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TLDR. If you haven't figured it out at this point, I'd suggest not getting married. Doesn't mean you can't date.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 06:24 AM
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Grow some balls. Move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 05:05 PM
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Yes. Happier.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:54 PM
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I feel like there is a lot of story you are leaving out. I want to give you the benefit of the doubt. Have you been a SAHD since your kids were born? Why did you move out? Seems like an absolute insane play to abandon a home and children after playing the role of homemaker. Unless there was a settlement or domestic order, I don't see how she could legally force you out. My knee jerk reaction is that you suffer from a history of depression and your wife, as the breadwinner, felt like a single par…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 09:14 PM
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Nope, fuck that. I don't need the extra bullshit. Honestly, I'm afraid to go through the dance all over again. However, my cock will probably reduce the blood flow to my brain for long enough to fall head over heels again at some point.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 05:18 AM
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Move on dude. Didn't make it to the end of your tale, but I read enough. You don't need this. You'd be surprised what lengths people will go to when it comes to lying to their spouses.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 05:13 AM
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My wife and I are filing uncontested without lawyers. Still worried what the judge might pull. No kids, thankfully.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 11:13 PM
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Going through divorce currently. I seem to be her "pet." If something is not going on with her "squad," I'm providing the entertainment.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 02:10 PM
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Move back in hoss. You are a part owner. Keep it non-physical. If she assaults you call the police to have it on record at the very least.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 03:00 PM
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Good luck man, time to move on. Don't get sucked up in everyone's theories, they don't know your personal situation. Filing this month myself.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 03:13 PM
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Just move on. You're not wanted. Don't waste your time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 03:28 PM
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Yes, I realize it could be dangerous to indulge in such activities. We are amicable. I'm still drawn to her is why I use them as a tool to remind myself. It's not a regular review. Thank you for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 06:50 PM
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You're in a tough spot. How is she eligible for work and you are not? Did she obtain employment prior to relocating with a work visa and you followed? That sucks man.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 06:08 PM
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Not into my 40s yet, but I hear you. On my way out and I believe my wife is panicking at the idea that I am prioritizing myself and more than aware that I'm out of her league at this point. Trying to play nice. She's not all bad, but she did a lot of damage to me.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 04:02 PM
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For the kids then. Nice play on the donuts.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 01:02 PM
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If you're not bullshitting yourself, poney up. There is plenty of dirt in the financial world, but I wouldn't bet on a CPA getting in the dirt for something like this. Assuming this opposing crew was not made up of CPAs, whatever public accounting firm you hire should be able to do the cleanup. Most people have never taken the time to understand their paystub. A good CPA has backed his/her's out down to the penny. Keep in mind, not all CPAs are bright. Many won't even touch a 1040.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:21 AM
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You can never truly know someone. Based on your text she sounds like she is desperate for an outcome that she cannot have. She wants her cake and to eat it too. Perhaps she has rationalized her actions, maybe not; she just doesn't care. I wouldn't try to interpret anything she says; potentially just attempts at manipulation. Either way, her behavior is unacceptable and she is not trustworthy. Do not give her an inch. Do not even give her a fraction. Protect yourself and all those around you that…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 02:08 AM
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Interesting history lesson regarding uses like health insurance in the past. I figured the same regarding your first comments, but for those emotionally still attached; like my wife...
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 02:00 AM
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Are you a CPA? Guessing not. Tax benefits are circumstantial for married couples. For many dual income couples there is virtually no benefit. I filled out 3 1040s this year prior to divorce. We pay more jointly, however I should note it is only a few dollars more.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 09:14 PM
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Lol what. I'm not saying it can work, but you threw so many flags on this that I'd say you have to bail. We don't know your full situation, but it seems like you really got lit up and chose to show some restraint during the whole process. Best of luck to you, but based on what you've described I would run. Most of us probably romanticize the past, but that's what it is - the past. You can still have a relationship with your children, unless you really got burned through all of this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 05:39 PM
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Some of this thread is diving more into the "echo chamber/mob/fuck women" territory. It's okay to be upset and consider the more devious common behaviors of the opposite sex, but come on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 02:25 PM
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Those last three wants in your last sentence; they're all innocent wants, but they're not a reason to run away from a wife and child. Travel and starting a business are also going to clash with one another. Starting a business is a full-time job, involves a lot of risk, and capital. What business are you going into? What is your plan? How are you going to find time to travel? I don't know you, but your text throws red flag after red flag to me. Part of my career involved verifying the viability …
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 02:20 PM
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She's getting child support if he leaves for sho. He busted his nut and married up. He signed in blood.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:50 AM
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Dang man. Sounds like a lot of highs and lows. You really dove into that coochie. I don't known your full story, but are I question that you're really being honest with yourself and her actions. I'm not implying you are the party at fault, but I worry you're just bored and chasing hedonistic desires. Have the two of you tried practicing sobriety at all or indulged in counseling? Are you free from infidelity? Best of luck. ***Edit - I read your post again. I think you could really benefit from se…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:39 AM
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Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 04:05 PM
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Life is a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 04:05 PM
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BJ every Friday? I'm thinking every night. Need that shit in writing lol. In all seriousness, probably time to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 04:04 PM
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Ditto. Some people are just too petty to realize why someone would do this. I plan to help my wife move out.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 06:47 PM
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Did you ask her to elaborate? "Dumped him because of a podcast" really has me wondering. I'm not saying people don't have light bulbs go off when listening to media, but I'd personally be sending a "hold up" for a breather before nuking something that is working out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 10:33 PM
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I miss who I thought she was, but I have my doubts she ever existed. At one point I thought she was the only thing right in my life. Everything else was a shit show. I believe we were both lonely when we met and used one another as a source of comfort like a drug. She was honestly "too easy going" for me at the start. I was afraid of the fact that she was game to do anything. And I'm not referring to sexually. Just in general. She made "the days move easy" - Dawes, "If I Wanted Someone"
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 02:22 PM
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So, I agree with you to a point. And I do sympathize with the "right" to an extent, but from my perspective both sides are bat shit crazy in the media. You really have to be careful talking about this stuff with anyone these days. There is so much disinformation on both sides and hive mentality. Conspiracies by definition are not "false," but there is some wild shit out there...and sometimes it ends up being true, but I'd say often not. Anyone who can't acknowledge that there is vast amounts of …
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 02:09 PM
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It's going to be HUGE.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 01:58 PM
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Glad to hear you've found some internal reconciliation and were strong enough to not be pulled back in. Especially with kids. That had to exponentially make your wife's offering difficult. I believe familiarity keeps many couples together even if the relationship is permanently tainted.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 02:41 PM
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That's fucked. Was your divorce itself also very combative?
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 02:02 PM
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I think kids are the key factor here. I'm not saying there are not other situations, but it seems unlikely otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 02:01 PM
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I also feel betrayed. You never can really know someone. Fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 01:12 AM
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We'll have to see what life throws at me. No expectations other than being free of her at this point. Looking forward to providing for myself, entertaining the advances of other women, and not having to take responsibility for her actions.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 11:01 PM
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You have a pet. That's a plus. I might lose some pets in the divorce. Not sure how I feel about that. My one furry friend is an absolute basket case.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:45 PM
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My wife definitely married up and then let herself go. I never felt like I settled when we married, but if I stick around I'd have something else to say.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:36 PM
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Exercise. Lift heavy things. Run far distances. Work on you. Exercise also provides a great dopamine hit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:27 PM
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There are a lot of guys who are loose with money as well. While I think stereotypes are often represented by fair generalizations, I don't know about this one. You also have to consider that if this statement is directionally accurate, it could be justified in a single income household with children; father earns, while mother is at home for chores & shopping. We're obviously wired differently and still animals...a lot of people like to forget that when talking about equality. They also like to …
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 10:22 PM
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Had you bring her home dinner and everything on top of you going through this 6-month plan. Brutal. Sometimes I wish my wife left me, but I'm the one pulling the trigger on my end. Chin up. And in the meanwhile, keep working on being your best self.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 09:29 PM
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Sounds like you got it all figured out! Probably didn't even get divorced!
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 07:17 PM
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Have you tried the more "adult" and "subscription based" dating apps? Being a sole provider with kids is definitely going to complicate things, so I'd recommend going through venues explicitly for those seeking similar partners. My buddy was on one of the big dating services (e.g., eHarmony) and he knocked it out of the park. He's the type of guy I'd take a bullet for and had some complications dating based on his job and where he lived. Seems like he found a real dime and I had the privilege of…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 04:05 PM
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General. Bar tabs, subscription fees, Amazon, etc. Something could be hidden in there. Some odd ones.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 06:29 AM
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Shit son, glad you got out. Only up from here.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 02:24 AM
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Waiting for my spouse to pull the same shit. Open her legs and tell me she loves me. It's fucking maddening.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 12:44 AM
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Early on in our relationship my wife seemed to be opened to indulging in swinging, but I decided I wasn't interested if she wasn't genuinely interested. You mention similarities, I'm sure we all share many; even if they are not articulated. I believe she is in denial that I will leave her, which makes things a bit difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:04 AM
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She really was a dime when it was good. Things went south and we never recovered. Things just got worse and worse. Given where we are now I've started to have doubts about the past and what her intent was, but it's really hard to say. I'm partly to blame for sure. She may not even fully understand herself and the trajectory either. She is currently on medication which has me speculating a lot of things. Ultimately I've given up. I'd be careful on what you read here. This is in the "extreme" terr…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:11 PM
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Filing separately while you are married generally puts you at a disadvantage. Her lower income will bring you closer to lower tax brackets. If you are amicable enough, I'd recommend it. Please keep in mind, tax returns are just trueing up what you already paid out throughout the year via payroll and/or quarterly payments. So when you receive a refund, you overpaid throughout the year. When you have money due, you underpaid. Most people don't realize this. You didn't list a lot of specifics, but …
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 06:11 PM
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You sure about that Clark?
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 09:49 PM
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I thought marrying my now wife would show I was committed and smooth over some more recent fires. It was in the plan prior to said fires, but holy shit; things just kept getting worse. If anything, I handed her a gun.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 09:48 PM
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Preach
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 09:46 PM
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The idea of cheating immediately prior, to an event which is supposed to publicly acknowledge an existing commitment to another, seems a bit off to me. You are breaking/spoiling that commitment in my eyes. Everyone is wired differently, but I can't imagine wanting to get married if I felt the need to be promiscuous before my wedding night. It's not an uncommon topic however and I believe there are a lot of cultures that currently or in the past viewed it as ritualistic for men to sleep with othe…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 04:42 PM
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You can lose a half pound a day with heavy exercise and fasting. Not recommended though. Lost my first 10 lbs religiously fasting until 2 PM (10 PM cutoff) and exercising earlier on in the day. Congrats on the bone either way.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 09:15 PM
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I'm going to chalk most of this up to losing weight, increased arousal with a new mate, and confidence. Not all erections are created equal.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 05:35 PM
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I see you implied in the comments that you are clinically depressed. Go seek help. Do not submit yourself to being unhappy. It's not just about attracting a mate. You should take care of yourself. Yes, working out is not all fun & games; it involves a struggle. Consider the fact that the act of living involves struggling, whether or not you work out. Exercise also provides as dopamine kick. 100 lbs is a lot of weight and as you age, that weight is likely going to bite back. Ultimately, you have …
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 08:32 PM
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Thank you for this. This perspective is really powerful.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 04:57 AM
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Thank you for the advice. You are correct that I am all of what you describe (i.e., hurt, scared, mad, partially in love). The legal system absolutely scares the shit out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 11:06 PM
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I'm sober. I'm running. I'm lifting weights. I am focusing my anger and frustration in productive lanes. I think you have misread me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 06:37 PM
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I'm not defaulting to this. Yes, if you look at your quoted line on its own, it reads like an article headline spelling blood. Are you zeroing in on this one sentence without an appreciation for a full read?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 06:35 PM
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I didn't mean to imply that is my "go-to." I am ready to do this amicably, but if she starts kicking dirt in my face; I'm not going to take it. I am willing to compromise to an extent.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 02:01 PM
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No children thankfully, but I find it hard to believe a judge and an opposing attorney would allow her to play "fair," even if she vocalized the desire. I am ready for scars.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:37 AM
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We will see. Hope for the best. Prepare for the worst. She still holds a place in my heart, despite being wounded; however, I have never felt so publicly ripped apart.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:33 AM
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God speed
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:29 AM
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Glamor shots going out to you and the boys? This bitch is crazy. She may be trying to fill a void with sex and attention. Maybe a mental health issue? I'd limit interaction as much as you can, while keeping your kids. You might have grounds for something if her promiscuity affects the children.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 03:34 PM
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Purchased post-marriage, however I saved bank statements showing balances prior to and after marriage, as well as when she was put on the account.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 07:10 PM
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I think I fucked up initially while dating and then felt like I was being emotionally blackmailed prior to marriage. ...And then I got married.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 04:54 AM
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XD
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 04:40 AM
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LOL. Fuck man. What a fucking riot. I'm sure it's much more common than perceived. I'm married, but I sometimes roll with more "religious" crowds which seem to be filled with women on the hunt for a male.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 09:25 PM
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Religion is often weaponized. I will say my strongest friends and family have strong "faith," but I've also seen many "of the faith" who fall on the other end. I also have a lot of great people in my life that are not "religious." In my personal life, I try not to think about religion. I am of the mindset that morality can exist without "it" and that "it" is represented by foundations we cannot prove or wholeheartedly deny.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 09:22 PM
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Don't do anything dumb. Message me if you want. You have some things to be happy for that not everyone has: You are not shooting blanks and are about to become a father. You know someone doesn't love you "that way" anymore. You don't have to worry about making that decision, they did it for you. There are plenty of beautiful & interesting women to love on in the sea. Sounds like you're a relatively healthy dude other than your mental state currently. This will pass. Stop drinking. Eat healthy. R…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 04:22 AM
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