himself, always. I feel like you want to dump on your woman the need for sex, without actually working on yourself to stay attractive to her. You talk about finding a woman "worthy" of you, but you couldn't even get your fat ex wife to put out for 7 years. Agreed and understood. Of course I have to constantly improve, never become lazy, hold frame and have worthy goals and ideals for her to stay attracted. I'm ready for that. A… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 09:02 PM |
| -1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)There are no guarantees in life. It sounds like you want some kind of guarantee that she won't turn DB. Dammit how many times do I have to say I'm not for people to get it?... No I'm NOT looking for guarantees. I said it times and times again. I understand it can turn DB. I want to not be a betrayer if that happens, that's the point. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)Figure out your vision for the future. Figure out how to make it work. That's exactly my question here. When I figure out something I understand, that I believe works, then I'll have no problem telling her to join me or not. Right now I can't really figure it out yet. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I agree men never get breaks and should hold frame. I don't ask for a way that would let me stop holding frame in a marriage. I don't agree her lower libido automatically means her man failed at keeping alpha status - it can be a hormonal problem, is that also man's fault? She can become religious and decide that sex is sinful and only meant for childbirth, does this also mean her man lost alpha status? Maybe you can elaborate on this? You say "stop worrying about her" multiple times. Are you su… | /r/askTRP | 20/05/15 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)What you just described is a pre-nuptial agreement, with a frequent sex clause included. I tried to mention it everywhere, still I came off this way? Of course I'm not talking legal stuff. I'm talking frame, ruleset, human understanding. Not legal document. Legally - of course you cannot demand frequent sex, that would be ridiculous! It's not unfair because while she provides a clean home, a mother to the children, and sex, you provide financial support, food, housing, and pay the bills. There i… | /r/askTRP | 20/05/15 09:52 AM |
| 1 | Question about LTRWell study TRP then, mate! This is not a place for dating advice, this is a place to build yourself into a better man. Improve yourself and quality women will follow. | /r/askTRP | 20/05/15 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Question about LTRInner happiness. You feel bad about breaking up becaue you've trained yourself to rely on her as your source of happiness. You are happy because you have her, because you have sex with her, because ... whatever. Obviously losing her would mean you would become unhappy because the source of happiness is no longer present. You don't have to fuck multiple women at once, but you have to have an abundance mentality and inner happiness. Having multiple women is just the easiest way to get there. In an… | /r/askTRP | 19/05/15 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)Thank you for a long reply. I already know and understand the first bit about the must-have traits and must-not-have red flags. I'm monogamous (tried spinning plates, it just is not my thing) and so after going RP I've decided to never pursue women who have red flags, and drop them if I run into them. Just to save time and hussle - if she's not a worthy candidate for an LTR, there's no point spending time seducing her. My current LTR so far meets my criteria, though I should probably spend some … | /r/askTRP | 19/05/15 09:07 AM |
| 1 | No more mr nice guy sharing with SONo. She will respect you more if it feels like you effortlessly did it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/05/15 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)I'm not asking "how do I keep her interested". That is my job and I've got enough information about that from MMSLP and such. I'm asking how do I frame the whole thing. How do I tell myself and her what are the conditions of our marriage and what are the conditions of it ceasing to exist. Like that "remain willing to walk away" thing. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)Well that is about choice - lack of red flags, lack of baggage, (near-)virgin. This is granted - I understand now I must choose women wisely (and thanks to TRP, I have the power to make the choice). But this doesn't solve the issue. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)Nothing is eternal, our life is limited, and our reproductive function (as well as ability to have sex) is too. I'm not delusional about that. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Need RP information to digest for building a proper RP-based family (marriage)As I said, this is not something I want. At all. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 07:18 AM |
| 5 | When Your Life Can't Really Revolve Around SexThere is no need to sacrifice your time and dedication to building a financial empire, or getting that A+ in your academic work, just because someone here talks about having a legion of 5 plates composed of celebrity-looking girls. Exactly. Going RP, I felt I have to start having plates, multiple girls at once, etc. That if I get into LTR with a first girl I have sex with, I'm again slipping into my BP behavior. But that's BS. I have barely enough time for one girl. I have shit to do, and having… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/05/15 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Do you need money to have success with women?It doesn't matter. Her instincts care not about feminism. As a BB, sure, they'll care about it, but OP is talking about AF role. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:10 PM |
| 1 | I think i'm a little racist or really hate this when I see it...I think meditating on this is a good idea. Take your time, clear your other thoughts and examine this one. Find where it leads and where it begins. Then you can see what to do with it. You should not be unemotional, but your emotions should not hinder your daily activities. They should be in check and aligned with your goals and your other functions. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Do you need money to have success with women?It doesn't. She wants AF for the different reasons. She wants AF to have an emotional experience. Money is of no concern there, it's about lust, instincts, stuff like that. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 11:03 AM |
| 1 | [Rant] Just found out I was beta, LTR GF dumped me. Journey has begunThe world is indeed full of women worth fucking, my friend. You would be surprised how fun it is to be kinky to a virgin, teach her, explore things together. You're experienced now and you can open a new world for a woman who never had it before. Well, or find another kinky woman, those are plenty as well. Just go out there and get something to compare. Sex makes you want to get her back - maybe your next will be 10 times better, what do you know? | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 11:01 AM |
| 2 | Where is the friend zone line drawn?Problem is that there are templates. Standarts. Stereotypes. When two of you meet and start spending time together, she's evaluating you. Testing you. She wants to find out what kind of person you are and what you're good for. That's why they tell you to escalate, to not listen to her problems, and so on. Because if you do not escalate and do listen to her problems, you fall into a "beta orbiter" stereotype. It's in her head, it's not you, you are not the problem, it's her. But once you fall int… | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Do I dislike women who like male stripper because I'm insecure ?I may be wrong on this but in my opinion it's way more about how you "come off" rather than what you do. The more I explore this, the more I confirm this. What I mean is that you can tell her not to go to a strip bar in an insecure way, and you can tell it in a confident way. And it will have a different effect on her. First will feel like "he's insecure, he's affraid I'll get tingles for a stripper" and other will feel like you're telling her your expectations of a woman and she wants to obey t… | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:49 AM |
| 2 | Should a husband confront the guys he suspects his wife cheated with?As the other commenter had already said, you lost trust in her. The truth is irrelevant at this point, because she's obviously not fulfilling her part of the bargain in your relationship - she's not giving you herself fully, that's why you suspect she's giving herself to another man, right? Your relationship is fucked. Your choice should be wether you fix this relationship or move on. I don't know your age and how bad a divorce is going to be for you, but I can tell you for me it was an option I… | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:36 AM |
| 1 | Should a husband confront the guys he suspects his wife cheated with?This! | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Should we hide our problems?Thing with women is, in a traditional relationship, they depend on you for protection, defense, stability. That's why you can't show weakness to them. On a deep level, hardwired over thousands of years (or millions if you believe in evolution), women expect you to be the one who will protect them from sabertooth tigers, harsh climates and other people, bring them food and make shelter and so on. When you show weakness, when you need to cry on her shoulder because you have a hard day at work, or … | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:24 AM |
| 1 | finishing too quick?Sex God Method has a video about lasting 45 minutes. Dunno about that exact amount, but it helped me go from coming like within a minute to lasting more than 10 minutes if I want to. It really does help. Torrent if you don't want to pay, it's easy to find. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:08 AM |
| 2 | Just got out of LTR/pseudomarriage. My now Ex wants to meet and end things in the presence of my family.What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You can learn to manipulate people to your side. You can learn to stand your ground and tell the people who manipulated you for a long time to fuck off and stop deciding things in your life. Whatever you want can come from this experience. You can of course tell her you changed your mind and you choose to do this with your brother and you DGAF what she wants because it's your decision and your life. Use every opportunity to learn and practice. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 10:07 AM |
| 10 | Should you be mad at the guy who cheated with your GF?Unless he raped her or drugged her, no. She did it out of her free will. No matter what "pick up techniques" he used to seduce her, it was her choice to spend time with him and be seduced. There is actually noone to blame here. There is no blame. There is just an act on the part of the GF which is mutually exclusive with a relationship. So she stops being a GF when she does it, that's it. No blame, no confrontation, no being mad at someone. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/15 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Creating better rules for marriage.I'm actually thinking about that too and I can't really find a way to make marriage rules work. What I want from a woman in a marriage is following my lead, being a good first mate, a good mother, and a good girlfriend. Thing is, desire is not negotiable! Right now my LTR has such a libido you could call her nymphomaniac. I'm loving it. If for any reason she loses her sex drive, however, there is no rule, no guide, nothing that can be done. At some age or point in life she just gets "tired" and … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 04:15 PM |
| 2 | No blowjob, I walked awayDone well. You've told her directly what you expect of a female you want to spend time with. Now you wait for her to contact you of course. Because that's the frame you've set. She either agrees or does not. If she agrees - she will contact you. If she does not, contacting her and getting another date is breaking the frame you've set. | /r/askTRP | 03/05/15 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Twelve reasons why "pay for play" is a-OK!You pay $150 month for electricity, water, stairs cleaning, "repair fund" and stuff like that. This is it if you own the property. If you don't own the property then the rent is usually around $400 for a fine property (like, a 50 square meters appartment next to a metro station about 30 minutes from city center). You still pay the bills for the things above too. So it's $550 total cost for month for your appartment. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/15 09:08 PM |
| 17 | Twelve reasons why "pay for play" is a-OK!I don't agree. Since I went TRP way, approached for real for the first time in my life, got a girl I picked from the crowd because I liked it for the first time in my life, and got into an LTR on my grounds for the first time of my life, I can now safely say I get sex for a very cheap price (and even less if we don't factor everything in). Reference numbers: I'm from Russia, Saint-Petersburg. I earn $2700/mo salary, number is after all taxation. $1000 is considered to be a good salary where I li… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/15 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Post TRP, I cringe when I watch movies.I like to analyze. Good moments and bad moments. Truths from false. It's not actually 100% inaccuratI like to analyze. Good moments and bad moments. Separate truths from false. It's not actually 100% misinformation - there are bits of truth and bits of lies. You can see what works and what not, what's real and what's imaginary. It's quite educating because you yourself sometimes do get urges to act as a beta, and you need to screen yourself for such behavior regularily - practice helps.e. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/15 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRIt was nothing "big". Just a light tasty salad and a bath with candles. Aside from that, thank you. Your post starts to clarify things for me. I am indeed to focused on myself rather than on her. Same in the other situations - I was always focused on myself. What do I do, what should I do, what do I need... Rather than that I should think about what's going on outside. What does she need. Really, even when I think about "how should I act properly" it's better if I phrase it "what input does she … | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRHmm, never before have I not answered to a "forgive me" from a woman. Let's see what happens (assuming she doesn't bring it up) and how her attitude/behavior changes. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRWell she already brought her up. She texted me. I didn't reply yet. I'm going to call her tomorrow to propose a date for saturday. That's when I tell her this, right? Or if she doesn't ask me if I forgive her I just don't mention it at all? | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRShe enjoys sex with me, definetly. A lot. She enjoys when I'm physically protecting her or somehow act as a protective figure (rarely happens though, I'm not the kind of man who goes with girls into dangerous places). She enjoys experiences with me, constantly thanking me and telling me it was superb (like when I take her to some venue and we spend awesome time there, or when I did an erotic massage session). She enjoys when I'm caring for her and enjoys very much caring for me (like cooking foo… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRCould you please give me an example how would "reminding her that she's been behaving well and you always properly reward her for it" work in this situation? What exactly would I say / do? Also, do I understand you correclty, this situation is worth punishing if it's happening constantly, but if it's happening once in a million it's fine? Basically after she behaved well multiple times, I should let her slip once, giving her benefit of the doubt, something like that? | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRPlease elaborate, I do not quite get what you mean. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Need logical advice on a flaked date situation with my LTRNah I'm learning piano so I just practiced my favorite tune over and over. I didn't pace the room or waste time otherwise. I could of course continue to do whatever (piano, read, or go to bed) after she texted me. I could just ignore the sms and mind my own business. But it is a problem to me that my logic is still completely failing me when something goes wrong with a girl. I haven't had a single situation yet where my logic functioned when I needed it to when in an emotional situation with wom… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever met a girl that didn't like being dominated in the bedroom?Lol, who said that? In fact, it's textbook BDSM, literally! If you would read classic BDSM books like "Screw the Roses Send Me Thorns" you'd see he follows the guide "How to introduce your GF to a Sub role" almost to the letter! First he has normal sex with her, while getting her into the sub mentality ("do not move" "do not make noises") Then he offers very light bondage she can easilly get away from (hands tied loosely with a tie) asking her if she trusts him before that Then he introduces a m… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever met a girl that didn't like being dominated in the bedroom?Nope, she can tell you she does not like it but she does indeed like it when you do it. Like, I went with my LTR to 50 Shades movie and she said it's all gross and disgusting. But there is no doubt she gets extremely horny when dominated - even from simple moves like pinning her face down to the bed and kissing her neck roughly. It's all in the conditioning. She THINKS she should not feel pleasure, she expects feeling affraid / ashamed of herself / harmed / whatever. But when you actually do it,… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 02:03 PM |
| 5 | Don't LTR when your young..It's not about LTR. It's about oneitis really. Oneitis will fuck you up. LTR on its own is just that - LTR. A choice to have something more than sex with a woman. You can get a lot of good lessons in an LTR as well. You can MLTR as well. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Am I dating an Alpha Widow?Let me just give you some logic here: She claims that they were fun, of course, but that they were painfully basic and that she would never want to date any of them Considering she probably wants you to commit to her, would she say anything different? Would she confess she loved alpha cock pounding they gave her and lusts them to this day? It is obvious that she would not, therefore it is obvious this input from her cannot be trusted. This is where it gets tricky for me. Standard RP knowledge se… | /r/askTRP | 21/04/15 08:40 AM |
| 8 | Oneitis vs pure fucking lust... are these one in the same? And how do you maintain frame?If she's not giving you all you need from a woman, don't focus on one girl! I asume you're not having sex with her so she's not giving you anything yet. Try goign after other women as well. Really, it is THE best cure for oneitis. | /r/askTRP | 21/04/15 08:26 AM |
| 7 | Why alpha widowed women should be avoided like typhoid: they simply cannot be...And it's worth it. Pirate if you don't want to pay. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/15 09:19 AM |
| 7 | Seems like if you're a male virgin who hasn't been successful with women after a certain age, you'll always be haunted even if you have success later on.What prevents you from getting young pussy when you're over 25? Is it really that hard in America? IDK, in Russia I just walked down the street / into a McCafe, approached, took number, invited to date, bla bla bla, sex. I've lost virginity at 18 but I too missed "getting drunk partying and hooking up" since I was in LDR for ~2 years and boring LTR for ~2 years and then married unhappilly for ~6 years. Why should I care? Yeah I fucked up big time. Gotta move forward anyways! Besides, is that rea… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/15 09:11 AM |
| 1 | How does a virign/unexperienced girl appreciate what she's getting from you?I'd attribute everything that is good with the sex I have to Sex God Method. Before I found that book, I just can't even call "sex" what I was doing back then. Really. The book was an eye opener, and completely turned everything on its head for me. And it works. I've beat my premature ejaculation problem, I've learned to tease, I've learned tricks that literally drive her crazy (like literally, try the "slam her against the door" thing, the results are just amazing), I've learned the emotional t… | /r/askTRP | 15/04/15 10:09 AM |
| 1 | How does a virign/unexperienced girl appreciate what she's getting from you?To be honest, I'd be glad to. May sound wierd but I'm... missing the shit tests. A bit. Once I learned they're actually my chance to shine, not something bad, I thought "Oh yeah now I'm going to wreck'em" and... no shit tests! None! Straight four months, nothing. | /r/askTRP | 15/04/15 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Stop being a Good Little BoyAt one point - yeah, agreed. But what point, and how do you not cripple him before that point? How do you not create a situation of him doing everything against whatever you taught him when you get to that point? Why won't he just go "I'm finally free to do what I want? Well fuck you dad, I'm going to do all the stuff you prevented me from doing all these years" - doing drugs, skipping education, hanging out with wrong crowd etc. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Stop being a Good Little BoyYes role model of course but he cannot imitate you from the get go, he's a child! Like, say, I can make complex decisions in a split second because of my experience. I can go on a hunch. There are time when I'd be advised to do X and do Y instead because I think I know better (even when I can't explain why) and it works. However, a child should not do that. Especially with decisions where bad outcome is not readilly apparent. Like, crossing the street where no pedestrian crossing is present or b… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Stop being a Good Little BoyWhile I agree with your general idea, do you have any hints as to how do you raise a boy then? How do you teach him what's good and what's not. How do you explain the good and the bad. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/15 12:11 AM |
| 7 | [Dead Serious] Do Kegels.I'd love to get the results you got. But can you please explain how does it exactly work? I tried doing kegels and I tried to squeese my PC muscle in order not to ejaculate when I feel I'm about to come, but it never worked for me - it only made me come faster. After I watched Sex God Method's video about stamina, and tried his method (which is basically the opposite: relax your muscles and never tense them up) it actually started working for me. I got from coming like in less than a minute to l… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Gonna be 29 soon. Is it too late for me?It wasn't too late for me when I was 28,5 in a dead end sexless marriage with a fat 32 y.o. woman and a liftetime history of being a humiliating beta. Now I have a 19 y.o. GF who can't get enough of my cock, literally, and other areas of my life are starting to "click". So why would it be for you when you're 29? Go do it! You should not worry about if it's late or not, you should just genuniely become angry with yourself for wasting time before, and genuinely desire becoming a better man, and ju… | /r/askTRP | 11/04/15 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Why I no longer read TRP.TRP is not only about pussy though? TRP got me so far in life, women were only small part of the overall change. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/03/15 09:43 AM |
| 3 | Men cheatingBe honest, don't cheat. Just don't promise exclusivity if you want to have sex with other and you'll be fine. Be upfront with your preferences - don't tell them until they ask you, of course, but don't lie when they do. It's not about morality. It's about you compromising your integrity. You have to have standarts, integrity, direction, discipline. You have to be honest, not because you owe those bitches something, but because you owe it to yourself. | /r/askTRP | 09/03/15 12:12 PM |
| 10 | What affects whether you wait for sex?It's not about number of dates, it's about wether or not she's into you. If you keep dating a girl who's not into you sexually you're wasting time. That's why you NEXT. If you keep dating a girl who's into you but there are (legitimate) reasons you didn't have sex yet - fine! Traditional Russian... well, she may be religious/traditional, meaning, shy about sex all around, maybe even thinks bad of it. Unfortunately, Orthodox Christianity mixed with "Tradition" tends to do that to people. I'm Russ… | /r/askTRP | 09/03/15 12:09 PM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?Of course, I plan to have kids by 33. Need to figure out my career, my game and find a marriage material girl. | /r/askTRP | 04/03/15 08:59 AM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?Wouldn't be so harsh. My mother is AWALT and my father is just a simple blue pill beta. | /r/askTRP | 04/03/15 08:58 AM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?You mean it's too soon or too late? | /r/askTRP | 03/03/15 09:37 AM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?We're talking LTR, not marriage. Of course I'd want kids at some point and then it's a different story. | /r/askTRP | 03/03/15 09:16 AM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?Well, kinda. She left my dad for a wealthy and powerful man. My dad showed weakness in 1990s period in Russia (basically, total hell where mafia ruled everything and people were killed at large) and she had to provide for the family mostly alone (she went into dangerous business, he stayed at a job that paid shit). She genuinely loved my step-father and I've got good relationships with him. Actually, I work for him and it's a very good and well paid job. She did a lot to establish me in life. Bu… | /r/askTRP | 03/03/15 08:48 AM |
| 2 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?Oh, if I would, I would be even more fucked up... Basically I owe it to her that I awakened to real life only at 28 y.o., because she taught me to never desire something for myself, only want something she told me is right to want. I was in escapism mode since 10 y.o. because I wanted to have something to myself (world of computer games) to get away from the real life where I am not allowed to desire something for myself, but must do something my mother told me to. This went on right into my adu… | /r/askTRP | 03/03/15 12:04 AM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?My mother dominated parenting of me. She was negative of any girl I had, always found reasons to be. Come to think of it she was right most of the time, but back then it felt like she was really just posessive of me. Therefore when she was negative about my ex-wife, I just decided not to listen. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/15 11:33 PM |
| 1 | What can a woman really offer me in an LTR besides good sex?Because I was BP... | /r/askTRP | 02/03/15 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Good SGM-Worthy Sex Scenes?50 Shades (the book, not the movie) is very good. It describes the emotions of the woman who experiences quite SGM-like approach to sex performed at her, and at least for me, it explained a lot. It both gave me confidence to actually do it, and explained to me what she feels when a guy acts like this. Visuals are not really important - SGM is not about angles and positions, remember? Description of how he speaks, how he handles her in bed and what she feels because of that - this is what matters… | /r/askTRP | 25/02/15 12:40 PM |
| 1 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?Still a problem I see. I'll work on improving that. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/15 10:51 AM |
| 1 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?Interesting. I'll think about this. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/15 10:51 AM |
| 2 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?Thank you, this was enlightening. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/15 10:49 AM |
| 1 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?So again, be more cocky, more asshole? | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 09:42 PM |
| 1 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?I'm 28 she's ~21. I'm not sure how much conflict she had in her past, I'd say not that much. Overall, I see your point. That was enlightening, thank you. I'm indeed too logical, all the time. She may be wanting more emotion, and I'm missing a chance to give her some. Instead I'm even more logical and that doesn't help since that's not what she needs. | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell her I miss her?Well. She's different. Very different. I can tell you a long list of HOW she's different, like: she openly admits she's acting on instinct and emotion and that she "just does what she feels is right" she's not celebrating days like 14 feb she told me I should not skip my combat training lessons in order to meet her because it's not worth it, when I openly contemplated wether I should she told me straight that "I need to get more used to you" is an excuse, when a girl tells it to a man who's tryi… | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 09:31 PM |
| -1 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?So basically, be an asshole? | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 09:04 PM |
| 3 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?Well, should I tell her I understand her frustration and anger then? Tell her it's okay for her to feel that way? Come to think of it... I was trying to tell her to be rational and non-emotional, was I? | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 09:03 PM |
| 0 | How to react when she's affected by someone shit-testing me?I see now I was too defensive in these situations. The fact I was not offended is already a huge progress to me, but still, I need to be more assertive. Of course my tune offended noone. Would "Well why's the place called piano bar then?" with a smile be a more appropriate reaction in the first example? Or "Your loss, dude" with a smile again? In the second I guess I should have just been less defensive and use less words to express myself, right? As to reacting to her... could you give an examp… | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell her I miss her?We are kinda in a "radio silence" mode all the time because I'm not chatting to her on the phone, I only schedule dates. So she's only hearing from me for about a minute or two between the dates. So far it seems to work very well. She's quite busy too, so maybe she's not missing me between our dates, but rather just doing her other stuff and it's actually good for her I'm not constantly nagging her for attention. I proposed to see her friends, to go together to an amusement park. I wanted it bec… | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Proper attitude towards "her being mine"?The cuddly and warm part could be beta programming That's exactly my problem. What isn't? At the age of 28.5, I suddenly found out MOST of the stuff I thought was mine in my life (emotions, reactions, feelings, goals, morals) was actually some social conditioning inflicted on me in order to limit me. This is a really, really horrible realisation. It's like I've lost everything I had and have to start anew! Naturally, it's very hard to keep anything in this situation. It's like you have 10 kinds … | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell her I miss her?Fuck that's going to sound hot, no doubt. Thank you very much. | /r/askTRP | 20/02/15 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Proper attitude towards "her being mine"?I like this idea of implied non-exclusivity. Even though I have issuses with going non-exclusive - I'm to hardwired to monogamy, I tried to spin plates, I did two posts on it already and still haven't managed to. Right now I don't really have time for another girl - this is giving me all I need and otherwise my time is taken by other interesting activities. I think she feels she's the only one I have based on that. But I don't want to imply I'm commited to her, even if I don't have immediate pla… | /r/askTRP | 19/02/15 10:45 PM |
| 9 | Proper attitude towards "her being mine"?Well that's how I learn. I learn a script, I play it, I understand how it works, then I improvise. I was never able to learn without scripts, in any field. I tried and it was way less productive. Fields like art, music, computers, programming, social skills, any field I developed myself in, really. It usually takes me several "walkthroughs" or "scripts" to take off and start doing it on my own. Never was I dominant in relationships. I always thought I should be caring, compromising and treat her… | /r/askTRP | 19/02/15 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandI'm not asking how to handle this particular situation, but rather, how can I learn to properly uphold 2/3 rule in based on this. Ideas, suggestions, etc. | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandYeah, strangely enough this usually happened way faster into a relationship, and I always fucked it up completely (well, was BP). I'm kinda amazed it hasn't happened yet. With the absence of shit testing, abundance of lust and desire, and lack of bullshit behavior, this really looks too good to be true. | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandThat way she's investing time - even if she's low on money. She's not "low" on money, it is just that I'm kinda used to spending more money than her and don't think I should adjust just to meet a 50/50 split. Would be ridiculous really. You could ask her to clean your place/do your laundry. Might even start small and ask for her to do it while you're cooking. Yeah, I don't need my laundry done as I do it myself at set intervals (I'm very organised in the way I live, well, I'm trying to get to be… | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandWell we only spend together 1 weeekday evening (1 out of 5) and one weekend evening and whole weekend day until evening (~1.2 out of 2). So it's not like we're spending too much time together. She's very respectful of my time, like, when I was talking to her about when to meet on weekdays and told her I'd have to skip my martial arts lessons to meet her on tuesday or thursday, she said "No you should not do that for me, that would be wrong". She's really very honest and not at all into shittesti… | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandI'm leaving lots of details because people always complain about too much detials. Only included what I thought was absolutely nessecary for the 2/3 question. I approached her at McCafe near the university where I studied, I went there with a goal to approach someone, since I studied there I knew there would be cute students there at that time, and I just picked her out of the crowd since I liked her, and well, after 3 minutes of considering it just went and approached. What is a sorority equiva… | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandOkay, even if we discard the gift idea, I'm still doing so much for her. How do I make space for her to do something for me, so that she feels she's "dating up"? I don't want to limit my spendings, I don't want to stop cooking for her... what do I do? | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Is 2/3 rule in terms of non-sexual favors really that imporant for an LTR? Please help me understandNever. I'm following Sex God Method now and I've never had better sex in my life! She needs sex more than I do. I give her sex, not the other way around. It's awesome and it really works. | /r/askTRP | 17/02/15 04:18 PM |
| 1 | How should RP man react to a girlfriend thanking him?Well that was more what I was asking about. With general public, "to accept praise and appreciation with poise and grace" is probably the right way to go, but this is a girlfriend I'm talking about, one which is very much into me and very horny. I was a nice guy with girls all my life, and even when I tried to tease it would often go wrong (or maybe I percieved it as such), I'd go on defensive, apologise and never do it again. This I think is a wonderful opportunity for me to actually incorporat… | /r/askTRP | 10/02/15 07:33 AM |
| 1 | How should RP man react to a girlfriend thanking him?Well I write that in the post, I'd say it was nothing, that I just did what the right thing, whatever. I'd feel really happy but really embarassed at the same time, and be kinda... "amiss" I think is the right word here. Anway, I'm not sure how I behaved before TRP was appropriate or correct. Because TRP opened my eyes to a big problem: I cannot really trust the habbits I have accumulated over the course of my life, because they were accumulated under a wrong paradigm. I have to test and check t… | /r/askTRP | 10/02/15 07:25 AM |
| 1 | How should RP man react to a girlfriend thanking him?So basically acknowledge it briefly, make nothing out of it, and go on to next conversation subject? | /r/askTRP | 09/02/15 12:23 AM |
| 1 | How to tell if girl is a virgin?Why would you ask how many she had? Why would you ask if she was touched or held? | /r/askTRP | 06/02/15 06:37 PM |
| 1 | How to tell if girl is a virgin?Yes, don't accuse her without being sure you're right, I guess. 1) There is a rare case when she has no hymen whatsoever. Birth defect you could call it. You won't be able to tell then if you're her first. 2) She could have masturbated or otherwise damaged her hymen (tampons etc.). Again, no way to tell if you were her first. 3) Hymen does not nessecarily block the vagina outright. Thickness etc. also differs. You could have easilly broken it while fingerbanging her without any blood. You should… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/15 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Reality check please?Okay, I'm fucked. And obviously need help. I did the negative visualisation thingie and all I got was "well oif course I'll be happy without her, I'm going to find another girl and be happy". That was quite bad already. My happiness is still tied to having a woman, even if losing one specific one isn't the end of the world, it's still about women! Now, we had planned to get together today at my place, do the usual stuff, I told her when I'll be finished with my daily business, she would call whe… | /r/askTRP | 04/02/15 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Reality check please?So it's like Negative visualisation from Stoicism? I should take time every once in a while to imagine her breaking up with me in the worst way possible, and check if I can remain happy regardless by just doing what I enjoy doing without her? | /r/askTRP | 04/02/15 08:54 AM |
| 0 | Reality check please?I'm constantly watching ongoing Japanese shows (Tokusatsu series, Kamen Rider and Super Sentai) so it's just natural to learn the language alongside as I'm getting a lot of hearing practice. I also just love the language. I just love how it works. To me it's like a programming language (I'm a programmer), with identifier particles denoting the function of the words before them, that facinates me. I'm also facinated by japanese culture, at least some of it. I'm not interested in japanese women pe… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/15 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Reality check please?You mean I'll stop like working on my body because I think since I've got her I don't need to improve anymore to impress anyone because I've got her "in the bag"? Of course not. I've learned what hypergamy means, I know I have to always be on my toes and never assume she'll love me for "just who I am". How do I see the line between enjoying beeing with a girl that I enjoy being with, and being "attached"? | /r/askTRP | 03/02/15 10:16 PM |
| 3 | Reality check please?This is really damaging in the long run. She is not to have 100% of your time. You are starting to betafy yourself by being available 100%. So I should try resisting the urge to spend the whole weekend with her, and find stuff to do alone/with my friends on most weekends? Well now that you mention it, this makes sense. If most of my quality time is spent with her I'm really limiting my potential to experience new things and achieve stuff. Right? I sense that you cannot control you ego and by hav… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/15 03:54 PM |
| 4 | Reality check please?Well, my current self-improvement plan is: finishing up my appartment (still have stuff to repair or make or plan or order) discipline (I have a long way to go here) shaping my body learning essential life skills (eating healthy, taking care of my health and skin, house upkeep etc.) rermoving bad habbits (explaining myself, apologising for everything, avoiding conflict, focusing on errors and worrying about them, too self-conscious) work on my character learn to cook at a good level learn music … | /r/askTRP | 03/02/15 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Wife says she emotionally cheatedWhy are you worrying about the past? Worry about the present and the future. If you see how you can turn this marriage around in a reasonable amount of time, go for it. If not, GTFO with minimal losses. She may have cheated on you, but you were doing nothing about being attractive to her, so not that I want to blame you, but understand you both contributed to that at some point. What does it matter? AWALT. Women do cheat or leave men when men are not being men. What matters is if you can be the … | /r/askTRP | 03/02/15 01:33 PM |
| 2 | Road to RP life with a current LTRWell you can still improve within this relationship, why let her go now? If you're absolutely certain that even if she likes the New-U it's over, then tell her now. If your only problem is she's not accepting the New-U, then you have things to work on. That's either a shit test or she really wants a relationship with a weak man. No matter what it is, you react the same, because maybe she just never felt how cool it is when you let go and let your man tell you what to do? In which case, you can s… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/15 01:25 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing TRP for 6 months and have seen zero success. Starting to think it's all one big troll.No, as long as that goal is really chosen by you, not by social conditioning or other crap that was put into your head. Problem is, in your situation it most likely is the later case, and if you're going to pursue LTR, you'll get into a low-quality LTR and waste more of your time, which you will regret later. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/15 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about sleeping, how do you do it?I had the same problem too. It's just an emotional overdose. You'll calm down in several days, well, assuming you have discovered or started seriously taking TRP recently, like several days ago. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/15 04:37 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing TRP for 6 months and have seen zero success. Starting to think it's all one big troll.There are many ways to change what you want, but in this case you should understand this as a fact: You want LRT because you've been conditioned to. Deep inside you, you want females to admire you, to crave you, to lust you, you want sex, validation from females, and so on... but you have been conditioned to think that you'll get that only in an LTR. Once you reconnect to your instincts, you will stop wanting that naturally and "change what you want". You may still want LTR at that point, but fo… | /r/askTRP | 29/01/15 04:32 PM |
| 2 | How does an alpha married man deal with wife's past?[xpost from marriedredpill]This is the key to understanding "alpha". Often "alpha" is about not giving a fuck about something, and "not alpha" is giving a fuck. You cannot ask how alpha deals with worrying about her past BF's cocks because he doesn't have this problem! Getting rid of these worries IS becoming an alpha. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/15 04:26 PM |
| 1 | 2 weeks, 3 dates... she wants to "take it slow with sex"Well yeah, I meant that you can escalate when logistics are right. Basically take mention of sex as a sign of sexual interest. | /r/askTRP | 26/01/15 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Fiance in contact with exesIsn't that what ultimatum is about? "Do X or we destroy you" (in this case meaning, the relationship is over)? I agree there must be a difference here but I'm not seeing it... | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Fiance in contact with exesSo if it's "Don't do X" (assuming "I'll leave you if you persist) it's trying to control her, but if it's "I'm not going to date a person who does X" it's not? Even though it's essentially the same thing? I'm not arguing, I'm honestly trying to understand the difference... | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 05:18 PM |
| 1 | No sex or intimacy with girlfriendDo you need to have it explained or have you found it our yourself already? When you hear stuff like "You haven't been appreciating it as much as you used to" or "My head has been hurting a lot" or "I've been too tired to do anything lately" she's really just not interested. She was before, she isn't now. But I guess you know that. She's GF. Not a wife. Why do you spend time with ther still if she's not satisfying you? Do you enjoy doing something else with her WITHOUT having sex? Read "No More … | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Telling girls about criminal history?The concept of vulnerability form "Models - Attract Women Through Honesty" fits perfectly here. You're honest about your past and you regret what you have done. Sharing it when you start telling your life stories will be very beneficial. Read the book, it's worth it. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 01:02 PM |
| 1 | I feel like its too lateWhat the fuck man? I'm 28 and just woke up, there are people who wake up at 33, divorced with kids to pay for, and they still make progress... You're just fine! Really. You have everything in front of you! You have so much time on your hands to mold yourself into an "alpha" I really envy you. Really. You're all right. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Fiance in contact with exesA little bit of hijack here, but I am sturggling with this concept too and perhaps you can clear it up for me. So, I'm not supposed to try to control her or the situation. "You can only control yourself". So I should never tell girls what to do, like, "don't speak to him" or "cancel your appointment and meet me" because that would look like I'm needy, insecure and trying to control her. But at the same time, you advise to control her behavior. Is the difference in the way you phrase it? But isn'… | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 12:56 PM |
| 1 | 2 weeks, 3 dates... she wants to "take it slow with sex"1) Don't explain yourself, especially during emotional moments. I am guilty of this myself. It's hard to fix. BUT WORK ON IT. Very important. 2) If you don't respond with "I love you" to "I love you", do something cool and with a cockiness level up to your liking. My favorite is "You have a good taste". 3) Whenever a girl mentions sex out of the blue she's thinking about sex with you. You can escalate this no matter how "against" she is verbally... well, depending on your skill and logistics of … | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 12:48 PM |
| 3 | RP Philosophy and Superheroes (Discussion)AFAIK from GamerGate, right now comics are basically controlled by SJWs, naturally that means you won't find good role models there. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionfinally And finally, this should work! ♂ | /r/askTRP | 23/01/15 12:32 PM |
| 5 | TRP as a low-status male (spinning plates vs. ltr)Cheer up. First of all, your dick is fine. Stop bothering about dick size. That's close to irrelevant. She didn't leave you cos' your dick is small, but cos' you didn't satisfy her pshychologically. Read "Sex God Method" to clean up this and your other misconceptions about sex. Second, yes, you are at a disadvantage. Maybe at a serious disadvantage. However, if you look at it objectively, it's irrelevant. Yes! It is irrelevant wether how your face looks matter. It is irrevelant wether height mat… | /r/askTRP | 20/01/15 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning plates (Try #2)A man needs to clearly see his mission, understand his purpose in life. I was delaying this step (laying out my mission clearly) because I thought I was too much screwed up to even be physically able to do it. I started working on myself (lifting, healthy lifestyle, fixing my mood and belief system, picking up interesting hobbies, becoming more social) with a short term goal of just working on myself. I planned to return to the global concept of a mission when I "bootstrap" myself into something… | /r/askTRP | 15/01/15 11:33 AM |
| 2 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning plates (Try #2)Yeah I know all that. As I said, knowledge doesn't get me anywhere for some reason. | /r/askTRP | 14/01/15 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning plates (Try #2)Invoker, eh? ';_;' I know the excuse is bullshit. I know on logical level, but my wants and desires on emotional level do not comply. A random person I met today advised me to think clearly about my wants and goals, and write everything down and focus on how approaching and dating women fits into there (maybe it doesn't and that's why nothing works for me). I'm going to try it. | /r/askTRP | 14/01/15 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning plates (Try #2)Read already. Re-read several times too. | /r/askTRP | 14/01/15 09:54 PM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?Ah, I get you. That's the plan anyway, I'm working hard on improving myself and I think she'll naturally notice it. | /r/askTRP | 13/01/15 02:31 PM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?Rather than monk mode, it's "be the man your gf would cheat on you with". Erm what does it mean? | /r/askTRP | 13/01/15 11:13 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?Actually after thinking about all this, I've just broke myself with this "GOTTA GET OUT OF COMFORT ZONE AND APPROACH EVERYONE" thing. I'm fine chatting up people at my own pace. I can gradually increase it. I just decided to bullrush the wall and it didn't work and I became all negative about it. The best advice I can give you beside reading is to treat your space like your a host / entertainer and those who enter your space as your guests. Yeah, I've read about this somewhere (in context of how… | /r/askTRP | 13/01/15 11:07 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?Actually had a guy find me and offer his services at "life couching", I agreed to try, and he performed Reimprinting on me... and it actually worked, the experience itself was amazing and I feel like it really helped relieve me of some negative shit that was going through me regarding approaching/chatting with women. So it seems quite a reasonable part of the NLP stuff really works, or maybe it works just for some people, not for everybody. | /r/askTRP | 13/01/15 10:45 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?I don't really want to abstain from sex, now that I finally got into an intimate relationship with a girl after I had no sex for like 2 months... But it was refreshing to be reminded about throwing away junk from your activities list until you've worked on yourself enough. I'm addicted to chatting on pickup forums and giving advice to AFCs (because my advice is very useful and people compliment me all around). I spend like hour or two per day. I should stop that. I should also stop watching fun … | /r/askTRP | 13/01/15 10:43 AM |
| 2 | "Send me a Selfie... No, a sexy one."Why would he need it really? I mean maybe your culture is very different, but if you live close enough to date, asking for sexy selfies is kinda wierd... just meet her if you wanna see her and feel her sexuality, no? And if it's just after exchanging numbers, that's inappropriate. Or at least you should be okay with considering it inappropriate and stating it as such. Plus, "sexy" is not about lack of clothing. Sexy is about being sexual. If you have a nice feminine photo (pose, face, background… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/15 09:56 AM |
| 2 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?The stuff you can't control - deal with it by not letting it bother you, the stuff you can control - deal with it by fixing it. I guess I can't control the past so I should stop bothering about the fact I've wasted my time, right? Same with other past mistakes I've made? Maybe I've never tried to positively reinforce myself? To do something out of just wanting to do it, not out of resenting the alternative outcome or fearing punishment... Come to think of it, even with girls, I was mostly motiva… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/15 03:04 PM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?You need to not care what the result of the conversation is - then you can just talk. I don't want to argue, but it's unfortunately not a solution to my problem. Here's why: I have no outcome dependence with friends. I know they'll stay with me because I'm quite charismatic actually, I host events for them that they often BEG me to host more frequently, and they really like being with me the way I am with all my negative traits. But I still think that way and tell same things to them... Maybe I'… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/15 02:53 PM |
| 2 | How do I learn to have more relaxed and laid back conversations (esp. with women)?They talk all right and I make effort to listen. I just feel like by talking logically I also set the theme of the conversation, meaning, I make it harder for them to talk emotionally and make them talk more logically as well. With this one girl I've reached initmate levels with currently, I feel like intimacy goes against most of what we do otherwise. It even feels "wrong" on some level as it cuts through everything else we do. Like, we're figuring out how to correctly make this dish, or wether… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/15 11:18 AM |
| 1 | What typical bluepill mistakes can I make in this situation?You shouldn't be a dick to this girl, but don't be a doormat either. Exactly my point. I want to be supportive while not "entering her frame" or whatever (I still haven't grasped how it works and what it means, besides me not falling for her "maybies" and not chasing her schedule and not agreeing to activities that I don't want to participate in). She seems to be... different, in a sense that she's surprisingly honest and straightforward. She didn't shit test me once (or maybe I passed naturally… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/15 09:57 AM |
| 1 | What typical bluepill mistakes can I make in this situation?Vaginismus, yes. But her's is not that severe (like it feels good for her when I finger her). If I see that going to a doctor is the only way I will just take her there, no game will be required, I think she will just agree. We talked a bit about doctors with her (unrelated to this problem), and when I confessed I have wrecked my teeth fearing stomatologists all my life, she said it's irrational for people to fear doctors and that she never had such fears. | /r/askTRP | 11/01/15 09:27 PM |
| 1 | What typical bluepill mistakes can I make in this situation?It's not that I'm ridiculous in size. She might have vaginismus or something like that. I was not asking about how to treat the condition but rather how I behave, because I'm obviously insecure about the situation because I lack the experience... And since I have already acted like a complete idiot (my previous post) while being sure I'm acting correctly... I'm asking this. | /r/askTRP | 11/01/15 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlYou are right that I should not have argued. I am here to accumulate advice, not prove my point. | /r/askTRP | 07/01/15 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlAn alpha male does what he thinks is right. I think texting is an awful method of conversation when any kind of emotion is involved (which is, by definition, any conversation with a woman), because there is no way to convey body language or voice through text. Therefore, I avoid texting women at all costs, except when it's the only reasonable way of communication over distance. This girl lives in a place with horrible coverage quality, so calls are disrupted all the time, that's why I'm texting … | /r/askTRP | 07/01/15 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlThat's what I'm talking about. I should take her maybe as a no. If so, I should tell her to contact me when she makes up her mind, yes? But that IS by definition leaving her in charge of the decision making, which I was told I should not be doing. That's why I'm puzzled as to how I should have acted because I see no way to fulfill both these conditions. Or wait, are you telling me I should have proposed a different kind of a date on the spot when she said she needs to think? | /r/askTRP | 07/01/15 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlI am here to listen. I came and asked specific questions. Instead I have people telling me how they have psyker powers and their psyker powers allowed them to reach through the void and find out she's not interested. I do have humility to learn. I admit to having made a mistake. I admit I'm blind and not even understanding what the mistake was. I ask for help finding that mistake. If an answer leads me nowhere (like "you should not accept maybe from her") I ask for elaboration (what else can I d… | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlYes thank you for insulting me, that helps a lot. I'm even going to upvote you. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlI have asked for a specific advice. I thank you very much for giving me that advice. Guessing wether or not there is interest is pointless and irrelevant. Please explain this, because it is the cornerstone and everything went to hell after that: you should never leave decisions about what will happen next in her hands How do I not leave decision about what will happen next in her hands? Demand her to respond immediately? Or what? No really, what? I tell her "Let's do this", she responds "I need … | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlYou do understand that the more newbie the person is, the less he is skilled at actually discerning what matters from what doesn't. The pro would be able to find the exact problem and post a single line where he asks a specific question. The newbie has the whole situation before his eyes and doesn't understand what went wrong. So your advice is completely and utterly bullshit. Because you want newbies to behave like pros which will obviously never happen. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlCould you please point out where I'm "overcommunicating feelings"? | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 08:38 AM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlHow should I have not accepted a maybe? Tell her I'm not interested if she's not sure she wants to meet me? Just reply nothing after she said she'll think about it? | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 08:35 AM |
| 0 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlSorry OP, but I cringed half way through your post. It seems like you are still carrying a ton of BP traits. I am feeling that myself, that's why I'm here, so that I can improve. First of all, she canceled 2-3 dates. You should have moved on immediately after that. Then when you guys hang out, she is in a rush (and uses her family as an excuse). She's not into you. Oh goddammit... No, no and no. Please don't generalize that much. Please don't apply some templates to every story you hear. And don… | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlWhat exactly have I done wrong with the quoted line, and what exactly have I done wrong if going by the 16 commandments? | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 08:31 AM |
| -2 | Please evaluate and critique my behavior with a girlShe cancelled 2 times for a 100% legitimate reason. It seems this community has denial problems. Trouble accepting the fact that women can have things come up that prevent them from going on dates... She was herself very eager to meet me the second time. That's fact, please just believe me, I know my situation better than you. She told me how she misses me and wants to meet me and so on. Was she eager to meet me this third time? That I cannot say. Maybe not. What I was more interested is not to … | /r/askTRP | 06/01/15 08:29 AM |
| 3 | What do you do when you clearly see her bullshit: speak up, let it go, do something else...?This. Maybe don't shave her yourself though, since you can hurt her actually, but physically carrying her into the shower and putting a shaver into her hand and commanding her to shave herself is a very good idea. If she doesn't like you doing this playfully and teasingly then.... you two are really incompatible. | /r/askTRP | 29/12/14 09:54 AM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?That's what I thought. Okay then, I guess my GTFO reaction would be unjustified in this case. | /r/askTRP | 24/12/14 11:40 AM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?Bro here is what I think. You asked a perfectly valid question. What I think you fucked up is just hand waving it away with "of course, of course...". There could be something there and you need to know what you are getting yourself into (besides her pussy). TRP doesn't really mention this a lot but you need to get some girls comfortable and feeling safe. Especially when they are in your home. Could you please advise me then? The way I see it right now: after I ask her if she had some bad experi… | /r/askTRP | 24/12/14 11:37 AM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?I think it was my bad for even trying to say something like it. Nothing good could come out of me saying this phrase. The context is second part of second date an all third date she's physically showing that she wants me (tries to push herself into me when we stand in a subway, tries to squeeze my hands or take my hand with both hands, kisses aggressively even though she said she's not kissing in public) and we come home and she hugs and kisses even more aggressively but won't let me even lift h… | /r/askTRP | 24/12/14 09:02 AM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?if you didn't take her on a world tour before trying to fuck her, you would have found out sooner as well. I wouldn't spend more than 5 minutes making out before escalation, rarely above 2 I didn't spend more than 5 minutes of making out before escalation (or what do you mean?) you're trying hard by taking her out so much. invite her straight to your place next time As I said, was not possible to invite her home previous 2 times. "movie, my place" done. polarize her Invited her, she's busy right… | /r/askTRP | 24/12/14 08:58 AM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?Well, if she's on a period and against having sex during period (IDK how it's in your place, in Russia it's pretty common) you're not going to get banging. Am I expecting too much from women if I expect them not to lie to me in that way? I mean, I want her, she wants me, but she prevents me from having sex with her, I ask what's wrong. She can remain silent, she can tell me she's not ready and we're not having sex tonight, she can tell me she does not want me enough, whatever, but if she's lying… | /r/askTRP | 23/12/14 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?The question was asked exactly because she did not tell me she's on period... If she'd say so in the beginning there would be no problem. | /r/askTRP | 23/12/14 06:25 PM |
| 1 | How to figure out when it's LMR and when she really is on a period?Now, if you find yourself in that sort of a situation-- where a girl is giving you a whole pile of LMR like that-- and you don't feel like shutting it down, or fighting through it, don't be shy about getting out of bed, getting your clothes and shoes back on, and doing something else in the room. I actually debated that in my head, after the initial hesitation on her part. Should I really pursue sex with her, or should I not. One idea was just to have fun doing something else together, and then … | /r/askTRP | 23/12/14 03:06 PM |
| 3 | I've turned extremely dark and cold. I don't show it but I am consumed and driven by anger in life at the moment and sadly despise most women...Plus im a virgin at 23 now. What advice do you guys have?I am going to be frank: I glanced through your post. I haven't read every word. However, everywhere I looked, you write about HER... "She's breaking my heart" "She was in a previous LTR" "run into her again" "She reiterated" "She opened up about her life" You can check it out yourself. Look at a random part of your post and see if you can't find a mention of her somewhere around. That is the key to your problem. It's really simple. Just read the theory, man. Just take your time to read the sideb… | /r/askTRP | 23/12/14 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Should I keep contact over text/phone if I cannot meet for some time?It worked! Never thought it would. I mean, I was always so explanatory about myself and sorry about being absent... and this time I didn't... and it went just fine. I think I'm starting to grasp something. | /r/askTRP | 21/12/14 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Should I keep contact over text/phone if I cannot meet for some time?Hmm. It looks like it actually did make the heart grow fonder. Wonderful. Never thought it will actually work! | /r/askTRP | 21/12/14 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Coping with loneliness and the trpWell, build that intimacy! Do what you want to do. If something you want is not imaginary but real, and achieving it does not hurt you, then by all means go for it. Problem exists when men want to get intimacy that is impossible with a woman who is not your mother (like, "I want her to love me unconditionally"). There is no problem if you want to share some experiences together, like, go on a trip or w/e. You just have to understand where you're taking your relationships and what is expected of … | /r/askTRP | 15/12/14 03:13 PM |
| 1 | NoFapAbstaining from porn has huge benefits in many ways. A must for a TRP man. Abstaining from compulsive masturbation is good for your health. Aside from that, I agree with Robert Glover that healthy masturbation is good for you. | /r/askTRP | 15/12/14 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Should I keep contact over text/phone if I cannot meet for some time?Thanks. Should I explain why have I disappeared, or should I just act like nothing happened? How much into detail should I go if she asks what happened and why I haven't called or what is it I was busy with? | /r/askTRP | 14/12/14 05:38 PM |
| 1 | New Points System for askTRP - TRPBOTHmm, I tried to afford a point and it didn't happen. http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2nsbow/text_exchange_about_a_cancelled_date_would/cmrzjau Am I doing something wrong? | /r/askTRP | 11/12/14 06:26 PM |
| 2 | LTR not married on couch with dead bedroom. I want 3 solid ways to turn it around.1) Read Married Man Sex Life Primer. 2) Start working on your skin condition. You can next to eliminate symptoms. Don't give up on your looks 3) Get your bed back NOW. Either she goes on the couch, she leaves the house, she sleeps with you in the bed, or you leave the house. Bonus: do not call yourself "alpha" when you obviously fail at relationships. It doesn't hurt to admit you suck. It's imperative you do, or you will never improve. | /r/askTRP | 06/12/14 07:26 PM |
| 1 | LTR not married on couch with dead bedroom. I want 3 solid ways to turn it around.He definetly can turn this around. Most relationships can be turned. But thing is, to turn it around, you have to accept the option of nexting her, or it will never work. And there's doubt he's willing to do so. | /r/askTRP | 06/12/14 07:25 PM |
| 2 | secret santa gift ideasDownvoted? Why. It's a curious question, and skittles definetly ain't a good answer for a secret santa community meeting? | /r/askTRP | 06/12/14 07:16 PM |
| 2 | acting like boyfriend material before you have sex almost guarantees failureI am trying this out now myself. I can't say it works yet (too little time elapsed). I guess it depends on what kind of woman that is too. I think it works this way: it doesn't matter if you're generous or not, kind or not. It's all about if you're low or high rank. For example, Generocity (very nicely explained in No More mr. Nice Guy) If you're low rank, you give in order to get, in order to please. You lick boots so that you get something in return. You employ covert contracts - everything yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/14 10:29 AM |
| 2 | acting like boyfriend material before you have sex almost guarantees failureIt does. You keep up your frame. She will notice you do it for strangers and it won't look like you're invested in her. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/14 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionWhat makes yours so special? Don't lie to yourself about why or take upon some mission that isn't really going to do anything, realistically. I seem to think a bit differently than you. You see yourself as one in a million and say "It doesn't matter what I do since I'm just a drop in the ocean". I see myself as one in a million and say "It matters what I do, because I am investing into the collective effort just like everybody else, and the final outcome depends on me as well as on anyone else, … | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Texting to ask a good time to call?Whatever works in your region. In Russia, we never text, we call. Always. (talking from my experience, my friends and well known PUAs who put videos and guides online) A routine of "Call, if she doesn't pick up, call in 1 hour, if she doesn't pick up again, text her to call you when she's free" is a typical one that works most of the time for most people. When she picks up, you ask her first if she's free to talk and if not, ask her when you should call and hang up, calling when she says. If she… | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 06:57 PM |
| 3 | On sex and other thingsSex God Method. Read it. It will help you a lot. | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 06:53 PM |
| 2 | How would an elite top 1% alpha male react in these situations?You want to fake it until you make it? Why do you ask? You want to follow some advice we will give you? Or do you want to study how proper people react in order to learn some underlying principles? IMHO you should have answers to this if you studied TRP theory and read books. Being "top 1%" means not giving a fuck about other people. The higher you are at the top the more you're not giving a fuck. If some russian kid insults the Queen of England on League of Legens forums, guess what, she doesn'… | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Can you be a respectable person and show respect in a relationship?You must respect yourself MORE than you respect her. That simple. The problem is not that you respect her, it is when you respect her more than you respect yourself. It shows through all your actions, she feels it and becomes less attracted to you. Like, you prepare for dates, you wear special clothing or work on your face or hair: this means you respect yourself less than her. She deserves to see your best face, clothes etc., but you yourself do not. Or, if you can change your plans to accomoda… | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 06:35 PM |
| 8 | Getting boners too easyLolwhat? Got boner today when hugging a girl in a cafe (right before we kissed)... what's wrong? I'm 28. | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 06:31 PM |
| 0 | Why You Need to Give Up Video Games (and How to Do it)Definetly. 28 y.o. lifelong computer gamer. Gave up on games and never been better. I'm getting fit, strong, I'm getting girlfriends, I'm enjoying life... Dammit. Stop playing games. Learn to live in real world. It's awesome! | /r/TheRedPill | 04/12/14 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionBTW can you believe it, she didn't text/call me yet! Misses me, wants to meet during the week, yeah... How easilly they forget about you once you just text them a bit more than you should! Holy shit! Soft next is definetly in order now! And damin, it feels SO AWESOME not being a "kept man" anymore. I have gone to a date with another girl today and hugged/kissed her and found some common ground and interests with her too... oh, it feels so awesome not relying on one girl for your feminine fix! | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionI wouldn't be taking every piece of advice so literally. Well, I care about how I influence the world. I value myself second and my influence on the world first, because in the end, my time in this world is insignificant in the large scheme of things. In the end my life is about what I have brought into reality over the course of my life. That is my view of the meaning of life. Therefore, I consider pleasures from the same standpoint - need them to function properly and do stuff properly in my l… | /r/askTRP | 04/12/14 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesErm, no... I found it right before we married. Actually, it was what pushed me into marrying her, before that she was pestering me to marry her, and I thought marriage is a pointless practice. In Russia, there's a saying "a good deal wouldn't be called BRAK" where brak is the word that means both "marriage" and "defect" (as in "defective goods"). Yes, in Russian the words for "marriage" and "defect" are the same word with the same pronounciation... hint for the men, lol! | /r/askTRP | 02/12/14 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesBefore my wife, which I was married to for the last 5 years, I was an atheist, so I was indeed having sex before marriage with my girlfriends (had about 5 I think?). Right now, I have decided I will not be able to abstain from sex before marriage. But I'm not having any sex yet because I only have one girlfriend now and we have only met once (we're getting there, but I assume it will take two more dates). About emotions, I'm not entirely sure I get you. What do you mean "base your interactions o… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/14 08:42 AM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesDammit, it's fun to experience reality after you lived in virtual worlds for your entire life... I feel like a newborn! So much new stuff, so much new knowledge, so much new emotions and interesting things around you... Anyways, I think the problem is solved then. Who could have thought THAT was the answer? Gambling with relationships... OMFG. Thank you for your help. I've read a bit about stoicism now, and I think the practices and ideas are indeed quite interesting (negative visualisaion, unde… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/14 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesThank you for the link. Thing is, in The Rational Male it's all about Plate theory (checking out multiple girls) versus Sniper approach (snatch one girl and be happy you got at least something). This site's deinitions differ. By this site's defenition, sniper rifle game definetly attracts me way more than machine gun game. I'd rather have multiple LTRs I have some emotional involvement with, than have many girls I hang out with and have sex without any involvment. I will still be able to try out… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/14 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionI guess if you approach many girls per day, and always have more numbers than you can really date, then you would indeed care little about a girl not picking up your call. It is just that I've once read at a russian PUA site "Don't take her number if you don't want to date her, don't hurt her for no reason". So I won't approach more than I need (well unless I see someone so special I just HAVE to get to know her). And then again, I think you're stressing it here. One sms to get a first date isn'… | /r/askTRP | 02/12/14 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesblank is a healthy state for someone you've just met Hmm... is it really? You don't have any positive emotions about going to a first date with a girl? I never thought about this. I was always excited about going to the first date. "Is it going to work out?" "How will our first kiss happen?" "Is she going to be passionate or shy?" "Is she this or that kind of person?" and so on. And... I liked it! Come to think of it, a healthy amount of insecurity always excited me. It kinda made me... alive, i… | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionThis is about new girls, meaning, those you just got a number of. I think you guys in europe or america set first dates by text, in Russia we usually do this by phone - it's kinda more common and more appreciated by girls. So you usually call her, not text her, when you want to set up your first date. Since you obviously called her to set a date (why else would you), there's nothing wrong with you telling her to call her when she can. There's nothing needy - if she doesn't want she won't call an… | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesThat... didn't help, but thanks for posting anyway. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Please help me break free of this monogamy mindset and start spinning platesYou mean, completely ignore the fact I'm emotionally BLANK about all the other girls, and force myself to date them, talk to them, kino them, kiss them etc.? I just seriously don't know if that will work, because I always acted more on emotion rather than on logic when dating. Sure I knew from reading PUA advice that I have to kino/kiss her on first date etc., but on the date itself I never thought "okay gotta do this, then gotta do that" - I had a general plan where I'm taking her and then it w… | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionThis I internalised easilly. Luckily this is taught all over russian PUA sites so I never really pestered a girl with texts and calls if she didn't reply, but now with TRP I finally understood how it works and it's easy for me to follow this pattern. Called her, didn't pick up - either forget about it and let her call back whenever she wants, or maybe try again in an hour or so and then if she does not pick up again send her a "call me when you can" text and forget about it. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionOkay I will look for advice elsewhere then. I may be wrong but I feel like not giving her at least tiny bit of support when she asks for it is just going to make her angry with you and label you as a jerk (with no heart of gold) and "WTF if he's only with me to have fun but ignores me when I have a smallest problem then fuck him". As I said (in my post on assumed monogamy) it is very common in Russia, at least amongst those I know, for people to "play married game" - they treat dating as an unof… | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 06:12 PM |
| 2 | New Points System for askTRP - TRPBOTI see. Please tell me when they're fixed. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 06:01 PM |
| 2 | New Points System for askTRP - TRPBOTSo what are the requirements for this? A user has posted a very long and helpful comment and I tried to reply with ♂ and nothing happened. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionDon't sweat it, man just pay it forward. No, really, I was. I read all the replies and went like "oh they don't get it, I'm not texting too much to her, my situation is different" and then I studied my other text exchanges with her and just looked at what I'm feeling and how I think and found out that I'm just having this moment of "you discard what doesn't fit your paradigm and pick what fits your paradigm". And that my current "filter" is actually harmful to my progress. Thank you again for a … | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionWell distracting her by intimacy is awesome if you're close. But when you can only communicate via SMS and she directly asks you for emotional support... | /r/askTRP | 01/12/14 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionYes, thank you for a very long response. I have spent a day reflecting on things and this came to me - I am indeed oneitising, I'm commiting to her, I'm texting her long texts for her short texts, I've just told her I'm free for two weeks (I truly am, but at the same time, she doesn't have to know) which means if I approach another girl I can't really schedule a date now since I promised her I'll move my plans for her these two weeks... I was indeed delusional. Thank you for opening my eyes. I a… | /r/askTRP | 30/11/14 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionThank you. No, that definetly didn't sound like preaching, just like a bit uncommon way to say "there's going to be another chance", with no religious subtext whatsoever. Finally, please tell me, if one should not be a support so one doesn't face LJBF, what would be your reaction to her asking you to tell her something nice since her mood is fucked up? What would you reply? | /r/askTRP | 30/11/14 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionSo I should ignore her problems if it is physically impossible to meet up with her (on business days she lives an hour and a half drive away from me, on weekends we can meet up easilly and usually she comes to my location). On basis of that possibly killing attraction? Say, she had a problematic day at her school/job/uni, her parents told her something bad, she's in a totally ruined mood and on top of that, she really wanted to see me and was excited about the plans for the date, but she won't, … | /r/askTRP | 30/11/14 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionI actually was a huge texter before. Had threads of over 100 messages about kissing and caressing and shit with some girls. After my discovery of TRP I try to keep texting to a minimum. As I said, I try not to initiate or support virtual kissing sessions and such. I try to keep longer discussions to IRL ("how did your presentation go"? - "It went fine, thanks" or "Fine, will tell you in detail when we meet"). And I try to always end the exchange when relevant information was transmitted (date is… | /r/askTRP | 30/11/14 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionThis "rules" thing is really hard to grasp. First you read about all the rules. You think "okay I follow rules I get laid right?" Then you read that by following rules you're never going to become a man, because you're never expressing yourself and playing by someone else's rules. That rules are nothing and it's all about who you are as a person. Let's see. The 2/3s rule then. It's not about bit count, is it? It's about effort invested in the relationships. So what if I type REALLY fast and she … | /r/askTRP | 30/11/14 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Text exchange about a cancelled date - would appreciate your opinionYes I'm Russian. I don't know how to translate it better. There's a big Orthodox influence in Russia and we are still influenced by tradition a lot, even atheists use the word "god" all over the place (like thank god, god be willing, for the love of god, etc.). So I don't think I said something cringeworthy here. I also like to express myself in uncommon ways when having fun (with friends or girls). Is that bad? I always thought of myself as "not really conforming to some common rules and gettin… | /r/askTRP | 30/11/14 08:19 AM |
| 1 | After (or during) swallowing the red pill, how did your hobbies/interest change, if at all, to orient you to more of a red pill lifestyle?I started looking at everything I am doing in terms of "does this make me a better person", not "do I want do do it". Computer games became an escape from real life for me, an addiction, and so I've cut them completely. Istead I picked up stuff like playing piano, defense combat training to fill the void. I'm also playing, I'm also fighting, I'm also rising up to challenge, but it actually makes me a better person in the process. I stopped eating foods that are detrimental to me. I loved cracker… | /r/askTRP | 26/11/14 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Good literature?Models: Attract Women Through Honesty is the most important book IMHO before you read anything about attracting women. Start with it. After reading a lot of books, I think I would be much better if I'd start with this one. Art of Empathy is also VERY important book. It blew my mind about how wrong we treat our emotions (like fear, anxiety, depression and sadness). It improved me tremendously and I'm just at the start. I think it is also very important to start with it, because often advice you'l… | /r/askTRP | 25/11/14 08:09 PM |
| 2 | How to go from known Omega to Alpha?Omega usually means you lack both beta and alpha traits. So well, you need to earn both! Having just alpha without beta is actually not that useful. On beta and alpha traits, Married Life Sex Primer is the best book out there. Just keep working. Improve things two-three at a time. Once you started to enjoy lifting introduce something else, once you internalised one concept go for another, and so on. Don't overload yourself, don't expect you'll become best man in a day, stay on target and work on… | /r/askTRP | 25/11/14 07:59 PM |
| 1 | How to Overcome Remnants of Social Anxiety?Learn to enjoy it. You have anxiety, you overcome it, and you feel pleasure, do you not? Every time I overcame anxiety (be that public speaking, or approaching) I felt aweseome. If you are already performing fine (your anxiety is not preventing you from approaching women you want, saying things you want, etc.) then I think just learn to enjoy that you have a challenge in your life. Life would be way more boring without a challenge, trust me. | /r/askTRP | 25/11/14 07:56 PM |
| 1 | FR: Is this how "frame" works?Well yes I did not go about the date constantly scanning myself for "frame". But afterwards I decided it would be a good idea to reflect upon what happened and analyze. It is just that you often have conflicting feelings and not always when you have done something and feel bad about it you have actually done something wrong. Like, I may have a bad feeling after approaching a girl because I have this guilt built into me by upbringing and parenting that it's bad to bother people. But I have to fig… | /r/askTRP | 25/11/14 07:20 AM |
| 2 | FR: Is this how "frame" works?TLDR: Did I break frame is the wrong question. The right question is what do I want. Well what the quack, if a Nice Guy is okay waiting 2.5h for a girl, wants to bring flowers on the first date and never makes a move on her unless she tells him she's ready, ain't you calling that "breaking frame"? Or is he holding his frame, but it's just an unattractive kind frame? It's hard to "ignore" a concept when it's pivotal and everybody refernces it... | /r/askTRP | 24/11/14 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Dangers and logistics of having platesThat was my point exactly about assumed monogamy. I don't want to spoil them. | /r/askTRP | 23/11/14 08:10 AM |
| 1 | Dangers and logistics of having platesVery frequently they actually do. If, however, they do not, and they cheat, they often either break up with you telling you they found someone else, stop seeing you, or start feeling really guilty (they'd ask you if you'd forget an infidelity, or something of such). At least that was my (limited) experience. | /r/askTRP | 22/11/14 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Dangers and logistics of having platesThank you. Some cultural differences do exist, I believe. With the staff, I had staff ask me where's my wife (I was alone though) and shop clerks asking me how's my wife since they didn't see her for some time, and yes, in some places service personel is way more chatty than you'd expect. But I guess I'm indeed worrying too much here. About busy: I think I may have been mistaking busy with business-oriented, right? I can look perfectly busy just because I have many hobbies and interesting stuff … | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Dangers and logistics of having platesI know, I know. I understand I can always tell her "you never asked". I just get a vibe that american culture is way more tolerant to one night stands and freelove relationships. You don't even have this term probably, "freelove" - every relationship is freelove by default for you. Russia is way more influenced by traiditonal way of living, Orthodox Christianity and such. So people are way more strict about monogamy and generally assume it by default. So trust me, it's a different level of "brea… | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Handling negative emotions from womenI'm already moving out in several weeks (and she's helping me do it by finishing repair and other work since her work is not full day but my work is). Everything is settled. My question was not about "evaluate my relationships with mother/ex-wife" but "how could I have handled these emotional outbursts better". I don't need to win those arguments, I need to better handle emotional situations. And as I said, I'm feeling quite free now, after I told her it's over. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Handling negative emotions from womenTrust me, I will not. My situation is special. And if you're going to say/think "no it's not u're delusional/stupid/naive", just PM me and I'll share the full story why. Don't think it's appropriate to post it here for everybody. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 03:04 PM |
| 7 | Nice guy vs Alpha in other countriesRussia here. There are different girls and they need different approaches. We have our supply of innocent cute girls who get along well with a nice guy if he doesn't really exhibit the worst beta traits (insecurity, worrying, putting her on pedestal) and isn't the worst example of a nice guy. But the relationship often gets boring or dramatic and ends (sometimes after nice guy had some sex). Girls that "know their value" will of course not fall for them at all. You should understand "nice guy" i… | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 01:05 PM |
| 1 | How to correctly percieve yourself as imprefect and lacking certain qualities?Thank you. I think I get it what you're saying now. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 09:58 AM |
| 1 | How to correctly percieve yourself as imprefect and lacking certain qualities?I am using Holosync every day. I cannot tell if that's what helping me, but I am starting to grasp things quicker than before, really. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/14 06:33 AM |
| 1 | How to correctly percieve yourself as imprefect and lacking certain qualities?While I will not do it, I compliment your open-minded approach. We humans often ban "dangerous" things while they are just tools to be used appropriately. | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 10:36 PM |
| 1 | How to correctly percieve yourself as imprefect and lacking certain qualities?Thank you for detailed answer. Yes you do not need to detail everything, I get your point. It seems my problem is indeed not being able to distinguish "controlling my life" vs "being self-conscious" vs "being self-aware". I consider caring about the outcome of the date, caring about eliminating bad habbits and behavior, and thus controlling my every move on a date as "controlling my life", which is good, but instead I am being "self-conscious", which is bad. Likewise, I don't see the line where … | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Handling negative emotions from womenOkay. I get the first step: do not allow emotions to influence me. What follows is not obvious. Imagine this situation (situation from about 2 years ago): my wife is crying, like seriously crying. I confronted her on the phone about getting drunk at her friends's house and trying to lie to me about not being able to come home due to bridges being raised (in my city at summer during night you can't really get from one half to another due to bridges being raised, it's true, but she called way earl… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 06:14 PM |
| 1 | How to correctly percieve yourself as imprefect and lacking certain qualities?So what you're saying is that there's nothing wrong with me per say, I just need to act differently. And instead of that I think something is wrong with me and I need to change myself. Is that the difference I was not getting? But are my habbits not part of me? How do you define "you are reacting" and "you don't have control of your life"? I don't understand. I think I do have control of my life - I do what I choose to to. If I am self-conscious that is by my own choice. I can let myself go, but… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 03:05 PM |
| 1 | How to correctly percieve yourself as imprefect and lacking certain qualities?If by escalating you mean increasing weights - yes, I'm doing it. If I can do 5x5 without fail I increase the weight. I am feeling better now that I can finally pull myself up a couple of times. Style - yes, I've done a photosession of all my clothes and planned to upload it to fashion advice forums but my HDD went down. I am in process of recovering it. I didn't mention it since I think I'm dressing quite fine (even if I have ways to improve it's not as terrible as other points) I'm on Renegade… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?But ain't it covert contract by definition? "I will do X for you, you will do Y for me, and we both act as if this contract does not exist?" | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?Since you're not the first one to point out I'm learning in a wrong way, I made this post, maybe you could answer there http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2mri1d/how_to_correctly_percieve_yourself_as_imprefect/ | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Handling negative emotions from womenYes, bad stuff. However, isn't it good practice too? I mean, regardless of bad or not, I could have behaved better than I did? On wife: Lawyers are not required. She's not going to pull any shit on me and I won't either. We have everything agreed upon and she's getting quite a good deal by our country standarts so she's not complaining. And we do intend to part as friends (but maybe that won't work, I see it now, and I'm not invested in the idea). She's not sucking anything, at least I don't see… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?You're absolutely right. Abundance mentality. Forgot again about it. I'm ONEITIS'ing again... Damn, it's so hard to get this out of your system... | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 10:19 AM |
| 2 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?Thanks. I get most of what you say and it is helpful. But I still don't get this "like me" thing. Am I really doing it the wrong way? How I see it: 1) I have my good and bad sides in dealing with women. And I know them. I'm handsome, successful, had interesting life experiences I can share, I am creative etc. I appreciate my good sides. 2) What I lack is certain traits that would make me naturally behave like a person I strive to be. Say, I want to naturally pass shit tests, but often fall back … | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?I didn't invite her for dinner. It's just that we're going to be spending several hours during the day and obviously get hungry in the process, and obviously topic of eating together will come up. Luckilly, I never had this mentality "I'll take her for dinner and she'll fuck me", even though I was deep in Nice Guy Syndrome and used covert contracts everywhere. | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?That exact line won't work for several reasons (irrelevant) but I get your point. Like SkorchZang suggested too, I can playfully tell her she "owns me" something in return. | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?No fucking way bro, don't bring up her "financial situation" in any way. Got it, two people commented on that, my idea was wrong. Thanks! you: Waiter! Cheque please. That'll be together, one bill. Heh, in Russia they always assume it's one bill... separate bill for a girl/boy couple is something that makes their eyes stick out :) SO, still smiling, you say to her: "Don't worry, I got it this time. And if you really want to make it up to me... I love home cooked meals, so maybe you could treat me… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Disclosing your age if she's younger?I'm still grasping this concept of "frame". So please tell me, if I got this right: I should project a feel self-assurance (I know myself, I know my good and bad sides, and I'm fine with both) and a feel of indifference (I'm not moved by what you think of me, what people think of me, what society thinks of me). From that point, I should take all my actions, and judge bad actions from good ones by looking at how they portray me - do they "uphold" my frame or "break" it. Correct? | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?why are you making up problems? here in the east you pay period. You ask her out to where you hang out and she is your date. There isn't a equality paradigm. You are toghether, you're not 2 different entities, that is western bullshit you don't even have to agnoledge. "Not 2 different entities but together" is exactly how I felt with women all along! I was never the guy that bought flowers to the first date, but I was the kind that would share whatever he had if he could. However, after learning… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?I can't take her to my place yet. I'd love to and I'm in actually learning to cook now (and progressing nicely). But I can't. I'm still in process of moving. My current place is a mess. Plus, not every girl's going to your place at first date whatever excuse you make up (you know, affraid of rapists and so on). Yeah... as I said, very unlikely. I will, of course, but just trust me on this, when place is cheap in Russia, usually they pay crap to both waiters and cooks, and both service and food i… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Proper way to pay for a girl at the first date?No, not big, but after lunch time passes... you usually want to have lunch. Well, I won't since I'm on the Renegade Diet (typically eat one/two big meals in the evening and nothing through the day). But she will and that's pretty normal. | /r/askTRP | 19/11/14 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Disclosing your age if she's younger?Hmm... I kinda like this actually. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Disclosing your age if she's younger?By this formula I hit almost perfectly, LOL! | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Texting..what do you guys think?Actually this will work if you're overall confident with her and she obviously wants you. | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Woman at work split with husband, insane sexual chemistry, asking for trouble?Well said. | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Having a hard time grasping abundance mentalityIMHO Abundance mentality, Self-confidence, and everything of sorts comes from only one source: succeeding. When a person has inferiority complex or is insecure about himself, you can talk all day how he can use autotrainings, brainfuck himself and w/e, but in the end, he will only get over it when he succeeds several times. You cannot really fool yourself. What you can do is change your perspective and paradigm. If you consider yourself a loser (virgin or w/e) then you start ignoring your succes… | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 02:17 PM |
| 2 | What to text LTR?I'm still in the learning process of this because I texted a LOT back in my bluepill days. The way I think it works is this: She feels lonely. She's thinking about you. She wants to feel you close. She texts you to "get" you. You have two options here: you either give her what she wants, or you do not. Bluepill way is to always give a woman what she wants. Redpill way is to do what will be more benefitial to your relationship. If you will not be able to see her for a while, and you feel she's re… | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 10:25 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys think about this shit test response?Are you sure it's a shit test though? She may genuinely think you're not going to get along and want to gently tell you off, or she may really have a boyfriend she's satisfied with and busy otherwise so she doesn't want to hang out with you. I think if it IS a shit test this can be something to TRY. Yes, you try it, and you tell us how it went so we can analyze. Theoretically it can work, practice will tell you if it actually will. I also think if it is not a shit test then you'll be awkward. Sh… | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 10:15 AM |
| 4 | Getting a 3 way with your SO and another female... Impossible?Read Sex God Method. Threesome Fantasy. Author explains how you gradually introduce it as a fantasy and if she picks it up she'll be ready to actually try it IRL. He also explains how to do it so you don't hurt your girlfriend. PS: I would not want a threesome, personally. Why? We're created to be sexually satisfied by an intercourse with one partner. If you're not satisfied with her, and need someone else to have satisfying sex (or even feel an urge to cheat), then either you're not trying enou… | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 10:09 AM |
| 1 | Disclosing your age if she's younger?I'm not worried about my age, so to say. Instead, I might be attaching too much value to this particular girl. That's kinda justified, well, since she's my first after a long time of slumber that is sexless unsatisfying marriage to an older woman that I haven't really chosen, but just got emotionally attached to, because I was stupid and had to "fill the void inside me". She's also the first girl that I have approached on the street EVER, the one I finally overcame approach anxiety with. You can… | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Disclosing your age if she's younger?Fuck me, I'm ONEITISing here, aren't I? You got me.... Anyways, assuming you'd want to make the most out of it, and assuming (regardless of abundance mentality) you're into this girl, what would you do? Just answer straight truth when she asks? | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 06:46 AM |
| 1 | Disclosing your age if she's younger?Could you elaborate on "control how she reacts" please? Also, will this push-pull-teasing work on an innocent romantic kind of personality? Won't she be put off by it? I'm getting this feeling she just wants cuddling and romantic strolls and kiss by the moonlight and that kind of thing... am I wrong? | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Catch 22Oh wow, my first "point". Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 18/11/14 06:39 AM |
| 4 | Catch 22I'm glad I was able to get my point across. It's awesome, being able to finally viewthe world as it is, but you have to endure some hardships to get there (you should read http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1x0gln/the_five_stages_of_red_pill_and_how_to_read_rtrp/). I wish you best. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Staying alpha when arguing with wifeRead the book: Ironwood collection of Alpha moves. Author explains this perfectly. Women LOVE when you have a mission, a purpose, a goal, and stop at nothing when you achieve it. Never apologise to your woman about doing your job because she will resent you if you do it, and respect you if you do not (of course, if you promised to drop your job to help her, or if she's in grave danger, this rule is breakable). She will notice you started taking your work seriously and LOVE you for it. As on work… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 09:39 PM |
| 8 | Catch 22Please, listen to me mate. Don't get insulted, I'm not trying to shoehorn you into some way of living that's foreign to you, I'm not trying to ridicule you. Just listen, please. You say you acknowledge that romance does not work the way society wants us to believe. That is good. However, you for some reason still crave it and seem appaled by the fact you can't get it. It's time to grow up, mate! Yes, the world is not like you want it to be and you can't change it. And it's for the best, trust me… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Younger TRP user needing helpSo having no sex before 15 is considered negative nowadays? Where's the world headed.... On topic: Forget about "male virginity" as it does not exist. You are not a virgin, nor can you ever be. Don't fuss about "losing" it. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 03:04 PM |
| 2 | What if I want to respect the girl?OMG. Does she respect you when she behaves in a kinky way, teasing you, seducing you? Would you want if she's just be passive and let you fuck her while she hardly moves a limb? Gaming is FUN for HER. It's for your mutual pleasure: you enjoy being dominant and powerful, and it's for her pleasure: she enjoys feeling your power and dominance. If you just remain passively there, it's way less fun! Your partnership is in providing pleasures for each other. Ain't that a great partnership? Just do not… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Asking for an apology?Abundance mentality. You should not care wether or not she apologises. She should care about apologising lest she loses you. You can only ask for apology from a position of power. To get an ego stroke, work on yourself, become a better person, and then show her how you changed (don't ask for apology just spend some time with her). If you really have changed she will really notice it. Finally, maybe a bit cocky for me to say that, but what she said to you was either true or was said to help you p… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Cheating ex sent an emailYes you are right. You will not be able to convey it over email. And IMHO you should not convey you improved financially at all,lest she'll start chasing you for your money. I think it's a good idea to not respond to her at all (you can always say you missed it as emails are so full of spam and junk right now). You contact her when you need it, and if you want to have fun, seduce her with the New-U. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Should gamma males filter trp's advice?He has a point man. Since I've started evaluating myself and working on myself I've found I'm SO FUCKED UP that I'd love to spend some time in friendzone now. If I'd be able to spend at least hour a day in a comany of a woman of my age (or younger) I'd love to have this opportunity to practice my social skills. I can't since I don't have female friends so I'll have to approach women to get their numbers to date them to most likely get friendzoned which will hurt my self-esteem because I will be … | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 02:47 PM |
| 13 | Catch 22It's not manipulation. I was like you once OP. I thought: it's manipulation, I have to censor feelings, I have to roleplay, I have to trick her etc. to get into her pants. I was disgusted and so I tried to revert to beta self after getting sex and that ruined my relationships. It's actually not that bad at all. When you say "I love you" to a woman and do not hold back your feelings, the problem really is that you are not a good man. That's a harsh truth. But it is so! You lack abundance mentalit… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Trying to hard next a girl without a legitimate reason.Best "ecological" way is to slowly see her less often and be more busy and non-emotional with her. Don't deny her your time or sex (that can only make her chase you more) but rather become more boring and uninteresting. This way she'll gradually get disenchanted with you and maybe she'll leave you herself. But it will take effort and time (I'm personally the kind of person who has never been able to do something like that). Direct discussion with thanking her for everything is easier for you, bu… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 09:48 AM |
| 5 | Swallowing the Red Pill: What are everyday changes I can make to adapt my lifestyle to the philosophy of The Red Pill?Analyze what you spend your time on. Put everything on paper. And then remove everything that does not bring you closer to your goals. Everything. Cut it out. Shed the unnesecary pleasures. Learn to receive pleasure from achieving real goals. I was a lifelong computer gamer. I stopped playing games completely. At first (week or so) it was easy since I was like "oh look at all the free time!" and then I was hit with depression. Pleasure was gone from my lifem because, well, computer games provide… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Filling a monk mode schedule?If you don't like gym, like me, practice at home. I have nothing against gyms per say, just that it will waste way more time and I'm pressed on time during business days. I bought dumbbells and practice basically the same thing as in Stronglifts 5x5, but with dumbbells. Yes, eventually the amount of weight I can put on dumbbells will run out, but the one I bought allows for up to 52,3 kg per dumbbell, which will get you pretty far. When I start easilly deadlifting that I'm planning on buying a b… | /r/askTRP | 17/11/14 09:39 AM |
| 2 | Thinking about shaving my head and going into monk modePersonal: I didn't shave my head (I have very long hair, up to elbows). Looks like girls like it. TRP: Hairstyle is irrelevant as long as it suits your style. | /r/askTRP | 16/11/14 02:52 PM |
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