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| 70 | women shouldn't make men wait for sex proved with "data and psychology"Lmao I made my boyfriend wait about two years 😂 He respected my boundaries back then and still does to this day. Scrotes will call him a simp or whatever term they’ve come up with to describe a genuinely respectful and loving man, but to me he’s just a man who sees women as actual people and not someone who goes through life thinking with his dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 02:36 PM |
| 99 | When a man acts as if him being empathetic is some rare gift and not a normal thing everyone should have, I always think of this memeSelf proclaimed empaths from my experience are usually narcissists LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 06:13 PM |
| 7 | I have no words🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:37 PM |
| 64 | If you've known him for a long time, vet him even harder!Ugh, it’s so sad how many of us have been in this situation. I had a guy friend that I had known since high school, we were best friends for 6+ years, so when he started showing some interest in me I decided to ignore any red flags and assume FDS rules didn’t apply to this relationship. He ended up being an LVM who just wanted to use me for sex and then when I confronted him about it he stopped talking to me, unfriended me everywhere, and talks shit about me. Lol 🙃 we haven’t talked in almost tw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:12 PM |
| 3 | I've asked this elsewhere, but I got no nuanced answers. What do I do when a close friend cheated on her boyfriend, who is also a good friend?I get it. That was exactly what I thought years ago too. That he deserved to know & that if I was in his position I would appreciate someone telling me. Part of me also felt like I needed to take it upon myself to fix it because i felt like something morally wrong was happening. Which it was, but it was none of my business. It’s shitty to watch that happen to friends but sometimes you have to let them learn on their own and either be there to support, or remove yourself from the situation. I’m g… | /r/askFDS | 11/10/21 03:55 PM |
| 4 | I've asked this elsewhere, but I got no nuanced answers. What do I do when a close friend cheated on her boyfriend, who is also a good friend?I’ve been in this situation years ago, and I ended up telling the guy. Speaking from experience, I’d advise against doing what I did. You should just stay out of it. Like the other commenter said, there’s no outcome that would be in your favor. The drama I experienced was not worth it, and I ended up being collateral damage in their relationship problems. Looking back, I wish I minded my own business and distanced myself from them both and let them figure it out. That’s the advice I would give t… | /r/askFDS | 11/10/21 03:02 PM |
| 3 | How can I help a friend who’s torn up over her NVX getting married?That’s exactly what I told her yesterday! I’m trying to get her to look at this as almost as just a small relapse, but that it doesn’t erase all the progress she’s made so far. Thank you :) | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 02:14 PM |
| 2 | I’m confused to how to feel about a situation...Without more details I’m not sure he did anything wrong by telling her not to bring men to his house. Did she even ask him beforehand? It’s his house and like the other commenter said he’s allowed to set those kinds of boundaries. If you or her don’t have a good feeling about it, I would suggest her to move out and find another living situation ASAP. | /r/askFDS | 17/08/21 03:35 PM |
| 20 | I cant seem to be happy single 😔Hey girl, I know exactly what you are feeling because I have been there before. You do sound depressed like these other commenters are saying, but I also want to assure you that it’s completely normal to crave connection with others. We are only human after all, and we’re literally wired to need community and a sense of belonging with others. While I know it stings to not have that in a relationship, I know you mentioned that you have a good community with friends and family, could you spend mor… | /r/askFDS | 10/07/21 02:54 PM |
| 15 | What do you do when you remember your ex?Feel at peace knowing he’s no longer my problem | /r/askFDS | 30/05/21 04:15 AM |
| 9 | Any good reading about beauty standards in relation to the male gaze?Love this! I honestly never have thought about it like this. It's so easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to one standard of beauty so I really like this idea. | /r/askFDS | 29/05/21 12:42 AM |
| 25 | Boyfriend trying to be ‘alpha’I stopped reading after red pill, dump him | /r/askFDS | 21/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 36 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantYour last paragraph made me burst out laughing😂 love this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Should a partner pay for or help you to pay for surrogacy?Yes your partner should help you pay for it | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Found my friend’s husband on tinder. Do I get involved?I personally wouldn't get involved or say anything if I wasn't close to the woman. While it could go well, it could also create a lot of drama. I like the other commenter's idea though of creating an anonymous email or social media account and sending the screenshot, and leaving it at that. | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 10:00 PM |
| 13 | He’s just not that Interested?Drop it, he's not interested | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 09:56 PM |
| 2 | guy(24m) I(20f) recently started talking to giving me mixed feelings, am I going to get played by him?You lost me at him saying he doesn’t want anything serious either. Girl, he wants to use you for sex (and all the other benefits of a relationship) and he knows now that he can get all of that from you without any commitment. He’s absolutely love bombing you and you’re way too invested after one date. | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 01:50 PM |
| 64 | He likes me but doesn't want anything serious???He's an LVM and just wanted sex. Block, delete, and move on. | /r/askFDS | 22/04/21 06:23 PM |
| 88 | For those of you in a relationship with a HVM, how long were you dating before he said ‘I love you’?The guy I’m currently dating said it about 3-4 months after becoming official, and we were going on dates for 2-3 months before that. My LVX wanted to become official after 2 weeks of knowing each other, and then said I love you 2 weeks after becoming official. Classic case of love bombing. I agree with the other commenter though, you should be observing his actions and how he talks about a future with you, includes you in his plans, treats you with actions > words, etc. I understand your anxiet… | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 04:31 PM |
| 39 | Stop mourning awful men dying.I would say that the protests regarding George Floyd were pointing out a more systemic issue in regards to how black men and women are subject to more police violence than any other racial group. You can have issue with what he has done personally, but I feel like comments like these take away from the bigger issues that the BLM movement is aiming to bring awareness and reform to. Cities were not destroyed for George Floyd himself, but for the black men and women who are living in fear due to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:53 PM |
| 72 | How to reciprocate being treated wellYou treat him with your company, while he plans and initiates the dates. It sounds too early to determine if this guy is actually HV. Every man seems HV in the beginning. HVM don’t see the courting process as transactional, so you should be sitting back while he proves himself to you. | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 01:31 PM |
| 38 | ForgivenessYou block, delete, and never look back. You forgive yourself for tolerating LV behavior and for not leaving at the first red flag, learn from it, and become more vigilant the next time around. I feel like so often women are made to feel “crazy” for simply reacting to the things men do to them. I think all of us have been in the situation where instead of just saying “ok” and leaving at the first red flag, we’ve cried and begged and beat ourselves up for what an LVM did to us. It’s a learning exp… | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 01:24 PM |
| 9 | Friends & LVMensAs you level up and start your journey towards being a HWV, you will notice that you outgrow a lot of people on the way. These people may mean a lot to you and have been important to you at one point in your life, but you will start to find that the ideals don’t align anymore and they bring you down more than they add value to your life. It’s okay to let these people go and allow space to be made in your life for more HV connections that are to come. I had a pick me friend that I cared about dee… | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 12:26 PM |
| 14 | How to answer “what brings you to this app?”"I'll know what I'm looking for when I see it." | /r/askFDS | 09/04/21 04:33 AM |
| 5 | I’m in a healthy relationship but I can’t get over rejection from the past?Thank you so much | /r/askFDS | 03/04/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | How do I politely wean off from my friend who is a pick me?I don't think you even need to be cheated on to know how messed up it is. I've never been cheated on (I think lol) but it disturbs me deeply when I hear about it happening to someone else. She knows exactly what she's doing and who she's hurting, she just doesn't care lol. | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 05:31 PM |
| 2 | How do I politely wean off from my friend who is a pick me?that's so messed up!! definitely cut her off. this friendship doesn't seem like it's adding any value to your life. it's also not cool that you're expected to just keep these secrets that don't sit right with you. I like having friends who have similar morals and values as I do - that doesn't mean they won't make mistakes, but there's a difference between making a mistake and deliberately and consistently exhibiting LV behavior. when my old friend would cheat, it would literally disturb my spiri… | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 05:26 PM |
| 9 | How do I politely wean off from my friend who is a pick me?She’s probably deeply insecure and finds validation when these married men “pick her” despite having wives. It’s likely she gets off on the fact that she was “good enough” to “get” another woman’s man. At least that’s what I’m guessing the thought process is in a pick me’s mind. I had a friend similar to this before too. I just gave her a call and told her that the friendship wasn’t working out for me. My life has been so much more peaceful since. | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 05:19 PM |
| 5 | "If he wanted to, he would", but why doesn't he want me?There's this tweet I saw years ago that I really like: "Letting someone create a false narrative of you is a small price to pay for having rid yourself of their toxicity. Let them say what they want, if you and the most high know the truth, your life will flourish and their lies will rot theirs." | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 06:33 PM |
| 6 | "If he wanted to, he would", but why doesn't he want me?Hey girl, trust me, he does not value his new girl. Just found someone new that lets his bullshit slide. Don’t believe what you see on social media or hear from others, it’s always a different story behind closed doors and LVM rarely change. One day you will see so clearly how it never had anything to do with you, and how lucky you were to dodge this bullet. 💞 | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 06:28 PM |
| 50 | He did everything right, but the double, triple texts and moving things fast turned me off. I feel bad about how I reacted.I would be wary of guys who try to move too fast like this. They either have some sort of attachment issue or are love bombing you. However, FDS is against teaching men how to behave, at the first sign of LV behavior you should just block and delete, especially since it's only been 3 dates. No need to snap at him or try explaining how his actions are making you feel. | /r/askFDS | 28/03/21 09:05 PM |
| 29 | Why do men insist on NOT fixing the problem?LMAO did we date the same person? LVM love sweeping issues under the rug because they’re too cowardly to look inwards and do the work to become better people. Their egos and self image are like a house of cards, if they attempted to fix themselves or got a glimpse of who they really are, they’ll crumble. This is why they melt down when you bring up something completely reasonable, they’re like toddlers throwing a temper tantrum when they learn that the real world has consequences for their actio… | /r/askFDS | 15/03/21 02:53 PM |
| 19 | Should you ever text someone first?No, let him put in the effort. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 06:34 PM |
| 6 | He abused me in THE PAST but is a change man NOW. What do I do?"But it’s not fair to leave him over who he used to be to me" Is this something you truly believe or something he's gaslit you into believing? Once a man degrades you, there's no going back. You deserve so much better. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Where do I stand with this guy?Yeah, little bit of a weird thing to say imo. I dated this guy for a little bit last year who said the same thing to me and he ended up having serious "commitment issues" and strung me along until I ended it. I personally would tread with caution. If there's no sign of consistency, effort, and wanting to commit from HIM within a month or two, I wouldn't continue. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 05:57 PM |
| 11 | Are men who play video games LVM?Yeah this was my feeling on it too. He is 26 and she is 25 | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 02:58 AM |
| 14 | Had a first date with a guy and he’s been texting me obsessively. It has turned me off. Should I cancel our date this weekend?I will share an experience I had once in my pre-FDS days. I matched with a guy on OLD and he seemed very sweet and genuine, and I ended up going on a date with him. After the first date, he would do exactly what you said and obsessively text even when I hadn't even replied. This turned me off to the point I didn't even want a second date with him, and I tried ghosting him. After a few unanswered texts over the course of the week, he told me he had a great time with me on the first date and wante… | /r/askFDS | 03/03/21 03:37 AM |
| 8 | Im ruining things with a great HVM - what the f is wrong with me?He may or may not be an HVM, but he’s not YOUR HVM. I’ve been pursued by men who were seemingly HVM, but I just wasn’t into them. I let them go so they could find someone who loved every part of them! You’re not obligated to date someone just because they’re a good person. | /r/askFDS | 26/02/21 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Wow, it makes so much sense when you put it that way! If anything, I'm glad I had this experience so I know what to look out for and never get manipulated like this again. And yes my current BF is amazing so far. It's only been 6 months with him so still cautious about calling him HVM, but only seen HV traits so far! He'll never speak badly on a woman's name and actively refuses to say shitty things about other women. | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:58 PM |
| 4 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Thanks so much, you're so right | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 15 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Even for college relationships? They dated from freshman year to senior year. | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?He's my age so 24, will be 25 this year. Yeah this was during some of my prime pick me days right before I found FDS, I tried to be the "chill girl" around him and "go with the flow" 🤮 I don't know if this contributed to his behavior too but he was also a virgin and I know he was really insecure about the fact that he never had sex and how his first girlfriend was always too scared to in college. He kinda told me what I wanted to hear and was like "I think it'll be nice if we both lose our virgi… | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 7 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Also another thing he would do is if I had a problem with a friend or upset with something a friend did, he was always quick to start hating that person and talk shit about them I used to think that was a loyalty thing but that’s a red flag too right? My current boyfriend is more logical about it when I get upset about random things having to do w my friends and doesn’t immediately jump to shit on the other person, he instead helps me figure out how I want to approach it and what I can do to fee… | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:32 PM |
| 8 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Yeah ur right. I remember when we had our little thing 🤮he would shit on the other women he’d gone on dates with off apps, tell me how gross their vaginas were or how he ghosted them. I just can’t believe I fell for his manipulation for as long as I did | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:29 PM |
| 9 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Yeah you’re probably right. That’s why I know I can’t really say anything against him because everyone thinks he’s such a great guy and I thought so too for the longest time :/ and he’s definitely telling his friends bad things about me because they removed me from social media after he threw me away. I can’t even imagine how he possibly twisted the situation to make me seem like I did something to him, but I could probably guess based on what he said about the women he’s talked shit to me about… | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:15 PM |
| 17 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?That’s true. I remember even after 4 years he’d avoid the topic of marriage with her | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 06:11 PM |
| 8 | Can a guy who treats his romantic interests like a queen but treats women he's not interested in like they're nothing be HVM?Well he dated his first gf for 4 years and is coming up on 1 year with the new one | /r/askFDS | 25/02/21 05:59 PM |
| 22 | Confused - is this modern dating?Of course he did! That's what LVM do. A normal healthy guy will take the time to get to know you and let the love develop over time instead of rushing into making such grandiose promises in the beginning. This guy told you all the right things because he knows that it's what you want to hear. Words mean nothing if there are no actions to back them up. Actions over words, girl. I dated an LVM in 2019 who did this exact kind of stuff. Didn't even question it when he had some random girl's shirt in… | /r/askFDS | 23/02/21 05:12 PM |
| 26 | Confused - is this modern dating?Look up love bombing. LVM love making false promises at the beginning of relationships to hook you in so that you make excuses for their scrote behavior later on. | /r/askFDS | 23/02/21 05:04 PM |
| 47 | Confused - is this modern dating?Girl what? He's trash. Leave him, block and delete. He claims they are plantonic and I have nothing to worry - something sounds wrong but I trust him as one should I a relationship, and he goes. Trust your gut. He doesn't text me the ENTIRE night, returns the following day from the desert, pretending to be normal about the entire thing. Why do you think he didn't text you the whole night? He was cheating. says his only mistake was not keeping in touch, and that everything else I'm feeling is my … | /r/askFDS | 23/02/21 05:02 PM |
| 14 | Should I cut her off?Yes, she’s putting her hurt ego over your friendship and using your emergency/pain to prove some point. I am in the same boat as her where I get anxious when I haven’t heard from a friend in a while and tend to create false narratives in my head, but I cannot imagine ever putting those thoughts over my friends if they needed me to be there for them. There is a certain time and place to air your grievances, and this situation is not it. You know how much she values you now. | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Should I be concerned that my friend is texting my boyfriend?That makes sense! Thank you so much. | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 12:15 AM |
| 19 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMI was talking to a NVM last year like this. I was really attached to how “honest” he was about everything, but then I realized he was using that honesty as a manipulation tactic to avoid every taking accountability for anything. When he’d ask me for nudes? He’d be sooo “honest and vulnerable” about how comfortable he was around me and some of his mental health struggles. When he’d ghost me for days/weeks at a time and then come back? He’d be sooo honest and vulnerable about his trust issues and … | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 04:05 PM |
| 14 | Traits of a HVW that come off as negative in the eyes of societyI live by that quote! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:18 PM |
| 40 | Traits of a HVW that come off as negative in the eyes of societyAgreed - I tried to be that girl too for a couple years in college and it came at a cost to my happiness as well. And that's a good point, we as women are pretty much torn down for anything we do so might as well just be ourselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Thank youYou are so strong, I'm sorry all of that happened to you. Sending love your way, you deserve so much. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:32 PM |
| 12 | Why does it throw me off and affect me so much when LVM from my past reach out to me even though I have a healthy relationship now?I needed to read this, thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:44 AM |
| 4 | How to Vet STEM MenI'm in software engineering and every man I've dated in my field has been LV/NV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:18 PM |
| 19 | After so many toxic/one-sided relationships in the past, do you feel like a "bad girlfriend" when you finally are in a healthy relationship?I feel the same way! I've never been able to fully express all facets of myself or been comfortable being flawed around LVMs from the past. I always felt like I needed to be perfect and do everything correctly, otherwise they'd get pissed off or I'd lose them (sigh, my pick me days). Now that I'm with someone who lets me be myself completely (including the good and the bad) it's a bit of an adjustment where I feel like I'm difficult when I'm not feeling 100%. But your mindset shift is what I'm a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:20 PM |
| 30 | After so many toxic/one-sided relationships in the past, do you feel like a "bad girlfriend" when you finally are in a healthy relationship?Exactly!! This is something I'm actively trying to learn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:10 PM |
| 10 | I can't believe the way some men talk. Just whyLmaoooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:55 PM |
| 9 | How can I stop forgiving so easily?I used to be like this too. I forgave so easily because I would always see the other person’s side and try and understand why they did what they did. You need to stop being understanding when they don’t deserve it. I don’t know how your relationship is with yourself, but you need to treat yourself the way you treat those closest to you. Whenever people do my friends wrong, I get so upset for them. Once I started loving myself in the same way, the easier I found it to not forgive the people who d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Is hinge an alternative to AA now?Is this my ex’s profile? LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:03 PM |
| 14 | Love the self awareness 👏 😂LMFAOOO this made me laugh 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:27 AM |
| 9 | What to do about a possible Pick Me friend?This girl is definitely not your friend, you should drop her. You "absolutely love her" but I guarantee she would throw you under the bus and turn her back on you if it meant getting male "approval" and validation. Not to mention her being a sexual assault apologist?? Girls like this are dangerous because they end up being mothers to children that they would pick their man over every single time. I've been friends with girls like this before. Trust me, they don't care about you. There's a differ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 02:47 PM |
| 206 | Never tell a guy you’re dating about your trauma / past abusive relationshipsOh for sure. I was talking to this dude earlier this year and he sorta pressed me for nudes (my pre-FDS days were a train wreck.. how did I not block right after he asked for this?) and he called me on the phone to explain why he wanted them so I stupidly explained my trauma to him about how guys have pressured me into sexual things too early in the past and then left and how that's really hurt me. He said he understood but the two months after that he kept being pushy about sexual things.. look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 12:58 AM |
| 35 | Say goodbye to long texting conversations AKA textationshipsCompletely agree. This is something I've been thinking about lately too. I always used to want that relationship where we texted every minute throughout the day and till late at night but I've realized that's impossible when you have a life and hobbies outside of the other person. Out of curiosity what is your preferred texting style when in a relationship? For me, if I'm not living with my partner, I still do prefer texting "throughout the day" but more sporadically and having it not be a big d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:28 AM |
| 51 | Men claim they want straightforwardness, no games, and honesty but subconsciously they don’t. Anyone have experience with this?My NVM ex had "Hallmark of a good relationship is... being able to communicate" in his dating app profile. I'm just going to let you take a wild guess about what this man was incapable of doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 37 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?I was attracted to the things he would do when he was love bombing me such as bringing me flowers and gifts, complimenting me all the time, telling me all the things I wanted to hear. This was also the first time a guy had done those things for me so I think that was part of the reason I fell for it so easily. Never again. Now if a guy comes in hot with that stuff I don't even entertain it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 09:19 PM |
| 2 | FDS sisters, what social media platforms do you use? Which do you boycott?I have an Instagram to follow few close girlfriends and keep up with them. I have my regular one deactivated. Besides that I just have reddit and Twitter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:39 PM |
| 12 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?I was thinking of your post when I read this one!! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:00 PM |
| 26 | Sisters, I recommend reflecting on how far you’ve come in your journey from being a Pickme to the Queen you are now. It’s very empowering!My first post when I found this subreddit was asking for advice about an NVM who basically breadcrumbed me, constantly flaked on me, and treated me like shit in general. We weren't even official because he "needed time" before putting a label on anything. He didn't need time though to immediately get sexual and constantly ask me for nudes. That was only a few months ago too. Proud of myself for the growth and things I've learned since then, and proud of you too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 02:23 AM |
| 4 | FDS has ruined “romantic” songs for me...Omg one of the most underrated bands!! I love Sleeping at last | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 10:47 PM |
| 7 | Tbh I read “someone who can take my sarcasm” on dating apps as “imma be an asshole to you. Accept that” Is it just me?Perfectly describes my NVM ex LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:37 PM |
| 7 | Remember a couple of months ago when everyone was freaking out about the loss of access to toilet paper (that never happened)?HAHA I love this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Gentlemen of tinder, men can’t think logicallyLOOOOL 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:58 PM |
| 7 | How do you guys deal with seeing your LVM ex dating someone new?Thank you all for your comments! I've unfollowed & blocked him - I know that's what my future self would want for me and I know not knowing what he's up to will be better for me overall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:43 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with seeing your LVM ex dating someone new?Haha you're lucky you even got a honeymoon phase, this guy I dated showed his colors within the first 2-3 weeks and it was all downhill from there😂 Thank you so much, I have been thinking of going back to therapy, I think it will be very beneficial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:27 PM |
| 88 | You guys would have a field day in the commentsLol my pick me friend sent this to me the other day and I just ignored her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:09 AM |
| 22 | Aparna from Indian MatchmakingYou put it into words! I agree with OP that she follows FDS in the sense that she has high standards and is unapologetic about it, but she needs a lot of work on how her personality can come across to others. I don't think that's necessarily something she needs to change to "get a man" (women don't need to change themselves solely for the sake of pleasing men), but like you said, needs to change to become a HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Red flag it not? Need adviceThat’s so weird.. wouldn’t surprise me if this is actually the guy posting except from the girls perspective | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Red flag: he talks badly about your friendsMy LVM ex loved to do this. He didn’t like any of them and would talk badly about them. Once, some of them made a group chat to plan a surprise party for me and added him in and he ruined the surprise for me by telling me about it and saying he’s not responding to them because he said they don’t care about me. Lol what??? Thank god that relationship ended. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone else notice the difference between the way your pick-me friends treat you vs. men?I have a friend like this. Whenever her boyfriend is out of town or on vacation, she suddenly remembers my existence and wants to hang out. Glad you finally came to the realization and slow faded your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 01:55 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else notice the difference between the way your pick-me friends treat you vs. men?That sounds so nice. I'm really glad you chose yourself and finally cut that energy out of your life! Of course it hurts because this is someone you genuinely cared about and loved, but people like this are so draining especially because we do not receive the same energy that we give them. I totally relate about running to the phone to help her every whim - I am literally always at my phone in .03 seconds whenever this girl is upset or crying or wants to vent and spend so much time and effort wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 01:50 PM |
| 37 | Does anyone else notice the difference between the way your pick-me friends treat you vs. men?Holy shit you just described my friend. Whenever I message her about something not man-related, she will leave me on read for hours until she conveniently also has something to vent about or wants to complain about men. I'm starting to realize the girls I'm friends with like this definitely do not actually have any respect for me or care for me in the way that I do for them. I'm just there to care for all their needs and put to the side when they don't find any use for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 01:04 AM |
| 2 | A question to ask yourself periodically when you get into a relationshipLove this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:37 AM |
| 15 | This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope she broke up with him and got a better boyfriend.Ugh I wish there was a way to know if that girl is okay :( I'm hoping to god she dumped this abusive piece of shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 24 | This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope she broke up with him and got a better boyfriend.It was in /r/confession https://www.reddit.com/r/confession/comments/8whvh0/my_girlfriend_wouldnt_have_sex_with_me_so_i_made/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:33 PM |
| 27 | Scrote(who wont even commit) angry that I cut my hair without asking his permission.This conversation made me lose brain cells | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:30 PM |
| 30 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryWhy would he write this caption. It’s sus that he would even allude to his ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Woah. Have I just found what could be a HVM?!!!My LVM ex said this to me. He would constantly say he wants to know everything about me, but wouldn’t put any effort into going beyond surface level conversation. I would open up to him about stuff and he’d never ask questions about it or seem interested in wanting to know more. He would either brush me off or tell me he wants to know everything about me one day and leave it at that. I think some men just say things because it sounds nice. I don’t say that to make you feel bad, it’s entirely pos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 02:03 AM |
| 8 | Has anyone started feeling that quarantine/ no dating has made you feel even more confident, sensual and womanly?Yes. My life flourishes without men in it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 01:13 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else down to read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft and do a virtual bookclub discussion each week to process the content/discuss? Details here!!!Yes I'm down!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:37 PM |
| 4 | How do I politely avoid a kiss on the second date if he tries to make a move?Hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:39 PM |
| 25 | How do I politely avoid a kiss on the second date if he tries to make a move?Ok i will try that! I’m creeped out/uncomfortable with it too but I always though that it was an issue with me since kissing on the first/second date is made to be a very normal thing in OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:26 PM |
| 29 | If he makes an unreasonable request, let him GO. No sticking around, no explaining, no negotiating.Amazing advice. I wish I could’ve read this 4 months ago when a guy i was dating/talking to off OLD was trying to convince me to send him nudes. My pre-FDS days were truly something else... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone ever met a pickmeisha that's disguised as an HVW?LMAO yes. Direct quote from her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:11 PM |
| 8 | Amen! Anyone else got any similar stories?When he came up close to my face and noticed that I grow some hair on it, he said "Are you participating in no shave november?". One of my biggest insecurities to this day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:24 PM |
| 13 | For whoever needs itSo true! Every time I've let a trash LVM/NVM go, my life has improved tenfold | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:22 PM |
| 8 | If you’re this bitter, it might be best to just remove yourself from the dating pool.Every sentence just gets worse than the previous one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:21 PM |
| 8 | Don’t make fun of yourself, even jokingly, or guys will jump right on it and try to put you down even furtherOmg in my hinge profile I have "Don't hate me if I... pour the milk in before the cereal" and I get so many men asking what's wrong with me and taking the opportunity to call me a psychopath the first message they send me. Idk if i'm being dramatic but it always kind of rubbed me the wrong way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Looking for dev women to build a women's only social mediaI can help! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 06:23 PM |
| 8 | Should I drop him for making this comment on a first date?Yes that's a very good point. I'm also remembering that he mentioned that I'm not like other girls and that he talked to me because I "seemed chill" since I use "yo" and "bruh" and language like that when I text. Which makes me wonder if he's just looking for a woman to take all his shit. On a side note I didn't know too much about negging until I read some more posts on this sub to try and understand and wow.. I just realized I was constantly being negged in my relationship with an LVM last yea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 05:53 PM |
| 7 | Should I drop him for making this comment on a first date?Very true. If he reaches out again, should I tell him that what he said wasn't okay and then end it? Or should I just plain ghost? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:30 PM |
| 2 | do you wear make-up everyday?I've been getting into make up a lot more this year - I like to use it to enhance my features and bc it's fun and makes me feel pretty. I went make up free for pretty much the first 23 years of my life and would only do it for special occasions, so I am pretty comfortable going natural if I'm ever too lazy to do it. For an every day look I like to do a subtle brown wing, accentuate cheekbones with some light contour and highlight, and put on some lip gloss but that's pretty much all I'll do. For… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 01:31 AM |
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