Getting Back Into Cold Approach. Does It Get Easier?

Back2theCouture · 2026-06-13T00:33:55+00:00

Cold approach is good when you can spark an initial attraction. The whole shebang, from your looks to your social skills.

If you’re attracted to her because like you said she’s cute, what do you think that makes her attracted to you? Or as a classic question goes: if you were in a woman’s shoes, would you date yourself?

OpinionThink481 · 2026-06-13T12:35:23+00:00

There was no connection that's why she turned down your invitation.

Asking a bunch of question and then for a date is usually unlikely to work because it feels more like an interview where you hope to get a reward in the end, than an actual genuine connection where you two just clicked and enjoyed each other's time enough to justify seeing each other again.

Be honest with yourself, you did not actually enjoy the interaction all that much because she did not actually participate in an engaging way with it. So you asking for a number is more like you just wanting a positive outcome from it in a forceful way rather than a genuine move that is justified. That's how she felt it and if you are honest with yourself, you probably felt it too the same way.

TBearYCF · 2026-06-13T01:15:30+00:00

Kudos for trying. Can’t win ‘em all. You’ll get there. Keep up the good work

haftzabaa · 2026-06-13T14:05:05+00:00

Yes this is normal.

How many approaches have you done?

No-Buy-3105 · 2026-06-13T17:39:37+00:00

Cold approach is waaaaaaay harder than it needs to be. You should at least be able to go up to the vast majority of women and have a nice conversation, but the problem is a good majority of women in the US don’t like being approached in public and many will act disgraceful even if you come up with good intentions and are nice and polite. You can’t even talk about this either without a bunch of people saying “well you must have had it coming”, like it’s your fault that the girl is acting disgraceful towards you no matter what. And you may hear “oh just don’t be weird”, but the threshold for what a girl finds weird is very VERY low and it could be something as minuscule as your accent

Confident_Ad_9710 · 2026-06-14T17:13:33+00:00

Brother i keep taking L’s but atleast im trying.Just don’t stop

BrutalLeeMean · 2026-06-13T00:44:47+00:00

What always worked for me is starting off slowly if i always saw her walking her dog. I’d say “hi” one day then when i see her again i’d say “how are u?” then i see her again say “hello how you doing?” so on and so forth ..

it gets easier as u see them & greet them on a routine basis because that can lead to small talk to a point they get use to seeing you. Then small talk leads to conversation. If conversations go good then u take a shot or wait after a few more encounters then take ur shot ..

random_question4123 · 2026-06-13T03:38:10+00:00

Don't want to be a bummer but cold approach should really only be easy for those that are tall and handsome. In other words, she has to be quite attracted to you off the rip.

I'll assume you're not a tall and handsome guy, even if you've worked on yourself for however long. It gets harder for people like us, but it's not impossible.

But because the interest isn't going to be mutual immediately, your initial primary focus isn't on gaining attraction or finding out more about her, but it's actually on disarming her.

Title	Getting Back Into Cold Approach. Does It Get Easier?
Author	OrlandoLasso
Upvotes	4
Comments	36
Date	June 12, 2026 11:58 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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