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random_question4123/r/seduction28/07/19 11:43 PM
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just digging a deeper hole here by bringing to light the tactic that everybody already recognizes. If she calls you out on something and you want to be playful, overexaggerate instead of literally saying the truth
/r/seduction24/07/26 04:35 PM
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bruh what is this
/r/seduction24/07/26 04:33 PM
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The whole thing is pretty cringe ngl but not a big deal. First off, no need for cheesy lines "I want to know if the rumor is true...I heard you do good choices", what does this even mean? What rumor? And who's saying this? And "hypothetically speaking", are you asking her out or not? These are the kind of lines that you read back a year later and cringe at. Just be straight forward, no need for random pick up lines. In addition, you're definitely better off trying to secure the date when you see…
/r/seduction24/07/26 04:32 PM
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Definitely a mix of both. I'm a black guy and I date all races but I've only gotten this request from other black women. I personally find it strange how some women are so willing to potentially put themselves in danger by sharing their address with a stranger that's interested in them romantically/sexually. All for the sake of not being willing to pay a cent to see a man.
/r/seduction24/07/26 03:23 PM
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Don't get discouraged. The more detail you provide, the better the feedback will be. If you're leaving out critical information, you could as well just not bother. Personally, I don't believe in 'techniques' because its not you (speaking generically), its just you playing a role, and likely playing a role that doesn't suit you based on what you project physically and mentally. Think about comic book movies where they could have some 80 pound tiny woman somehow beating up a room of military train…
/r/seduction24/07/26 03:04 PM
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tbh it is more efficient, that's what i'm learning. I deleted all the apps and even though i personally feel that I'm better looking in person than in my pictures, I've had a much much harder time and it's shown how deficient I am at game. Optimally, i think the apps should be 25% of effort whereas a lot of people are putting 100% of effort on there (and none irl) and getting discouraged
/r/seduction24/07/26 01:46 PM
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I'd read your last field report. Honestly, the biggest issue IMO is that you're using canned lines. I agree with what the other person said below, there is no one size fits all, and that's the issue with this community and general advice. Tips and tricks that can work for a 6'4 white man isn't going to work for a 5'7 brown man, and even in a room full of 6'4 white men, they will all get different results based on a number of different things like eye contact, level of handsomeness, muscle build,…
/r/seduction24/07/26 01:25 PM
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bruh she called you BIG DAWG, she's not interested. The risks she's taking is just way too significant.
/r/seduction22/07/26 12:21 AM
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While using clout to get laid is not game, it's still in your best interests to use the advantages you have. Being 6'5 and jacked and using that to get laid is not game either, but it still works. Personally, if I had 100k followers and I was a content creator, that would be one of my go-to lines "I'll love to film some content with you" or "I love your energy, I'll love to have you on one of my vlogs", then that starts the whole conversation. In a way, game is about being as authentic as possib…
/r/seduction21/07/26 02:42 AM
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depends on what the followers are you. At 100k, you're likely a content creator. Usually, clout and status and followers go hand in hand, but if you're one of those guys that goes around trying to pick up girls and filming it, then they might not be interested
/r/seduction21/07/26 02:37 AM
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just move on. Continuing to pursue a girl that's already told you she's not interested in you will only make matters worse. She's not interested, and the more you continue to pursue her, the more frustrated and annoyed she would be with you. It may be possible to reverse it, but there's nothing you can do about it, her mind would have to be changed internally.
/r/seduction20/07/26 04:48 AM
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Befriend them. If you have friends with you, they can wingman you. Best thing to do is approach all of them head on, and then eventually isolate the one you want
/r/seduction19/07/26 05:05 AM
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while you're right about the first sentence, you jumped to incorrect conclusions. People love to feel seen, heard and important by the right people in their lives, not just by anyone. And a lot of that communication can be nonverbal - that's why physical and mental intimacy can be so strong when the communication is strong. So just yapping to a stranger on a first date isn't going to fill that void, especially to a stranger that isn't reciprocating. By your comment, I'll have to assume that you'…
/r/seduction18/07/26 07:57 AM
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familiarity works in your favour when you're memorable and inoffensive. So it's actually a good idea to get there relatively early when the place is less packed, and be nice and friendly to everyone. As the night goes by, familiar faces will walk past you and they might remember you. A high five or a "hey! I remember you!" could go a long way. Extra points if you remember her name
/r/seduction18/07/26 12:07 AM
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"A sign it's going well is when she says, "I feel like I've been talking the whole time" and then asks you a question At this point, respond back "You're good, haha I like hearing about your interests" and then give a short response back to her questions and pivot back to her" hmm, very interesting. No offence, but this is just wrong. If she feels there's need for some type of intervention, then it's clear that there's some type of imbalance. And then pivoting right back to her doesn't help eith…
/r/seduction17/07/26 11:15 PM
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Is this the same as being in a club and saying "want to come check out my dog" instead of just asking the girl if she wants to fuck? In many scenarios, the guy wouldn't immediately know if he's interested in her enough to put down a ton of cash to take her out on a date. What's wrong with a practice session? It's a continuation of how they met, and it's a clear shared interest. It's low stakes and low pressure. If they do it and he finds out she's not interested, they can still be friends and co…
/r/seduction17/07/26 06:57 PM
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Sounds like she was looking to use you for food and experiences. The big tell was "imagine me in a sexy outfit at dinner", that was her saying "take me to a nice, fancy restaurant and I'll dress the part". You suggesting that you'll cook for her instead understandably makes you look a little dumb
/r/seduction17/07/26 05:57 PM
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idk its pretty tough. From experience, I've had girls that are objectively very good looking (8s) that have fallen in love with me and being obsessed with me. And even during that same period of time, I would still get rejections from girls that are 6s and below. It's really just luck of the draw at times, don't let other people's assessment of you define you and your value, because you will then constantly seek external validation
/r/seduction16/07/26 07:53 PM
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From a 4 to a 7? Pretty steep, what changed?
/r/seduction15/07/26 07:57 PM
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There's supply because there's demand.
/r/seduction15/07/26 03:41 PM
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Sounds like she wants validation. It might not even be intentional, but the way she's framing the question it's like she wants you to show some type of commitment to her while she shows nothing but disrespect to you
/r/seduction15/07/26 12:03 AM
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calling someone a landwhale is crazy, and being a passport bro wouldn't help. IMO, passport bros just accept that they'll have to use their money to lure a woman in, so they go to countries where their money stretches further. NGL I've read your other comments on this post and I disagree with your mentality, you ned to work on that. Most importantly, you need to go outside more often. I agree its hard but tbh you're on a different wave
/r/seduction14/07/26 10:30 PM
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I'm a black guy in Toronto as well at a similar age and I feel you, similar experience. I'm off the dating apps - Tinder is awful, Bumble I got no matches, and the ones that I did get never messaged. Only Hinge was good, but I just didn't enjoy the dating app experience. I only try meeting girls in person - either in my company, or when I'm out at bars. From my experience, I've noticed the girls here are just really not willing to give many guys a chance, so it's hard even getting reps in. I'd c…
/r/seduction14/07/26 09:37 PM
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Having too many options absolutely does suck as well, and it leads to a garbage in, garbage out mentality. They believe the vast majority of the men they swipe or match with aren't shit, and they have so many choices that they put in minimal effort. The more quality guys would leave while the more desperate guys power through, leading to a vicious cycle
/r/seduction13/07/26 10:11 PM
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Here's my take on it - first, it's highly commendable and very important that you set your boundaries and didn't take any disrespect, especially when you're doing her a favor. However, my first question is - why are you doing her work for her, what do you get out of it versus what she gets out of it? If it's just for the satisfaction of making her happy, well.... Second, Are you even sure that the tension is real? How long has this 'heavy tension' being going on for? If its a couple of weeks, su…
/r/seduction11/07/26 03:30 PM
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Are you going to sexually assault her…? What are you even overthinking about?
/r/seduction11/07/26 12:22 AM
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You need a wingman and/or you need to befriend the fridge
/r/seduction10/07/26 07:39 PM
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Well I disagree. I don't use this myself but the push-pull tactic works best either on anxious-attachment girls or after the guy has put in some serious work over a number of weeks to integrate themselves into the girl's life, to the point where she realizes a void. Girls have way too may avenues for both emotional connection and validation (from both guys and their girl friends) that having one guy push her away in most cases will not work out the way you expect. In addition, he's already shown…
/r/seduction10/07/26 04:51 PM
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One common trend I've noticed on this sub is the recommendation toward being passive. The suggestions and recommendations are very feminine in behavior - "fall back and see what she does", "just move on, if she could she would", etc. This is the advice that girls give each other, and they have every reason to because they are more in demand. Realistically, if she starts pulling back, how would him pushing her away help? Walk me through the process of how the scenario works out.
/r/seduction10/07/26 04:09 PM
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Just leave bro, it’s done.
/r/seduction08/07/26 09:01 PM
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That’s pretty relevant info. So she’s not alone, you’re just only focusing on her
/r/seduction08/07/26 08:46 PM
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Just give the IG bro…she’ll think you’re hiding something. Like a girlfriend.
/r/seduction08/07/26 04:39 AM
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Next time, slow down in her path, smile and say “always happy to see a familiar face”. There’s nothing better than familiarity, so this is essentially a warm approach. Just have to keep it friendly because you don’t know if she has a boyfriend or whatever. Does she walk with headphones or she raw dogs her walks?
/r/seduction08/07/26 03:24 AM
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For me, I gauge someone's interests based on how they answer about their availability. I think unless if you have a specific event that you want to attend (i.e., a concert or a stand up comedy show), then your first suggestion should be relatively flexible. You should say "let's get drinks, how's your schedule looking like this week?" If she says something like "ugh this week's really busy for me", she's not interested. If she says something like "ugh this week's really busy for me, but how abou…
/r/seduction04/07/26 07:23 PM
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I’m Toronto too. The women are too stuck up here. I get all of my compliments from other men (gay or straight) apart from the girl I’m hooking up with at the time.
/r/seduction03/07/26 01:20 AM
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He doesn’t have time for that shit
/r/seduction29/06/26 01:53 PM
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tf is this
/r/seduction29/06/26 05:12 AM
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Sorry bro you sound like a lame. It’s a party, don’t wait for an opportunity to kiss her, create the opportunity. So you took her to a private spot and then you just left without anything? Sounds like she was interested in you but then lost interest. I have a rule for myself - in party / club situations, there’s no point of asking for her number unless if we’ve already made out but logistics for the rest of the night doesn’t work. Because this is your situation now - you didn’t kiss her at a par…
/r/seduction29/06/26 04:00 AM
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Take a good look at yourself and then a good look at your friend. How much more attractive is he than you? Are you a 5 and he's an 8? Or is much taller than you? You don't normally see this massive discrepancy in friend groups. Because if you guys are similar in physical aspects (with a standard deviation of like 1), then it'll have more to do with other attributes - is he funnier? Is he more charming? etc. Assuming it's the latter, i think it helps to observe his behaviour and try to get it to …
/r/seduction27/06/26 08:48 PM
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if you think there would be demand for it, then set something up yourself!
/r/seduction25/06/26 10:50 PM
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I'd say that between 5'9 - 6'1 then the person's height is a non-factor, and the focus is on your other attributes. 6'1 - 6'5 is where you're seen as tall and attractive due to being tall. Below 5'9 and then your height starts becoming a factor that could be a potential disadvantage.
/r/seduction23/06/26 10:12 PM
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this is likely it, but if she likes male validation she could still have accepted his request and let him thirst over her pics. The likelihood is that she either forgot about him or hasn't gone to the follow requests page.
/r/seduction23/06/26 07:25 PM
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So her account is on private? Unfortunately the window of time is usually short. There's really no reason why she shouldn't accept the follow and increase her number of followers, but the more time goes by, the harder it would be to reignite the spark. This is probably dead in the water. But if your IG pics are on point, its possible that when she does finally accept your request she'll check out your profile and either be attracted or not. Otherwise, likely dead, time to move on. IMO, you want …
/r/seduction23/06/26 07:23 PM
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you're reading too much into it. If you want to talk to her, do so. Best opportunity to do so would be if you're using a machine near her, or the cable machines is perfect. Mind you, I don't talk to anyone in the gym myself because I've got my headphones on and I'm locked in. So it's only if someone came up to me, which they don't. But best time to do so would be in between sets if you're working out with a machine by her, preferably somewhere a bit more isolated. But be ready to find out that s…
/r/seduction23/06/26 05:42 PM
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That’s the issue. When women are talking online about their wants, they’re really only referring to what they want their dream guy to do. Not all men. So when she says something like “men don’t approach anymore”, it’s because she probably was in the same room as someone she found attractive and he didn’t approach her. Or if she says something like “she wants men to be more persistent”, she’s really only speaking about one guy that gave up too quickly that she was actually interested in. She woul…
/r/seduction22/06/26 11:50 PM
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Well it sounds like you’re quite attractive. This separates you from the average guy. As a result, you’re essentially allowed to act like how a woman would. Talk less and let her impress you. You can be bolder - moving her to a more private part of the club, touching her, etc. do you know how to dance well? If so, focus on keeping it physical.
/r/seduction22/06/26 08:56 PM
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So women stand behind you and rub their tits on you? Is the club packed or are they just coming up behind you and rubbing you till you turn around? Sounds comical
/r/seduction22/06/26 08:43 PM
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This is the equivalent to cumming off a hug. Slow it down, take it easy. Act like you’ve been in this position before
/r/seduction22/06/26 06:42 AM
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I guess it’s the difference between being on vacation vs getting back to reality. Consider that your summer fling
/r/seduction22/06/26 02:43 AM
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The other question too is how physically attractive you are compared to him. Are you 6'4 and built and handsome, or 6'4 and scrawny and awkward? Is he 5'10 and ugly or 5'10 and handsome? In my life, the ones that I've actually seen get the hottest girls are shorter than 6ft, including one that regularly fucks IG-model calibre girls while being like 5'7. He also happens to be very handsome, rich and charming. In a bar situation, the shallow attributes become more important - are you tall and hand…
/r/seduction21/06/26 09:21 PM
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In most cases, both men and women are looking to protect their ego. So if after first contact you withdraw, she'll just reciprocate. Women do not want to start putting in more effort only to have their egos hurt. And there are too many other guys interested in them to have to work hard. You can try, but laziness and low effort game only works for guys that are either ridiculously attractive and/or you've fucked the shit out of her in ways she's never been fucked before. And the type of woman tha…
/r/seduction20/06/26 06:42 PM
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I kinda agree with this but at the same time I don't. A dancer that stays with you even when you've already said that you're not paying is a girl that is either resting / scouting for the next guy and/or sees you as someone that's safe and not going to harass her or try some shit. While it's a good idea to be considered as safe, you're also building no tension. Because if you were, she would request to give a lapdance over and over until she eventually walks away
/r/seduction15/06/26 09:44 PM
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add her on IG, if she follows you back that's a check mark. Like some of her pics / stories Then reach out to her and say "hey it was great meeting you last night" and then take it from there. Try to find out if she lives or works nearby and from there segue into meeting up
/r/seduction15/06/26 05:01 AM
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Post a story that would get her to want to react to it
/r/seduction15/06/26 04:47 AM
1

Okay tell me, is a person in your classroom that you see 5 days a week and are highly familiar with different than a stranger on the street that you have no connection with whatsoever? Genuine question, even though you've already shown that you don't answer the questions that I ask you for some reason. Were the Spanish and Italian kids doing cold approaches with women on the street? Or were they able to show their value and develop attraction in your classes / school through familiarity and stro…
/r/seduction13/06/26 06:13 PM
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You being polite when she turned you down is supposed to be a bare minimum, not a value add or differentiator. I want you to re-read my last comment again and really try to understand the perspective of a girl seeing you as a telemarketer. Because right now the impression I'm getting from you (and a lot of people on this sub frankly) is a level of entitlement to a girl's time and attention just because. You won't admit it but it's true. You're seeing her as practice fodder. Again, if a telemarke…
/r/seduction13/06/26 06:03 PM
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y'all are really getting caught up on the tall and handsome thing, it's really pissing me off. I want you to tell me what you think the point of my message is, and how that differs from what you're talking about. I doubt you'll respond but I sincerely hope you do. You also need to learn about and understand 'heuristics'. In the long run, women don't care as much about a guy being tall and handsome, but in terms of first impressions and making quick assessments, yes they do. We're talking about c…
/r/seduction13/06/26 05:47 PM
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From all indications, the girl was not interested. Her responses were dead end to give you a hint - this is a dead end. Imagine how you feel toward telemarketers calling you. They'll start asking questions like "when was the last time you had your air ducts cleaned?" "What's your social security number", etc. How do you act or react when its an unwanted call? Do you think it makes a difference if that particular telemarketer had read a couple sales books and improved themselves before reaching o…
/r/seduction13/06/26 07:13 AM
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Are you dumb? There's nothing worse than comments where their only purpose is to put down someone else's comment. So how about you start off by saying what's wrong with mine, and then give your own advice and make yourself subject to being judged. Like are you fr, this is the only comment you've made on this thread, this is your only contribution. Who's being helpful here?
/r/seduction13/06/26 05:50 AM
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Don't want to be a bummer but cold approach should really only be easy for those that are tall and handsome. In other words, she has to be quite attracted to you off the rip. I'll assume you're not a tall and handsome guy, even if you've worked on yourself for however long. It gets harder for people like us, but it's not impossible. But because the interest isn't going to be mutual immediately, your initial primary focus isn't on gaining attraction or finding out more about her, but it's actuall…
/r/seduction13/06/26 03:38 AM
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I'm from Toronto as well, what niche type of man are you interested in? Asking only to help in how to position yourself, I'm not interested or available. And yes, while there is clearly anti-Indian sentiment, it's primarily aimed toward Indian men. Not that it should make you feel any better - all discrimination is wrong - but many here find Indian women attractive.
/r/seduction12/06/26 06:19 PM
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After you got the okay from the friend, you should have escalated from there and taken the girl somewhere more private. Did you escalate or did things stall? In other words, you got the green light, did you remain parked?
/r/seduction10/06/26 03:31 AM
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this is it. The more you practice on everyone, the more natural and commonplace it becomes, and the greater your deniability if it falters ('this is how I always am!')
/r/seduction09/06/26 10:03 PM
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But to what end? Why even try to get a girl that's not even interested in you jealous? In most cases, the best advice is for the guy to go for the girl that shows him the most interest. Anything else is a waste of time, even if he's much more interested in the other girl.
/r/seduction08/06/26 07:38 PM
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You’re right in the majority of situations but there are some women so inexperienced that they don’t even realize what signals they’re giving off. I do agree though that in most situations if she says nothings going to happen then she has thought about you in that frame - sexually. That is THE most important thing.
/r/seduction08/06/26 04:18 AM
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The only thing this would explain is if a girl eventually says “here, damn!” after a guy pursues her relentlessly, only with the promise to have his baby. Are 18-21 year old girls thinking like this? Also seeing how girls act around guys that they actually find attractive, this explanation doesnt work at all.
/r/seduction07/06/26 06:23 PM
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Yea it’s frustrating. One way to think about it is that if she doesn’t reciprocate then she doesn’t really like you or is still take-it-or-leave-it in her mindset. This is what I consider an ideal strategy- for the first two weeks, go guns blazing, text her often, plan dates, pay for everything, and try and get integrated. After the first two weeks (assuming the first two weeks were intense with at least 2-3 meetups and at least a heavy makeout sesh - otherwise, extend for an additional week) th…
/r/seduction07/06/26 06:05 PM
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Either overexaggerate it or lean into it. Tell her you're 60. Tell her you're old enough to be her daddy. You never know, some women (especially the younger ones) might actually like the dynamic of someone much older than them. It'll also help if you're playing into the rich daddy / provider role where you're getting drinks for her and her friend, maybe you've got some gray hair that looks good, maybe you drive a nice car, etc. Essentially what you don't want is to try to pass of as young and to…
/r/seduction25/05/26 04:21 AM
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Go for the women in groups. As for your dilemma, either go in guns blazing for the one you want or befriend the group and go for the one that gives you the most attention and indicators of interest.
/r/seduction19/05/26 10:19 PM
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anyone you can recommend where I can watch their videos? I'm usually good at opening sets but very poor at converting to a lay.
/r/seduction19/05/26 03:51 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for feedback. Especially if you think the date went very well and didn't see any signs of the other person being uncomfortable. Let's face it, rejection is usually permanent - they're saying they are completely content with never seeing or speaking to you again, after just one date? Surely there should be a reason why someone can be so fine with such permanence. However, people have a difficult time giving and receiving feedback so not everyone ge…
/r/seduction19/05/26 03:07 AM
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Just say "sounds good!" And that's it. Personally, I would actually prefer some type of post-mortem audit where each person can give feedback but I've realized that most people don't want to give nor receive feedback that would make their next dating experience better. Best thing to do is just move on as smoothly and as graciously as possible.
/r/seduction19/05/26 03:04 AM
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2 days later is wild, your odds plummeted even if she was initially interested. With people on their phones all the time, texting two days later makes her think she’s an afterthought. And in most cases, assume you weren’t memorable enough to be remembered after a couple days.
/r/seduction12/05/26 09:11 PM
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You're right that they might be easier to approach because they get proposed less often, but it doesn't mean that she'll take them seriously at all. When something is new or rare, it can feel novel and entertaining whereas the same thing that happens to someone else frequently can be annoying. If the end result you're aiming for is to secure a date rather than briefly entertain someone that doesn't take you seriously, then approaching a woman way out of your league.
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:22 PM
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not sure why that would matter at all tbh, that's kinda a weird insecurity to have. And if you think that's hindering you, then just make an IG...?
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:19 PM
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I consider this pretty bad advice. Imagine if you told every new salesperson in the early days of their job that cold calling is a massive waste of time for the overhwelming majority of them. Are you trying to stop people from building a career, and making money for themselves? Sure they might not be great now, but can't they improve? How I would tweak your argument is by saying that the men need to know where they stand, and adjust their targets accordingly. If you're a 5/10, you have two optio…
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:45 PM
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So I get this as well. The way I see it, it’s because of a lack of sexual appeal and playing it safe
/r/seduction25/04/26 05:35 PM
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You should have the mentality that you don’t care if you see her or not. Then you don’t need to be polite with her, be firm. Say “I will see you at so-and-so place at so-and-so time”. The “or I’m moving on” at the end is silent but she should get the message.
/r/seduction22/04/26 09:16 PM
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nah it can be done for sure. You can meet a girl that night and disarm her with drinks and telling her you want her to be your wingman for the night. She'll be flattered and highly motivated. The question is whether she's good or not, most wingmen (and wingwomen) are actually quite bad and maximize awkwardness although unintentionally.
/r/seduction11/04/26 04:49 AM
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/r/seduction10/04/26 08:35 PM
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Here’s a question for you and others, what IOIs do you get that gives you the confidence to talk to a girl? Are the girls that forward in their attraction to you? I’ve always assumed IOIs were for the top 10% of guys. At the end of the day, the guy she ends up talking to is the guy that had the confidence to go up to her, and the skill to keep her interested.
/r/seduction27/03/26 04:42 PM
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I’m probably a 6.5 - 7 and it’s pretty rare that I get IOIs. I really don’t expect it. So essentially all of my approaches have been cold. With that in mind, I don’t see that as an issue at all, especially if I have confidence in myself that I can get and keep her attention
/r/seduction27/03/26 04:38 PM
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I agree with you. The funny thing about this sub is that they are still outcome dependent, however, their goal/ outcome is rejection. Think about it this way, in the past, they would let opportunities slip away because they were too anxious, or any other excuse. Now, by going for the rejection, they know that they've conquered the fear, they can say they talked to ~25 girls in a day (which many admittedly cannot / will not do) and that "what if?" is no longer a nagging feeling in the back of the…
/r/seduction23/03/26 04:10 AM
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I’m wondering about your perspective of your correlation between the number of rejections and your confidence and self worth. You’re claiming it’s a positive correlation, so just curious if you could expand on that.
/r/seduction22/03/26 08:38 PM
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lmaooo at least she was honest
/r/seduction19/03/26 02:42 AM
2

It really shouldn’t help much, if at all. You can’t use it as a reason to bring a girl over to your place. But you can use it for parties, and bring multiple girls over, so that’s where it can be useful. It gets everyone loose and relaxed. On an individual basis, a girl would only get into your hot tub if she was already at your place in the first place, and I’ll assume she was already down to fuck. So the hot tub could be a good warm up I guess. Overall, unless if you want to have parties, I wo…
/r/seduction16/03/26 07:27 PM
9

Bruh I know you are, you already said so
/r/seduction16/03/26 05:34 PM
6

He's saying that before the guy shows sexual interest, they come off as showing that they wants to be a friend first and foremost. So if the woman wants to categorize him, they'll put him in the friend bucket, and then later be surprised/disappointed when they realize the guy was actually just sexually interested in them.
/r/seduction16/03/26 03:39 PM
2

Sounds like you're talking about one person, but you're really talking about multiple people? If one person was the problem, that's understandable. It's easy to isolate the problem and leave him alone. But if you're the butt of the joke, then you're not going to have much success with women because they won't want to hang out with the guy everyone is making fun of. So, get down to the problem of why you're being made fun of by multiple people, not just one. And find new friends to hang out with.
/r/seduction16/03/26 01:51 PM
1

Many aren't good wingmen. If you can, start hanging out with other people. When you're around other people that want you to win and that work alongside you, you'll see a marked improvement in your attitude, confidence, and wins.
/r/seduction16/03/26 01:43 PM
2

you're not wrong but you're also putting yourself at a disadvantage before the date has already started - with coffee, the bill comes at the start, not the end. So now you have to dig yourself out the hole where if you paid the few dollars, you would have been at the baseline. However, if you meet her for the first time at the coffee shop, you can wait until after she's gotten herself a drink and settled down before introducing yourself. That's what I do at clubs - she's already taken care of, s…
/r/seduction15/03/26 07:56 PM
1

yea OP comes across as an asshole that gets his advice from pick-up artists. It'll be tolerable if he was ridiculously good looking, but I doubt it.
/r/seduction14/03/26 06:49 AM
1

so you waited two days to reach out to her, then called her out of the blue and expected her to pick up and be happy that you interrupted her day? Did she even have your number at that point, or would it have just shown as an unknown number?
/r/seduction14/03/26 06:47 AM
1

Aren’t you guy that spent $2400 at a strip club? Despite Miami being bountiful in beautiful women, it’s still a level 10 while you’re a level 1-2. You need to get your money and status up to do well, especially if you’re not an objectively attractive man. If you want to still experience these beautiful women in an easier environment, go to Colombia. A lot of beautiful Miami women actually hail from Venezuela and Colombia, the difference is that there, money talks but they’re not even ashamed abo…
/r/seduction11/03/26 08:33 PM
0

Uhh you have no idea if your solution is to drop a hail mary like that, are you dumb?
/r/seduction11/03/26 01:28 AM
22

I’ll say the chances of a second date declines for me if I don’t make out. But I’ll also chalk that down to not escalating throughout the date.
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:23 PM
0

Did you even read what I said? My first line says "stop calling people without asking for permission first." In both situations, OP called the girl out of the blue without asking if now's a good time to call, or without even knowing if she's fine with calling. Are you saying you like when men do that to you and make assumptions that potentially inconvenience you? Or is it that you just didn't even read what I said? I'm starting to believe it's the latter. And what's up with assuming that there's…
/r/seduction10/03/26 04:54 AM
2

He asked about Sunday, not her
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:41 AM
14

Lol if you really think this would work. Look at the context. She hasn't even been over to his place. Now she's ghosting him and you think that message is going to solve his problems? Come on bruh, the chances of him getting completely ignored is 99.9% with that message.
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:38 AM
2

i swear people on reddit are so quick to assume that there's ONE other person in the picture and in the space of a few days she's decided to put her eggs in that one basket. I hear this excuse all the time. It honestly sounds like coping - that it was not OP's fault, there just happened to be someone else in the picture. It's literally the easiest way to drop accountability.
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:33 AM
1

Since you're such an expert on this topic, can you help explain why she never picked up either of his calls, and responded to each "missed" call with a text instead of a call back? Must be some rational explanation right? Someone can see your authoritative statement and assume anyone is willing and eager to accept calls by anyone at anytime of the day without first asking whether they're a caller or texter, or whether now is the right time to call. Well, that would be making a big mistake listen…
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:30 AM
3

If that’s what you want to believe, so be it. She is not dating the guy, she has been on a date with the guy. There’s a difference. One is a part of her world, the other is a guy that isn’t entitled to her time of day.
/r/seduction10/03/26 12:25 AM
2

Stop calling people without asking for permission first. You might think it sets you apart from other guys and it likely does, but for many people, that’s a bad thing. Not as extreme but imagine if a girl shows up at your house unannounced. You might be down for her to come by, but unannounced without asking or being comfortable with her to do stuff like that. You don’t know her like that. There are people that get stressed or annoyed when others just call out the blue. I’ll say there’s a better…
/r/seduction09/03/26 11:46 PM
2

Best strategy is to be-friend her friend, and also to have a wingman that would distract the friend. That’s the most important thing - the girls went out together to hang out with each other. A man talking to only one girl (in most cases, the prettier one) is actually unfair to the fridge, so it’s very hnderstandable their reactions. Having a wingman gives the other girl the attention she needs.
/r/seduction09/03/26 04:40 PM
1

Some places have cover while other places require you to buy a drink before you even sit down. A glass of Pepsi will cost you like $10
/r/seduction08/03/26 06:52 PM
5

Could probably hire a well known pornstar for the night with that amount
/r/seduction08/03/26 06:49 PM
24

Work on yourself my guy. Going to Miami, one of the shallowest places in the world where girls get by solely on their looks and guys by their money maybe wasn’t the right environment
/r/seduction08/03/26 06:48 PM
5

Tbh this is crazy. Were you by yourself? Like how much was a lap dance? The last time I went to a strip club I spent $50 and I considered that crazy and felt ripped off. $2400 and getting no benefit out of it is wild. Do you think you got caught up in all the Miami flexing and wanted to act like you belonged?
/r/seduction08/03/26 03:06 PM
1

What’s that?
/r/seduction08/03/26 03:05 PM
2

it should come over time. From my perspective, there are things I shouldn't have to teach a full grown adult, and so I assume that if this is what you're showing me then this is the way you are. For instance, I have no problem with paying for the first few dates. But if the girl decides she doesn't even want to lift a finger - wants to be picked up, not even offering to contribute after the first three dates, well, I'm just not interested. Because in my silence, I've shown I'm fine with it. And …
/r/seduction24/02/26 10:22 PM
5

however, would you know if she's actually interested in re-initiating with you and going stronger, or does she just miss your attention / the money you spend on her. Difficult to say. Some women even just enjoy their phone buzzing off the hook from texts. That's why they keep responding even though they're not contributing anything to the conversation. And, whether women would admit it or not, but love bombing actually works. Just have to be consistent, genuinely believe it, and integrate yourse…
/r/seduction24/02/26 10:18 PM
2

I get you, but there has to be a point where the investment equalizes. At the initial stages, it’s basically 90-10, with the guy putting in 90% of the work and the woman putting in 10% by just showing up or responding to messages. Is that sustainable?
/r/seduction24/02/26 09:23 PM
9

So what’s the endgame here? There’s always this suggestion to lose interest while WAITING for her to crawl back. But the truth is that many women are a mixture of too vain, don’t care enough, and have too many other options. So the chances are she won’t reach out. The most sure fire way for this strategy to work is to put in a lot of work in the beginning. I’m talking about possibly like two months of consistency and integration into each other’s lives. She could care less about a guy that’s pay…
/r/seduction24/02/26 09:21 PM
1

he wanted to wife her, then realized the streets have her on speed dial
/r/seduction10/02/26 12:22 AM
1

Anything wrong with just going through with the date and seeing how it goes from there? Sure, she might want attention from men, but that doesn't mean she's playing you like a chump. If she likes you, she likes you. Or are you concerned that word would get around that you took her out? If so, so what?
/r/seduction10/02/26 12:22 AM
19

That is true, but I assume OP's question is really focused on how to navigate it carefully to avoid any mishaps. I think you went about it the right way - you didn't go in specifically with the intent to pick her up, you found a mutual interest that connects the two of you (coffee shop experiences) and you used that as anchor but expanded beyond it.
/r/seduction07/02/26 08:02 PM
-6

you likely are too
/r/seduction06/02/26 04:40 PM
15

We hooked up at her place a week after she got back from her wedding
/r/seduction06/02/26 11:32 AM
1

I agree with you, although I do think looks and personality matter in different stages. Looks gets you through the door, because human beings are inherently shallow. Looks will get you those conversations on Tinder, and would have women willing to ignore red flags or weird things said (to an extent). Personality, on the other hand, keeps women interested. Both are important. If some men can’t even get through the door, then looks is definitely the more important problems of the two to fix.
/r/seduction04/02/26 07:45 PM
1

well that's the whole point of my post and why I suggested that OP moves to Hinge. For the reasons I'd already cited above, it could be difficult for personality and charm to shine through because the women either aren't responding on Tinder, or ghosting after a message or two. If you were successful on Tinder, that's great, more power to you. I used it in 2025 and the difference in quality of matches and ability to have a conversation between Tinder and Bumble, compared to Hinge was night and d…
/r/seduction04/02/26 08:22 AM
8

Idk how others' experience is but unless you're very good looking, it's just tough on Tinder. Too many likes and matches due to near unlimited swiping leaves women overwhelmed, and also results in much lower patience. As a result, you have to capture her attention by a mixture of original / shock-value lines. Personally, Tinder is not worth it. Same with Bumble. Go with Hinge, for your own sanity. Trust me, your luck will improve and your standards will rise on Hinge.
/r/seduction03/02/26 08:13 PM
1

doesn't matter, the timing is too far away for her to gaf. at this point, you've already shot your shot and you can't backtrack. Ask her if she's down to get on a call first so you guys can gauge each other's vibes. She likely won't oppose to that.
/r/seduction02/02/26 08:54 PM
2

Sure, you can secure a date within a few messages but there's a positive correlation between skipping the 'getting to know you' part on the app and a girl's flakiness. Add scheduling a date 6 days away and it's a recipe for disaster. Why even bother with the escape room? Just set up drinks. Remember this woman has no idea who you are at all. Why would she want to spend an hour+ doing an activity with you? And because she doesn't know you at all, she also doesn't give a shit about you and is more…
/r/seduction02/02/26 08:42 PM
66

Example
/r/seduction02/02/26 07:25 PM
2

I think you should just sit this one out. You're cooked. Did anyone here suggest you to reply asking if 6pm Thursday works? I know I didn't, so why are you reaching out to me? These are your issues that you need to fix: You're needy and you crave the approval of a girl that isn't interested in you You're fixated and analyzing the responses of a girl that couldn't care less You're not stopping to think about if you're even interested in continuing to pursue this girl. You come across as too avail…
/r/seduction02/02/26 06:10 PM
6

why you're so caught up in getting her approval over a certain time after she's already agreed on Thursday evening is beyond me. You sound needy, and you sound like someone that's not comfortable taking control. You need to work on that, ASAP. FYI, she's most likely not into you
/r/seduction01/02/26 11:04 PM
15

You need to take more charge, you’re the man. First you ask her when she wants to see you and she already told you Thursday evening, then you ask her what time within Thursday evening she wants to see you. What’s next, you ask her where she’ll like to see you? She already told you Thursday evening. Plan an evening event, and then tell her where she’ll be seeing you. It’s really not difficult.
/r/seduction01/02/26 12:41 PM
3

Well, you already know she's definitely not interested now. You can assume that at her peak interest in you she was iffy. Of course I can't know her situation, but she seems like someone that wants to be with someone for the sake of it. Her rejecting you on the second date would be the tell that she's not physically attracted to you.
/r/seduction01/02/26 03:03 AM
1

I like most of it, but what I just don't gel with is the logistics. If you say you're having car issues, then surely you would have had to propose a date at a physical location like a bar or restaurant, only to tell her that you can no longer make it. Isn't that a bait-and-switch? In addition, wouldn't there be a high likelihood that the girl would say "okay, another time then". The truth of the matter is that there are lots of alternatives to getting to the location, which the girl wouldn't car…
/r/seduction31/01/26 04:51 AM
1

what would you consider the intermediary escalation? I always have a tricky time getting through to the first kiss
/r/seduction27/01/26 04:07 PM
113

For those that can build a rotation, the issue is budget. Every girl wants to be treated well, and might expect to hang out at least once every other week (with some girls expecting more). How do you budget both your time and wallet to afford seeing 3-4 women at a time, while also going about your work and hobbies?
/r/seduction25/01/26 05:13 PM
1

She has a boyfriend…?
/r/seduction25/01/26 04:58 AM
3

I'm a guy but what would annoy me most is someone just calling me out of the blue. have you ever confirmed with the girl whether she's fine with a call and if that's the right time to call? Or did you just call out the blue and assume she'll drop everything to have a conversation for x amount of time, for someone that's essentially a stranger. It's not the act of speaking on the phone that's outdated, it's the assumption that older generations have of just calling when a text could have sufficed…
/r/seduction20/01/26 12:07 AM
2

The way I see it - don't put yourself in a situation where you're depending on a woman to move things forward. Unless she's very interested in you or feels some type of obligation to you, the base case expectation is that she wouldn't. For me, I only leave it in a woman's hands if she's cancelled already in the past and is giving mixed signals. At that point, I wash my hands clean and leave the ball in her court. If you're interested in her, you should pursue her and take matters into your own h…
/r/seduction17/01/26 08:37 PM
1

"a women" am I the only one that sees this everywhere? Did people just stop understanding singular and plural over the last year or so?
/r/seduction17/01/26 07:17 PM
3

I’m not sure why they do this either. There’s nothing wrong with just rejecting me, I’d rather that than just complete silence. At least with a rejection, the loop has been closed. Silence basically implies if we don’t speak ever again, she couldn’t care less.
/r/seduction09/01/26 07:57 PM
18

Should be anything sales related, or working at the gym. However, it's incredibly stupid to potentially try and fuck up your career because you want to talk to women.
/r/seduction04/01/26 07:32 AM
4

while that is possible, I'll also say that the average man is really not capable or willing to just casually commit murder. There's too much at stake for a man to just throw away their life like that. While it's not foolproof, an easy way to vet someone is to make sure that they have a good job, steady income, mutual friends is a bonus, and a healthy social life. I know I can't talk for women as a man, but I'll say my chances of finding the love of my life are higher than the chances of being mu…
/r/seduction01/01/26 07:23 PM
2

an ugly woman can get laid much easier than the average* man
/r/seduction01/01/26 05:53 PM
6

women definitely have it easier, they just have different (first world) problems. Their only real problem is that they are overwhelmed with choices. I also don't subscribe to the idea that 99% of those matches are from losers that swipe right on all profiles because then you're implying that otherwise only 1% of men would match with them if not for those people that aren't even looking at their profiles. That would put them in the same match rate as the average man, or even worse, which is defin…
/r/seduction01/01/26 05:52 PM
1

Very true. The girls are cold and entitled
/r/seduction25/12/25 02:27 AM
1

Was thinking the same. Toronto and Montreal would be better than Vancouver. Vancouver is a beautiful place but very cliquey, and primarily Asian-dominated. You might do well if you’re a white man but otherwise, I think it would be quite difficult. Vancouver also doesn’t have much of a night life, places close early. The main activities are hiking and skiing, more physical activities and less about partying and drinking.
/r/seduction25/12/25 02:26 AM
2

I'm not surprised about Miami having the hottest women. You have rich old white men that have more money than sense, it's sunny year round and close to the water, it attracts women from Latin America (Colombia, Venezuela) and the ones that end up in Miami often tend to do so specifically because of their looks.
/r/seduction23/12/25 03:35 PM
2

It depends, some girls can be really shy and nervous. But, regardless, you’ll be able to tell if she’s genuinely interested or not by her body language
/r/seduction22/12/25 01:56 PM
1

Do you do well with the friends while wingmanning?
/r/seduction22/12/25 05:51 AM
10

Asking “how’s it going” is a Hail Mary? A Hail Mary would be suggesting a time and place to meet up
/r/seduction11/12/25 10:12 PM
11

Unfortunately for OP, not irrational enough 🥀
/r/seduction08/12/25 05:34 AM
1

I think it helps having a wingman that you go out with often, because what’s most important is for someone to see you through different cycles, so they understand who you are, and they can tell when you’re being genuine or not. That’s the best way to be kept accountable, especially when your success also depends on his success in pulling her friend.
/r/seduction23/11/25 05:22 PM
16

introverted and insecure don't have to go hand in hand. The way you're making it sound is that being introverted is a negative. Being introverted is not being shy, it just means you draw energy from within, not from being around others. If anything, women actually prefer introverted men, because the introverted (and handsome) man is more likely to be seen as mysterious while the extroverted, handsome man is more likely to have a huge social media presence and easily takes the spotlight from the …
/r/PussyPassDenied01/10/25 10:04 PM
1

So you're basically trying to say one size fits all. Let me tell you something, looks matter a lot more than you would want to imply. It's not the be-all-and-end-all, but its the major difference between reciprocal flirting and being charged for sexual harassment. Instant dates and first-day-sex are very difficult to pull off, and the baseline (not even advantage) for that happening is based primarily on physical attraction, unless if money is involved, and you're dealing with prostitutes. It ho…
/r/seduction21/09/25 03:28 PM
2

how is it irrelevant?
/r/seduction21/09/25 08:07 AM
3

What's your physical description like? Height Race Body build (athletic, lean, chubby) Perceived looks (x/10)
/r/seduction20/09/25 08:47 PM
2

ehh don't flatter yourself too much. This is the way I see it - when it comes to dating (particularly in the early stages), a woman's greatest investment is her time. For men, it's time, money and effort. As a result, a woman is actually more capable of dating more people than a man is. Let's assume she has 7 people in her roster. Some will lose and gain intensity over time. She likely wouldn't be having sex with the majority of them. Women don't mind texting throughout the day, and it's usually…
/r/seduction20/09/25 03:01 PM
1

Tip for next time - if she cancels last second, your response should always be “no worries”, and that’s it. Even when she asks to reschedule, don’t even bother responding to that. Again, this is only if it’s last second. I don’t care how free you might actually be the next day, you can’t show yourself as too available and flexible for her on a whim. Chances are she wasn’t that interested and you should usually expect that from a girl you meet at the club. If she really wanted to see you and felt…
/r/seduction13/09/25 04:09 AM
1

Interesting and it makes sense how it could work. So would you do this to any man or are you sizing up the man first or gauging her interest in the man?
/r/seduction06/09/25 02:49 PM
1

You’ll be surprised at how many better looking women at the bars won’t get approached
/r/seduction06/09/25 02:47 PM
5

So what were you doing for those 3 hours? As someone else suggested, it’s better to get a wingman. Not only do you have the excuse and fallback that you’re there with a friend, you also have someone to help talk to the girl’s friend (most girls wouldn’t just go to the bar solo).
/r/seduction06/09/25 05:42 AM
2

what do you even mean by simp? You mean showed interest? That's not simping.
/r/seduction05/09/25 07:12 PM
1

I remember you'd posted about this a couple months ago but doesn't look like much has changed. Back then, I'd suggested moving downtown, and going out to bars with your girl friends. If you look open and available, guys will come and chat with you. If you think you're at best a 6, and you're going around giving hot guys your number or IG "for the plot", then you're going to be very disappointed when they'll either reject you or at best assume you're an easy lay and speak to you accordingly. 1) K…
/r/seduction25/08/25 01:42 AM
10

I don’t agree with your last statement at all and I find it really annoying when people state things as rules. Not kissing the girl could at worst keep things platonic and make the girl feel you’re either not into her or you’re not confident enough to make a move. Trying to do it all on the second date places a lot of emphasis on that second date and everything working well. Each step (kiss, touch, sex) is a hurdle for the first time and not all girls would be willing to get through all hurdles …
/r/seduction11/08/25 01:43 AM
1

Same, I don’t get it either. If he’s anonymous, what’s the issue here? I also doubt she’s scrolling through her views either if she gets thousands.
/r/seduction28/07/25 07:40 PM
3

Bad execution. You probably came across as so cocky that her only reaction was to ignore you. Even if she might have been interested in you, that interest is gone.
/r/seduction25/07/25 01:40 PM
1

Two things: 1) If you're speaking to a girl in the group, you need to be-friend the whole group before you try to isolate the girl you're interested in. 2) If you're trying to speak to a group of girls, you're going to have a harder time going solo. Try finding an entertaining wingman to join you.
/r/seduction15/07/25 01:24 AM
5

Agreed. People feel like getting a number of her IG is an accomplishment. They don't care. They're happy to get more followers, and they just won't respond to your texts. Worst case scenario, they'll be mildly inconvenienced if they have to block you. If there's nothing set up where you're texting her to confirm the logistics, then don't bother getting her number or socials. That's the way I see it.
/r/seduction14/07/25 09:39 PM
2

I think there are some positives but more negatives. The positive is that you are essentially already getting validated without any other woman providing validation. Women like what other women like. So her calling you a womanizer means she believes that you’ve been with multiple other women, indicating that she knows that other women like you and, therefore, she likes you as well right off the bat. The other positive, tied to the first point, is that she sees you sexually, which means you’re no…
/r/seduction30/06/25 05:34 PM
1

Using your analogy - a professional baseball player is a pro that has had multiple years of development at the highest levels on his belt. At that point, he has mastered his swing to the best of his abilities. He could have cold spells but he has utmost confidence in himself and what has gotten him to where he is. Whereas we’re dealing with human beings with so many variations to what could happen, including potential self-sabotage from either person. Personally, as a man, I like to think that I…
/r/seduction28/06/25 08:50 PM
1

What else is there to do? Obviously the most important thing is to reflect, because she was previously interested and then something changed. You might have to take some or all of that blame so you need to think about what you did that turned her off so you don’t make a similar mistake again with someone else. As for the girl? The door’s closed.
/r/seduction28/06/25 07:57 PM
1

Rather than clubs, go to a bar with another single friend downtown after work on a Thursday night. Sit down by the bar but be accessible, have a seat beside you that's available so you aren't walled off. Look at other guys around you and smile, be inviting. Trust me, even if you're below average in looks but look warm and inviting, men will try their luck. You can still be reserved, but you have to come out of your comfort zone if you want results. Apart from that, the biggest lesson to learn is…
/r/seduction21/06/25 05:23 PM
1

Looked through your other posts, I think it’s important for you to make more friends that are girls first. You’re still so young, you should be going out often to events and clubs. I promise, you’ll be more likely to find guys approaching you. I don’t want to be considered old fashioned, but if guys aren’t approaching you and you feel you have to approach them, then you’re either not going out enough, or you’re below average in looks, or you don’t look inviting enough. You also need to be downto…
/r/seduction21/06/25 04:30 PM
6

Remember, she’s 22. Their whole generation thinks that youre either 6ft or you’re not dateable. This generation’s cooked.
/r/seduction21/06/25 04:17 PM
33

I don’t think the guy-girl ratio matters here. Pilates mainly attracts women, so if men show up, they might appear out of place and it might look like they have an ulterior motive. Imagine suggesting a woman looking for a boyfriend to go work on a pipeline, for instance, because there would be 15 guys for every girl
/r/seduction19/06/25 07:09 PM
6

Still needs to learn from his mistakes, otherwise he'll keep repeating it
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:13 AM
-2

Very cringe, sorry OP. So what ended up happening?
/r/seduction14/06/25 03:28 AM
4

You need to be fun. First off, you were your friend’s Wingman and he needed you to keep his girl’s friend entertained. That was mission number one and the most important thing, even if you weren’t interested in her. But the emphasis here is on being entertaining and fun. You can ask questions but these shouldn’t be yes or no questions, they should be to spark conversations. Ask her how her night is going. Ask her what’s her favorite drink, whatever to keep her talking and distracted.
/r/seduction07/06/25 01:40 AM
2

I feel like that saying still requires you as the man to do the work, but she would generally make it easy for you to get access to her. A woman can have multiple men trying to see her, and she’ll keep making excuses or flaking those she isn’t interested in, but she’ll be willing to move her schedule around to make sure she sees you if she likes you.
/r/seduction06/06/25 08:48 PM
1

Still sounds off to me and I wouldn't even bother pursuing that girl, but that's just me. None of what the two girls did makes sense.
/r/seduction01/06/25 12:45 AM
6

Sounds really weird. A girl wouldn’t just do that to her friend unless if she thought you were creepy/dangerous or that her friend was too intoxicated to consent, or your girl asked her to get you out of there. And if your friend and the other girl walked out together, wouldn’t your friend have some background knowledge into why the girl suddenly turned back to kick you out of the house? And then all three of you left together including the girl that kicked you out of the house and you didn’t ev…
/r/seduction31/05/25 08:18 AM
12

What’s there to be confused about? Leave her alone. If she was interested, there wouldn’t be any confusion.
/r/seduction25/05/25 04:09 PM
6

Drinks can also be expensive. A cocktail could cost as much or more than a meal, and if you’re having multiple, your bill can easily be like $200+ with tip
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:42 PM
2

Sounded scripted in a way, like chat prompts. "You seem like someone who spends a little fortune on..." sounds generic and you probably use that line often. Why does she seem that way? Asking her if you even remember her name is basically reminding her you're a stranger and she'll find herself wondering why she's even still talking to you "I can see you're not a texting person..." you're basically insulting her while asking her out. Of course she rejected you right after. And after she rejected …
/r/seduction22/05/25 04:50 AM
1

Much easier than normal tbh, especially if the convention is in another city that the two of you don’t live in. Women tend to be more willing to take risks if they don’t live in that city, and are more willing to have a one-night stand with someone they don’t plan on seeing again in their real life. Because time is shorter, just be more confident and more assertive about what you want. After coffee, tell her you’ll like ti hang out again, do drinks, then go back to your hotel. It’s really simple…
/r/seduction12/05/25 03:04 PM
1

What is there to do if she leaves you on read? Just leave her alone, the silence is loud. She doesn't want to continue the conversation. Of course, it might not always have to do with you and could also just mean she had nothing else to add to THAT conversation. Up to you to gauge whether to continue another day or not. Regardless, this shouldn't even be a question. You're thinking about her enough to post about her on Reddit while she's not thinking about you at all. Why even mute her stories? …
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:26 PM
14

It’s a tough one. What likely happened is the other guy sized you up and figured you’re no threat. How you can fix that is by bulking up, getting bigger and getting more confident. The gym tends to have taller and bigger guys that are more focused on their looks. It can be quite superficial so that might not always be the easiest place to pick up girls, particularly if most girls there also don’t want to be bothered by every Tom, Dick and Harry. The other mistake you made was basically admitting…
/r/seduction04/05/25 05:08 PM
1

I've witnessed it first hand - I have friends that this happens to. And I'm talking gorgeous girls, not average cute girls. Their game is pretty weak but it doesn't even matter. One thing in common with all of the men I've seen this happen to is they're all tall - 6'2 minimum. That's priority number one, I think it's rarer to have girls coming up to you even if you're good looking but average height. However, they would still be very receptive if you approach. Another thing to get women coming u…
/r/seduction20/04/25 02:41 PM
1

Is it possible that she didn't hear you?
/r/seduction11/04/25 04:32 PM
1

I assume that most women are AT BEST neutral about you. Except if you're ridiculously good looking, this is actually the case. At best, they're open to giving you a chance but expecting you to talk your way out of it by saying cringe stuff or over-sexualizing things or being too vague.
/r/seduction05/04/25 07:10 PM
1

10/ are so subjective. I’ve seen lots of men call a girl a 10 when she’s really a 7. Basically, what I’m saying is that these men put these “10s” on a pedestal and assume they’re unattainable. A lot of them can be found at clubs and bars waiting for men to talk to them and yet nobody does.
/r/seduction03/04/25 08:06 PM
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When in normal conversation, just try to find ways to slip it in. For instance, if the two of you are talking about travel, you can ask her if she has a travel buddy. Or any activity that isn't solo, you can ask her if she has someone she does it with. Someone that's into their boyfriend would usually have a number of activities that she does this stuff with, so it will come out at some point. Controversial take but if she doesn't do many activities with her boyfriend, even if she has one, it's …
/r/seduction25/03/25 12:48 AM
0

Women who define effort by how much money you spend are materialistic and don’t really care about the connection, they are looking for a provider not you as a person. You might lose your shot with some women but you will find someone who’s genuinely interested in you. This goes back to my initial point of how it's difficult to tell the difference. No matter how much we want there to be equality, most women are still very old fashioned when it comes to dating. They're allowed to be because they h…
/r/seduction24/03/25 11:47 PM
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With going as cheap as possible, you also risk losing the women that are otherwise great but think you’re being too low effort. A coffee date or a walk date is cheap but would turn a lot of women off, not just those looking to enrich themselves on a man’s dime. Generally, I like going out for drinks. It’s still rather expensive, but the most important thing is that it’s not convenient. A girl could easily say yes to a dinner date if she doesn’t like the guy. At least she’s getting fed in a nice …
/r/seduction24/03/25 05:50 PM
-5

Of course. However, that’s pretty standard all over. The issue is that it’s very difficult to tell the difference between girls that are otherwise not as sexually open, and girls that are just using men.
/r/seduction24/03/25 03:51 PM
5

What were the signals? “Felt her being disappointed that I did”. That’s all in your head bro to make you feel worse. If it was really that obvious that she wanted to talk to you, you would have done it. Signals are usually mixed at best
/r/seduction17/03/25 02:16 AM
0

"She wouldn't have rescheduled for chad". What does this even mean? This sounds like incel talk
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:32 PM
1

You’re probably better off just implying that Friday night couldn’t work because you ended up being busier than expected doing something else. And it’ll be better to message her tomorrow. Then set up plans for the week, maybe an activity close to your place. As long as it’s not dinner. You’ll get a clue on whether she actually is interested or not.
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:15 PM
1

Yea you should have. And if she said no, at least you would know. Maybe she would have even offered an alternative if she wasn’t comfortable with going to your place yet. Either way, I would rather have confirmation than to just wonder what if. And don’t listen to most of these other commenters. What you’ll notice is that most of these other people suggest passiveness - saying that she should be the one to reach out, suggesting to block her, etc. That all sounds like feminine behaviour. Be asser…
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:04 PM
1

Most girls don’t like the ball in their court, but because she initiated the last date already, she’s already shown that she can take initiative. So it really doesn’t look great. Going back to the first thing I said - most girls don’t like the ball in their court. She can flip it back on you and say that she thought it was no longer happening because you didn’t mention it again. Think about it, if she brought it up then she would essentially be inviting herself to your place. What if your plans …
/r/seduction15/03/25 07:54 PM
3

Blocking is so strange. That’s what women do.
/r/seduction15/03/25 07:43 PM
0

Sounds like someone speaking from experience
/r/seduction13/03/25 12:06 PM
5

I spoke about this in my post above. Quick isolation wouldn’t work. This girl doesn’t know you and is by default wary of men. Having some guy trying to isolate as quickly as possible would have her sketched out and would definitely set off alarm bells with her friends who would feel it’s their duty to save her from the “creep”. Best thing to do is assimilate with the group, then isolate once everyone is comfortable with you.
/r/seduction13/03/25 12:04 PM
7

Yea I see BS like this happen all the time. Happened with a girl I was talking to just last week. This guy was trying to get with my girl, grabbed her number and left because he was clearly a third wheel. He texted her asking her to come see him after. She showed me the text and we laughed about it together. Then she went home with me. That girl didn’t know the guy. He wasn’t interesting enough to lead the conversation. He ended up walking away because he knew he wasn’t wanted and wouldn’t be mi…
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:55 AM
6

Many other posts on here are confusing your story. The issue here is that you went in with a group - you and the couple. For all the other girls and anyone else are aware, you and the couple know each other well. So for a girlfriend in your own “group” to not try to help you, or to sway the other girl from you, that girl is going to definitely take the girlfriend’s advice, and she has every reason to. Your option if that happens is to be assertive, as a man is supposed to be. Lead the conversati…
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:50 AM
21

May I please have some minge?
/r/seduction02/03/25 09:49 PM
1

If I'm texting her, it doesn't really matters what I say as long as she likes me. And that attraction is better built offline, in person. Doesn't mean i have to be boring though. If someone i barely knew just texted "hey, how are you?" I'll just answer "good, you?" And expect the other person to start the real conversation. Otherwise, I'm ending that conversation. It's boring and it doesn't trigger anything worth talking about. I'd rather text to firm up plans that we had, or show them something…
/r/seduction02/03/25 06:36 PM
1

That's not even the right question, if I were in OP's shoes, I wouldn't have even collected the number or social if I didn't have an established connection with the girl. He talked to her for a few minutes, and didn't set anything up. So when he messages her on IG, he'll have to start afresh from ground zero, which is very difficult. Many see collecting numbers and socials as a big step, but it's meaningless if the girls are going to be dry and non-receptive to your texts. It's like amassing a l…
/r/seduction02/03/25 04:37 PM
1

This isn’t the solution for OP. Based on how long they spoke for (a couple minutes), the chances are she’s going to say no, except if she had already been crushing on OP for a while. In addition, the conversation would still go the exact same way as it did with IG so what’s the difference with having her number?
/r/seduction02/03/25 03:17 AM
3

Yea, you just accept it as a rejection. Even if she’s hesitant but willing to give her IG, I’ll still take it as a soft rejection and not press on. However, I’ll still be friendly with her at the gym. You never know, once she gets more comfortable with you over time, she may be more interested. And if you already set up a date in person, you say your hello and say something like “looking forward to grabbing a beer, I know a place close by I think you’ll like”. Basically, the expectation is that …
/r/seduction01/03/25 09:38 PM
12

It's a tough one. Yes, that was a rejection. Personally, it's better to strike while the iron is hot. If she was showing positive vibes at the gym, you could have made a suggestion to her right there and then to grab a beer. If she says sure, then you grab her number or IG and promise her you'll text her. It's just better to ask her out in person because over text, it gives her time to think about it rather than going by feeling. In addition, because you barely know how her, asking her boring qu…
/r/seduction01/03/25 09:20 PM
29

Most girls have no problem with giving their IG, it adds to their follower count. Getting her IG in no way provides any indication that she's interested in you or wants to talk to you. Did she follow you back? I'm surprised she had to go as far as to explicitly tell you that she's not interested in you. How hard did you push?
/r/seduction01/03/25 08:30 PM
2

Let’s just go with the truth - she was likely very uncomfortable having you around. Nothing wrong with that, you’re still learning. But you need to understand that these women aren’t Guinea pigs that are here for you to practice on. Here’s a question for you - why did you have to go for someone that’s so pretty (and potentially out of your league)? Why not strike up conversations with women of all types, including the more homely ones? Believe it or not, not only are you going to possibly have b…
/r/seduction01/03/25 03:03 PM
9

You don’t. The truth is that they don’t care what you think, and get more than enough validation to believe that you’re wrong. In addition, just because they’re at a dating event to meet new people doesn’t automatically mean that they’ll be interested in talking to just anyone. It does them no favours, sure, but they can be picky with little consequence.
/r/seduction23/02/25 12:58 AM
6

Which is…?
/r/seduction22/02/25 06:50 PM
14

What kind of dumb rule is this? They’ll only do so if they were already attracted to the guy. And if so, what’s the need for all the extra steps? You need to realize as well that these girls are friends. Of course they’ll want the “aesthetically challenged” girl to be happy and get a guy. Why would any friend start throwing themselves at a guy that her friend could be potentially interested in?
/r/seduction22/02/25 06:50 PM
2

It’s tough but doable. It’s better if you have a friend with you, but doesn’t always have to be that way. If she’s amongst guys and girls, I’ll usually speak to the guys first. This makes me not seem as threatening to anyone in the group, and guys would be less likely to be standoffish. The aim is to befriend the guys quickly and get them comfortable. While talking with them, eavesdrop on the girl’s conversation. Once they say something interesting that you can react to, jump into the conversati…
/r/seduction22/02/25 06:44 PM
5

idk, if you two are alone, making out and she's still sucking your dick and you're playing around with her naked then we can't pretend that she's not interested. Just give her some time. Why's everyone acting like sex is the be all and end all? Comments on here sounding stupid. Maybe she's just not ready, and there's nothing wrong with that. Why don't you just talk to her about it?
/r/seduction20/02/25 01:19 AM
23

IMO, it’s not about the act of having sex itself. It’s on whether she is actually interested and physically and emotionally attracted to you. This should be relatively obvious. If you’re still unsure after maybe the second date, then she’s not actually interested. Does she kiss you? Does she hold you close? Does she talk sexually to you? Think about it - how would a young woman act around her 80 year old sugar daddy? Sure, that’s extreme but shouldn’t be too dissimilar if she’s only interested i…
/r/seduction18/02/25 08:13 PM
9

A lot of it is just for looks. Due to social media, you’ll find a lot of women showing everything online but that’s because they’re getting a lot of attention and/or money for it. Many are promiscuous but they also realize that it’s better to hold off while they extract as much value from the man as they can
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:24 AM
4

It’s good and bad. It’s always a compliment when they think you’re a player because it means that they believe you get a lot of girls and they likely believe you can get them as well if you tried. So you’re already past the hurdle that is so difficult for others to achieve - them seeing you in a sexual way. All you need now is more confidence and a “fake it till you make it” attitude and you should be able to pull these girls. They already have their excuse as to why they slept with you - you’re…
/r/seduction09/01/25 09:26 PM
7

That makes sense I guess but why would you even want to go back to the same place with different women? And the idea of tipping big is really just contingent on your actual bill. If your bill is $20 and you tip $10, the tip is still less than if your bill is $200 and you tip $30. For the latter, you tipped the standard 15% instead of 50%. What should be most important to the waiters is if you’re a big spender, not exactly a big tipper. Are you someone that is impulsive and buys bottles of wine a…
/r/seduction05/01/25 09:52 PM
5

I’ll be honest, reading these just makes me assume you’re not very observant and aware. That is going to continue leading you into a lot of trouble.
/r/seduction04/01/25 09:12 PM
6

First of all, you need to acknowledge that she's at her place of work and her being nice to you is because she's literally paid to do so. There's also no shame with it either because most of these baristas/waitresses get hit on all the time at work, but just be respectful. With that in mind, do you still feel that she's interested in you beyond the bare minimum? If so, then you can feel free to ask her out. You can start off by gauging her interest and playfulness a bit - ask her to suggest some…
/r/seduction31/12/24 12:20 AM
5

Not always. Everyone here is on different levels and it helps OP that he was able to have the girl comfortable enough with him to share information.
/r/seduction19/11/24 02:15 PM
1

50 pounds heavier is crazy particularly for a woman, that’s a different person. Surely she must have apologized for catfishing or did the two of you just pretend it was normal? Either way, you got played. Next time, pay for her Uber there if you must, but you don’t need to pay the way back.
/r/seduction25/03/24 02:20 PM
14

I remember giving this 45 year old woman a chance. Best, sloppiest head I've ever gotten. It wasn't too appealing though when it was actually happening but I still think about her in my daydreams where I don't actually remember what she looks like, just remember what she was doing
/r/seduction01/09/23 11:04 PM
0

This type of girl is pretty rare and usually not that good looking. There are a number of girls that would move on and forget about you if you haven't texted back in two days. The majority of girls (at least that I've encountered) prefer the man to take the lead. In your case, this girl was in the minority in both categories. Except if you're really good looking AND have money and status then you'll find more women pursuing. However, if you're just a normal guy, these women have too much pride t…
/r/seduction01/09/23 11:01 PM
15

Guaranteed she would have sued the police department and the state the next day if he took her up on her offer
/r/PussyPassDenied22/01/23 06:03 PM
1

Lol bro put this on the main post, or better yet, delete this post. That’s not flaking….
/r/seduction17/08/22 02:24 PM
1

Is there a reason why she flaked? Did she apologize and provide an explanation? Depending on the context, even if she’s actually interested, it might be better to drop her. She didn’t respect your time and that means she might not respect you. She might respect you even less or see you as desperate or not lacking values if she can flake you and still get a date with you the next day.
/r/seduction17/08/22 02:23 PM
0

To be fair, this line can actually get a lot of laughs from her if said properly in a low stakes situation. If she didn’t like it, then it may have come off from him as hurtful and intentional. At the end of the day, it’s not about what you say but how you convey it. If you’re not getting your message across, then you’re doing it wrong
/r/seduction28/07/22 12:38 AM
0

There’s nothing wrong with the line itself, it’s more about the delivery and also the context.
/r/seduction28/07/22 12:36 AM
1

Very true, interesting perspective on men being the gatekeepers for relationships.
/r/seduction11/04/22 04:17 PM
1

Weird. The typical girl might have those fantasies but they won’t just want ANYONE to do that to them. It’ll either be people that they trust, OR they’re having rape fantasies. If it’s the latter, and they see you as a big black guy that could be used to fulfill their rape fantasies, I’m not sure if that’s what you’ll want so they might not be for you anyway. These aren’t assumptions that people should make just by looking at them. So, in a way, they were insulting you just based off of looks an…
/r/seduction03/04/22 08:17 PM
1

We are preconditioned to believe that men are to make the approach. But the woman can try making your job easier, but that’s the thing… it’s your job, at least that’s how it’s perceived. Knowing that, if the man doesn’t approach, then he’s either taken or not interested or too shy. In any of those scenarios, she’ll no longer be interested. The times, however, when a woman does approach is if the guy is like way above their league. Low risk but high reward.
/r/seduction29/03/22 03:41 PM
-1

How is this relevant to the conversation? The point is that they can have a hundred people lined up easily, as a mediocre looking person. Whether they choose to do so is up to them.
/r/seduction15/03/22 09:43 PM
1

Yea they’re aware. They’re playing their own game as well. Combined, it’s a game of cat and mouse. However, there isn’t just one right way to play the game. Neymar and Xavi are both legends at the game of soccer. However, they play the game very differently. They add creativity or they keep things strictly fundamental. Either way, they get it done. What turns girls off is guys that are either very stilted and not natural, or guys that aren’t doing what they’re supposed to to progress. Think abou…
/r/seduction15/03/22 09:41 PM
2

Bad sign, basically means that they were being nice and they didn’t find you threatening enough to want to run away from the situation, but that was as far as they were willing to take it. Just because they continue talking doesn’t mean they’re interested. Second, I guess instant dates can work but it’s pulling a hail-Mary. If I was the girl, I’ll be curious about how your plans are changing just like that to be with her. One, girls like guys that are busy. Two, it looks like you’re trying to pi…
/r/seduction06/03/22 05:13 AM
7

We definitely have a greater tolerance for attractive people. We want to trust them and give them the benefit of the doubt
/r/seduction27/02/22 02:57 PM
15

Tbf I just watched a TikTok of this girl explaining how for over half an hour she tried getting a guy she was interested in to talk to her in the gym. Of course, her method of sending signals was just looking at him and being in his vicinity. This included doing a workout she didn’t want to do for over half an hour just so she’ll be near him so he can go up and shoot his shot. Either way, the chances of this occurring are so slim and the risk is too high to be worth shooting the shot. However, i…
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:47 PM
1

If she does do that, you have your answer anyway. You won’t want to be with someone that has their phone with them all the time (everyone does) but answers a week later. They saw your message and figured you can wait because you’re not that important right now.
/r/seduction05/02/22 07:28 AM
1

No one knows why people do what they do. If anything, she might even be on the other end blaming you. Maybe that she texted you that night and you didn’t reply till the next day. As the hours went by, she may have made up her mind that you aren’t shit by leaving her vulnerable like that and she doesn’t need that in her life. Just one example. You can text her again later this weekend, maybe on Sunday and start a new conversation. If she doesn’t reply, that’s your answer, time to keep it moving.
/r/seduction05/02/22 01:14 AM
34

I usually see those on Hinge profiles nowadays. More often than not, they’re single mothers
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:38 AM
21

I’ll assume for those, from what I’ve encountered, is they’ve either watch a lot of porn or read a lot of erotica… solo, introverted activities. And that’s how they’ve been molded. In addition, they tend to go for guys that are more outgoing than they are, so they feel they have something to prove. These are the quiet girls, like you mentioned, shy girls are often still shy in bed, from my experience.
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:56 PM
120

One predictor is when you start talking to her and she says that she’s making a change/ in a new phase and wants to take it slow this time
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:51 PM
44

So I shouldn’t pay all her bills and pay her money?
/r/seduction02/02/22 06:13 AM
1

Lol. I’ll leave you to it then to continue with whatever you spend your day doing, contributing to society and whatnot.
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:15 PM
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Not everyone can compete with your post that is so insightful and full of knowledge. Thank you, you really made me change my mind with your information provided.
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:10 PM
7

It’s not me, I do fine. If anything, I tend to overcompensate due to the creepiness of other guys they could have possibly encountered. I’m just trying to think of scenarios nowadays where you can first disarm the girl long enough to talk to you, open up to you and give you her number with the hopes that you call her for something romantic. Being good looking definitely helps, sure, but then good looking guys do even better on the apps.
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:07 PM
-2

Much harder, especially in a pandemic post-me too era. Girls don’t want to be harassed / flirted on by strangers while trying to get on their day. Dating apps are the only place where they give the strongest hints possible (a right swipe) that they’re interested.
/r/seduction31/01/22 01:43 PM
140

“So anyway I started blasting”
/r/seduction30/01/22 07:59 PM
104

And then she said “I guess it’s smaller everywhere else”
/r/seduction30/01/22 07:57 PM
73

Yea “send me bobs and vagene”. I was shocked that it worked
/r/seduction30/01/22 07:55 PM
1

Introverted people, I personally feel, should be better with their words because they talk when they have something to say. They don’t want the mic on them just for the sake of hearing themselves talk.
/r/seduction30/01/22 03:47 AM
1

The truth is that texting is the norm and the one or two people that do call you stand out because they’re doing something different which is also a bit riskier. But what if, after this post, you now have like 10 guys calling you? That’s a lot of phone calls that take up a lot of time and it’s hard to multi-task while speaking on the phone. Chances are that, by that point, you’ll prefer texting. Extreme example, yes, but I think you should stop speaking authoritatively as if there is only one so…
/r/seduction28/01/22 05:17 PM
1

essentially, it's their game to lose.
/r/seduction22/01/22 05:38 AM
3

You don’t know if she wants it, just because she’s going out on dates that she’s not paying for doesn’t mean she wants it. OP hasn’t given enough info on her
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:29 PM
5

This sounds more like a closure conversation where they part ways amicably after. The issue is that it’s putting pressure on her to perform or to change her mindset, and it’s trying to understand her actions with logic rather than emotions.
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:28 PM
10

He said she hasn’t warmed up to him yet. IMO, if we haven’t at least made out by the second date, it’s over bruh
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:22 PM
0

You have to figure out if you like her enough to keep trucking along. IMO, If she hasn’t warmed up to you by the second date, then she doesn’t like you and she’s using you. But, then again, she might just be very shy, you didn’t give much information and you need to understand what her personality is like. If she’s visibly shy, then she’s waiting for you to make a move. Have you made moves yet? If she’s very personable and still hasn’t warmed up to you yet then she’s using you bruh Try this - go…
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:19 PM
26

RIP 😔
/r/seduction11/01/22 05:59 PM
5

Personally, I like sustainability. I try seeing if it’s something I can do repeatedly. I think 1 hour is a bit too much but that’s also because I believe I can find similar quality much closer to me. I just don’t like driving because gas is so expensive. If I was driving that far to see a woman, it’s very easy to compare it to just paying for an escort. If the trip costs like ~$30 in gas and you also get drinks and food, as well as hours of your day, with no guarantee that the attraction will be…
/r/seduction07/01/22 04:31 PM
1

The risky texts are good because it’s essentially an ultimatum, she either accepts or rejects you, no more beating around the bush. So you’ve never met in person, is she close to you? I hope this isn’t a Euro-trip kinda vibe? Don’t be straightforward with her because it’ll ruin the tension. You can practically say anything but, as long as it takes you closer to meeting her in person. We can’t help you with what you can say because it has to have a natural flow with how you converse. One line won…
/r/seduction06/01/22 01:53 PM
10

It’s possible you might not be a good kisser. The second, you should never try to imply that you’re trying to fuck. “Told her I wanted to take her home” sounds crude. Have some type of excuse that doesn’t make the girl think she’s a slut. Be slick not coarse.
/r/seduction03/01/22 10:09 PM
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I would add a disclaimer to this - you rarely want to do prolonged make outs prior to sex when you’re OUT. If you’re out, at a party or club, make out, then break it off, and repeat but each one should get more intense, and you’re always in control. Essentially, you’re trying to end the make out session before she does.
/r/seduction03/01/22 10:08 PM
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I’ve moved almost exclusively to dating apps but recently I picked up a girl while hanging around downtown. I was trying to find my way to the train station and I was absolutely lost and in a huge rush. I was speaking to some other girls (that I was not remotely attracted to) asking for information, and the girl I picked up was eavesdropping on the conversation. In other words, she was pulled into my world. She laughed when she came closer and I smiled back. Turned out we were heading to the sam…
/r/seduction03/01/22 01:08 PM
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IMO, you don’t have to lock her down for the whole night but you have to get her while she’s hot. That can be done by either just taking her home there and then, taking her outside or to a separate section to get a bit more touchy and to make it known that she’s with you, not with the group. Your mistake was actually going to the club with her in the first place, since you’d already locked her down in the bar. She didn’t go to the club with you, she went to the club with the group. Once she went…
/r/seduction02/01/22 06:50 PM
4

sorry babe, I'm all out of shits to give 😎
/r/seduction17/12/21 02:14 PM
4

With a wink
/r/seduction17/12/21 02:11 PM
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Couple grammatical errors here and there but sure, mhm.
/r/seduction16/12/21 10:04 PM
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Shit pants aggressively
/r/seduction16/12/21 09:38 PM
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I won’t say I have a game plan or know exactly what I’m doing, but it’s happened twice. Once was at a club pretty much at closing time. I was hanging out with a few people I had just met outside, smoking. Two were a couple and the last girl was a friend. We ended up sharing laughs and all that, learnt more about them and then started getting close to the single girl (I barely remember how she looks like, just remember she was older than me (a local) and really good looking).The couple left and I…
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:59 AM
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I agree entirely and I’ve been in the situation you were in my whole life. All of these girls always telling me that they’re done with their hoe phase, which basically just means they want to be wined and dined. Sex almost always ends up happening anyway, it just takes two-three dates and keeping communication levels high when I would have preferred that day. So what did you change to build up that “fuckboy” side?
/r/seduction01/12/21 07:46 PM
3

What was her race? If she was any other race but black, mixed children tend to do pretty well…
/r/seduction01/12/21 07:41 PM
1

I was also wondering... as a bisexual woman, taking gender attractiveness out of the equation, do you prefer the courting of/with men over the courting of/with women, all things equal? I assume with men, you feel better being pursued, while with women, there might be more mixed, confusing signals and less initiative taken (I might be wrong, this is how most men feel).
/r/seduction17/11/20 08:21 PM
1

It'll be interesting to find out who of the two you end up sticking with
/r/seduction17/11/20 07:59 PM
1

she "tried to rape me"*
/r/PussyPassDenied25/10/20 03:35 PM
3

I agree with that, but the wealth you accumulate when you're young will what will be your support and ladder once you're older. This goes for both genders. We're not talking about strippers that have a short shelf life, we're talking about women that gain access to parties, networks and connections that the average man might not be privy to. And that is often without paying a dime. How she chooses to leverage is up to her. Like I said, many, if not all, of the limitations tend to come from the w…
/r/PussyPassDenied05/10/20 12:40 PM
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Tbh, (in the developed world)a girl tends to have more advantages in life and I can go as far as to say that any limitations nowadays are self-constructed by women. But several of those advantages tend to correlate highly with looks. But looks isn't destined by birth, girls can still look good by effectively using makeup and working out.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/10/20 10:23 AM
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Is it just me, or does she look like a man that's attempting to reap the benefits of being a woman?
/r/PussyPassDenied03/10/20 04:14 PM
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Often like that in work settings as well
/r/PussyPassDenied30/09/20 03:31 AM
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Hey I just met you, and this is crazy, but here’s my number, and call me Baby
/r/seduction30/09/19 01:09 AM
2

Sounds good thanks, I’ll look into the book. I actually usually use the second option you suggested. But I notice more often than not they ask why I want to kiss them. Like wtf I didn’t prepare for an interview
/r/seduction29/07/19 06:56 AM
3

Damn why the aggression?... Tbh it’s usually better to “creatively” lie, because the truth is never really that interesting.
/r/seduction05/05/19 12:44 AM
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Not gonna judge, and that’s not the point of this thread
/r/seduction04/08/18 12:38 PM
1

A woman will never laugh at you. And in the rare case that a woman does, she would be so extremely rude or entitled that it would never be worth it even following up. At the same time, stay within a safe range. If you’re a 5, to ask Beyoncé for her number would be ballsy, yes, but extremely inefficient. In other words, if you play ball, don’t take low percentage (or no percentage) shots
/r/seduction04/08/18 11:00 AM
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Likely unpopular opinion here -- First off, I appreciate the write up But a few critiques: First, it's much, much easier to get the woman intrigued about your false assumption if she's already intrigued by you. Just like a woman that already likes you will laugh at your jokes, no matter how bad they objectively are. If she doesn't know you and/or is not attracted to you, she'll think you're just talking shit, or being pretentious especially if you're trying to make a FALSE assumption. Secondly, …
/r/seduction26/07/18 11:17 AM
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Ask them what they like about it, or other open ended questions like that. Get them talking. Art is inspiring and subjective. Your inspiration and vision towards your art might be very different from how others view it. I know this is more about you wanting to keep the conversation going, but you might actually be astounded as to how someone’s art can move a person. At the very worst, it calls them out and gets them thinking. even if they didn’t initially like it THAT much, with their response, …
/r/seduction24/07/18 05:33 PM
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very true
/r/seduction09/03/18 03:14 PM
1

From all over. Looking for suggestions. Yesterday, I took National Geographic's Photo of the Day
/r/seduction02/02/18 11:41 PM
1

great idea. I started yesterday, using the National Geographic picture linked above. I first recorded my voice, everything impromptu, then I transcribed my recording. It was pretty difficult...
/r/seduction02/02/18 11:40 PM
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