Bored with sex

Tousen71 · 2021-01-25T03:47:43+00:00

In the same boat.

What I’m trying is to completely eliminate masturbation from my life, take supplements to improve testosterone and sex drive, and avoid looking at porn or entertaining any other girls.

From my own introspection, the more I think about other women, the less interested I am in my girl. It just becomes too familiar. So I’m trying to get my mind to a place of absolutism where I’m only focusing on my girl as a sexual object/outlet for sex & pleasure.

I’ll let you know if it works.

reddit_hypnosis · 2021-01-25T03:46:40+00:00

Welcome to human nature. The only thing that potentially makes up for the novelty wearing down is the bond building up. Either add novelty (new partner), or add bonding (shared experiences and goals).

Fucking the same hooker for 30 days straight would be boring as hell. You'd just pick a new one after the second time max.

Fucking the same woman you've known for a year as you two backpack through south east asia can still be exciting every night of the trip as you manage to find a cheap homestay to stay in.

RPMahoutsukai · 2021-01-25T10:36:24+00:00

It is just natural, unfortunately. Its in your instincts. Biological programming. Thats why they call males polygamous b nature. Most are this way.

You can build on top of it, control and reroute this desire, but you will have to make effort, practice self discipline, and you will feel like you are depriving yourself of something...

Thats how biological urges work. Its the same with binging on high calorie food, or drugs, etc. It is also very individual. I, personally, have no desire to cheat on my ltr, neither do i get bored fucking her, I also have no addiction for nicotine, like, at al, yet I have issues with high calorie food. For you, obviously, natural urge to fuck multiple women is strong. Those who don't have it, like me, won't be able to really understand what you feel, only by proxy of having a similar biological urge or desire.

So recognize this and decide what is it you want. There are many benefits to a commited LTR with deep trust and one where you limit your sexual acts to just the two of you. For you personally, it might be not worth it, but if you feel it is - go for it. We are more than just biology, really, we are humans, we are above animals.

But if you want to follow your urge and fuck other women - just decide how to go about it so you don't regret it. I personally would advise integrity as being paramount here. I think regardless of what you do, being honest and not lying is the key. If she expects your fidelity she has to know you cannot give it to her. So its her choice to share you or leavw you. So you are not cheating and not lying.

PS: Nothing you do, sexually, is going to make you less bored. Your biological programming wants you to switch to the next female. Its either do it or control and subdue it. I mean, sexual variety can be very enjoyable, but it is not the issue here and is not going to solve your problem.

Future_Fisherman · 2021-01-25T06:28:50+00:00

pretty normal tbh.

quit the porn like u/Tousen71 said, it can make your gf less desirable if her body isn't ideal like some of the girls in porn.

i suggest exploring sex a little with her. try bdsm stuff, tie her up, dress up, role play -- that sort of thing. lots of subreddits to explore here too.

Optionsmfd · 2021-01-25T09:46:57+00:00

once u move in with the woman

the 3 month 6 month max clock starts........ yall will just b roommates with sex slowing going downhill

at some point things will end...... then ull have to deal with the breakup

then learn and just spin plates

l2oland · 2021-01-25T11:00:43+00:00

It's like when you eat steak everyday.
Normally steak is great; however, when you eat it EVERYDAY it begins to lose the value it once had.

It's still great, you're just accustomed to it. Focus on other things, and if you do decide to sleep with someone else, at the very least break up with your current bitch.

I've cheated before and I've also been cheated on. Neither feel good, best just to end it before you fuck someone new.

PatternEast7185 · 2021-01-25T05:35:47+00:00

if u don't love her as a person.. if u don't feel that ur relationship with her is special somehow.. then ya of course you'll eventually get bored of the sex some strange

TeddyMGTOW · 2021-01-25T13:18:35+00:00

Get a side piece.

HungryBleeno · 2021-01-25T06:59:05+00:00

just keep escalating the kink, you should be a little scared

kclanton80 · 2021-01-25T17:22:10+00:00

It's just called being a man. You will ALWAYS desire other women. Maybe see if she is interested in other women as well.....

FightForYourWay · 2021-01-25T03:46:14+00:00

This is why you don’t rush into a LTR. Time to start talking about 3-somes.

paizk · 2021-01-25T14:20:40+00:00

It's as inevitable as girls testing your frame. Just smash a rando every once in a while bro. I haven't figured out another way either.

adam-l · 2021-01-25T11:19:15+00:00

The old Coolidge Effect...

You keep the sex interesting in a LTR by getting a side chick.

SublimePimp · 2021-01-25T09:42:02+00:00

Go fuck other girls lmao

Title	Bored with sex
Author	fightmichael
Upvotes	21
Comments	33
Date	January 25, 2021 3:37 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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