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13

Then go do it somewhere else, fucknuts
/r/ExRedPill10/12/22 01:31 PM
18

You are in the wrong subreddit dude. Because it presents as the latter and brainwashes as the former.
/r/ExRedPill10/12/22 01:27 PM
2

Sounds like you just wanted to rant about the left and fit all of humanity into one of two preordained boxes. This is perhaps not quite the liberated screed you’re envisioning. Good luck on you personal journey. Keep going. :)
/r/ExRedPill04/10/22 04:21 PM
2

Already have, several times. Been wonderful experiences each time.
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 06:24 PM
4

Screw the studies, I’m living my life with this person. We have both had a lot of life experience at this point. We know ourselves now and we know each other. We are human beings, not statistics.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 03:25 PM
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My fiancée and I both have had a lot of partners in the past. It doesn’t matter because it’s in the past. It was what we wanted then. It’s not what we want now.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 06:57 AM
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It’s a great book. I also highly recommend The Body Keeps The Score. Have gifted around a dozen copies of each.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/22 01:47 AM
3

Yeah, was gonna say, this is like Hogwarts houses.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 03:16 PM
2

Extremely sure. I'm engaged, and my fiancee legit asks me to show her the latest in CG human muscle skinning, or tell her some historical bit of trivia before bed, or share whatever I'm writing after I end a chapter. In turn, she excitedly tells me about golf, or stocks, or firearms. Hell, I went shooting for the first time with her this weekend. Our Venn Diagram of interest overlaps is basically non-existent, but I love seeing her excited about stuff and learning from her passion, and vice vers…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 09:34 PM
13

Then you’ve figured out early that you two wouldn’t be compatible! That’s good, saves you time.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 05:46 PM
17

Yeah, virtually every woman I’ve ever dated has loved it when they see me get passionate about some interest (nerd out).
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 05:11 PM
4

This. Been on both sides of this. Had feels for my best friend from high school, she said no, we're still friends and I'm godfather to her kid. My best friend from college caught feels for me, I said no, we worked it out and are still besties. Probably half my friends are women that I've been interested or involved with at some point, and we worked it out. It's quite doable, you just have to know yourself.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 09:44 PM
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Fine? Honestly, both she and I would argue that in these instances they were primarily motivated by their dicks and layered on a sense of investment to mask that to themselves, but whatevs. Don't care to argue it. Fwiw, almost all of my friends are women and they experience the same thing all the time.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 09:05 PM
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Nah -- at least in the instances she told me about, it was a situation where the dude would project what they wanted to see on her, and did not actually see her. They may have thought they were in love, but they were only going after some sort of made-up image of her.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 08:59 PM
9

Hit on her. Not listen when she said she wasn't interested, or when she tried to set up boundaries. Make grand professions of love when they were feeling lonely or in a dry spell. Continually make comments about how she could get with them, or that she should break up with whoever she was seeing at the time to be with them. Cancel hangouts when they find out her partner would be there. Just fucks with your head, the idea that you can't trust that anyone would actually be your friend and isn't ju…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 08:44 PM
1

Who, her now-ex-friend?
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 08:39 PM
9

All the time. My fiancée has lost basically all of her male friends this way. Lost one of twelve years literally just yesterday because of it. Spent a lot of the evening talking about it. She was alternately sad and angry.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 08:25 PM
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Who defines what “men” act like, hm? Because I can tell you it’s wildly different between, say, Taiwan and the US and Egypt and Mali. You are assuming a worldview that doesn’t apply for a large number of people — and when you find one for whom it doesn’t apply, as you did immediately in this thread, you attack them for being wrong because they don’t fit the made-up definition you came up with for them! When all they’re trying to do is exist!
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 09:32 PM
5

People you’d know about if you were educated?
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 09:27 PM
9

That is not the slam dunk comeback you think it is. It’s wild folly to think of every man and every woman in the entire world as governed by the same unimpeachable biological laws. A single hour walking around any city would provide ample evidence to the contrary. Stop living in your little theoretical bubble and go outside your house.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 09:19 PM
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Boudicca. Rani Lakshmibai. Funmilayo Ransome Kuti. Ida B Wells. Janequeo. Fu Hao. Tirgatao. Mandukhai Khatun. Get your ignorant biological essentialist head out of your rear and go experience the world.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 09:18 PM
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Hard agree. MensLib is the best one I’ve found on this site.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 02:51 PM
3

I have. Multiple times. Pound sand with this reductionist nonsense. There is more to humanity than your extremely narrow view of it that somehow ignores the incredible numbers of people in the world who don’t fit your definitions of what a perfect man or perfect woman should be.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/22 01:02 AM
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Seriously dude what is wrong with you. Not only is this absolutely the wrong forum for this, but it’s wildly incorrect and a recipe for misery. I hope you meet some people outside of whatever bioessentialist bubble you’re living in, and that they’re very patient with you.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/22 01:00 AM
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Nothing works perfectly with every single person in the world. Figure out who you want to be with (and who you are) and adjust your approach accordingly.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/22 10:52 PM
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My god, you’re a child. Okay. Here. You are having information mediated and streamlined for you by people whose entire livelihood is dependent on you buying into what they are saying. If they are the primary researcher and citing their own peer reviewed study at a conference, and it gets uploaded to YouTube, that’s one thing. Cite away. That’s not what this is. If these videos are using actual sources, go and read them for yourself — and learn how to think critically to poke holes in their resea…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 09:18 PM
1

And like, I say this as someone who spent years in academic libraries hunting down obscure knowledge from hard to understand thesis papers — if someone is giving you an easy to digest, well edited, slick version of the “facts,” they’re selling you something.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 05:52 PM
1

Excuse me what? You are citing YOUTUBE? Go read a book.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 05:45 PM
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What is your professional / schooling background? Because all of this reeks of “I did my own research”
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 10:43 AM
5

Yeah. OP, guessing you’re in the wrong subreddit.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 04:12 AM
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Because if a woman's too forward, she's labeled a slut. If she's too closed off, she's labeled a prude. See: Madonna/whore complex. Tossed in the note about expensive because dieting/makeup/eyebrows/salons/nails/hair/clothes/etc gets to be hideously expensive.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/22 07:34 PM
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I mean besides going on restrictive diets, doing makeup, plucking eyebrows, going to tanning salons, having nails / hair done, shopping for the perfect outfits, employing a thousand subtle (and often expensive) tricks that most guys don’t pick up on, and many more things I don’t have time to write — yeah, girls who date men just sit back, have zero pressure on them, and let the world come to them.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/22 04:43 PM
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Everyone has their own preferences. Most women I know, especially as they get older, seek out men that put them at ease. That's rarely a muscle-bound person. In fact, in most of the polyamorous/sex-positive circles I've been to, and the play [read: sex] parties I've attended, the majority of the men are of average (or less than average) height, fitness, and size. It's much more about their attitude and comfort. It's not always the case, but it's increasingly so, especially as years go on.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/22 08:54 PM
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Yeah, this clearly seems like a not-serious video...? I'm a little surprised so many folk here seem to be taking it seriously.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/22 05:23 PM
15

What's wrong with dating feminists? My favorite ex-partners and friends are feminists.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 02:46 AM
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Just turned forty. Anyone under thirty or so seems like a child. I can intellectually realize someone younger is attractive, but... I dunno. I even contemplate dating someone like that and it seems exhausting, and gross. Dating someone a year or two older than me and happiest I've ever been.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 11:16 PM
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I'm putting the blame on you for seeming to only associate with women who have serious issues. But given your other replies, I question as to whether these women even have serious issues, or if you're just assuming it of them.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 02:41 AM
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Have you ever talked to any of these women? I can personally name around a hundred women I know who don’t fit those behaviors.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 02:39 AM
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None of those traits are in any way dark triad traits though? Some of my favorite people are tattooed lefty female potheads whom I met at parties.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 02:35 AM
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I’m (legitimately, no sarcasm, sincerely) sorry that you’ve somehow seemingly only run into people with serious issues, but: If you admit not all women have major issues; All the women you claim to have encountered seem to have major issues; Perhaps you are the common denominator?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 02:34 AM
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I just turned forty. I'm dating a twice-divorced 42-year-old. It's far and away the best relationship of my life. It really feels like everything I've done, all the prior relationships and mistakes we've both made, it's all led to this. We met at the right time. Any time before, and we would never have worked. Prior to this relationship, and even at the start of it, I was dating plenty. My thirties were absolutely the best decade of my life, and I definitely had the most partners.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/22 07:23 PM
3

+100. I have gifted at least twenty copies of this book to people.
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 08:03 PM
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Okay. I’m gonna try and write something to try and get at your mom’s point of view. I probably will be way off. Obviously I don’t know you, your mom, your dad, almost anything of your situation — so I’m gonna be making a lot of guesses and inferences. Please don’t let the bits that ring false be an excuse for dismissing those that ring true. I know writing this is weird, but I couldn’t quite shake how sad I felt reading your anger towards your mom, and wondering how it made her feel. I’m a write…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:33 PM
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So I'll answer, but first -- I dunno if you realize, but your tone is super combative. This may be a function of age (I'm guessing you're young?), but do you want to have an answer/discussion or do you want to be right/argue? You come off quite often as the latter. Internalized misogyny is the answer. I think FDS (which many see as a female equivalent to redpill, which I view as a fair comparison) terms it "pickmeisha"-- someone who whittles themselves down in order to be the "cool girl," who is…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 05:51 PM
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Your frustration is understandable. I'm sorry for everything you've gone through. I agree with happy_petite_spartan's comments about branching out your support network -- it sounds like your mom is not providing the type of care you need, and that it'd really help. But even after reading your last paragraph, I'm not sure I get your one-sided anger. Why, in your mind, does your dad's responsibility stop at what's legal, whereas your wrath regarding your mom's responsibility seems to be moral? She…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:52 AM
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I've got a pretty high body count -- far higher than my teen self would ever have been comfortable with -- and I'm a career feminist who treats women well and makes the relationship about what's best for us both. I stay friends with virtually everyone I've ever dated, and been to many of their weddings. I'm still good friends with the woman to whom I love my virginity, and her husband. What this boils down to is that I'm part of a sex positive community. When getting involved with someone, I tal…
/r/ExRedPill24/01/22 06:45 PM
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Redpill doesn't have a monopoly on teaching self care, although it seems to be the way a lot of guys are being introduced to it. Honestly, what you're practicing sounds more like general sex positivity and non-monogamy, which is wholly separate from redpill. Which, hey! Kudos, good communication and healthy boundary-setting are both rare and wonderful skills to have.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/22 08:56 AM
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Yeah, same thing (well, I'm the guy in this scenario, and we're not married yet - but on that track). Per OP's question, I'm (almost) 40, she's 41.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 08:56 PM
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I mean, I'm twenty years on from RP-like beliefs and I'm a much better, more integrated, healthier person. Life is long. You can change.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/22 06:56 AM
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Blocking/muting her is also boundary-setting. :)
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 05:00 PM
3

Sounds like she’s lonely, misses you, and doesn’t know what she wants. You want exclusivity, she doesn’t. Nothing more nefarious, no big extrapolation to be gained, just a young person confused and reaching out. Given how you write about her and about what you want, sounds like it’s best to set boundaries with her and avoid entanglements.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 04:42 PM
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Was with you until the bit categorizing everyone into winners and losers. OP, I know it's hard, but seriously, just focus on you and what you like doing -- don't define yourself by your relationships. The rest of life falls into place once you have a solid sense of self and a fire for who you are and what you do.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/21 03:25 AM
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Yeah, was picking up on that. Hope you get better, OP. I'm sorry you have that floating around in your head. It's gotta be horrible, and hurting your relationships with others and yourself.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/21 05:39 AM
6

This guy looks fine. Why are you hating on him?
/r/ExRedPill27/12/21 04:53 AM
3

I'd be curious to see it when you're done -- I hope you'll post about it here!
/r/ExRedPill26/12/21 09:34 PM
3

Curious, why have you talked to so many? Are you conducting a survey or writing a book or somesuch?
/r/ExRedPill26/12/21 02:49 PM
2

Also, having read your other comments: prepare yourself for the very big possibility that this is a lost cause. Dude has some serious growing to do. You do too, from the sound of it, but it's an amount in line with most people at your stage of life. Your ex, though... oof. Hold hope, but not breath.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/21 05:06 PM
2

I'm sorry this is causing you suffering. CNM is like playing a video game on expert mode. The best book I've found on the subject is Polysecure, by Jessica Fern. But that may not help much if he's so far in the rabbit hole. The best remedy I've found for people spinning up grandiose theories about the world based on faulty assumptions is for them to actually meet more people and have more real-world experiences. Do you know other CNM folk? In normal times, I'd advise meetups, kink circles, looki…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/21 05:02 PM
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Sir, I've slept with a fair number of women. I'm still friends with nearly all of them. Far and away the best relationships I've had have been with people with "high body counts," because they: Learned to not give so much of a shit about what other people think Found out what they actually wanted and who they actually were, instead of whittling themselves to fit someone else's preconceptions of who they are/should be Came to not be so preoccupied with facts and figures around my life, and rather…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 04:55 AM
3

I'm gonna duck out now and spend time with my family for the holidays. Wishing you the best -- honestly.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 04:48 AM
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Ah, you're a biological essentialist. Okay. Well, here: I am sorry for whatever you've gone through that's fed into this preoccupation with infidelity. I've been cheated on before too. It hurts. It sucks. As one human to another, I am genuinely sorry for what you've been through. I may not agree with you, I may get frustrated by what you post, but if there's one point I hope to get across to you, it's that I genuinely sympathize and want your life to be better, whoever you are. My main criticism…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 04:48 AM
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But wouldn't a higher "body count" on men make the relationship fail just as much as on women? Why the singular focus? Comes across to me like a narrative you're really invested in for some reason.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 04:37 AM
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Also: why the emphasis on “her” history? Seems to me “his” history is just as important if one is going to follow your wall of text.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 12:33 AM
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Hi. You may have missed the first two letters of this subreddit’s name. But in case you didn’t: what is your point here?
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 12:32 AM
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If you don’t want to have that sort of connection with someone, then establish boundaries to where you’re comfortable. Don’t give energy if you don’t want to. It’s okay to say, “I think you’re great, but I’d rather reserve this level of intimacy for a partner” and dial back. Otherwise — people clearly like you and feel safe and good around you. I’d take pride in that. Moreover, being exposed to women as friends and as confidants will help you see them better as people, and undo much of the TRP p…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 12:15 AM
5

Exactly. I've seen this referred to as biologic essentialism, or gender essentialism. It's so shallow and reductive and frustrating.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 09:14 PM
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This matches with my experience and observations. EDIT: I'd also say that trying to be attractive to the broadest number of women is not a good long-term strategy. Figuring out who you are and what you want is a key part of coming into yourself as a person.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 05:03 PM
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I'd love to hear more about how you caught that, and how it interacts with your disorders, if you'd be open to sharing. Good on you for working on yourself.
/r/ExRedPill13/12/21 09:09 PM
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Mine does, but he's pretty young and dialed-in.
/r/ExRedPill11/12/21 05:35 PM
1

Thanks for the in-depth reply! I'm a little skeptical because you're clearly a standard-bearer, but I'll take a look at this (and opposing research) when I get a sec. FWIW, I'm not pro-circumcision, but I also think comparing oneself to others -- especially when it comes to something like this -- is a fruitless pursuit that can only lead to misery.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/21 08:41 PM
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Circumcision does not cause lack of sensitivity. Perhaps you just haven't felt safe/connected enough with previous partners in order to really open up? Source(s): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23937309/ Personal experience as a circumcised man
/r/ExRedPill08/12/21 05:13 PM
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This is a common misunderstanding/oversimplification of testosterone's effects. Basically, there's a lot of factors -- testosterone is just one. I recommend reading this interview (or the entire described book): https://barnard.edu/news/break-down-social-myth-testosterone
/r/ExRedPill08/12/21 05:10 PM
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As a point of reference: I actually don't think that essay is particularly helpful; it reinforces 90% of the redpill's biological essentialism, which I think is a major hurdle to getting past its most pernicious myths.
/r/ExRedPill07/12/21 05:00 PM
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I think they just yell the word "cuck" and laugh, which, you know, is shitty, reductive, and dumb.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/21 12:26 AM
5

...who are these women you're texting? How are you finding them? Do their interests coincide with yours?
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 06:47 PM
5

You're optimizing for quantity over quality, and getting poor results because of it. The best relationships I've had have been with people with whom I could have in-depth text conversations and an actual connection. Worst have generally been the ones who put little to no effort into carrying a conversation. If you're not good at texting, then yeah, maybe logistics only is for the best, but it sounds like you'd prefer an actual connection first.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 06:40 PM
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I... wow. Alpha widows aren't a thing. Some people pine over their exes, yeah, but that just means they need to work on themselves and move on. 95% of my friends are women, and I can't think of a single one who's been hung up on an ex for more than a year. That includes people who were married to very successful, attractive men for decades. Anecdotally, I have seen far, far more men who've pined after their exes than women. The tone of what you wrote gives me a lot of pause. In full candor, I fo…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/21 09:10 PM
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Seconding this. Definitely talk your TRP thoughts over with your therapist. It sounds like you have a tendency to spiral out on your fears - therapy and mindfulness can definitely help with those.
/r/ExRedPill19/11/21 03:10 AM
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I’m 39. It’s not a negative mentality, it’s literally me reporting my lived experience. I dated a younger woman or two after a particularly painful breakup. Would absolutely not do so again.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/21 03:15 PM
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Best case scenario, you have an almost-certainly-unfulfilling encounter (or relationship) that will consistently remind you of your lack of common background. Worst case scenario, you get laughed off and called an old man or a creep.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/21 03:42 AM
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This is absolute hogwash. Women over 30 have a sense of presence and self and insight that is unbelievably valuable. And I've found that as I age, I've found older women more and more beautiful. I'm seeing a 41-year-old right now and I wouldn't ever date anyone under 30 ever again.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/21 02:40 AM
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...I'm super unclear about this entire situation. Who are these people - your family? What are their stated reasons for wanting you not to go through with this? Switching countries, leaving your support circles, and changing beliefs are a lot of big changes -- there's many things they could be concerned about. I'm also unclear what feminism has to do with it. It really sounds like it's a common denominator that you're blaming, for some reason? None of what you've said has anything to do with fem…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/21 01:10 AM
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...I am confused where feminism factors into it? Who's stopping you exactly? I'm a diehard feminist and have no problems with Mormons or Mexico or waiting to have sex until you're ready. Hell, there's plenty of feminist Mormons, although the church tends to drive them out: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mormon\_feminism
/r/ExRedPill08/11/21 01:00 AM
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And plus, god's honest truth is that if you just stop spending energy obsessing over status and your relationship with others -- and instead put it into exploring your own interests, building your health, and improving your understanding of yourself, everything else kind of follows. Get content with yourself, and magically you will find you've become someone that other people like to be around. How you explore your interests, build your health, or get to know yourself better, that's your persona…
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 11:36 PM
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Because that's the only advice that's widely applicable. Like, I'm a stranger. I don't know you. How could I possibly give you detailed advice on your life, when I know nothing about it? I mean, think about it: how can any single instruction manual on life possibly apply to every single person on earth? The fact that the redpill boils down the entire variety of the human experience down to "this is the way it is," and insists you look at yourself and everyone else in such calculating terms has a…
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 11:32 PM
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My love life *dramatically* improved after getting away from redpill ideology. Things that helped: - Making friends with women; - Seeing women as actual people; - Realizing that measuring myself like a Sim was wildly unhelpful; - Establishing a sense of self independent from whether I could get dates; - Traveling, meeting people, and getting perspective on life; - Going to therapy. I look at redpilled people who claim to have a lot of sex, and I honestly feel bad for them and their partners, as …
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 08:55 PM
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This.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/21 07:28 PM
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And the fact that you think that is just proof you need wider perspective (which therapy can help with :D).
/r/ExRedPill21/10/21 10:25 PM
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There's an insane variety of people out there, some who like outgoing folk and some who hate them. You are monomaniacally focusing on one narrow band of a vast rainbow. Widen your perspective, get comfortable in yourself, and the confidence and self realization that comes from that will make you plenty attractive to the right kind of person for you. And all of that can be massively accelerated by therapy. If you can go, you should.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/21 02:51 PM
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Then may I recommend you aim for the swinger end of the community, as, from my experience, their tolerance for havoc most closely matches yours. Also, just because you don't care doesn't mean others won't. When you're engaging with people in an intimate way like this, you need to be able to keep their well-being and happiness in mind. For a great chunk of the community, referring to people in judgmental terms or bringing havoc into peoples' lives is not only unwanted, but can get you kicked out …
/r/ExRedPill21/10/21 02:37 PM
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Yeah, fair, that's true. If I had to rephrase OP's intent, I think maybe "women looking for casual sex"? Which is a subsection of the larger sex-positive community* -- many people out there are looking for something primarily sexual in nature, but it may not be casual. *= I'd argue that the phrase "sex positive community" would indicate people looking for sex, as opposed to people with passively sex positive views, by virtue of it being a community organized around that principle. (and I'll be t…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 09:57 PM
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Sex-positive would be better, yeah. "Promiscuous" has centuries of stigma attached to it. Like, by looking for these sorts of folk, you're basically wanting to join their ranks. Would you rather be called promiscuous or sex-positive? If you go on Feeld, you'll see that most people want to be seen as full-fledged, actual humans, for whom enjoying sex is just one aspect of their lives. It's really hard to find spaces where people understand that, where there's a sense of safety and one can open up…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 06:59 PM
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Just by the way you’re talking about sex and women (using the word “promiscuous” is a big red flag) I feel like you probably aren’t ready for it, but - Feeld is probably the best app for it. Outside of that, try kink and non-monogamy events, meetups, and Facebook groups.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 02:23 PM
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Worked on myself, started viewing women as people instead of unknowable objects of desire, and stopped stressing so much about sex. When I finally did have sex, my partner and I were both like, "wait, that was it? We were so worked up over *that*?"
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 03:21 AM
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- Nobody's keeping score. The concept of "catching up" doesn't really make sense in this context? - Sex when you're in your teens and everyone has wildly off-base ideas on what it's actually like? Not that great. Decent likelihood of leaving at least one person with trauma to unpack later on in life. - I'm 39 years old and having the best (and most frequent) sex of my life. Never had sex (barely even kissed a girl) in high school or college. Go at your own pace. Don't believe the people around y…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 02:36 AM
6

Dude, I'm 5'9, not a particularly good looking face, and didn't lose my virginity until 23/24. As time went on and I got more experience with life, the more it became evident that all the stuff I thought I knew and were unchangeable laws of the universe were totally wrong. And I used to think a lot of the same stuff you did. Give it time, willing to bet you'll look back on this in a couple years and laugh. (also circumcised, and don't worry, it feels plenty great)
/r/ExRedPill13/10/21 12:23 AM
8

As someone who's had to explain it to a lot of normal folk (who have a hard time believing anyone takes it that seriously), my two cents is that no, it's not that common.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/21 12:06 AM
-2

Yeah, and like I said, his actions are bullshit and should rightly be shamed. But doing so in terms that shame everyone with an STI is dumb. Like, the girl he gave it to, how would you think she'd feel about hearing you offhandedly insult someone by saying they have an STI? Knowing she has one now, through no fault of her own? That shit's punching down and would make her (and anyone who has an STI and is reading your post) feel like shit.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 07:47 PM
-7

I'm all for calling out the dude's shit behavior in not properly informing his partners, but stigmatizing sex workers or people with STIs when doing so ("STD-carrying whore-of-a-man") is unnecessary.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 07:28 PM
1

Unsure what you mean by 80/20 pill? I don't know what that is, and it didn't seem to be in the original post.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 07:26 PM
3

Yeah, this. The dude in the post may not have acted as smartly as he could, but stigmatizing STIs (or sex in general) isn’t a good reaction.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 02:53 PM
1

I'll preface this by saying it doesn't really matter what I think, as I'm a random internet stranger, but -- your entire line of thinking in this thread has been nothing but unhealthy. Someone being attractive or not isn't an ironclad variable, and I'm surprised you're treating it as such. The entire idea of finding someone physically attractive or not is a wildly variable thing from beholder to beholder. One of the most conventionally attractive women I've ever met -- she had an online fanclub …
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 12:47 AM
5

Looking beyond statistics: do you know any single mothers? Do you know their stories? It might be helpful to meet some and learn what their lives are like before forming opinions purely from studies, which will never show the full picture. From my perspective, it's mostly that breakups are easier than ever, because couples are not as socially/financially co-dependent. Casual sex has surprisingly little bearing on it. From my experience, people who want to have casual sex are pretty stringent abo…
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 12:26 AM
1

Dude just leave.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 12:22 AM
1

...so? Everyone has imperfect parents. Mine certainly didn't have their shit together when they had me. I don't blame em for it. Expecting people to achieve some sort of enlightened nirvana-like state before having children is unrealistic and, to my mind, overly critical. Parents are people like anyone else. They're not gonna be ideal or do everything right. Spending thought and energy on anger towards your parents is counter-productive and leads to nothing good.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/21 12:20 AM
5

Respectfully, I don't think that's a healthy way to look at the world. You cannot control the situation you were born into, any more than you can the gravitational constant or the flow of time. Learning to accept and let go and control/improve the things you do have control over -- i.e. yourself -- leads to a much happier and better-balanced existence. Spending focus and energy on resentment and hate doesn't create or better anything.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 04:14 PM
3

Legit cannot tell if this is meant as a serious reply, but a) emphasizing logic to the exclusion of other parts of the human experience is not a good way to live life; b) blaming your parents for having you is REALLY not a good way to live life.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/21 03:53 PM
2

Sure, although I'm old as hell (39) and was redpilled (and un-redpilled) before the term existed, so I'm not really super up on the terminology or commandments or any of that - but I recognize and remember the mindset.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/21 08:10 PM
6

Dated a 26yo when I was 36, and it was a nightmare. I can't imagine dating someone who wasn't at least in their 30s at this point.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/21 01:07 AM
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