The hardest part about not having sex when everyone else starts to have it (middle school, high school, college) is that you’ll be playing catch up for the rest of your life. Because you weren’t included in all the sex you don’t know exactly how much you missed out on. I remember in college someone wrote on a white board in the dorm hallway: “what is the strangest place you’ve had sex?” Everyone I knew on the hall had written an answer. Some had sex outdoors or in a car or borderline in public while I had never even seen a girl naked in person. So now even if I have more sex in my adult life than those people I’ll still feel behind and I’ll never be held to the same level of respect and inclusion as those who had sex at an age where everyone has the best sex of their lives.