Men bond the highest when they do shit for people because men doing shit releases vassooressin the male bonding hormone.

So a man who provides everything for their family resource wise thinks I am bonding and growing with family everything is good.

Women bond with oxytocin.

Oxytocin is found the most in emotional and physical intimacy as well child labour.

Also studies show mothers synch with their babies especially when mothers are happy.

This is essentially an auto bond that strengthens with what children need most. Emotional intimacy physicality and care.

A child does not understand father pays rent works all day I am safe.

They cannot grasp what security is being abuse they can’t see the work that father puts into providing security.

A child says father not home all day I miss daddy daddy is leaving me then fry’s broken attachment.

A mother feels this broken attachment from the child than goes.

Hey dummy we have money our kids need intimacy please provide of I’ll nag you till you die.

The longer this goes on the further child and mother grow apart from father until essentially divorce.

Once divorce hits the mother says.

Daddy is my child’s ultimate threat must eliminate to protect child.

In almost all marriages I have seen that have children this was the true marriage wheel of their marriage.

The worst thing you can do as a father is to fully fail bonding with your kids.

I know from my own experience but was smart enough to turn it all around before it was truly over.

Once I started bonding my ex then became my gf then became my life partner now fiancé and we are happier than ever.

And yes I tell all my kids how much they are loved and mean to me including my son who lives cuddles with daddy as we watch toy Dino.

I also never choose work over them.

It’s not happy wife happy life.

It’s happy kids and happy life.

If kids are happy mom is happy.

Because kids are moms world.

And they should be yours too.