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| 1 | Are there non-gendered social movement alternatives to TRP, MGTOW or incels?If you really want to wake up out of the matrix. Google Humanities Team | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/22 05:01 AM |
| -1 | How do I stop seeing my gf as a slut and resenting her because of it?Is she into women? Then you can do those things together. Aside from that you’ll be happy to note the memory that we use to store experiences with others is fuelled by feelings. Make her feel the best and she will forget the rest. Here are some tips. Try role playing. Look into bdsm especially romantic bdsm. Buy sex games. Master the karma sutra. There are tons of stuff you can do to embrace your sex positive women. We all have a so called ho side When we embrace it and nurture it in a healthy m… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/22 02:59 AM |
| -1 | Looks is all there is in dating?That is the first step of reframing. You have to build trust, understanding etc, thus you have to first see we’re they are coming from and acknowledge validate how their viewpoints as perceptions shapes your reality. Once you do this you then start (with their permission and informed consent) to challenge their views by getting them to see how, how they see things is affecting their life and causing the effects of what they don’t want to experience. Mathew third step is to offer solutions that r… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Looks is all there is in dating?Great insights here. I usually do the above when working on larger projects or doing my YouTube videos. Never thought I should fully apply code of ethics to Reddit or other forum like spaces. Definitely lots to reflect on. Thank you for your suggestions. I greatly appreciate them. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of Stirling Cooper?Who that? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 05:21 PM |
| -1 | Looks is all there is in dating?See my previous comments in this thread for why I am doing this. But you are correct. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 05:18 PM |
| -4 | Looks is all there is in dating?See my comments regarding why I wrote this in other answers. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 04:20 PM |
| -3 | Looks is all there is in dating?No I’m someone who is studying psychology. I help people in all walks of life. Part of that help involves seeing things from their point of view then reframing them to a more realistic view. But hey you are free to think what you want about me or what I write. Your opinion is like a grain of sand in the ocean. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 04:20 PM |
| -3 | Looks is all there is in dating?I’m doing this more for black pill people as help them as part of my living. Part of that help involves reframing, we’re I show them concepts they know relate to them then provide them things to help shift their perception and thus mindset. Shifting perception and replacing old perceived values and principles with new ones is how you create long lasting behaviour. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 04:18 PM |
| 2 | I don’t want to believe in the redpill but I keep seeing some of the things they say manifest themselves in real lifeI’m not knocking your journey. ☺️ I view life like roads. No path is wrong. Some more bumpy or long but all paths are valid. I just like sharing and expanding ideas and I don’t like how people look at pseudo science and say no value here cause it’s not rooted in truth. When in reality all experiences have some truth to them. It’s just a matter of finding what it is. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/10/22 12:50 PM |
| 5 | I don’t want to believe in the redpill but I keep seeing some of the things they say manifest themselves in real lifeLove language I believe is only pseudo science because of its claim that ways we show love are found only five ways. There is very real truth to ways that we feel loved correlate to the behaviour. But a main problem with that claim is some feel the love they deserve is abusive thus the way they want to be loved is abuse. A good example of this would be those who get pleasure out of abusive acts in bdsm. The only difference is the sensation and emotion tied behind bdsm then say traumatic abuse. T… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/22 01:20 PM |
| 3 | I don’t want to believe in the redpill but I keep seeing some of the things they say manifest themselves in real lifeShe has a broken attachment style that involves some insecurity based traits resulting in insecurity based behaviours. People with these traits and behaviours tend to have two core limiting beliefs. 1: I am not truly worthy of love. 2: I worry others will prove that I am unworthy of love. As a result these people especially in their extremes tend to self sabotage relationships and or sabotage those who are building relationships with them. Your girl saying say I love you more might be her saying… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/22 01:12 PM |
| 1 | What are the correct, non toxic/non redpill influenced way women should live in their 20’s?The way you want unless you want to be imprisoned by doing things to get others to give you what you want. Then be how they want you but know that that comes with extreme probability of developing anxiety; depression etc resulting in you spiralling down and changing yourself to the point where you lose what you tried so hard to be what you thought you wanted wanted you to be. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/22 01:02 PM |
| 1 | True or False: Red Pillers not disclosing their involvement in a known sex cult where lying, coersion, manipulation, and unsafe psychological mind control tactics are taught as strategies to gain sex is against informed consent.How does red pill control the mind and control the the victims of red pill mind? For control to exist the victim must already believe in one or more of what’s being controlled to be either a fact of reality or a fact of plausible reality. These red pill ideas work so well because they use science and societies perception of science as the truth along with tapping into peoples lived experiences that seem true to plug into their victims perceptions of truth and science being true along with one’s … | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/22 12:57 PM |
| 0 | What we men have lost.I’m glad you loved it I highly recommend reading The way of the superior man and masculine in relationship as it’s all about understanding these concepts and applying them in life. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/10/22 01:33 AM |
| 0 | What we men have lost.We do this because society has constructed what masculine and feminine traits are. Much literature on the topic but most say the difference is the masculine (which could be anyone) wants and is all about freedom, the feminine is all about love and the pursuit of unconditional love for all things. When you combine the two it becomes the freedom to love being loved and free in all areas which is an entire life journey in itself. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/10/22 12:45 PM |
| 1 | What we men have lost.Never do things to get things. Become things because it’s who you are and it were meant to be. Are we meant to be anxious? Fear driven beyond action? Deep rooted issues related to learned helplessness. Entrapped in a society snd system design to make you broke; miserable, and depressed? When you think about it, it seems much of what men lack is not soo much masculinity but freedom; agency of their life and the ability to truly be anything and anyone they want given a moment. Ironically this chec… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/10/22 12:41 PM |
| 4 | ISO the terminology for the pathology of someone (Red Pillers) who can't comprehend that humans have a full spectrum of emotions.Thank you and I think IMO your story has a lot to do with attachment then any girl or guy logic. In fact, you remind me a lot of someone who has a disorganized attachment style and your friend might have the same. In fact I’d argue that most people with fear of abandonment tend to flip flop between insecure (I need him) and avoidant (I don’t need him) Also imo the through lines (subconscious core)of those attachment styles come from two sources of love. The first is insecure in that one fears th… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/10/22 06:38 PM |
| 3 | ISO the terminology for the pathology of someone (Red Pillers) who can't comprehend that humans have a full spectrum of emotions.I’ll respond more later. Oh I have recovered fully. I’m actually training to become a clinical psych and help others do the same. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/10/22 04:52 PM |
| 8 | ISO the terminology for the pathology of someone (Red Pillers) who can't comprehend that humans have a full spectrum of emotions.Yes what you are talking about is splitting and comes from mainly borderline personality literature. As a fellow bordie, unless we effortlessly work at rewriting this neuro circuitry we tend to only see people based on what they do for us as either a good or bad person. This one of the hallmark reasons why people with bpd are seen as manipulative because much of our relationships if not required through therapy or other means feel transactional as in… A person treats me well they are God I must … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/10/22 03:21 PM |
| 1 | For those in successful, happy relationships, what advice do you have for the PPD community?Read David Deida and the masculine in relationship and you’ll have no issues in relationships. I am serious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/22 01:39 AM |
| 1 | How can a grown 30+ year old man fall for this stuff?Throw half your shit out, lose most of your personality purpose, if you have kids drop them off somewhere you can’t access them, take your income divide it by two and throw it down a drain. It’s not hard to see why some older men feel the to offers a solution to their issues when you look at life from there perspective. This goes for any issue or person you heavily disagree with. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/10/22 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Masculine and feminine energy and the three stages of interaction between them.Why do you care soo much what others do? People have found value in this post. Others have not. Yet you seem to feel the need to ask somone you disagree with to stop? Why? Who or what has hurt you soo much in relation to this post that you feel the need to control it’s narrative? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/22 08:14 PM |
| -1 | One of the latest studies on the outcomes fatherless families, shows that what matters more are positive male role models more than a mere father at home.They don’t need to be seen as the norm. But it is a research fallacy to say that this effect will have an identical effect in another country even if they are similar in social conditioning. It’s the same reason why statistics only relate to the actual stat they are pointing to and not the entire subject matter which is something to misrepresents constantly. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/22 05:02 PM |
| -1 | One of the latest studies on the outcomes fatherless families, shows that what matters more are positive male role models more than a mere father at home.But it’s still not a western pop and therefore cannot be applied to fathers in the west. It can only be applied to fathers in the area they are in. This is the bio-psycho-social approach. Social conditioning plays an immense role on one’s perception and behaviours. This is why research is only meant to be applied to the pop it is being studied on not the entire group as a whole. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/22 05:00 PM |
| -14 | One of the latest studies on the outcomes fatherless families, shows that what matters more are positive male role models more than a mere father at home.It’s actually still about having a relationship with your bio father. Same with if the mother was not present you’d still want that relationship. It’s why child services never fully remove parents including abusive ones from seeing kids as that alone has a huge effect on child development. A sample size of eighteen in a completely different country than the west is not enough to go on. There are a myriad other factors to consider as well such as neuro synchronization and wether these role models… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/22 07:25 AM |
| -7 | One of the latest studies on the outcomes fatherless families, shows that what matters more are positive male role models more than a mere father at home.You have to re read the abstract again. Also as a psych major it’s important to know any study that does not have a sample size larger than 30 needs more data as the data is most likely skewed one way or another. Also the abstract portion says it still impacted them not having a father it was just less an impact. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/22 07:20 AM |
| 0 | The saddest groups on Earth?That’s not what this post was talking about. It was talking about how family court system fuelled by gov laws for that court system makes family court way more combative family destructive than it needs to be when it comes to separation and divorce. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/10/22 10:06 AM |
| 0 | Why Game Is F*cking Us All Up - how PUA / Redpill strategies lead to long term dissatisfaction and unhappiness (For Exredpill men)Did you used to be apart of pickup? Like simple pickup etc? You look very familiar and as someone with a high research interest in this space (also pursuing psych as a career) I find your journey quite fascinating. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | The real red pill is that we live in a superficial society and 90% of people have poor judge of character and an inability to accurately self assess/ reflect.IMO and based on my experience and knowledge we live on a very young primitive-barbaric planet at worst created by a very young divine entity which if we are not careful will be destined to slowly erase our existence as a species if we continue on the downward spiral we are going on. But that does not mean we do not give up hope or go full sooner. Much to love and appreciate in life. Personally I love everything positive negative I find the beauty of the world is the fact that imperfection is pe… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 11:28 PM |
| -3 | The saddest groups on Earth?Great questions to look Into. I know the group data I gathered is skewed because it’s on a site we’re fathers are in the system. So to answer that we’d have to look elsewhere. Many I’d argue is because they did not want kids to begin with, and they can’t get a financial abortion so they resort to abandonment. Others (I know this from what some of my female friends who had kids said) the father left cause they felt unfit or unable to care for the children. Some reasons sighted were drug/alcohol a… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 08:35 PM |
| 2 | The saddest groups on Earth?Great question. Thanks for the probe. Many want to know what their legal options are when they get alienated; the mother moves or is in contempt of court or tries a myriad of other things to punish the father in some way. Many want to know how to cope manage their exes new partners whom they have many (and rightfully so) issues with ranging from concerns of child abuse; jealousy, feeling like they been replaced, feeling less than a father, among others things. Many want to actually know how to g… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 05:13 PM |
| 2 | The saddest groups on Earth?Great question. Thanks for the probe. Many want to know what their legal options are when they get alienated; the mother moves or is in contempt of court or tries a myriad of other things to punish the father in some way. Many want to know how to cope manage their exes new partners whom they have many (and rightfully so) issues with ranging from concerns of child abuse; jealousy, feeling like they been replaced, feeling less than a father, among others things. Many want to actually know how to g… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 05:08 PM |
| 1 | The saddest groups on Earth?Why? I’m going to get banned from school for talking about the issues that plague fathers in relation to the broken family epidemic created by family court and gov to make those institutions a ton of money? That’s not a conspiracy theory. Both gov and family court are tied together. Tons of studies on this and even a very good documentary called divorce corp highlight the fact that couples come out of family court more combative then when they started and that severely effects their kids. I also… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 04:53 PM |
| 3 | The saddest groups on Earth?Ahh I see. Thanks for the feedback. I will take it into account the next time I talk about this topic. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 04:05 PM |
| -1 | The saddest groups on Earth?Saddest not like that person is sad, but like how the emotion applies. It’s probably one of the most sad depressing and lonely places that captures the essence most issues men have today. As an upper year psych student whose been in a lot of negative spaces including areas like inceldom anti social behaviour , I have never been in a space were I can read only one or two stories posts and say I am done for the day. I really do want to go on the mother side because I have a feeling it may also be … | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 03:20 PM |
| 2 | I can't leave the Red Pill because I have a redpilled friend that is insanely good with womenHave you ever seen him get rejected? How are women who are securely stretched view him? He might just be attracting heavily insecure and avoidant women. The women may only just want to have fun and or use him to rise up in the company. I can tell you right now you act like this long term separation will be coming soon unless the women has deeply lost self love and respect fully. Also what would you say is defined as rude disrespectful behavior? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Trying to prove that banning hate communities has positive effects on recovery communitiesJust watched a video on this topic. Banning a community does not solve the issue. The issue is the toxic ideology which sadly to many can be viewed as their perception of the truth especially if they have an broken attachment style. You need to solve the things that lead to the creation of these movements which always comes back to society. Society makes these groups not actual people as they are reactionary groups to how people see the world based on how they think society operates hence why th… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/22 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Is being “BB”, settled for, or being seen as the “safe/stable” guy a valid concern?Only if you are insecure in assuming that role. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/22 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Masculine and feminine energy and the three stages of interaction between them.You can actually prove this in science as love and freedom are constructs. When you align the traits associated to love and freedom with the traits associated to what this world says to be masculine and feminine the constructs seem to align. But you are right we can believe what we want. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/22 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Who came up with the idea that women like douchebags?Because at least 50% do though if they could chose to not live d bags they would. Just many feel either they can’t or aren’t fully liveable and or no one can live them to the extent that they want so they go for men whom display at least the toxic masculine traits as opposed to the divine masculine or toxic feminine as opposed to divine feminine. Yet men and others also do the same. My sources for this is attachment theory statistics that suggest 50% of people have some form of broken attachment… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/10/22 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Is redpill right about pair bonding?Great resource Andrew Huberman the science of desire live atrstchment on YouTube is a meta analysis of the hard science behind all forms of love from lust/desire love attachment aka bonding. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/22 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Is redpill right about pair bonding?Only if the women has some serious trauma issues from the myriad of relationships but it’s not failure to pair bond rather than a break in secure attachment or spiral downward of broken attstchment. Also one of the scientific terms for pair bonding is actually called neuro synchronization. Lastly men can have this break in pair bond too. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/22 08:50 PM |
| 1 | An Interesting StoryPersonally my views as an equal opportunity etc person on feminism is that equality actually comes from math specifically equation solving and the rule of what you do for one side you do to another. When you apply this rule to society and groups of people within it’s what you do for one you do for another. Even if you don’t like disagree or hate the other or view the other person as pure evil. And that is the catch. We do not do for those people what we do for their victims thus creating more vi… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/22 11:24 AM |
| 2 | AA/BB is a MisunderstandingAA, tends to correlate to women with various short term mating preferences and strategies that relate to their cultures exoticness; luxury, novelty, aesthetics. This is why in the west you have the bad boy, in the eat it’s k pop stars. While BB tends to be the opposite and relates to long term which in any culture is about building growing and strengthening a family unit Yet the AF and BB is actually something that relates to what happens when a women whom has children has to leave their partner… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/22 09:24 PM |
| 3 | What do you think is the reason for promiscuity being a better predictor of infidelity in men than in women?I will also add that dual mating strategy mating people tend to move from one preferred vr to another in correlation with the attachment style their last partner gave them evident by what is called neuro pdybchrinizatikn a fancy term to mean we synchronize are neurological systems especially the parasympathetic and sympathetic systems to those we love closet. This also aligns with the dual mating hypothesis theory that says we all have a short term and long term mating preference and strategy th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 08:56 PM |
| 3 | What do you think is the reason for promiscuity being a better predictor of infidelity in men than in women?Neuroscience and the neuro pathways regarding short term mating preferences and strategies as well as the dopamine circuit relating to said preferences and strategies. Casual sex people view sex highly differently then monogamous people. Monogamous view it as part of commitment as something to be more cherished and used in a balanced thus subjectively healthy way. Promiscuous people tend to view it more as a means to achieve an end (more sexual prowess, feel good, sexual release, or release of h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Question to r/exredpill; Do the women in these videos exist in the real world? How do you avoid them? I mean r/exredpill tells me that these women don't exist.Every type of man every type of women exists Keep in mind this yt has an agenda and it may bias towards it. But yes everyone you can imagine exists. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Do things like this confirm the redpill narrative?Dual mating does not mean both strategies are on all the time (on meaning the neuro pathways that motivate us to particular behaviours) People who are securely attached or people who want only long term have their short preference and strategies off as they currently prefer long term. People with broken attachment younger people and people not looking for long term tend to be the opposite. To know where someone is in terms of mating preferences pay attention to what they do not what they say. Of… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Do things like this confirm the redpill narrative?No it means that the author understand they like all humans have both a short term and long term mating preference and strategy. Though most people only have it subconsciously you have it consciously. That said I’d caution dating dark triad people unless you have secure attachment and iron clad boundaries and ability to keep boundaries. There is no bad person just very difficult deeply wired brains that make interacting with these people very high risk in terms of negatively impacting your life.… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/22 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Ex RP’ers, I have a questionBoth sexes have what are called short term and long term mating preferences and strategies relating to them. If you were to look at the brain pathways associated with short term and long term mating in humans you’d easily see that both preferences and strategies tend to be opposite each other. For both men and women, short term mating correlated highly to traits relating to novelty; luxury, exoticness aesthetics or what many call looks; money status and exoticness essentially being associated to… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/22 03:09 AM |
| 1 | “Masculinity” and “Femininity” are a myth!You are not wrong. Since women and men are reversing their traditional societally conditioned roles based on the hyper fantisization of them in society you are starting to see women act like men and men act like women according to what’s masculine and what’s feminine. I would theorize here that if you looked at the nerves and neuro pathways (nerve connected ruins) firing off in the brain of a masculine women and masculine man or vice versa the pathways that are active would be identical or close… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 01:23 PM |
| 0 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.You don’t need credentials or authored papers to understand; summarize and utilize science in your life. If you want the people who have credentials to understand the above discuss what I am talking about here, you can watch this video which is essentially a summary of the current scientific literature on how love; desire and attachment (pair bonding) works. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gMRph_BvHB4 This person is highly qualified to talk about these things. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/09/22 06:32 AM |
| -1 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.I did not say men don’t produce it. I said bond more with vassopressin. They still bond with oxytocin. Same with dopamine and serotonin. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/22 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Why women don’t succesively hit a wall - the best age to date is late 20s.We were never meant to age past 30. Shit most people hit the hay back in the day at a very young age. Humans created longer lifespans but have failed to find a way to reverse the aging process which can be done. But we are not there yet scientifically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/22 09:39 PM |
| 0 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.I said men bond the highest with vasopressin women bond the highest with oxytocin. Oxytocin is a bonding hormone and science is very clear on this. You can even look at a purely scientific video here on the entire mating loving and bonding process. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gMRph_BvHB4 Also a tendency for something to be more present does not mean there are not outliers and the tendency is always large. Much of the variance is dependant on the person and their own brain body mind wiring and … | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Psychology in Seattle on Andrew tateI also recommend this channel. One of my favourite Psychologists to learn from as someone who is working towards becoming one myself. Dr. Hondas empathy knows no bounds which is the thing I love about him the most. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/22 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.Just because you disagree with something does not make it less valuable for others who may find this useful. If you have criticisms about what I write I am all for it.In fact I encourage it and every-time I see you critique me it makes me happy. You are my favourite critic actually. I am not writing a blog though. I am writing out things that I think will help the ex redpill community as I work with both ex red pill red pill black pill and other Manosphere pills a lot. I am also well versed in t… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/22 10:33 AM |
| 0 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.This post refers specifically to bio parents as these responses are found and have been studied biologically; physiologically neurologically etc. A great video that summarizes some of the main points here is called the science of love desire and attachment by neuro scientist Andrew Huberman. He has a YT channel I highly recommend especially if you want to get out of a cult know the simple science of changing behaviours etc. He goes to great lengths explaining the studies in ways his students (He… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/22 10:06 AM |
| -3 | Why men feel blind sided in divorce.No | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/22 09:55 AM |
| 6 | How do I not go down the negative loopTinder is a looks based app designed to get ALL ITS users (from its buyers (men) to its product (women) addicted and conditioned to value looks over everything else) It uses the power of the dopamine loop and the weakness of the brain not being able to identify and discriminate dopamine influences to accomplish this. It is not only highly addictive, but as any highly addictive substance does leads to anxiety: depression. Suicidal ideation, decreased meaningful relationships, decreased satisfacti… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/09/22 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Why people say they want one thing but do or go after the other.You really want me to pull the info from my textbook that I sources. This data can be found in chapter 3, specifically part of dual tract mind dual processing. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 08:49 PM |
| 8 | Do redpill guys feel love?Avoidant attached people which is what most rp men with that philosophy have are of the subconscious opinion that very few if any are capable of love. Insecure attached is actually the reverse. That most people are incapable of loving them because they are deeply flawed or unliveable. And both sides use the opposite sex to validate their attachment style of such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 01:23 PM |
| 5 | Why people say they want one thing but do or go after the other.Hormones are to me simply stronger chemical reactions than emotions. Thus if you feel the hormones and allow them to pass they usually do. In my youth I chose much of it to be a virgin because of my own mental health disorders and used the above method to let a lot of hormonal urges pass lol. But I do agree that hormonal management would greatly benefit teens. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 11:12 AM |
| 4 | Why people say they want one thing but do or go after the other.Wow, thanks for sharing your experiences. It seems like you have been through a lot but also learned and grown a lot and are doing much better now. Yes subconscious sabotage and other subconscious negative feedback loops are a very powerful thing. One thing I find fascinating is how once you start to know these things your brain will give you thought reminders but you’ll still feel compelled to do the opposite. I also find it fascinating how our two track mind is always operating both at the sam… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 11:09 AM |
| 0 | Why people say they want one thing but do or go after the other.https://www.gailmarrahypnotherapy.com/9-interesting-facts-about-your-subconscious-mind/ | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Why people say they want one thing but do or go after the other.We process 40 stimuli consciously and 95000 stimuli unconsciously. A lot of what we do is subconscious. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/22 10:59 AM |
| 3 | Porn is actually the best way for men to learn to have sex with womenMen focus too much on physical technique instead of emotional/psychological technique which is what is needed for a women to have the most thrilling orgasms. From my experience you need to do very little physically provided you are 100% present and also stimulating her psychology/emotions in relation to sex. Don’t know what I am talking about? Read some erotica or female romance novels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 12:16 PM |
| 1 | My red pill cult has died.🤣🤣 (Yes my 5 year old daughter let them all starve to death)For context this is the game Cult of the Lamb. Highly recommend. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/09/22 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Sick and tired of the "marketplace" analogyEvery aspect of the world is a market in a society revolving around capitalism. Though what you are worth in a market is subjective on your product (yourself) and the customer (those interested in your product) | /r/ExRedPill | 14/09/22 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Is it over for autistic men?No it’s not. I am actually designing a social program for autism (both men and women) as my oldest might be in the spectrum and I growing up had high autistic traits which I actually reversed ironically through learning acting. (A very logical way of understanding human behaviour and getting physical practice in communication) Don’t let the autism diagnosis rule your life. You are not broken, you are different. So you need a different way to do things. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/09/22 08:31 AM |
| 2 | If What we are attracted too is all subconscious, what's the point?You can change who you are attracted to by bringing your attraction patterns into the conscious and by developing a different attachment style. The brain is 100% malleable a pain neuro plasticity. Yes we lose some of that as we age but if you combined focus effort with deep relaxation you produce natural dopamine than produce natural serotonin which then boost your neuro plasticity (brains ability to adapt and learn new pathways while using the brains pruning process to create new ones) Thus the… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/09/22 08:06 AM |
| 1 | i feel like blackpill is reality and there is no "detox" from it.Nothing unless you imply it’s only women. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/22 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Does Red Pill trick men into thinking women are Borderline by ways of giving them PTSD from the Red Pill system (dread game, affection withdrawal, use of fear tactics, etc.)?Very true and very sad indeed. Then you factor in that 85% of people who get help don’t fully recover or stay recovered and that’s really were the idea of fixed personality comes from. The psychology field needs a lot of work especially in the modern world. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Does Red Pill trick men into thinking women are Borderline by ways of giving them PTSD from the Red Pill system (dread game, affection withdrawal, use of fear tactics, etc.)?Who told you personality disorders are fixed? They like every other part of the brain is not fixed. The brain is extremely plastic. In childhood it’s the most plastic unless you understand how neuro plasticity works and do the work to optimize plasticity as you age. I know this first hand as I reversed three mental disorders I was diagnosed with, including bpd, not to mention suicide ideation; complex ptsd and depressive disorder. If these things were fixed my life would be extremely different t… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | i feel like blackpill is reality and there is no "detox" from it.People rarely consciously choose their partners. In fact we do 95% of things in life subconsciously as we can only be aware and process at max 40 stimuli per second despite taking in 100k+ per second. Thus much of our behaviour comes from social and environmental conditioning. Only consciously aware partners choose who they attract which is few and far between. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/22 01:41 PM |
| 1 | There's no guide telling men to watch out for, and that hurts our views towards womenDr. Sean T Kirks Tactical Guide to dating women is actually what you are looking for. Another good one is Dr. Robert Glover Dating Essentials For Men. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/22 05:33 AM |
| 2 | i feel like blackpill is reality and there is no "detox" from it.Let me help you here. Women having it easier? Reality: Women have the ability to have sex easier than men. However much of the extra opportunity for sex women have women don’t want. And the sex they do want tends to end not in the way they want which is usually a relationship. So while women get more attention especially when it comes to sex, women are still quite lonely and empty unless they don’t mind being single or have a loving partner. Hypergamy: All humans want the best they can get and a… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/22 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Dr. Glover and newest book red pill?What are the name of the other books you are reading? Sounds interesting. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/22 12:58 PM |
| 5 | "dick is low value and abundant"If you have thousands of turd nuggets in your dms are you quality rich or simply trapped in a pile of shit? Yes men are abundant. But the men women truly want,are extremely rare. And this does not take into account the subconscious negative feedback loops we all have after putting up with shit for quite awhile. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/09/22 12:54 PM |
| 1 | How did you cure or treat your attachment style?Very welcome. OP. Take care. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/09/22 01:56 AM |
| 1 | How did you cure or treat your attachment style?Anxious attachment is a fancy term to say you do not have security in yourself when it comes to love. There is many aspects of this but usually the biggest ones are feeling like you cannot be loved; feeling others cannot love, feeling like the love you do deserve has to be toxic in someway. These are feelings that of course due to repetition patterns end up ingrained not concious my but subconsciously which considering we can only be aware of 40 stimuli per second but process thousands per secon… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | The modern neuroscience of loveHere is also another fascinating study on neuro synchronization between mothers and babies. https://www.technologynetworks.com/neuroscience/news/baby-brainwaves-sync-up-with-their-moms-317310 | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | We are dating but she still wanna meet her ex Boyfriend, is it a red flag?My rules for this stuff are simple. Non exclusive means you can do whatever you want with whoever you want. Exclusive means you can still do that but if you do anything sexual then it’s back to a non exclusive relationship. Just because you can’t be monogamous does not mean I have to get rid of you. You are not my property. You are human. You like me make mistakes. Also if you have guy friends same applies. But if they cause drama etc issues with the relationship than you either have to cut them… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/22 10:18 PM |
| 6 | should I(female) die once I can't reproduce anymore?You are going to have two kids but then kill yourself when you enter menopause? And you don’t think these kids are going to be quite hit by that how? Oh sorry honey but Mommy can only be around until I stop bleeding because a very fringe minority of society thinks I am the equivalent of a used up beaten down horse who has to go to the glue factory. I’m not trying to hurt you here, but rather point out the absurdity of your thinking. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/22 10:12 PM |
| 1 | The positive and highly ethical guide to “cold approaching” anyone for anyone part 1. Inner game and your frame part1.There’s no game involved here. Not sure we’re you see game in creating genuine social connection? | /r/ExRedPill | 31/08/22 05:09 AM |
| 2 | What almost everyone gets wrong about depression.It’s great that you have personally found ways to cope with your depression more. Hopefully as you begin to further manage your emotions you’ll further become less depressed. Light exercise can help. When I am depressed I actually walk and listen to something that spiritually moves me daily which is essentially walking while meditating. Many people think meditation is sitting on the floor in your room when reality is meditation is doing anything extremely mindfully; calmly and being aware of you… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/22 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Mastering Emotions Pr1Yes actively practicing would be the goal. I have been actively practicing myself as I have a disorder that involves a higher sensitive amygdala. Being as present as possible; adopting the dbt stop technique and other dbt techniques have been immensely helpful at managing these autonomic emotional responses. Don’t forget our brain is a muscle because it is intorely plastic. Sure it’s more so plastic as a child but studies have shown ways to make it just as plastic in adulthood but like you said … | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/22 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Mastering Emotions Pr1Radical acceptance is a hallmark dbt technique used to help people (mainly people with bpd) regulate their emotions and heal from deep rooted trauma abandonment to live a more meaningful life. It was pioneered by Marsha Linden the founder of dbt therapy and fellow borderline herself. When I talk negative emotions here I am not saying not feeling negative emotions is wrong or will not happen. Personally I do not believe in right or wrong actions. I used to and was quite miserable etc. today I liv… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/22 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Mastering Emotions Pr1Its not a personal self help blog. Its simply insights to help others based on my own experiences and relating to things men struggle with. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/08/22 01:42 PM |
| 1 | I almost lost my two year long relationship due to red pill theoryOr he could just be sharing his journey in the hopes of helping others? | /r/ExRedPill | 29/08/22 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Here is the real history and meaning behind the Red PillMoon is great. Also the heroes journey is the greatest storytelling technique as it is rooted in everyone’s psyche. So sad that very few storylines follow Joseph Campbell’s Journey formula today. And yes we do live in a matrix. As someone who is out of the matrix and understands it (not hard to go) life is much more fulfilling, rewarding etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/08/22 12:40 PM |
| 1 | The positive and highly ethical guide to “cold approaching” anyone for anyone part 1. Inner game and your frame part1.Wrong. What I’m talking about here works because you are focusing on building a connection and seeing how much you can build rather than trying to get a women for the sake of getting laid etc. Very different approaches. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/08/22 10:11 AM |
| 3 | I can't stop myself from hating womenYou are attracting what you are projecting which is something we all do. This is what I call the law of perception which is this. How you receive something is how you perceive that thing and how you perceive that thing is how you will act. Thus if you perceive women to be evil, flawed etc, you will receive all women this way. This will over time create what another person told you is confirmation bias. The way out of this comes from healing within not from trying to seek healing outside. You mos… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/22 08:30 PM |
| 5 | The positive and highly ethical guide to “cold approaching” anyone for anyone part 1. Inner game and your frame part1.Thank you for the feedback. It really is a great way to communicate. More will be coming shortly. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/22 08:20 PM |
| 2 | The positive and highly ethical guide to “cold approaching” anyone for anyone part 1. Inner game and your frame part1.Glad you found some useful information here. And thanks for sharing a little bit of yourself and experiences with socializing. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/22 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Is this true? Do intelligent men struggle with women?If you think talking about sex is a big deal, she will know. If you think it’s not, she will know. Here is why. Did you know that we experience 95% of stimuli from our senses subconsciously? (Approximately 95000 stimulus per second) Did you also know because we are energy at our core (masculine and feminine) we actually subconsciously communicate how we truly feel about something via our energy that gets translated into our body language, words actions and tone of voice? The reason why some peop… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/22 08:58 AM |
| 2 | update and advice neededDo you have children? The key to real change (which has to come from within and for themself) can be seen through a change in the children. Otherwise it can be seen through actions that look like the person is just doing to get rather than becoming because of want. My source is I have broken my life partner and now I am not only back in the family home (after separation and family court) but we are on the fast track to marriage and things could not be better. More passion. More emotional connect… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/08/22 01:33 AM |
| 1 | How to master empathyThis is actually the technique I came up with. It was a combination of books that led me to this technique. The transreference part comes from various books on acting which helps you feel and relate to characters you have no real commonalities with. Other acting books deal a lot with active listening. One great book that talks about presence is called the second circle by patsy rotten-burg. A great book on talking about not judging things I’d called the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. In fac… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/08/22 11:52 AM |
| 3 | How to master empathyHuh? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | kaos pill9 Point you from M.D (MGTOW Dictionary crew? You sound exactly like them. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 01:28 PM |
| 1 | kaos pill9 Point you from M.D (MGTOW Dictionary crew? You sound exactly like them. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 01:28 PM |
| 1 | What almost everyone gets wrong about depression.Np if you ever want to chat about these topics or more I am open to it. Until then take care. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with with a closeted red pillerThis makes a lot more sense now that I know the red flags in the beginning. Sometimes there are truly great people out there but they have one or two flaws that are deep deal breakers. For monogamous relationships mine is not soo much jealousy but the ability to not trust it loss of trust. Yet usually with jealousy the fear of losing someone. I think personally he appreciated and loved you as much as he could. Many times we wanted g toxic people to live us the way we want it live but that is jus… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 01:21 PM |
| 3 | What almost everyone gets wrong about depression.Thank you for sharing your own experiences. I love connecting with others, especially those who are willing and open to share. I am glad you found salvation in some very deep wisdom I believe many could benefit learning. If you want to know more about those beliefs I talked about and others that may align with you I highly recommend you check out Neale Donald Walsh work. He was a former catholic minister whom after becoming homeless; losing everything and losing all hope wrote a letter to God en… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with with a closeted red pillerYou became his mother? This means there was a polarity in roles? Or did you become his punching bag due to his issues with his mother? He could very well been working on that aspect. What if all the amazing things he did for you was his attempt to work on that aspect? What if every time he had those thoughts feelings etc he chose the opposite but just chose not to tell you to protect you or out of fear etc? What if he said you know before this rp ideology was working but with her it’s different.… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 12:20 PM |
| 4 | Just broke up with with a closeted red pillerYou kept pushing him to open up emotionally when he did not want to. When he did finally open up emotionally to reveal the darker side of his personality (something he may have been trying to work out on his own or secretly work out with others. And something all humans have) your response was to view this as toxicity and highly negative rather than what you truly wanted. Personally speaking, sometimes we do need to be careful what we ask for in a relationship and accept if someone’s not ready w… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 10:26 AM |
| -2 | My experience with a Red Pill Man and how to spot one in real life.Psychology is a soft science? Interesting view as psychology involves neurology; biology, neuroscience, physics, chemistry, and other sciences that are very much rooted in hard science. Psychology is the field of study on why humans behave the way they do with a high emphasis on thought; emotion, action, and behaviour patterns (the four cornerstones of personality) on both the subconscious and conscious level. All of which involve understanding the brain, mind (these are not the same) and body w… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 09:54 AM |
| 3 | What almost everyone gets wrong about depression.Well… If we are talking about stoicism being taking negative emotions and reversing their polarity before acting out, and having a high moral code that revolves around the greatest trait and arguably super power one can have in modern society (empathy) then yes I am big advocate for stoicism. Sadly many people do not truly know how to be stoic or what it really means. Stoic does not mean unemotional or only positive emotions. It means managing one’s negative emotions by always finding the positi… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/08/22 09:39 AM |
| 2 | What almost everyone gets wrong about depression.Much of it has always been something I felt. But my psychology studies and my own psychologist as well as Dr K from healthy gamer helped me fully grasp this concept. In fact today I don’t believe anything is truly negative. I believe our experiences are a collection of things we want to experience (positive) things we don’t or things others make us experience (negative) and then I try and put plans in place to limit or not experience those things again. I also understand that emotions have a pol… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/22 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Andrew tate YouTube removedIt’s not YouTubes fault. It’s how the algorithm works. It gives you two recommendations. Shit you like and shit that may trigger you like no tomorrow based on the shit you like. Also they were making money off him and the money has reached the plateau and it is better to ban him to mot piss off investors/sponsors than it is to keep him around. YouTube is a business. And business is all about the Benjamins. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/22 03:00 AM |
| 1 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?Dr. Ramani book/YouTube channel explain in great deal why people can’t leave and have to manage toxic people. Dr. Ramani is a huge proponent for being compassionate towards toxic people as she understands it’s not their fault but also not your responsibility to change them. Sone strategies she mentions in the book… 1: Do not revolve your life around a toxic person. 2: Know when to remove yourself from toxic situations if possible. 3: Understand that these people operate on the essence of human n… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 10:03 AM |
| -1 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?See one of my comments regarding going more in depth on these points and how that is not so. To an abuser you are simply playing by the rules of the game. You could go one step further though and start this way but then try and use empathy etc to shift their perspective. It can be done. I have done it myself. Toxic people got the most part are not toxic by choice but by environment social conditioning family upbringing and trauma. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 09:55 AM |
| 1 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?Plate spinning means more options created less risk for trauma bonding to an abuser. The goal of an abuser is to get you to revolve your entire life around their wants and needs. Having more options and pretending like you don’t or your abuser is the only one, gives them the illusion that they are getting what they want. Push pull is apart of setting clear boundaries. Boundary cross you push. Boundary accepted you pull. You should always keep toxic people at arms length. Toxic people are the ess… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 09:52 AM |
| 1 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?Payback can be a slippery slope. The one I am starting to see would be the worst to use since I looked into it more is dread game. For some reason I thought dread game was simply stating your boundaries standards and mentioning walking away if they keep getting crossed. I did not know it meant other stuff that would set dark triad people off on a mission to destroy you like no tomorrow. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 09:41 AM |
| 1 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?Great perspective here. Much to think about. Thank you. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 09:39 AM |
| 1 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?Interesting perspective here. Thanks for your input. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 04:23 AM |
| 3 | The red pill is the Bible on how to manage toxic people?Edit: I forgot to add sources for this info. It comes from two great books. Recovery Moms Great Big Book on Borderline Personality Disorder And Dr. Ramani Should I stay or should I go, book on narcissistic personality disorder were many of the above techniques are mentioned in terms of how to manage narcs when you love them and don’t want to leave. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 05:21 PM |
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