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| 3 | When he doesn't pay for the first (coffee) date?He's inexperienced. He drove 2 hours to see you then fumbled on paying for the coffee. Nudge him towards the behavior you want to see with encouragement and compliments. Guys like this get punished for their clumsy inexperience, making them all the more wary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/26 02:20 PM |
| 8 | Are women meant to be alone in the end after all?Men want to sleep with the hottest gal in the room. That's their AF equivalent and youthful beauty is a alluring to them. Men want to get serious (establish an enduring relationship and build a family) with a better quality woman who is more stable. That's their BB equivalent where age proximity makes more sense. Dual mating strategy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 01:21 PM |
| 7 | Are women meant to be alone in the end after all?He has the energy for all of us. That's an important point. Older men may have resources, but they typically switch their priorities from action to peace. Parenting demands energy, hard to do when fatigue sets in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 01:05 PM |
| 11 | He asked me out to dinner and then we split the billOkay, my mistake. NYC is a ruthless dating market. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 01:48 AM |
| 14 | He asked me out to dinner and then we split the billMy half of the bill was very expensive. Did you go wild on drinks and food? Maybe his financial strength was an illusion, a show. Or perhaps he was testing to see if you would eagerly try to exploit his wealth and generosity by ordering the most expensive items on the menu. After numerous foody calls, guys wise up to the games women play. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/26 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Teaching or Nursing?To some degree, we all live in a repetitive hell of our own choosing. Chasing bliss in a career can be elusive and fleeting. Find a purpose that involves serving others, be it a family or community... then surrender to the grind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Graduating soon! Getting so anxious for new relationship/life dynamics, please help.So much uncertainty can be both terrifying and exhilarating. You'll look back at this time in your life with fondness and pride. Your choices are not between heaven and hell, they're between good and good. May your future be filled with prosperity and love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/26 03:31 PM |
| 4 | I want to marry richTrue, that makes sense socially. The relationship arena can be more high stakes ruthless and competitive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/26 01:20 AM |
| 6 | I want to marry richMen tend to marry for love, while women marry more pragmatically. Boosting your financial future through marriage means a better lifestyle, an easier path. Nothing wrong with wanting a man that brings financial prowess to the table. You don't come across as a selfish, lazy gold digger. What are you bringing to the table that would appeal to such a man? RPW is all about becoming more worthy to attract and keep a high-value man. What Men Value: youthful beauty (fertility), feminine grace (gentle, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/26 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Is this the truth of people?Women maintain a social hierarchy. You were supposed to remain a sidekick in her life's story as the pretty, popular gal. Elevating yourself broke the dynamic of your friendship. In her mind, you betrayed her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/26 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Advice for Tomboyish Woman Who Has Mainly Dated Other Women?How does a somewhat masc / tomboyish presentation impact SMV? SMV for a woman is heavily skewed to physical beauty (hotness factor) because men are wired to respond to that. If you want more than hookups, pay more attention to RMV. This is a great forum to explore that. Amping up the sex appeal can derail RMV. Fun gals can find themselves slotted into the Fckzone, never taken seriously. Especially true if they chase Chads. Being here means you're already trying to do better. Tomboy versus femini… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/26 03:33 AM |
| 12 | A redpill newbie and late bloomer, just saying hello'The Wall' refers to women losing their pre-loaded SMV they had been gifted with since age 18. It's an apex fallacy. Just as women envy the wealth and power of CEO's in the corporate world, men envy the lifestyle and sexual abundance of hot, young women who get invited onto billionaire yacht parties at age 20 something. They want to see those young women face eventual karma and humiliation as they age out of the market. Envy is poisonous to those who seethe in it. As someone once said, 'comparis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/26 02:06 AM |
| 2 | F29 going out with M28. tattoos, RMV, and mixed signalsThe burden of performance is on the man while the woman retains control. The trick is to start small, start early and gradually turn up the dial on intimacy while sustaining comfort. Just a momentary touch of the hand or shoulder to start. It should be playful and pleasant at every step. Doing nothing for an entire date and then suddenly going in for a kiss and a boob grab isn't smooth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/26 08:37 PM |
| 9 | F29 going out with M28. tattoos, RMV, and mixed signalsHe was sort of awkwardly looking straight forward Either a virgin or someone who has only had drunk encounters. Guys with seductive competence aren't shy about demonstrating sexual intent. They'll push for more, playing a game of 'red light green light' where the women controls the progress. This guy has his own brakes slammed down hard. Lack of sexual experience also means lack of relationship experience. If you offer him grace for being such a newby, you might find he makes up for it with devo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 12:34 AM |
| 4 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseYes, he demonstrated clear sexual intent with the kiss. This isn't a casual acquaintance or friendship. He will pay for shit and she will offer sexual favors. Tale as old as time. A fling lasting 2-3 months at best. Many women will sign up for that deal in a heartbeat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 09:38 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?The ones looking for a mother substitute don't tend to be all that appealing to women. The sexier guys who demonstrate seductive competence are the ones clever about faking attraction to qualify for sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 08:41 PM |
| 2 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?You're taking it literally. TRP advice to men often translates into "don't be a blue pilled chump simping for M'Lady" or "how to pull hotties with minimal effort". Guy can self-sabotage by doing too much, trying too hard. Women don't mind the attention of a guy who overdoes his texts, they just lose attraction. Not complicated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 05:40 PM |
| 2 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?Not saying that is how a genuine relationship should operate. The point was to be less try-hard in seduction rather than be overly attentive non-stop, especially with texting. IDGAF outcome independence is part of holding frame. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 04:58 PM |
| 9 | Joining with a high paying job, and grew up without a fatherOP might have a binary view of leadership, upholding a master-slave power dynamic. A First Mate isn't some passive servant-wench to her Captain, she's a partner, a leader in her own right. OP doesn't have to diminish her light just to allow his to shine. My wife was like a lot of women, who didn't see herself as a leader. I helped her see it differently, reframing leadership as bestowing gifts upon others, helping them when they're struggling alone in darkness. Leadership comes down to caring an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Waiting until 25 to date?Mandibular advancement can have serious repercussions. I've seen cases of condyle resorption that left people with the same aesthetic they started with but crippling pain and chewing dysfunction. A chin augmentation is a relatively simple surgical procedure that can offer an easier 'win'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 03:13 PM |
| 2 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?Good to see old ideas honored and validated. A guy that gushes over text devalues himself in a woman's eyes. He can quickly put himself squarely into friendzone territory. Straight from the 16 Commandments of Poon... #5. Adhere to the golden ratio. Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return... Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Worried I will come off as career driven or too educated when I’m not. Should I avoid a masters try to change into a helping career?DO WHAT MAKES YOUR SOUL HAPPY. I would say it differently. It's not about doing something you like to do, it's about expanding the light burning inside you. Become a happier soul. When I used to interview potential hires, I would ask for a definition of 'enthusiasm'. Most would make the mistake of thinking it was about some thing that excites them, that made them feel enthusiastic. I would explain to them that enthusiasm was an attitude, an energy level that you brought each day that could be ap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/26 07:33 PM |
| 14 | Should I spend more time with him or not?If you were describing a woman, I would tell a guy to run far and fast. Chaotic, impulsive, undisciplined, immature is a bad look for anyone, but especially for a guy north of 40. I suspect his mom likes having him still dependent on her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 08:03 PM |
| 8 | Is hanging out with a guy and giving him status through having a girlfriend a value red pill women can provide men?being a visible couple in the public eye Yes, arm candy is valuable to men who compete for status and attention. But for those with wealth, beauty can easily be rented (atmosphere models) rather than bought. Beauty is a commodity at that level, not special. Traditionally, women see being in a relationship as an indicator (social proof) of higher status, both for men and other women. Someone who is single is seen by women as somehow broken or less desirable (social proof of lower value). Men don'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/26 04:38 AM |
| 7 | FIL cut my toddlers hair behind my backThe cut hair is a MBA issue (Minor But Aggravating), not worth breaking up the family over it. The underlying motivation is questionable. Are the grandparents trying to impose gender identity early, terrified their grandsons will turn out to be gay or trans? Worth investigating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/26 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Is this the real red pill man + recommended threads per day/week?Red pill isn't kinder, just more realistic, more aware. It's also more constructive and productive versus the apathy of the black pill. I didn't grow my awareness through dating, it came through running a successful business. Every illusion I held, every indulgence in doing what I wanted instead of what was needed, created consequences. Once reality was understood and dealt with, I was able to transcend my business from adequate to exceptional. Even though they don't need to be red pilled, women… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/26 10:38 PM |
| 27 | Do men really treat older women as they describe on the internet?The online rudeness, disrespect towards older women comes from envy. Young men envy the advantage young women have - high SMV and easy access to sex. They want to see women fall from their high perch, to 'hit the wall' and experience the loneliness and rejection they have faced. It's a crabs in a bucket mentality. They don't want someone enjoying life while they aren't. In real life, people get to know each other beyond physical appearance. They find partners and build lives together. Wife goggl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/26 03:49 PM |
| 12 | Can RPW cause a 180° change?refused to form a committed relationships with me. By accommodating men, you let their agenda dictate the relationship. They acquired casual sex with minimal commitment. Just as men can be stuck in a friendzone providing commitment without any sex, women can be stuck in a fuckzone offering sex without any commitment. Once you're in zone (friend, fuck, fun), it's difficult to shift things into something serious. What are you going to do, deny sex? That won't end well. Your friends getting everyth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/26 03:36 PM |
| – | Dealing with my husbands new panty rules and looking for adviceI like my wife to wear classy-elegant which is congruent with her sweet, feminine demeanor. Skanky stuff doesn't look as appealing on her because she's adorably cute rather than hot. Though she could wear whatever she wants and I would be okay with it, she enjoys appealing to my preferences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/25 03:55 PM |
| 8 | Do most men really want a woman that brings them peace or do they like the chaos?Not sure why your honesty was downvoted. Chasing hedonistic gratification is a problem because what once gave a thrill isn't decadent enough anymore. Contentment and happiness are simpler pleasures. You've made a course correction and I think you'll be much better off in the long run. Hopefully you'll soo find a good man on the same path. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/25 07:05 PM |
| 13 | Do most men really want a woman that brings them peace or do they like the chaos?Chemistry comes down to lust and that tends to be fleeting. He keeps pulling the rip cord after 2 months as OP described. He's showing the same symptoms as a devoted party girl who can't seem to form a lasting bond. They're more attached to the party lifestyle and the sprot of seduction than to any partner. Stable relationships feel like a prison to them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/25 03:59 PM |
| 1 | How to show my husband respect?His claim of not getting respect is probably not the real issue. He's just pushing your buttons because he feels a bit miserable. He might be stressed at work, stressed about being a parent, feeling somewhat ignored with your attention more on the child, whatever. Give him some time and space and he just might recalibrate and come back with an apology. I've had my share of those moments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/25 04:33 PM |
| 18 | Spoiling Him & Being SpoiledSo many women reject femininity as weakness but it's a different form of strength, a compassion and grace that lifts up those you love, especially yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/25 02:15 PM |
| 30 | Spoiling Him & Being SpoiledCongrats to you and your friend for nurturing thriving, vibrant relationships. Men do want to be your heroes. He's proud to share your baked goods and make his friends a little envious. Femininity is like sunshine in a gloomy world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/25 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Does redpil sees women as people who prevent men from getting sex as much as they want?Okay. Sustain masculinity, does that work for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 01:05 PM |
| 3 | Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture?Fetish and promiscuity are not the same thing. Try the furry forum and see if you can find a conservative. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/25 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Does redpil sees women as people who prevent men from getting sex as much as they want?Yes, that's passive dread, a euphemism for staying healthy and attractive rather than turning into a couch potato. The point is to sustain the sexual spark in the marriage. Why does that make you defensive? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 11:30 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵how to create romantic/sexual tension It's a combination of verbal banter and physical escalation. Diving in for a kiss as a first move is really awkward. Get her into a positive state through vibing (deep conversation) and begin with non-sexual touching. Kino (old PUA term) is a progression of casual and playful touching of hand, arm, knee and shoulder, followed by a gradual escalation to more intimate caressing of face, neck, hair and finally to kissing and touching of her erogenous zones. If … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 04:25 AM |
| 0 | Does redpil sees women as people who prevent men from getting sex as much as they want?Application of red pill never stops because the games don't end when you're in a relationship. Passive dread game is just staying attractive to a level other woman find you attractive. This sparks some competition anxiety in a woman and makes her try harder to please you. Active dread involves directly flirting with other woman, applicable to those who run rosters or don't move things beyond a situationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 03:49 AM |
| 4 | F (25) another rantWell said. Women also tend to emulate the men they're attracted to, which eventually distills down to the Lotharios. I remember a father on TRP explaining how he told his daughters to mirror the behavior of the men they find attractive. Not a great plan. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 03:44 AM |
| 11 | Boyfriend won’t cook and there’s no food in his house eitherEach of us grows up by evolving from dependence to independence to interdependence. Plenty of young people are stuck on dependence. I wouldn't hire such a person and I certainly wouldn't partner with them. They wouldn't qualify for the mailroom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 11:11 PM |
| 10 | Partner weight gain as a way of stabilizing sex life?It's a slow fade. His awareness of the dynamic can help him prevent things from sliding so far. That sort of awareness is the difference between red pill and blue pill. Ultimately it's on him to keep his shit together. I've seen a lot of married dudes with a glazed look in their eyes. They've surrendered, not just to their wives but to an existence without masculinity because it was easier. You've got a good thing going. Consider supporting your man's masculinity, even when it seems more benefic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 05:01 PM |
| 24 | Partner weight gain as a way of stabilizing sex life?TRP called that the betafication of a man. Guys will do that to themselves, turning soft, docile and more supportive once they're in a relationship. Women will sometimes support that change because they benefit from being the pants-wearer and experience less competition anxiety since other women show much less interest in a soft man. You might brag about how whipped your mule has become, but his potential is stifled when your happiness becomes his primary mission. A man's loss of masculinity and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 04:29 PM |
| 5 | I got marriedYou kept growing beyond the hard times, not just surviving. Some people just get shittier and blame their exes for it. The tougher times helped make you ready for the good man you're with now. Congrats! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/25 02:23 PM |
| 13 | Is it true that women over 30 are seen as lower value by men or don’t get quality male attention?a hot body, and a pretty face That's the alluring bait that attracts men. Age and kids become acceptable when she's hot, a dealbreaker when she's not. Edit: I find femininity more appealing than hotness. A hyper-sexualized woman can be both alluring and undesirable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 09:22 PM |
| 3 | My therapist suggested I stop managing my husband to cure my anxiety. We are trying a Captain First Mate dynamic to prepare for kids but letting go is harder than I thoughtDoes your husband express masculinity? His presence can give you a profound sense of security that supports your femininity and dissipates your intense need for control. From the sound of things, you're already choosing to surrender into your feminine vulnerability. The more you can move towards your femininity, the less reliant you'll be on him to be in his masculine just to keep you there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 04:33 AM |
| 5 | As a girl, how do i pick up guys in bars?If a woman approaches a guy at a bar, he might see her as the sort of gal who approaches other guys at bars. An eager fish that jumps not just into his boat, but any viable boat. If he just wants fun, game on. If he wants something serious, he might be turned off by her forward approach. That's assuming he's intentional about relationships. A lot of guys are happy to take whatever comes their way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/25 09:07 PM |
| 7 | Met someone magically. Life wants to shake things upIf you were somewhat ruthless you would see his suffering as an opportunity to get close. If you were compassionate you would see his suffering and be compelled to help him through it. Doing nothing, saying nothing will wither the garden. Talk to him about his pain and your pain. The moment you decide to face things together your bond becomes stronger. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/25 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.It's not just being slightly better, it's embarking on a path of continuous improvement, what the Japanese call 'kaizen'. Here's something from my old notes... The X-factor mentality in success is a drive to find the winner's edge. The great ones are always looking for opportunities to improve. Instead of trying to LOOK and FEEL good, they want to BE great. These top performers seek out areas of weakness instead of trying to avoid them or cover them up. They CRAVE feedback because they can add s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/25 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.Some advice... When you're surrounded by blue pill softies and black pill slackers, it's a glorious opportunity to shine as a red pill beast who sees reality and can work to overcome it, to dominate it, to become remarkable in a world of apathy and mediocrity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/25 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.You've gone black pill. With red pill, you still believe in building a better life for you and your loved ones. That intention becomes your core purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/25 05:30 PM |
| 9 | How do you tell the difference between feminine mannerisms and lack of masculine energy?A woman doesn't want to teach a man how to be a man, understandably. A receptive woman can still teach through her responses, her contented sighs, her smiles and her compliments. When he recognizes something pleases her, he wants to do more of it. Consider gifting him a book The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, which emphasizes a wholesome balance of spirituality and masculinity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/25 08:14 PM |
| 9 | How do you tell the difference between feminine mannerisms and lack of masculine energy?maybe a man who looks/acts slightly feminine physically can’t actually be dominant in a relationship. Guys tend to be less aware of how they project themselves. Your BF is aware of fashion, but probably less aware of how he does or doesn't project sexual polarity. The good news is he's not a player, because those guys are very aware of how to project masculinity to arouse a woman. Every guy is a mix of masculine and feminine tendencies. Weeding out the feminine displays that tend to turn off wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/25 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Do you like simp men?Women appreciate the free attention, support and resources weak men will give them, but they're not attracted to those guys. Women are attracted to power/prowess, not to self-sacrifice. Physical prowess, intellectual prowess, financial prowess, social prowess, seductive prowess and such. How do you score on those? Unearned generosity doesn't display prowess, it displays naivety/foolishness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 05:28 PM |
| 20 | Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture?So much pressure to join the debauchery club. Men want women to fall, women want women to fall, and the politically left party wants everyone to fall because sex freaks vote Liberal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 05:16 PM |
| 6 | Dating 1.5 years and he talks about the future… but only for himselfThe fact he has a future vision sets him well above most. Add to that he wants to be a family man and you've got a winner as long as that aligns with your dreams. He's stating HIS vision of the future, so "my" is applicable. If you align and make a verbal confirmation, then he'll probably switch to "our". It's possible he doesn't care about your vision, but if he was that selfish you probably would have noticed by now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 05:01 PM |
| 7 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.TRP and RPW are both big on vetting, on recognizing what constitutes a good partner. Both are also big on taking agency and becoming the sort of person that would be attractive to a potential partner. OP is conflating toxic online activities with TRP. Media has been doing the same thing for years, painting it up as a convenient bogeyman. TRP is just a stepping stone to help initiate the required grind to become a man of more value. Having awareness doesn't replace the grind. Unfortunately, lots … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 10:40 PM |
| 10 | sick men/sick bloodlinesReminds me of Cletus's family tree in the movie 'Idiocracy'. The intelligent, sophisticated people turned into biological dead ends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 03:40 AM |
| 3 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’He asked her what she wanted in a man and she answered. She could have asked back what he wants in a woman but many women aren't that interested in what a man wants. "You all about her and she all about hers" describes the selfishness of modern women. Also, stating his expectations can be problematic because men are not supposed to express clear preferences these days. Another issue is that expressing what you want gives the other person an opportunity to fake a matchup, pretending to be those t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 04:15 PM |
| 0 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’Asking such a question is tactically counterproductive, but perhaps he was intentionally nuking things at that point. OP may have made it obvious she expected princess treatment from him. He pulled out the swift sword and ended it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 03:26 PM |
| 6 | Husband’s weak characteristics and physicality turning me offRelationships should elevate the participants, making them stronger both as a team and as individuals. Two independent people blending into synergistic interdependence. Sadly, things don't always work out that way. OP seems to be stuck in a 'momma's boy' relationship where her partner has regressed to become more dependent and helpless. Not only that, he resents his benefactor. At the root of this dysfunction is a lack of red pill awareness, where weakness has been embraced instead of strength. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 03:16 PM |
| 7 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’That's a great answer. OP revealed her clarity on what she wanted/expected from him, and a lack of clarity on how she could contribute to making his life better. Back when I interviewed people applying for a job, I would ask a version of the table question. I would ask how would they make the team better. I would then explain that everyone wants to be on a winning team, but not everyone has the ability to play at that level. It comes down to 'what can you contribute?' and your answer was perfect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Female Hypoagency - a fresh take on a possibly misunderstood idea.There's an old adage about steering a horse buggy: "The more you use the reins, the less they use their brains." I definitely found that in running a business. Sounds like you have a "daddy's girl" relationship dynamic. Considerably better than a "mama's boy" relationship but still it means you're always the adult in the room while she can continue being petulant and self-indulgent without contributing much. How do you break out of it? Start feeding the behaviors you want more of and starving th… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/11/25 12:48 PM |
| 1 | I was love bombed, and after reciprocating things are going downhillI stayed in a relationship like this for a few months or so after the three month honeymoon period wore off and it was a complete waste of my time that I still feel bitter about. You gave it your best shot, which says a lot about your fierce loyalty and commitment. Did the relationship help you grow or did it diminish you? If you could turn back the clock, what would you do differently? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/25 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Husband is very deeply involved with crypto and it feels like a strain on the relationshipCrypto can become just another form of day trading. The emotional pull of winning big is similar to a yanking on a slot machine. What is the best investment you can make? 1st: Yourself. Only if you can apply the knowledge you've gained. 2nd: A viable business. This is your proving ground to grow both yourself and your business. Distant 3rd: Every other form. Quick rich schemes make promoters rich, not the suckers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/25 03:53 AM |
| 5 | How Can I Support My Boyfriend Beat?Stress is a constant thing, there's always something to stress about. What can change is our ability to handle it. Those who go further are often the ones who can carry a heavier psychological load without bending or breaking. They learn to love the challenge and the grind itself. Doing nothing is one choice, escaping into distractions is another. I think back to my father and he always chose to build things or read about things with his free time. Always constructive and productive. He wasn't p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 02:12 PM |
| 2 | How to Get Over Ex?he needed time to be single Two different interpretations to that. One is he needed time alone in monk mode, where he works on his independence and building himself up. The other is playing the field, where he indulges in plenty of casual sex. The first scenario would be worth waiting for since he'll emerge a better man. The second signifies he doesn't want to play the loyal guy any longer and would become an increasingly bad choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/25 12:26 PM |
| 14 | Blocked by my match everywhere after a deep conversation, I feel really shakenHis grilling wasn't just non-seductive, it was anti-seductive. He intentionally tossed grenades, though I'm not sure why. My guess is that he needed to reject you before the two of you ever met in person. Maybe he looks like Quasimodo and has crippling social anxiety. Whatever the case, a quick disappointment is far better than a slow tragedy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/25 12:19 AM |
| 1 | How should dating and courting progress ideally?It makes sense. Most guys are consistent rather than versatile, and Mr. Consistency is dull. They don't know how to mode switch, they don't have a repertoire of modalities. Having a seductive mode is attractive. Through playful banter a guy projects confidence and positive energy, as well as social, emotional and seductive competence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 05:25 PM |
| – | How to focus on myself?Inspiring comment. Back when I ran a business, I decided to create some ground rules for communication. What surprised me was how often I broke those rules. I was so busy seeing how others were the problem to realize how much I was setting a poor example. Here's a portion of those communication ground rules... I take responsibility for my communication. I take ownership for my emotions, thoughts, decisions, words and actions. I’m willing to ask, “What can I learn from this?” and “How did I contr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 01:54 PM |
| 20 | In the world of actual high value people, is the red pill truly valid?The red pill is similar to the 'allegory of the cave' as a transformative journey from ignorance to enlightenment. You would think that it would be an easier journey for modern men. Not so. We've been conditioned to be passive, compliant and relatively unaware to anything falling outside of our narrow field of view. It's intellectually lazy. Young men often lead soft lives without much in the way of a trial by fire to push them. Top schools and professional careers are a trial by fire. They're a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 02:24 AM |
| 5 | How should dating and courting progress ideally?The exciting guys are the sports fisherman in the mating arena. They play catch and release. The dull guys don't know how to be playful, flirty, fun. They're successful in their careers by being reliable and dedicated, but that doesn't translate into higher value within the seduction arena. Once you've been with fun guys, you don't want to spend time with a boring guy. Plenty of women find themselves in that position. It's the same as being 'alpha widowed' by a superior man and not wanting to se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/25 03:24 PM |
| 3 | How to be softer when stuck in fight or flight?Tough to connect to your femininity when you're in survival mode or competitive career mode. How can you be soft and vulnerable in a harsh environment? How can you be soft and vulnerable around a soft man? Even if a strong men comes along, some women would rather battle him than ever bend to his will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/25 01:21 PM |
| 5 | Is 22/23 too young to get married??Pro: You'll grow together, transitioning into adulthood with big girl/boy responsibilities, including parenthood. Anti: Locking in with unproven quality, unexplored lives. Some people are afraid of pulling the trigger. I've always found ready-fire-aim to be effective. I got married at 22 and it was the best decision I ever made. I'm a much better man for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/25 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Don't think I'm ever going to get married or have childrenYou're right, not sure why you would be downvoted here. Is the person who has never done anything questionable better than the person who has been to hell and back? I admire someone who got their hands dirty, learned hard knock lessons and rebuilt themselves. That's what men have to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/25 02:01 PM |
| 46 | Don't think I'm ever going to get married or have childrenSomething tells me you would eat the first marshmallow. Impulsive behavior is the drive to feel good right now. It's not the body count itself, it's the person you can become along the way - impulsive/reckless, unstable, disloyal, entitled. Here's something I've shared before... It's not so much the copious sex she had, it's her... 1. Party Addiction - a normal life is too dull for her. 2. Chad Addiction - a normal guy is too dull for her. 3. Seduction/Novelty Addiction – the same dick is too du… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 06:29 PM |
| 8 | What Are The Best Skills A Girl Can Acquire Before Marriage?Your mother would be proud of you for trying to be the best you can be and aspiring to follow in her footsteps to become a loving parent. Did you step up to support your father in any ways? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Anxious about the content he watchesWhenever I watch that type of content I look at my wife with renewed appreciation. It's hard to find pro-relationship red pill content, even when the producers of said content are in healthy relationships. Dysfunctional drama gets the clicks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Anxious about the content he watchesI read the blog post from Pat Stedman, which is the one you're probably referring to. Shallow content. I didn't agree with his opening premise that "DRAMA = NO COMFORT". Drama often arises from too much comfort/security and not enough excitement. Which, funny enough, seems to be where your relationship is currently sitting. Your husband should visit r/marriedredpill. They're all about men recovering their masculinity and strengthening their marriages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 04:41 PM |
| 3 | Anxious about the content he watchesI was just watched an interesting video on 5 Psychopathic Traits and took notes. Wolves walk amongst us and they're clever at disguising themselves as friendly folk. These predatory people can smell empaths and believe they deserve every benefit they can extract from you. When a man's protective instincts are aroused, it's prudent that he studies the ways of the wolf. By the way, congrats on your engagement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 04:11 PM |
| 7 | I feel bad for women who deep down want a soft life but media manipulated them into thinking men want another manPeople reveal themselves when challenged. You could have tiptoed around her covert hostility for years, not seeing her true colors. Guess how she talks about you behind your back... | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/25 05:38 PM |
| 4 | Trouble managing priorities and motivationsA new business can be a golden goose or a tragedy. Sounds like you've already made it work. One of the benefits is you'll learn so much more building and running a business than you ever would as a small cog in a big machine. Can your husband get involved in the business? What part of motherhood are you willing to outsource? Good to have options, but these are tough decisions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 10:22 PM |
| 6 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”If I'm driving to a place we've never been, my wife handles the navigation. Teamwork makes the dream work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to ensure sexual compatibility while waiting until marriage?Solid advice. Sex seems terrifying until you try it. Back in his early 20's, I told my nephew it's not jumping off a 50' cliff, it's jumping off a dock into pillows of fun. He's married and a dad now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/25 11:32 PM |
| 4 | Should I pay for myself?That's a much clearer picture. He's a relationship newbie. He's totally relying on you to lead the way. His handling of date bills is just awkwardness, not intentional. He'll probably do whatever you tell him to do, because he doesn't have a clue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/25 03:21 PM |
| 8 | Should I pay for myself?Some guys are wary of gold digger intentions to the point they'll push back on playing a provider role. Sounds like he could easily step into that role, but something is holding him back. Is he cheap? If a guy came from scarcity, he'll tend to grip his wallet tightly. He won't be just cheap on dates, he'll be cheap about everything. Has he been burned before? Guys are more wary once they've been finessed. You could be paying for another woman's bad behavior Is he red pill? Once a guy is aware of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/25 01:30 AM |
| 4 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsYes, concentrating on looks because that draws more male attention. My guess is it's a sexualized look as opposed to modest and feminine. Still, her looks are probably not the problem, it's her choice in men. She's choosing the desirable, hot guy equivalent of herself while expecting a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 04:58 PM |
| 12 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsI’ve noticed that I’m strongly attracted to confident, charismatic men — the ones who seem socially effortless Assuming these guys are physically attractive to begin with, what you're describing is men with game (seductive competency, rizz), otherwise known as players. If he's also wealthy, he's the trifecta - looks, money and game. Add on high social status and he's Chad level. Every woman is attracted to a Chad. and non-judgmental The guys who don't care about your present and past behavior ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Dominant but traditional, can it be conciliated?Some guys want a soft mom replacement - a woman who serves their every need while they lounge about like a teenager. Some gals want a soft dad replacement - a man who serves their every need while they just lounge about like a teenager. Do you want someone who will lead you or serve you? Ultimately he'll do both, but which would you prefer him to do? Whichever you encourage him to do, he'll do more of. By encouraging him to lead, you'll both be better off. He'll contribute more and you'll respec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/25 04:26 PM |
| 8 | Female Hypoagency - a fresh take on a possibly misunderstood idea.Female Hypoagency is the idea that women do not have their own will, desire, or volition. Women are capable of agency, they don't want the accountability. As long as it was the man's idea, they can avoid responsibility for anything that happens. They can just tag along for the ride. I worked with a lot of women and breaking them out of a low agency mindset took some encouragement. They were far more effective once they became self-managing and took initiative. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/08/25 04:42 AM |
| 4 | Am I crazy for feeling bad for Raja Jackson…?Annunciation Catholic Church shooter identified as trans. The Nashville Christian shooter identified as trans. The Lakewood Church shooter identified as trans. The Colorado Springs shooter identified as non binary. The Denver shooter identified as trans. The Aberdeen shooter identified as trans. The Iowa high school shooter was a trans activist. Perhaps mental instability makes them suitable for Agency-run psyops. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 09:22 PM |
| 4 | There Is No "Friendzone", You Can Stop Pretending to be Friends At Any TimeExactly. Some guys are too timid to take a shot so they give her attention, validation and support without showing any sexual intent. Women see him as a helpful friend. He ends up being an orbiter, sometimes on of many. A move called There's Something About Mary had a funny take on this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 09:06 PM |
| 5 | Women would like to meet a guy who didn't see them as romantic prospect first, but will get annoyed if he isn't hot enoughFriend zone is friendship without sex, which can be a trap for a guy who wants more. The F*ck zone is sex with or without friendship, also called a situationship and FWB. That can be a trap for a woman who wants more. Perhaps none of that exists in your life, but it can still be real for others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 06:51 PM |
| 6 | Women want to be sexy, but hate the men who sexualize themHer beauty is a shit test. A woman doesn't want a guy who's mindset is skewed to overvalue beauty such that he chases her. The guy that remains unfazed by her beauty (or any of her shit tests) projects more value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth dating a guy who is nice and wealthy but not attractive?What is it you prioritize? Lust/Desire - he makes you aroused. Lifestyle - he offers a pathway to luxury living. Security - he makes you feel safe and secure. Love - You see his as a good husband and father. Many young women prioritize lust/desire above all else and become more pragmatic as they get older. Lifestyle chasers are less concerned about the quality of the man. They want to see a big bank account and a willingness to keep spending it on pleasing a woman. I was fortunate to find a woma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/25 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Why do you say the redpill is misogynistic?You have a point. Young guys who move from unaware to aware are often angry at women, men, society, etc. Blame-shifting outwardly instead of focusing inwardly and making changes. Some will hold onto that victimhood mindset. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 06:12 PM |
| 5 | Relationship anxietyContinued... Dedication/Commitment – fully devoted to personal and team success. Skill/Competence – can execute and deliver the goods / role skills. Organization – clear priorities / manages time well / meets objectives and deadlines. Work Ethic –/ determined hustle / eager beaver. Self-Discipline – peak performer / focused / on-task / control of actions and behavior. Action Bias – willing to create momentum by taking action - gets things rolling. Compliance – systems focus / follows playbook / … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 01:43 PM |
| 7 | Relationship anxietyOP's list of criteria is shockingly sparse and shallow for critiquing a potential lifetime partner. Here's a list I would use to evaluate a new hire. I would review this list before beginning a final interview process. Caring/Compassion – love, kindness, sensitivity. Relational – people person / relates well to others, relationship-first. Self-Motivated – automatically energetic, excited and engaged. Enthusiastic – upbeat, positive and empowered. Joy – fun, playful approach / happily achieving /… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 01:41 PM |
| 0 | Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want themTrue. Liking and loving lasts far longer than lusting. When I ask my wife lying beside at night what makes her happy, she always answers, "being with you." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 03:08 AM |
| 7 | What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances?You're right. Kindness isn't a flex. People pleasing behavior is not attractive to a woman. Performative kindness isn't going to fly. Here's a terrific new video entitled 'Stop Trying to Please Women – It’s Making You Weak'. It blew me away how insightful it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 12:35 AM |
| 2 | The idea that women are biologically the more selective sex seems to contradict the idea that women’s bodies are more beautiful while men’s bodies are more utilitarian.A wealthy man can play the flamboyant dandy. The look says, "I have money, I like looking good and I dare to be different." Amongst the muted garb of most men, he stands out. Men won't find it attractive, but women do. They understand the connection of dressing boldly to display confidence and project value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 01:47 PM |
| 14 | Women who embrace femininity and let men lead seem way happier… coincidence?OP nailed it. Security by control or security by surrender. Surrendering isn't to the man, it's 'leaning in' to her feminine side in partnership with a masculine man. She feels secure in his presence. Emphasis on power and control makes a woman harder, emphasis on femininity makes her softer. Over time, a woman is completely transformed by that choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/25 01:28 PM |
| 1 | I think the red pill enables women to take less accountabilityDating/marrying up is the definition. Women usually attempt to improve their situation through a relationship. Why are you leaning on this particular point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 03:41 AM |
| 1 | I think the red pill enables women to take less accountabilityIt's a little different. Women are attracted to highest quality, including hotness. Men go for hotness alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 03:05 AM |
| 1 | I think the red pill enables women to take less accountabilityHypergamy is normal. A woman is attracted to the highest value man in the room. A man is similarly attracted to the hottest girl in the room. Feeling attraction is one thing, acting upon it is another. If someone has plenty of options, there's higher risk they won't remain committed. Social media can give attractive people, especially women, option overload. A hookup is just a swipe away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 01:52 AM |
| 8 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.A lack of punctuation is somewhat disrespectful to your reader. People want to digest things in nibbles, not the whole freakin' enchilada in a massive run-on sentence. You've got decent writing potential. Try using more periods to separate thoughts. Related thoughts can go in the same paragraph, but don't hesitate to start a new one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 09:12 PM |
| 3 | The problem is not being likable AND not having good looks (and being broke).Of course people are going to think differently about behaviors, and plenty won't think at all about it. Trying to reach a deeper level of understanding is worthwhile to me. When women say the want a nice guy, it can mean plenty of things. If she's on camera, she's going to say what makes her look good, not something that's necessarily accurate. People's words, based on good intentions, don't always match their actions. That's the integrity gap. A guy that does nice things to get pussy? I was ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 08:58 PM |
| 5 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.What are you talking about? I'm married 40+ years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 07:42 PM |
| 13 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.The burden of performance is on the man, and some women just lay there like a starfish. Who wants a second helping of that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 07:41 PM |
| – | It is no more wrong for a woman to have a high body count than a manRegarding hookups, exclusively free is still free to those she gives access to. Perhaps not free if she's getting drinks, meals, hotels, trips out of it. For some women, their 20's are maximum fun with minimal commitment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 07:37 PM |
| – | It is no more wrong for a woman to have a high body count than a manNot complicated. A woman's fertility is a primary part of her SMV. She limits access to her womb to leverage that value into a man's commitment. 'Who needs to buy the cow when the milk is free?' You understand free, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 07:16 PM |
| 6 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.So, the onus is on me to defend myself from baseless accusations? Exactly the sort of thing that happens in hostile divorce situations. Grow up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 07:11 PM |
| – | It is no more wrong for a woman to have a high body count than a manIt's a morality call, but I agree with you that casual sex is degenerate. Here's a surprise: degenerates mostly vote left and part of the early sexualization of children in schools is to launch them on a degenerate path where they're sure to vote Liberal in the future. Getting back to your comment, a man won't be disqualified for having a high BC because he was already attractive in the first place. If his mannerism turns sleazy, that's when it will turn sideways for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 07:07 PM |
| – | It is no more wrong for a woman to have a high body count than a manTypically they're hooking up with the attractive high BC men. It's still a hookup. Even if he's high value, his semen isn't a level-up potion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 06:52 PM |
| – | It is no more wrong for a woman to have a high body count than a manHookup qualifiers are different from relationship qualifiers. With hookups, mutual promiscuity makes things easier, less barriers to sexy fun. Loyalty and trust are not required. When it comes to hookups, men appreciate sluts. They just won't take them seriously. A man's high perceived value precedes his high BC. He had to earn that value first. Women want to sleep with him and men want to be him. His high BC indicates his seductive competency in a similar way to wealth indicating his financial … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 06:17 PM |
| 6 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.For men like me? I thought we were having a polite conversation. What suddenly got you so tilted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 05:42 PM |
| 3 | The problem is not being likable AND not having good looks (and being broke).A derogatory statement designed to boost oneself up by knocking someone else down is definitely an asshole move. That's not just socially uncalibrated, it's malicious. I've met people who are both thin-skinned and vitriolic. They believe they're fully justified in their hostile retaliation to a perceived slight or even to a benign opinion, because a zealot doesn't tolerate opposing beliefs. I'm confused by your last paragraph, please elaborate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 05:24 PM |
| 10 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.People can paint a fair picture of a relationship without resorting to monster paint to smear their ex. Some people will always position themselves as the heroic rescuer or wronged victim, and so they're probably not willing to offer an unbiased narrative. Guys can be good at finding a relationship, but will often slack off once they're in one. Lapsing into teenage habits could mean they haven't developed decent relationship skills, or they just don't care all that much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 05:10 PM |
| 3 | The problem is not being likable AND not having good looks (and being broke).Being a truthteller can get you kicked out of a tribe. People prefer pretty lies to ugly truths. The blunt conversations that go on in PPD are not suitable for polite social settings, which is exactly why I like them. The threshold bar for an asshole isn't that high. To a supplicating man, an asshole is any man with tolerance for tension and disharmony, a willingness to rock the boat and break away from the status quo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 04:41 PM |
| 30 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.They’re attracted to the charisma, then end up hurt by the toxic parts that reveal themselves later. You're almost there. The guy doesn't have to be toxic for her to claim he was. When an attractive guy walks away, the woman is left to tell the story of the relationship, and people believe her. Bad boys and fukbois are attractive, seductively competent guys (players) who don't commit. Women make the man the bad guy in their story to deflect from their own choices and actions. Guys who are upfron… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 04:27 PM |
| 3 | The problem is not being likable AND not having good looks (and being broke).You were right in your post, being attractive, confident and socially calibrated are key factors. The nice/asshole spectrum is not so important. Acting like an asshole is not some cheat-code to her panties. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 03:55 PM |
| 5 | The problem is not being likable AND not having good looks (and being broke).While mom is driving her young daughter to school, and the daughter asks, "Mommy, where are all the jerks and idiots today?" Mom replies, "Sweetie, they only come out when your father is driving." In that context, which driver is an idiot? The one who appears to lack confidence and drives slower than dad. Who is a jerk? The aggressive, confident one who drives faster than dad. For woman in dating, who is an asshole? It's the confident guy who doesn't bend to her will. She may not like him while … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 03:30 PM |
| – | Do you see men being as direct in their dating profiles as women are?Men lie verbally, women lie visually. Both lie trying to portray higher value than they are. Profiles are a perfect example. In business, a good brand shows integrity by delivering on their promises. What is said, what appears to be and what is delivered upon are all aligned and congruent. A pleasing veneer hiding a weak, crumbling core is deception. Women appreciate integrity in a man. They despise deception. As with courtroom credibility, “falsus in uno, falsus in omnibus,” meaning false in on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Don't give up: Mature women appreciate kind menTrue. BB is solid but not sexy. High security/provision, low on desire/excitement. Nothing stopping a guy from becoming AB. Those guys get snatched up quickly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 06:51 PM |
| 6 | Dating a millionnaireIf he was a 'Tinder Swindler' type, he would be chasing older, wealthier women. Maybe he's just really busy and distracted. Maybe he's already in a committed relationship and is trying to position OP as his sidepiece. Maybe he found another shiny object to garner his attention. If he runs hot and cold this early in a relationship, the future might not be a stable or enduring. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/25 05:20 PM |
| 3 | People angry at the term “Emotional Labor” have never cared for people.love is a verb Totally agree. Epic declarations are goofy. It's those small, intimate loving acts on a daily basis, those subtle acts of kindness, respect and devotion that will fuel your love for each other and keep the candle burning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:49 PM |
| 5 | "You bring up the bad boys/Chad theme - just because you want to be bad and have sex!" - no, it's about the simple concept of justiceMorality doesn't drive people, it restrains them from darker impulses. Talking about the seduction arena as a battle between good and evil seems strange. The white knight within a man isn't the good angel on his right shoulder calling for noble acts. It's the somewhat selfish desire to be a hero in one's personal narrative, saving m'Lady and kneeling at her feet. Chad isn't the bad boy, he's the mythical ideal man, the Alpha Fux manicorn. Pookie and Ray Ray are the mythical bad boys who turn the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:44 PM |
| 3 | People angry at the term “Emotional Labor” have never cared for people.I have it easy, my wife gives lovingly. Raising 5 children, her well would inevitably run dry. Besides contributing, hugs, kind words, appreciation and cherishing her gave me the power to restore her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:13 PM |
| 9 | People angry at the term “Emotional Labor” have never cared for people.In your context, 'emotional burden' is covert hostility. “youre exhausting to be around and youre nowhere near as reliable as you expect me to be for you” That's a lot more honest and any guy that hears such a statement should wake the F up, contribute more and appreciate more. Snide digs seething with resentment are not so helpful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:35 PM |
| 8 | People angry at the term “Emotional Labor” have never cared for people.I agree. Every day is a battle of frame, keeping it positive instead of letting negativity dominate the narrative of one's perspective. Resentment is too easy, appreciation and gratitude are harder. When it comes to a lasting relationship, reciprocation and appreciation are like oxygen... essential. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:27 PM |
| 29 | People angry at the term “Emotional Labor” have never cared for people.Strange to reframe 'acts of love' into an unwanted burden. Negative language intended to discourage that behavior. Will a mother's unwavering love for her child now be termed 'emotional enslavement'? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 01:46 PM |
| 12 | Don't give up: Mature women appreciate kind menTRP doesn't tell men that. Young men who first wake up tend to have lots of anger that they misdirect it towards women and the men they envy. TRP does tell young men that being overly nice is counter-productive. Kindness isn't the issue, it's using fake niceness as a sexual strategy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 11:28 PM |
| 3 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.I like your writing style. The 'natural born' aren't necessarily more skilled, but they are more physically attractive and that goes a long way. They're exempt from her disqualification filters. Reminds me of this video. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.I think 'lover material' is more accurate. Loser, lover (AF), provider (BB) or friend. One night is unfulfilling and a woman usually wants more time together, more emotional depth. She wants the fireworks to last at least a few weeks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 09:07 PM |
| 10 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.It's more like 2% clean up, when you include all the invisible guys who don't enter into the arena. If a guy isn't strong on looks, status or money, he can still develop game/vibe/rizz. Social confidence doesn't have to be either natural or faked. It can be developed like any other trait. As with stage fright, you can turn it around with some training and practice. Competence builds confidence. Game doesn't even have to be about volume of women, you can just find one of higher quality to charm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.Start talking to more people with no intention of seduction. Only target hunting a hot girl sets you up for performance anxiety similar to stage fright. Try to have at least 4 friendly interactions before you talk to any specific one you're interested in. Ween yourself off alcohol dependency in social settings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 08:40 PM |
| 5 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.Alcohol is a CNS depressant, and it suppresses our inhibitory centers first. Liquid courage can facilitate more reckless behavior, which is why men will try to liquor up a woman. After a few drinks, some people get happy, some excited, some angry, and some just get very sleepy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 08:33 PM |
| 0 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.Good advice. Competence grows confidence. At some point the canned openers are discarded and you just have fun with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.Spinning plates? The volume of words coming from one woman is enough to fully saturate an introvert. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 12:45 PM |
| – | Locking a man down in your 20s is the worst adviceA decade of partying, what could go wrong? When she belongs to the party... Party Addiction - a normal life is too dull for her. Chad Addiction - a normal guy is too dull for her. Seduction Addiction – the same dick is too dull for her. Drama Addiction - a stable relationship is too dull for her. Validation Addiction – one guy’s attention can’t compare to the horde of thirsty men on social media. Food/Booze/Drug Addiction – indulging to excess and self-medicating, trying to fill the emptiness. O… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Why is ‘geomaxxing’ frowned upon?Fair enough, thanks for the explanation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 01:35 AM |
| 7 | Burnt out mother, how to stay on topBabies are exhausting, especially those first 3 months. The first one is particularly hard because your whole life is transformed. Come to him with potential solutions, not just the problem. Look at your options and decide what level of assistance you need, what duties you prefer to outsource, and for how long you'll need help. Look for family assistance if available. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/25 11:01 PM |
| 5 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.I like that fishing analogy. If you're really attractive, fish will just jump right into your boat. Women are typically trappers. They'll set their bait and wait. When occasional big game comes along, they might switch over to hunting and take their shot before some other woman bags him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryDirect confrontation isn't typically the social harm, it's more about reputation destruction through a whisper campaign of smearing, shaming and shunning. Who is the hateful one? Is it not the one who feels intense negative emotion and acts upon it? There's a tendency to transfer responsibility for negative emotions so that responsibility for subsequent actions can also be shifted. "You make me so angry" is not a free ticket to act hateful towards someone. Emotions aren't truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryI've seen angry, ignorant, rude, disrespectful comments from both sides. Hate is a different level. That's where someone tries to do physical or social harm to another person just for the group they belong to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 09:18 PM |
| 7 | A lot of men who women otherwise love as friends, but never see them “that way”Trying hard to show how nice you are isn't a great sexual strategy for a man. Hard for inexperienced guys to grasp that doubling down on niceness tends to be counter-productive. They tend to believe an attractive man is inherently bad for sleeping around and an attractive woman is inherently exploited when she does it. It's a skewed understanding of reality that's very common in young men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 05:57 PM |
| 19 | A lot of men who women otherwise love as friends, but never see them “that way”Chumps don't want to end the one-sided devotion (imaginary relationship) because they're stuck in 'one-itis' worshipping m'Lady. It's premature emotional commitment. He's resentful she's attracted to bad boys (attractive men with options) instead of him, the devoted white knight always ready to defend her honor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Why is ‘geomaxxing’ frowned upon?Angry and bitter? I really liked what he said and didn't pick up much in the way of negativity. Your tone policing is a way of saying: be less direct and masculine, be more soothing and appeasing. While I agree that such an approach can be effective in social settings, this is a debate forum and it's important for a man to find his voice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 04:10 PM |
| 10 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.Agree, introverts aren't gendered. However, a woman doesn't have the same burden of performance to prove her value that a man does. I think it could be more crippling as a man, where his confidence is judged by women as an essential trait. Have extroverts tried to convert you? Extroverts crave an attentive audience. They might corner you to talk your ear off. Not sure if bullies are statistically more common amongst extroverts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 03:43 PM |
| 14 | Going dutch on dates is the best way to weed out women with a parasitic mentality.You're right. The reason a younger women would choose an older man is for his maturity along with his resources and lifestyle. The expectation is that he opens up his wallet to offer her the Pretty Woman treatment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.While I agree with you, it's difficult for a women to see what you have going for you when there's a lack of projection and interaction. Breaking out of the binary trap of introvert-extrovert helps. You don't have to flip your personality trait, just stretch it a bit by developing those weaker social muscles. Your confidence grows as you see gains. An analytical mind will sit back and analyze the how's and why's (I'm making an assumption on your personality profile). An expressive person is more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 01:56 PM |
| 4 | Introverted men or asocial men are far more likely to have odd interactions with women, due male gender expectations.Being socially inept is not a good look for a man. A woman is attracted to a man's competence/prowess/power, a superiority to other men as well as her. A guy doesn't have to check every box in terms of looks, strength, wealth, intelligent, social savvy and seductive competence, but he shouldn't have any glaring deficiencies in those attributes. A man has a choice to stick to his strengths and avoid his weaknesses or to develop those weak areas to the point they don't constitute fatal flaws. I ra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryI'm here to teach not to argue. I prefer collaborative conversation to oppositional debate. It's more constructive. I do find many here at PPD who like to argue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 05:39 AM |
| 0 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryIf someone is bullying you, you might hate them for it. That's your emotional response. Doesn't mean they hate you. They could be the type who like to bully people they see as weaker. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 04:54 AM |
| 11 | "Women were forced to be with terrible men back in the day"- Then what about today?OP seems to suffer from fukboi envy. He holds onto the common narrative of women falling for toxic men and ignoring nice guys, like him. Thanks for sharing your story. You're honest, insightful and a solid writer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandrySome people love power and enjoy wielding it over others. Some mothers do it over their children. Bullying but not hate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 04:13 AM |
| 0 | Men's love is highly conditionalWhat is said in a survey doesn't necessarily match reality. She'll say he was controlling and won't mention she found another guy with a bigger stash. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Did becoming high status actually help?Looks, wealth, status and game can all be shortcuts to building desire. Bring at least 2 of those and you're well ahead of the pack. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 08:30 PM |
| 6 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryWell I could include that agitprop media creates the narrative to stir up the mob. And a bunch of oligarchs in the shadows control that media. Most people can't see that level of manipulation, they've been long conditioned to just believe the story they're fed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryThat's another abomination of a word. People aren't afraid of them. A catchy word was needed to smear normies as flawed, as the contemptable ones. It's narrative control. Putting a negative spotlight on the supposed persecutor while establishing a wronged victim, then rallying the mob to play the noble rescuer role in supporting that victim and destroying that persecutor. The actual hate typically comes from the mob itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 08:02 PM |
| 8 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryOppression, definitely. Hatred and contempt, not so much. Chauvinism and prejudice against, definitely. If you want to call those rulers oppressive chauvinists, I would agree. However, women want their smear words to sting more, to indicate "Men Bad!" So misogyny gets thrown around without people understanding the word. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 07:46 PM |
| 17 | Misogyny Will Have To Be Eradicated To Stop MisandryOppression isn't misogyny. One is about 'power over' and the other is about 'hatred of'. Why are those words being conflated? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 07:29 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADWould I want Leo's age 25 leftovers? Yes, she's hot. Yes, stable relationship experience. Yes, low n count. No, alpha-widowed. No, high lifestyle expectations. No, pure fantasy to consider she could be an option for me. Sour grapes no, she would probably be ugly inside. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 05:50 PM |
| 2 | How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism?Totally agree, and a lot of ways a woman can add value besides sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Why would they friend request me 5 years later?I'm reading something different. Now that he/she is jaded, bitter and alone, they've become nostalgic for the magic they once felt back when both were innocent and things were exciting and new. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/25 03:26 PM |
| 4 | How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism?It's not true for you regarding income. That doesn't dismiss the fact women want a superior man. You're also claiming he has compensating qualities he brings to the table, that's my point. If he's broke, he better be handsome. If he's ugly, he better be rich. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 03:17 PM |
| – | Is it common for people over 60 to move this fast in dating?Ok, that's a different story. Derelict dad situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 03:11 PM |
| 9 | How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism?The more money a woman makes, the higher her expectations become for the man's income. She doesn't want to 'date down' financially, the same way she doesn't want a shorter, weaker, intellectually challenged, socially awkward guy who has never had a girlfriend. She wants someone better than herself for the upgrade potential. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 01:36 PM |
| – | Is it common for people over 60 to move this fast in dating?he struggles to take care of me and my brother If he's 60, that puts his 2 children at about 30? Maybe he's financially tight because he has 2 grown children still suckling the teat. Why is he moving so fast? No time to waste at his age. Get 'er done. Why are the woman so eager? Viable men are increasingly scarce the older you get. Will he find another woman who does all the domestic chores? Probably. Some women enjoy doing that for their man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 01:13 PM |
| 4 | Can you name a time when you successfully got or retained a friend with benefits using red pill techniques?really attractive and succeeds while putting in no effort. A guy blessed with looks doesn't have to learn much game. You developed seductive competence. Another option is to better yourself physically, financially, intellectually, socially to the point you exceed that level of your friend who coasts on looks alone. Don't chase butterflies, build a garden and they'll come to you. When they leave you'll still have your garden. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 04:26 AM |
| 0 | There are more genuine blindside divorces than many women want to admitMen usually desire peace and loyalty only after they've been screwed over by the lack of those things. Some women desire excitement, especially the ones who come across as fun and exciting. Some women desire security and stability. I found one of those. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 04:02 AM |
| 4 | If women’s “value-add” contribution is pregnancy, then it makes sense that men have to contribute a value-add tooYou're both right. Those who have are envied by those without. Stewing in envy versus gratitude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 01:28 AM |
| 15 | If women’s “value-add” contribution is pregnancy, then it makes sense that men have to contribute a value-add tooEven if she brought nothing else to the table, she still brings female beauty, sexual access and the potential to create a child. She could bring annoyance and a materialistic attitude, and many men would still take that deal. Some of her value is inherent while his must be built. He is expected to bring accomplishment/competency/prowess in various areas... physical, intellectual, financial, social, seductive, and such. She sizes him to determine if he can meet her standards, her list of criteri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:52 PM |
| 3 | As a person with daddy issues, I feel kinda offended by the daddy issues stereotype in women.My wife said the same thing before I came along and we became each other's everything. May you have good fortune on your journey. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 12:44 PM |
| 2 | There are more genuine blindside divorces than many women want to admitIn relationships, complacency is often the killer. A woman feels safe, secure but bored and unattracted to her 'nice guy' partner. Men can happily relax in a peaceful, low-energy environment, but some women can find this unsettling. Sometimes a woman will create drama just to feel some sparks, just to confirm she still cares and he still cares. His desire for peace and her desire for validating sparks and stimulation can be at odds. While he's just chillin', she feels trapped in a dead marriage.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 09:02 AM |
| 5 | As a person with daddy issues, I feel kinda offended by the daddy issues stereotype in women.Well, you're not falling into traps, which is half the battle. Harder to evolve on your own while keeping your femininity intact. One good relationship could change your life, even if it doesn't last forever. Where would you like to be by this time next year? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 08:47 AM |
| -1 | You should only be in a Romantic Relationship with someone if you are VERY Sexually Attracted to them - This applies especially to women.Lust-driven relationships are somewhat doomed from the start. Typically crash & burn within 3 months. Sexual satisfaction fizzles out, cheating creeps in as one or both look for a new source of that 'chemistry'. The dead bedrooms I was talking about are with 10+ years together, where the guy has had plenty of time to become that whipped plow horse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 08:39 AM |
| 4 | Text Game: Logistics Is Not EnoughHere's a marketing approach... Attraction, Engagement & Conversion is your front end. Fulfillment is your delivery. Retention is your back end. Text game is your front end. With attraction you first get a woman's attention. Use an ice-breaker... Engagement is getting her to open up and participate. Some light banter... Conversion is closing the deal with a time and date. I'm old-school so I would consider a voice message or actual conversation for your closing offer. Text is low intimacy and you… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/08/25 08:32 AM |
| -4 | You should only be in a Romantic Relationship with someone if you are VERY Sexually Attracted to them - This applies especially to women.While I'm sure that happens, the common scenario is for her to lose attraction. I've seen plenty of married men turn themselves into surrendered, obedient plow horses hoping to get some occasional action by keeping up the 'happy wife, happy life' schtick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 07:54 AM |
| 7 | As a person with daddy issues, I feel kinda offended by the daddy issues stereotype in women.When a young women has a good relationship with her father, she is encouraged to become an 'evolved woman' rather than a helpless damsel or a spoiled princess. While her mother seeks to protect her from the world, her father helps her to conquer it. Entering adulthood, she has already had a healthy relationship with an adult man as a foundation to build upon with her subsequent relationships. She's more inclined to develop a relationship orientation as opposed to a fun, party girl lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you women ever confuse an attractive guy that is just being nice to you as him flirting with you? Then it turns out not to be the case and he was just genuinely being nice and polite with no romantic intentions?For players, seduction is always potentially in play. For regular guys, they go about their day normally, not seductively primed. After frequently being hit on, an attractive woman develop a wariness, a protective 'bitch shield' to some extent. She won't look a man in the eye (unless he's attractive) because she doesn't want to give any indication of interest that could prompt that man to approach. Being 'normal' around women eases the tension. It's not being sexually charged or simpish worshipp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 05:58 AM |
| 0 | You should only be in a Romantic Relationship with someone if you are VERY Sexually Attracted to them - This applies especially to women.Yes, it happens later. Typically it's the woman losing respect, admiration and attraction for her partner. Also typical is that the man is somewhat unaware of relationship dynamics and is oblivious to or mystified by her discontent. She lost attraction because he became less attractive, an energetic free man capable of leadership turned into a lethargic, domesticated, supplicating couch potato. Her aggravation relates to his neglectful approach. His simping to please her gradually deepens the pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 05:25 AM |
| 0 | You should only be in a Romantic Relationship with someone if you are VERY Sexually Attracted to them - This applies especially to women.Lust isn't all that sustainable, the chemistry fizzles out. If lust is the highest priority, finding a new partner becomes the obvious solution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 04:41 AM |
| 2 | You should only be in a Romantic Relationship with someone if you are VERY Sexually Attracted to them - This applies especially to women.A woman who prioritizes lifestyle would be a red flag for me. Someone with a bigger stash offering a better deal can be just a monkey branch away. Same for lust, chasing after a new source of chemical bliss when your sparks gradually fizzle out (~3 months). Someone who prioritizes love and security, like my wife, is a lot easier to sustain a loving relationship with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 04:24 AM |
| -1 | For casual sex, you knew it took looks, money, status and charm from an early ageTRP is still about the original metaphor. An opened mind will still come up with warped perspectives and blame others when they should be focused on their own responsibilities. That doesn't mean that opening minds and eyes is a bad thing. You've made the transition yourself. Cut young men some slack as they struggle to catch up and break through their misguided rage stage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 04:10 AM |
| 9 | You should only be in a Romantic Relationship with someone if you are VERY Sexually Attracted to them - This applies especially to women.Some women prioritize lust/desire, some prioritize lifestyle, some prioritize security, and some prioritize love. Who are you to tell them only lust matters? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:58 AM |
| 1 | For casual sex, you knew it took looks, money, status and charm from an early ageA rite of passage for a young man is meant to be a difficult challenge or series of challenges that help him make the transition into manhood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:52 AM |
| 1 | For casual sex, you knew it took looks, money, status and charm from an early ageThat is blue pill, as per The Matrix. A man's transition from blue to red was the primary metaphor of TRP. It represents a young man's transition into adulthood, from ignorance to awareness. TBP started afterwards, offering counter-arguments and criticism to the men's opinions. Then PPD began as a meeting place for both sides. The blue pill been distorted into 'anti red pill' or an affiliation with American political party team colors. Your statement of "I was so blind back then" is spot on. Mos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:50 AM |
| 2 | how would you feel if you found out your wife was imagining your gifts as something else?Gratitude isn't about the price of the gift. A woman's rising expectations of lavish dates, trips and gifts is a modern phenomenon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:29 AM |
| 3 | For casual sex, you knew it took looks, money, status and charm from an early ageFor young men, there isn't much in the way rites of passage these days. Nobody leaves us stranded in the woods to kill a wild beast and prove ourselves a man. More than ever, we resist the transition to adulthood. Fathers, uncles and other men typically don't know much to begin with and stop paying attention once they find a life partner. We're mostly left to lead our own way out of youthful ignorance and mediocrity. i was so blind back then that i couldn’t really see the truth That's the blue p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:18 AM |
| 4 | How to be more feminine and attractive to my crush?A man's arousal is an ON/OFF switch and it's easily switched on. That's the fast part. Likeability and trust are slower to build. That's why he can have a burning desire for you but doesn't want to hang around after the bedroom fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/25 01:26 AM |
| – | If women "hit a wall" then why should we bother with marriage?I choose to keep seeing her in a positive light, much as you've chosen to see my words in a negative one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 07:07 PM |
| 25 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignorancePeople give bad advice (plenty on PPD) because they overestimate their level of knowledge (Dunning-Kruger effect). "I've cracked the code." There's a tendency for people who are sexually active to believe they know what it takes to access sex. There's a tendency for people in a relationship to believe they've mastered being in a relationship. They stop seeking higher understanding and the advice they share can often come from a place of ego rather than empathy and compassion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 04:53 PM |
| 18 | Men have their own version of beta bux for women but don’t like to acknowledge itOf course they would. Men can also be cake eaters, wanting it all. Most are in the position of having no cake, and when suddenly given access to a buffet, they would pig out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 04:25 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men shouldn't be preoccupied with spreading their genes or sowing their oats. It seems weird and grotesque to me.Thanks for the recommendation on Sapolsky. Fascinating content. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 03:15 PM |
| 58 | Men have their own version of beta bux for women but don’t like to acknowledge itYes, men with options can have a dual sexual strategy very similar to AF/BB. Sport-fish and keepers. Have fun with the fun girls then eventually find a pleasant one to take home to meet the folks. And yes, some men will keep on fishing even after finding a keeper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 02:58 PM |
| 8 | CMV: Men shouldn't be preoccupied with spreading their genes or sowing their oats. It seems weird and grotesque to me.People are not blank slates, they come pre-programmed with biologic firmware. It's 2025? Do you believed you're more advanced and enlightened than the previous generations before you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 01:54 PM |
| – | If women "hit a wall" then why should we bother with marriage?Having been married 40+ years and raising 5 children together, I would choose love and duty over desire (lust). Always have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 01:41 PM |
| – | If women "hit a wall" then why should we bother with marriage?People are judged for who they are right now. A working mother of 3 sounds haggard. A guy with options is unlikely to choose her over a 21 year old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 01:39 PM |
| – | If women "hit a wall" then why should we bother with marriage?RPW say they wouldn't choose a man from TRP, and they do emphasize full vetting. They'll happily choose a 'naturally' red pill man who doesn't know or care about TRP. Relationship theories aren't usually of much interest to a man already living the family dream. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 01:28 PM |
| – | If women "hit a wall" then why should we bother with marriage?Desire seems powerful in the moment, but it's a weak foundation if that all that holds you together. With children in the picture, duty, loyalty and honor play a big part of holding a marriage together. Wife goggles are real, she's forever 24 to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 01:10 PM |
| 3 | How do I make my voice sound more feminine?A feminine voice is soft and musical. It tends to be attractive to men and irritating to some women. While a trans person will pay a lot of attention to retraining their voice, most people don't. The fact you're taking what you see as a personal weakness and are attempting to make a potential upgrade is admirable. Practice dramatic reading skills. When reading something out loud, most people drone on monotonously. There's little emotionality or variation in their voice. It's surprisingly quick a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/25 09:17 AM |
| 3 | birth rate is declining due to men objectifying women more than beforeStorks bring 'em, Disney said so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Most women are terrible at giving dating advice for men. The RedPill is needed.Beta Bucks is by definition a provider. It's high security, less focus on excitement. Still attractive to women, but much less stimulation of desire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Most women are terrible at giving dating advice for men. The RedPill is needed.Yes, Alpha could be considered expressed dominance. However, Beta isn't expressed submission or weakness, that's a mistake I also used to make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 10:16 PM |
| 0 | Most women are terrible at giving dating advice for men. The RedPill is needed.Alpha/Beta representing strong/weak is a common misrepresentation. Alpha = dominance/desire and Beta = provision/provider, as in AF/BB. Excitement and stability being the competing emotional outcomes that women seek. The weak, simping, supplicating energy is more blue pill versus red pill. They don't know any better because they're not aware enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 08:41 PM |
| -1 | Most women are terrible at giving dating advice for men. The RedPill is needed.Men are hunters and women are trappers. Until a man wakes up from his blue pill slumber, he'll easily get outmaneuvered by a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 08:25 PM |
| 0 | What are your thoughts on @coolmumdiana?The aware part is what makes the difference. Most women think about relationships frequently, hence they are aware of relationship dynamics. A default state for a guy in unaware and at some point he is forced to wake up. The RP/BP reference is to the movie The Matrix. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 11:41 PM |
| 3 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notWild stallions versus plow horses. Both serve their purpose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 07:36 PM |
| 6 | Always meeting men who only want me for sexhe seemed to be family oriented and into commitment Here's a dark secret, men lie verbally and women lie visually. Guys dangle relationship bait and women dangle sex bait. When he dangles a serious relationship, he could be flying his sexual intentions under the radar. When the woman starts talking about the same thing, the guy starts feeling trapped and wants to bolt. If he runs, he was never that interested in commitment. You exposed his scheme. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 06:21 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on @coolmumdiana?Where do you think she'd stand on the RP - BP spectrum? Women aren't on the spectrum, only men. Blue pill is unaware of relationship/seduction dynamics. Red pill is aware and willing to take action to get what they want. Black pill is aware and apathetic, unwilling to take action. Most women are far more aware of relationship dynamics than the average blue pill man, who can be easily manipulated and subjugated to do a woman's bidding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 06:12 PM |
| 5 | Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating?Sounds like he said it in a nonchalant humorous way that was relatively harmless and not really sexual. Ignoring it while keeping the conversation alive would have been the better move. The cold, delayed response was a complete buzzkill. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 06:01 PM |
| 2 | “Who are you to tell others how they feel” because people with victim complexes lie. There should be gatekeeping.Main character syndrome isn't always the overt diva storyline that's an obvious distortion of reality. Sometimes it's the subtle rewrite of a relationship after the breakup, positioning themselves as the noble victim of the other's supposed ruthlessness. Social and emotional maintenance to avoid looking bad and feeling bad. Sometimes it's holding onto victim story as a rationalization to act toxic or to detach from agency, doing nothing that could better the situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notDo you believe attraction is symmetrical? The guy will pick the rich hot girl because all things being equal, he doesn't want a moocher on his hands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 04:25 PM |
| 8 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notwomen don’t want promiscuous players, because they won’t stick around to help raise their offspring Dual mating strategies. AF/BB... Women want hot guys for sex, and supportive, loyal provider guys to help raise offspring. Similarly, men want hot easy gals for sex, and wholesome, loyal gals to mother their children. Both would want it all in one package if they could find it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notThat's not hypocrisy, just as a woman wanting a taller, stronger, wealthier, smarter, more experienced man isn't hypocrisy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingThat may have been a common thing many years ago. Seems you're holding onto some anti-conservative sentiment. Unwed mothers have strong racial indicators that align with blue states. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Do You Think Women Are Lying About Their Safety Concerns?Yes, the threat is hyped. They picked the bear so they could dump on men. Put them in the woods and they'll run to the man before sunset because they're also terrified of the dark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 06:34 AM |
| – | Sex is a need, and men are losing today because they are not needed, which is a result of the Industrial Revolution.When a man lacks access to sex, it's a significant issue to him. When he has it, it's not such a big deal. If a guy his clueless, he'll shift from pussy beggar to pussy whipped as soon as he has a girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 06:12 AM |
| 1 | F19 how can I be mature and a good potential wife?Well, your mom grew up in a generation that wasn't so bubble-wrapped. Being married at 20 wasn't unusual, and her acceleration into adulthood was probably rapid. It sounds like you're making an effort to grow up and self-improve and that's terrific. Your writing style indicates you're somewhat chaotic, unfocused and unpolished. The good thing is that you're refreshingly candid and not delusional about yourself. Using this spark of attraction you're feeling to motivate a 'glow up' is really posit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 05:11 AM |
| – | Being a late bloomer comes with inexperience, but it also comes with lots of scars and baggage. The term has also been weaponized of late, and that’s worth brining up.I like your comment, full of wisdom. Many who grow up with advantages squander it all away like lottery winners. Overcoming adversity teaches you that you can overcome challenging things. A man is forged through hardship, not a soft life. Guys who get into relationships can start thinking they've cracked the code and get lazy. Late bloomers are the guys who kept climbing when others around them stopped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 03:35 AM |
| – | Polygamy is actually very ineffective as a reproduction strategy for humans.I think Genghis Khan would qualify as a GigaChad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 03:07 AM |
| – | Polygamy is actually very ineffective as a reproduction strategy for humans.I would watch that show. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingYou had a legitimate good faith question amongst your insults? Somehow I doubt it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Struggling a bit because my BF thinks I'm physically stronger than him and it might be trueThey gym can be a terrific confidence builder for any guy. Instead of leveling up in some computer game for artificial glory, he gets real gains. Perhaps you can take lead by starting at the gym yourself and finding a way to invite him along. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Struggling a bit because my BF thinks I'm physically stronger than him and it might be trueInstead of an ick, a man gets a soft dick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingYou haven't explained what a high value woman is, you just deflected with a basic ad hominem. I specifically used the term 'good woman' because a high value woman isn't the equivalent of a high value man. Men aren't searching for the same things as women. Attraction isn't symmetrical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:51 AM |
| 4 | What are some things women dont understand about you?A woman's body count is the inverse of a man's bank account balance. Lower the better versus higher the better. Women are treated as sex objects just as men are treated as success objects. All that is superficial and should barely matter, but we live in a superficial world so it does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:38 AM |
| 5 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingDo you just want to argue or are you trying to enhance your relationship value? There's a big difference between those who complain about stuff and those who make changes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:27 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingWhat's a high value woman to you? Women decide what a HVM is. Men decide what a good women is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingI am grown up, I'm your grandpa. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingA man with options can play the field or find one good women to partner for life. One of the best decisions I ever made was choosing a good woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:20 AM |
| 26 | Women link a mans romantic invisibility with a moral or character flawYou're believing the stories she tells you. The guy become those things AFTER the breakup. Could be true, could be complete projection and deflection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:18 AM |
| 7 | Women link a mans romantic invisibility with a moral or character flaw'Romantic Invisibility' is an appropriate term to describe a lot of men. They can handle themselves in a professional environment, but turn into clumsy little boys in the presence of attractive women. They present themselves as harmless the way a friendly dog does. They disqualify themselves a lover material, so a woman is left to categorize him as a loser, provider or friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingNah, I'm your grandpa. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingI agree, but I don't trust a politicized education system. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingIt's old advice mothers would give to their daughters regarding sex. You could stretch it further to include any domestic support. Just as women have a dual mating strategy (AF/BB), men have a similar one. They play catch & release with the 'fun gals', and take things serious with a 'keeper'. Fun gals don't need to demonstrate domestic competence, they don't even need to be faithful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 01:06 AM |
| 5 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingIt's not a 'power pull', nobody is forced to prove themselves or contribute anything. It's an evolution of a relationship into something that hopefully endures. A woman holds an early advantage because the guy wants sex and she controls access. If the guy is foolish and weak, he'll become a pussy beggar trying to get a woman, and then pussy whipped if she actually accepts him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 12:58 AM |
| 5 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingI do the eating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 12:47 AM |
| -3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingSex ed could be geared towards accelerating the sexualization of youth rather than prevention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingDid a quick Google search on the correlation between poverty and unwed mothers. Political affiliation is not a primary driver, political incentivization has been. Those getting support will vote to keep that support. Those giving the support harvest votes with no incentive to fix the situation. Minimal handouts without offering a hand up. "In 2014, 40.6 percent of all children in the United States were born to unmarried mothers. That includes close to 72 percent of black children, 53 percent of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingMilk = sex in that old analogy. Free or not, if sex is all she offers then why bother committing? Wifey game needs to be more than bedroom fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingA man is often not as observant beyond "Is she hot?" especially if he's not looking for something serious. If the man starts off with a relationship-orientation he can put himself at a disadvantage. If she's interested in a relationship, he should start her off in the mail room, not the CEO's office. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 10:52 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingSounds like I read too much into it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingYes, both ways. Initially the women is in the position of observing and the man proving. That can equalize or switch as a relationship develops. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 10:23 PM |
| -5 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingUnwed teen pregnancies align with poverty. Government steps in to be the daddy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 10:11 PM |
| -8 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingWas a woman's traditional role drilled into her... or was the feminist rebellion against that tradition drilled into her? Which was the more powerful programming? If cooking agitates her, you have your answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 09:21 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingIf you consider love a verb instead of a fleeting feeling, then I'm with you. Just as a man must prove himself sex-worthy, a woman must prove herself commitment-worthy. Gatekeeper theory. A man must clearly see his life better with her than without her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 09:12 PM |
| 17 | Q4M: Why do guys act like cooking & cleaning for your bf is so amazingA women giving wifey effort seems rare these days. "Show me the ring first" seems to be the current attitude. Why would a guy with options commit to a woman who isn't trying her best to earn his commitment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Why do men assume gorgeous women will have a bad personality ? Why judge a woman unfairly and harsh ?Classic sour grapes. If they can't have it for themselves, it must be awful. Except they don't even try, making the 'ugly inside' comment to divert from their inaction and to sidestep rejection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Women are Hypocritical in Every Dating AspectAh, got it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 08:26 PM |
| 3 | economy profits from male loneliness and benefits when men stay singleOF, nightclubs, dating apps prey upon the desperation and loneliness of thirsty men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Women are Hypocritical in Every Dating AspectDid you mean hypercritical? Hypo is lacking, hyper is excess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 11:59 AM |
| – | How do men differ between women genuinely wanting to take things slow and women who lack desire for them?Being fake anything isn't a great move, doubly so for the guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 09:59 PM |
| 1 | What exactly is a Chad?Chad Thundercock is the mythical guy who gets woman easily. His attributes are whatever other men believe that women go for. He's a figment in the minds of men, typically spawned by resentment and envy. Here's a funny description... "The man, the myth, the legend. Chad is the archetypal alpha bad boy. He and his girlfriend Stacy are perennial objects of the manosphere's envy and resentment. Some denizens of the manosphere, particularly in Reddit's red pill community, display a nigh-homoerotic ob… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Is a man who sleeps with a lot of women generally a player or womanizer?Sure, and sometimes they just like to have fun. If all they want is fun, then let them be. You're not obligated to save people from themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 04:30 AM |
| 3 | Is a man who sleeps with a lot of women generally a player or womanizer?Find a man looking for the same. That's how my wife and I found each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 03:28 AM |
| 4 | Is a man who sleeps with a lot of women generally a player or womanizer?Women have a dual mating strategy. AF Chad offers fun, maybe for a night, maybe for a few weeks/months. Why are you worrying about a woman's choices? She can handle it herself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Is a man who sleeps with a lot of women generally a player or womanizer?More desirable men don't need to deceive women to gain sexual access. It's mutual attraction/desire. Without much effort, they qualify as lover material. The bluepill perspective is that Chad is behaving badly and he's breaking the hearts of innocent women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 02:16 AM |
| 13 | Most Passport bros leave the country because they can’t get any women in the U.S and try to take advantage of the American dollar being worth more over thereWhen you can be that solid provider, your traditional family role is fulfilled and you're appreciated for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 01:59 AM |
| 13 | Discussion: degrees of submissionAlthough I'm very attracted to femininity, I'm not fond of submissiveness that comes across as helplessness and fragility. I like a competent, intelligent woman. Captain & First Mate appeals to me far more than master/slave dynamic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/25 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menThe nature of bluepill is to be compliant and unaware. PPD's definition of bluepill, seems more aligned with TBP's original intent... to be a satirical counter to TRP. I think most people on this forum are redpilled, even if they don't want to admit it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 05:23 PM |
| 21 | Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to.Most modern women, especially in their early 20's aren't under much financial pressure to find a provider. They would rather have fun with the desirable guys. Some women's strategy is to have fun for a decade then find something serious. Some men's strategy is to play with the fun girls and never settle down. Some people just want to skip all the games and find a good mate for something lasting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menThere are pro-TRP grifters and anti-TRP grifters, some of whom repackage TRP into a 'not TRP but strikingly similar' brand. TRP has a messy past and plenty of ugly hot takes from participants, yet it keeps chugging along, not trying to be palatable for everyone. By the way, I like how you think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:44 PM |
| 5 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menIt seems RP preaches mass appeal. RP teaches that women shouldn't be a man's primary focus, that he should commit to improving himself in order to access a better quality of life. Unfortunately, many young men want the shortcut on 'how to get more money and women'. They don't want to climb the mountain, they just want the rewards. They look to dress the part rather than become the part. The guys who are universally attractive tend to be powerful/competent in various traits. Physical prowess, int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menThe reality of redpill is complaining about women's filtration. Yes, weaker men will try to play the victim card instead of doing the work to become AB level. Instead of using anger to become constructive and productive, they blame women and the 'system'. Very common pattern with young men. Does that make TRP problematic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Introverted nerds still can't also be assholes like attractive bad boysIntroverted nerds can't be assholes? Attractive guys who sleep around are asshole douchebag fuckboys? I don't agree with either of those statements. Pejoratives are flung about to verbally shun or shame a target. What is an 'asshole' in this context. Is it a moral judgment of an attractive man's behavior? Being disagreeable can trigger the insult. Being attractive can trigger the insult. A woman saying "You're such an asshole" while laughing can mean "I'm attracted to you". A woman might call th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Are you able to accept other people's experiences?Yes, high compliance, low awareness. Doesn't pay much attention to topics such as relationship dynamics and doesn't question anything they've been told. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 01:25 PM |
| -2 | Question for women who get approached regularly on the streetit’s not attractive men my age 'Creep' is what a woman calls a less attractive man showing interest. He didn't actually need to be creepy to be called a creep. That being said, a lot of men are socially and seductively inept and can come across in an awkward, unattractive manner. Cold approaches are useful for a man so he can get over the fear of rejection and not be so butthurt about it. This attitude of being 'outcome independent' is essential in developing a masculine frame. He should also le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:44 AM |
| 13 | How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other?A beautiful face is like a room with a view. Amazing at the beginning, but no big deal after a few weeks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 02:59 AM |
| 1 | How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other?Burning desire based on physical attractiveness isn't the only factor in a solid relationship. It's a weak foundation if that's all you share. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 02:55 AM |
| 4 | Why do men think women are trying to share the top men? A lot of women are choosing to be singleSome women's strategy is to have fun for a decade then find something serious. Some men's strategy is to recycle fun girls and never settle down. Some people want to skip all the games and find a good mate for something lasting. A 'Relationship Girl' moves very differently from a 'Party Girl'. The former is cautious about sex, booze, drugs, while the latter jumps right in, living for the weekend and cranking it up fully on vacations. A Relationship Girl is on a path to become an evolved woman, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 02:51 AM |
| 9 | Women using oppression as power and a shield from accountabilityDo people who engage in horrible behavior take responsibility for it? Usually not, that's why they'll do it again and come up with more rationalizations. My favorite is "You made me so angry!", as if that was justification for acting completely unhinged. There are no free tickets to be toxic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Are you able to accept other people's experiences?Women go for players because they're desirable. Men simp for thirst trappers because they're desirable. Desire as a shaky foundation if you want something enduring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Are you able to accept other people's experiences?Men out on the streets complaining about the women out on the streets. Not the best representatives of humanity in either case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Are you able to accept other people's experiences?Guys on PPD are all redpilled (aware versus unaware) to some degree, but don't like the negative branding and the unbalanced opinions some redpillers hold. What are blue and purple pills supposed to represent? TBP was designed as a satirical counter to TRP. PPD was originally a neutral ground for TRP and TBP members to engage in debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 11:51 PM |
| 4 | 20F, 21M How do I stop being embarrassed of having romantic feelings?As intense as your feelings are, no one else can see them or feel them. They're only 'real' to you. Try to separate your internal landscape from external reality. Emotions are actions signals from the primitive part of your brain (amygdala). Emotions help us to take quick action and making better decisions. More speed and less accuracy, meaning our emotions can sometimes tilt us too far and in the wrong directions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 10:11 PM |
| 5 | 20F, 21M How do I stop being embarrassed of having romantic feelings?OP, reading your post I'm immediately reminded of the song 'I'm Not in Love', which is about a young man struggling to admit his feelings. Turns out you're not alone with this issue, which is relief in itself. You seem self-conscience about what others think. Trust me, they're thinking about themselves and their own little world, not you. High school can be a fishbowl where people do gawk and gossip about each other, but you're past that stage now. On another note, modern feminism wants a woman … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 06:34 PM |
| 11 | I had an amazing first date with a very ambitious man but I’m worried he will not have enough time for me , need some advicewomen don’t always want to come along for the ride Riding shotgun on his adventure is exactly the right thing to do. Another way to say it is being the water to his vessel. Modern women don't want to be the water, they resist 'feminine flow'. He wants a female sidekick in his awesome life, and some women only want to be the lead character and the one driving, not the sidekick or passenger. Anyways, enjoy the ride, even if it doesn't last forever you'll raise your girl game. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Men complain about being used for resources is the same as women complain about being used for sexGood post OP. If a man leads with his wallet, he encourages women to use him that way. If a woman leads with her sexuality, she encourages men to use her that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 06:01 PM |
| 2 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.I come from a time that predates computers and forums. "Common things that everyone on this planet knows" is utter bullshit. You're so disingenuous and contemptuous of men. Are you another feminist bootlicker? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 04:26 PM |
| 4 | If women actually dropped their standards, men would feel too emasculatedSimilar, but not quite the same. Women are attracted to the highest quality man in the room. Men are attracted to the hottest women in the room. Doesn't mean either will act on that. Cheating and trading up can happen on both sides. A woman goes for a bigger, better deal or a man goes for a younger, hotter version. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 04:00 PM |
| 4 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 14 - 19. HOW TO DATE THE SURRENDERED WAY.I give frequent reassurances because I want to support and nurture my wife's femininity. If I don't give her water and sunshine she'll fade. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 03:45 PM |
| 3 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?I think politics reflect values I think politics is a matrix of control, as is media, feminism and woke ideology. Whether you pick team blue, red or green, you persuaded to believe you're the good guys, the enlightened ones. Women prefer being part of the herd versus standing alone, so it's easy to get swept up in the mob regarding the latest social issues. Blue pill is being compliant and unaware. Red pill is waking up to a reality that you don't necessarily like. It isn't just about relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 14 - 19. HOW TO DATE THE SURRENDERED WAY.stop controlling the relationship. My wife is very security-oriented. Watching her, I came to the conclusion a woman derives a sense of security either from controlling everything or from relaxing/surrendering into her femininity. When my wife feels more feminine, her mood is more positive, her energy goes up and her happiness blossoms. When she becomes more controlling, her tension rises, she stresses about every little detail and she loses her radiance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 02:54 PM |
| 1 | If you hate women nagging about cleanliness, just date slobs.For sure. My wife would go into a minor frenzy cleaning before a maid arrived because she didn't want to be judged negatively. She would also be paranoid the maid would steal everything. She's more relaxed about it now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 02:42 PM |
| 4 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.I had 5 sisters and never had the 'women are wonderful' bias. I was still soft and blue pill, gradually growing out of it by running a business as a healthcare professional. That's the crucible where my stronger mindset was forged. Many people develop a red pill awareness never having known the red pill metaphor. I had never heard of TRP until one of my sons mentioned it. It was very eye-opening. When it comes to relationships, women tend to be far more red pill than men because they pay attenti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 01:38 PM |
| 3 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.Men new to red pill experience what's called 'red pill rage'. They're angry and tend to blame everyone but themselves. Women get the brunt of it. Once they finally take responsibility they can start moving forward on a path of self-improvement. Some never make that shift. They were lazy to begin with and a dose of red pill doesn't suddenly make them constructive and productive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 01:25 PM |
| 3 | If you hate women nagging about cleanliness, just date slobs.We raised 5 kids and my wife had the choice of working in my business or staying at home. She tried working but it tore her to pieces because her heart wasn't in it. She was especially upset seeing someone else cook meals for our children. Since feeding her children was vitally important to her, she stayed at home and we hired help to keep the house clean. All good. I know you're joking, but wage gap is mostly a myth. The 77% stat was based on average total wages with no account for profession a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 01:20 PM |
| 1 | This quote "the bar is in hell for men". This quote doesn't make sense all. Because that bar isn't usually meant for all men.Your "I've cracked the code" smugness has rendered you uncoachable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 12:42 PM |
| 4 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.I have 4 sons. Blue pill naivety is the default position. Red pill is an awakening, usually sudden after given a harsh dose of reality. You have a warped sense of the pill metaphor, which seems common here on PPD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 12:39 PM |
| 6 | If you hate women nagging about cleanliness, just date slobs.Women tend to have higher standards for cleanliness. I've met male germ freaks but they're the exception. Why the fussiness about cleanliness? Perhaps women are pre-wired to keep the nest clean for raising children, similar to why women have an aversion to spiders and snakes as they pose a potential threat to an infant. Nagging can be symptomatic of other issues such as underappreciation and lack of contribution from the man. When a woman becomes tilted, she nags. When unspoken resentment builds… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 12:33 PM |
| 5 | This quote "the bar is in hell for men". This quote doesn't make sense all. Because that bar isn't usually meant for all men.Some women are reasonable and push the bar higher as they mature and become more discerning. I've met plenty of reasonable women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 12:06 PM |
| 7 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.The blue pill is the default position of a young man, compliant and unaware. A naive chump who doesn't comprehend relationship dynamics other than be nice and respectful to women the way mom told him to do. PPD has distorted blue pill into something better than it actually is and red pill into something worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 11:58 AM |
| 5 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.It's exactly what they do if they're paying attention. That's the metaphor of waking up to face harsh realities and grow up. Perhaps you're stuck in the media and feminist driven narrative of "red pill man bad". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 11:51 AM |
| 3 | This quote "the bar is in hell for men". This quote doesn't make sense all. Because that bar isn't usually meant for all men.Not the same. You've raised your discernment and ability to make a choice based on criteria other than hotness. That's a breakthrough for a man. You've had terrific relationship experiences that have enhanced your relationship skills. That doesn't make you the same as a woman who has had hordes of thirsty men blowing smoke up her ass for years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 11:48 AM |
| 3 | The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removedYou're making an assumption that every eligible male is currently on apps. They're not. There's already a large segment who have abandoned apps or have never bothered to try them. Simping is a significant problem and it's caused by bluepilled men pining for hot girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 05:14 AM |
| 1 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.I ran a successful business and taking a similar approach to your life and your "You Inc" brand can be very effective. I think the woman should put in more effort than the man, especially when it comes to earning his commitment. The doting one falls deeper in love and the relationship works better when the woman loves more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 04:57 AM |
| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?"Our research identifies six core attributes of cool people. Specifically, cool people tend to be powerful, hedonistic, adventurous, autonomous, open, and extraverted." That's an intelligent statement. "You are scientifically terrible and uncool" is juvenile and nonrational. Is English your 3rd language or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 04:24 AM |
| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?Does inserting the word 'scientifically' sudden turn cool and good into quantifiable terms? You're nonsensical. Not sure if you're high, neurodivergent or 12 years old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:59 AM |
| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?Your topic is 'why are you such an unlikable dork who isn't cool or good'. Way to make friends and influence people. Are you rage baiting or just socially inept? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:53 AM |
| 3 | How do men differ between women genuinely wanting to take things slow and women who lack desire for them?Exactly. If she wants to go slow, she's labeled you Provider Guy and is more interested in securing the bag than sleeping with you. Guys who lead with their wallet invite women to exploit them. An obvious test is to go on a cheap date and see how she responds. If she's into you, she'll be happy to spend time with you. If not she'll become aggravated that you're not 'buying' her time with an expensive date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:33 AM |
| – | Do you think that not being scientifically cool or good may be hurting your chances?OP comes across as a bootlicking male feminist. From the opening sentence the post drips with condemnation and self-righteousness. Why is PPD full of weak minds? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:17 AM |
| 3 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.Patrice O'Neal once explained that as a man, your life is your company. A new hire doesn't automatically become the CEO of your company - she starts out in the mail room. Men with little experience or few options tend to give exclusive commitment immediately. That's the mouse jumping into the cat's mouth. No fun when she doesn't have to work for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 03:05 AM |
| 4 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.This post sounds red pill. Basically, stop whining and get your sh!t together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 02:53 AM |
| -1 | How likely/unlikely is it to find love as a man?Don't focus on women, focus on your growth. A problem with TRP is that young men, driven by hormones, want to focus on achieving sex instead of success. A blackpiller combines red pill knowledge with apathy. They give up too easily. A man is made through enduring hardship and challenges. There is no 'soft girl' option for a man. Become a man of action. Billionaire Richard Branson was neurodivergent and built multiple companies by constantly taking action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 01:44 AM |
| 1 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?The TikTok clip wasn't proof of a trend. It was one women sharing how she's ready to blow up her family. It was a separate paragraph because it was a separate idea related to the first paragraph. I never claimed it was proof. You're parsing my post looking for a reason to discredit it. Not good faith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 01:24 AM |
| 1 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?Yes, also applies to men who frequently change partners. The conversation was about women. Are you white knighting for M'Lady? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 12:55 AM |
| 22 | Women don’t Care About Your StrugglesYour mother's empathy for you can give the false impression that woman are very empathetic. The truth is that women are selectively empathetic. They reserve their empathy for their loved ones, particularly their children. A young man can grow up expecting to recreate the empathetic relationship he had with his mother, only to find most women don't move that way. He finds reciprocal empathy if she's attracted, and none if she isn't. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/08/25 04:14 PM |
| 6 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?I'm not interested in the combative aspect of debate. Some people relish the jousting and swordplay of it. I like the collaborative exploration of ideas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Polyandry is the answer to male lonelinessWomen generally find a man with seductive competence is highly desirable. Not only is it evidence of higher value in itself, seductive competence is a form of pre-selection (social proof) that positions the man as pre-approved and higher tier. Women want what other women want. Looks + Money + Fame + Game = Desirability You can say that such a man is undesirable. However, the proof isn't in what you say, it's in how you respond to him in the seductive arena. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?The pills were supposed to apply to men only. Bluepilled is being naive or oblivious to relationship dynamics. The default position for an average young man. Redpilled is being aware and trying to improve. The awareness typically arising from a jolting negative event. Most guys need a harsh wakeup moment to shake them out of their bluepilled fog. Blackpilled is being aware and giving up. Most women are far more redpilled than the average man because they pay attention to relationship dynamics. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 03:18 PM |
| 12 | This quote "the bar is in hell for men". This quote doesn't make sense all. Because that bar isn't usually meant for all men.There's a tendency for women to raise the bar on what they expect form a man. As a woman gets older and has multiple experiences, her expectations go up. Not only does she want the highest level of man she managed to hookup with, she wants the FrankenChad, the sum of all the best qualities from all the men. The bar isn't in hell, her standards/expectations have become unreasonable. In conjunction, her own sense of value has risen. She's a 10 and deserves a 10. It's not all the woman's fault... t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 02:38 PM |
| 5 | “Men want to be truly desired” is just code for “I want to be treated like a Sex God”.Both want exceptional treatment without being exceptional. 'Prince' behavior is encouraged in some cultures, not so much in modern western culture. Meanwhile, 'princess' behavior has become common. Some women believe they're a 10, deserve an Adonis and should be treated like a queen. The humbling hits as they get older and turn invisible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 01:56 PM |
| 18 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?Red pill aware is the key. It's the difference between having owner's eyes and employee's eyes regarding your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 12:17 AM |
| 5 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?I agree with your take on the 'real red pill' and what it encompasses. Congrats on waking up to a journey of growth. "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." ~ Marcel Proust | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/25 12:15 AM |
| 26 | The ability to get sex when you want to is not inherently a virtue. Most men don’t want to have sex with gay men either.Less attractive people envy the sexual abundance that very attractive people have. Same with financial abundance. Funny thing is that people in abundance don't typically live in excess. They're not pigging out the way people on an all-inclusive vacation behave. In contrast to most men, women's reality includes sexual abundance. As OP shared, they don't obsess about sex because they're not starved for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 10:13 PM |
| 18 | Looking through the wrong lense: Which issues do men and women get wrong because they assume the other sex thinks like them?A man shouldn't befriend a woman he wants to have sex with. It's cowardly to not shoot your shot and keep hovering. Patrice O'Neal called those guys 'time hoes', giving away their time, attention and resources to women who don't see them that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 07:51 PM |
| 0 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?I probably could accept that but my wife wouldn't. I'll honor her insistence on monogamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 07:31 PM |
| 0 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?So if trust isn't broken because they never find out, then it's okay? That's cheater logic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 07:28 PM |
| 0 | Men want women to have LOW standards, not consistent standards.People end up bitter, bigoted and compensate with copium. Good observation, applies to everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 06:56 PM |
| 0 | Men want women to have LOW standards, not consistent standards.guys who say “its unfair that there’s rules for most guys except hot guys That's exactly what a blue pill (or newly red pill) guy would say, moaning about fairness. AF/BB is a woman's dual mating strategy. Quick, no-strings sex with the hot guy, jump through hoops for the provider guy. That's how it is. Women's strategy is to have fun for a decade then find something serious. Men's strategy is to recycle fun girls and never settle down. If a man wants to settle down, he'll typically look for a w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 06:42 PM |
| -1 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?If sex isn't sacred than cheating is just scratching an itch, not a betrayal. Good luck in a marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 05:40 PM |
| 1 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?It's probably because they made a better choice in a partner and had more development in becoming a better partner themselves. Marrying the first man you kiss would be far riskier than gradually gaining experience through a few good relationships. 100 hookups to 'experience life' isn't going to raise RMV the way a few solid relationships would. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Polyandry is the answer to male lonelinessYou're not getting it. A man who is seen as valuable/desirable to women has the opportunity to sleep with more women, if he so chooses. His desirability came first, not because of his notch count. The notch count might be impressive to other men, but SMV is measured in the eyes of the opposite sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 05:30 PM |
| 1 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?Did I say that? Your comment lacks good faith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 05:26 PM |
| -1 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?Yes, and anyone who engages in hookup culture is probably more likely to later cheat in a marriage. How can loyalty endure when sex isn't sacred and relationships become disposable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 12:32 PM |
| -3 | If pair bond does not exist, then how do such concepts exist?While I agree with you, I think their are other aspects involved. If a woman has frequently rotated partners, she can get comfortable with the idea of a breakup and might experience minimal emotional fallout when it happens. Breakups can become trivial. Also, if a woman is driven by desire, she'll be looking for a new source of sparks when she isn't feeling the tingles anymore. On a recent TikTok a woman talked about leaving her perfect man. For men, the message was clear, do everything right as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Red pill is much better for the avg manJust saying shit doesn't make it true. TRP is about turning a young man's sorry-ass life around by facing reality, growing up and doing the work. Some young men want to skip the work and jump straight to the rewards of money and women. That's their personal failing, not TRP's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 11:59 AM |
| 0 | Red pill is much better for the avg manTheBluePill was a satirical forum designed to skewer TheRedPill. It gradually lost traction, so members switched over to PurplePillDebate where they could continue their mainly feminist-based rants. Concepts from the red pill have stood up for more than a decade. Throwing shade isn't going to make the concepts any less valid. Your mission is to grow up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Polyandry is the answer to male lonelinessA man isn't valuable for having multiple partners. It's the reverse. He's valuable enough that he can attract and sustain multiple partners. The value comes first. Similarly, a woman isn't valuable for having multiple partners. A prostitute has multiple partners who pay her each time they visit. She doesn't gain market value from that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 07:56 AM |
| 1 | I Think I Just Found the Bridge Between Femininity and the Positive Side of the Red PillOkay, I'll give a typical scenario. Walking into a club/bar you meet a group of women. There seems to be good energy, then one throws an insult your way. If you're inexperienced, you take it at face value and defend yourself. That's a fail. It was actually an indicator of interest known as a shit test. She was testing your frame, your confidence, your savvy. Acting butthurt is a fail. The right response is to smile and do something playful and unexpected such as agree and escalate. You're showin… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/25 01:03 AM |
| 0 | Women are more replaceable than men in datingSure, a woman can transition from the cock carousel to a nice beta bucks chump who can't see her red flags. Life of a HVM isn't about sex with hotties. It's a reward if he wants it. He can also choose quality instead of quantity and stay with one good woman. That was my choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Red pill is much better for the avg manThere are plenty of immature people on this forum. Some of the guys calling themselves blue are definitely red in their philosophy. Red pill is accused of being toxic, making everyone want to shun and shame it. It's core philosophy is what you're claiming to be blue pill. Looking at your previous posts, you don't seem to go particularly deep on much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Women are more replaceable than men in datingA woman can easily run a roster, if that's what you mean. If she offers up sex without strings, men will line up. That doesn't mean she has the SMV of a HVM. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Red pill is much better for the avg manAre you making this stuff up? Everything you said is completely counter to the concepts. You must be trolling as per your name. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:54 PM |
| 0 | Does the “victim” in a break up really glow up the mostSupport is huge. Men have a much harder time with divorce for that reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Red pill is much better for the avg manThe red-blue and alpha-beta dynamics are completely separate. If anything, the nice guy beta behavior is more likely to come from a blue pill dude who isn't aware his approach is counter-productive. Fake alpha is a different problem. The red pill is about embracing reality and responsibility. How did you get that so backwards? Have you ever seen the movie The Matrix upon which the metaphor was based? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Red pill is much better for the avg manGo rewatch The Matrix. The metaphor is people are unaware of the artificial reality holding them captive. Taking the red pill would awaken you to reality, uncomfortable as it may be. The blue pill was a choice to return to the fake worldview, to being unaware. You're right that people aren't alpha or beta. Someone walking around as a big swinging dick 24/7 would be an absolute clown show, like Cruise's Les Grossman in Tropic Thunder. It's more a description of behavior that a woman would recogni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Men are seen and treated as the 'Prize'Just as their are horrible women, there are horrible men. Giving men access to knowledge doesn't guarantee they'll use it in a constructive, productive manner. Your monster painting of the community mirrors feminist's distain for all men. Not surprised. Misandry is more widespread than misogyny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Men are seen and treated as the 'Prize'Haha, either you just can't help yourself or your blatant bigotry is pure trolling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Polyandry is the answer to male lonelinessWomen are fixated upon their own needs and desires. The social causes they embrace are the trendy ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Men are seen and treated as the 'Prize'I'm married 40+ years, raised 5 kids and ran a very successful business that employed mostly women. In a nutshell, bluepillers are docile, compliant and unaware. Redpillers, having awakened to reality, seek truth and growth. The metaphor is simple and clear. Until you can expand your thinking, your quick judgments will hold you back. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 09:53 PM |
| 3 | Red pill is much better for the avg manBlue pill is being naive or oblivious to relationship dynamics. The default position for an average young man. Red pill is being aware and trying to improve. Most guys need a harsh wakeup moment. Black pill is being aware and giving up. The pills were meant for men. Most women are far more red-pilled than the average man because they pay attention to relationship dynamics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 09:32 PM |
| 0 | Red pill is much better for the avg manBlue pill is oblivious or naive to relationship dynamics, red pill is aware. The fact you're aware means you aren't actually blue pill. Your approach seems to emphasize beta more than alpha, and that's fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Men are seen and treated as the 'Prize'Juicing up your SMV might get a man's attention, especially for a hookup. RMV is what keeps him around. Fit, fun, friendly, feminine, respectful, loyal, cooperative, supportive, domestically skilled and generous in bed are all positive traits that appeal to a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 08:42 PM |
| 4 | Men are seen and treated as the 'Prize'There was a time when both gentlemen and ladies were common. Harder to find these days. You can raise your standards all you want. You can be loud and proud about your worth. Unless you elevate your behavior and value, you won't be worthy when a good opportunity finally comes your way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 08:21 PM |
| 4 | Polyandry is the answer to male lonelinessMGTOW has become a preferred strategy for men. They don't show up at speed dating because they've lost interest. Women don't mind when broke dudes eliminate themselves from the dating pool (or gene pool). What they hate to see is a man with considerable resources walking away. Plenty of simps in the dating pool, which is why 66% of men's messages are going to the top 33% of women. Polyandry would work for the dregs, those thirsty guys with no other options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Women are more replaceable than men in datingYes, and women will accept non-monogamous because they would rather share a piece of the best than have all of a lesser man to themselves. Player's Agenda: Smash ➔ Plate (Roster) ➔ Main ➔ Exclusive Woman's Agenda: Talking Stage ➔ Boyfriend ➔ Fiancé ➔ Husband Average guys with few options default to the woman's agenda. HVM have options and can employ a player's agenda. Some women embrace the player's agenda for themselves and run rosters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 07:51 PM |
| 11 | Why do so many men in relationships lust after women online?Just seems like women cant win in this society With a gynocentric worldview, the concerns of women are recognized and addressed. Women have multiple ways to win. They can work hard to enter the winner's circle. They can stand near the winner's circle and charm a winner. They can lure men by thirst trapping. They can sign up for a sugar baby arrangement. They can damsel for attention and support. They can be a traditional housewife. A woman can win without doing much work at all, gaining that cov… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 03:00 PM |
| 1 | People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women.I recently met a family that runs a market on their farm. They have ten grown kids, all home-schooled and all of who worked on the farm in some capacity. Their gardens were pristine and bountiful. I was so impressed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 02:01 PM |
| 3 | I Think I Just Found the Bridge Between Femininity and the Positive Side of the Red PillI'm not interested in boundaries that attempt to contain or limit the behavior of others. I would focus on my actions and behaviors, things I can actually change for the better. Frame is something I control and others will perceive as either strong or weak. Many men are accustomed to surrendering frame around women to show they're harmless, not a threat. Self-sabotage. If you're a doormat with weak boundaries, your solution isn't stronger boundaries that others still won't respect. Your solution… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/25 01:10 PM |
| 3 | I Think I Just Found the Bridge Between Femininity and the Positive Side of the Red PillDevelop a solid, masculine frame. If you don't, you'll end up attending to a woman's shitty, unstable frame while neglecting your own. A man should be the solid vessel and the women the water that flows within. The masculine holds strong and the feminine flows. With modern relationships, men are showing up with weak, ungrounded frames and women are showing up trying to be the stronger frames (masculine) instead of the water (feminine). | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/25 11:49 AM |
| 3 | Women love the idea of Power Imbalances but hate the reality.Good conversation. The women don't start off disrespecting their husbands. Those men turn to unappealing drones with anti-game in terms of personal power and seductive appeal. A man who sustains his attractiveness to other women will keep his wife attracted to him. The game doesn't end when you get married, but a lot of guys think they don't have to make any effort and she'll be okay with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:37 AM |
| 7 | Women are more replaceable than men in datingOn a hookup level, everyone is easily replaceable. Once you look at stable, healthy relationships, good partners are not easy to come by. Cherish what you have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 11:05 AM |
| 17 | Men who are desperate to find a woman are actually desperate for something else. A meaning to their lives.To break out of this red pill, manosphere era, we need to show men there are other value systems that can bring meaning to life. That a life can be lived ethically, purposefully, and fulfillingly - indeed more fulfillingly - than one centered on things like sex and money. Red pill, much like capitalism, is corruptible. A core message is focus on your mission, not women or money. Those should be outcomes from mission success, not the mission itself. Individuals are corrupted by their own choices,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:26 AM |
| 5 | Discussion: Male Led RelationshipsThank you for your explanation. It sounds like it's working for you both. The D/S doesn't appeal to me but I understand how it could work for some couples. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/25 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Male Led RelationshipsSounds healthy. He isn't Dom, so submission has been your choice and not his demand. What makes it BDSM? Is there spanking, bondage and forms of punishment? None of that sounds sexy to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/25 02:21 PM |
| 0 | Typical dating advice for men vs typical dating advice for women shows who is really more entitledAt lower levels, women clearly are the ones choosing. At higher levels, the men do the choosing. A woman's beauty isn't so remarkable at that level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 01:21 PM |
| 5 | Ai robot sex toysIt's the GF experience a man wants, not just sex. Instead of being invisible and irrelevant, he longs to feel respected, valuable, admired. Rich losers can now have a hot GF who is programmed to adore them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 11:51 AM |
| 7 | How often do you spend time with your spouse?After raising 5 kids and running a successful business with my wife, I would say 3 evenings is maintenance level. We would use yearly vacations to reconnect, just the two of us pretending we didn't have any children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/25 10:54 AM |
| 1 | I think those who generalize women who a single set of behaviours literally can’t help it. They do the same to menTRP generalizations tend to apply to the base level of humanity and the corresponding amygdala-driven behavior. Many people operate from lower level firmware, never transcending to a higher level of comprehension and adaptation. The flaw of TRP isn't inaccuracy, it's focusing upon the wrong goal: gaming women into bed. In the movie The Matrix, the choice of red and blue pill wasn't the only powerful metaphor. Having taken the red pill, you now had the ability to download skills into the back of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 10:51 AM |
| 1 | What’s your advice to men who are too empathetic?Yes, your point is valid. However, many a grown, highly-accomplished man turns into an goofy, incompetent fool in the presence of a beautiful woman. Putting beauty up on a pedestal is a universal tendency. Frame isn't just being an adult. 'You people' indicates your judgment and bias. "Genuine question' would normally mean genuine curiosity. Admit it, you only asked to dismiss and discredit any answer you were given. A veneer of politeness to mask contempt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Men's social role is limited by society's preference for "masculine" traitsIndecisiveness only wins when the better move is doing nothing. In general, action leads to better information and course correction leads to better results. Competence can also be described as power or prowess. Intellectual, physical, financial, social and seductive are all forms of male prowess. Not that those traits are exclusive to men. I like those traits in a woman, but it's her femininity that I would find most alluring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 08:54 PM |
| 3 | What’s your advice to men who are too empathetic?Frame is not new terminology. It was one of the most important concepts I came across in TRP a decade ago. It's essential to stable masculinity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 07:24 PM |
| 4 | What’s your advice to men who are too empathetic?It's frame he needs to pay more attention to. A lot of men have the frame of a jellyfish. He needs to fortify his own frame and stop attending to a woman's unstable frame trying to appease her and make her feel better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 11:43 AM |
| -2 | Male thirst is men's greatest enemyMen are expected to restrain their sexuality and their masculinity. Emasculating men is not going to make the world safer for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 10:39 AM |
| 3 | The bluepill is by far the nastiest dating ideologyRed and blue pills became a useful metaphor to describe men in the dating scene. The original term to describe a guy who was seductively incompetent was an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump). Blue pill is the blissful fog of being unaware and clumsy, comfortably drifting along at a level of 'unconscious incompetence'. People are conditioned to be passive. Good little job slaves and corporate drones. On top of that, men tend to pay little attention to relationship dynamics, which means their default … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 01:46 AM |
| 0 | The lie regarding nice guysCall it rizz if you want, it doesn't change the meaning. Seductive competence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 12:56 AM |
| 2 | If a Guy is Toxic, Women Won’t Entertain Him (Looks Be Damned).He sounds emotionally unstable and incapable of seeing his behavior objectively. You sound mature, balanced and reflective. Hope you find a decent man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 06:22 AM |
| 3 | If a Guy is Toxic, Women Won’t Entertain Him (Looks Be Damned).Thank you for a detailed response. Relationships don't always evolve in a healthy way, especially when the contribution and affection becomes one-sided. In the case of your husband, he may have resented being married as his value increased. You were with him when he was a medical student and resident? I've seen guys in that circumstance leave the women who first bet on them once their value shot up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 04:29 AM |
| 7 | If a Guy is Toxic, Women Won’t Entertain Him (Looks Be Damned).At what point did he become 'toxic'? Did he become physically or verbally abusive? Was the sex degrading? I'm not a fan of pump & dump, smash & dash, ejaculate & evacuate or however you want to put it. But women also enjoy hookups and labeling the guy toxic or a fukboi just seems like a woman's excuse to keep the spotlight off her choices. Reputation preservation by shaming men. Now do women fall for bad boys all the time? Yes. Those guys are more desirable than the pandering nice guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 11:15 PM |
| -5 | The lie regarding nice guysAlice is wired to assess a man's value and she finds Bob unappealing. His niceness lowers his value. He puts her on a pedestal, inadvertently eliminating himself from consideration as a lover. Once Bob develops game, he starts clearly demonstrating lover potential in women's eyes and no longer sabotages his perceived value. Nice guys demonstrate anti-game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 09:24 PM |
| 4 | Do you think average men can treat average women poorly? Do you think men always treat women "in their league" well?Nice guys lose SMV for treating women too well. Women are attracted to strength, power and confidence. A quick way of trashing your SMV is to put a woman up on a pedestal and treat her as if she's better than you. A woman enjoys holding the catbird position but she won't respect you. Her attraction to a man aligns with her respect for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:51 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny"So you're saying... (insert strawman)" Why so disingenuous, Tiny? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 03:46 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Being attracted to women is misogynyCombo of money, muscles and game. Peak females in 20's match with peak males in 30's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 03:39 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Being attracted to women is misogynyMale SMV peaks in 30's, for women it's much earlier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Women who want men to “lead” don’t really want a leader they’re just lazy, don’t want to take any initiative, want their minds read and are actually the ones in chargeAuthority is being in charge. Leadership is breaking new ground. Management is sustaining what you already built. People often blend those 3 together and make it about a power hierarchy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 03:08 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Being attracted to women is misogynyWomen are seen as sex objects and men as success objects. Deal with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 01:35 PM |
| 13 | The main people mentioning women’s intuition are men who victim blame women.OP oozes contempt for men. I just think it’s wild to blame men for the actions of women, even abuse of all types, but not be willing to admit you’re a misandrist. How does that sound coming in the reverse direction? A man usually isn't willing to call out a woman's BS when he wants to get some or when he can't be bothered to engage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:50 AM |
| – | Do you think shy men wishing for women to initiate and be more proactive are against women's autonomy?Women give indicators of interest that offer a green light for a man to approach. It could be argued that the woman initiated those interactions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Why is toxicity rewarded in a dating setting like I know it makes them interesting but what about morals?Well said. Young people are often driven by desire and make poor choices based upon desirability instead of superior value. Men are probably more guilty of this, seeking hoes instead of a housewife. I move in higher circles and the women I meet tend to be smart and sophisticated. Maybe some went through a hoe phase before settling down. However, that's a bit like saying you had a meth phase. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 06:37 AM |
| 3 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesHe won't understand your struggles unless you tell him. You're attracted to him, want to take things further, but are afraid of ruining things if you go too fast or slow. If the guy knew what he was doing he could probably have confidently assuaged your fears and scored by now. Nice guys don't know what they're doing and are just as afraid of ruining things. It gets awkward instead of sensuous. You might have to give him more green lights to encourage his advancements. While cocky guys might bar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/25 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Why is toxicity rewarded in a dating setting like I know it makes them interesting but what about morals?Calling a guy a creep doesn't mean he was actually being creepy. Toxic is the label earned by taking what he wanted and abruptly leaving her. Shaming him is her payback. It's social warfare. I'm not condoning a 'hack' player's tactics. They know how to stimulate a woman's desire and exploit it. A good lover doesn't dangle a relationship as bait and never casts a woman away like garbage. She is better off having met him, except other guys can't measure up afterwards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 04:25 AM |
| 13 | Should women be “giving guys a chance”?Desire can bypass vetting. Same happens for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratioNot following your assertion I've said something wrong. Of course looks matter. Men get lazy in relationships and let themselves go (betafication). When they become unappealing the woman loses attraction and the bedroom eventually dies. A very common pattern in a marriage. My argument is that desire is an unstable foundation for a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 02:34 PM |
| -2 | Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratioHow disingenuous of you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Relocating to find a husbandWhen we're younger, we're more attracted to action and opportunity. As we age, peace becomes a higher priority and action becomes annoying. At this stage in your life, choose action. Then your tiny town can become an occasional oasis instead of a full-time trap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratioMen are wired to be attracted to female fertility. If he's blinded by desire, he'll make stupid choices and can be easily exploited. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 02:42 AM |
| 8 | I believe women are more sensitive to negative feedback than men. This study supports that.In talking with athletic coaches, I wasn't surprised to discover female athletes require more emotional support than male counterparts. I mostly had women working for me and they responded very well to praise and encouragement. Criticism without support tended to be very counterproductive. They would take things very personally and hear "that sucked" as "you suck". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:31 AM |
| -1 | Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratioDesire isn't a solid foundation for a lasting relationship. And it's hard to convince carousel riders they've made mistakes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:57 AM |
| 16 | Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations.Other than glaring exceptions, famous people will tend to behave themselves. Commoners can get away with reckless behavior and have much less to lose when caught. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 01:10 PM |
| 0 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?If she is initially interested and he doesn't make any move, she will not stay in a suspended state of attraction. The initial sparks fizzle out. He missed his window of opportunity. Not a difficult concept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 12:21 PM |
| 3 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?Demonstrating sexual intent is important. Getting to 'no' quickly is better than lingering in a friendzone. A guy who fears rejection will fail to take a shot. Screwing up his courage and suddenly showing interest after months/years of friendship is awkward. His best chance is within the first few weeks of meeting her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 10:56 AM |
| 6 | Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time?If he doesn't act reasonably quickly upon first meeting then a woman's attraction fizzles out. Like you said, she's thinking he isn't interested. If his actions show strong friendship vibes, he disqualifies himself as a potential lover. Boldness pays off. The worst that happens is she says 'no', and often that can turn into a torrid, green-lighted 'yes' once she has warmed up to the idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Less women than men find the average potential date spontaneously sexy, but most women can be as aroused as a man in timeMen's arousal is an ON-OFF switch, women's arousal is a thermostat. Unless she arrives pre-heated, she'll need more time to warm up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 11:32 AM |
| 1 | The less you care, the most success you'll have. Here's how.Men categorize women, that's what the hotness scale is about. Of course women can boost their rating significantly with makeup and skankwear. It's the testosterone that drives male selection with the overemphasis on youthful beauty. A lack of intellectual and emotional subtlety would be correlation not causation. Overt submission and weakness is generally unattractive in a man. A woman's softness and vulnerability (feminine traits) can be appealing to a man. A marriage is a team? Yes, I've been … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 06:22 AM |
| 1 | The less you care, the most success you'll have. Here's how.You've interpreted my comment as being about power games, as in the dominance-submission spectrum. Women are attracted to a man's power/prowess, which includes physical, financial, social, intellectual, emotional, seductive and such. Dominance isn't the point. A woman typically seeks superior traits in a man, not overt cruelty. A woman's initial attractiveness is primarily about aesthetics and femininity. For men it's more. They're categorized as a loser, lover, provider or friend. You've displa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 05:32 AM |
| 1 | The less you care, the most success you'll have. Here's how.Money and women will elude you if you chase them. Both are attracted to you by the person you become. This aligns with the most frustratingly basic red pill advise... 'Be Attractive'. Women aren't attracted to your effort, they're attracted to your perceived value. Your effort and value can become inversely related. The more effort you make to lift her up and please her, the more she'll feel she's above you and that you're less valuable. Treat her like a queen and she'll treat you like a peasant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 12:46 AM |
| 8 | Relationship to fwb?He has you on the hook. You're committed to him and he isn't to you. It sounds orchestrated on his part, his little blowup designed to reduce your status back down to the fukzone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/25 02:46 PM |
| 1 | I feel unattracted to my husband who earns less than meOkay, you deserve a response from a different angle. I think desire is a troublesome foundation for a relationship. It's fleeting and the expectation that intense chemistry is essential can lead a woman (or man) into abandoning a terrific relationship. Some modern women have become tingle/desire chasers, which is a polite way of saying they really enjoy being dicked down by a random stud and aren't capable of staying faithful to a good albeit unexciting man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/25 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Men cause just as much drama as women.Your post is popular because blaming men is encouraged. Misandry is ubiquitous and celebrated. Until you grow up, your growth will remain impeded by the juvenile transference of responsibility for the drama in your life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 11:42 PM |
| 5 | Men cause just as much drama as women.Adultery requires a marriage. That involves becoming marriage material first. Blaming men is a burning red flag, but you do you. Woman are often the guilty ones, as adultery takes minimal effort on their part, and when it happens, they'll still find a way to make it the man's fault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 10:02 PM |
| 14 | Men cause just as much drama as women.Why do men boost up a woman? To smash. Why do they act like A-holes afterwards? They want to move on and don't want a woman to become attached. They could keep up the Mr. Wonderful routine, but decide to dash. Either they don't want a girlfriend or they don't see her as girlfriend material. OP's idea of drama is a man not acquiescing to what she wants. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 09:09 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend lacks maturity, direction, and emotional depth — should I cut ties before I invest more?People might say, "Oh he's still young. Give him a chance to grow." Bullshit. It's one thing to be unpolished, as many young men are. It's another to be completely lacking in potential. OP's relationship is a tragedy-in-the-making and things will only get worse the longer she holds on. A woman can come to table lacking in many ways, but she still has child-bearing potential. A shabby, fix-it-upper man isn't worth the time and effort to build him up. Hypergamy might not be considered virtuous, bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/25 11:16 PM |
| 20 | I feel unattracted to my husband who earns less than meGym-bro kicks sand in the wimp's face and takes away his girl. Wimp goes to the gym to get fit and earn his share of female attention and loyalty. Women aren't attracted to wimps, and not just the physical variation. Women are attracted to powerful men. Physical prowess, financial prowess, social prowess, seductive prowess, and such. You can try to ignore biology, but your primitive brain functions still operate with primitive wiring. Your 'ick' response is a case of modern beliefs crashing into… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/25 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Women definitely equate (involuntarily) single men with losersYes, men are looked upon as losers unless proven otherwise... A man's fast screening of a woman: "Is she hot?" A woman's fast screening of a man: "Is he a Loser, Lover, Provider or Friend?" A woman has a strong disqualification paradigm, so any guy who doesn't immediately radiate Chad vibes (Lover material) has to get past her Loser filter and he has a relatively small window of opportunity to do so. A quick way to bypass the Loser filter is to show that other women already approve. In PUA, the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 06:30 PM |
| 14 | Is it wrong to call out friends who ghost men?Putting a spotlight on a woman's negative behavior is risky. Women will hold onto a grudge and will find devious ways to 'get even'. Why would she intentionally ghost? To feel powerful. To punish a man today for the behavior of all those bad boys who did her wrong. In a way, she's doing men a favor by nuking things immediately. Worse would be a guy investing years into a woman who kept her toxicity hidden. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/25 04:54 AM |
| 0 | Women don't reserve casual sex for top % men because those are the only ones we're attracted to.hetero sex boosts male value and decreases female value Sex doesn't make men valuable. The men who are getting easy access to sex have been deemed valuable enough to be sex-worthy by many women. More male value leads to more access to sex. His promiscuity is indicative of his higher value in the eye's of women. Women start off sex-worthy, so they don't have to prove higher value the way men do. Her promiscuity is not indicative of higher value in the eye's of men. I wouldn't say her value is dec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 02:08 PM |
| 1 | What people fantasize about and realistically want will always be different.As with a good hire, you want to evaluate someone on a broad range of criteria and determine if they meet or exceed expectations. Unfortunately, people will often obsess over a single criteria and make important life decisions based solely on that. Is she hot? Is he rich? When I first started in business, I made weak hires. I didn't understand what better quality looked like, didn't have a list of criteria and took whatever came my way. As my standards and expectations rose, I made better choice… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 01:42 PM |
| 3 | We should start sexualizing menWomen are sex objects and men are success objects. Both are objectified. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 01:49 AM |
| 0 | The nice guy does deserve to finish lastWomen recognize fake nice and detest it in a man. It makes him look weak and slimy, the opposite of holding frame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 01:54 AM |
| 3 | Do you actually NEVER get laid or approached, or are you exaggerating?I've seen hungry eyes for the bulge in my pants... namely the wallet in my back pocket. It's a predatory glint, like a gypsy sizing up a mark. Getting that sort of attention really isn't better than being invisible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Women do not refuse the red pill arguments, they detest the label and who is declaring themWomen seek AF during ovulation, BB the rest of the month. Men who have options have a similar dual mating strategy. Fun girls for a nut, good girls for a mate. Men without options (lacking game, frame, fame, etc.) take whatever they can get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 01:06 AM |
| 1 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a womanYou can get to the point with women they'll jump into your boat without much effort on your part. Patrice O'Neal had a great bit on women and fishing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 10:13 PM |
| 0 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a womanHe also wasn't great, just capable of researching and writing. Similar case with Robert Greene and his book The Art of Seduction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 10:07 PM |
| 9 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a womanWomen don't see him and don't think about him. He's not on their radar at all unless he moves into close proximity and attempts to get their attention. At which point he becomes a minor annoyance. No point in being overly self-conscious, because unless you're remarkable in some way, people don't think about you at all. They're too wrapped up in their own little world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Women preach “confidence” but get annoyed when average men think they have a chance with themConfidence is a very attractive trait to women. In particular, confidence in the seduction arena. The guy with a 500 body count swagger and game appears ridiculously superior to the average guy who appears eager but unpolished. A woman who prioritizes her desire will keep falling for the Chad, Tyrone, Pookie or Ray Ray over reliable, boring Office Bob. Part of game is frame, the ability to project and maintain a confident, masculine presence. Most guys aren't aware of frame and can come across a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 08:52 PM |
| 4 | Women dont view having access to causal sex as a benefitAverage men envy the easy access to sexual encounters women have. 'Red Pill Rage' arises from that envy. An average guy typically lives in sexual scarcity and will take whatever scraps come his way. Simping becomes his MO just to get anywhere close to an attractive woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 01:14 PM |
| – | Women can’t really rate other womenWomen rate themselves and each other as 10's. It's a collective smokescreen. It would be a betrayal for a woman to publicly speak truthfully, "You ain't a 10, you're barely a 4, girl." That would get ugly fast. Women speak truth privately, sometimes behind each other's backs. Women rating themselves would be pointless. Men rate women and women rate men. Applying a numerical value is something a man would typically do. Personally, I find rating to be dehumanizing and a blatant objectification, as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 02:53 PM |
| 0 | Out of all the men you meet in your day to day life how often do you meet a guy that you actually like? And why do most men not do it for you?I could equally argue that antifa radicals represent the look and behavior of the entire left wing crowd. Smearing all the people within a broad group with monster paint isn't helpful. That's what frequently happens on this forum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 02:35 PM |
| 0 | Out of all the men you meet in your day to day life how often do you meet a guy that you actually like? And why do most men not do it for you?Clean, polite, respectful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 01:27 AM |
| 1 | The majority of Red Pill men are incredibly insecureRed pill just means being aware and willing to work on improving your reality. I got there building and running a successful business. It's a mindset difference and it seems you're mostly there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 12:59 AM |
| 7 | It has never been easier to date as a manA study based on 'feelings' is not something to draw conclusive deductions from. Men may be inclined to diminish and women inclined to overstate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Most men have terrible dating advice. Being bitter is not the gold standard of attracting women.What is attractive in a man? Power. Financial power (6 figures), physical power (6 ft, 6 pack abs), intellectual power, social power, political power, beauty power (granite chin), seductive power. The more boxes he ticks the more attractive he is deemed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 07:04 PM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?I didn't mention humor. Please clarify. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 03:54 PM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?Are you always condescending and right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 03:17 PM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?I make conversation to make a point, not to share and connect. Just now I was out on the deck checking my bird feeder. The squirrels have mostly taken oner the one with peanuts. The red squirrel was making a lot of noise because it gets bullied away by the bigger black and grey ones. They all cleared away and the red one came back and had the feeder to itself for a few minutes while I stood by... I don't talk like that because there is no purpose to that story, no lesson to be shared. No value a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 03:11 PM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?Conversationally, men and women play entirely different games. Men play more competitively and want to score conversational points quickly. Women want to pitter-patter back and forth to keep the rally going, not even trying to win points. I ran a business that mostly employed women and I couldn't sit with them at lunch. The chatter was too exhausting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 01:23 PM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?Your opening was fine and your basic argument has validity, as people tend to be judgmental of others and blind to their own faults. Then you proceeded to call men "miserable, hateful, bitter, serious, sexist and dull" as well as whiny, envious and hateful. You're defensive to the point you discard everything I said with an "I'm not, you are" argument of my supposed bias. Do better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 01:12 PM |
| – | Men who claim women are "boring" what makes them "boring" and what makes you more 'interesting' or 'fun' to be around?So much bias built into OP's question. It goes unnoticed because it parallels society's pervasive 'women are wonderful, men are bad' bias. In truth, there are unpleasant people on both sides. "Boring" is an interesting descriptor. If you're not into the same stuff I'm into, you're boring. If you can't intellectually joust at my level, you're boring. If you don't show the same energy level and recklessness at parties, you're boring. If you don't lavishly spend your money entertaining me, you're b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 11:51 AM |
| 8 | Are you happy redpillers?Nihilism is the black pill. Understanding reality and choosing apathy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/25 08:09 PM |
| 15 | Q4M: How would you feel if women acted like "fukgirls"?Giving a man easy access to sex is equivalent to giving a woman easy access to a man's resources. Sluts and simps both lose respect when they surrender their primary value too easily. They're easily exploited. Don't get me wrong, men enjoy fun girls for fun, just as women enjoy the fringe benefits simps provide. Sex with no strings attached? An average man's dream, a hot guy's reality. A 'victim of fuckbois'? A woman chooses to engage in sport-fucking to be dicked down by a stud. She does it for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/25 07:50 PM |
| 9 | It worked-1 year later updateWonderful to see you back and thriving. Not easy to cleanse yourself of the modern mind viruses. Congrats on escaping the old crab bucket of crappy friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/25 07:29 PM |
| 6 | Follow up on my last postGreat advice. In business I learned the hard way that failing slowly with a bad hire is misery for everybody. Better to put them to the test so they fail fast, then pull out the swift sword and end it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/25 10:53 PM |
| 11 | CMV: Divorce is harder on womenThis brings to mind a somewhat laughable quote from HRC where she pandered to a female audience... "Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat. Women often have to flee from the only homes they have ever known. Women are often the refugees from conflict and sometimes, more frequently in today's warfare, victims. Women are often left with the responsibility, alone, of raising the children." Outside of her own family unit, the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 03:15 PM |
| 11 | Men’s inherent value in a relationship?'What do you bring to the table' applies to both sides. There must be clear benefits beyond basic companionship for both partners. A man's contribution should exceed a woman's as she already brings her biologic fertility to the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/25 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Men’s lives don’t suck because men repress their feelings or hide them, men’s lives suck because society doesn’t care about themWhen a young man develops agency, he becomes capable of solving problems and forging a better life. Without that agency, he'll keep drowning in the shallow end of the pool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Need advice for supporting my husband through his health problemsHe's not alone. Chronic inflammation is widespread and happening at surprisingly early ages. What to do about it? Stop eating processed foods. Most of the food selection at your local grocery store will contribute to his problem. Reduce gluten intake, eliminate if possible. Take supplements, Vit D in particular. I take 6 x 2500IU caps plus a single D&K combo. Ingest anti-inflammatory spices, including turmeric, black pepper, ginger, cinnamon, nutmeg, cayenne and cloves. Find a delivery system yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Is he condescending or am I just sensitive?Getting a new car is awesome compared to not being able to afford one. The choices are all positives. Okay, hubby is a buzzkill with his overthink. Beneath his research-mania, he just wants to make a good choice and he wants his opinion validated. Are you willing to let him lead on this decision? We recently bought a new car. Had to be Toyota. Had a Highlander Hybrid for years but found it larger than we needed. Went with the Rav4 Hybrid. Higher ground clearance good for our country property. Up… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/25 11:41 PM |
| 5 | Should I forgive my man for being addicted to porn?If you aren't keeping his belly full and his balls empty someone else might step in to give him that. In this case, porn somewhat replaced you in bed. Glad to see you both moved back to a healthy love life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/25 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Vetting: *If he never changes*Submission isn't just boring, it's frustrating. When one partner always leads, decision fatigue eventually sets in. Captain and First Mate is not a master-slave power dynamic. Both contribute, both step up, both earn and maintain respect. Agreeableness is always attractive, as it brings peace to the relationship. In marriages, men often become the submissive, agreeable partner by coasting too much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/25 03:12 PM |
| 14 | I joined this subreddit after my experience!Congrats on the recovery. Instead of only focusing on what you want or don't want, you're focusing more on supporting him. Both of you openly talking through this is so much better than silent brooding. Your relationship has now leveled up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/25 02:40 PM |
| – | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.A strong relationship isn't just transactional. A woman can deny a man sex and support. A man can deny a woman attention and resources. Sure, you can finesse each other trying to extract the better deal instead of reciprocal gifting and kindness. What a sh!tty relationship that would be. Manipulating through withholding is risky as it can create a negative retaliatory spiral and doom the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 02:32 PM |
| 8 | Am I doing too much or not enough ?Right now he's your everything and that's imbalanced. When my wife and I moved far away from her family for 3 years (Military posting), she initially struggled. She would wait for me to come home and be so eager to talk and hear all about my day. There was an emptiness in her life and a desperation that I be the one to help fill it. I encouraged her to get a job on base, and as soon as she did, she returned to her happy, secure self. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Do men who want commitment present themselves as such right away or do some consider commitment after they've been dating a girl for a while?Kudos for staying on the wholesome path when everyone is trying to corrupt you. A man wants to be the one to defile a good girl and the sisterhood will keep pushing her in that direction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 01:10 PM |
| 3 | Do men who want commitment present themselves as such right away or do some consider commitment after they've been dating a girl for a while?The difference is whether you contribute or just mooch. A man trying to mooch is a joke, but a woman can make a career out of finessing thirsty men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 02:35 PM |
| 6 | Do men who want commitment present themselves as such right away or do some consider commitment after they've been dating a girl for a while?Peter Pan Syndrome is more prevalent than ever. A lot of young men resist adulthood. I have 4 sons and see how resistant they are to stepping into adulthood. The equivalent in women is 'daddy's little princess' who gives minimal effort and expects to be pampered. In my experience, the Peter Pans outnumber the princesses by a wide margin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/25 04:05 AM |
| 5 | Waiting for labelDo you want to be the mother of his children on a deep level? Are you gasping "I want to have your babies!" in a passionate moment? Does he want to be a father to your children with equal intensity? If kids aren't in the picture, the impetus might not be enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 04:22 PM |
| 15 | Waiting for labelA man is vetted to determine if he's worthy of sex and a potential relationship. A woman is vetted to determine if she's worthy of a ring and being the mother to future children. Congrats, you're being seriously considered. OP, you said "puts a lot of effort into our relationship", which is an awesome green flag. Are you putting in equal or more effort? Do you show up every day eager to contribute more? Looking like a princess is a green flag. Acting like one in an entitled manner is a glaring r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/25 03:06 PM |
| 15 | How should I view past sexual encounters that only happened because I was drunk?It's not the drunken hookups, it's the person you become. A lot of peer pressure in college to get drunk and do stupid stuff. Some people are completely changed by those experiences and live for doing more drunken stupid stuff. You've learned from it and cleaned up your act. Wholesome versus debaucherous. That's the person you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/25 10:42 PM |
| 0 | “Men are looking for clean water in a desert while women are looking for clean water in a swamp” is the most misandrist analogy I ever heardI prefer this analogy: a man is the vessel and a woman is the water. She flows (feminine) into the framework (framework) he provides. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill men and Blue Pill want the same thing but how they approach it is vastly differentI'll use an analogy to help clarify. Red Pill is entrepreneurial, where you have heightened awareness, optimize in multiple directions simultaneously, test the market and stack the deck in your favor. Blue Pill is an employee mindset where you plug in and keep it casual. My red pill journey came from running a successful business, not seducing women. The mindset is similar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 08:33 PM |
| 1 | I am sick of hearing about being stuck in the FRIENDZONE from menGuys hesitating to take their shot relegate themselves to the friend zone. It's a lack of courage and self-respect. Sure, a woman likes having a utilitarian buddy or a loyal emotional tampon to cry to. He's giving her his attention and support for free. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 05:51 PM |
| – | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionGoing your own way tends to be easier for men. Women are more inclined to be collectivists rather than individualists. They're more drawn to the protection and security of a tribe and are reluctant to wander off alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 05:43 PM |
| 1 | “Men are looking for clean water in a desert while women are looking for clean water in a swamp” is the most misandrist analogy I ever heardIn terms of SMV, the average man is subpar compared to the average woman. Why? 1. Biologically, the egg bearer is more valuable than the sperm donor. 2. Testosterone makes a man thirsty. A woman doesn't have to make the hard grind to win, she can saunter off to the winner's circle and pick the guys who already won. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 04:55 PM |
| 4 | One thing red pill gets wrong is “fake it til you make it” and “behaviour is attractive”. Nah, you’ve literally gotta have the goods to back it up or it failsOk Mr. Natural. I find men aren't that coachable because they posture that they know it all already. When they get a gf, they figure they cracked the code and stop paying attention. That's why guys in relationships fade into blue pilled chumps. I say this having raised 4 sons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 04:46 PM |
| 3 | One thing red pill gets wrong is “fake it til you make it” and “behaviour is attractive”. Nah, you’ve literally gotta have the goods to back it up or it failsYou're being literal. Muscles represents physical attractiveness. The 3 traits are Rollo's summation of male attractiveness. Game comes down to seductive competence and the man's swagger that women perceive. It's preselection without having other hot women on his arm, because he comes across as having a history of other hot women being on his arm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 02:06 PM |
| 4 | One thing red pill gets wrong is “fake it til you make it” and “behaviour is attractive”. Nah, you’ve literally gotta have the goods to back it up or it failsMoney. Muscles. Game. One is enough, all three becomes irresistible. Most guys lack. Sure, the guy with money and muscles might outpull the one with game alone. Even if he doesn't have to make much effort, chances are he'll develop game quickly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 01:46 PM |
| 4 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?Cooking, cleaning and raising children have been framed as patriarchal oppression. Some modern women aren't just domestically incompetent, they're resistant to contributing, as if taking care of a family and home was enslavement. Some want to be a princess, some want to be a warrior. Funny thing is, becoming strong and independent inevitably means doing it all themselves anyways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/25 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Does cleaning make us more feminine?In some ways, femininity is an oxytocin-reward system. Do things for your loved ones and feel more love and contentment. OP, my wife is the same as you. She'll reluctantly allow others to clean, but wants to prepare family meals herself. When our children were young, we hired a nanny and my wife tried going back to work. She felt regret watching our kids enjoy the nanny's food and growing more attached to her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/25 02:25 PM |
| 7 | Ladies with a wild side, how to keep it in check?OP, that's a healthy approach. I was speaking in generalities, not about you or the many good women of RPW. Some people make reckless, alcohol-fueled choices. That's why hard partying is a big red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/25 12:18 PM |
| 11 | Ladies with a wild side, how to keep it in check?Giving her best stuff seems obvious, but when a woman wants to settle down, she might play the 'wholesome pretender' to get the ring. Even after years of unbridled fun, she keeps it vanilla for Mr. Right, hiding her inner hoe. If she craves some wild, she might find a dish on the side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/25 05:08 AM |
| 7 | Ladies with a wild side, how to keep it in check?Seduction is a sport that some people are obsessed about. Man or woman, fun-time seekers aren't built for loyalty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/25 10:18 PM |
| 6 | Any advice for being less reactive in my relationship?Super macho ways? Can you give some examples? When supplicating, simpish mannerisms become the norm for men, a masculine man can come across like a caveman. You seem willing to grow and adapt. As a single parent, you can end up stuck in the middle between feminine and masculine. Difficult to embrace the softness of femininity. Not saying that strong gender polarity is essential for a healthy relationship, it just seems you're opting for combat over peace. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/25 02:58 PM |
| 4 | I (27f) saw texts on my bf (31) phone from exesYou're feeling 'dread', the stress of competition anxiety when other women show interest. In one way it's confirmation of your bf's value, but it's also a warning that other women are attempting to poach him from you. Has your BF raised his value? It's like winning a lottery where old acquaintances and distant relatives show up on your doorstep pretending to be your best friend. Just being with you raises his value in other women's eyes. Women see a man alone and subconsciously question if he's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/25 03:42 AM |
| 4 | I’m starting to understand men and now I’m madThe red pill is bitter, and a lot of people race to plug themselves back in to the blue pill world once they've had a red pill moment. Why? Because the illusions are more comfortable and you get to blame everybody else for your circumstances. Angry at men? Sustaining red pill awareness involves turning the focus inwards and taking more personal responsibility. You become agitated for being such a chump and begin working on yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/25 10:42 PM |
| 6 | Do I go to church today?Gaming can be an abyss for a man. It's not just a temporary escape, the false sense of accomplishments and accolades can seduce him into completely neglecting his RL (Real Life). You can quietly lead by going to church with your child. Bring him back to the light so together you can return focus on building a beautiful life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/25 02:25 AM |
| 59 | How to totally wow a manI hesitate to share on this topic. The machinations of 'how to make a man fall for you' is similar to 'how to get a woman to sleep with you'. Might as well ask 'how to fake it until you get the ring'. It shouldn't be a question about 'what bait do I use to entrap him'. I'm all for becoming the feminine goddess every man wants and flowing into a man's life to support him in every way. However, how to become a chameleon to lock him down is right up there with how to baby trap a man in the Gold Dig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/25 06:28 PM |
| 2 | If men think women are expired by the age of 30, why do men even bother to get married in the first place?The concept of "The Wall" on collapsing female value seems mostly born from envy. When young men become more aware of relationship dynamics, some turn their frustration of the high SMV young women have, while they're forced to start at zero value and must build it up. Some men revel in the idea that the SMV advantage women have enjoyed, gets taken away with aging. getting bored, resenting, and divorcing/leaving their wives anyways Flip the genders and you'll be more accurate. Women initiate most… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 04:49 PM |
| 1 | How to navigate being among feminst women'Softness and cutesy' has been rejected to some degree. In women's eyes, soft men are losers. They might assume the same applies to them and do everything they can to be a hottie, a baddie, a boss babe, anything but a sweet little good girl. Masculine behavior can make a man appear more valuable, while a woman behaving the same way can appear less valuable. Attraction isn't symmetrical. Women shaming feminine behavior isn't new. My wife is soft and feminine. My 5 sisters, none of whom were parti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/25 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Receiving gracefullyThere can be joy in giving and joy in receiving. Some feel joy in both, some with one but not the other, and some are joyless no matter the circumstances. Just as people can have a negative association with wealth, they can be resistant to receiving from others. How do you feel when you receive? Do you feel unworthy or indebted? It seems you feel a little guilty. Better to feel a little uncomfortable than entitled and unappreciative. Not 'dread' though, that's the pang of competition anxiety whe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 09:30 PM |
| 1 | I struggle to forgive my boyfriend because of the jokes he made about meYou might want to tone down that white-knight reflex. She asserted herself, he apologized and corrected, and she's still holding onto it. Seems you have a very toxic view of men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 07:38 PM |
| 3 | How to navigate being among feminst womenSome men poke fun at each other as a form of comradery. When it comes to aggression, men are more physical. Women use social aggression, as in shaming, shunning and reputational destruction, usually done behind each other's backs. Some women don't have a vicious bone in their body, but that's not always the case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/25 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chanceWomen will say the right things (social maintenance), especially with others watching, then turn around and choose Mr. Badboy because he's desirable. That's why such a poll becomes so far detached from actual behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 12:11 AM |
| 5 | Moving in with my boyfriend — need adviceOne strategy for keeping a HVM is to wrap yourself into his life like an octopus, making yourself indispensable in multiple ways and giving him no room to wander or be approached by another woman willing to play that same octopus role. If you play it casual, he might take you casually. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/25 04:46 PM |
| 9 | Only attracted to dominant masculine men - helpTwo ends of the dysfunctional male spectrum. On one side there's the thirsty simps trying to curry favor. On the other are the players trying to score quick and hit eject. There are 'normal' guys with decent values who have their life together and have maintained masculine strengths, but they're harder to find. Good luck OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 10:14 PM |
| 7 | How to navigate being among feminst womenthey made fun of my softspoken voice Women are usually the shamers, the hierarchal ones, the pushers for more female power. A man wouldn't cringe at your voice, he would find it appealing. My wife has a soft, musical voice that I still find attractive after all these years. Their mockery was very disrespectful and looks badly on them, not you. The quiet ones come across as more composed, less needy. Vying for attention and authority isn't a good look. In upper levels of power, the one talking th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 04:11 PM |
| 10 | Suffering from “Oneitis”Sometimes the one we thought was so perfect isn't and maybe never was. Oneitis is where a you fall in love with the idea (blue pill fantasy) of someone and nobody else can shake you out of it. It's an infatuation that can last for years. Alpha-widowed is where you fall for a superior man and no one else can come close. You're left clinging to the memories. If this happens on your first love encounter, you could face years of disappointment afterwards. After all, "comparison is the thief of joy" … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 03:19 AM |
| -2 | I struggle to forgive my boyfriend because of the jokes he made about meAt its core, the red pill is about letting go of illusions and growing up. Adulting is a big leap for the coddled. If his little dig is enough to derail your life, that's on you. Buck up buttercup. You seem sweet but oh so fragile. Two things will give you ageless beauty, your femininity and your relationship value you've built with a man. Work on those. Edit: This isn't intended to be mean. Make the shift from "How can I feel better?" to "How can I do better?" and the progress you'll make will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/25 02:58 AM |
| 8 | How do I reconcile being a “good girl” but with a shameful past?Give up? It seems you're doing great at 23, becoming a woman with higher RMV. You've had some decent practice at relationships and have probably become more discerning and more capable. You sound wholesome, not defiled or corrupted by indulgences, and virgin or not, that's what a guy wants. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/25 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Imagining alpha vs. beta as a two-scale system instead of oneCompetence is my jam, yet that translates to skill level more than perceived power. Confidence is a bold, self-assured approach, an attractive masculine trait. Even if it's empty bravado, it's still more attractive than timidity. As you said, competence can lead to increased confidence, but the two aren't synonymous. Confidence also leads to competence. Focusing on competence can provide steady, evolutionary progression. Focusing on confidence can provide revolutionary breakthroughs. I enjoy wat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/25 11:04 PM |
| 5 | Imagining alpha vs. beta as a two-scale system instead of oneI thought a lot about this in the past and have moved away from the binary Alpha=strong & Beta=weak model. It skews swagger and sexual desirability as the primary value of a male, leaving 1-2% of men Alpha and the rest Beta. It turns men into assholes trying to vie for a spot in the Alpha club. Women are attracted to power, which comes in many forms. Financial power, social power, physical power, facial beauty power, dominance power and seductive power. The last two represent his swagger and pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/25 01:39 PM |
| 3 | 18f Need advice on vetting guys as someone with little experience doing so ?You're moving cautiously and that's fine. Imagine the opposite where, driven by desire, you fling yourself into a bad boy's arms because it 'feels right' in the moment. If you want something fun, practice being wild and fun. If you want something deep and serious, practice that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/25 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Strategies for Self-Regulation and Taming My Temper in a Loving RelationshipLeadership/Followership doesn't have to be a lobsided master-slave, boss-employee power dynamic. Leadership involves an opportunity to change something for the better. The one who steps in to make it happen takes on the leadership role. The one who helps make it happen is the follower. The funny thing is, working as partners there often isn't a clear leader because both can be contributing with their hearts, minds and hands engaged. That level of engagement makes a huge difference. With shared l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/25 05:31 PM |
| 4 | BeautyGreat comment. If SMV is a woman's game, then beauty is paramount. She'll be directly competing against every hottie, baddie and DTF fun girl in the crowd. If she chooses to build her RMV, she opens up other criteria and traits that interest men. She makes herself relationship-worthy instead of just sex-worthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/25 01:35 AM |
| 1 | The Unsettling Truth of Romance, Love & a Woman's Purity.Women are attracted to a man's power for both his survival and reproductive value. Financial power, physical power, hierarchy power, seductive power (game), social power (fame) and the swagger in how he carries himself (frame). Men loving the idea of a woman is so blue pill. Seeing them as feminine goddesses when they are far from it. I had the 'advantage' of living with 5 sisters. Never fell for the 'women are wonderful' bias. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/25 06:08 PM |
| 7 | Field Report: Been following this sub since 2015. If you don't have a passport, it's time to get one.Bo's Legion of Men channel talks about how great Romanian women are, and how they appreciate and encourage masculinity in men. I really enjoy his red pilled content and the fact he can spit fire off the cuff so effectively. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/04/25 04:27 AM |
| 11 | The Value Gap: Are you an asset or a liability to the men and women in your life?The table question equally applies to men. A woman brings biologic value (fertility) to the table, even if she brings little else. Other than those who inherit wealth, heigh and good looks, men start at zero and have to build up value. That biologic reality has always been the case. The moment your reality turns for the better, women become more interested. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/04/25 08:23 PM |
| 1 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?I've looked at the other comments, and even in this forum women believe holding back is a good idea. He's a doctor, other women probably want him for themselves. Imagine holding back from giving him your best, only to have him walk away for another woman who gave it her all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 08:07 PM |
| 5 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?The Red Pill isn't traditional. It's seeing reality and optimizing to win. I became that way by running a successful business, not by spitting game to seduce women. Even your unfortunate experiences can prepare you for a better future relationship. Rolling the dice on marrying as a virgin seems crazy to me. Chances are you'll be stuck in a lousy relationship, just as you experienced. One of the reasons for failure is not knowing what you're doing and not being capable of course correction. A pot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 05:14 PM |
| 3 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?Over-giving isn't the real problem. Choosing poorly by chasing a Chad is the bigger mistake, a guy who never had the intention of committing. Men do the same thing, over-investing in women who have no intention of choosing them as a partner. You're right that he might not be a boyfriend, even after 4 months. It's not unusual for a woman in a situationship with a HVM to consider him 'the boyfriend'. OP may be getting way ahead of herself, that's what women often do. Energized by hopes and dreams.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 02:24 PM |
| 1 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?Built up some really positive shared experiences. Meet his family first. Maybe try a trip together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 05:25 AM |
| -1 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?Women will tell you you're giving too much because they see your generosity with a man as a betrayal to the sisterhood. Some women are takers not givers and will try to stack every interaction in their favor. Any man looking for a good woman will appreciate your wholesome nature. After 6 months dating, my then girlfriend asked me what future I saw for the two of us. I told her I could see us getting married in a year and she just answered "Yes, I want that, too." That was the proposal, no theatr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 04:19 AM |
| -3 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?Weird dynamics have crept into modern dating. For example, some young women "don't want a man who has no bitches", meaning if he isn't a player, they're not interested. Not that such an absurdity applies to you in any way. Your BF seems to be navigating the relationship minefield cautiously. Maybe he was burned in a previous relationship and is being more careful. Maybe he's just busy with other important things. Your giving nature is a wonderful thing. Don't change. You're building a good found… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 03:36 AM |
| 3 | It’s been 4 months and I want to be exclusive - or am I just a plate?You're not a plate, he's spending so much time with you. Does he understand red pill theory? He's withholding commitment and instead of giving it up too easily. That's good. He also has a bit of dread going by keeping the apps active, making you try harder. You're being tested and you're passing with flying colors. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/25 01:56 AM |
| 7 | How to be attractive?What is the outcome you want? How you dress and behave can change men's perception of you. Oversimplifying it, Hotties want to be prized, Baddies want to be desired, Boss Babes want to be admired/respected, and Good Girls want to be loved and cherished. And all of them want attention. The movie Grease offers a playful twist on the 'Good Girl meets Bad Boy' trope, where they temporarily switch roles before both mutually adopting 'baddie' personas. The movie was a breakout for Olivia Newton John, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/25 11:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you know if you've 'passed the test'?Anxiety can be constructive. It means you care about this working out and that preparation is required, like being anxious about a big test. Anxiety about past actions isn't very useful, focus on what you can do today and tomorrow. Anyways, if he exposes himself as a douchebag post-sex, then at least you gain quick closure. He can always bounce and so could you. The reason you stay is because life is so much better together and you've already felt that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/25 10:21 PM |
| 12 | How do you know if you've 'passed the test'?turned into us spending six hours together That's a clear indicator he's relationship-oriented instead of just in it for the sex. Players aren't likely to invest any more time or resources than they have to. The timeline of sex might seem like a big deal initially, but it's rendered moot in the entirety of the relationship. Your first date was really multiple dates packed together; coffee, walk, drinks. When it's right, everything seems so easy and shiny. Transition that infatuation into love an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/25 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Update: I (F26) broke up with my LDR boyfriend (M28) but he promised to change…Gifting isn't necessarily romantic. For some men it's transactional, a subtle form of payment for sexual favors. If there was no sex, you probably wouldn't get any gifts. OP, you mentioned "I still love the guy even though I know he is likely full of BS." Sounds like he has you 'hooked'. Hookers are given that name because they hook men into becoming repeat customers with girlfriend game, not just sex. That's how they keep men coming back for more. She gets the steady flow of money and he gets s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/25 12:47 PM |
| 5 | Shutting DownYou shouldn't have to talk him into things. You're working hard to make this happen and he seems reluctant. Pull back and make him step up, make him commit more. If he won't, let him go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/25 04:20 AM |
| 5 | Shutting DownAn aloof boy makes her hamster run... Rollo Tomassi explains, "A woman’s imagination is the single most useful tool in your Game arsenal. Every technique, every casual response, every gesture, intimation and subcommunication hinges on stimulating her imagination. Competition anxiety relies on it. DHV (Demonstrating High Value) relies on it. Sexual tension (gina tingles) relies on it. "Call it “Caffeinating the Hamster” if you will, but stimulating a woman’s imaginings is the single most potent t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/25 04:39 PM |
| 11 | Silence when I’m awayHe is secretly envious you have freedom and he doesn't. It might be a little more... I'm speculating he doesn't want her to wiggle out of the parental shackles he wants keep on her. His 'nanny with benefits' is breaking free. Same trickery applies with a single mother keeping a provider under wraps. OP is in a leveraged position with the ability to walk away. Her BF is going to try to flip the script by playing the victim and guilting her with a claim she abandoned them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/25 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Torn Between the Love of My Life and My Family - Need AdviceMy wife missed her family but was very happy being with me. My Military commitment was 3 years and we returned back to the city where both our families resided. We had one son while away, and a second one on the trip back. She was different after that, much more self-reliant and mature. Her mother and sisters held less sway over her. You could do an exchange trip with your BF. You do one month in NZ, then he does one month back in America. Test the viability of your relationship and residing in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/25 08:20 AM |
| 9 | Torn Between the Love of My Life and My Family - Need AdviceThe illusions of 'true love' may not last long if you actually move to NZ to be with him. Then again, the illusions might hold you in its grip if you don't try. This could be an opportunity to grow and find something meaningful, or it could be a waste of time. I married at 22 and a year later, due to a Military commitment, moved with my wife about 850 miles away from her family. I didn't know it at the time, but 'cutting her apron strings' became a huge step in the life and family we built toget… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/25 06:24 AM |
| 3 | How can I stay sweet with my bf when I’m coping with stress?Praise is enough. Be his cheerleader. Women are accustomed to positive attention, validation and praise, while men are usually starved for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/25 01:39 PM |
| 11 | How can I stay sweet with my bf when I’m coping with stress?A healthy relationship is resilient. When life knocks one partner down, the other can help them back up. With an unhealthy relationship, resentment and contempt creeps in. Conflict arises over trivial things, tension persists. If this guy was a douchebag, he would use the first excuse to end things. Seems he's going to step up and be your hero. OP, you'll be better than okay. Show how much you appreciate his support and let him know you'll happily do the same when the time comes that he needs yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/25 02:04 AM |
| 16 | Low effort manLow effort post with lack of punctuation. Seems you're now playing a game where whoever shows the least effort is the coolest one. I saw that sh!t back in high school. Funny thing, at a reunion I noticed all the square, uncool kids had blossomed into winners, their shy awkwardness outgrown. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/25 10:21 PM |
| 20 | Should I end my relationship?Does he think you're trying to trick him into cohabitation? Does he have someone else on the side? Does he not think you're wifey material? His reluctance to step up puts everything into question. Are you willing to be up front him and to potentially walk away? "Look, maybe this relationship wasn't as solid as I thought it was. I need some time to reevaluate things." He either steps up or he doesn't. Many relationships drift along casually. One partner can end carrying most of the burden and alw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/25 05:49 AM |
| 5 | Advice to newly weds or about to be wed.This is just my advice to them but it would be nice to read other ppls adivceI enjoyed your post, though I found it so serious. There's an ease, a weightlessness, to a loving relationship. Last night I woke up and reached for my wife but she wasn't there. She was back in the city while I'm staying at our country place. I felt the emptiness of being separated. Today I called and shared how I missed her sleeping next to me and she began to cry. Love isn't that complicated. Here's a bit of advice my wife and I gave at my son's wedding... 1. Love is a verb – those small lovi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/25 01:47 AM |
| 12 | How to FEEL more feminine?My wife was Cinderella and I rescued her. She worked 2 jobs, did most of the dirty work for her family and they had her living in the laundry room along with racks of her mother's extra clothes. What makes Cinderella compelling to men is her kindness, work ethic, warm disposition, and feminine grace despite her hardships. They want to step up to be her hero. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/25 11:32 PM |
| 3 | New here. Can anyone give me tips?Never thought RPW was about submission. Isn't it about seeing reality and adapting appropriately? Part of that is embracing femininity as a winning strategy, not just submitting. Femininity is very attractive to men, submission by itself isn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/25 02:22 PM |
| 9 | I have seen this biggest changes in my fianceHe always had the expectation that I would earn an equal amount to him. Did he make the clear or was that your assumption? Women often assume men care about a woman's salary the same way a woman cares about a man's salary. Not true. A man doesn't want a moocher, a pillow princess leeching off him, but once he's doing well, he doesn't expect a woman to bring home a huge salary. He's willing to sacrifice his happiness to bring home more money, but would rather see you do something that makes you h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/25 01:20 PM |
| 3 | [Update] How do I gauge his interest about commitment and dating without fully revealing my feelings yet?Being vulnerable and showing emotions? He is attracted to your femininity and wants you to show more of it. In your last post, his affinity towards femininity was very clear. Does he reciprocate your devotion and support by returning his masculine energy to your feminine? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/25 11:34 AM |
| 3 | Feeling trappedSounds like a symptom of a deeper problem. Is the guy struggling at work? Taking out frustrations on one's partner can become a bad habit. Nobody wants to be play the role of an emotional punching bag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/25 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Does my RMV lower with me wearing alternative (yet feminine) fashion styles?If you're trying to catch one great man for a lifetime, dressing feminine and modestly is a good choice. If you want to catch any man for a night of fun, dressing sexy is a good choice. A woman will say she can dress any way she wants to, but she will be judged for it. Men will tend to judge a woman as either a good time girl or a long time girl, and how a woman dresses can play a big part in that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/25 12:57 PM |
| 5 | Enhancing your SMV later in life?Well done on boosting your SMV. There's a humbleness required to admit you're not already a 10 with some room to improve. It's not all about hotness. You're making an effort to look good, your self-esteem is higher, your communication is warm and friendly. Men don't want to approach angry boss babes. I especially like the softening of your language and tone. One of my pet peeves is hearing a woman's vocal fry tone. Grating. Femininity is enduring beauty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Do I hang on or let go?Loving sacrifice for a child is usually not reciprocated and not expected to be. Partners who don't reciprocate come across as parasitic, slowly draining you. I don't think you're turning into a bad GF by withdrawing. Either he steps up big or you let him go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 12:55 PM |
| 8 | Do I hang on or let go?Consider a BF like an employee. An 'A player' will flourish, thriving with challenges, taking initiative and always looking for ways to do better. A 'B player' is a Steady Eddie who is dependable, though limited. A 'C player' requires constant maintenance, draining resources just to maintain mediocrity. This guy sounds like he's stuck at C and likes it that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 02:36 AM |
| 10 | Do I hang on or let go?Being alone is better than being with a deadbeat. He's not going to grow up after a child is born. What do they bring to the table applies to both partners, and it isn't just about the good stuff. People bring their baggage, attitude and nasty habits to the table and this dude will burden you into misery. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 12:40 AM |
| 9 | Am I (28F) letting the provider (28m) comments get to me?Money, muscles and game... If he's weak on money, is he at least exceptionally ripped and charismatic? If not, why are you attracted to mediocrity? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/25 04:36 AM |
| 15 | Sometimes they want to be chased.they want to be chased a little bit. They want to know how much you like them. I agree with the second part, not so much the first. Show devotion. I would be cautious with 'black cat energy' that involves ignoring him and showing contempt. Ridiculously hot women can play such games to make men do their bidding. Wives can eventually wear out a man's devotion when it's poorly reciprocated. Staying in your own space is a good thing, the space creates peace. Patrice O'Neal had a funny bit on how a w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/25 11:36 PM |
| 9 | How do I get my husband to help more with baby careWhen the baby gets a little older, your husband will probably be more inclined to help. Husbands are out of their element when infants are in their 'suckling blob' stage. My wife adores helpless newborns. I prefer them when they start racing around the house like a little menace. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/25 08:42 PM |
| 51 | "men prefer younger women"Those 4 things sound perfect. One caveat though, doing all that isn't going to change a lame horse guy into a champion. When you make a bad pick, the fear isn't that he going to leave, it's that he's going to stagnate and stay. You end up locked in to a lifetime of financial struggle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 08:01 PM |
| 5 | Advice on converting datesjudge genuineness in the guy's behavior Not easy. The genuine guys tend to be dull and predictable. The bad boys offer more excitement. Game is about spinning a playful illusion and stoking desire. Women tend to judge 'real' by the intensity of their feels (chemistry), and guys with seductive competency are the ones who glaringly stand far above the others. They seem to be the superior choice. Some guys will bounce right after sexual conquest. "Shock ghosting' is an accurate description. Wouldn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/25 04:27 PM |
| 5 | As a man, low energy will lead to a poor quality of life. Save yourself.Well done. The best investment you can make is in yourself. Whether it be your body, mindset, energy level, or seduction savvy, you carry the benefits of reaching a higher level for the rest of your life. The second best investment is in a viable business. That's the crucible where you'll be tested and forged. Where you'll grow as a person and build your wealth. As Jim Rohn once said, “Success is not something you chase; it’s something you attract by the person you become.” Hard for a money-hung… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/25 06:28 AM |
| 2 | I'm sooooooooo tiredYou definitely have too much on your plate for you alone to handle. Other than relaxing cleanliness standards a little and your husband pitching in instead of harping about it, the choice comes down to finding new families for the pets or hiring some help. The latter seems more plausible. As a start, maybe a neighborhood teen could help you after school. Kudos on the kitchen and healthy breakfast, those are the same priorities my wife would choose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/25 11:53 PM |
| 4 | Should you give wifey treatment to a boyfriend? I mean you have to show him you’re wifey material before he puts a ring on it first right?A girlfriend should be selling the guy on her ability to be a wife. If she does no wifey stuff as a GF, why would he sign up for more of that? She should be at her best as a GF then stepping back a little, leaving him wanting more. Withholding seems ridiculous to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/25 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Advice on boyfriend growing distantIn a perfect world, you would both be growing, along with your relationship. Are you growing? Is he growing? Do you help him grow and does he help you grow? It seems your relationship is withering. Complacency is a slow poison. Here's something from my old notes... Comfort and security are the death of seduction. Societal expectations pressure you into thinking serial monogamy is the only path to take and anything else will lead straight to eternal damnation. So people have traditionally settled… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/24 05:32 PM |
| 22 | Anyone else cant wait to get married?everyone goes partying & gets drunk When you stay sober at a party, you see how dull the party is, how foolish some people act, how alcohol fuels the illusion of a good time. It's a losing game, the more you drink the worse off you'll be. I'll take the fullness of family over the emptiness of hedonism any day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/24 01:53 AM |
| 7 | I broke his trust. How should I proceed?The guy seems fragile. You didn't do much in the way of shattering him, seems more self-inflicted. It's an opportunity to use diplomacy and grace to help him recover. Even if it doesn't work out, you want to leave him better for having met you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/24 12:17 AM |
| 8 | Princess TreatmentI agree. Regular guys want to make an effort and be generous to demonstrate their affection. Regular gals want to be romanced. Where it gets ungracious is when a woman demands princess treatment, as if entitled to it. A mercenary hottie-4-hire attitude where the Cheesecake Factory just won't do. Fools lead with their wallets and are easily exploited. Coffee dates have become a thing whereby guys can weed out those entitled princesses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 11:08 PM |
| 12 | I broke his trust. How should I proceed?"I apologize" is more effective than "I'm sorry". Sorry can provoke backlash. Besides, you didn't do anything wrong from the sounds of it. Every moment doesn't have to be perfect to build memories together. He sounds somewhat broken that he's lamenting over something that happened years ago and let it come between you and spoil the trip. Men usually lick their wounds, learn their red pill lessons and carry on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 10:46 PM |
| 5 | Hit a 3 and a half year old in the face"in order to keep our kids safe" That's the sort of hyperbole that dials this scenario up to eleven. This was not an attack on the child meriting jail time, it was inappropriate parental punishment delivered by a relative who stepped way out of line. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 10:23 PM |
| -10 | Hit a 3 and a half year old in the faceWouldn't say 'smoothly' as the mama bear response will put a big chill on family gatherings for years, perhaps permanently, with the husband caught in the middle of the crossfire. I could see my wife doing the exact same thing in such a scenario. Hopefully the grandfather can make a graceful apology and find a way to reunite the family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 07:08 PM |
| 17 | When people say the rich marry the rich - are they talking about men who come from money or men who are self made?Loyalty matters. Taking care of her while she cares for her grandmother is the equivalent of her sticking by your side in your struggle years before making it big. I admire those who pay their dues and make sacrifices. Attractive women are able avoid the struggle by cozying up to the men who have already made it. Bill Burr joked about women standing near the finish line telling the race winners, 'I'll suck your dick." | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/24 05:08 PM |
| 21 | Do It AnywayI stopped asking if he'd like such and such You're putting a decision on him whether or not he wants you to do him a favor. Of course his automatic answer is no, he doesn't want to burden you. When you just do it, he sees it as a gift of love. A woman making a man a sandwich out of the blue is a profound thing in a man's eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/24 08:44 AM |
| 15 | What are you guys thoughts on “black cat” energy on TikTok?When you teach your man he can live without you, he might just wander off and live without you. An opposite strategy is to 'institutionalize' your man, making him dependent on you to function on a daily basis. People say they crave independence, but they wander around looking for a place to plug their umbilical cord into so they can slack off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/24 02:29 AM |
| 2 | how did you know that you found 'the one' for you?I can relate to your man. It wasn't until I met my wife that my potential surged, that I was given a deeper purpose of building a better future together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/24 04:18 AM |
| 5 | I’m abrasive: part 2. I have questions.He wants a strong partner by his side. Not a fierce warrior exactly like him, but a kinder, gentler version who melts to his touch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/24 12:03 AM |
| 5 | I’m abrasive: part 2. I have questions.He went to the gym and I called to see if he cared He probably didn't care one iota, but became annoyed for being bothered at the gym. You seem to have anxiety about decision-making. Analysis paralysis and timidity. Try some unthinking and just doing, making adjustments as you go instead of worrying. As a business owner and health professional, I was a very good problem solver. The problem is, everyone began totally relying on me to solve their piddly problems. Computer not working? They would t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/24 10:52 PM |
| 8 | I’m abrasive: part 2. I have questions.can’t you just make a decision!? A lot of depth to that rhetorical question. First, it's hurtful, implying that you don't measure up to his expectations. If you're submitting to a man, there needs to be trust that he won't disrespectfully kick down at you from the lofty pedestal you've give him. My wife is perfectly capable of making good decisions, but she doesn't like the burden of leadership. She asks for my input and I'll give her a concise, decisive opinion. Sometimes I get a little frustra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/24 07:00 PM |
| 13 | Why do the men I date eventually become complacent?Low effort can mean low interest. Some guys are very interested up to the point of sexual conquest, then it's as if a switch was flicked off. The one that puts in more effort by contributing 'acts of love' tends to get more oxytocin rewards and falls deeper in love. Security can foster complacency. A steady paycheck is the drug that puts most people to sleep. Their passion dwindles, their effort falls off and their dreams wither away. Relationships can be the same. I guy thinks he finally cracke… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/24 01:58 AM |
| 4 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedCake eaters want it all (have their cake and eat it, too). Having a loyal, traditional man for a main and spicy lover(s) on the side. They lie to keep hubby's full commitment intact. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/24 01:49 PM |
| 17 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedDating apps can corrupt women, turning them into attention whores or literal whores. Good on you and your friends for deleting that shit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/24 07:42 PM |
| 16 | Field Report and Discussion: Things are more dire for men than I realizedEx-pats are prone to debauchery because all constraints and reputation risks have been removed. They're away from scrutiny, judgement and moral constraints. Nobody calls them out on questionable behavior. Modern relationships are like that, no boundaries and a celebration of debauchery. This guy you met is cautious and kind because he knows that any woman can quickly destroy his reputation and undo all his years of hard work building up a business. It's only once he achieves "fuck you money" tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/24 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Help me stop overthinking/ fretting about my boyfriend's colleaguePartners create an intimate world that is theirs alone. Sharing it with others is a betrayal that undermines that intimacy. Would he want his deepest secrets and vulnerabilities openly shared by you? Of course not. Building an intimate world requires playfulness and discretion. Let's take a scenario. You go to a party with your man, and there on the dance floor you whisper in his ear, "I'm not wearing any panties", and look at him with a mischievous grin. Does he turn around and shout it out to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/24 02:37 AM |
| – | Am I in the wrong?The first $300 was a grandiose romantic gesture. While any woman would appreciate free money, leading with his wallet wasn't a wise move on his part. It's blatant Provider Guy behavior and can encourage Entitled Princess behavior from a woman. The $100 you requested nudged you a little ways into gold digger territory and would have positioned him as a simp if he complied. Still, that could have been easily resolved had he not ghosted. Something tells me the relationship wouldn't have lasted for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/24 10:33 PM |
| 9 | When "Babe" Turns to "Nadia": Am I in Trouble?1. Men like congruency. Mixing a pet name with a more serious message doesn't feel right. A sweet name for sweet words and a serious name for serious words. Women have no qualms about using endearments to soften a serious message. As my wife would say, "Sweetheart, this [problem] needs your attention right now. Thanks for taking care of that, lover." 2. A mother trained them. When a boy was in trouble, his mother would use his full first name, and if she was really miffed she would add his middl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/24 08:21 PM |
| 19 | How can I increase my RMV?With things hitting the fan in 2 months or less. Your agenda of a stable relationship is reasonable, but it's harder to find these days. A woman's relationship agenda is Hanging Out ➔ Dates ➔ Boyfriend ➔ Fiancé ➔ Husband. There's a progression of commitment with marriage, family and wealth as the final objectives. Women are so accustomed to having their agenda take priority that they pay minimal attention to a man's agenda. Inexperienced men will acquiesce to a woman's agenda, seeking the same o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/24 05:21 AM |
| 3 | Can I have a job in medicine but still be traditional?One of the challenges of building a successful career is that your income expectations of men tend to go up. Women usually want a man at their level or above. The further you rise, the scarcer the available men at that level. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/24 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...Work hard to build career and work hard to build a family. This is the way. Party World is expensive and self-destructive, so guys who have their shit together don't usually waste much time there. Some professionals, even though they worked hard to get ahead, aren't into marriage and enjoy playing the field as a free agent. Being lifestyle-driven, they're more willing to indulge but less willing to commit. Good times for a few months. You can find yourself alpha-widowed falling for one of these. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/24 01:52 AM |
| 0 | How to express love and affection to my boyfriend?I'm not that interested in receiving physical touch. My wife really enjoys hugs, cuddles, caresses. I enjoy her responsiveness, her sighing, cooing, purring, which motivates me to give more. It feels productive having the power to positively influence her well-being. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 02:35 AM |
| 6 | How do you stay no sex until he asks for a relationship?how I put best of my efforts which, in modern era, no girl ever would. That's true. Why be stuck competing to see who cares the least? A relationship isn't built upon a 'what's in it for me' attitude. There's a foundation of generosity and mutual respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/24 12:38 AM |
| 14 | How Far to Submit?Femininity can be expressed freely. It's soft and not sexual. Men appreciate it but other women may not approve of it. Submission is a power dynamic. It's a voluntary acceptance of another's command and leadership. It requires trust that things won't turn exploitive or abusive, that they have your best interest at heart. That trust should not be given to the unproven and unworthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/24 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else’s father encouraged masculinity? TWOkay, I read the wrong. It's somewhat baffling your father would be so combative with his daughter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 11:39 PM |
| -5 | Anyone else’s father encouraged masculinity? TWMost of my childhood was spent arguing with my dad. You're putting this on your dad? You seem to be combative by nature, like a feral cat in survival mode. Combative people carry around a metaphoric sword and shield, seeing every encounter as hostile. Their posture is defensive and they're prone to lashing out at the slightest provocation. The stories they tell themselves keep them positioned as the noble victim. They'll have a hard time moving forward if they can't let go of those stories. Femi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/24 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Do I look feminineWere you asked in a curious way or with an intention of putting you down? Just as women will use biting comments to put others down, so will men. I'm curious. Did the question come from a man or a woman? And would the question hit harder coming from one versus the other? Looking at your photo, your eyes and lips are winning features, accentuated by a thin face. The only thing detracting might be those extreme eyelashes. Reminds me of 'thug barbie' Angel Reese. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/24 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Help me be better for our familyYour joint issues are clear sign that you're suffering from chronic inflammation. Here's an article from Forbes Health on the subject. My wife and I watch a lot of content from Dr. Eric Berg, a great source of nutritional information. There a few simple things you can do. Have a spicy coffee or tea in the morning by adding turmeric, ginger, cayenne pepper, black pepper and Ceylon cinnamon. Another opportunity is make a simple salad dressing with olive oil and apple cider vinegar and add a simila… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/24 04:22 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] the reality of the wall'The Wall' is a red pill term for karma. An attractive young woman has ridiculously high SMV. It wasn't earned or deserved. Young men who can't get much traction in the relationship arena, resent those young women and want to see them suffer a reckoning as they age. It's envy. If a woman solely focuses upon SMV and neglects RMV, her reckoning may be severe. A good woman is more likely to experience a better outcome. My wife is very feminine and graceful. She doesn't try to sustain youthful beaut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 06:32 PM |
| 4 | [Update] How am I still living with him after knowing he was cheating.Clever. He gave you the truth to 'unburden himself of what has been', but he stipulates that it's only meant to be shown to your daughter when she's older and only if he cheats again. He's relying on your love and decency that you don't use it as leverage by threatening to share his confession with friends and family. In some ways his confession could be seen as a courageous step towards mending your relationship and rebuilding trust. It's also a revelation about his character. As they say, once… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 03:07 PM |
| 3 | What is femininity to you?I think a type A could consider making a concerted effort to develop a gentler persona for her personal life. Some powerful women find that a softer persona can work well in all aspects of life. There isn't as much a negative connotation with being soft the way there is for male leaders. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/24 03:59 AM |
| 6 | What is femininity to you?My understanding comes from watching my wife... 'What is femininity' has some parallels to 'what is elegance'. It's not really about the aesthetic, it's about the grace. It's a radiance that draws others in and lifts them up. For femininity I also see it as a capacity to flow, adapting to another's world, whether that be a friend, lover, husband or child, finding ways to adapt, encourage and honor them. Those attempting to exert complete control over the world around them seem to lose this flow.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/24 11:37 PM |
| 3 | Husband admitting to manipulationwe cannot seem to recover from. Does he hold onto petty things, or is it just you? Petty annoyances shouldn't be able to throw you off kilter so easily. I'm annoying and my wife is incredibly tolerant, that's why we get along so well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/24 05:31 PM |
| 12 | For what purpose do I exist as a woman?The sexual marketplace can be a degrading place where we're reduced to our primal level value - beauty/sex/fertility for women, money/muscles/game for men. Stepping away from that, you can build your value as a person, as a contributing member of society. Reality is that most of us are relatively average. We don't live a life of 'champagne wishes and caviar dreams'. We struggle at times and mostly plod along doing the best we can. That can be enough when you have an 'attitude of gratitude' about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/24 04:04 AM |
| 1 | HOH away for a week need your help to resetYou have the right idea, praising him, stating your own needs for rejuvenation and leaving it in his hands to choose to be your hero by letting you join the ladies. Working as a team while also getting your own needs met. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/24 08:49 PM |
| 1 | HOH away for a week need your help to resetYou're both really impressive raising 7. Admire your drive to become a better wife and mother. Having time together after he's been away might be more important than a meeting with the gals. You both need to experience peaceful respite to reconnect and recenter. Who can take care of the kids for you? Are your eldest children old enough to handle it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 03:54 AM |
| 8 | How did your mother shape the red pill woman you are today?Thank goodness you're not inclined to follow in her footsteps. I'm reminded of a story of twins boys who grew up with a father who became an alcoholic. The first twin said, "Of course I'll never touch alcohol, just look at my father." The second twin said, "Of course I'm an alcoholic, just look at my father." | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 01:37 AM |
| 12 | How did your mother shape the red pill woman you are today?Give your mom some credit. She kept you alive in your early years. In general, mothers focus upon protecting their children from the dangers around them. Fathers focus more on helping their children master the world around them. In other words a mother's fear is her child will be harmed. A father's fear is his child won't grow up and will turn into a lazy bum. Congrats on your marriage and child. May your journey be amazing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 12:59 AM |
| 18 | How to deal with low self esteem and my generation?Being better is good. Being different is better. Let me explain. This is a marketing secret but also applies to your personal brand/identity. Trying to be incrementally better than others is a good thing, but will likely go unnoticed. Being different helps you to stand out distinctly from others, to become exceptional, weird or exceptionally weird. Don't give in to the temptation to do what others do. Don't get shitfaced drunk or high. Don't be promiscuous. Don't become a rabid activist. The cra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/24 07:48 PM |
| 9 | Best tips to stop a crushBack in his Twilight days, Robert Pattinson had a stalker. He took her out for a meal and told her all his problems. She never stalked him again. TRP calls it 'one-itis', an obsession with one woman, a Disney fantasy of her. Premature wife goggles. It serves a biologic role, ensuring a man sticks around to protect a woman during her vulnerable child bearing & rearing years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/24 02:47 AM |
| 5 | High body count - am I cooked?10 is not a big number in the grand scheme of things. What's important is that you're trying to raise your relationship value and prove your loyalty. We don't arrive perfect, we arrive untested. We make mistakes and make adjustments along the way, gradually rising to a higher level. I would cut you some slack about the lying part because women will routinely lie for social and emotional self-preservation. Revealing your body count on day one would have crushed things before they even started. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 10:01 PM |
| 3 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationMen are certainly visual. Though it's more likely I would ogle at a hot car than a hot woman, and I'm not into cars. Being off the market means acting in accordance. I'm unresponsive to attractive women, and my wife doesn't flaunt her sexuality to attract the attention of men. It's a form of mutual respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 09:10 PM |
| 5 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observationScarcity versus abundance. A man in sexual scarcity keeps his sexual radar on for any rare opportunity. He considers every women a potential hookup. A man in sexual abundance has more opportunity but he can turn his sexual radar off to the point he can seem asexual when approached by women. Exceptional looks, wealth, status will flip the script and the man becomes the prize which women eagerly pursue. A sexually starved man finds it inconceivable that Chad would reject the women that he would ea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Advice on male friend (not sure if this is a red flag?)He likes the thrill... That is why people do stuff, for the emotional reward of it. Maybe it's a sexual kink or maybe he gets his thrill out of deception. It doesn't seem like a direct bid for attention in a freak show manner. The problem with this path is that it usually gets incrementally more extreme. Last week's thrill is a bit boring now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 02:41 AM |
| 3 | AITA for not voluntarily closing my side of the marriage until my husband has had an equal amount of encounters?How did your children handle this arrangement, or has it been kept hidden from them? Is there any bedroom activity left in your marriage? Are there any 'I love you' statements from either of you? It seems like a zombie marriage, already dead but still going through the motions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/24 12:19 PM |
| 19 | do guys find girls with high sex drive unattractive?Women also want a man who desires them specifically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 10:57 PM |
| 18 | Field report: successfully avoided pick up artist thanks to RPWWith lover material, the chemistry/desire/tingles are real but the potential for a relationship is usually the illusion. When a guy has good game and sparks your attraction, he's usually in it for the sport. He plays catch & release. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Why are people so mad that men prefer innocent women?What is "my model" you speak of? You're right that choosing a virginal woman isn't a guarantee of success. She might be useless in bed and incompatible as a partner. Choosing a damaged woman is a different set of problems. Choosing a good women with a proven track record of dependability and loyalty is a better move. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Why are people so mad that men prefer innocent women?I had to reread your comment a few times trying to figure out where you were going. Most of what you've said is a non sequitur relative to my comment. You seem quite intelligent but are caught up in common narratives instead of thinking independently. You're a strident defender of women, which skews your perspective and perpetuates the gender divide. You've also written me off as outdated, meaning you're incapable of learning anything from what I've shared. Women have a dual mating strategy call… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Need advice on restoring intimacyTry making a smoothie with the ingredients included. Keep his immune system boosted and his energy positive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/24 02:19 AM |
| 6 | Need advice on restoring intimacyInvestigate the nutritional aspect. Be careful with medical bias towards drug therapy. Selenium, magnesium and Vit D are common deficiencies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 10:07 AM |
| 7 | Need advice on restoring intimacySounds like he's low T. A big part of that can be nutritional depletion of trace minerals such as selenium. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/24 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?Well said! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?It seems a prince turning into a frog is a recurring phenomenon for those men who lack much red pill awareness. Folding frame and turning into a soft cuddle bitch can seem like the right thing to do in the moment. A young woman who worked for me asked why men keep turning into weakling pushovers as soon as they get into a relationship with her. I told her that many young men mistakenly think surrendering is what they're supposed to do as a boyfriend. Women don't feel respect and desire for a sur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 08:16 PM |
| 12 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?they used to be great—attentive, engaged, loving—and now they seem like a completely different person. Three reasons come to mind... The pursuit/conquest is over. Some guys enjoy the sport of catch and release and complete change once they got what they wanted. They lose interest and stop making an effort. Their relationship game is weak. Some guys turn into wishy-washy versions of themselves, unintentionally becoming more a girlfriend. They lack a masculine frame. Momma's Boy dynamic. Some guys… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 05:31 AM |
| 1 | How to respond when husband is depressed?Don't put the kids first, put your marriage first. That disconnect will wither you both down. My wife and I would take an annual trip for a week, just the two of us. Love my five kids, but she is always first in my heart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/24 02:58 PM |
| 27 | Partner says I’m like a manI don't know the personality of your boyfriend, but I can tell you that complainers will complain no matter which way the wind blows. My wife is feminine by nature and as she has matured she became more logical, more capable of solving problems. I don't expect a 'Goddess of Lightness and Fun" but maybe that's what your boyfriend expects. I watched a video from Alexander Grace and he talked about how women shut off their brains in a relationship. That's the LAST thing I would want. He played this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 07:12 PM |
| 4 | How do I (24F) stop behaving like a demon?I feel like a helpless freak at times. The other day, I saw a couple at the coffee shop smiling and sharing a coffee together and I felt so envious and angry. This really caught my attention. I don't think you're broken and you're not alone in feeling this way. As a society, we are being intentionally agitated to feel fearful, anxious, envious and such. We're being pushed into tribalism and identity politics where we fight against each other and become agents of destruction rather than support c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 12:08 PM |
| 6 | Meeting his momHonor her as the mother who raised the man you love. Go into this looking to raise her spirits instead of your own. She might come across as highly judgmental, but she is the mama bear and this is her cub. Ask for stories about his childhood. The more she talks, the less you have to. All you have to do is nod and smile. Ask for advice. Just as her son turns to her for advice, so can you. Be agreeable to her recommendations even if you feel an urge to make counter-arguments. Unless she's domineer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 12:33 PM |
| 4 | Should I categories this behaviour as cheating?For some women, a man sharing his resources is seen as worse than the actual cheating. OP's man is being played a fool by other women. Simps see themselves as noble heroes rescuing damsels while they're being finessed out of resources. A man over-sharing his time and resources is the equivalent of a woman being promiscuous. Our precious gifts are reserved for those who deserve it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 12:30 AM |
| 13 | What does it mean when people tell me that they can't see me getting married? I rather give "how are you still single?" vibes.He's agreeable as long as you agree with him. 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/24 03:41 AM |
| 4 | Not so “ex gf” need advice'Put to the test' would normally apply to yourself and your mate. You see what you're both made of, good and bad, and see how adaptable and compatible you both are. Seems you both passed the test with flying colors but your mother failed miserably. You must find some means to disarm her nuke approach otherwise she'll do it again and again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/24 03:58 AM |
| 9 | How to translate my helplessness into my man's proactiveness (lol)A man likes being a hero. Asking your partner for help will give him the chance to step up and be your hero. White knighting for a random woman is different. When a woman damsels, some men will trip over each other trying to be the one to rescue her. A clever woman, especially if she's attractive, can 'tool' men into doing her bidding. A man learns to reserve his attention and resources for his partner, not bending his will to strangers. When I ran a business, it wasn't unusual for a woman to co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 04:31 AM |
| 3 | New relationship and insecure about my 'boring' personalityThank you for receiving my words so gracefully. I lean more towards honesty than kindness and can come off a bit gruff. Anyways, your quietness is a virtue not a problem. Any man who has experienced the chaos and drama some women can bring are relieved to find a woman who can bring peace. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 08:31 PM |
| 4 | New relationship and insecure about my 'boring' personalityYou're what other woman would call 'basic' as in a 'basic b!tch', and that's okay. As a woman, you don't have to be extraordinary to be of value. There's huge money in preying upon the insecurities of women, and despite what you're constantly told, you don't have to be smarter, funnier, sexier, wilder, bossier to get a good man. Do you want to break out of the Basic B mold? Hot B, Bad B and Boss B are personas that women adopt in order to be anything but basic. I think you're better off staying … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 01:39 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Description of the Game (Part 1)Predatory is the behavior, while the traits are Dark Triad - narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. The people I've met like that were very good at hiding it. And even if you caught a glimpse of the wolf beneath their sheep's facade, they are quick to deny and gaslight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 05:39 PM |
| 10 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Description of the Game (Part 1)There's a scene in the movie American Sniper where the father explains to his sons that people are either sheep, sheepdogs or wolves. I've found some truth in that. The wolves are good at blending in but their intention is always to manipulate and exploit a softer, more gullible person for personal advantage. A sheepdog can see through the eyes of a wolf and recognize bad intentions. Male predators are vilified and laws are made to identify them and remove them from society. Every man carries th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 05:11 AM |
| 11 | Thoughts on the Happy Wife School (YouTube channel)?I've watched some of her content and found it quite good. She has a solid red pill mindset and her empathy extends to the struggles of both men and women. Her voice seems sad and low energy, so I can only handle so much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/24 07:08 PM |
| 10 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.'Red pill rage' is a common response when a man becomes aware. Instead of berating themselves for being such a chump, some men find ways to put the blame on women, which only further hinders their progress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 05:49 PM |
| 22 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.In the Matrix, Neo takes the red pill and awakens to a bitter reality. This is a metaphor of a young man's journey from adolescent to adulthood, from amateur to pro. This journey is important for a man as he must face reality and conquer it to create more value in himself. A woman doesn't need to be so red-pilled as she already brings her biologic value to the table. She can have a softer, happier life and not dwell much upon the disturbing aspects of society. She can be the blissful oasis in a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]hit the 'relationship worthiness' threshold That's a worthy goal for a woman. Being sex-worthy is a low bar. It's easy to pass the boner test because testosterone-fueled horniness tends to be there regardless of a woman's RMV. Doubling down on sexy isn't going to make him stay if he wasn't so inclined to begin with. The problem for women is that desire drives them to choose the men who are typically unwilling to commit. Why? Those are the most desirable men, the top few percentile. Being a bette… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]Terrific read. Men have a similar mating strategy to women's AF/BB. His strategy... Have Fun. Settle Down. While a woman's focus is always on quality, a man only considers that when he's ready to settle down. The guys having more 'fun' are the alpha Chads and Tyrones, as they readily qualify for sex with most women. The guys less qualified will take what scraps they can get and will be far more willing to commit. The conversation about 'Sexy Madonna/Virtuous Whore' assumes the quality of a woman… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 01:31 PM |
| 7 | Do you let men help you?To some degree, men are viewed as predators until proven otherwise. That's why some modern women would choose meeting a bear in the woods over a random man. What flashes through your mind when a man offers help? Is he dangerous? Is he hitting on me? Does he see me as weak and incapable? A lot of men stop offering help after they experience a woman reacting negatively to it. Chivalry can be turned back against a man, shaming him as thirsty. OP you did nothing wrong. You didn't react with hostilit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 01:30 PM |
| 11 | Husband being inappropriate onlineMaybe he sees this as harmless fun and an escape from his life of responsibility. The problem is that he'll be drawn more and more into digital simping towards attractive women while he further neglects his family. This bluepill shit is disturbing. What is he getting from this that he doesn't get from you and the kids? Passive Dread is him staying attractive to women, which keeps you on your toes. Active Dread, flirting with other women as if he's available, is playing with fire. This is an emot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 12:50 PM |
| 19 | My boyfriend broke up with me over my weight and now he wants to get back togetherThe weight gain was downstream of the depression, that's the deeper issue here. You became depressed while you were together? Was it something within the relationship or something outside of it that led to your depression. A good relationship should be uplifting for both of you, not something that drags either of you down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 11:52 AM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]You're right. Didn't mean to poke holes in a beautifully written piece. It's so easy to be the critic on the sideline throwing shade at the one in the arena making all the effort. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 05:58 AM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]But there's also a lot of beauty when we can create antibiotics, antivirals, vaccines, and spread the life saving knowledge of hygiene and sanitation when we look at truth. There is something missing from this paragraph. Host resistance has been suppressed as a key factor in the disease process. Health and healing are not encouraged the way they once were. Big Pharma knows how easy it is to silence their critics by filling their mouths with gold. 'Do no harm' is ignored when there's Porsche and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 05:34 AM |
| 11 | Do you think it’s better to be perceived as sexy or adorable?I would put less trust in a woman who emphasizes her sexuality in public. Whether intentional or not, she's thirst-trapping strangers. It's like wearing a 'for sale' sign as a necklace. She can find herself trapped in the 'fun girl DTF' category where guys are happy to bed her, but not willing to wed her. Of course women are free to do what they want, and at the same time, other people are free to judge them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 06:24 PM |
| 4 | On the nature of givingPerhaps grandmother knew of your reluctance regarding hubbies shirts and socks, and was gently showing you the way to love your man. It seems far too coincidental. Either way, it's a beautiful story. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/24 07:25 PM |
| 4 | Finding the RPW Woman: What My Harley Rides Taught Me About RelationshipsThat was an enjoyable read. Seems a good woman reveals herself when challenged. The bike ride became the testing ground. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 03:17 AM |
| 32 | My mother screwed me. Where to go from here?Consistency is a trap men often fall into. Women tend to be better at flow, adapting their persona to the situation. My wife's brother and his ex were both successful lawyers. He helped grow her professional side. He had a problem in that he never switched off and relaxed. As a parent he was very intense. She never had that problem. She could play the doting mother, the dutiful wife and then be the driven lawyer at work. Occasionally she would bust out her dragon work persona in a social setting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 01:41 AM |
| 2 | "Women would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta" Does this extend to marriage?When running a business, a family size of about 4 or 5 works well. Everyone knows their specific roles. Double that and you get the benefit of bench strength, but inefficiency creeps. The only thing you get by default on any team is chaos, tension and low performance. The bigger the team, the worse it gets. The only solution is strong leadership, and that's typically the limiting factor on the potential size and profitability of the organization. I had a team of around 30 and while we did well, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 12:12 AM |
| -1 | "Women would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta" Does this extend to marriage?I was thinking of the problems and resentment when a new wife was introduced to the group. Some hot, young American thing who hasn't worked a day in her life and is entitled up the wazoo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/24 10:42 PM |
| -4 | "Women would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta" Does this extend to marriage?Logically, it's a win. You don't even have to carry the ball all the time in wifely duties. You have one or more other wives to share that burden, plus all the hired help he can also afford. Team approach. Sounds like a good life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/24 06:49 PM |
| 18 | Back to Basics September: A Good Relationship Is Built In The BedroomMen crave sex, no doubt about that. If it's good enough and frequent enough he will be satisfied. Still, it's not enough to hold him. Every woman offers it up these days. Girl Game keeps him interested and coming back for more. As the old adage goes, keep his belly full, his balls empty and bring peace to his life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Guilt from past mistakes?? How to move onI have a creative side to me that's an itch I must scratch. Many years ago I came to realize that creative tension is driven by two primary forces... Dissatisfaction. Not happy about the way things are. Excitement. Positive future vision and an eagerness to change things for the better. Personally, I try to use both for motivation, but it's the dissatisfaction that mostly pushes me forward. In leadership it's called 'constructive discontent', which means a determination to improve things instead… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Learning about the male protective instinct from my brother😆 I was just thinking of how white knighting is soft sexism of low expectations, believing that women require rescuing. Some white knights switch from attempting to rescue M'lady to dogpiling on other men who offend a poor maiden. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 02:41 AM |
| 1 | to those struggling with relationship ocd, how do you handle it? I think it's going to sabotage my relationship :(Worrying is useful, it helps you prepare for the future. Striding boldly forward without a care can be disastrous. The problem is when the worry button gets stuck. If a little worrying helps to reduce risk, then more worrying must be even safer? You can get stuck in an endless loop of bad mind movies of things that never come true but hold you in their grip. "If I don't check the deadbolt on the door 5 times, my family will die." At some point, it needs to be checked 6 times, then 7, always incr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Learning about the male protective instinct from my brotherI didn't start my comment off by saying " She thinks this way because..." That would be invalid. I merely mentioned an observable generality. Self-victimizing? Maybe you're projecting a little. In terms of mindsets, CountTheBees is a strong voice on this forum. It wasn't my intention to undermine her voice in any way. Funny, in a manner of speaking I white knighted your comment by stepping in. She definitely doesn't need rescuing. Perhaps you should consider your own biases here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Learning about the male protective instinct from my brotherYou responded to her comment towards my comment, so to some degree I was already part of this conversation. Your belief that men and women are completely different in terms of ideas regarding relationship interactions isn't surprising. I get why you would feel that way. Most men don't pay attention and are somewhat lacking in empathy (the ability to crawl inside someone else's skin and see the world through their eyes). I can't tell if you're not very coachable or just lack respect for my opinio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 01:09 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Learning about the male protective instinct from my brotherTo be treated as fragile, vulnerable and helpless can infuriate some women, to the point they'll react negatively That's why a man opening a door for a woman risks being blasted for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 11:34 PM |
| 11 | Helpif I was just going to be upset all night he might as well just leave. He has a point. In your circumstances, you need him far more than he needs you. For him to step in and become a step-dad and husband is a big ask. What's in it for him? If you can't even be happy when you're with him, why should he consider buying into that deal? If the kids are unruly or disrespectful, that's another deterrent. When a life with you and your kids is far better than a life without you, his decision becomes eas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 04:36 PM |
| 6 | Field Report: Two weeks after being vulnerable about jealousyYou really made a breakthrough in your communication. You're both interacting at a higher level now. Caveat: You were pushed by pain to move out of pain. My concern is that you'll soon slide back now that you're out of pain. Complacency keeps us in the bucket with the other crabs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 03:46 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: Learning about the male protective instinct from my brotherThis white knight instinct is wired into men. While it seems noble, problems arise... Modern women shame men for it. "I'm STRONG and independent, don't need no man protecting me." Traditional male roles are considered patriarchal oppression, an attempt to control and limit women. Modern women exploit men for it, damseling for profit. Chumps search for damsels because they're desperate to play the hero, even if it just means sending cash to her app. That's how simps are made. Modern women can act… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 03:17 PM |
| 2 | What to do when you fuck up?Your situation is similar to a customer service recovery. When something negative happens in a service experience, trust can be shattered and the relationship is terminated. A strong recovery not only prevents the fallout, it actually strengthens the bond with the customer. "Don’t look at complaints as problems. Look at complaints as opportunities to improve your business and an opportunity to create a better relationship with a customer. "It’s important to understand that the customer who compl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 05:57 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyThe guys who have been hurt are temporarily aware. After licking their wounds and thinking about things for a few weeks, they'll typically slip back into the fog. Young guys who catch on early can avoid the entire simp culture issue. The problem with the red pill is that it prompts rage once a man sees things more accurately. He's angry that he starts at zero and must build himself up. Instead of blaming himself for being a fool and directing his anger in a positive direction, he blames women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 07:56 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyYou're right, the ones who could benefit most from TRP content are often the ones most resistant to it. A softer message might be less jarring , but will probably have even less impact in terms of stimulating heightened awareness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyAfter two weeks with my husband, I was thinking marriage Congrats! That's how it should be, with chemistry and his qualities prompting the thoughts of marriage versus his clout or the thickness of his wallet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyI left a new boyfriend for the man who'd become my husband. Just to clarify, that is hypergamy. You traded up, and you're better off for it. Did you break up with that BF before you began seeing your husband? If not, did you briefly cheat on that BF by seeing the new guy (your eventual husband) on the side? Woman can be serial monogamists, moving from one committed relationship to another. They're completely ride-or-die loyal to their man until the day they're not, when a better option came alon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 02:54 PM |
| 8 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyTRP shock content is designed to shake a man out of his bluepill fog. Words need to penetrate through complacency and self-protection. When I want want to learn a lesson, I don't brush it off or minimize it. I want to grab it and painfully pierce my flesh with it repeatedly until it's embedded into my psyche. In terms of motivation, that's more stick than carrot. Men often need the stick to get them going. For a woman, that stick might work, but it has to be candy-coated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyHypergamy is a woman's primal attraction to the superior man in the cave. Walk into a new cave and a woman reassesses who is superior within that environment. It's normal. Though men are also attracted to quality, they're wired for quantity. A man's criteria for 'would' extends to many women in the room, particularly the ones exuding youthful fertility. Hypergamy in action is where things get interesting. Monkey branching is the art of keeping options open and seeking a bigger, better deal while… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 01:34 PM |
| -7 | This subreddit might change my lifeI’d sleep with guys and then ghost them So, you behaved the way a player does. You played right into men's hands with easy access to sex and no commitment, reframing that as empowering for you. I won't say you played yourself, because you probably had some good times. YOLO right? Funny thing is, modern women believe they're increasing value with every dose of Chad semen when they're depleting their value by giving it away for free. Your new soft boyfriend doesn't know any better. He's already we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: 2024 Dark Femininity EditionI don't see that as dark at all. You're encouraging the best in him for both your benefit. When I ran a business, I tried to be what I called a 'merchant of light', someone who brought illumination to the darkness to help navigate things and make better decisions, focused on bringing benefit to the customer. The opposite would be a 'merchant of darkness' who brought deception and concealment to bring maximum benefit to the merchant, often at the expense of the customer. The skills of those merch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/24 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: 2024 Dark Femininity Edition'Soft Girl Era' isn't so much authentically reigniting one's femininity, it's a performance, while wearing a suitable costume, designed to extract more resources and commitment from the men who are eager to believe in the existence of a traditional woman. I appreciate the authenticity and insightfulness of the women here at RPW, which is why I've stuck around to contribute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/24 02:25 PM |
| 12 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingNever said belly dancing was dirty. There might be something about OP's behavior that provokes jealousy from her fiancé. She might enjoy provoking his jealousy. My wife took up belly dancing early in our relationship and I didn't mind. It didn't turn me off or on in any way. She eventually decided to focus more on those things we did together. Once the kids came, there was less time for fun hobbies that didn't involve the kids. My wife is extremely loyal and very modest. Attention from other men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | I like a guy but I don't need/want a relationship?Young men pursue older women for easier access to casual sex, with less games and better sex. Not saying the attraction isn't real, just question whether this will become a distraction from finding a life partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 01:53 PM |
| 34 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingHe's taking you seriously. If he wasn't, he wouldn't care about exposing your body with bikini pics or nights of belly dancing. You could fight him on this with arguments about "it's my body, my choice", but his choice might be to walk away from you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 01:44 PM |
| 6 | What do the red pill guys call a girl who keeps a bunch of guys on social media as a back up.Attention is addictive for women. It inflates their sense of value, leading to arrogance and a contempt for average men. They start thinking they have plenty of options and are far better than their boyfriend/husband. Ever notice the extreme change in some young women once they draw the attention of men? A woman who thinks attention seeking is harmless fun is like someone trying to dabble in crack. At some point she risks becoming a full-blown attention whore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/24 10:31 PM |
| 9 | What do the red pill guys call a girl who keeps a bunch of guys on social media as a back up.Yes, beta-orbiters, though simp is a more universal term. That's a guy who freely gives away his attention and resources to women who give little to nothing in return. Women typically don't use the term simp, as they're the ones benefitting. They don't mind guys who behave like that, even though they have no respect or attraction for them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/24 07:40 PM |
| 3 | looking for advice from married women/ moms... want to leave STEM to be SAHM but have questions...At one time the 'cathedral' of power and control over the commoners was the church. Now that cathedral is academia. As bright as those in your family may be, they are required to stay in their lanes and withhold opinion on any matter outside of their expertise. A free mind is radical to them, as their minds are held restrained within the medical version of the matrix. The risk of red pill awareness is you'll look awkward to those still asleep. They'll see you as a foolish Don Quixote tilting at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/24 04:42 AM |
| 28 | I get bitchy when I feel unlovedOP, I showed your post to my wife. I find small ways to show I cherish and appreciate her. She feels energized when I show her love and support. She'll seek appreciation when she does something around the house. It's amazing how far she can go on hugs and kind words. If I give her nothing, she'll wither. Maybe you need extra attention or maybe he's not paying nearly enough attention. When a man treats a woman like he would another man, it can seem neglectful by her standards. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/24 03:38 PM |
| 1 | How can I be more demure, more mindful? 🧘♀️😌Some women are cold as ice to men, accept for the ones they're interested in. That's when they turn on the warmth and charm. I understand they do this to keep less attractive men away and avoid giving them the wrong impression, but I like warmth and femininity that isn't so limited and situational. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 05:02 AM |
| 2 | If I get approached a lot by men and get often told I’m pretty why do most men never actually end up wanting to get to know me other than sex?I like your evolution. As you improved, the responses of men improved, and probably the quality of men greatly improved. Unfortunately, some young, attractive women don't improve, they downgrade in character, their innocence replaced by arrogance, entitlement, volatility and wickedness. So much hope and promise at 18, such a hot mess by 24. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 11:51 PM |
| 5 | How can I be more demure, more mindful? 🧘♀️😌Demure is an elegant, feminine grace. Coy implies more of a coquettish cock-teaser. If a woman uses sex as bait, coy seems more fitting. If she's modest and feminine by nature, demure seems more suitable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 11:32 PM |
| 0 | Boyfriend wants to wait 2 years before getting married and I want to get married in a year, how do we resolve this?Ready, aim, fire. Easy enough, but procrastinators and fence sitters get stuck on aim. So it's 'ready, aim, aim, aim', never willing to pull the trigger. In some cases, 'ready, fire, aim' works amazingly well. You boldly step forward, knowing there'll be stumbles and course corrections along the way. Of all the decisions I made, choosing my wife was the best one and it was easy. Was I well prepared? Not at all, but I did it anyways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 11:23 PM |
| 37 | Feeling jealous of another girl who’s in my house literally right now…Jealousy and envy have been merged to mean the same thing these days. Envy was defined as coveting what others have and resenting them for it. Jealousy was insecurity about losing what you have, believing someone else was threatening to take it away. Not sure if those definitions apply anymore. I could understand some jealousy here, your husband is taking you for granted and giving his attention to another woman. You're doing the work and she's getting his affection. That's an unacceptable level… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 11:11 PM |
| 6 | I feel like my boyfriend isn't gentil enough, is it me sabotaging a good relationship or is it valid?Well said. People are attracted to someone who has different qualities and opposite sexual polarity, and then they want to turn them into a version of themselves. In this case she wants to turn her boyfriend into a girlfriend. If it happened, she would gradually lose attraction and it would be his fault for losing his masculine frame. Common problem in relationships where guys turn soft and feminine attempting to please her. 'Happy wife, happy life' is a trap. Not his job to make her happy all t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 03:47 PM |
| 11 | What self work can I do?Lovers, Losers, Providers and Friends. That's the categories women will put men into. Lovers - the ones she desires. Alpha Fux. Her rules don't apply for these hunks. If she indulges in hookups, these are the guys who'll get all of her attention. Losers - most guys, all of whom she completely ignores. Women, particularly the attractive ones, have a disqualification paradigm, meaning she'll keep her finger ready on the reject button. Some women develop a strong 'bitch shield' to keep all the anno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Tips to stay focused on a red pill future?At 27 you probably can't pass as a fresh-faced debutante, though you're certainly not out of the game. Some men want an intelligent woman with a professional manner. They aren't looking for someone who looks and behaves like a traditional wife from the outset. Femininity might not be high on every man's list, especially since they've probably haven't had much exposure to a truly feminine woman. You only need one good man to change both your worlds. You might consider a guy who, like you, isn't a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 01:40 AM |
| 6 | Is SMV real?Well said. SMV is another way of describing a woman's hotness score out of 10. For women, a man's SMV is his Social Market Value. It encompasses more than sexual value alone. His wealth, status/clout, appearance and seductive competence all come into play. The bottom line for her is his social value compared to hers. She wants a man above her who will raise her value, not a guy who will drag her value down. That's why some women can become very agitated when a lower value man approaches them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 04:43 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] RPW: a balance between traditional and modernityCasual sex makes it become so trivial instead of sacred and deeply meaningful. Just to keep it interesting, the kinks and depravity are dialed up. Wholesome people don't turn sex into a freak show. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 04:33 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] RPW: a balance between traditional and modernitythat's fine by me, because he'd do it wrong. Secret tricks for husbands 101: screw it up badly so she'll never ask you again. 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 04:23 PM |
| 4 | Tips to stay focused on a red pill future?What are these redpill podcasts? For guys, Joe Rogan encourages rugged individualism and independent thinking, but it's a risky move to mention 'red pill' or any aspect of gender dynamics. The idea of taking the red pill is to wake up from a matrix of control and see reality, as harsh as it may be, and start dealing with it. That includes a lot of self-improvement. The danger of a red pill mindset is that it can pull you down into a dark place, a black pill nihilism where you see reality but hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Incorporating femininity and traditional values into our relationship!You're so far ahead. Two thing are essential for a winning team, strong management and strong leadership. Management sustains excellence, leadership takes it higher, deeper, further, faster. You're becoming a management powerhouse, now help your man become the leader he can be. When you're both ready, grow a family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 01:50 AM |
| 9 | Men don't care about loyalty or faithfulnessAll you need is one good man and everything will change for you. Your future will be a house, hubby, 2 or 3 kids and a dog. Fun girls get boxed wine and an apartment with cats to keep them company. Stay the course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 01:29 PM |
| 15 | Men don't care about loyalty or faithfulnessHaving been loyal and respectful to him in his absence has gotten me nowhere and even given him the ick. This had nothing to do with your loyalty and respect. A lot of guys have the intention to pump and dump you from the start, no matter how you behaved. That's what happens when you choose attractive fukboys who only want sex. Your good girl qualities weren't the problem. A woman will use sex as bait to get what she wants, whether that's his resources or a relationship. A man will use resources… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 12:17 PM |
| 15 | how do i tell if a guy is truly traditional and family oriented or just sexist wanting an unpaid cook/maid?Unpaid cook/maid is a substitute mother for a spoiled prince. Make sure there's a reasonable balance of contribution, otherwise you'll be doing all the giving and he'll be doing all the taking. Same dysfunctional dynamic happens with simpish guys spoiling their queen. There's plenty of lazy moochers out there on both sides of the aisle. Ideally, your support would allow a man to soar higher for both your benefit. Unfortunately, some people will turn support into a crutch to lean on, becoming wea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/24 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Phone obsessed husbandCarefrontation is a skill, even if it's not a real word. Confronting a situation in a caring respectful manner that honors the relationship instead of undermining it. Staying silent is a small abandonment, that the relationship isn't worth the hassle of dealing with the issue. A weed in the garden, another brick in the wall, however you want to describe it. Silence isn't the way. Nagging, escalating and catastrophizing (You ALWAYS do this) should be avoided. My wife is terrific at permission sta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/24 02:08 PM |
| 14 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?It's not that men need to be shown respect like attaboy back-patting, we just don't want to be blatantly disrespected, especially in a public setting. The bar usually isn't very high and some women still sink below it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 08:02 PM |
| 4 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?The relationships aren't the concern, it's the sex without any relationship. A man doesn't want to find out his GF used to be the town bicycle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 07:18 PM |
| 7 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?I agree, men want a good girl, not necessarily one who just fell off the turnip truck. Do men see you as someone to be serious with? The only time a man would ask about body count is if he's vetting for something more serious. Though if he had any savvy, he would try to find out without asking directly about your past behavior. Men have a duel mating strategy similar to women. Shag the fun girls, and when he's finally ready to settle down, find a good girl like the one you described for somethin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 06:12 PM |
| 7 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?Well, did you do the work to improve or just erase the shame to feel better about it? The shame helps you course correct and move in a better direction, but also at some point needs to released to move forward. Other people trying to shame and guilt is an ugly thing, and from my experience, it's usually women who'll do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 05:23 PM |
| 7 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?Yeah, some guys would disqualify a woman for a wild past, so better not to brag about that stuff. I thinks it's more about a woman's current behavior along with the damage she carries. Someone who experimented in college for a semester isn't the same as a former sex worker and drug addict in her late 30's. Someone who felt shame, regret and has done the work to reform is different from someone putting on a 'good girl' act to get a ring from a wealthy simp. Some women feel lots of shame for doing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 05:03 PM |
| 7 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?'Wholesome Pretender' is the term I've heard for a woman hiding a wild past. These days, women will fly their freak flags so proudly and don't want to be seen as wholesome. It a gender blindness thing... wholesome nice guys are considered losers, so women assume their wholesomeness would be seen negatively. Not true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 04:35 PM |
| 7 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?Fun girls want to have maximum fun with minimum effort and consequences. Hypoagency is part of it... she'll take no responsibility for her actions as long as it was his idea and he paid for it all. I've worked with some women who seemed perfectly normal in daily life and transformed in a party situation. I didn't see them as fun girls, but in the context of a party atmosphere, that's who they became. They didn't have to shout, "I want to be reckless and make bad decisions" for that intention to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:50 PM |
| 23 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?What do guys look for in a hookup? Availability, hotness not essential. What do guys look for in a situationship/side piece/sneaky link? Sexy, fun, freak in the sheets, discrete. Sexier hoe than a hookup, hence worth multiple taps. What do guys look for in a wife? Fit, fun, friendly, feminine, respectful, loyal, cooperative, supportive, domestically skilled, generous in bed and above all, trustworthy. Someone who wouldn't fool around in hookups and situationships. And by fun I don't mean life of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 03:05 PM |
| 4 | How important is physical attractionYour husband was attractive enough not to disqualify him. That's my point. He probably had other qualities that tipped the scale heavily in his favor, and didn't have any fatal flaws. Women talking about desire and attraction parallels how men emphasize hotness. To hell with selection criteria, let's just blindly follow our libido. And if the shine wears off, let's just chase after the next pretty face that gives us the thrills. I'm not a fan of lust. There's a reason it's one of the 7 Deadly Si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Saying "I love you" and initiating physical intimacyBut should I not say it unless he says it first? My wife says it all the time to me. I'll show it instead of saying it. The fake declarations couples give, especially in a childish voice, makes my stomach turn. My son was doing that shit with his ex. A woman can get away with it, a man looks pathetic doing that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 03:05 PM |
| 13 | How important is physical attractionLust burns out, love lasts. Lust transitioning into love happens in the movies. In real life, when it fizzles out there's sometimes an extinction burst, but usually just a fade to black. You're better off really liking someone and building things from there. Looks matter in the beginning, but not as much in the long run. I'm not saying to ignore looks. Looks can be exceptional, acceptable or 'coyote ugly'. Acceptable should be good enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 02:53 PM |
| 8 | Finances with a babyAt some point you become financial partners and pool resources. Having a baby puts you past that point. I was happy to hand over all the banking to my wife. She worried about money and I never did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 02:28 AM |
| 7 | Boyfriend wishes I was more girly and funchanging everything about who you are, so he'll suddenly be happy with you That won't work. He doesn't want to be happy, he wants to make her unhappy. He's tearing her down, not building her up. He's lapsed into fault-finding instead of good-finding (praise is far more effective than criticism). He's not going to stop no matter what she does to change. The relationship has turned dysfunctional and the only way to turn this around would be some form of couples therapy. Is he even worth the effort… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/24 01:19 PM |
| 4 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Opposites attract. Quiet, serious men are attracted to loud, unserious women, who, like you said, are "always fun, drinking and the life of the party". That's why nerds fall for hoes. Foolish men fail to separate the hot ones and fun ones from the good ones. My son married a woman with a loud party personality. Her booze and weed consumption steadily increased. Her mood when she wasn't drunk or high was increasingly unpleasant. The marriage unraveled after 5 years. How do you be more joyous and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:20 PM |
| 15 | How to overcome attraction to physical appearance?Desire and love are separate. Many people choose desire by default. Men will chase hotness. Women will chase tingles, as in vagina tingles, lust, chemistry, butterflies limerence, or whatever you want to call it. Burning desire tends to fizzle out and they're soon searching for a new source, believing they made a mistake and if they find the right one, it will last. Guys seeking sexual conquest are similar, losing interest once the deed is done. Can people who are driven by lust lose the capacit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Should I (21F) continue my relationship with my “almost perfect” boyfriend (23M)?I truly don’t care about it, because I love him. Yes, the love completely negates the height issue. Same thing would happen if you had a son who turned out to be short. You would love him, too. Maybe beneath your irrational fear of a future son's height is the fear you won't be a good mom. Love changes everything, and once you hold that baby in your arms, your life changes and your capacity for love grows. Before our first child, my wife had 2 fears... "It's going to hurt when it comes out." "I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 01:10 PM |
| 5 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?I wouldn't expect you to downvote, your comments are always intelligent and respectful. Your question was also fair. I didn't give much thought to my answer because putting a man to the test is a routine thing for many women. The one mistake women will consistently make is trying to lock down a HVM with commitment issues and plenty of options. That should be exposed as quickly as possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 03:02 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?At low to mid-tiers, women are the prize. The men are in scarcity and act somewhat desperately with women for both sex and companionship. In biologic terms, women don't start at the zero yard/meter line like men do. They have inherent value, and a man must prove that he matches or exceeds her value. His testosterone-fueled sexual drive ensures he makes that effort. When a man reaches a higher tier, he no longer lives in scarcity and the dynamic shifts. His confidence and drive are palpable to wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 01:19 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?There's truth in this switching up of who has the upper hand. It doesn't mean things change much. Good people just keep being good, not looking to exploit their advantage. I have a SiL who is very tactical, ALWAYS looking to work angles and exploit any advantage she can find. We tend to steer clear of her. Pre-sex, all men are making a strong effort to earn their way into bed. Post-sex, some men become far less interested, some maintain their effort. That's the difference between men who just wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 12:54 PM |
| 5 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Yes, perhaps I should have clarified more. A woman testing a man is relatively normal. Men are the ones who usually don't do enough testing because they're blinded by sex. As long as a guy is getting his needs met, he tolerates her nonsense. I notice with votes that anything I say that defends women gets plenty of upvotes and anything the least bit critical gets downvotes. It just reaffirms that women respond better to praise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 12:36 PM |
| 3 | What do you think is a good age to have kids?Congrats! A child brings revolutionary change. Much of what was worrisome before becomes meaningless as the tiny bundle enters into your family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 12:30 AM |
| 5 | RPW vs. Pink Pill: Misconceptions and Understanding the DifferencesWell said. A woman has different paths to the winner's circle, some of which involve finding and locking down a man who has reached, or can reach, that level. A haughty hottie princess who claims "I am the table" is one path, wifey is another. No guarantees, but the path that tends to be more sustainable and brings far more satisfaction is the wifey path. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/24 11:56 PM |
| 3 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?It's something I used as an employer. I would put people right into the role rather than babying them for an extended trial period. The good ones love a challenge and rise up to higher expectations. The dysfunctional ones, whether it be poor skills or poor attitude, were quickly exposed. In dating women put men to the test all the time. It's called shit-testing. Testing allows you to measure his confidence, his social skills, his level of compliance, and such. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/24 12:53 PM |
| 11 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?Put them to the test. There's a tendency to walk on eggshells, never offending while maintaining a somewhat fragile coexistence. All that does is delay the destruction. If there's no solid foundation, find out fast, not slow. In the movie 300, there's a powerful scene where King Leonidas is faced against the mythical 'Immortals' and he boldly states, "Immortals... We'll put their name to the test." | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 08:28 PM |
| 1 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?Not only are they masculine traits, they are ones that women tend to find very attractive. Conversely, they are not the traits a man would typically seek in a woman. Not surprisingly, many woman fail to recognize this, working hard to develop the traits they themselves would find attractive. Why the ongoing debate? You don't seem all that agreeable to anything I've said. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 08:18 PM |
| 1 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?Achieving career success does not require being 'attractive, feminine, and supportive'. In fact, it requires what have traditionally been more masculine traits such as confidence, ambition and determination/hustle. Probably not mutually exclusive but more an inverse correlation. A pretty woman can certainly achieve career success, but she could enter the winner's circle based upon her beauty alone. Human nature being what it is, there isn't the same level of incentive to work hard at a career. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 04:28 PM |
| 37 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?You probably did the right thing because it seems you were just a placeholder, not his forever choice. He wasn't proud to show you to his parents, he wasn't excited to meet yours, which is mind-boggling considering all the effort he put in. Fence-sitting is not a good look for a man. A man of action is decisive and bold, willing to make mistakes and carry on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 01:04 PM |
| 2 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?Good points. I've definitely met women that fit the well-educated moms you've described. And many cultures sustain traditions and value education and loyalty to their family and community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 01:46 PM |
| 2 | A "pookie" online profile, someone make sense of this.Why would I bother making stuff up for you. Delve deeper. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/07/24 01:41 PM |
| 1 | A "pookie" online profile, someone make sense of this.Pookie and Ray Ray are the loser bad boys at the club she hooks up with and gets impregnated by. They are a different category from the Chad and Tyrone who represent superior Alpha seed. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/07/24 03:26 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend says too much entusiasm in sex turns him down. What to do?A woman is turned on by a man who specifically desires her and responds to her arousal, as opposed to a horny guy who tries to hump anything he can get his hands upon. The equivalent for a horny guy is a DTF woman. Guys will use her but will probably look upon her as only for fun, not for a relationship. They wouldn't trust her to be loyal. I wonder if that's the risk in displaying a high sex drive too early, that a guy might put such a woman into the fun girl category. Regarding power, I've hea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 03:12 AM |
| 2 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?My fellow female professionals were high in intellect and earning potential. I was happy to 'settle' for a woman who was far more attractive, feminine and supportive. One female colleague mentioned that she wished she had a wife like mine supporting her. Some professional men are 'chosen' by fellow professional women. These men aren't out playing the field and being blue-pilled, are somewhat oblivious to their worth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/24 07:24 PM |
| 8 | How Do I Make It Seem Like I Have Friends And A Life?Well said. At RPW, it's understood that men don't evaluate women with the same criteria. If a young women is less sophisticated, less successful and lacking a partner, men don't see that as unattractive the way women do with a young man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/24 03:41 PM |
| 2 | how do I (20f) help a customer (33m) feel comfortable in pursuing me?You could verbally give him your name and number, but he might think you're the type who frequently and boldly gives out her name and number to guys. Write a cute/corny message, such as "Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my number, so call me, maybe." Discreetly slip him the message to create a belated meet-cute moment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/24 02:20 PM |
| 9 | The man I'm dating has brought up my potential future career as a potential issue and I'm not sure how to approach thingsMen get burned by women who exercise their hypergamous options by 'trading up' or jumping back onto the carousel. He sounds wary. If he wasn't looking for something serious, he wouldn't mention any of this, because he wouldn't care about your loyalty. Remember, a man who doesn't care about your past history probably doesn't have any plans for a future with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/24 05:39 PM |
| 5 | How is life like for women who are post wall? Do men treat you different?Do men treat you different? Older women lack the sexual power younger women have and become somewhat invisible, almost to the level of invisibility an average man experiences. Some women complain (bragplaining) about the 'male gaze' when they're young and will fight to sustain that attention as they age. Hotness isn't as big a factor when looking for wifey material, in fact it can be more of a red flag. Pretty woman tend to be higher maintenance, more difficult to sustain her loyalty. Your inexp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/24 10:06 PM |
| 4 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old girl in my situation?She's ISFP, and a pure amiable on the Social Style Model. The women competing was more a reflection on their competitive nature regarding status. My wife isn't competitive at all that way. Security is her bliss, not status. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/24 01:10 AM |
| 5 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old girl in my situation?Ideally you would have both, but listening is often underappreciated and underdeveloped. Many people love to hear themselves talk. They enjoy being the center of attention and my wife is extremely good at giving people positive attention. People tend to compete for the 'talking stick' and will attempt to honor themselves whenever given the opportunity. Honoring others by offering attention and support can be powerful. She's had successful women competing with each other to hold her attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/24 09:41 PM |
| 16 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old girl in my situation?I started to avoid RP as much as I could since I wanted to be happy. The downside of waking up to reality is seeing how unpleasant things could be. Did you ever see The Matrix, the source of the primary metaphor of The Red Pill. There's a character Cypher who wants to be plugged back into the dream world, to escape the ugliness of reality. Anyways, it's hard to stop seeing things once your eyes have clearer lenses. The way you write indicates intelligence and a rich inner world. You're attractiv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/24 06:50 AM |
| 35 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?he hasn't told his family about me yet and doesn't want me to tell mine. He's not serious about you. If he wanted to share a life together he would make efforts to move that forward. I got married at 22. As a student, I didn't have a car, a house or even a full-time job. What I had was a future and a willingness to build a better life with my wife by my side. Even though I came from relative scarcity, I didn't have a scarcity mindset. I saw no point in hoarding a metaphoric slice of pie when so … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 12:01 PM |
| 2 | Provider mindsether partner is not interested in the same lifestyle that she is seeking. I agree with you on men being more attracted to unjaded youthful beauty. As you also mentioned, women are attracted to a better lifestyle, which corresponds to a man's wealth and his willingness to spend it on her. What concerns me about 'lifestyle' is the appetite some women have for excess consumption, luxury and status. They will squeeze all they can out of a man's wallet. At least temper the digging down to silver inste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 05:34 AM |
| 8 | Provider mindsetProviding is a beta male trait Men tend to begin their red-pill journey after being crushed for showing up to the relationship negotiation table as a good little male provider. Marriage used to be a good deal for both partners. These days, Becky wants her fun and expects dependable Bob to still be there for her when her looks fade and she wants to have kids. Marriage is now her insurance policy and divorce her retirement plan. Basic providers are chumps waiting to be slaughtered. They are easily… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/24 01:21 PM |
| 1 | How to speak in a more feminine way?Late to the party but wanted to share some perspective... I don't think speaking in a more feminine way is just about style. A soft, sweet, 'girly' way of communicating is quickly dismissed by most modern women, who want to be seen as more competent, strong and successful. A woman's lilting voice is very pleasant to listen to. However, lilting up at the end of sentence can make every sentence seem like a question, making the person sound uncertain and lacking in confidence. Possibly attempting t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/24 11:50 AM |
| 3 | Postpartum woesLooks like you got the Navy Seal version of 'baby boot camp'. All you can do is endure, knowing you're being tested. I cried when my baby cried and I cried when she settled in someone else's arms. I watched my wife go through this, as if she had a big guilt button on her forehead and every baby's cry shouted to the world, "You're a bad mom". Things soon got better, 3 months seemed to be a turning point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/24 05:30 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with male friends negging me for not being settled down yet?Probably not. Guys will also put down a woman to impress their friends, while knowing they don't have much of a chance with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/24 10:43 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with male friends negging me for not being settled down yet?Call them acquaintances, they're not your friends. Negging is the right word for their verbal jabs. It's an 'asshole' technique used in pickup to destabilize a woman's ego, taking her down a peg while positioning the guy above her in dominance hierarchy. These guys are envious of you. A woman at 24 has high reproductive value. An average guy lives in sexual scarcity and can be very resentful of a young woman's sexual abundance, even if she isn't promiscuous. 'The Wall' is a term for a woman losi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/24 08:02 PM |
| – | Most men I know have little to no interest in being good Husbands, I'm worried for my sister.insights on hunting down a good partner? While vetting is important for a man, it's secondary to self-development. Become a superior choice to a potential partner. A woman brings her biologic worth to the table. Vetting for a superior man should be a higher priority for her. He's the one who demonstrates high value, that he's worthy of accessing her fertility. You mentioned a 'kindness gap' amongst men. While it's likely true, it's not as relevant as gaps in confidence, leadership, integrity, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/24 01:14 PM |
| -3 | how to comfort my man when he failed an important exam? there's a fine line between giving him space and seeming indifferent, what should I do?Why did he fall short? Was he underprepared? Was he distracted or stressed to the point he underperformed? Does he doubt his abilities? Time to regroup and make a better plan to win. When can he get another opportunity to pass? Is there support or resources available to help him prepare for that exam? Make it clear you're on his side and will support him. However, you're not his mother who will love him no matter what. If he can't get his act together, he's put on the clock. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 02:53 PM |
| 6 | What Working with Executive Men Has Taught Me About Submissiveness as a StrategyI had the opposite issue, I wanted to slap on my Mr. Fix-it cap and instantly solve my patient/customer's problems. Jumping into solution mode after barely exploring the problem. I had to learn to keep that cap off my head until later. An effective sales process is Problem-Agitate-Solution. Without any agitation, the person doesn't perceive the depth of the problem and will place minimal value upon the solution. Sell the problem, the consequences of inaction, pause for effect, and then the solut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 12:01 AM |
| 22 | What Working with Executive Men Has Taught Me About Submissiveness as a StrategyTerrific post. The first point about solving problems had me thinking about a leader's emphasis on more results, less drama... "show me the baby, don't tell me all about the labor pains". | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 09:57 PM |
| 8 | How to be patient & wait for a proposal?Sitting on the fence is a problem as a leader. Sure, there's a price to pay for making a bad move. The price of inaction often outweighs the price of a wrong move. Why? With a wrong move you can course correct and make it right, learning from the experience and gaining strength in agency. Failing forward is better than standing still. Confidence is built through boldly making decisions, wisdom is gained by learning from those decisions. OP, your bf seems cowardly, afraid of making a move forward… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/24 01:26 PM |
| 11 | Agreeable Women, What Tactics Have Worked for You in Dating/Marriage?People have different levels of confrontation tolerance. Some of those who retreat from confrontation can appear to be agreeable because they acquiesce so readily, but inside they can seethe with covert hostility. Yesterday I wrote something about fight and flow. Fight is a willingness to take a hard stance and engage in heated debate. In other words, a capacity to be disagreeable. Flow is adaptability and a reluctance to become agitated or combative. It's a capacity to be agreeable. Fight and f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/24 11:50 AM |
| 13 | Seeking Advice: How to Approach a Professional Crush with Intentions of MarriageDirect approach is risky. A clumsy attempt could create potential fallout in the professional circles you both move in. You're certain he's available and not gay? A facilitator would be handy. If you can't line up a matchmaker on your side, perhaps you can discreetly find one on his. What are his interests, hobbies and such? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/24 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Should I study/work in different fields to meet people I’m more compatible with?Nuanced response. Why did you burst into tears debating? Was it the subject, work pressure, sensitivity to your husband's words? Whenever I would lose my shit, it would turn into anger, not tears. It was always work-related pressures that would spill into things at home. My wife always knew that food and a time out could settle my cranky pants back down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/24 01:56 PM |
| 6 | Relationship problems because of confusion between traditional and feminist values.Fight versus flow. In feminist mode you're always ready for battle, every conversation is a test, an opportunity to 'preach equality and freedom' as you described. Rigidity of stance, irritable, disagreeable, never at peace. There's a conformity to feminism, an embrace of dogma and a collective railing against a common enemy. It's a march. In feminine mode you're adaptable, moving responsively to your environment and your partner's lead. Your thoughts and emotions aren't locked in. There isn't t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/24 02:32 AM |
| 2 | did I mess up by telling my boyfriend I think he values sex more than an actual relationship? if so how can I fix things?war within myself That's our choice on a daily basis, to do selfish, indulgent things or do good things for collective benefit. Some women do manipulate men for all they've got, and men in turn manipulate women for sexual conquest. Predatory behavior from both sides. A healthy relationship is an oasis, but as you described, there will always be a war within myself to stay on the straight and narrow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/24 02:32 PM |
| 2 | did I mess up by telling my boyfriend I think he values sex more than an actual relationship? if so how can I fix things?Men have started doing that. Similar to escaping into the fantasy world of video games, it's a neglect of reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/24 11:45 AM |
| 3 | did I mess up by telling my boyfriend I think he values sex more than an actual relationship? if so how can I fix things?Your loss must have been heartbreaking. Be assured you gave him a beautiful end with your love and devotion. I would like to believe he would have given the same of himself for you if the situation was reversed. Some people stay the course when tested, some fold and walk away. Respectfully, if a man gets sick, his sex drive is no longer a priority. Why would he leave the one helping him? If a woman gets sick, that's different. OP's boyfriend explained he would seek sexual relief elsewhere and re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/24 11:42 AM |
| 4 | did I mess up by telling my boyfriend I think he values sex more than an actual relationship? if so how can I fix things?On a biological level, sex is more important to a man than a relationship. If you took away his sexual drive, he probably wouldn't bother with women at all. To some degree, he tolerates a relationship in order to get steady access to sex. For a woman, it's the opposite. She's inclined to tolerate sexual routines in order to sustain a relationship. Neither is right or wrong, just different priorities. Anyways, your conversation about hypotheticals blew up in your face because you expected him to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/24 01:45 AM |
| 15 | Suddenly single at 31. How do I move forward knowing I likely won't get the partner or family I wanted?Is age 31 too old? Depends. The question "What do you bring to the table?" isn't just about assets, it's also about liabilities. Some people grow better with age, some don't. Your broken relationship doesn't disqualify you. You were ready for a family, he wasn't. Maybe he found someone else. If he called you up and said he made a mistake, would you go back to him? So a fresh start. Let's assume your target man is 35. His options are 1) playing with the younger fun girls or 2) finding someone mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/24 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Strange "compliments" from men?when I talk to men... I noticed OP didn't say, "When men talk to me..." Could it be she's referring to the particular men she deems worthy of conversation, the select ones she wants attention from? The value of the compliment depends on the source. When an average guy walks up to a beautiful women and compliments her, she may not take it well. Why? Some women are acutely aware of status hierarchy and can feel aggravated by the mere presence of 'lower-tiered men' dragging them down. A woman can u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/24 12:14 PM |
| 33 | I did itFemininity shines through, even with all your past. If every women developed their femininity the way they focus upon hotness, it would become ordinary, expected. Since genuine femininity is a rare trait these days, it becomes remarkable and appealing to a man, even if he doesn't know why. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/24 12:49 PM |
| 5 | In a healthy relationship, would someone withhold information? Read for contextThat's also called the Drama Triangle. The self-appointed heroic victim is besieged by an evil persecutor and rallies a band of rescuers to thwart the oppressor. This dynamic absolutely destroys a team in a work environment. I can't imagine a relationship lasting if either partner pulled this stunt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/24 10:32 PM |
| 10 | How do I get a clear picture for entering Nun Mode?From what I've gathered, nun mode is a woman's equivalent of monk mode for a man. Intentional solitude is leveraged to clean up your act, grow up and strengthen yourself physically, mentally, spiritually. My only concern is that a journey of solitude has traditionally been a young man's rite of passage and might move a woman further into her masculine. OP has been self-reliant but also finds herself unhappy. For age 20, she seems very grounded and self-reflective. I think she's looking for posit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/24 02:03 AM |
| 6 | Am I providing enough?Some people are givers and some are takers. Relationships can become unbalanced when a giver and a taker pair up. Parenting tends to be unbalanced like that, parents giving without much expectation of reciprocation. Ideally, each partner develops the capacity to give generously and receive graciously. Mutual contribution to the 'team' is a wonderful thing. Maybe 'keeping score' applies early on, but as deeper trust develops, this becomes less of a concern. OP, it sounds like you and your partner… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/24 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Well.. this is easier said than done! Whew.I smiled reading your post, so relatable. Love's illusions tend to dissipate when you live together. Little annoyances can start to pile up, but it's more than that... A man can start getting lazy, soft and unappreciative, as if his partner is a devoted mother and he's the petulant teen. 'Straighten up and fly right' is an important attitude for a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/24 02:21 PM |
| 19 | Confused between two guysX is a classic beta orbiter trying to win OP's heart from inside her friendzone. Somewhat cruel of OP to continue using him as her cuddle bitch and emotional tampon, though it's not her fault he behaves this way. A real friend would provide some tough love to help shake him out of his bluepill fog. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/24 12:54 PM |
| 4 | ”Being the starter girlfriend”Concern #1 - he's a romantic fool. Romance thrives on obstacles and this being a LTR, he's infatuated with the illusion of you. Will his current enthusiasm last? Concern #2 - he's blue-pilled. He's making a woman his mission and giving her the full princess treatment. His value should come from elevating himself and the pursuit of a worthy mission. Concern #3 - he's 30 and trying to build. He should be somewhere close to the winner's circle by that age. There should be congruency between his int… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/24 04:30 PM |
| 7 | I’m thankful my ex leftI don't get any sense of antagonism from you, so I'm guessing the more hostile, competitive debating came from your ex. Some people are competitive to the degree that teammates become opponents, every conversation borders on warfare. So exhausting. I understand why you've become guarded. You're respectful, intelligent and well-spoken. Share your voice proudly and passionately. Partners are far stronger tapping into their collective intelligence and energy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/24 03:44 PM |
| 10 | I’m thankful my ex leftAfter all that struggle love, are you ready for easy love? Though it sounds crazy, some women are hooked on the drama of struggle love. I wonder if you'll hookup with your ex at some point just for a dose of the old fireworks. By the way, what was the debate on gender equality about and why would it be about winning or losing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/24 12:59 PM |
| 23 | How can I retain self respect in LTR, while my boyfriend is going through emotional stress?disrespected by my depressed boyfriend If you marry him, you'll be disrespected by your depressed husband. He has shown you his colors. Depression, like drunkenness, can be an exercise in self-indulgence, where shitty, selfish behavior can be dismissed. Not everyone wants to grow up, including him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/24 04:56 PM |
| 25 | Husband lost interest because I gained winter weightIs ED a problem for him? That might be why he's attempting to put it back on you. Looks are initially important, but that tends to fade with familiarity. There are other appeals that are more sustainable such as feminine grace and wifey support. I'm just not buying his excuse that you're not skinny enough to earn his boner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/24 09:45 PM |
| 89 | Husband lost interest because I gained winter weightHe wants you to look hotter? He could easily support you with that without undermining your self-confidence. There's something off about his behavior. He's putting a negative spotlight on you. Why? That's often a diversionary tactic, a deflection. Could he be cheating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/24 07:58 PM |
| 35 | Financial imbalance in relationship causing insecuritiesOP, you sound like a winner, your BF sounds like a rescue/restoration project. drinks pretty heavily, which is something he would like to change. This should be a dealbreaker. For an addiction, saying 'no' cold-turkey can be more effective than trying to manage it, though it takes discipline. In my Military days, a reformed alcoholic explained his addiction... "One drop was too many and 1000 bottles was not enough." If you rescue this guy, he probably won't reform. Instead he might lean into you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/24 02:23 PM |
| 12 | Was excited about a date but not sure anymoreIf the guy is timid or cautious, he'll be looking for a woman's green lights to proceed, those clear 'indicators of interest'. If a gal is timid or cautious, she'll withhold her green lights. Signals can easily be missed or misinterpreted. Guys with seductive experience will play a different game called 'kino' whereby sexual intent is clearly expressed through physical touch. It's a progression, starting off with casual and playful touching of hand, arm, knee and shoulder, followed by a gradual … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/24 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Body count anxietyI like a good overcoming-adversity redemption story. You're part of the "school of hard knocks and still won in the end" club. You could have chosen victimhood and blaming others, but you never would have made it this far. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/24 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Body count anxietyThank you for your compliment, allow me to reciprocate. You're intelligent, as evidenced by you writing craft, and you have a healthy moral compass. My advice: You stumbled, you learned, you grew. You've elevated yourself. Let go of your stumble. Focus on the present and future rather than the past. Some women are so proud of their 'little hoe era' and encourage others to do the same. They celebrate a shameless, reckless lifestyle. No regrets. You've grown past that brief phase but are still hol… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/24 05:13 PM |
| 6 | Body count anxietyGreat news, you're still a 'good girl' at heart. Some women have no shame or guilt left in them by age 23. They can live a wild, indulgent lifestyle and feel no remorse. The chances of them settling down into a 'normal' sustainable relationship probably diminishes with each passing year. You probably have a better chance at a wholesome, stable relationship now that you've stepped into 'Party World' and have regrets. Your path forward has been made clearer. You're prioritizing sustainable love ov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/24 03:30 PM |
| 13 | I started dating him casually, now I changed my mind after getting to know him, is it worth a conversation or should I end it?Start the conversation lightly, lovingly. "I can see having children with you some day. I think you would make a great dad." He isn't going to bolt for the hills but you might see him freeze up for a few seconds, pondering the thought of it. He might ask why you think he'll be a good dad. Even if he doesn't ask, answer it. Mention traits such as loyal, supportive, grounded, integrity, morally strong, a good mentor, and such. Most guys rarely hear compliments from a woman and you'll have his feet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/24 01:32 PM |
| 24 | Low self esteemThere's a lot of pressure on a woman to be physically beautiful. Men tend to overvalue beauty and the beauty industry tends to exploit the insecurity women feel in competing with the extreme global beauty standards of modern society. The last thing you need is a man undermining your self-worth by being critical of how you look. Your boyfriend is either an idiot doing this unintentionally, or he's cruel and doing it on purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Feminine Role Models in Media?most women are sensitive to flawed characters. Women are sensitive to the portrayal of women in media. Men are also sensitive to the portrayal of women, though not to the same extent. Both are less sensitive to the portrayal of men. This isn't a revelation. Maleficent is an interesting character from Sleeping Beauty. In the original animation she was deliciously evil. In 2014, Disney released a new version starring Angelina Jolie. The character was rewritten to make her the sympathetic protagoni… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 06:36 AM |
| 2 | Feminine Role Models in Media?I am hypersensitive to people making false generalisations about me and others like me. There it is, right there. That's what a negative portrayal represents to a woman, a 'false' generalization of all women. I can tell you're intelligent and enjoy arguing. My intention hasn't been to poke holes in your logic, it's been to enlighten. Can you say the same? You can handle a flawed female character portrayal, but you are less able to handle me describing that women tend to be sensitive to the portr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 05:06 AM |
| 21 | Husband wants a one sided open relationship what do I do?The healthy side of red pill is focused on becoming a better man. The dark side of it is choosing to become a player. The cheating, lying and disrespect you're dealing with is brutal. Now he's claiming you're the one sabotaging the relationship because you won't accept his behavior. Next step will be physical abuse to 'keep you in line'. He's not going to listen to your viewpoint. If you can't get family and/or counseling to intervene, get out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Feminine Role Models in Media?You actually make my point by coming to the defense of the sisterhood. On one hand, I'm surprised you deny that women are sensitive about how women are portrayed. And yet I'm not really surprised. Protecting women is instinctive for both sexes. That level of sensitivity doesn't extend towards men, which is why men don't get as upset seeing men portrayed in a negative light. I remember watching The Hateful Eight with my wife in the theater. Plenty of violence and death, but it was the scene where… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Feminine Role Models in Media?I didn't say women like the Mary Sue and waifu characters mainstream media produces. You're picking out exceptions, a common argument approach women make. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Feminine Role Models in Media?Women are hypersensitive to the depiction of female characters. One key reason is that while men consider a protagonist their buddy/comrade, women will self-insert, becoming that heroic character. If the lead character is portrayed as flawed or unattractive in some ways, women take that as an attack on every woman, including themselves. Easier to make men the ugly antagonist baddies. Media aren't willing to aggravate women, easier to portray them as flawless Mary Sues who don't have to struggle,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/24 07:11 PM |
| 1 | “I love you”He's old school, I like him. Just been having this conversation in another similar thread. Mushy behavior is normal for women, less so for men. In a gynocentric world, the behavior of woman is normalized and the behavior of men is deemed unacceptable. "He's emotionally immature, insecure, little-dick energy", and such. Men are expected to acquiesce to a woman's emotional expectations. Pussy whipped is not a good look and some men enter relationships most of the way there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 08:05 PM |
| 0 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?I don't expect to convince you of anything. Sustaining masculinity is a man's challenge. He has to set the boundaries of his behavior. What you would call a man being in touch with his feelings, others might call pussy whipped. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?I've never thought of my husband as weak or needy for saying "I love you". My wife doesn't think so either. She accepts I would rather show it than say it. For me, spouting the 3 words is somewhat like slacktivism, where you offer your public support of a thing but do nothing else. Emasculation isn't a profound immediate affect where a daily "I love you" makes a guy's balls fall off. No, it's slow and insidious. It's seeing every little soft act as harmless and letting them pile up. My father gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 02:53 PM |
| -2 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?I see it as weak, same with baby talk and pet names. My wife does all of that frequently, which doesn't bother me. However, I don't believe there's a need to reciprocate with identical behavior, identical declarations of affection and love. Look at the current 'soft guy era' stuff. It's a prank, but women make it quite clear they're not keen on the idea of soft men being supported by strong women. They much prefer being the ones supported by strong men. Hard to find strong men these days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?But for her love is a state of being weak, needy, helpless, a state of being desperate and dependent. I didn't come up with that concept, don't remember where I heard it. It has a connotation of love is a battlefield and the one who falls in love, loses. I don't see things that way, but I try to speak to the way things tend to be in the seduction/relationship arena. My wife is actually prefers high comfort, low dominance. I don't avoid being soft for her benefit, I do it for mine. If you conside… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?I might have offended some delicate sensibilities today, and that can be a good thing. Shocked Pikachu faces at RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 05:11 AM |
| 53 | I regret losing my virginity.The good news is that your less than stellar first experience will make you less tempted to indulge in years of carousel riding. If it was mind-blowing, you would be craving more. Some people can stay on the straight and narrow. Some of us wander off and stumble a bit before returning. You're not a bad person for this. Let it go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 03:46 AM |
| 0 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?Regular folk don't have nuanced views you described. Men are particularly susceptible to coasting in a relationship. They aren't aware of or concerned by their gradual softening. It's fine if the woman is equally sliding downwards and accepting of it. Some young men rapidly transform in a relationship. They might have been bold and dominant when pursuing, but soon assumed a submissive, more feminine role once in a relationship. They act overly sweet, with plenty of "I love you's" on a daily basi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 03:14 AM |
| -1 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?Soft men believe softness is the way. They have been 'indoctrinated' to be more feminine, less masculine. I have 4 sons and I'm very familiar with the issue. They can't fathom that their gentleness and M'Lady chivalry can become detrimental to relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 02:47 AM |
| -4 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?Soft men will always try to ease tension and calm the waters. In the long run, tending to a woman's shitty frame is a losing move for both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 08:47 PM |
| -5 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?Your man is doing the right thing. He's demonstrating his love instead of stating it. Sure, you want both, but a woman shouldn't always get what she wants. 'I love you' can have a very different meaning. When he says it, he means devotion and loyalty, the equivalent of, "I would take a bullet for you". But for her it's a state of being weak, needy, helpless, a state of being desperate and dependent. So a guy thinks he's declaring devotion when he says "I love you" but she begins to interpret it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 07:58 PM |
| 35 | Bait N Switched by a Dylan...7.5 from the men I've pulled Okay, it's refreshing to see you don't automatically call yourself a 10 in a delusional manner the way some women do. However, I think you should avoid playing the rating game that young men play. It's meant to judge a woman's hotness and is somewhat derogatory, as if that's all the value a woman brings to the table. Women don't 'pull' men in the same way. A woman is expected to be the gatekeeper of sex and a man is expected to earn his way passed her gate. His attra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 12:53 PM |
| 1 | FashionI find it helpful when a woman dresses congruently to her values. A basket of red flags is easily spotted when they dress the part, giving fair warning. Elegance is more than a look... it's the grace, warmth and radiance that lifts everyone, not just themselves. You seem like an elegant woman. Shine on! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/24 12:26 AM |
| 3 | FashionA woman can dress up to show she takes care of herself and to garner positive attention. You would think that would be perfectly acceptable. These days, women get pulled in different directions and can be criticized no matter what they choose... A simple, feminine outfit is a Basic B uniform. A revealing, hyper-sexualized outfit is a Bad B uniform. A name-brand outfit is a haughty Hot B's uniform. A combination of sexuality and exclusivity. A garish, anti-fashion outfit is a radical feminist's u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/24 09:09 PM |
| 4 | Exploring the five faces of the perfect wifeGreat list. Perhaps 'The First Mate' deserves it's own category separate from 'The Confidante'. I trust my wife deeply and share things I would never share with anyone else. I value her perspective and advice. I also trust her to step up and steer the ship for our family, being a leader. The idea of Captain and First Mate is important. It's never a lopsided power dynamic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/24 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Female with High Testosterone - How to Kill the Man In MeApparently, OCP is the correct acronym for birth control pills, my bad. Interesting how you mentioned the 'loudness' of the male hormones. It can feel like a combination of seething desire and rage. Stoicism is somewhat essential to contain the beast within. I was once visiting a ski buddy at his farmhouse. The cattle were all in the barn for the winter and I approached them. I commented on the 'big cow' who seemed to have no fear of me compared to the others as I patted it on it's massive head.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/24 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Female with High Testosterone - How to Kill the Man In MeThis was an interesting read. The hormonal component behind our behavior is clearly evident in OP's story. Testosterone offers rewards, but at a cost. High drive, low contentment. For most men, trying to awaken their dormant masculinity is a challenge. For modern women, trying to recapture their long-rejected femininity is a challenge. Op is caught in the middle. In terms of killing the masculinity, BCP therapy could help regulate the hormonal imbalances of PCOS. Unfortunately, it will probably … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Advice for conversational topicsThere's an old story of a woman comparing her experiences with 2 different British Prime Ministers. In conversing with the first, she was convinced he was the cleverest person in England. After conversing with the second, she was convinced she was the cleverest person in England. The second was Benjamin Disraeli, a master communicator who could easily dominate any conversation but wisely chose not to. In running a successful business, I found it far more valuable to be interested rather than int… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 02:00 PM |
| 10 | deep crisis in my LTR (13.5y, 3 children)Do your children ever say or do terrible things? Do you hold onto a snapshot of them in their worst moment and continue to see them that way? Of course not, you let it go and love them, understanding that a bad moment doesn't define them. Can you not cut some of that same slack to your partner? Men tend to be better at letting go, while women can hold a grudge forever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Decoding Your Man's Love Language Through His MBTIThat comedy sketch was gold. She's irritated he isn't being the emotional tampon girlfriend substitute she needs to vent away her frustrations. He's irritated as she denies reality, avoids solving a simple problem and continues to milk her situation for victim points. The actor roles could be reversed and it would still work. Modern media continually reinforces the depiction of bumbling men and competent women coming to their rescue. They avoid depicting a woman with a flaw (the nail) that she c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 12:03 PM |
| 8 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?I agree, though it does go both ways. While men still hold the burden of performance in the bedroom, a responsive woman is a great teacher. His seductive efforts excite her. Her gasps, sighs and moans likewise excite him and emphasize "do more of that stuff". Unfortunately, many women are not very responsive and not sexually generous in bed. Starfish sex doesn't encourage or develop his mastery. Lack of responsiveness and sexual generosity doesn't seem to be problem here at RPW where 'keep his b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 11:34 AM |
| 57 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Yes, a man's sexual arousal is an on/off switch. A woman's is a thermostat that needs some warming up, including emotionally and psychologically, not just physically. A lot of married men have no game (seductive competence) or have shut it down. Duty sex does become another chore for her. With gradual loss of respect and admiration for her husband, sexual arousal withers and the bedroom eventually dies a slow death. She can still love him, she just doesn't sexually want him anymore. A husband ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 01:34 AM |
| 6 | Can’t go past the honeymoon phaseAddictions are often an attempt to self-medicate. An anxious person turns to alcohol or weed. A depressed person turns to meth or coke. What void does romantic infatuation fill? My wife is such a steady, loving presence in my life that I can't relate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 07:00 PM |
| 12 | Can’t go past the honeymoon phaseI was a fireworks addict That's a good way to describe it. The chemical bliss of infatuation wears off and you're out chasing a new supplier of tingles. You're not alone. Many people try to alleviate their emptiness with new sexual partners. The more they indulge, the further from a stable relationship they drift. A 'love is the drug' approach is an addictive habit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 01:21 PM |
| 5 | Disagreement about school routineOoh, a juicy question... Managing tasks is terrific. Managing another person is stifling. Would you want someone lording over you regarding every daily task you perform? Of course not. Women want a man to lead, not be some petty tyrant micromanager. Regarding leadership, here's a 3 word success formula... Doing Essential Well. Doing - commitment to action, willing to learn as you go. Essentials - prioritizing the stuff that matters. Cleaning the distractions and low priority/reward stuff off you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/24 11:36 PM |
| 10 | Disagreement about school routineHe's eight, and normally very responsible, but maybe once or twice a week he forgets his water bottle. I understand your husband's frustration and also believe he must learn to let those small MBA (Minor But Aggravating) issues go. Maybe he's bringing his frustrations from work home with him. Checklists work well in a management-heavy organization such as McDonald's, where ordinary people are employed. As a parent, you want to raise a self-managing child who can do things themselves, even if the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/24 03:49 PM |
| 21 | My husband (30yo) prefers to masturbate than have sex with me (25yo)Sounds like some variation of porn addiction. He isn't some choir boy chomping at the bit. He's more 'been there, done that' barely interested. A problem of waiting until married is that neither of you gets the benefit of a test drive, so one of you may end up with a lemon. OP, just make sure you're not the lemon here. Sex therapy might save your marriage from a dying bedroom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/24 04:49 AM |
| 5 | He's constantly late and cancelsNo good excuses for this. Consider these... He's not into you. He might be trying to shake you loose with a soft fadeaway. He's flaky. Some people are full of good intentions but are completely unreliable. He's a bull-shitter. He just tells you what you want to hear in the moment. You think there's a relationship when there isn't and he doesn't want to burst your bubble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/24 12:27 AM |
| 7 | For better or for worseIsn't throwing socks in the general vicinity of the hamper good enough? 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/24 11:18 AM |
| 12 | For better or for worse"You're not with them now. You're with me." That line gave me chills. It's true, we have each other's back. When one is up, the other is there to celebrate. When one is down and broken, the other is their to bring them back and make them feel whole again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/24 11:44 PM |
| 10 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.That's a good question. OP described a man reaching a point of readiness and proceeding to commit, regardless of the woman's merits. I think it's the opposite. The high value guy drifts along enjoying low commitment encounters until he comes across an exceptional woman that he can see having a serious relationship with. A fun girl just has to be hot. A keeper has to bring other things to the table, such as fit, fun, friendly, feminine, respectful, loyal, cooperative, supportive, domestically ski… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/24 11:35 PM |
| 11 | Lesson learnt after breakupthese traumatic occurrences prompt us to change who we are. Drifting along in life is easier than choosing a course and paddling towards it. The drifters only change course when they hit rough waters, pain instigating change. Given the support of a RPW, some men stop paddling and become drifters, like 'momma' is going to shelter them or something. Pathetic. I say that as a father of 4 boys and their inclination to drift is irksome. My father felt the same way about me and was surprised when I tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/24 02:06 AM |
| 5 | He (26m) didn't say I love you back when I(23f) said it first today and now he's acting distant, is my relationship doomed?OP's devotion is admirable, but if he's not willing to reciprocate, this could be a tragedy in the making. For her, not him. He doesn't have to say the words, his actions can be proof enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/24 11:45 AM |
| 9 | He (26m) didn't say I love you back when I(23f) said it first today and now he's acting distant, is my relationship doomed?Maybe he didn't want you to catch feelings. Maybe he's just coming to terms with a deeper commitment. Maybe he's just toying with you. Your hamster wheel is certainly spinning fast right now. Here's something from my old notes... Women are VERY responsive to words. You can use words to tease, flirt, intoxicate, confuse, even agitate. But if you're a calm, fact-spewing straight-talker, as most guys are, that's lame-ass to a girl looking for drama and excitement. Being vague stimulates her imagina… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/24 11:38 PM |
| 27 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.Well said, you have a deep understanding of men. A man's biological agenda is to impregnate multiple women. A woman's biological agenda is to find the best mate she can. becomes capable of the sexual access he really desires Most men live in moderate to severe sexual scarcity because women rule them out. A regular guy will quietly acquiesce to a woman's relationship agenda so he can secure access to sex. He'll settle for whatever he can get and play by her rules. A man who reaches sexual abundan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/24 06:21 PM |
| 97 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.Who are the men who don't want to commit? The player ponies on the carousel that so many women want to ride. The ones who play around until they find a keeper. The ones who stopped trying (MGTOW). Who are the men ready to commit? The young, inexperienced ones. The old, established ones who still believe in love. The desperate, lonely ones who most women ignore. The traditional ones. The relationship-oriented ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/24 01:22 PM |
| 7 | Found a great guy...Can physical attraction and chemistry grow?you are attracted to specifically unreliable duds because they are hot players with strong game. Their unreliableness is a byproduct of their sexual abundance. These guys are into sexual conquest and the sport of seduction and don't tend to be reliable/faithful mates. Same for the lust-driven women who repeatedly choose these men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/24 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Found a great guy...Can physical attraction and chemistry grow?I understand your viewpoint. Please understand that lust and attraction are not the same. Seems you believe lusting for a man is an essential first step. If you like him, admire him and respect him you'll stand a better chance of achieving love. Lust is often a dead end, another mistake. Choosing a potential life partner based upon boners and vagina tingles. Is love enough for you, or do you crave those pangs of lust? How many of your past lustful relationships have transitioned into lasting lov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/24 05:07 PM |
| 3 | Found a great guy...Can physical attraction and chemistry grow?A man's sexual desire is like an on/off switch and it doesn't take much to turn him on. So it's not that he 'never compromises on sexual attraction and chemistry', his bar is really low for that. Prioritizing character over sexual chemistry is a wise choice for a woman. You don't want to end up like the 10 baby mommas impregnated by the 'Random Man in Atlanta' who had plenty of rizz but no viable job other than selling weed. Playing the man's game of building a roster or having a string of lover… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/24 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Found a great guy...Can physical attraction and chemistry grow?Why is it OP found a "really great guy" and she's not as attracted to him? This isn't unusual. Women are very attuned to social and dominance hierarchy. They aren't as attracted to guys with perceived lower levels of status and power. Women love 'assholes' who don't treat them so nicely. Why? While nice guys lower their status by being attentive and nice, assholes elevate their status by being more arrogant, aloof and disagreeable. This happens on an unconscious level. A woman will feel that nic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/24 01:48 PM |
| 35 | Trouble in my marriage - what can I do as the woman?The red pill term for that is the 'betafication' of a man, where he slacks off with a woman's support rather than rising higher. The woman's constant jabs are shit tests. She's trying to rouse his masculinity and ambition whenever he gets too complacent. Sure, some women overdo it, especially when her ambition exceeds his. One of my sisters burned through 2 good husbands who just couldn't work hard enough in her eyes. I wouldn't put a man turning into a frog on the woman. For the most part, he d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Loyalty from RPMEven if you trust him, you know other woman wouldn't hesitate. Similar to when a guy trusts his girlfriend but she dresses up really hot and draws the attention of men whom he doesn't trust. Anyways, separate your trust from your anxiety. Feel the security of that deep trust while dealing with the anxiety of potentially losing him. Love means the capacity to feel all of it at the same time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/24 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Loyalty from RPMYou're experiencing 'dread', the anxiety that other women would be willing to poach him from you. He has to be attractive enough and valuable enough to spark this competition anxiety. It's actually good for the relationship when a woman feels he's worth fighting for because it brings the best out in her, she puts in more effort to keep him. As long as it doesn't go too far and spark a jealous rage. Women don't like feeling this anxiety, but they also don't want to be saddled with a man incapable… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/24 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Ask what he thinks is attractive…it may surprise you…3 Appeals: Hot/Sexy. The hypersexual look works, but has a downside. What's sexy when he's aroused becomes skanky when he isn't. Elegant/Feminine. Graceful, classy, sophisticated, posh. The haughty hottie gives off a high-maintenance vibe that gives a Provider Guy a wallet boner. Wifey. Just doing everyday stuff without any attempt to dress up. No need to sustain one look. A man appreciates variety and versatility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/24 04:26 AM |
| 4 | Husband Breaking PromisesThe context of why he did what he did is important. Did he get drunk and fall asleep? Was he distracted while trying to cater to the guests' needs? Was there some family crisis or tension that put him off track? Or was it just habitual neglect of her needs? I'm with OP on this one. My wife would be disappointed if I let her down like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/24 01:16 AM |
| 10 | I can't help but feel lied to by Red Pillers. Help me understand?Okay, I misread him as a player. It seems he's frustrated and needy. He was butthurt that he wasn't good enough to 'win' your sexual surrender. Weak game, low energy. Why did he keep pursuing sex in the face of your boundaries? Men know that some women will briefly bluff wholesome boundaries to uphold their reputation before they get down and dirty. They want the guy to seduce more before they give in. He probably didn't expect your boundaries to be genuine. Why does he want you instead of an ea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/24 02:28 PM |
| 11 | I can't help but feel lied to by Red Pillers. Help me understand?seemed like the perfect gentleman on the first date... and turned into someone completely different by date 2, once he realized he wasn't getting laid. Well done. You held your ground and he folded. His line about looking for a LTR could have been just a ploy, promising what you want in order to get what he wants. How did he transform by date 2? A transformation usually means the earlier version of him was somewhat fake. His reaction might have been another move to encourage you to fold, his 'nu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/24 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Is this a red pill tactic men use?In terms of game theory, a woman wants to gain maximum benefit before she agrees to sex. A man wants to do the opposite, making minimal effort with little or no expenditures. A bluepill man isn't aware of these dynamics and will eagerly lead with his wallet and desperately offer full commitment. A redpill man understands the alpha fux / beta bux duality of a woman's mate selection and will try to qualify as a Lover rather than a Provider Guy. Maximum fun with minimal cost and no commitment. This… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/24 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Stressful wfh, how to make peace?Do you return home at the same time? Perhaps a buffer zone, like a park bench, could serve as a tension reducer. Otherwise home might cease being that oasis you both need. The Trouble Tree is a story about a man who found a way to separate his work from family life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/24 11:10 PM |
| 6 | Is excessive flattery inherently manipulative?The guy giving excessive compliments isn't being manipulative, he actually lacks game. Guys who lack seductive experience will overdo compliments about physical appearance to the point of being simpish. A guy with stronger game might give a backhanded compliment in a teasing way, or compliment your non-physical traits. A straight up physical compliment is generally counterproductive as it puts a woman up on a beauty pedestal and positions the guy below her in value. Worshipping M'Lady isn't a go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/24 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Too confrontationalI'm still learning. I was just watching this today, fascinating couple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/24 05:30 PM |
| 16 | Too confrontationalWe all start off dysfunctional and must grow to a healthier state. Most of us aren't lucky enough to have a model of excellence that demonstrates superior skills and behavior. Some people avoid confrontation to a fault. Some can turn every little interaction into a battle. Seems you're the latter, walking around with a purse full of grenades, ready to pull the pin on the slightest provocation. You have plenty of passion, which is terrific. Unfortunately, you've been habitually directing that pas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/24 01:54 PM |
| 10 | Starting rpw strategies after 10 years of marriageMy wife is femininity personified and though she can come across as 'girlish', dainty and somewhat a doormat, she's very strong beneath the surface. She's secure, generous and kind. It takes strength to become the solid ground supporting others. She doesn't enter into an interaction in a needy manner looking to gain something. She's graceful and uplifting. She's also a hard worker, not some bonbon munching pillow princess. I can't take any credit for her femininity, she was that way when I met h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/24 12:07 AM |
| 8 | Broken girl ... Is all hope lost? How can I change?A young man has to grow up to become more useful and worthy of a woman's love. Monk mode is an important exercise to cleanse oneself of indulgences and distractions. It's a self-imposed boot camp. I could see nun mode having the same cleansing benefit for a woman, but could it also move her in a more masculine direction? Is a journey to hell and back equally good for a woman as it is for a man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/24 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Balancing between being selective and picky when using dating appsDating apps will probably shift a woman's perspective. She can begin to feel her SMV is sky high and her options are plentiful. She'll be tempted to engage in hookups and foodie calls, while seeing a sustained relationship as too much effort. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/24 11:08 PM |
| 6 | Break-upFirst off, I understand your deep disappointment. I admire your willingness to forgive and your reflection on whether you contributed to the outcome. You're a good person and didn't deserve this in any way. When a guy breaks things off after 2 weeks, he was probably just interested in the sexual conquest. When he breaks it off after 3 months, it was probably lust-driven. When the sizzle fades away, he fades away. 5 years is a different story. Did he get seduced by another woman? You took care of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/24 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Husband struggling with dog lossBe like Jack. Dogs display incredible devotion and appreciation for their humans. The moment you walk in through the door, they practically throw themselves at you. As a child, my wife called her father Mushi, and whenever he came home from work she would rush to the door with a joyful 'Mushi home'. Her younger siblings joined her in the ritual. That routine disappeared as she got older. She taught our own children the 'Mushi home' routine when they were young. When I got home, they would all ru… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/24 06:30 PM |
| 10 | Met a guy who writes a blog on how men can seduce women. Lots of articles about this. On the blog he also advertises dating apps (where he’ll earn commission if people sign up for the apps) and writes tips for how men should use them. How much of a red flag is this on a 1-10?Seems your husband is the red-pilled one. He doesn't make stupid choices and deals with reality. TRP was supposed to be about breaking through illusions to create a higher state of reality. Spinning illusions to trick women into bed is an abomination of the concept. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/24 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Guys I date don’t compliment my physical appearancethey don’t compliment me because every guy probably compliments me True. With social media, women are lavished attention from simpish men. Guys have learned that giving compliments to a beautiful woman puts them into the exact same category as the simps in her DM's. Beauty is a shit test. If a guy pedestalizes a woman for her beauty, he loses. One of the reasons she respects him is that his apparent immunity to her beauty. He doesn't turn goofy and he can look her right in her eyes without turni… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/24 11:22 PM |
| 8 | My fiancé went out last night with friends and didn’t return until the following eveningBased on what you said, I wouldn't hire the guy. He lacks integrity, his promises are shaky. Maybe he knew he was already in the doghouse, so he decided to go 'full dog' and then try to blow it all off with a single apology. If he's not going out of his way to prove he has integrity after this blunder, then he doesn't even know what the word means. In terms of sexual strategy, some guys are all about the conquest. Once the deed is done, they transform from devotion to indifference. A man with in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/24 04:23 PM |
| 26 | My fiancé went out last night with friends and didn’t return until the following eveningIt doesn't seem OP is much of a priority for this guy. Finally showed up at 7:30 and left 90 min later? Maybe he's warming up for a soft goodbye, treating her like shit so she won't be so shattered when he ghosts. His broken promise at 1pm saying he'll be there shortly is brutal. Is he flakey, disrespectful, or both? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/24 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Guy breaks up with me after 3 months because he “can’t do monogamy”Move on. Trying to save him from himself would be futile, only bringing you more disappointment and pain. Not everyone deserves a RPW. He had his chance and blew it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/24 02:10 PM |
| 3 | The great divideSays he wants a modest and peaceful woman that’s not so combative Modesty and calmness are qualities that a man appreciates in a woman after he has made the mistake of picking the opposite. A young man's base level taste is focused upon hotness and he tends to be blind to less desirable qualities. A man will pick hot and crazy to sleep with, but he'll probably pay a hefty price if he puts a ring on her. Not saying that's you. While I think your husband's preference for 'a modest and peaceful wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/24 01:37 AM |
| 6 | My husband hates my new dresswhen do I wear it? Important to ask that prior to buying. I usually never get involved in my wife's purchases. She has great taste and I trust her to spend wisely. My wife is very pragmatic and will buy things she can mix and match to wear at multiple events. A dress with lemons is more of a 'one and done' outfit that might not see much action. What upsets him? Is it the price? Is the print too bold or too whimsical for his taste? Like you say, it seems like an overreaction to something so harml… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/24 09:55 PM |
| 11 | Thank you, TRPI wanted to get chicks in college but didn’t have the guts to fix my life first. That's always been an issue here on TRP. Two important concepts from the movie The Matrix... Take the red pill and wake the fuck up. Everyone understands this metaphor. Access fast knowledge and skills. We don't have portals on the back of our heads, so it's a matter of focus. What are you trying to learn here? Most guys attempt to alleviate their perpetual thirst and make 'getting women into bed' their highest prio… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/03/24 03:46 PM |
| 12 | To understand Narcissists is to understand women.women red pill you. In a literal sense, not so much. Women will exploit a guy's lack of red pill awareness, it's up to him to get a clue. Maybe his buddies wake him up, but it's in a woman's best interest not to red pill a guy so she can maintain her clear advantage over him. If by 'women red pill you' you mean 'experiences garnered in the seductive arena red pill you' then I'm with you. Experiences with women can slap a guy into shape. Except that's the hard way. In the business arena, I found … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/03/24 07:52 PM |
| 12 | How to become a better homemaker?Your husband needs to be your cheerleader, otherwise your passion will be replaced with exhaustion and a deep sense of failure. With all the woman I worked with, the difference between the decent ones and the great ones was their passion, their shining eyes. Those with passion were fully engaged, with their hearts, minds and hands working in unison. They were already self-managing and just needed to be unleashed to perform. When it came to our children, my wife was very passionate, and like you,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/24 01:26 PM |
| 8 | How to become a better homemaker?Sounds like you're doing amazing with so much on your plate. With 5 kids, my wife and I just accepted some measure of chaos as normal. I prioritized my wife's well-being because she would give so much of herself to take care of the kids. She gradually learned to get past all the guilt. Every time a baby cried, she felt she was a bad mom. Every time the house was messy, she felt like a bad mom. Guilt can motivate but it drains your energy, nothing ever feels good enough. I'll tell you what I told… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/24 05:06 AM |
| 6 | How To Keep a Man Interested while Waiting For Marriage to have sexJust to let you know, I shared this thread with my daughter to see if I said anything offensive. She didn't think so, but she already knows my intention is to be truthful and helpful, even if my style isn't always smooth. We talked about how women often get upset and take things personal with any message that puts women down, even when it's not directed at them. It's why the movie industry avoids creating complex female characters and sticks to dull, flawless Mary Sues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/24 02:41 AM |
| 1 | How To Keep a Man Interested while Waiting For Marriage to have sexI apologize if my writing was a little raw for you today. Women will sexualize themselves in order to draw the attention of men. That's luring by becoming alluring, even if you don't like the semantics of it. I'm not saying all women create 'thirst traps'. I prefer more modest women who behave as you do, as my wife does with me. I can be lured with a plate of cookies. Regarding waiting for marriage, it's risky for a woman because he might be a dud not a stud, and another woman offering sex might… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/24 11:43 PM |
| 7 | How To Keep a Man Interested while Waiting For Marriage to have sexinsecurity that no man would stay interested in me without sex Promiscuous women feel the same way. Men hunt and women trap, and sex is the easiest, quickest bait to use to catch a man. This hunting/trapping analogy might be somewhat crass and predatory, but it still works. Luring a man with sex has consequences. If put out you're a slut, if you don't put out you're a cock-teaser. Either way, the guy will put you into the 'fun girl' category and be less likely to commit. A guy who lacks sexual o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/24 12:47 PM |
| 8 | How stop obsessive thoughts about a person and focus on yourself?Our minds can play tricks on us. With infatuation, we fall madly in love with the romantic illusion of someone. Applying a halo to them, we amplify their virtues, ignore their flaws, and overestimate their actual value. At some point the cold water of reality hits and we discover we don't even like them, or even ourselves for that matter. Drink the coffee, take the red pill, wake up and smell the roses, however you want to say it, you move from a fantasy world back into reality. Infatuation beco… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/24 06:23 PM |
| 10 | How should a RPW treat simps?Simps tend to exhibit 'M'Lady behavior' where they put a woman up on a princess pedestal and offer white knight support to a damsel in distress. It's not always sex they crave. They want to play a hero's role and be appreciated for it. They worship her beauty and social cache. Plenty of simp songs in pop, here's one. This enchantment of women is a bluepill reality for most young men. It's something they have to grow out of. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/24 01:49 AM |
| 7 | How to feel beautiful?it made me more confident in myself and that made me just not care what other people thought of me anymore So true. The beauty industry feeds upon a woman's insecurity. They want her to be desperately seeking male attention and female approval, to be obsessed with beauty. Hard to unplug from that. My niece recently lost her life to complications related to anorexia, so this topic hits close to home. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/02/24 08:05 PM |
| 9 | I got what I thought I should want, and I miss what I threw awayConservatives are often the grownups in the room, the buzzkills. Boys don't want to grow up when a woman takes care of them and Libs don't want men to become men. Your experience lines up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/02/24 02:27 AM |
| 3 | I’m still sad that I (25) left my ex (26)It seems OP has a strong 'grass is greener' fickleness about her. Her lust is pulling her towards spicy new prospects, her heart is longing for the connection she once had. At this point, she seems incapable of contentment with any man. That's what happens to women these days. They soon harden their hearts to smoothly move from one man to another without feeling much pain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/24 12:00 PM |
| 2 | 20 years old, need adviceGenerosity in bed is a gift to your man. Many woman learn that withholding sex gives them temporary power and they become stingy about it. Or they become transactional, seeking to get maximum value in exchange for sexual access. Women will unleash their wild side when driven by desire. That's why Chad and Pookie get the spicy stuff for free. Mr. Beta Bux gets the vanilla stuff and he has to work hard for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/24 01:00 PM |
| 16 | Dating Without Attraction: Can it work? What if the Pros outweigh the Cons?Correction: You cannot negotiate DESIRE. Lust/desire is a powerful form of attraction. If she isn't feeling it in the first 90 seconds, jumping through hoops trying to make her feel isn't going to work. That being said, lust by itself is an unstable foundation for a relationship. Lust reigns supreme in the hookup scene. Arranged marriages tend to work because they're not volatile, lust-based arrangements. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 06:01 PM |
| 3 | First Traditional RelationshipAll those precious moments building an unshakeable bond. Someone who worked for me told me of her boyfriend's problem with hemorrhoids, which required an operation. She had to delicately bathe him down there, to which he loudly complained. I told her that's what love looks like, and she was puzzled. I told her it's not always the happy moments or fun sexy times, it's the struggles endured and taking care of each other. They're now married with 4 children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 01:49 PM |
| 7 | What made you all turn to red pill women? How did you find out about it etc and in what ways did it improve your lifeWhisper decided to sell 'arms' to both sides I understand what you mean, but I don't think Whisper would see an evolved relationship as adversarial, more the opposite. Wisdom leads to fewer misunderstandings, better self-control. Having both sides enlightened encourages mutual understanding and respect. I like your planting trees analogy. I want to believe my contributions over the years have helped shape a deeper understanding. As Lao Tzu once shared, "A leader is best when people barely know h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/24 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Field Report -- How I Recovered from an Alpha Widowhood of 12 yearsbe in that kind of situation with minimal emotional damage How would being a sugar-baby or one of Leo's many ex-girlfriends be emotionally damaging? Wouldn't they be more sheltered from such trauma? Mentoring could also be part of the relationship. I can see sugar dating as a viable way to pay for high tuition costs and be a solid stepping stone in building up relationship value. One temptation for a sugar baby would be to get spoiled by sugar dating and turn that into her 'career'. At that poin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 02:23 PM |
| 4 | How to make it up to my boyfriend after an argument?I felt unappreciated for some favours I had offered to do for him Now I understand, definitely not disrespect. I have seen women lash out with a verbal shiv with every intention to inflict pain. I think you have a more in common with my wife, who doesn't have a mean bone in her body. My wife loves to help out, especially with the people she cares about. Feminine flow is the ability to flow into another's life and find countless ways to make things better. She does that so naturally, but it can e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/24 02:20 AM |
| 9 | How to make it up to my boyfriend after an argument?Disrespect tends to be the low blow that breaks trust. In the heat of an argument, something was deliberately said to wound him? Something that wouldn't mean that much coming from someone else, but coming from the person he's grown to trust more than anyone else, it can feel devastating. What flashes through his mind is that all her friendly, loving demeanor is a lie and this nasty snake is who she really is, or at least is capable of being. When things cool off, he retains his wariness. His tru… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/24 11:06 PM |
| 1 | How to make it up to my boyfriend after an argument?My toddler learned early on to tearfully apologize Is it genuine regret or performative? Scary if she's learning how to manipulate to get away with naughty things AND get a big dose of parental affection for her show of tears. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/24 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Field Report -- How I Recovered from an Alpha Widowhood of 12 yearsWell said. A woman who evolves through healthy relationships tends to develop higher standards congruent with her higher value. However, any woman can assume the posture of a 'haughty hottie' and demand the highest quality of men. Alpha Widows have unrealistic standards an inflated sense of value after sleeping with Chad(s). | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/24 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Field Report -- How I Recovered from an Alpha Widowhood of 12 yearspedestalizing another human being and devaluing their self-worth I think that's true for one-itis and OP's youthful infatuation. Alpha Widow is different. She's more likely to overvalue herself. After all, Chad & Tyrone's semen have been level-up potions for her. At this point, her hypergamy is fully engaged and she demands the best. I wonder if Leo's girlfriends are Alpha Widowed after he let's them go. He probably spoiled them in terms of lifestyle, but I can't imagine them being as damaged as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/24 01:01 AM |
| 4 | Field Report -- How I Recovered from an Alpha Widowhood of 12 yearsOP, you're not Alpha-Widowed. What you have is extreme pair-bonding, which happens frequently with a first love. It's the very thing a woman loses through casual hookups. You're attached to the romantic illusion of that guy, who in reality was probably not all that special. Guys are susceptible to the same phenomenon, called 'one-itis'. When a young man becomes romantically obsessed, he puts her high on a pedestal and worships her, devotes his life to her. What is an Alpha Widow? It's a term guy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/24 01:37 PM |
| 1 | How to let a busy man have hobbies?There's a universal struggle to balance spontaneous, youthful independence (wild and free) with a more adult, duty-bound interdependence (loving, present partner/parent). This won't go away, I still feel it every day. During my peak years, I stayed away from time-wasters such as computer games. Now that my kids are older, I find myself indulging more in non-productive stuff. I would tell my kids that one day, if I worked really hard, maybe I could enjoy the carefree lifestyle they had. And here … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/24 06:47 PM |
| 5 | How to let a busy man have hobbies?I want him to play an active part in family evenings Legitimate concern. A man harbors a desire to escape the burden of responsibilities and feel free. He doesn't have to leave town, he can just escape into activities that divert his attention. Sports (playing and/or watching), video games, hobbies, so many opportunities to escape. The heavier the burden (5 kids for me), the stronger the urge to escape. I participated in a lot of sports early in my marriage. I came to realize that the games were… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/24 02:26 PM |
| 10 | From sweatpants to dresses what I’ve learned'Ladies' are hard to find these days. Dressing as one invites being treated as one. It's not men who denigrate that look, it's the sisterhood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 06:35 PM |
| 9 | Help me stop overthinking/ fretting about my boyfriend's colleagueThe pang of jealousy and competition anxiety OP is experiencing is also known as 'dread'. It's a normal reaction, indicating deep attachment and concern about another woman trying to poach him. The concern is legit, women will try to poach a good man away. Even your best friend is capable. A healthy response to dread is to raise your girl game to keep your man loyal and interested. Dr. Dre called it 'Ackrite'. A less healthy response would be forcing him to alter his work so that you can feel be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/24 12:19 PM |
| 34 | Negging is DumbExactly. Teasing is playful. If you just throw shade you come across as an uncalibrated jerk. If you just play it straight like a job interview, you'll come across as boring, predictable and seductively weak. If you just gush compliments you put yourself squarely into the simp category like all those dudes in her DM's. She'll reward your validation with a fake smile while losing respect and desire for you. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/02/24 05:08 PM |
| 53 | Boyfriend only wants me to wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeGet him to pay for all the clothes he wants you to wear. Let him put his money where his mouth is. If he doesn't want to pay, then he shouldn't have a say. Hopefully he'll realize he's being a controlling idiot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/24 07:20 PM |
| 8 | How Women Keep Scoregamification of relationship behaviours That's very interesting. Games tend to be initially fun, but can become a chore in time. Maybe it would work for 6 months before the resentment set in. I can't imagine my wife ever doing this, and she doesn't keep score. Early in my marriage, I read somewhere that a woman's love is like a well. She'll keep giving until it runs dry, especially with the demands of kids. What her man can do is replenish her well by cherishing her and letting her know her lovi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/24 12:26 PM |
| 16 | How do I 26f fix this mess of a life I have built so farI begged and pleaded online to find someone in a podcast or an article, a sub reddit or a podcast who'll say it in a way that rattles my soul but that never happened. Your entire post was powerful and this particular part stood out to me. Everybody wants a Great Teacher to appear, someone who can spoon-feed perfect wisdom with profound impact, altering their life's trajectory. We're looking for someone else's fire to ignite us, but that rarely happens. We must become our own force of growth. 'Br… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/24 01:48 AM |
| 7 | i’m anxious that i’ll never find traditional love with my body countBody count isn't really the issue, it's how you move. Are you fun-oriented or relationship-oriented? Loyalty is not a big deal for fun girls in their 304 phase. Loyalty is crucial for those looking for a serious relationship. Regarding guys, a 'dork' with a zero BC moves clumsily in the seductive arena. His lack of competency and confidence is glaringly obvious and repulsive to most women. A guy with a high BC has a swagger that women find desirable. Caveat: his higher value led to his higher BC… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/24 06:05 PM |
| 0 | My friend 28f says she sees me 28f as competition, what should I do?“I’m not a kind person, and I am not nice” Interesting. Mr. Nice Guy is not respected by women. Some women make the assumption that a 'nice girl', also know as a Basic B, must be similarly disrespected by men. Her reaction might indicate she doesn't want to be seen as a nice girl. Men like nice girls, it's women who will throw shade. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/24 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Newlywed experiencing anxious attachmentSurrendering no, encouraging yes. It's not that your husband wants to become a slob, he's just passively drifting in that direction. To get him engaged, encouragement is much better than nagging. Leadership and followership is best without any master-slave power dynamic as is commonly found with parent-child, teacher-student, boss-employee. The leader initiates and the follower joins in, both enthusiastically contributing and appreciating each other. If both of you become good at both roles, you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/24 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Newlywed experiencing anxious attachmentFirst off, well done on recognizing this problem early. It only gets worse if nothing is done. Think of your marriage as a ship. Right now you're the Captain doing all the work and your husband is behaving like a passenger on a cruise ship. If you give him the Captain role with you serving as his First Mate, you're likely to get more contribution from him. Encouraging people so they show up with their heart, minds and hands fully engaged is a key aspect of leadership. In a way, you're leading an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/24 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Newlywed experiencing anxious attachmentHoneymoon phase over? There's a shift from hot flame to a warm smolder that takes effort from both to sustain. Slow institutionalization of hubby? He gets complacent and runs on autopilot. There's a tendency for men to slack off in marriage. No game? A guy stopped all seduction effort once the is ring on is the equivalent of a woman packing on pounds. Too much game? A woman can't relax around a highly seductive man who other women want. Cheater behavior? Gas-lighting, blame-shifting, obsession w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/24 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Negativity from other womenEver noticed how feminism has a 'cool kids' counter-culture vibe with the corresponding snarky attitude? Some women use manipulation to sustain an advantage over men, treating them poorly. Your devotion makes them look bad by comparison. Breaking ranks from the tribe isn't easy. You chose your husband instead of the sisterhood's approval. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/24 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Aging and Becoming Less AttractiveI would imagine the pain only gets worse as the woman ages, because she can’t compete with the younger women who are at their peak physical attractiveness. I looked through the comments hoping someone would finally make the point for me, so I don't have to harp on it again... Why are you trying to compete on hotness? Imagine a convention hall full of scantily-clad young women all competing for the 'hotness crown', all trying to be the sexiest, raunchiest, 'twerkiest' babe in the spotlight. The w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/24 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Aging and Becoming Less AttractiveSuch great advice, and now Barrett's Privateers is stuck in my head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/24 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?my friends that were comfortable showing up as extremely feminine brought out the best in men. I absolutely agree with this. A feminine woman has a strong positive influence on her man without seeking to control him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/24 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?embarrassment of it all Your story is valuable in your ability to influence others. It's called a 'story of struggle' and serves as a powerful origin story. Entire brands can be built around a powerful origin story. Here's something I wrote years ago about this topic... Find commonality in the struggles they’re facing. Help them realize they’re not alone in their struggles. Share your own story of struggle. Knowing that you’ve been through what they’re struggling with provides a huge boost to yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/24 03:42 AM |
| 3 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?So even though I found my happy ending, I still deal with the scars of my past. Let go of the darkness in your past and step into the sunshine. If anyone deserves a happy ending, you do. Honor your fallen friends by living well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/24 01:03 AM |
| 7 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?I started to look at old classmates with full time jobs, posting happy pictures with their families and realized they had peace in their lives. You felt envy for those with normal lives. Did you once have envy for those living the extravagant IG lifestyles? How did you get pulled into that world? I wonder if young women reading your story would misinterpret your warning. The temptation is believing they can play things both ways by indulging in party world then effortlessly flipping a switch to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 07:20 PM |
| 8 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?You left the fast money and reckless hedonism, not easy to do. Did religion play a part? I asked a patient of mine who had quit his smoking habit, what was the hardest part of quitting. He told me it was the parties, where he missed having a drink in one hand and his cigarette in the other. You walked away from the entire lifestyle. I recently posted about the 3 Act Journey, you've lived it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 05:55 PM |
| 6 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?Such an epic story. Turning 180 on your life is amazing. So many want to keep a foot planted in in Party World, which means they never really change. Do you still have friends in your old life beckoning you to return? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 05:24 PM |
| 5 | Success story, and a lesson -it’s a space to realize our blind spots and grow out of them Not easy to find that anywhere. I really enjoyed your success story where you both transcended the pain, chaos, drama and misunderstanding. I wrote something years ago on Communication Agreements to help my team interact in a healthy manner. I wrote a list thinking about all the mistakes others were making, but soon realized I was just as guilty, if not more. Here's the first point... 1. I take responsibility for my communication. I ta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Is feminine appearance and energy enough?You put things so well. My words come out so dry and factual. I have to go back and add some warmth and humanity to make them palatable. My son described my writing as chewy, he had to work over each paragraph like beef jerky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Is feminine appearance and energy enough?I decided to chime in because your post didn't get the traction it deserved. Your point about feeling small and not measuring up is universal. It can be intimidating to see others having achieved so much when you're just getting started. Question: In whose eyes do you want to be valuable? Your parents? Siblings? Classmates? Teachers? Boss? Coworkers? Friends? Boyfriend? Easy to get spread thin trying to live up to the expectations of so many people. Focus on the few who matter most. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 12:18 AM |
| 3 | Is feminine appearance and energy enough?heavy work/school focus of my life Your plate is very full. Making your career a priority for the immediate future makes sense. He'll probably support you on that. A man has to become interesting and valuable, a woman already is. Even your insecurity isn't a weakness the way it would be for a man. Your vulnerability can be endearing to him. The benefit of having a stable partner is that it takes the pressure off, you can work as a team. Independence is harder work than interdependence. You both … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 10:13 PM |
| 2 | I’m 24 years old: should I start dating to marry or dating for fun/self discovery is fine?People change with time The choices OP makes today can change who she becomes. The Party Path will take her further from a family life. The Relationship Path will help her develop the skills to be a good partner. Glad OP is not taking this lightly. So many women believe it doesn't matter, that they can switch direction any time they want. The ones on the Party Path can be so proud of their choices and see themselves as so much better than those pathetic wholesome Basic B's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 09:33 PM |
| 5 | Why am I so combative and struggle with being pleasant?I had someone who worked for me who was very competent but also very combative. She seemed to walk around with a big shield (very defensive) and a big sword (retaliatory) all day, ready for battle. So much unnecessary drama. She came from a verbally-combative family situation. It took her a while to calm down and trust that her coworkers were on her side. She also met a good man and shifted into a more feminine presence. You're figuring this out at a young age. Well done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?It's about choice. I wanted my wife to run my business so we could make twice as much. We could easily outsource the domestic work. She chose to stay at home raising the kids. She chose more love instead of more money. I've never resented her for that choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 04:24 PM |
| 3 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?The substance is more important than a cute esthetic. The tradwife label is used for pigeonholing and shaming. Forget about the labels. You'll do great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 02:31 PM |
| 4 | Why do men prefer to try to make boss babes tradwives instead of going for actual women who aspire to be tradwives?Boss babes have positive qualities, such as intelligence, drive and maturity. Unlike all the sexy moochers out there eager to latch on to a big fish, boss babes can carry their own weight. The hard part is that boss babes move like men and tend to lack femininity. They don't easily flow into a man's life and play a supportive role. Being successful and highly independent, their plate is already full. Taking on the extra roles of wife and mother can bring extra stress instead of contentment and h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 02:11 PM |
| 17 | Where are y’all finding men who want commitment?"the chill girlfriend" Some relationships just fizzle out from complacency. No fights or drama, just gradually becoming roommates with little spark left. It's often the guy who is blindsided by this, paying little attention to things until one day she declares, "It's over". OP sounds like she made the effort, but her partner was just going with the flow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Valentine’s Day ExpectationsIn my business, we gave out a single rose to every guest on that day. At first it was just the ladies. After a few years, we decided the men should also get one because it was more memorable for a man to receive such a gift, and he could always pass it on to a women in his life. The point of legendary service was to create story-worthy encounters. Find ways to become more meaningful in their lives, especially with milestone events such as a birth, graduation, promotion or marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/24 04:13 PM |
| 5 | How Do Transition Myself From Girlhood To Womanhood?For a man, inexperience in life and inexperience in the bedroom tend to be crippling. Women don't want a sweet, naive boy. Not the same case for a young woman. Sure, you're untested, unproven, but you're also uncorrupted, which means a lot these days. You've mentioned you're doing things to improve your value. Smart move. Many women just hyper-sexualize themselves to gain male attention. It works, but puts them in the 'fun girl' category where guys don't offer commitment. How to vet men is an im… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/24 03:24 AM |
| – | Most girls are genuinely repelled by truly kind men, you have to have some degree of asshole in you or they will get boredThe nice guy comes across as sweet and caring. Those are feminine traits that make him more likeable but less desirable. The 'asshole' comes across as confident and selfish. Those are masculine traits that make him more desirable but less likeable. A man's confidence is as powerful an attraction factor for a woman as her beauty is for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Advice for a single 26F needing to build up her feminine energy?Dial up the caring and dial down the confidence and competence. Confidence - I'm strong and can take charge. Competence - I'm good at this. Caring - I'm focused on your well-being. In my profession I dealt closely with people and quickly realized I had to project those 3 qualities to build trust. Confidence and competence came easy to me, it was the caring I had to emphasize to build trust. Some of the women I worked with were terrific with the caring aspect but didn't project much confidence or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/24 12:13 PM |
| 11 | We Really Should STFUAs a generalization, a woman complains about shit so a man will fix it for her. Damseling can be very effective. Afterwards, the woman believes "I did this" because her complaints were the catalyst for the outcome. Men get tooled, with some of them eagerly signing up for that deal because they really enjoy feeling useful. For the woman I worked with, I had to break them out of this habit of relying on a man to fix things. Generally, they became quite capable as problem solvers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/24 03:27 AM |
| 2 | i'm never the first pickdreamgirl/higher value woman Forget about winning the hotness contest with raw sex appeal. Dial up the cuteness and femininity to put yourself far ahead in a less competitive category. I don't like framing it as a strategy like that because the baddies and boss babes will catch on and put on a 'soft girl' act and costume to bait high value men. The first time I met my wife, I was interested in her taller, hotter sister, as was every other guy. Asking the sister to dance, she passed me off onto m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 11:30 PM |
| 6 | How important is it for the man you want to marry to have a stable job?It's important for a man who provides security and stability to find a woman who appreciates him for it. When a woman has reasonable stability for herself, she's less inclined to look for it in a man. Stability is boring compared to the fun guy willing to burn through his resources with gusto. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 01:30 PM |
| 2 | How to be a Happy Human Being 101I can tell by your writing voice that you're creative, passionate and inspiring. Most people have lost that spark. School and media have conditioned them to be passive consumers, spectators in their own lives. They way for 'the great teacher' to appear to guide them, inspire them. I understand your desire to help others develop their wings and fly higher, to help them transcend the ordinary. The core message of Stephen Covey's 8th Habit was 'Find your voice and help others find theirs'. Without … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 04:11 AM |
| 2 | How to be a Happy Human Being 101bring out the best possible version of my spouse. This, alongside raising children, are my greatest purpose in life. Beautiful, you've inspired me to share more. The following is an excerpt of something I wrote many years ago in an effort to encourage the women I worked with to believe more in their leadership capacity. I called it 'Leadership Gifts', as in looking upon leadership as bestowing various gifts to others... Perhaps you’re waiting for your hero – that shining white knight who’ll ride… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/24 02:42 AM |
| 3 | How to be a Happy Human Being 101Happiness is a combination of three things: enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose. What's missing is contribution to the well-being of others. I learned long ago that I couldn't find much happiness in serving myself. Lifting my wife's spirits is more satisfying than trying to lift my own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/24 07:38 PM |
| 5 | My husband doesn't trust meHis whole demeanor changed. If his general insecurity gradually diminishes along with his 'crisis of doubt' episodes, then you're probably good. However, unresolved issues might keep undermining his trust. This shouldn't be on you to heal or fix him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/24 04:36 PM |
| 19 | My husband doesn't trust meit's very hard to be questioned all the time of my integrity and loyalty. This sounds brutal. Trust between you is foundational. He's inadvertently punishing you for his ex's misdeeds. He probably needs some counseling to get through this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/24 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Goals -- A RPW 2024 beginners guide on how to attain themSometimes people set wimpy goals. A BHAG is an outrageous goal that seems almost laughable. It stands for Big Hairy Audacious Goal. The funny thing is, when you set sights on something big and start moving in that direction, you grow and are often rewarded more than you would be for piddly ambitions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | feeling like a slut and I'm still a virgin, how can I get over it, and does my boyfriend think it too?What's interesting is that the one with the low BC would still be capable of feeling shame. The modern sisterhood looks upon a young woman's modesty, shame and femininity as weaknesses to overcome and be discarded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | 6 years of hard workSo I strive for maximum experience I hope that doesn't conflict with your man's desire for peace. He wants his home to be an oasis, not a romcom action thriller. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/24 06:18 PM |
| 9 | Deal Makers and Deal BreakersInteresting topic. Do guys get a dealbreaker 'ick' the way women do? Women are pickier, having a disqualification paradigm that men must pass to be considered worthy. A woman's 'ick' response is a guy failing to measure up while not being Alpha enough to bypass her critical judgment. Men will reject commitment but less likely an 'ick' response. His 'ick' is about sleeping with her or not, and that bar is low. A woman might feel she failed to measure up, but when a guy has a strong aversion to co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/24 12:38 AM |
| 6 | 6 years of hard workWe love. We fight. Some do this in a quiet way, some are loud and combustive about it. Some prefer as little drama as possible and some need fireworks to feel alive. My wife and I are both calm versus fiery, which makes it easier to get along. When I was young, my relatively stoic parents took us (8 kids) for dinner at some close friends (6 kids). Those parents were both fiery and the drama at dinner was intense. I was shocked and thought they were breaking up right then and there. The kids were… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/24 12:17 PM |
| 22 | Be pleasant + Allow yourself to be led + VET + Look your best + be affectionateI used to be hyper independent As we grow up we make the big transition from dependence to independence. A lot of people peak there, becoming serious and self-reliant. There's another big transition from independence to interdependence. Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Successful People spoke of this transition to winning with others. Interdependence is where teamwork thrives, where strong leadership and follwership create a synergy, where the whole is much greater than the sum of the parts. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Confused about hobbies and vacations that provider high value men likeCongrats on making so much progress. Everything changes when you look at things differently. “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” ~ Marcel Proust Regarding vacations, laying tanked and stuffed on a beach at an all-inclusive resort is not everyone's idea of fun. Those who work hard to make it in life don't suddenly do a 180 on vacation by becoming reckless and hyper-indulgent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 04:51 PM |
| 7 | I'm starting to resent my boyfriendThe best thing she can do for him is to cut him loose so he'll be forced to grow up. Right now he's caught in a man-child limbo with OP supporting his feckless ways. If she tries to hold onto him, they'll both suffer for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Years have gone by and I still think about my high school boyfriendWhen we're younger, all of us tend to have romantic notions and less discernment. When we idealize our love interest, we fall in love with the illusion of them. As a relationship matures, this halo effect wears off and reality sets in. If the relationship ends while the halo still shines, that romantic illusion can remain intact. Your first love is like your first car, awesome at the time but somewhat of a clunker by your current standards. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/24 06:02 AM |
| 2 | How can redpill women be happy?That's a great question to ask in another post. You're bound to get some excellent answers, as the women here are exceptionally bright and helpful. My wife is exceptionally feminine, and it's not really about the way she dresses. When she was young she looked very tradwife with plenty of curls in her hair. She's much more relaxed now, not worried about attention or approval. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 11:00 PM |
| 7 | How can redpill women be happy?But I struggle to accept that women peak at 18-23 and that my partner will continue to be attracted to women this age even when he's 60. Insecurity might be fueling your imagination. Seems you're conflating a guy noticing a young, hottie walking by and feeling a pang of lust, with abandoning all love and loyalty for the woman who has stood by his side. Lust and love are very different. A guy who has found lasting love would be a fool to throw it away for lust. Will you always be attracted to fam… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 09:02 PM |
| 12 | A beautiful article about the joys of learning to followpliability should not be mistaken for weakness. Especially if it brings us joy. That line stuck out for me. Pliability is a distinct quality of feminine grace. It's not rigidly standing strong brandishing a sword and shield bracing for combat; it's the supple bending with the breeze. Same concept as a man being the vessel and woman being the water. She flows into his life to fill it. Unfortunately, everyone wants to be the vessel these days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Bf doesn’t enjoy having sex with me? What am I doing wrong?how-to Any woman on this forum could give a better answer than me. What I can tell you is that my wife's feminine grace still holds me captivated after 40+ years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Feeling down, What is the point of dating a man?isn't that the only thing that seems to matter nowadays? Men are wired to overvalue looks. Like you said, it only matters in the beginning. It's like a hotel room with a great view, doesn't take long for it to be taken for granted. On top of that, every woman is competing on hotness so you can never hold onto that particular crown for long. Find other ways to keep your man devoted. Femininity is enduring beauty, and there's almost no competition in that category because other women will make con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 03:51 AM |
| 4 | Women who haven’t settled and are over 30, how do you feel?I had an inkling you didn't have any role model of what a healthy marriage looks like. Marriages are like teams. The only things you get get by default on a team are chaos, tension and low performance. Anything better than that takes leadership. Here's something I wrote many years ago regarding vision... The creation of a business requires an aspiring vision. What you need is a vision of excellence. The ability to see things as they could be. As you would want them to be. The average person suff… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 12:20 PM |
| 7 | Women who haven’t settled and are over 30, how do you feel?If either was mature enough they would hopefully recognize and address the immaturity of the other and avoid tying the knot. I sat with a couple at my sister's wedding many years ago. They shared their history together and I found it fascinating... They first met when they were athletes competing in different sports on an international level. She competed in equestrian events and he was a speed skier. After a passionate, romantic fling they progressed to meeting up in exotic places for more. The… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 05:57 AM |
| 6 | How to RPW a controlling boyfriendIt’s pretty normal that a girl is going to put up a profile picture that she feels like makes her look pretty. OP does seem normal and her intentions seem innocent enough. Plenty of wackos online though. My daughter spends a lot of time online and she finds it easier to use an avatar that offers no indication of gender. She claims the guys get weird the moment they discover she's not a dude. Is the boyfriend overreacting? His mate guarding does seem a tad excessive. Maybe he's feeling insecure a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 12:55 AM |
| 17 | Women who haven’t settled and are over 30, how do you feel?Having kids put tons more pressure on the parents. All the weaknesses and flaws are exposed. The challenge either makes you grow stronger together or it rips you apart. The burden and sacrifices involved with raising kids will transform the parents. It's a trial by fire, with those first 3 months a 'baby boot camp' involving extreme exhaustion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/24 11:36 PM |
| 0 | Was this inappropriate from fiance or is it in my head?Being devastated isn't bad. It means you're passionate, you love him deeply, you fear losing him, you feel uncertain about the strength of his love for you. The trick is to take that strong emotional energy and channel it in a positive way. What you don't want to do is act destructively or stew on it, letting it replay in your head like a bad movie on an endless loop. Your journey isn't just to feel better, it's to get better. We don't grow laying comfortably on the couch or the beach. We don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/24 01:54 AM |
| 9 | Bf doesn’t enjoy having sex with me? What am I doing wrong?It seems he’s gotten bored of it all The good news: You've had 2 years of relationship experience and have held up your end. The bad news: Your current boyfriend isn't a higher value man and you can't turn him into one. You can nudge a guy on his journey up the mountain and give him your support, but you can't carry him on your back. If he lacks the ambition to climb, he'll soon be dragging you down into a darker place. It's not a matter of you not being sexy enough. Trying to be a sex goddess w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/24 01:42 AM |
| 4 | I dont like dating promiscous menI’ve been wondering what is behind the rhetoric about the age of “the wall” The short answer is male envy. It's schadenfreude, the perverse enjoyment of seeing others suffer what they perceive to be karmic justice. A man's testosterone-fueled sex drive leads him to overvalue youthful beauty in women, stupidly so. When he wakes up to the reality of the sexual market, one of the first things that hits him is the inequity between males and females. Young, beautiful women don't start at the start li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/24 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Was this inappropriate from fiance or is it in my head?A women being vulnerable is endearing to a man and can evoke his heroic white knight response to a damsel in distress. A man being vulnerable in the same way can be repulsive. Damseling doesn't work for dudes. Being vulnerable to your partner indicates trust. He knows you wouldn't act that way around people you don't trust. He will feel proud to be your solid rock and soothing balm to help calm your emotional turbulence (apologies for the mixed metaphors). | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/24 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Was this inappropriate from fiance or is it in my head?planning how I'm going to get back at him Sounds like he really didn't do much, but you want to punish him for your feelings about it? If that becomes a 'habit' you can eventually find yourself sleeping around just to punish him for upsetting you. Emotions aren't truth, they're a primitive action signal to help you respond quickly. What is your jealousy telling you to do? That she's a potential threat, that you need to up your game and make more effort or you could lose him. The problem is that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/24 11:21 PM |
| 4 | I dont like dating promiscous menIntelligent response. Not sure why you would be downvoted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/24 03:39 AM |
| 1 | I dont like dating promiscous menEvery women is picky, but there can be a big difference in selection criteria. Seductive competency is a huge turn on for some women, and it's easy to tell the difference between a man with game and one who lacks it. A woman who takes great pleasure in being seduced by a competent lover isn't suddenly going to appreciate a Steady Eddie with clumsy game. Some women would rather have a sizzling 3 weeks with Chad than a comfortable lifetime with an average guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/24 03:35 AM |
| 2 | 3 Act JourneyI never had an Act 1 It's probably a blessing, you weren't corrupted. Without corruption you don't experience the humbling Act II fall from grace. My wife also avoided both, we grew into our Act III together. once a woman reached her act 3, the wall doesn't bother her. Good point. She wouldn't be so dependent on her fading sexual value to garner a man's attention. I frequently tell my wife that her femininity is enduring beauty. Sure, I have 'wife goggles', but she still gets a lot of appreciati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/24 03:06 AM |
| 12 | I dont like dating promiscous menTRP is about 'how to win' as a man. Unfortunately, some guys confine winning to scoring with women. Many guys will take a selfish approach to winning, and they want to see women lose as much as they want to win for themselves. This isn't the fault of TRP per se. It's just the nature of men laid bare. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/24 03:03 PM |
| 3 | I dont like dating promiscous menYes, men have 2 primary sexual strategies. Sport Fish (Fun Girls) Keepers This is well known. Attractive guys with options can play the game anyway they want, going for quantity with fun girls or quality with a keeper. Lower tier guys will take whatever they can get. I'm not trying to argue with you. I appreciate your choice of avoiding promiscuous guys. Alpha cads can be an 'addiction' just as the fun girls can be. Duty plays a big role in raising a family. Hard to recalibrate for duty when you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 11:59 PM |
| -1 | I dont like dating promiscous menThe biological male agenda is to spread seed. Just as lottery winners gain the opportunity to indulge, attractive men have the opportunity to turn into promiscuous men. I'm not saying A=B here. Men are opportunists when it comes to sex. A strong moral compass, good family values and social expectations can certainly hold them back. Average guys don't have the opportunity to indulge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 11:01 PM |
| 8 | I dont like dating promiscous menYoung guys tend to start off romantic (blue pill). With each partner they can become less so. Some remain relationship-oriented, some engage more in casual relationships and rack up a higher body count. Woman's Agenda: maximum resource access with maximum commitment. Man's Agenda: maximum sexual access with minimal commitment. These agendas are biologically driven to an extent. Younger guys with little experience and many of lower value guys will eagerly acquiesce to a woman's agenda. A guy with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 09:42 PM |
| 8 | i think my bf acts too femininely. opinions on what to doHe's in the blue pill fog. Hard for a woman to persuade a guy to become more manly. Guys tend to be uncurious about relationship stuff, especially once they're in a relationship, believing they already cracked the code. Maybe you could purchase/download a copy of The Way of the Superior Man and work through it together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Realising what kind of a partner I have beenCongrats on making the shift. You're on an exciting new path. Try not to look back and beat yourself up. You didn't know what you didn't know or what excellence looked like. Many are in the same boat. Do you think I should acknowledge this newfound realization to him and express my commitment to respect and honoring him? Only of you want him to cry tears of joy. Yes, it's a great idea. Maybe a dinner out, your treat. You can work together on being better partners and supporting each other's effo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | 3 Act JourneySometimes we need to experience the bad to appreciate the good. People don't appreciate honesty until they're burned by deception. People don't appreciate loyalty until they've been cheated on. People don't appreciate peace until they have lived with intolerable chaos, tension and drama. Maybe you're better off having gone through hard times to appreciate your man. Some women are fickle and don't appreciate what they have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 04:27 PM |
| 6 | Feeling betrayed by RedPillWomen.I mistakenly thought my devotion would be enough to keep him smitten with me forever. Your devotion to him keeps you smitten. His devotion to you keeps him smitten. Does he show devotion to you in non-sexual ways? Do you go on dates and keep the marriage a high priority? You mentioned his low libido. His problem might be low T, mineral depletion and/or depression. If his libido problem was solved, would your unease disappear? ___________________________________________________________________ I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Is it normal to struggle at implementing RPW tools?eroded trust It seems the loss of trust and security could be at the core of your unease. Some people prefer certainty and a lack of it makes them very uneasy. Some people prefer some level of uncertainty to spice things up and will stir up drama just to feel alive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/24 02:56 AM |
| 1 | 3 Act JourneyThat's much better, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/24 12:38 AM |
| 6 | Is it normal to struggle at implementing RPW tools?OP, you're being hard on yourself for a brief lapse. 10 steps forward and 1 back is a pretty good start for a significant change. The good news is you recognized where you stumbled and why. Seems you resorted to a passive-aggressive approach to bring hubby peace. How can you become the peace instead of making it an act for his benefit? What can he do for you to bring you more peace and contentment? Early in our marriages I found myself annoyed when my wife would fish for compliments. It dawned o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 11:46 PM |
| 2 | 3 Act JourneyWe get attention, no matter what. That sums it up. Add in the flood of online validation and there's minimal impetus to change or grow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 11:11 PM |
| 2 | 3 Act JourneyAct II is dark hole, often a consequence of Act I indulgences and not the kind of place to dwell in. I think many woman make it to Act III with or without a man. Better to find a man after being past all that. What's a good name for a woman evolved to her Act III with her femininity intact? 'Sophisticated Lady' came to mind but it sounds a bit cheesy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 09:03 PM |
| 2 | 3 Act JourneyWell said. WILL have to deal with an Act 2 once their beauty and youth start to fade. Act 2 is a wretched place of crisis and addictions. A gradual post-wall humbling probably wouldn't qualify. Though a hard fall, where you can get back up and dust yourself off, might be preferable to a 'slow boiling frog' scenario. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 08:30 PM |
| 3 | 3 Act JourneyThank you for your insightful comment. I've rarely seen a full blown Act 2 unfold. I had a classmate who had everything going for him. He was life of the party and had Brad Pitt good looks. It took 20 years, but he finally imploded due to a cocaine addiction he was sustaining since his school years. He lost his business, house, family. He was back working for someone else, though I don't know to what extent any Act 3 redemption has played out. I've had a few bad hires where the gals turned out t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Do any other new comers feel 'silly'?I am good enough just the way I am Assuming you have a job, would you go into work each day with that attitude? If not, why would you try harder at a job than you would with a life partner? A man understands he has to become more valuable to become worthy of an attractive woman. If he's a traditional man, he understands he has to contribute more to retain a good woman. Flipping that around, a woman understands she has to become more valuable to become worthy of an attractive man. If she's a trad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 01:30 PM |
| 7 | I want kids but am running out of time and trying to accept that it might not happen for meI'm proud of him for finally ending it. He had worked hard to please her, in some ways rewarding her for negative behavior. She became more difficult with time. He's always been attracted to boisterous boss babes, the opposite of his calm demeanor. As intelligent as he is, sometimes a man only learns by fire, or in this case, by living with a fiery woman. It's hard to appreciate traits such as the peace which comes with emotional stability until we've endured the drama, chaos, tension and negati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 02:48 AM |
| 10 | I want kids but am running out of time and trying to accept that it might not happen for mePlenty of lonely hearts these days. One of my sons ended his 5 year marriage after his wife reneged on her promise to have children. Turns out she didn't want to compromise her lifestyle with a child and kept stringing my son along. She had him jumping through hoops to prove he was capable of parenthood and then kept delaying her final decision, claiming she'll be ready 'soon'. After years of stalling, she finally admitted having a child was a hard NO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 01:16 AM |
| 4 | Relationship PrioritizationPriorities can dramatically shift when a child is born. Many of the things that seemed so important become trivial in comparison to the needs of your child. Posh style gives way to practicality. When my brother's wife became pregnant for the first time, I mentioned they'll probably be selling their Porsche soon and buying a minivan. She became aggravated and was adamant they would NEVER sell that Porsche and wouldn't be caught dead in a minivan. Within a year they sold it and bought the minivan. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/24 04:29 AM |
| 5 | Am I red pill?Traditionally, husbands needed to be the hardened ones. The woman could live a softer life (though not easier) at home with the children. With modern conveniences, home life has become far easier, to the point of boredom. The red-pill metaphor is about taking the pill that wakes you up to reality versus the pleasant delusions of the blue-pill matrix. A traditional woman did not require red-pill awareness. Her husband was the one who had to navigate the harsh realities of the outside world. My mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/24 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Am I red pill?Red Pill had a PUA component from the beginning. It didn't come from traditionalism. Understanding the sexual behavior of women and leveraging that knowledge to get them into bed has always been a high priority for many young men. How to become a superior man and how to find and retain a superior woman is another side of the red pill. That's the side I've supported for nearly a decade. My red pill knowledge came from building a successful business in healthcare that primarily employed women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/24 04:33 PM |
| 3 | On the evolutionary origins of the BetaI agree, the top tier men tend to be a mix. I don't see alpha and beta as labels for men but as a set of behaviors and traits that woman find attractive. The woman's penchant for sexual desirability and/or resources determines who gets her attention. Alpha traits evoke sexual desire and beta traits evoke stability and security. Nobody will be pure alpha or pure beta, though a guy lacking seductive competency (game), masculine confidence (frame) and clout (fame) can come across as pure beta as lo… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/24 05:47 PM |
| 1 | should I pick the guy I love or the guy that loves me?Your choice represents the duality of female sexual strategy. Your ex represents Beta Bux and the new guy is more Alpha Fux. Your ex is the better choice on paper, but he doesn't give you any tingles, at least not lately. The new guy is a bigger gamble but the chemistry makes everything more exciting. The choice isn't so much about the men, it's about the woman you'll become by following one of these paths... Party Girl - casual sex, no commitment, maximum fun. Wifey Material - Beta Bux guy, sta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/23 07:09 PM |
| 43 | On the evolutionary origins of the BetaMothers want to protect their children from the world. They fear their children will be harmed. Fathers want to help their children conquer the world. They fear their children won't grow up. Mothers are essential in the early years, where children are very vulnerable and safety is a high priority. Fathers become increasingly essential as the the child grows. A mother will protect her child from any struggle, while a father knows that the struggle is what makes the man. A mother can only take thi… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/23 05:23 AM |
| 4 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?we all fantasize about the rich CEO who whisks us off our feet and takes care of us unconditionally just because he’s soooo masculine That's FrankenChad, the guy who supersedes her checklist, including all the best parts of every guy she has ever met cobbled together. The female's Chad myth emphasizes his superiority in every facet because women want it all. The equivalent myth for men is Chad Thundercock, who oozes raw sexual power and can effortlessly pull any woman he wants. The male's Chad m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 12:16 AM |
| 5 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?Isn't the whole premise of an ALPHA man to provide and protect? Some people frame Alpha-Beta as Alpha Chad and Beta Chump, a winner vs. loser dynamic. With this frame, simp = Beta. I lean towards Rollo's Alpha Cad and Beta Dad, both winners in their respective arenas. Alphas thrive the sexual arena, Betas thrive in the relationship arena. I've also heard it described as Alpha Wolf and Alpha Bear, both atop their food chains. So, going back to OP's question, it's typically the Beta Dads who stick… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 09:03 PM |
| 4 | His mom loves me! But she said he needs a leader…unsure of what to feel.A mother protects her children from the world, while a father helps them conquer it. Another way to say the same thing is how a mother's greatest fear is for the safety of her child, while a father's greatest fear is his child will grow up to be a bum. When a mother hovers too much and too long, she can inadvertently stunt her child's progress. OP's boyfriend sounds like someone who will finally blossom away from his mother. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 05:17 AM |
| 3 | He doesn’t want to have conversation with meYour boyfriend is an 'Expressive' temperament in the Social Style Model. Expressives prefer talking over listening and they are more emotional in nature. Their strength is their ability to influence, tell compelling stories, and they thrive at a party. While everyone else is half-dead by midnight, they're just getting started. A weakness is their strength overdone - they become vain, self-centered drama queens. They want to be the center of attention and will hog the spotlight. If you have a roo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 02:22 AM |
| 0 | Does body count actually matter?It's a sensitive subject to a woman. She can ask a guy if he's a player and he'll probably laugh and take it as a compliment. If he asks any variation that questions her sexual activity, things probably won't go well. A guy is just supposed to be cool with her sexual lifestyle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Does body count actually matter?Many loyal women have a few youthful mulligans Totally agree. There's a big difference between recognizing a mistake and subsequent course correction versus embracing a reckless, hedonistic lifestyle with 'no regrets'. women lie about this stuff regularly. There's the rub. Shouldn't the lying, depending on the frequency and severity, be a bigger dealbreaker than body count? Questions of loyalty and honesty both convert to, "Can I trust you?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 06:41 PM |
| 4 | Does body count actually matter?It's surprising how mundane sex can become and how low standards can drop. A guy's switch turns on easily, so he doesn't even have to like her. A woman's thermostat usually requires some warming up. But if it's a Friday night and she's a little drunk and DTF, almost any guy will do. One of the strategies in pickup is to just hang around until closing. After a night of partying, a woman wants to go home with someone and have casual sex. She'll hook up with whatever guy is left that passes a minim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 05:42 PM |
| 7 | Does body count actually matter?I don't think men value purity as much as they value loyalty. Asking a woman if she'll be loyal is useless. Marriage vows carry a little more gravitas but can still be broken. Past sexual history is an indicator of her capacity for loyalty. A woman who has had a few serious partners with no hookups is deemed more loyal than one who has had no serious partners and many hookups. Her 'penetration number' isn't relevant, it's the sustainability of her previous relationships that reflects her loyalty… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 01:51 PM |
| 8 | Does body count actually matter?dissociated sex from love. Sex alone tends to be cold, hollow and unsatisfying. The lust-sex combo can be intense but all-consuming. The love-sex combo can be blissful and rejuvenating. Hope you can find your way back to a happy place | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 12:41 PM |
| 5 | Does body count actually matter?a rich man would prefer a poor virgin over a rich slut Depends more on how hot those women are. Driven by testosterone, a man's dominant, instinctive preference tends to be a woman's physical beauty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 12:12 PM |
| 11 | Does body count actually matter?I don't have much problem with an adventurous sexual lifestyle. Not my cup of tea, but I don't see participants as radioactive the way some people do. Some people just love the game of seduction. They live for the chase and the kinks. There was a woman on the Whatever podcast a while back who, at 40ish, was still holding hope of finding Mr. Right, settling down and having kids. What she also briefly spoke of was the high she got from being seduced. She found hookups delicious. The incongruency o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 05:47 AM |
| 8 | Does body count actually matter?Woah, I think you're taking it way too seriously. There are some cultures that care about purity, but most guys don't care much unless they want to take you seriously. Even then, they mostly care about your future loyalty. Past promiscuity indicates higher risk of future promiscuity. People want a partner who has a low flight risk. If you choose that lifestyle, that doesn't make you a bad person. Some women with triple digits proudly flaunt it. Some women openly admit they feel suffocated in a m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 03:11 AM |
| 13 | Does body count actually matter?I took sex and relationships seriously A guy looking for a keeper is doing the same. Chances are he's been burned before and he doesn't want to commit to another flighty fun girl who will rip his heart out for the next Chad she runs into. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 02:19 AM |
| 18 | Does body count actually matter?a high body count can signal things What matters to a man is her future loyalty. A woman can be 100% loyal until the day she isn't. Then he's just a branch she holds onto until her grip on the new guy is certain. Any promises of 'ride or die' loyalty won't negate a past history that indicates otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 02:12 AM |
| 6 | Does body count actually matter?The question is about future loyalty, that's what matters. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 01:26 AM |
| 12 | Does body count actually matter?Okay, so what's your body count? I don't want to know, I just wanted to be the first to ask. By the way, men not asking you doesn't mean they don't care about it. Men fall into two primary categories in meeting the needs of women... Alpha Cad - the one she desires Beta Dad - the one she raises children with The strategy for some women is to have fun for a decade with the cads, then find something serious with a reliable guy. Some women never really lose their preference for cads, and even if the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 01:07 AM |
| 10 | Does body count actually matter?Everybody starts off stupid. Hitting the jackpot on the first pull of the handle is unrealistic. Instead of making excuses, you learned from mistakes and moved to a higher level. That's the difference between amateur and pro in a nutshell. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 11:35 PM |
| 5 | Does body count actually matter?Did you enjoy the hookups? Saying you regret those hookups doesn't mean much. Not hooking up in the years since it happened means a lot. Actions speak louder than words. You're wiser and still a good girl it seems. A woman can be into hookups, relationships, or both. A woman who loves partying and hookups can promise to be monogamous from this day forward, but how realistic is it that she'll keep that promise? Monogamy isn't for everyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 11:02 PM |
| 12 | Does body count actually matter?People who ask are insecure. This is the standard response from a woman who has crossed the line on promiscuity. Not saying you have. People who ask are foolish. The question is like a grenade, no good can come from it. She might lie, she'll probably be angry. The relationship may never recover. There are better ways of vetting a woman than asking, "How many dudes have you f_cked?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 10:08 PM |
| 20 | Does body count actually matter?It's just a preference. Same with a broke gal preferring a wealthy man. People don't have to bring the exact same value to the table. Complimentary contributions can be more useful than identical. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 09:49 PM |
| 5 | What’s a good body count at almost 30?At age 28, having 3 previous sexual partners is a low number. By itself, it doesn't tell much of a story. A LTR is less problematic than hookups. 500 of the same D isn't the same as 500 different D's. Being good at sustaining a relationship is a sign of maturity (high Relationship Value). Being 'good' at hookups is a sign of recklessness and addictive behavior. Modern society glorifies Sexual Value and underappreciates Relationship Value. A woman can feel more powerful by parading her sexuality … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | "If he wanted to, he would"I hope that he notices Men don't notice the little things as much, but he'll feel the difference. Instead of chaos, tension and drama he'll feel the peace of the oasis you're giving him. He'll never want to leave that, he'll never want to leave you. Men are biologically drawn to a youthful, attractive, sexualized woman. Blinded by hotness, they don't realize the value of kindness, loyalty, respect and peace until they've suffered a woman who not only lacks those things, she brings the opposite t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 06:09 PM |
| 1 | "If he wanted to, he would"A successful man often pairs up with an attractive, high-maintenance woman who demands much of his attention and resources. His hot princess can turn out to be an ogre in disguise, or someone whose loyalty ends when she meets another man with a better lifestyle and a bigger pile of gold. Successful men spent their time becoming successful and can be a shockingly poor judge of women. Hopefully, at some point a man learns what a good woman looks like and can fully appreciate her for her femininity… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/23 11:41 AM |
| 6 | "If he wanted to, he would"In this situation, he's putting his child first. While it's understandable, it's similar to single moms who will always put their children first. It's an extra burden upon the relationship and an extra barrier between OP and her man. Two opposing ways to look at it... Juice not worth the squeeze. Too much effort for too little reward. He won't be capable of giving much attention for the near future. This is short-sighted, especially if he's high-value. Prove your loyalty. The guy has been devast… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/23 12:38 PM |
| 11 | We keep arguing over the smallest and stupidest thingsPeople are always going to have fights on little things The good news is that OP and her man are stuck at the same level of pettiness and can grow together with a little assistance. Seems silly that a chocolate bar could destroy them. Hopefully they can soon look back and laugh about it. The married life is going to be a constant stream of problems and challenges. When you finally conquer a Level 3 problem, the universe gives you a Level 4. It never ends. One thing I'm sure of is that struggling… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/23 02:50 AM |
| 1 | I miss him TOO much💔 how to stop?It's far better that the woman loves more. When the man loves more, he puts her up on a pedestal and serves his queen. A woman doesn't respect and admire a man who puts himself below her and plays the dutiful, submissive servant. When he props her up as his queen, he becomes her peasant, her fawning simp. A man deeply in love makes a woman his mission. Squandering all his ambition and potential on romance is not good for either person. Throughout my marriage of 40+ years, there's no question my … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 11:38 PM |
| 1 | I miss him TOO much💔 how to stop?I feel like I'm losing. Wow, is this a contest to show who cares the least? You're keeping things alive with your messages and calling. The only way he wouldn't appreciate you is if he found someone else, and that's less likely to happen when you're staying in touch. My wife kept our relationship alive when I was really busy in our first few years. What to do to make him miss me? Good question. Make your reunions spicy and adventurous. Get him to plan something or at least choose amongst a few o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone here saved themselves for marriage as a RPW? How did that work/not work for you whilst dating?It's your choice. Outside of religious and beta dudes, lack of sex is probably a dealbreaker these days. Waiting until the wedding night seems like a huge risk. Imagine waiting for a few years in a monogamous relationship only to discover the sex is underwhelming. The only scenario I can see it working is a whirlwind romance leading to marriage within 3 months. Hope it works out for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 06:54 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone here saved themselves for marriage as a RPW? How did that work/not work for you whilst dating?Valid question. That's what RPW is all about, helping women navigate the corruptive forces of our modern world and heal their femininity. Perhaps you could do a little research and then frame your question within a new post, along with your concerns of what traditional means. Plenty of smart women here eager to help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 06:09 AM |
| 4 | Has anyone here saved themselves for marriage as a RPW? How did that work/not work for you whilst dating?I'm not sure withholding sex until marriage is the right move at this point. Once you're no longer the 'unbitten fruit', your value isn't preserved by waiting until marriage. Being coquettish can attract some men and hold their fascination. Slowly build and sustain the sexual tension can drive a man wild with anticipation. Here's an explanation from The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene... The Coquette is a master of flirtation and inciting jealousy. They keep the chase alive by remaining elusiv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 05:04 AM |
| 2 | He hasn't hugged me or kissed me outside the sexual encounters after 2 months of dating"The dog cuddler" - that made me laugh. He already had the dog, and your place in his heart was clearly lower than the dog's, whether he would ever admit it or not. My wife and I were married 2 years before we got a dog. It's funny, once our first son was born, I became the dog-level priority. No complaints though, babies need their mothers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/23 03:52 PM |
| 5 | He hasn't hugged me or kissed me outside the sexual encounters after 2 months of datingstarted cuddling the dog I can relate. My wife and I bought a dog early in out marriage. She did most of the work but the dog was clearly loyal to me. I gave him plenty of pats and belly rubs. My wife felt hurt, the dog was getting the attention she wanted. She was right. I liked the dog but I loved her. We sold the dog within a year to another family and never bought another one. Regarding OP's concern, the man seems to be inattentive, which is very common with men. The average person only pays… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/23 03:26 PM |
| 6 | Dating Red Flagshe will only pay for the date if he thinks I'm worth it. Worth it, as in worth the effort and cost? While there's nothing wrong with being pragmatic about dating, there's something off-putting about his statement. He's implying she has to be beautiful enough for him to simp for, or sexual enough that he gets his money's worth. His statement is transactional and lacks any romantic appeal. My gut tells me he's trying to say, "I ain't no simp." Why would anyone spend time with someone they're not i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/23 11:25 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend comes from a wealthy family and now I don’t know what to get him for ChristmasAn older colleague's wife had severe MS and was wheelchair bound. The one thing she could do was craftwork with her hands. She made a few decorated hangers for me some 30+ years ago. Even though her and her husband are long gone from this world, I still think of them fondly whenever I touch those hangers. Something made with love, generosity and kindness can be cherished for a lifetime. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/23 01:38 PM |
| 2 | How do you not lose yourself in a relationship?'Losing yourself in a relationship' is how women are wired. A man is a vessel and a woman is the water. By losing herself, she flows into his world to become a perfect fit. A few challenges with this... Is he a worthy vessel? You're giving your best to a man. If he's not willing or able to reciprocate, if he's not lifted higher by your support, then you could be wasting your best years in something that has a limited future. Is she polluted? Has she wasted years partying and rotating partners to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 08:58 PM |
| 1 | She doesn't work because she wants to concentrate on her feminity. But her husband's income is not enough for two people ???What makes your wife so feminine? Her natural state is feminine. She was feminine from the first moment I met her. You accurately described it as 'bringing joy and love to the life of others'. I help her replenish that energy. All it takes is cherishing her with hugs and appreciation. Some women say they'll be feminine for the right man, and it's true to an extent. But how long will that femininity last if a woman's resting state is devoid of femininity? Conditionally feminine means a guy will h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/23 01:37 PM |
| 6 | She doesn't work because she wants to concentrate on her feminity. But her husband's income is not enough for two people ???lives the "feminine" lifestyle This is a bubble in need of bursting. Femininity is a way of behaving irrespective of lifestyle and work ethic. This idea of relaxing into a pampered lifestyle on Hubby's dime sounds like 'soft girl era' crap, not femininity. It's not just an acting role in order to more effectively milk a man's wallet. When I first met my wife, the most feminine woman I had ever encountered, she was working 3 jobs to help her family and pay for a Florida condo she had recently bou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/23 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Was told I'm a lady!Disagree and commit I remember reading about such an approach in a book about General Colin Powell. In the 'arena of debate' you're encouraged to disagree passionately. Once a decision has been made, you fully commit to it whether it was your preference or not. Unfortunately, he was trapped by his own rule when he served as Secretary of State under Bush. His good name was used to push a dark agenda. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Signs he’s a good leaderRecently I was thinking about how a woman's femininity and support can be wasted on a weak man. Instead of rising to higher levels, he slacks off. The same thing happens with leadership, where a weak follower just rides the leader's coattails. I can tell you two make a great team, with his strong leadership and your strong followership. I'll bet you also sometimes take the reins and he provides solid followership to your lead. It's not about power or position, it's about loving contribution from… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/23 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Signs he’s a good leaderWell said. Were you thinking about the way your good husband leads as you wrote this? A lot of people don't have a strong model of healthy leadership to understand what it looks like. That's why they're so easily fooled by bad boys with Dark Triad traits. The difference between leadership and manipulation is selfish intent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 10:08 PM |
| 10 | Should Women Defend their Men from Feminists who Call them Misogynists for wanting Traditional Wives?There are consequences when things are taken too far. A tradwife can enable slob behavior in a husband. I've seen manbabies who act like helpless boys and entitled princes. Support isn't supposed to turn into a crutch or a cushion, but it happens. You want to both be moving towards a higher plateau. A man can become a magnificent engine of success. When he has been gifted by the support of a good woman, the last thing he should do is limp along on 2 cylinders just because he can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break upI feel like I am being abused for that. Her phrasing was a red flag for me. Being critical of one thing is now abuse? I would tap out the moment a woman made an accusatory statement like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Being feminine in a crisisHe hasn’t worked during this time... He has expensive tastes and wants beef or fish in every meal... Seems you have a teenager on your hands, not a man, not a partner. It's a tragedy to squander your feminine gifts on someone incapable of reciprocating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 01:52 AM |
| 8 | Help with disconnected husband.him working long 13-15hr days Your primary attention is on the baby, as it should be. His quality of life sucks right now. Welcome to being an adult. Here's the joke I tell my kids: "If I work really hard, one day I might enjoy the pampered quality of life you kids have." Funny because it's true. Helping to raise 5 kids, my dark take was looking at parenthood as 20 years of imprisonment. Not a healthy perspective. I would shake it off and remember that my family was my purpose and motivation. Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Confidence for the Single RPWdignified, classy confidence we see in those women we all admire. Thanks for clarifying. You're describing 'elegance', the graceful approach of feminine charm. Poised irrespective of posh. There's an epidemic of hyper-confident women these days. Swaggering, shameless boors. Glad you weren't leaning in that direction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/23 06:03 PM |
| 0 | Confidence for the Single RPWmen like confidence Women find confidence an extremely attractive quality in a man. It probably doesn't mean nearly as much for most men. When I first started working as a professional, I realized I had a significant gap in my ability to build trust. I didn't project myself as a capable professional. So, I worked at projecting these 3 things... Confident Tone - assuredness I knew what I was doing Caring Tone - understanding their comfort and needs Respectful Tone - honoring them, not myself The … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/23 04:20 PM |
| 7 | How to increase my chances of getting asked out by a man?work on your girl game. It's easy for women to increase attention by juicing up the bait in their thirst trap, hypersexualizing their appearance and behavior. It's the shortcut to a getting a man's attention. Unfortunately, it's not just ineffective for keeping him interested beyond sex, it's likely to be counter-productive. When a woman overemphasizes the desire component and neglects other attraction factors that constitute girl game, she's going to put herself squarely in the 'fun girl' categ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/23 03:40 PM |
| 4 | Is there such thing as too much sex?Men can suffer from mineral depletion of magnesium, zinc, selenium. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 01:52 PM |
| 8 | Why does submitting make me love him more ?she could relax and not worry I asked my wife about her femininity and the word submission. She didn't see it at submission at all, she saw it as relaxing and letting go of any need to be strong, vigilant and in control. That being said, she is naturally feminine and submissive. I don't have to assert dominance to elicit that quality in her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Restarting my life to save my marriagedropped anchor in this emotional state. That's a great way of putting it. Holding onto the hurt to justify hostility. Cry-bullies are everywhere these days. When running a business that mostly employed women, I learned about something called the Drama Triangle. Being the 'Victim' is addictive. They appear weak but are very powerful in a destructive way. A single person capable of poisoning the culture of an entire business (or family) and destroying the reputation of the deemed 'Persecutor'. The… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 02:39 PM |
| 6 | Restarting my life to save my marriageOnce you become a cake eater, or 'fun wine aunt' as you described, it's hard to pull back from hedonism into a life of duty and devotion. Sounds like you put your family through a lot. Glad to hear you're making up for those lost years. It’s been a little scary how wrong I’ve been. What are some of the things you now see differently? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/23 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Serious mommy issuesThen I started focusing on how I wanted a man to treat me. Lot's of women do this. They know what they want and demand it. learned how to treat a man, to become the type of woman that a good man would want to marry. Few women do this. So many people hang onto their adversity stories and never escape their past. They use those stories as long-winded excuses, a means to alleviate themselves of all responsibility for their current reality. Overcoming adversity is hard, telling stories is easy. Cong… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 02:47 PM |
| 20 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.Terrific comment, so many deep insights. I especially liked the part about rapport talkers versus report talkers. In conversations, men tend to play competitive basketball - they drive towards a specific point, sharing the ball with those who agree and fighting for the ball with those who oppose. Women tend to play a game of social tennis where they pat the ball back and forth, paying minimal attention to points and perpetually keeping the ball in play rather than trying to win. my husband seeme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 03:48 PM |
| 56 | Regarding Body Count and not being a VirginI’d be seen as used and damaged. Your current behavior is most important. If you present as someone who is 'used and damaged', that's a problem. What does 'used' look like? The more a woman mimics a bad boy or a player, the more 'mileage' she'll appear to have. Same goes for hyper-sexualizing one's appearance. Guys are attracted to brazen sexuality, but won't consider a woman who plays that game for anything beyond the F**k Zone. Mia Khalifa self-owned by claiming men are 'easy' because she coul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/23 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Feeling vulnerable might delete laternot an attraction killer when a woman is doing it. Like you said, it's an attraction killer when a man damsels. When a woman damsels, a man is compelled to rescue, it activates his hero mode. Vulnerability is a strength for her, a weakness for him. This asymmetry of attraction trips up a lot of woman. They're shocked to discover their wealth, muscles, swagger, bad boy mimicry and high BC doesn't appeal to a HVM. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/23 02:42 PM |
| 5 | Do you ever feel bad about using red pill tactics?Well said. What you're describing is 'strategy', a broadly-encompassing plan/approach. OP's use of the word 'tactic' is revealing. It represents 'maneuvers in the moment' to gain advantage. Without a wholesome strategy in play, exploitative tactics will become the norm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/23 01:56 PM |
| 6 | The “girlfriend effect”A woman wants to spruce up her man so she can show him off. However, she also doesn't want him poached by another woman. Whenever I let my wife choose my look, it would end up being 'king of dorks' with sweaters and stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 07:19 PM |
| 3 | CheatingCould Cheat: Is it possible for an attractive woman to cheat? Of course, in a heartbeat. Doesn't mean she will. Same applies to a HVM. Here's a young mother answering that question truthfully. Would Cheat: This is more a question of character and impulse control. For some the threshold of temptation is low, they're not the loyal, monogamous type. In the struggle between stability and stimulation, many woman can't tolerate stability. They'll be bored to death in a stable relationship. Can Cheat: … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Maintaining respect in marriage/ltrchoosing to accept this behaviour and move on from any resentment it caused There's a concept of feeding the behavior you want and starving the behavior you don't want. For me, that applies to people as well. I don't give time and attention to people who have revealed themselves to be predatory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/23 02:54 PM |
| 68 | “I’m different, I would never, trust me”I was 3 weeks away from proposing Did he steal a good woman from you? Or did he expose her as questionable wifey material? I think you know the answer. You were ready to wife up someone capable of that level of betrayal. That dude is a mentor on your hero's journey, slapping you with hard lessons you didn't ask for. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/10/23 04:33 AM |
| 15 | Update: I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my familyOf course he loves you, just not in the same way you love him. For him, actions speak loudest. Cooking his favorite meal and staying up to eat with him melted whatever coldness he had felt earlier. Keep making your marriage a high priority like that and you'll find you can weather almost any storm together. By the way, you're not stupid, you're learning. The ones who think they have it all figured out are the ones stuck in their ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/23 10:27 PM |
| 8 | Giving boyfriend your card under the table so it looks like he’s the one payingIf my wife handed me her card under the table, I'd laugh. My wife does it all the time. She wants the points on her card and she likes the idea of me paying and deciding upon the tip. I would rather she paid directly so I can declare she's my 'sugar momma' for the laughs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/23 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Had 8 year long redpill relationship with highschool sweetheart. Maintained frame like a boss until I didn't. Would like to know your thoughts.She's still wanting to be in the relationship when I suggested a breakup You gave her a new challenge because you were the one who brought it up. If you did the opposite by remaining clingy, she would be the one discarding you. Women want what they can't easily have, not what is given to them. There's also a push-pull dynamic where they chase when you pull away and pull away when you chase. It's a mistake to just build comfort and security. You want to trigger a broader range of emotions by alte… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/10/23 04:47 PM |
| 3 | how to respond and tell him i don’t want to see him anymorei’m done with unreliable men Women will keep saying they don't want bad boys, but will keep going back for more. Rules are made for betas, while an alpha ignores them and gets what he wants. Seems this guy wasn't alpha enough to get away with breaking your rules. Fair enough, though it seems you're punishing him for the sins of other men. it’s easy to get roped into the whole push and pull dynamic Men don't really want to play push-pull games, but women crave emotional stimulation to get that ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Online Dating Past The WallPookie might be reckless, irresponsible and unreliable, but not Chad. Here's a post on Bad Boy Traits I made almost 10 years ago. How time flies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 07:44 PM |
| 10 | I need to fix my marriage, I don’t want to lose my family.Years ago some friends of mine had their first child. A few weeks after the birth, I dropped by at lunch to say hello. The mom was frantic. She had help for the first 2 weeks from her mom and MIL, but now she was on her own and struggling. She held her daughter in her arms but she wouldn't fall sleep. She was jiggling the baby and almost in tears. She was in investment banking and had never failed at anything in her life, but told me she felt like a fish out of water at being a mother. I asked t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 03:08 AM |
| 21 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!I have NEVER seen an extremely wealthy person regularly eating fast food/junk food. Temperance is something the wealthy practice. They don't live an all-inclusive vacation lifestyle of hyper-indulgence. They avoid self-destructing the way lottery winners do. They could indulge in anything they wanted, but rarely do. Do you find the wives hyper-competitive? My wife noticed that at private schooling, the mothers competing over their children (Parental Olympics) properties, vacations, even art coll… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 11:23 PM |
| 3 | What could a childless-homemaker wife offer a man over a working wife?Both can end up giving the best of themselves to work and the leftover scraps of energy and attention to each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 04:28 PM |
| 2 | He said he likes that I'm soft, and it made me feel uncomfortable and scared (?)Why does a woman seek control? It's security she seeks, and the control path is one way to obtain it. Unfortunately, over time there tends to be an escalation of control in order to achieve the same sense of security. Another way to gain security is the feminine path, surrendering to a feminine nature and trusting in the security a man offers. This surrendering and relying on someone else are deemed unacceptable to a modern women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 12:34 PM |
| 6 | Online Dating Past The WallIntellectually, the noble, supportive beta seems so right, a terrific guy by any measure. Emotionally, the spark isn't there. The bad boy is wrong in so many ways, but feels so right. The mix you described has also been called an 'Alpha Bear' family man, as opposed to an 'Alpha Wolf' player. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/23 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Online Dating Past The WallThe more sexual active a woman becomes, the more her DESIRE can become a dominant attraction factor. If a guy doesn't give her the butterflies (vagina tingles), then it's not going to happen. If the tingles wear off, it's over. Desire doesn't last, it's not meant to. As you said, a woman will get with a guy for reasons other than desire, such as provision, protection and companionship. From that, love can grow. The desire-based relationships don't often make the transition to a love-based one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/23 05:55 PM |
| 8 | Online Dating Past The WallHe was a perfect gentleman; I just wasn't attracted to him. Not a coincidence. Perfect gentlemen can come across as soft, tame, predictable. They dote, attending to her frame, looking to please. They'll come across as Provider Guy, not Lover material. Bad Boy behavior is hot, Good Guy behavior is boring. That Bad Boy lifestyle is a roller-coaster of excitement, while the steady positive force of the Good Guy is comforting, but dull. Bad Boy behavior indicates power and higher status. When a guy … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/23 02:30 PM |
| 6 | Stressed out stay at home mom needing marriage advicereducing your expectations Some parents really go all out trying to have things perfect for their kids. The thing is, the kids don't care about perfection and those little whirling dervishes are agents of pure destruction. When we brought oldest home for the first time, we didn't have a cradle, bassinet or anything fancy. We used a sock drawer as his bed for the first week. My wife has always had this 'we'll cross that bridge when we get to it' approach of going with the flow. One thing I learne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/23 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Mamma's BoysMomma's boy with his mother can be a normal, healthy thing. It could also foreshadow problems to come... Will you have to compete with his mother for his affection? Will she refuse to let go and try to sabotage your relationship? Does he have a maturity gap where he still acts like a boy? Will he try to recreate a 'momma's boy' dynamic with you? A parent-child power dynamic is unbalanced, as with master-servant, teacher-student and boss-employee. It can be momma's boy or daddy's girl. Of the two… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 03:00 PM |
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