Telling me I'm Impatient.

To_Shrug · 2023-12-27T16:50:47+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Gas lighting is stupid. The premise is somebody talking you into thinking something is true when its obviously not. Trust yourself and your rational mind!

Go black in white when you get confused, throw out gray options out and make decision based on hard facts. If she doesn't understand things, boil everything down to black and white and discuss those.

You can talk to her about your feelings and the lack of emotional connection you are having during intimate times (I don't think this is uncommon in most marriages). If she isn't up to talking about it (also, not uncommon), tell her you think this is important and that you'd like to hear (and will listen intently) about any issues she is having with the relationship as she sees them. You have to start somewhere to fix things.

Divorce sucks, do everything you can to fix things prior. You got married for a reason. Go back to that reason and your shared experiences during that time.

You have found a great sub of men to help. But, be mindful of the baked in bias of this sub and make decisions based on your situation. Its a great group of men and the advice can be incredible helpful. But, only you truly understand your situation and levels of work required for your marriage.

upvotersfortruth · 2023-12-27T05:08:50+00:00

Bro, you are a ship being tossed about in the middle of a tempest. Batten down the hatches until you can find a clearing to gather yourself. If that entails spending a weekend in a hotel or on a friend's couch with your phone off, do it. Don't telegraph, don't ask, don't discuss. Do.

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-12-27T03:53:52+00:00

Need to stop the music and the dance. Bottom line is this. You need to define what you want out of a marriage and a wife. It’s not what you want out of HER specifically.

Think of it like going to a dealership and looking for a car. You tell them what you are looking for. Either they have it or they don’t. You can put up with sales pitches or drive to the next dealership. Your choice. No different.

Signal-Dot2326 · 2023-12-27T03:39:50+00:00

This isn't launching missiles from a sub where both keys need to engage, if separation is brought up chances are it's over, I'd say skip the separation retain an attorney and file for divorce.

Title	Telling me I'm Impatient.
Author	RedWineStrat
Upvotes	7
Comments	6
Date	December 27, 2023 2:35 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/18rpj59/telling_me_im_impatient/
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