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| 1 | Q4W - In what ways do single women over 30-ish have it harder than single men of the same age?Nope. I mean per your own screen name you def have that Ayn Rand attitude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Q4W - In what ways do single women over 30-ish have it harder than single men of the same age?They chose to delay in getting married or joining the pool. They are the ones that have in their profile “I’m independent and have my own house…” weird so do I… I have countless female friends that complain about putting off getting married because of their career and investing in it compared to building a family. They say it’s a regret because they cannot get more time. One girl that I dated when I was 26, she was 24, didn’t want to have kids or get married because she didn’t want to throw away… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/22 08:35 PM |
| 0 | Q4W - In what ways do single women over 30-ish have it harder than single men of the same age?Ryan Reynolds makes me question my sexuality… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/22 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Q4W - In what ways do single women over 30-ish have it harder than single men of the same age?Concur but again it’s their choosing. What I found as being 36M and dating through the range of 25 to 40 and a bunch of different backgrounds. Here are my observations. Girls that are 25-28 have 5 year plans when it comes to dating, marriage, and kids. 2 years to date, 1 year engaged, 2 years married and then kids. Most 29-33 that time is shortened to 3 years for those that really want kids. 33-36 under 3 years to court, marry and kids. Over 36 most have accepted not having kids and regret it so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/22 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Q4W - In what ways do single women over 30-ish have it harder than single men of the same age?Point made… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/22 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Probably a basic questionShe found some dick…Sorry been there but pretty much the same story that I lived. A woman who probably doesn’t work, has much more to lose (not really, I see a divorce rape coming on) and a bunch of emotional shit to justify her leaving. Now with that said…you have to accept responsibility as you are a fat piece of shit living out your miserable life in your basement. You can do two things…wake up, read the side bar, and change the man who you are…or lose your kids and suck start a shotgun most … | /r/askMRP | 27/12/21 05:47 PM |
| 5 | Own your shit isn't her autobiographyIt’s like a Dear (Enter Some Columnist’s Name) page. The numbers are for RP deposit points just so they can write BP checks they cannot cash. I think the mods and community need to reset OYS into a “YOU” only and anything with “HER or SHE” gets ex communicato | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/10/21 04:57 PM |
| 1 | MRP is not an identityTrying to White Knight BPs instead of women? That’s something new... In all seriousness one of the things is that the goal is be able to learn the ways, apply them, experience the results and go on your path. Just like countless stories of the hero’s having to go back to step one if they lose their path that is ok but to get comfortable and complacent within the warm fuzzy confines of inaction is not. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/10/21 12:12 PM |
| -1 | What is the point of a relationship?Sound like a MGTOW or volcel in training. I would seriously talk to a therapist as I’ll admit I had the same issue. As I went through my journey I got to a point where I didn’t feel any empathy towards my partners as I looked at them as an unwarranted demand on me. The only person I felt empathy for was my daughter because it she is my all and I have to provide for her. My therapist said that my divorce might have caused a sociopath or ASPD lite because of the shock the process took. I discussed… | /r/askMRP | 01/09/21 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Wife gets disrespectful when she doesn't get what she wants.Those are the best type right? This place is a trove of knowledge and shared experiences. | /r/askMRP | 23/06/21 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Wife gets disrespectful when she doesn't get what she wants.Multiple posts. I would say look at my profile and go all the way to the end and read up. | /r/askMRP | 23/06/21 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Wife gets disrespectful when she doesn't get what she wants.Lol...you are new aren’t you? | /r/askMRP | 23/06/21 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Wife gets disrespectful when she doesn't get what she wants.You aren’t getting anything because you aren’t worth it to her. You have no value. I would throw you a tampon because it sounds like your period is starting. If you want to read up on my shit story it’s almost legend on here. Stop being a soft jaw or life is going to knock you out. | /r/askMRP | 21/06/21 11:50 PM |
| 3 | She doesn't matter and stop looking at her phone, right?Haha...it's definitely been a ride. I had a very long story and still to this day as Jodie is still dating the ex, while I was dating a 25 year old and having some of the best life I have ever had. I might get back in on this to be a sage as I believe this COVID pandemic really opened up a lot of eyes of spouses looking at theirs and saying "He is a POS and I need better" as I have heard it at the bars as there husbands have gotten soft or got laid off. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/21 08:57 PM |
| 3 | She doesn't matter and stop looking at her phone, right?Jesus is this how I looked years ago? You need to reread all the 101. You are so worried about being in her frame that she is driving the story and not you. There is so much “her” and “she” it’s sad. | /r/askMRP | 05/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Share school fees custodyI see a lot of “She”. Take care of your kids. After that is done, go ask your CPA about this bullshit and read the books over again... | /r/askMRP | 17/01/21 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Can I repair my marriage after discovering my wife’s lying and past promiscuity? It’s more the lying than the body count that makes me feel hurt and fearfulFile...it will be better than asking these questions... | /r/askTRP | 24/12/20 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2019/04/joe-biden-hair-smelling-2020-race-lucy-flores-trevor-noah-daily-show | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:58 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.You mean Bill Clinton and Bill Gates? Rather have someone know them instead of being Sniffy Joe | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Lol you mean the lowest black unemployment ever? Highest funded HBCUs? Ok...keep eating that narrative up | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Lol...the left has had hemorrhoids for 4 years. I’m not butt hurt but the fact is you have hundreds of thousands in missing congressional election votes. And approval ratings don’t matter congress has a 13% rating... | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Lol ok...if you believe so...no way he won and the lost seats in the house and senate. Then again Democrats don’t like math... | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Lol...dementia Joe and Kamala “can’t get 3%” of the vote. They had to put her in for the black and female card even though she was not a good candidate and nobody likes her. I guess it’s business as usual... | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Lol you mean Biden? The guy who has documented statements of racism? Who called blacks savages? Who was against busing? Who wrote the crime bill because of “black crime” and lastly who spoke at the funeral of a Grand Wizard of the KKK? Don’t believe what the media feeds you and find your own facts. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Haha ok. Exit polls so most percentage of blacks voted GOP, not more than Democrats because I mean blacks have been voting Democrats in since the 70’s and nothing has changed | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/12/20 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Antifa/BLM woman steals mans American flag, pulls out a knife on the guys trying to get it back, then gets knocked the fuck out with a helmet.Proud Boys didn’t start riots that burned down neighborhoods and ruin peoples lives. Oh and that is what lead more minorities to vote for GOP since the 1960’s | /r/PussyPassDenied | 21/12/20 03:49 AM |
| 5 | LTR just admitted emotional affairI went through this. Instead of focusing on what she has said look at her past actions and her actions moving forward. She fucked him and accept it and move on. You will not want to but you need to and move on. The awakening has happened and you just need to make sure you stay awake. Look at my old posts to see what happened in my case... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 3 | RP that somehow became BPWoof...welcome to the gang. I guess over time for me it was complacency and just the planted idea that one should be comfortable with their lives and yet its the complete opposite. The issue is society wants little to no chaos and true change. The reason for that is when you open your eyes to the fact that you have been "misguided" your entire life it causes you to question the system and that system does not like that. The system of society wants you to be a sheep and never say no to accepting … | /r/askMRP | 26/06/20 03:46 PM |
| 1 | MRP: why did u get married and what are your biggest lessons?Not much. I was dating around for a while but found a LTR but it’s going to end soon as she wants to leave town. Definitely different within this serious relationship. I had gone Rambo a couple times but dealing with younger girl (35 she’s 26) tends to be frustrating at times but definitely solid. This Covid thing needs to go away but I’m remaining focused on growth but need to improve more things. | /r/askMRP | 26/06/20 03:55 AM |
| 9 | MRP: why did u get married and what are your biggest lessons?Got married because I was taking a daily dose of BP from my widowed mother. Stepdad was not a resource as he was a BP. I was 27 and she was 23. West. One child that is awesome. Look up my posts and you might be able to gather the context of what I have been through. Biggest lesson? Marriage is great when you truly marry the right person. Hindsight is 20/20 but after the RP its really an eyeopening experience. I would have advised myself to put myself first and drop the Mr. Nice guy routine. It f… | /r/askMRP | 19/06/20 03:56 PM |
| 2 | NBC's reporting on the Fresno, CA shooting. As if Men getting shot is not equally horrible as Women and Children getting shot.Eggs and children are move valuable than males... | /r/MensRights | 19/11/19 02:07 AM |
| 1 | OWS: Don't be a Pussy, ask for a mental "spot" from others...you are not alone. Suicide Awareness MonthExactly can’t take care of others if you can’t take of yourself first. | /r/askMRP | 28/09/19 01:23 AM |
| 3 | OWS: Don't be a Pussy, ask for a mental "spot" from others...you are not alone. Suicide Awareness MonthI care about you ;-) I’ll need to provide an update but everything is working out; new job, new girls, new life, new outlook. Also as for OYS I believe I was blocked from the other sub for faggotiness. | /r/askMRP | 27/09/19 02:43 PM |
| 4 | OWS: Don't be a Pussy, ask for a mental "spot" from others...you are not alone. Suicide Awareness MonthAnd here is a prime example... In all seriousness this is a story of my friend who hadn’t had sex in almost 3 years and well reminded me of myself when I started this never ending journey. Love your support as always. | /r/askMRP | 27/09/19 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Tell LTR About a Past Fling.Why do you owe it to her? If you can explain that and ask yourself if she would do the same for you? Answer: She wouldn't. I've been seeing an LTR that is about to be let go. My town in literally the biggest city sq miles wise and yet we run into my exes while I am out. The exes come up to me and give me hugs and chit chat. I'll introduce them because the exes inject themselves. I keep it cordial. When the LTR asks if I fuck them "Yeah years ago..." with a shrug and "You fuck better though..." T… | /r/askMRP | 27/09/19 04:16 AM |
| 5 | Difference between MRP and TRPThe maturity comes through experience. Wisdom = Knowledge + Experience. If you want to read my experience you can look at my past posts. As you go through it you can look at your relationships from the marriage aspect and apply the MRP basics to it. The only difference between being married and in a long term relationship is that you have to ask the government for permission. | /r/askMRP | 12/09/19 04:09 AM |
| 8 | FR: That Darkness you see is actually the Light...you shall go through it.You aren’t ignoring it as you registered it and you still do give a fuck. Focus on you as a man, father, and husband in that order. It will fall into place. The issue that when people say they don’t give a fuck they actually do because they register the question if they do. The balance between giving a fuck and not is the simple question of “Is it within my control?” Control is not influence. You can influence your wife through actions and words but you cannot and will not ever control her or he… | /r/askMRP | 11/08/19 06:29 AM |
| 3 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningMy daughter is going to be 5 and is aware. She’ll tell me that he slept over when she was there in mommy’s bed. I was incensed by that and just rolled my eyes. The very fact that her mom feels that comfortable is shocking but then again not surprising given solipsism is embedded within women to the core. When I asked her about the fact that he had slept over when I was deployed she tried to justify that he is a nice guy and all this other shit to spin it. I asked her “if you were deployed and I … | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 06:32 PM |
| 5 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningI know the pain through friends. It would have been faster and cheaper as the prenup outlined everything. She ended up getting a “women only” law firm that bungled it up. Her lawyer referenced the prenup but then asked for things such as temporary alimony and me footing the lawyer bill. The funny thing is that when we pointed out that the prenup specifically denies those requests they were quick to settle. She ended up paying 5K when she didn’t really need to but it is what it is. In the end whe… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 06:28 PM |
| 1 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningExactly, I guess I meant to say that with the foundations of stoicism it is well known that emotions can become numb to it. I’m passionate about things but I guess the numb is to recognizing actions out of my control “Oh you want to leave? Well that’s disappointing but good luck...” I’m OI in the sense that I have learned that AWALT and that is a driving factor in their actions. I’ll drive the day and relationship but at the same time I’ll do what I want. That line really got me as she is driven… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 05:46 PM |
| 3 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningOh yeah, definitely with that. The fact that she’s 26 and usually deals with fuckboys is something that is apparent to her. Recently she was acting up and nagging. Told her I wouldn’t accept it and she threatened to leave. I told her effectively “ok it’s been fun” and that drove her insane when it came to the fact that I was so willing to let her go. Dread works to the T | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 05:39 PM |
| 1 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningThat’s exactly what I’m doing. I guess the fact is that it’s more the impact on my daughter that is driving the “WTF?” On my end but it is what it is. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 05:37 PM |
| 3 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningThe first thing is to recognizing the slip and second is to take revert to the process. One thing is that being outcome indifferent can be a double edge sword as you can grow numb to things around you as you become slightly aloof to everything. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 01:27 PM |
| 2 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningIt is a journey and you need to understand that. I read that divorce subreddit and it’s toxic. You will find vast knowledge here but st the same time need to sort through it in a way that applies to you. One thing you will need to do is that during times of weakness or setbacks you need to revert to the texts of the guiding principles. You will find yourself going back to what is comfortable and it will be cozy and warm but you cannot do that. Keep evolving and progressing. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 01:08 PM |
| 4 | FR: Long road to the end...but every end is a new beginningIt’s working out well for my daughter so far. The only hang up is the fact that her mom is bringing the paramour around and effectively grooming her. My ex has introduce my daughter to her boyfriends family and he is sleeping over when my daughter is there. I’ve been thinking of a way to address that but in reality don’t know how. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/19 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Picnics, massages, and doing the dishes...That’s actually very well stated... | /r/askMRP | 10/06/19 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Premature ejaculationI have the opposite...I can make a girl cum multiple times but something throws me off. Might be ADD but I remember fucking a girl once and started focusing on my watch that was ticking...completely threw me off. | /r/askMRP | 21/04/19 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Why post-breakup GF asks for reunion, but turns into a bitch once I'm about to accept?Listen: the fact that you didn’t care at first was a great step. Keep doing that and go your own way. Recently had a girl that did the stand me up for an ex. Her: “I want to follow my heart and try with my ex, but I would love to reconnect with you if it doesn’t work out” Me: “Oh that’s adorable, it will most likely not work out but don’t try to connect with me. I don’t accept that. Good night and good luck” Her: Hamster spinning and she has been texting me to come over and fuck her while her B-… | /r/askMRP | 22/03/19 09:16 PM |
| 5 | Dan Bilzerian on Joe RoganIt definitely has been a trip. This time last year I was posting victim puke on a daily basis. Now it seems to be more of an enlightenment to say it to a degree. Like an animal shedding their skin; out with the old in with the new and while it is the still person beneath it is something new. I am picking up plates and dropping them. The one that I had posted about here is looking to be dropped because I've become of myself sliding into that BP mindset and making a relationship out of one where t… | /r/askMRP | 02/03/19 06:10 PM |
| 4 | Dan Bilzerian on Joe RoganThis is it right here. As I calculate how much I have to pay my ex in this divorce I’m done with the social construct of asking the government to legal bind me to someone. I found a website that described how you can give your SO all the benefits of marriage without the exit tax. The author was d raped and researched it. Through wills, POA, and other documents you can take care of your SO but have them entitled to nothing. | /r/askMRP | 02/03/19 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?Lol gotcha. The fact she did it out of her account and the OBGYN out of the joint is what raised the eyebrows. | /r/askMRP | 23/02/19 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?Thanks guys I do appreciate it. Not to have victim puke but with the stoicism that is preached and works out is a double edged sword. It causes an internalizing and a numbing of sort to stimuli. Just an example is that I received my ex’s account info from my lawyer. I found out she went to planned parenthood and we can safely assume got an abortion while I was deployed. Was it mine or someone else’s? Don’t care it’s betrayal in its form but for some reason I didn’t get angry, pissed off, sad or … | /r/askMRP | 22/02/19 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?This is gold. A lot to take but def agree with you on that. I think the shit that is going on might be fogging my head. I think I’m having the opposite where I’m using the THOTs as cum dumpsters only and after a while I let them leave nonchalantly. Maybe the lack of any feels causes that to be an issue or a positive but who knows? Appreciate the feedback and surprised you know my u/ by memory. | /r/askMRP | 21/02/19 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?I don’t care lol. I didn’t know if it’s against the commandments of plate spinning as again I’m new and enjoying it. It’s actually amusing to a degree now that I think about it. | /r/askMRP | 21/02/19 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?Not advice persay but more like new to the plate game and if a plate plays it too should one respect the game? | /r/askMRP | 21/02/19 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Accept a plate that has a plate?God I love your responses. It’s not oneitis persay but maybe a respect possibly for the game haha. | /r/askMRP | 21/02/19 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Accept a plate that has a plate?Respect the game or drop the plate? Knew you would post up lol | /r/askMRP | 21/02/19 01:56 AM |
| 2 | Accept a plate that has a plate?Oh hell no. Swallowing the pill def changed that view. The thing is accepting a plate is doing the same game or go autistic and keep to curb if she isn’t a bad plate in that sense? | /r/askMRP | 21/02/19 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Blowing up 7 year marriage after swallowing the red pillThis right here...read Mating in captivity and State of Affairs. Ex did the same thing. Left when it was easy. I take responsibility for my fair share and yet I sit here with the lingering smell of two girls pussy on my dick after the weekend. | /r/askMRP | 19/02/19 10:09 PM |
| 10 | Asked my opinion and when I gave it honestly she tried to agrue about it?You just played yourself... | /r/askMRP | 06/02/19 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...I’m 33. That girl was a 26 year old teacher who drove 30-40 minutes on a Sunday morning. She was lucky I had kicked one girl out about an hour before. I had told her weeks before that she crossed boundaries and withdrew. Guess she didn’t take the hint. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...Haha completely agree with you. Hell dealing with the EX is like spinning a plate, but it definitely has the abundance in the back of the head. Idk if girls can sense it but not chasing them drives them crazy. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...That’s what it is. Since I’ve gotten back the pussy has come easier than I thought but that’s because BP me would jump through hoops. One first date some girl started laying out hoops and I looked at her and ended the date there. I walked out after paying my tab and she ran after me. She did the “nobody has done that.” Me “they should have” kept walking. She didn’t leave and fucked like a bitch in heat. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...That is what I’m balancing. I have a lot going on but still it’s a new perspective and approach to relationships. The girl hasn’t been really in a LTR because she’s just not into them, but when asked what we are in I just state “let’s just keep fucking and laughing, it’s over when that stops” she ate that up. No label but she’s a good balance so no real arguments. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...I sit there and analyze it. The one plate was maybe 8B 3C because she was cute but crazy that I couldn’t handle. Another is 7B and 7C but had no time. The current is 8.5B and 6C as she has some stuff she’s working on but it’s nothing I can’t deal with. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...That’s the thing with the girls. They know my schedule to a degree and so they try to lock down. One girl tried to schedule my next 3 weekends which I laughed at and said I have plans and she got offended like I was already hers. She is also the one that randomly showed up unannounced and it was a hard NeXT. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...Completely agree with you. Shall I accept full responsibility for it based on living per the social norms? I am pretty much accepting it and moving forward with that mindset. You are correct about ensuring the oneitis and avoiding it. Since I have been single, I had three of the many girls I've seen tell me they have fallen for me only after a few weeks. I realized how ugly this is given the fact that would have been me in the past (there is somewhat a ghost in me that would if she was a unicorn… | /r/askMRP | 31/01/19 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...I was dating a Resident doctor who was working weird schedules. I really didn’t get expectations or panties in a bunch when she would be late or flake. It was to hear a breath of fresh air but she would say things like “Why don’t you get upset that I don’t show up” shrugged shoulders and replied “if you do you do you don’t you don’t” she was perplexed by my dgaf “but I always have a plan b” casual wink. Blew her brain up. She found out she was getting transferred to Miami and we knew it wouldn’t… | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...Lol, it’s a more of “I know I want more but maybe I’m bored to a degree?” Maybe a change in scenery will work and some new strange. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 10:57 PM |
| 12 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...That’s real cute. You waited until the last line to say your favorite word. Actually in reality have been getting my dick wet on a constant basis to the point there is no fap involved. Weird feeling but definitely I understand the main point is you chose to be in one instead of being overly eager because some girl let you put your cock inside of them. Gotcha ;-) | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...Gotcha. The point I got a cross was that I’m selective because it’s just not me dating them it’s my daughter and I if it gets to that point. Some girls wanted to see photos of my girl on the second date and play insta mommy. I had to check that if you understand. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...This is what I’m focusing on. The LTR one has more pluses than minuses (all girls have them) but the FBs seem to be rotating the eat pray love bullshit. They are cool with fucking and dating but I don’t see a anything long term. ONS are slightly hard because I have my daughter most of the good nights but not really my tea except had a couple tinders for a while. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 08:48 PM |
| 7 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...Gotcha. Issue I’m finding is that younger girls like the “seeing older guy” until I tell them my daughter comes first and they throw a tantrum. It’s cute and amusing at the same time. They spin up on that. Went on a few dates with a girl who I later found to be a single mom which surprised me by not doing the “independent single moms are the best!” Routine I have seen. Appreciate the advice and I guess it is what I need to consider. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...Sorry I meant that if they complain about me not coming out on the nights that I have my daughter and still complain, I next them. I’m upfront about the days that I have my daughter unless there is a special event, I’m off limits in that sense. My daughter comes first to a plate in that sense. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Newly separated and becoming tired with spinning plates...You are right on both fronts. I think just the logistics is of having only 3 nights to spin is what is causing the “fuck it” mentality. One plate whined constantly about the nights that I have my daughter and won’t concede and after the second time I dropped her. I’m not looking for an LTR but having one plate at a time is enticing if that makes sense. | /r/askMRP | 30/01/19 07:16 PM |
| 4 | Picnics, massages, and doing the dishes...In all seriousness: A HB8 who was cutting my hair and owned the barber shop was telling me about her BP of a husband. She is around 40 but seriously could pass for around 30. Mentioned husband short, overweight, etc etc. She was talking about divorce and she was just staying . He put a recorder into her purse and overall insecure. She mentioned guys doing dishes, cooking, laundry and just owning your shit is like porn for her. I was just trickle feeding the convo and it was entertaining seeing i… | /r/askMRP | 19/01/19 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Using power/muscle during sexI lifted her up and throw her around into the positions I want. She is amazed by it because her ex was weak and small and I'm tall and capable. One issue is stand up sex because I'm so tall I'll have to be in a constant squat and it's slighty ackward. | /r/askMRP | 19/01/19 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Picnics, massages, and doing the dishes...A dozen? That's small. Go for one dozen per year! | /r/askMRP | 19/01/19 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Picnics, massages, and doing the dishes..."Happy life, happy wife" - That is what it should be. | /r/askMRP | 19/01/19 03:41 PM |
| 4 | LTR bitchy in public(friends, family)That’s cute just like that ego boosting red pill derived username. More of an observation but whatever you want to call it is your choice. | /r/askMRP | 07/01/19 06:05 PM |
| 15 | LTR bitchy in public(friends, family)One of the girls. She dated man children before and I think my old ways would have lumped me in. That’s cute but thank you for remembering my /u. Divorce is going great. My prenup is paying dividends as her lawyer and my lawyer realize it’s a fucking brutal one. Pretty much I get to choose what I give her. STBX is flailing trying to grab branches on the way down. | /r/askMRP | 07/01/19 02:53 PM |
| 8 | LTR bitchy in public(friends, family)I had a girl that I’m seeing do this. We have been dating for a month or so and we were out with her friends. She starts saying how she’s single and wants all this stuff while I’m sitting right there next to her. I’m not reacting and just staying cool. Her friends start doing the WTF? And ask me I’m I hearing this. I say “That’s cute as I am single too and seems like we are in the same boat. Haven’t found the one yet (note doesn’t exist)” they are taken back by my lack of fucks. Apparently she h… | /r/askMRP | 07/01/19 01:38 PM |
| 2 | When you fall off course, what's the best way to get back on track?It’s building the foundation that when you fall you can push off of it. Recognizing you’ve lost focus is one of the biggest steps. I took some time for myself recently and just becoming aware of your mindset and self diagnosing is one of the biggest hurdles that we have to come to know. Lift, read, fuck repeat. | /r/askMRP | 20/12/18 01:55 PM |
| 1 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"I’m not. That is what I assume she was seeing me as. When I first got back she wanted to date and such but I saw through it. When I told her the finances are being worked out she did the “how I’m I going to survive” which I responded “not my issue anymore” | /r/askMRP | 13/11/18 06:39 PM |
| 1 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"/sarcasm was rampant. I’ll be the first to admit and thank MRP for the knowledge and getting g me straight. Sometimes the childish insults make me laugh. It gets old honestly and takes away from the context of the message. Definitely appreciate the support and I’m focusing on the POV of my kid who has taken this well for now. | /r/askMRP | 13/11/18 06:37 PM |
| 1 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"Agree to disagree. The reading into the emotions is not for a contract because the contract is over with. If I was reading into manipulate or throw a contract that hopefully has my dick getting wet from her would be true but it's more of me seeing what Rollo mentioned about the emotions and how they can spin like a tornado. I agree with the "No Say" and I was attempting to set those boundaries for my daughter and who she brings around but that was blasted through with the family dates she had wi… | /r/askMRP | 13/11/18 05:30 PM |
| 3 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"I'm standing by for heavy rolls... | /r/askMRP | 12/11/18 09:49 PM |
| 2 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"No. What I brought to her attention was that my kid called him "pretend daddy" while we were talking about our family. I informed her that is inappropriate for our kid to believe that. She went on to state that her female friends are called "pretend mommy" etc. I couldn't believe how she was trying to justify it and saying I was blowing it out proportion and it wasn't anything, "There is nothing to worry about, he's a good guy." Her tone changed when I asked if in her mind if it was normal for a… | /r/askMRP | 12/11/18 09:49 PM |
| 2 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"You are absolutely right. Being in the military I have seen so many deployment affairs and divorces I saw this coming. Watching her do the swing was by the numbers. She mentioned how she wanted to “have us date again and return to vows” which was her trying to justify to herself the preferred outcome and if I tried she could just blame it on me. Whatever I didn’t fall for that. The trust as an intimate partner was gone way before that. As a coparent I know she’s a good mom but horrible wife in t… | /r/askMRP | 11/11/18 01:07 PM |
| 6 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"My kid is 4 years old and I would not ask them of that. I live 10 minutes away from her now (I don’t think she’ll ever leave the city but who knows). We have decided that since she bought a house in a decent but bad school part of town the kid will go to school at the well regarded one right across the street from me next year. There are a bunch of wins under my list and honestly I think the MRP really helped out. I’ll admit I’m not as dark as some of the content here due to my engrained traits … | /r/askMRP | 11/11/18 01:10 AM |
| 15 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"Yeah...you also know what are for faggots and betas? Usernames that have RP in them to make it seem like your dick shoots out red pills. But yes seem like you are butt hurt with all that passive anger behind the post. Very constructive and I award zero points... Just kidding I read through all the stupid childish talk. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 10:52 PM |
| 3 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"If that is your perspective that is fine. The rule setting was right after she told me from months ago. As it has gone along there hasn't been any rules. I stated those were more guidelines not rules in the sense that if later it comes out that we were both bringing SOs around the daughter during the process it would look bad on both. I'll admit I still have a foot or toe within her frame as I know she is emotionally unstable in the sense and that will bleed into my kid from what I previously st… | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 07:04 PM |
| 11 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"Definitely. She asked me why I didn’t pursue her when I came back and told her “Why would I want somebody who left?” Before I would have groveled but the readings taught me not to. Somebody posted out your energy into a new relationship instead of old and dead one. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 06:34 PM |
| 2 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"Exactly. I have seen some stories here and giving the fact we both wanted it will make it easy. She is a daughter of divorce and so I took that into consideration as an unhappy mother will be a burden on my daughter. She was surprised I knew but the fact was watching her justify how she seemed it was ok was enlightening. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 06:32 PM |
| 1 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"The rule setting was months ago and she brought it up which I rebuked with Chad spending the night at the house. As for dating that is fine she can do that and she already has brought him around but as before it is from months ago so that is where I was to focus on my daughter vice her. The lawyers will work it out for the custody and timesharing but didn’t want to go scorched earth prior so the sucubus was tamed. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 05:43 PM |
| 7 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"The feels fix was behind that. She’s the mother of my child and that would bleed into my child if I went calloused asshole. I agree she is not my responsibility and I made that clear. My daughter and myself are. I understand she doesn’t give a shit and really didn’t take responsibility for it. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 05:40 PM |
| 8 | FR: Filed this week; Lawyer "How did you get so mentally prepared for this?" ; Her "Ok...this is how it is"I agree with you. She had agreed but know she has no obligation. That was when we first discussed the separation and more of guidelines vs rules. When my child called him pretend daddy recently I was amused but really realized it needed to be addressed. She tried to block it and say I was blowing it out of proportion. I told her I could careless if she was fucking him but bringing that confusion to my kid I won’t accept at all. | /r/askMRP | 10/11/18 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?Yeah, I worked at a plant that you worked one week, the weekend, then the week after and I might have Reserves the following week so I could work up to 3 weeks straight. I was killing it with 10-12 hour days, wife worked on Saturday because she “needed” a job and we really had no time for family time or hell Gym time. I got fat and stressed out. My blood pressure was through the roof as a 30 year old. That bad... For the wife, she’s a child of divorce, and her parents did 50/50. They did almost … | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?See my other post, I believe it was my misunderstanding. They laid it out for me just a while ago. Amazing what being called a faggot does to reviewing your memory and clarifying shit. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?Maximize custody is we have agreed upon 50/50 and collocated within the same city. I’m actually closer to our kids school than she is. I understand that might all change as the women change like the wind but I’m doing all convos and coordination through text and email. There has been no verbal attacks or anything of the sort regardless of the fact that I know more than she thinks I do. My previous career had me working 60-70 hours a week, away for weeks, and working weekends. New career opportun… | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?I discussed with him just now. He meant to get a job ie do all the interviews and then serve so I didn't have a shit ton on my plate with finding a place, finding a job, finding a lawyer, going to court, doing my military training and travel etc etc... We are moving forward next week with the paperwork and getting into the system. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?I just got off the phone. I mistook petition and serve as two different things. Legal terms are not my best. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?You are absolutely right, I really did fuck up right? Misunderstood a legal term when it came to it for my state and based off other people's comments. You have anymore of that sauce? | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?You are correct. I was going to nice guy it for my daughter and do it after the holidays but this well...fuck it. The lawyer part was sort of me influencing him. He was thinking from the standpoint of the court when it comes to support etc. I have a meeting next week with him. Of the lawyers he seemed to be the one most involved with the cases vs some paralegal running the show. Other lawyers like the men only had horrible reviews, and I went to some well regarded females but they seemed to be i… | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?Gotcha. Re-checked the judicial website for the state and realized I read it wrong. You have to serve someone but you don't do it yourself. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?Gotcha. I had seen on here FR of people saying they had the papers with them when they had a main event...never done a divorce before. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?I don't think she will stab me. That was the ex. I think she will start crying realizing I'm cutting off the branch as she is swinging. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Main Event: Best way to serve papers?Ok, I miss read the state website. Got to love it when the government messes up a website...or I just can't read. | /r/askMRP | 02/11/18 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Thinking about quitting my high salary/great benefits military career after 13 yearsI wanted to go EDO but when I was looking they didn’t have quotas. Yeah, SWO could be a good career but toxic leadership is rampant and they don’t want to change. It’s 80/20 at each major milestone and most of those that get out are the ones that you want to keep. It’s sad but I can’t fault people getting out. I saw an Ensign unqualified during a roadshow as Pers Actual the soonest he could redesignate. It was ballsy but I understood. | /r/askMRP | 03/10/18 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Thinking about quitting my high salary/great benefits military career after 13 yearsThere is no direction, lack of leadership and honestly I came in when SWOS in the Box was a “good idea”. That cynicism is hard to bury when it shows they give little regard about retaining the good ones and investing in the future SWOs. I can count on one hand the number of senior SWOs that I was inspired to follow. | /r/askMRP | 03/10/18 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Thinking about quitting my high salary/great benefits military career after 13 yearsI had the same thing. The community I was in (SWO) was literally looking like a Shit sandwich. I went into the Reserves because I wanted to serve with sailors. I find there is more agency in the Reserves as you get to apply for the EXACT jobs you want and can move anywhere. Tricare is $200 a month compared to $500. It is really good gig and the sailors that I lead are enthusiastic as fuck. Think about it... LT | /r/askMRP | 03/10/18 02:48 AM |
| 5 | FR: My Return; Dread, Frame, and AmusementThank you. I had been thinking about that day and preparing but I know my awareness is the best thing I moving forward and just bettering myself. Right now I’m looking for a career that I can excel in and just focus on myself. I think the RP is going to bleed over but I’m excited and motivated for this next phase. | /r/askMRP | 21/09/18 12:19 AM |
| 5 | FR: My Return; Dread, Frame, and AmusementProbably not, because I haven’t accused her directly but when I discussed “We don’t bring other people around our kid” she didn’t act surprise or defensive. She would have usually done this based off her MO. Also BP would have been hounding and mate defending etc to the point and now I’m doing DGAF. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/18 06:29 PM |
| 7 | FR: My Return; Dread, Frame, and AmusementShe was having an affair...not going back to that. Cuck would be knowing. About it and accepting it regardless to stay comfortable. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/18 04:03 PM |
| 7 | FR: My Return; Dread, Frame, and AmusementI agree with that. If it was mutually separated that would have been possible but scorched earth while I’m gone shows how little intention she had of truly getting back together. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/18 03:14 PM |
| 11 | FR: My Return; Dread, Frame, and AmusementI understand the point but when she zero’d our relationship and decided to have overnight camping trips with Jodie (read fuck) I decided that was dead. The issue that I have is that if I wasn’t deployed and found MRP it would be different but with that it’s a no go. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/18 02:46 PM |
| 12 | FR: My Return; Dread, Frame, and AmusementExactly. I think the biggest thing I have progressed in was my pushing out of my comfort zone and into new areas. I believe once you get comfortable being uncomfortable you have reached the new point. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/18 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?Thank you and appreciate the support. It definitely will be a battle but I feel I’m better prepared mentally and stoically than a year ago. Being able to see actions for true meanings is something appreciated and I have and will learn more from the RP tribe. I’m in a predicament as I am moving to a new city and don’t have a career lined up yet but I’m highly employable due to experience and network so I knew that was coming. I have apartments that are picked out and I will be moving in the next … | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Beta bux, alpha fux?Thank you. It was this observation that everything settled into place. The narcissism and the “me me me” was revolting but amusing. Fuck you Rollo for being so correct. I’ll admit that I’m melancholy about the whole thing knowing my daughter will be around that half of the time but that drives me to be greater than my old half. I’m going to lift, learn and motherfucking live because I know what I want and this is just a new phase in life. I can sit and jacking with my tears and blow my brain out… | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?But if no one has filed then your primary mission is to get $ in order Open new single accounts in your name. - Done. We have separate accounts with one joint that used for household. Flow only in from personal accounts and gets spent. This has been the way from the start. Transfer 1/2 money into it. - Money is already separated. There will be expenses for furnishing my apartment as there is nothing. Move direct deposit. - Direct Deposit is into my account, hers is into hers. Stop providing 1/2 … | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?I don’t. I mentioned it as it was amusing because it is literally inline with everything RP mentions. I knew the next scene before it played out. I’m meeting with my lawyer this week to review the papers. She hasn’t filed and I’ll be the first. Since she is the enemy how to I go about being an enemy and friend as a lot of people mention here. There has to be that balance since kids are involved and I have been getting differing suggestions. | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?Gotcha. Working the legal terms and I posted that late. I meet with my lawyer once I get back and he will help with the verbiage. The single fact that she doesn’t see the difference Financial between maintaining two homes vs one was frightening. | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 11:55 AM |
| 3 | Beta bux, alpha fux?Well I can I saw this tonight. With my pending separation or whatever you want to call it my wife brought up expenses. I informed her that I will be gladly willing to pay my fair and equal share of my daughters expenses. She went into talking about how is it different from me paying 2K a month into a joint account when I get back. Informed her that when I get back I’ll have a different career that pays less. I was paying for babysitters, extras, etc while I was deployed but she needs to be ready… | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?Talked to the wife recently. When we discussed it she was expecting me to keep paying 2K a month to the joint account for the bills when I told her 50/50 on expenses because. She flipped out. She stated she didn’t know how she will be able to survive on that. I told her I’m not going to finance the separation or her actions and we will work it out. There will be a transition but she didn’t think it through. I really saw the reality hit her in the face as we discussed it. I cut it short as I know… | /r/askMRP | 17/09/18 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?I feel for you. That is the biggest challenge that I will see is the effect on my relationship with my daughter but I feel that with MRP over the past year I have become more focused and shifted the perspective from others to me. Since I have been back a lot of my friends and family have noticed the change within me and my outlook. They are perplexed by my approach to the whole separation situation. Responses have been stoic and logical but they do push the "go to counseling and try to work it o… | /r/askMRP | 16/09/18 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?That is what I have read. I will keep it cordial through the process and ensure my needs will be fair and reasonable to the court. Since I am in the same city there will be no issues. The military obligations will have slight challenges but it should be clear and simple until her hind brain kicks in. I also have the financial backing of my parents if it gets ugly as they are HNW and don't want to see me get d-raped. | /r/askMRP | 16/09/18 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?This right there. I’ll accept only 50/50. I’ll be in the same town and only 20 minutes away but if my STBX thinks otherwise than she’s in for a rude awakening. I’m keeping it cordial and light and airy in order to avoid any miscommunication over my needs. I’ll meet with my lawyer this week or next to pretty much set the rules. She still thinks that she can swing between branches but I’m cutting the one off that she’s holding on to. I already have trips planned for the kid and I and the wife is o… | /r/askMRP | 16/09/18 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Almost Home: Advice on how to return to empty home and kid separation?Thank you and I appreciate it. I have my MAP and I’m moving forward with ease from my wife but the relationship with my daughter I want to ensure a lasting foundation. My daughter is 4 and she is smart but it will still be hard. I’m on the road and I cannot wait to get back into the gym but you are right the long term is the better and will have an awesome outcome! | /r/askMRP | 16/09/18 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Emotional affairs?I’ll tell you from personal experience. My wife had one because I went BP and she was an alpha widow. The guy she had is overweight and a drunk but the thing she mentioned when I called her out it was all the things RP tells you. She stated she wanted to “escape” and he had DGAF attitude and it was exciting. It was literally about the feels. See my other posts how she fell onto Jodie’s cock while I was deployed. Since I have pretty much shedded her, she has gone crazy as I have moved to a DGAF a… | /r/askMRP | 14/09/18 11:55 PM |
| 5 | Women and Sex: Its Not Intimacy, its PowerThis is the truth. The last years have been borderline DB. I can not fault her as I was BP as she was withdrawing from me. I became what she didn’t want but due to that false idea of “love for who you are” it allowed me to get complacent and she wondered. Now, months ago she mentioned she wanted to separate. She had found herself and was happy and didn’t want anything to take her down. I was on deployment so it made it easy for her. She bought her own house and has moved out. She is so excited r… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/09/18 12:08 PM |
| 4 | how to get energized and motivationGet rid of the gaming system, kill the cable and go lift. I had the same issue and it took me going nuclear holocaust in them to get rid of the distractions. | /r/askMRP | 13/09/18 01:00 PM |
| 2 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Appreciate the response. That is the way I am looking at it. I have seen single dads just waste away when their kid is gone and rightly so I am not in their shoes. Right now I am just looking at the best 50/50 schedule right now. I haven’t heard a peep from her but a friend ran into her and stated she looked “worried/exhausted”. Might be with me coming home or something but who knows. Right now I am looking at getting back into town and settled. I have my goals to knock out and it will feel good… | /r/askMRP | 12/09/18 09:26 PM |
| 1 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Copy. | /r/askMRP | 05/09/18 10:30 AM |
| 1 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Thank you. I know it sucks being deployed because of the impact it has but the red flags I saw really were simplified by being away. The requests for cash were the only time she really insisted on contacting me and minimized the convo. I was really amused by it all hit if I hadn’t found RP it would have been worse. | /r/askMRP | 05/09/18 12:45 AM |
| 2 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Well how did you find about it? Something you search for? | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 10:56 PM |
| 2 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Actually that is not the whole picture. I chased her last year into an emotional affair, which broke the pedestal. I found MRP then and worked towards it. I withdrew some of my attention to mirror hers. I deployed and late learned that she had a Jodie on the sidelines as I was gone. She ended up withdrawing all attention and while I tried to initiate based on the guidance here I started to NGaF. When she notified me that she was separating and buying a house and wanted us to “date” I reacted in … | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 04:59 PM |
| 1 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...That is true. I’m talking about the focus on the MAP when you leave your daughter for the first time. | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 02:03 PM |
| 1 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...The military does have this and I sat in a circle and talked to a shrink. He was surprised about my composure and approach to the whole situation with the STBX. I wouldn’t say empowered but just noticing and amused at how noticeable things are now. A year ago I wouldn’t have been able to spot the shift. | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 02:01 PM |
| 3 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...She has moved out of a rental that we got when we moved and prior to me deploying as she also took the daughter to the new place. I had no control over that in that sense. I’m definitely going to get my shit up to speed as I’m going to a new town without a job but it won’t be hard to get one. I will coordinate the 50/50 to show that I am capable of doing it when I am not deployed before dropping the papers. We are a military town so there are some judges that look down upon wives leaving their h… | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 10:18 AM |
| 1 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Got a lawyer. Meeting once I get back in town. I have a lot going on but I got my focus. I have to find a place, furnish it, find a job, and lawyer up. | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 01:09 AM |
| 2 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...That pretty much covered it. I’ll be meeting with my lawyer once I get back in town. I have so much going on but it’s baby steps. Visited my best friend over the weekend and he was amazed how I was taking it. I tried to get him on the RP a while ago but it’s too hitter for him. | /r/askMRP | 04/09/18 12:28 AM |
| 3 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...Haha gotcha. Was typing while waiting. I think Tony Robbins is unavail. | /r/askMRP | 03/09/18 08:11 PM |
| 3 | How to handle separation from child? Wife is spinning off the wheel...That could be true. Though the raping will be lubed as I have a prenup that was entered into the courts and remains valid. The non-aggressive is more a mirror as my lawyer has drafted papers up and we will set up meditation. She is stating in her mind this is a “trial” but she could be lying. I’m looking for those that have gone through it how to handle the first visit with the kid. | /r/askMRP | 03/09/18 07:28 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?Gotcha. I guess the term I was thinking was scorched mother fucking earth, ala Lex Grossman. | /r/askMRP | 21/08/18 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Cucquean ex?Nope. Don't do it...she is trying to draw you back into her frame because she thinks that you are better than before. My STBX is doing the same thing, while going on dates with Jodie...she thinks everything is honky doory... | /r/askMRP | 21/08/18 10:00 AM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?Damn that’s deep. Definitely wife and I grew apart and I’ll accept my responsibility. Most guys don’t and they won’t move on. She is a good mom but again we moved away as partners. Fuck me right? | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 08:13 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?You are right on the multiple points. Since I can say I’m glad I found the RP before this deployment. I saw her actions coming from afar and her words didn’t match them. At first it was pissing me off but the more I read and understood the psyche of women it got me more amused. Did it suck hearing my wife effectively was seeing someone? Yup did it prove my assumptions right ? Yup. Did her follow on actions after that and his include align with everything in a typical affair? Yup, so it’s not tha… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 06:50 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?I am not expecting resistance but women flip like the wind. She is understanding that in the idea that she has pretty much fucked my plans up for returning home to my family and does seem genuine about it. It must be my lack of emotional outburst and reaction that is causing her brain to scram. I have work to do as I need to find an apartment (plan to buy a place in a 1-2 years); a new job (won't be hard), and just get settled as I told her to take all the furnishings. Per the advice, I am going… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 01:56 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?The initial plan of visitation to see my daughter. Most separations have it where the dad was in the house and is out of the house. I’ll have been gone a year and now I’ll be coming back. My daughter won’t understand why daddy is back and now gone. Wife doesn’t have a plan proposed so I’m leading in that. I want at least two nights together where I’ll drop her off for bed as I won’t do overnights in the rental house until I get situated in my apartment. | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 01:45 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?That is what I needed to hear. Everybody is like “work it ou” and “marriage is hard but with it” from parents and such. When I hint at Jody their tone changes. I’m looking at gyms and hobbies and again very excited for the new life and at the same hopeful she won’t go succubus like her mother did but who knows. As I type this I realize that everyone of the females in her moms side of the family is divorced...damn | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 09:55 AM |
| 2 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?You are absolutely right. I wish I had the RP but moving forward if it does happen I’ll definitely do greater vetting. I believe for me it was the typical BP shit of She completes me - now it’s compliments She is great and perfect - now it’s she is who she is. She will love me for me - now it’s it’s for what I am She will be loyal to me - now it’s hypergamy is a bitch I have to say that the pill is bitter but it is needed. I think that the more I disconnect from this relationship and see what wo… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 02:21 AM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?On it. Somebody else being a mirror and then providing the freedom so she desires but the more I look at it the more I know it’s the best outcome since finding the RP. Should have saw the signs before as her parents are divorced in the sense that the homes were filled with drama and ill intent towards her dad from her mom. That pretty much fucked her emotions up. Her dad is a good man and it will be sad day as our relationship will change but I know he will always side with daughter. I’ll defini… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 02:14 AM |
| 2 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?This is so true. I guess it’s the BP trying to come back up, but in the end it is dead. I’ll request mediation and be her friend through it in order to not get raped and such. It is not a surprise because realizing now she did this before years ago and I’m just laughing at it. This time my daughter is involved. I’m focusing on myself and keeping busy as fuck and building the life I want. I find a lot of men that go through this hole themselves up in their apartments and give them time to hamster… | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 02:07 AM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?Deployed, wife is having an affair, informed me she’s separating, but wants to do a “trial separation and date again” when I get back. Coming home to empty house and new life. The readings state the prearranged outcome of the “trial separation” is used to place the blame on the jilted one in order for the cheater to have a clear conscience. I’m not entertaining that. Old BP me would most likely had. The major hurdle I’m trying to get over is the homecoming and how to transition into pretty much … | /r/askMRP | 18/08/18 01:45 AM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?That’s true. I meant my relationship with my daughter as she is my light. I understand me first but her innocence as of now is the driving factor to be the lighthouse if that makes sense. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/18 09:00 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?That’s right. I think with her request for “trial separation” that I would entertain it. I have my MAP and will be acting in it. I will say 48 Laws of Power is definite keeper and it is fucking solid. Needs to be converted to 48 Laws of RP | /r/askMRP | 17/08/18 07:37 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?That’s true. I guess in her mind she’s not playing family but going to lunch with a friend. My wife and most women probably don’t see it in the idea that if roles were switched she would she the issue with it. I am putting my daughter first, then me, then everybody fucking else. Before it was me at the end being Mr. Nice Guy but how things change when you see how people are. Btw I have a prenup, which the lawyer has reviewed and will stand up, and getting everything aligned when I get home. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/18 05:02 PM |
| 1 | The more I read, the more I detach from my StBX. How not to go autistic and Rambo?It’s not easy knowing that while I’m deployed Chad is playing father to my child. When the question is asked: Why? Would it be DEERing to point out everything she’s done over the years or let her think about it? | /r/askMRP | 17/08/18 04:54 PM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingThanks for update. I adjusted my blades and did some stretching and so far good. Not where I want to be but I don’t have the issue with wanting to open due to weight. | /r/askMRP | 16/08/18 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Make new couple friends?Second meetup. Being in the military it’s hell making friends outside work as hours suck and you have the tick tock of the PCS clock. I’m finally staying in one place for good and I’m on meetup to see opportunities to make friends | /r/askMRP | 13/08/18 06:07 PM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyThat’s exactly what I’m thinking. I get what you mean and the parenting plan is what I’m working out. I just find it amusing and infuriating at the same time. Just making sure it’s all covered. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/18 08:31 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyThis is the conundrum. If I call out it’s mate guarding and she’ll know I got a PI in the past. If I don’t it can give me the high ground for keeping it cordial prior to filing papers. When a girl doesn’t tell you about her “friend” she’s been hanging with for months until after she tells you she wants to separate it’s a sign. Add in the covering the tracks it points towards it. My main focus is my MAP and my daughter. After I get back and sit down with her I’ll know. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/18 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Latent anger - thought I was past it; wife may have cheatedYup. Once you destroy the pedestal and truly emotionally detach from the hope of it not being true you start to see the real truth. I’m keeping it cordial and friendly as I still need an ally as she is the mother to my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/18 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Latent anger - thought I was past it; wife may have cheatedI haven’t but all signs point towards it. 95% of her free time they are together. They even had breakfast together with my daughter. My father got a PI because he felt the same thing as he is slight RP and didn’t even tell me about it until recently. Pops has seen the deployment boyfriend before but with their overnights and such it would be ignorant to say it isn’t it. Father has setup the PI to do drivebys at the new place once they get moved in but we will see. | /r/askMRP | 03/08/18 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Latent anger - thought I was past it; wife may have cheatedTrust me, I know how it feels. I have three experiences with my SBX that I only are able to see through the lies to see her actions. The trust just isn't there because every time it starts is when I am gone doing military things. The BP me would want to work through it and all that but now I just sit amused. My MIL called me and we discussed things. She is disappointed with how my wife is doing things and wants us to work through it. She also explained how my wife stated shes doing her big dream… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/18 05:25 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyThanks. I sometimes review my old posts and I can see the evolution of my thinking the focus of MAP. I find it new territory for me in the fact that I acknowledge my BP past and I am moving forward with the RP COA. It is something enlightening and challenging to the norm at the same time. I have my dad pad, furnishings and everything ready to go. I have enough FU cash to not to worry about it. I am planning trips that I would use to check with the gatekeeper, and now that I don't it is like "Oh … | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 08:17 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyDamn right. This is what I need my pops can be there or not but definitely I have to say it is something surprising but amusing at the same time. I am 90% aligned with everything to hit the ground running and get my focus on my MAP aligned with reality if that makes sense. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 06:10 AM |
| 2 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyThat fucking hurt like a good workout...good but damn it burns deep. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 06:08 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyGotcha, I meant that for the time being only focus will be myself and my daughter being the only female in my life. She's 4 and innocent but once Mother Nature comes to visit I know it will change. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 06:07 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyYes, and the kid is mine I know that for sure. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/18 04:30 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyYou are absolutely correct on that assumption. I had two plates this weekend with one literally typing "Coffee", my place or yours. I had a knack to want to go and just ravish but it appeared at the time to be a sense of external validation in the sense like "Oh my SBX doesn't want me, I'm going to find someone who does" and back down that rabbit hole. I'm going to keep going down this path but I am going to make sure that I'm doing it for right reasons and not out of external validation that a … | /r/askMRP | 01/08/18 04:52 AM |
| 2 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyReading back at that I am embarrassed by that phrase. | /r/askMRP | 01/08/18 04:48 AM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyThe only girl that is on a pedestal and will remain is my daughter. I realized this reading an article about the only woman that you should put on your pedestal is your daughter(s) but in a way that teaches them a balance between BP/RP aka the Oak. | /r/askMRP | 01/08/18 04:48 AM |
| 2 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyExactly. I’m listening to it right now and have to say they should do 48 Laws of divorce as it is very applicable. | /r/askMRP | 31/07/18 05:48 PM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familyThanks. It is a Spainish soap opera. I will agree with you there is a slight ghost of the chance because of my daughter but the closer I get to returning I feel that things will be tried but I'll be following my MAP. I am working the last line and still thinking about it. I am trying to figure out whats the hang up is... | /r/askMRP | 31/07/18 02:21 PM |
| 1 | FR: Grabbed coffee for the first time in 7 years...lessons confirmed: AWALT...and SBX visits the familySBX-Soon to be X. Mean that how not to be autistic while amused that her plan is going to not work out how she thought? My focus is my daughter and I want to avoid SBX imprinting on my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 30/07/18 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?Appreciate the response. When I posted that, it was something new. The fact that this woman was something I craved for now was to me indifferent if she stayed or go. The amusement was something surprising at how easy it to accept it and be like "Is this AA?" you know that meme with the butterfly or something like that. The past week was great, opened up 3 HBs just to approach. Had an HB7 take me out last night and it was different but as I am sitting there with her I realized AWALT as she starte… | /r/askMRP | 29/07/18 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?haha, gotcha. I didn't know with the way sometimes comments read. You are exactly right in that sense. Thanks for the clarification. Btw I wasn't expecting anything but damn it was again a nice chuckle. | /r/askMRP | 25/07/18 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?Are you talking about me and covert contracts or the other thing? I had people I haven't talked to in years reach out and actually have a convo. Can you clarify? | /r/askMRP | 25/07/18 10:53 AM |
| 3 | I just don't knowYou are alive...welcome back. btw just saw your message. | /r/askMRP | 25/07/18 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?That is true. I guess that detachment is the fact that I smirk sometimes thinking about it. I will see how big that hammer is. Note: Birthday was recent, and all I got was a text...got to love it. | /r/askMRP | 25/07/18 06:34 AM |
| 2 | Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?Agreed about validation and request. I thought the same thing posting it but RP readings are well and said but wanted to see what were actual experiences of those and the outcomes. | /r/askMRP | 24/07/18 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?Agreed. I think the actuality of the situation compared to the readings and how they align is what is keeping me amused. I guess I'll build on that as how do I not come off retarded when I am getting smitten by the whole process? | /r/askMRP | 24/07/18 12:52 PM |
| 4 | For those who called me out yesterday...Oh wow...keyboard fucking warrior right here boys. | /r/askMRP | 17/07/18 06:07 PM |
| 3 | For those who called me out yesterday...You missed the point. I met guys that are rippped as fuck but not alpha. Met guys that are not ripped but alpha. Met people with both and are super alpha. | /r/askMRP | 17/07/18 06:01 PM |
| 4 | For those who called me out yesterday...Alpha is not a body type but a mind type... | /r/askMRP | 17/07/18 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Dating With Kids After DivorceI have to agree with them. It shows little respect for the fact that woman, regardless of what she did, will always be your child's mother. That is a childish and immature way of treating your child's mother. Big the bigger man and call her your child's mother. | /r/askMRP | 16/07/18 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Haha, I don't know if I can pull that off verbatim but I get the point. That is one thing that as I slowly swallowed the pill and forced it down the initial red flags were more disappointing, then the PI finding it reinforced it. It was a little more anger, but the more I read I became amused as she was doing what is expected of her to the T. When she mentioned that she was buying a house, I was like wow that's interesting. She then went into the "epiphany" phase and "we have been growing apart"… | /r/askMRP | 16/07/18 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Haha that is what I chuckled at. The amusing thing is that I saw this coming. She had mentioned camping this weekend to her mom who mentioned to my mom who mentioned to me. She hadn’t mentioned it to me as it was her opportunity to get Jody’s cock without the kid. I appreciate that fact haha. Also Jody’s actions after our discussion made it even more amusing. Moving forward I’ll won’t call her out and just provide papers. So many red flags it looks like a Communist rally, yet at the same time I’… | /r/askMRP | 16/07/18 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...I try, it’s more of gathering intel so Jody is confirmed so I don’t play the trial separation game, though it will be led on that I am. | /r/askMRP | 16/07/18 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...I care if she leaves her with a babysitter overnight and when before she would tell me weeks prior of her plans. It was more of a pick for her reasoning, not really the action. I also schedule my weekly FaceTime with my daughter and the fact she didn’t mention it wouldn’t happen is another red flag. | /r/askMRP | 16/07/18 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...That is solid. I won't throw shit around because it shows weakness but the stoic "Actions has reactions" or "Infidelities has collateral damage" is the another good one. I am focused on building a relationship with my daughter. I cannot make up for the year that I have been away but definitely she will be the center of my actions. SBX was a child of divorce (red flag) and her mom was cancerous putting venom in her ear about trying to get her to hate her dad (He filed for divorce). That can be a … | /r/askMRP | 15/07/18 08:57 AM |
| 2 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Exactly. I at first agreed with it in the sense that some aspects were right about not wanting the BP me back, but her insecurities and guilt bled through. She was bringing up trivial things like me going to the gym, I’m probably sleeping with girls out here, etc. when she started singing that I knew something big happened between her and Jody. I mean she went on a 30 minute rant about “her and she” in which she never mentioned our daughter. I told her a trial separation was the deployment itsel… | /r/askMRP | 15/07/18 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...You are exactly right. The family and friends will ask but it is expected of them. The Jody will get it as they always do but again focus on my daughter is the goal. For when the family does ask is it okay to explain or not? | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...This. Greene states you need to put a facade on sometimes when you want to get a different outcome. SBX honestly thinks I’m going to entertain a “trial separation” when I’ll have my plan in place. I’m minimizing the emotions within our limited discussions. I haven’t done a “OMg take me back. What can I do?!?” And I won’t as that BP is buried deep. I have my plans for the first 8 weeks I’m back, as I have stacks of things to do and will focus on those in front. My issue with planning I was thinki… | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Haha that is true. Jody would be the term for the guy that fucks your wife because she lets him when you are thousand of miles away. I think I might be the first person for this to happen to...<sarcastic> | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Win at what? The divorce or life? I’m going to execute my MAP and life plan as I will. I’m going to build my new life as I want it to. My focus is my daughter and then me and after that anybody else. | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Lol, preworkout was kicking in and Slipknot was playing. The 48 Laws reference a lot of war so it bled through. Strike = Act | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...I'll agree with you on this. I'll be juggling so many things getting back that it is one last thing on top of it. The good ole Chad conundrum is it. I think the Chad will realize that "Well shit, she cheated on him, she will cheat on me". She will realize that emotional comfort and validation from a BP. Her good old orbiter that she has had for years just got engaged so he is going to be out the door. I just find it amusing how everything is playing out to the T that RP describes. I chuckle at i… | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...Fuck, my hamster spun up on that. You are right. How would one go about saying that her bringing Chad around my daughter is not right? I know she will go and deny but letting it be known it is not acceptable is what I’m trying to get at. | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 08:29 AM |
| 1 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...You are exactly right. I’m not going to do it and now I could care less for my wife’s actions but for bringing Chad around my daughter will be a boundary I’ll have to enforce. | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 08:06 AM |
| 3 | Advice: Call out Chad or keep quiet until home while I am deployed? Papers are being generated...This is what I’m doing. Got a lot of RP within the 48 Laws, which is awesome. Being in the military we learn how to see actions through FB. Previously I stated how my SBX and Chad were covering their trails by deleting on FB the events that they had gone to. It was like “and why would they do that?” After my talk with SBX, Chad went in and changed his privacy settings to hide all events from non-friends. If that doesn’t say anything that’s funny. And with that I’m done FB cruising. | /r/askMRP | 14/07/18 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Are there women out there who won't ever disrespect you?Next? | /r/askMRP | 11/07/18 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?You are right. After I posted that I realized that I want it to be cordial through the process in order to minimize the drama. | /r/askMRP | 11/07/18 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?You are right. After I posted that I realized that I want it to be cordial through the process. | /r/askMRP | 11/07/18 07:52 PM |
| 4 | Rambo'd comfort test. Move back in or give her space? (Long post, TLDR)That is a fucking RED FLaG like a May Day parade in Soviet Russia. That's coming from me. First flag my wife flew when she got home from a vacation. | /r/askMRP | 11/07/18 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Hahaha I have to say at first I didn't know what that acro is but you are correct. I believe she emotionally divorced me a year ago and played the game well... | /r/askMRP | 10/07/18 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?I would have done the "I know" | /r/askMRP | 09/07/18 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?That is what I am doing. Right now sitting at the JAG and ensuring I have my plan and COAs ready. I believe that she doesn't think that I'm prepping papers and my exit. Not to be vindicated but taking agency of your own divorce is really exhilarating to a degree. Cannot explain it but the more I talk about it the better I feel about killing the puppy. | /r/askMRP | 09/07/18 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Yeah, I think her hamster is spinning in the sense she is terrified about her new life. I have to say it is absolutely amusing in seeing things how they are. She never would be the first to say it and she was rushed to get it in after I talked to my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 09/07/18 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Fuck, good question. Still asking myself that. | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Update Had FaceTime with the daughter and enjoyed the hell out of it. She's growing up so much over the year. Looking forward to building our relationship with her. Wife took over and discussed her career and all that shit. She mentioned how buying a house is terrifying and grownup. I just listened while she went on about nonsense. It really is amazing when you start seeing people for who they are and how other people view them. I noticed that she could talk nonstop about herself. Fuck me it's u… | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Agreed. I would when it came down to it. The immediate emotion of her doing something wrong wears out. | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Can't ghost them now as papers haven't been signed. I am applying some of the Laws that I'm learning about in order to not show my hand and gain the advantage. Greene has some solid fucking advice on this but you are correct. | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?This is the biggest thing. I know his daughter will always come first though I can tell he is genuinely caring about the situation and trying to remain neutral. He is a great FIL and with my dads Alzheimer's he is more of a father than my stepdad. | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Exactly, that is what I'm keeping in my mind. Don't be a dick and give ammo given the feminist leaning judicial system. I'm "stashing" a retainer and doing some spending as required. | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Advice on handling Father-in-Law during separation?Gotcha. You're right about the frame. I know she's dumped me mentally but can't ghost as of now as it's not finalized. I have been pushing towards minimal communication and only logistics on my part. I also understand the family, again it's not finalized and as per the advice I have found that the bigger man is what pays dividends. | /r/askMRP | 08/07/18 02:32 PM |
| 1 | How to handle this?lol didn't see it. It's late. | /r/askMRP | 05/07/18 06:50 AM |
| 1 | How to handle this?Yes and I did. What would you recommend to him? She is acting like a child. | /r/askMRP | 05/07/18 06:32 AM |
| 1 | How to handle this?Take my advice with a grain of salt. AA that, "Why are you insecure? Is there something you want to tell me about?" or "Babe she's my backup plan if you fail" wink wink. or something on the line of that. My wife found a message from an old flame from a decade ago. She flipped out on me and everything. I was amused and I told her straight to the point the girl ghosts and comes out of the blue. I didn't get angry that my wife went onto my Facebook or anything. Later on she kept bringing it up and … | /r/askMRP | 05/07/18 04:20 AM |
| 1 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...The reason has I thought a thread was AskRP related in context and posted in it with AskRP context when it was in MRP. Also was BP bleeding in the messages from a certain mod. | /r/askMRP | 04/07/18 03:42 PM |
| 1 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...What I meant from that is that her actions vice her words show her intent. I'm moving forward with drafting separation papers. | /r/askMRP | 28/06/18 07:50 AM |
| 1 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...Thank you, I'll reach out. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 05:53 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...Yeah, I'm looking into posts about being the Gray Stone as my focus is on my daughter. She is my guidance and light now. I would say the victim version of me really did not allocate the time and care for her as I was worried too much on my bitch ass self. Moving forward it will definitely be my focus now to be the best father and man to her. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 05:18 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...I'm meeting with the JAG next week to see the best process for this as I'm overseas. I'm going to put the lawyer on retainer and work that aspect. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 05:16 PM |
| 1 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...Pretty much availability of child during separation while divorce is pending? | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 05:14 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...Copy. The talking was during a FaceTime with my daughter as I'm deployed and I'll bend the rules a bit to see my kid. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 05:13 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...You are correct. By actions I mean more of the actual action of her mentioning vice the context. I'm not listening to her message but the fact that she is talking to cover the guilt per the advice. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 04:36 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...That's exactly what raised my eyebrow and was like she's lying to me and herself. She's trying to save herself because I'll be frank if somebody asks me. She's literally not giving me an opportunity and so it's like why even kid ourselves!? | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 04:00 PM |
| 3 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...Damn right. That's why her actions over deployment have been speaking more than words. She is still thinking I'm not aware of AWALT. I did tell her taking the easy route out goes against the "vows" she wants to work towards. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 03:49 PM |
| 3 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...Absolutely. I'm with you on this. Me playing along is me holding my cards close to my chest until I get back. I'm getting my finances in order as I have some time. I'm already budgeting what I can live off and it's looking well. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 03:48 PM |
| 3 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...I agree with the deployment being a trial separation in a sense. I feel that the old me (Oct) is what she is leaving vs. the new me which she is not aware of in a sense. I will have the remainder of the rental, she will have a house that she bought but my name is on the title and deed so I could effectively due domicile but fuck that. The cheating thing is there are red flags all over which in the past turned out not to be. They were red flags due to my insecurities and so it is what it is. Her … | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 01:47 PM |
| 3 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...That is a possibility. Again I analyzed multiple "Trial Separations" posts and it is literally used for the woman to push blame to the man. Now if the man gives two shits about it and is ready to NEXT it isn't such an impact or weapon, but if you take the bullets out of the gun it doesn't wound anyone. My main focus is myself and my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 12:20 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...I was thinking about that. There is no family in the area that could pick my daughter up but still I haven't found a "trial separation with kids" plan. I would rather develop something to present to the wife but I don't know where to start. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 12:16 PM |
| 3 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...That was based of her saying she wanted to focus on our vows and such, which I responded with if you want that, do it but change your mind and I'm gone. I still believe in martial vows unless I come home and Chad's balls deep in her. I saw that advice on a post relating to trial separations. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 12:15 PM |
| 2 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...You are correct. I think the calm/chuckle is the amusement of the realization that if this happened a year ago I would be breaking shit, cussing, being depressed, etc etc. The test will come when I see her and the kid. I think that is something that I will need to accept based off what happens but it is something that will come regardless. Control your actions and reactions. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 11:17 AM |
| 1 | [Update 3] Trial Separation, Frame, and Lawyers...I'm banned from MRP some reason. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/18 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayThe Purple Pill is what I see with the balance within the MRP. I had a PUA friend too who was per Rollo a Paper Alpha, so I understand what you mean. Her job is quiet reliable/stable and I can see her holding it down. I couldn't keep her a SAHM when she wanted to. She sees a job as freedom so whatever. I'm going to reach out some lawyers and push for 50/50 custody and expenses, along with no alimony. Our prenup covers the division of assets so that will be something easy. You are right about the… | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayThat is the mission. I am sorting everything out since I have a lot on my plate but I'm going to be focused moving forward. It is weird as I am liking the idea of being single again. The more I think about the "dating" I know it is for that "Well I tried but he didn't <fill in excuse>"I think what she wants me to do is go get strange and be like "Look at him see what he did...blah blah blah" Laughable. It is funny and sad because I know of other men that could have benefited from the RP if they … | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Why I come here everydayI did sleep on this as I am 7 hours ahead of the EC. The more I reflect on it and the more advice and knowledge that is brought my way you guys are correct. I am looking at lawyers to do this where it's winning solution for me. The chosen path is on me. This is definitely the time for OI not pussy footing around. She did kill the puppy and she is in the process of branch swinging. She wants to be the "better" person and she can feel all she wants but not my concern. I will reach out to draft up … | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayBingo, she thinks she's dealing with old me. The more I put shit down here the better the knowledge. | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Why I come here everydayYou can't put a number to it but you can assign equal custody pending DV or anything like that. | /r/askMRP | 20/06/18 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayI meant he told me RP ideas before I knew what RP was. | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Why I come here everydayYou are correct. She wants to protect her image in front of our daughter and given the fact that she has had her alone for almost a year doesn't level the playing field. I'll be the best damn dad, and coparent but I will not go back on her terms. Btw did you guys know about something called Tinder? /sarcasm | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayYou are right. I did fall for that support shit but I mean this is a year in the making and hindsight being 20/20 I find it slightly amusing. I'll be frank that if I hadn't swallowed the pill last year, I would be a fucking mess, but now its a chuckle. I wanted the best for us but I can assume being a Beta Bitch for years wore on her. You can't move forward if you don't own it. I did talk to her father tonight, and suprisingly out of the blue he stated "I love my daughter but she is her mother" … | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayTo clarify: Luxe apartment means a nice apartment not on the other side of the railroad tracks. I'm stacking cash and I have a trust available that she cannot touch. I'll be making 2x the amount of her, and our prenup states no alimony if separated by her decision and within 8 years of marriage (sitting at 6). Child support per prenup is 50/50 with cost and custody. I am looking at locking up assets in different ways. I understand the drive that will be engaged when I throw the wall up and her h… | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 04:32 PM |
| 3 | Why I come here everydayYes, she doesn't want to be the bad person because her father sided with me. Fucked up right? | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Why I come here everydayYou are absolutely right. Can't agree more. She will get a place of her own. I'm going to move forward with looking at nice apartments near campus and the hospitals. Got to love how you start seeing it. | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayI'm not paying for her house. She got her dream career and so she decided to buy a house. Her choices are extremely emotionally driven. AWALT am I right? You are right about the house. I'm going to rent a nice place and purchase some items I want. I have a prenup that actually covers my entire network he because I hit some debt recently and so it's actually "less" then when I got married if that makes sense. It is a conundrum sometimes with RP... | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Why I come here everydayYou may be right as CC could be around (assume it is) and that is an idea I'm running. I think she could be using the "let's date" even though she has the outcome decided regardless of what I do. This would allow her to push the blame to me for "failure". I do entertain that. I'm thinking of how to go about cutting it off without seeming to be vengeful as the kid is involved. Hard to explain things to a 4 year old. I find it funny when I realize I'm with a blank canvas right now and with the adv… | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Why I come here everydayThat is what I'm thinking. She didn't say what the "plan" was with the kid but I'm getting my plan together. The buying a house is very permanent, and while we are renting a house now, I'm looking as should I buy or rent a luxe apartment. The renting looks like me thinking it's temporary but whatever. I'll date but I'm not going to be a serial monogamist, and at the same time focus on myself and my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Why I come here everydayI agree with you. Per my update she had mentioned days prior that she was thinking about getting a place for her and our daughter. Next conversation was she had put an offer in and it got accepted. I was pretty much taken back but the RP had taught me to see it coming. I told her it wasn't ideal but I heard her out (STFU) and I AA'd because I agreed with her. She hit on the fear of BP me coming back and ruining her fun. Can't fault that or she is hiding guilt from possible CC. Didn't get angry, … | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 12:17 PM |
| 3 | Why I come here everydayRead my posts and you will see what is going on in my life. Listen you aren't the only one going through shit but you are the only one who can fix that shit. Stop with the victimhood and you will be free of it their influence. I realized that when you kill the victimhood idea you will be within your frame. My wife recently told me she is buying a house and wants to do a trial separation and have us date again. Is she genuine about it? Not sure but the RP has taught me to know where this is comin… | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 11:19 AM |
| 8 | Getting divorced, don't feel like sexFlip that 6 to a 9 and have fun... | /r/askMRP | 19/06/18 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Haha thanks. I'm transitioning careers but we have a prenup that says if she leaves no alimony unless after 10 years. I'll have child support but that's no issue. | /r/askMRP | 17/06/18 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Agreed. That could be it, but I do believe found her new self because she finally got her foot in the door at the career she has always wanted since we first started dating. I know she is very driven and exact and this was a part of "our" plan for me to deploy and have a reset. Pretty much she achieved her part of the plan and is now kicking me out so I can't ruin it being the BP bitch that I was. I truly can't fault her, she thinks that I am the same guy that left. I am finding myself amused by… | /r/askMRP | 17/06/18 09:26 AM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Agreed. I was more thinking about doing the FV of the college tution and apply that to the "package". Minimize the raping if it comes to it. | /r/askMRP | 17/06/18 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Update 2: WOW...So she bought a house...I'm quite surprised...Thank you for the advice. She did put an offer for a house that her Dad helped her with. She is also is putting my name on the title which surprises me but I guess her Dad might have swayed her. She wouldn't have if she was steadfast. I'll call him for Father's day but apparently, she talked to him a couple weeks ago but I am a little peeved about that but loyalty is where it is. She and the kid moved back to the city we met in. We had planned it to coincide with my deployment. It would allow he… | /r/askMRP | 14/06/18 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Update 2: WOW...So she bought a house...I'm quite surprised...Thanks, I think I made it more melodramatic about in the post but it was a blend of AA/Fog/Neg and minimum defensiveness. Old me would have been like "OMG how can you do this blah blah...cry cry...whatever. I liked it...hell surprised me. | /r/askMRP | 14/06/18 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Update 2: WOW...So she bought a house...I'm quite surprised...She bought a house but she is putting my name on it. As for CC that's always a possibility regardless of any situation. The money can be delayed but it will be going into a Trust and designated non-martial by the Trustee and the state. You are absolutely correct about the possibility. I'm will have OI but I will attempt to reconcile for the sake of my daughter but if it's a hard nope, I will be happier at 50/50. | /r/askMRP | 14/06/18 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Update 2: WOW...So she bought a house...I'm quite surprised...I know...but I'll tell you this, I felt prepared for it. | /r/askMRP | 14/06/18 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Update 2: WOW...So she bought a house...I'm quite surprised...You are right. I rather not get divorced rape if I could manage it. The she was about her reaction and her views that align with RP... | /r/askMRP | 14/06/18 07:46 PM |
| 5 | Am I being insensitive here?This was me. I had a well paying job that I self victimized and carried a lot of negative energy home. Took it out on my wife and kid and I'm responsible for it. I cared too much about my job and trying to fix everything. I remember how it gave me a 140/100 BP and a shitload of weight gain. I was ugly and no wonder why my wife thought I was a bitch. Women think emotionally and if you drop negative emotions on them they will look elsewhere... | /r/askMRP | 14/06/18 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Copy. I have been hitting the gym everyday and finished RM all three years. The question I have is this...when do you decide to fight or go? I think the RP leans toward going but if you want to fight for it do you or just pack sand? | /r/askMRP | 12/06/18 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Actually it broke | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Haha, I did 120 days off of Somalia for one deployment in middle of summer on a broke dick Ship. But yes I agree it's different. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...We need to be married for 10 years for claim of pension. Also JAG avoids divorce cases unless it's abuse of a power of attorney which they don't allow generals anymore. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...That could be the case. Right now it would be about $900 a month per the official Florida calculator. She makes very emotional decisions (AWALT) before realizing the cost. If it gets nasty, it is self inflicting as lawyer costs take away from her cut. I will get 50/50...plain and simple. I won't take anything less and I would not hesitate to leverage her father to obtain it. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...That is the thing. I know the FV of money as I am transitioning to be a Financial Advisor and studying the cost of college and FV. I'm going to lump sum it because it will benefit both of us, but at the same time make it simpler. Again if it gets to that point I will be ready. Who knows...maybe the hamster will die, which it won't. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 01:59 PM |
| 3 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...I'm going to play the "I'm independent" and offer a lump sum, and I'll pay the child support along with the college. We will discuss it and if it is amicably I'll try to avoid the lawyers but we will see. Hypergamy can be a bitch. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...To clarify some things - MAP - My finances, relationship with my daughter, my gameplan. Lifting - Goal is to train - I have cut weight and gain sized. I workout 6 days a week and I'm finally balancing my diet. Learning - Finishing MAP, reading the stoics, and completing my college courses. Living - For going home to nothing, I meant starting new in a new city. I have been cracking smiles knowing that RP is better preparing me than those BP. I'm going to see where it goes, but I think I know the … | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...I meant by ghosting as not chasing her. Not running to be BP take me back because this could be a farce and falling into her frame. I have spent the day looking at my options and reading up on many great posts here about the movements. I honestly think that it will be amicably because her parents divorce was nasty as fuck but I could leverage that if it gets to that point. We will see if it is a separation morphing into a divorce which I think it will be given the possible CC but as of now I hav… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 12:47 PM |
| 1 | I left my home/wife/baby today, any advice?http://atholkay.com/40-energy-fourth-link-of-the-chain-of-seduction/ I completely understand where you are at. You will carry negative energy but you need to make the choice of projecting it. You need to minimize it as much as possible and replace it with good energy (i.e. Lifting and hitting PRs). You need to recognize the energy and realize that nothing is good nor bad until you think it so. You need to be strong during this period and focus on Lifting, Learning, and Living | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 12:42 PM |
| 3 | I left my home/wife/baby today, any advice?First - Your child is not a mistake. Let me put that out there because that is unfair and pull your head out of your ass. If you look at your child as a mistake you will not be able to be the father and man you are required to be. The lenses are great if you are ignorant to what is around you. You need to see what your mission is and take it. It seems like you have that focused on your next stage of your career. If you want it pursue it. Lift, learn (read), and live. I am in your position. My wi… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Thank you. I have to say that my RP mentor brought me back to earth when he explained the same story through the eyes of his friends that were divorced by their wives only for the ex-wives to come back and realize they had gone and fucked up. I read the "How to Divorce your Wife" post and it was a good read too. As an earlier poster stated it could be smoke and mirrors but we will see as women talk emotions vs actions. We will see but I'm going to remain focused and work on myself. When I return… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...This is what I was developing because of the red flags and energy. I had planned on working when I got back but I guess she got antsy that old me was coming back. I won't fault her for that. I was a codependent groomed BP motherfucker. I mean it was dark Navy blue but now its different. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...She hasn't done anything yet. I think when she takes action or thinks about it in the grand scheme her father who she looks to will question her and she will question herself. It is something I considered since she didn't seem prepared for me to pull it out. It seemed half assed but we will see. She can change her mind anytime but that is why I'm not going ballistic or anything stupid like that. She thinks she is still dealing with the old me, not the newer me (not the best me), so again it's so… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 06:17 AM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...My ex played the same communication game with me. Your daughter will be your daughter forever. A few short months of hardship and then you will have the time you need with her. Fatherhood is a marathon, not a sprint. This is it. It really shows where I need to focus and I will. | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 05:17 AM |
| 4 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...I would give you gold. I didn't get much sleep last night because of thinking of my child but I slowly realized she could have been planning this for a year but lead me on, even though I saw the signs. I did get amused when she said we weren't as good as we were which I responded was "you can't fix without acknowledging it's broken" I'm going to ghost her for now, which she might take me as being butt hurt but it's to avoid saying anything stupid. I'm going to talk to a lawyer tomorrow and work … | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...This is so true. I think the fact that I can see through the bullshit and how she can flip from cordial to shittest to nuclear is just amazing. She tried to shit test me for telling her that I noticed that we weren't talking as much which I fogged and negative response it. It slid off of me and caught her off guard but you are right. I'll have to reinforce the frame as I know she will start to really spin in the wheel as she did not seem confident in it when she said it. We will see. I can only … | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...You are right on that. When I started to pull the string because she beat around the bush she couldn't call it what it was. I won't be holding out but I'll game a bit. The issue I have is she is literally holding communication with my daughter hostage effectively. I'll check her actions but she does tend to talk a great game but hypergamy is real and true. She could be on CC right now for all I know but she did pretty much blame me for the some of the shortcomings in our marriage which I fogged … | /r/askMRP | 11/06/18 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...This is the silver lining. Old me would have been "Jesus, WTF" new me saw it coming to a degree during our conversation. I just STFU when she started talking about "Her independence..." etc which works really well within the Rollo timeline of epiphany as she is turning 29 and we are around the 7 year mark together. I'm going to focus on myself and my daughter in this next chapter. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...I feel that you are correct. My wife thinks very emotional with little regard like most women. The amusing thing is that I took this deployment for us to be able to reset and next thing she is on CC and out the door. AWALT. I am going to be finding a new job because I quit my old one to allow us to move back to our old town. I will fight for 50/50 and so I am avoiding doing anything stupid and just ghosting her. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 11:39 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...BPB Copy. I do have a prenup that covered my house that I am in the process of selling and "net worth". Her car and motorcycle are paid for from marital assets so she will take those from the bucket. We will see what happens. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 11:37 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...You are right. I was. I don't blame in on the deployment. The deployment is something I cannot control. I can only control what I have the abilty to. I do have to say I have made I. provement but it is not where it needs to be. You have to start somewhere. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Didn't know that. It is something that is different to say the least. A year ago I was blind and lost and now that I can see for what it's worth it's something perplexing. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...Yeah. the emotions are swinging to say the least but surprisingly I'm finding myself more amused and excited than disappointed. My friend who introduced me the RP pretty much has seen it all. He stated coldly when I told him "Her loss, she will realize it in a couple years" and explained what happened to a bunch of other ex-wives of his friends. I'm not going to focus on that. I got 75 days to refocus on myself and know what I am going back into. I appreciate all the advice that this place has p… | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...It does feel good. Given the current revelations and some straight talk from my RP mentor for about an hour I am mixed emotions about being happy and sad for my daughter at the same time. It does come down to I cannot control the actions of others and only control mine. I can sit and wallow but I am focusing on not doing that. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...It is hard to kick to the curb when deployed as I would literally have nothing to come back to. That could be me making excuses but if I was back stateside it could have been different. I guess next step is stay focused on the mission of being the best man I can be and father too. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...You are correct. I meant the statistic sarcastically because the laughing at the hypergamy being real. I will make sure she won't get a cent of the inheritance. I told the trustee to hold on to it. I'll be contacting a lawyer tomorrow. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...It is. An hour ago I was pissed but her dad summed it up "Better to have two happy but separated parents than two unhappy parents together. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...This is it. I was initially shocked but looking at the silver linings is that the RP me has a reset opportunity. I'm going to go full into myself as there is no more reason to have a covert contracts. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...You are right. I guess it comes down to the application while thousand of miles away. I never presented the go plan, it was planning for it as the advice her is to have a stay/go plan instead of being caught with the pants down. I'm going to get my head straight and luckily have the cushion there. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...I'm not going to attack her. I'm going to focus on me and my daughter. This will make her head spin. Old BP me would have me chasing her but talking to my mentor. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 06:37 PM |
| 3 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...You are correct. I'm not going to root. I know she has swung and this is a way to clear her conscience. I'm going to focus on myself and be the best damn dad. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...I believe that. She mentioned we weren't good for a while which I agree with, but given that she is a kid of divorce I think she like every woman would be willing to shed emotionally faster than the typical woman. I'll take responsibility where it is due, but my main focus right now is making myself into a man that I am proud of and be the best father I can be to my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...That is my plan right now. I am going to call up some lawyers tomorrow and start my go plan. She is already removing family members from her Facebook because of the impending "WTF?" from them. Can't fault her. I'm going to focus on MAP, lifting, learning and living. I do have a chance to reset my life and reading MAP a Red Energy was our relationship. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...You are right. It is hard to have agency when you are deployed but you are correct. Implementing RP when away for a year does have it's difficulties. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 05:43 PM |
| 5 | Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy...This is it. I had the inclination that something was up with the red flags and such. I'm lifting and hit two PRs today. It could be a blessing but boy you think about it and when it happens it goes. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Lost frame, and then she cheated on me with a complete loser... Where do we go from here?Nice troll... | /r/askMRP | 10/06/18 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Lifting questionSL 5x5 is what I used to go from bitch ass 225lb DL to a decent 400lb. Bench is weak point due to right arm surgery but squat went from 225lb to 315lb after 4 months. Looking to go to 405lb but joints limiting. Eat,lift, and rest is what is needed. Also drop your ego at the door... | /r/askMRP | 08/06/18 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Reading ListThe Obstacle is the Way...good read a little more stoic but def a filler | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 07:49 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...Copy. You are right about that on many fronts. Def a lot to come and lot to go. Btw what's AM money? I'm assuming amused mastery | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 07:47 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...Copy, I'll read it. I do have a trust that was setup after my dad pass and I could put the money into that once I get control of the fund. Things get busier but focused ownership is what makes the obstacle the way. | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 07:24 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...Thank you for the condolences. It has been interesting deployments. Seems like every time I deploy shit hits the fan and somebody passes. I'll protect it and own that shit. I have seen what divorces do to people's finances and also what sudden money makes people crazy. | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 07:23 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...In what way? The fact that now she thinks she has a fall back? I'll discuss it with a lawyer to do my due diligence. I'm building my go and stay plans per the guidance and knowledge here. Appreciate the advice. Thank you | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 07:21 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...Copy. This is what I'm tracking. My godfather was twice divorced and I know the issues | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 05:33 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...Low 7 figures...cents not included. I'm going to be working till retire but this opens up opportunities. Grandparents owned cattle and real estate so it's a surprise as to how much. | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 04:02 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...I've dealt with Trusts and I'm a trustee for two trusts that are for other people. I'm versed in the restrictions of it and handling but it's the approach to it. For a house since I'm transitioning careers, my parents are buying the house and "renting" to us once I get my career I'll buy it from them. I have the money to cash purchase (aside from the surprise today) but not going to deal with that now. | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 03:52 PM |
| 1 | It just got more complicated...and it's not her...I'm going to call a lawyer today as I'm deployed. I have a trust setup that I had before marriage and when my father passed. I have to go to court because the trustees died and get control back. That also has a considerable amount. Again a year ago I wouldn't be thinking this way because I was blind as my eyes weren't open. | /r/askMRP | 07/06/18 03:04 PM |
| 1 | The Hamster is about to run...You are absolutely correct. I have checked the stay and go plan and looking at it is slightly perplexing in the sense I had to kill the indifference I reached. It was recent when I was like "what benefits are there at being married and then my kid came into the picture" I'm I absolutely miserable? No, but Ive realized that I am the one that choose my misery. I am steadily building my mental citadel in order to strengthen my frame but st the same time chooses what comes and goes. The most importa… | /r/askMRP | 05/06/18 07:39 PM |
| 1 | The Hamster is about to run...It's solipsism. It's part of the firmware. This right there. I guess the biggest things I have learned was solipsism, "she loves what you are vice who are" , and lastly "it's her turn". Once one becomes aware of this it will start opening up their own perspectives to the true world. | /r/askMRP | 05/06/18 08:13 AM |
| 1 | The Hamster is about to run...I am concerned there is a massive covert contract based on his many improvements whilst deployed. There could be a contract and I'm aware of it. Is this a "I'm going to look so good she jump my bones?" or "This is a great opportunity for me and me lone". I will have so much on my mind and the action I'll have to take I'll literally be busy for the first 30 days, but your concern is very valid. | /r/askMRP | 05/06/18 05:32 AM |
| 1 | The Hamster is about to run...The "suffering" is because women think of themselves before they think of others. So the fact that I've been away about a year and don't get to see my daughter is pretty much mute to her. We did have a conversation about it, in which I said I am looking forward to getting home, which my wife followed with "yeah and you can help with the kid..." I stopped talking and gave her the "Really?" look. It clicked in her brain and then she realize how bad it sound. I'll provide this, its not easy being a… | /r/askMRP | 05/06/18 05:29 AM |
| 2 | The Hamster is about to run...Copy. That is what I was expecting. I did notice that I was the one initiating the conversation most of the time, and with this I will do a reset per the knowledge. The reaching out will not be on my end. She might take it as putting her in time out but I have better things to do with my time. Lift, Learn, Live. | /r/askMRP | 04/06/18 02:22 PM |
| 1 | The Hamster is about to run...You are correct. She is an Alpha widow as I had a tendency of putting others before myself which did not help with things as that created a bunch of covert contracts that were never delivered on. The BP took over because I had the "disney" view of happy wife happy life bullshit. I do control the paycheck and I feed a joint account so she can handle the household bills. I control the major bills but she does the day to day. I am noticing that I am starting to give less fucks but with so much on m… | /r/askMRP | 04/06/18 11:02 AM |
| 3 | The Hamster is about to run...Gotcha. Her actions tell more than the words. The fact that I was able to ID and amuse myself means that I am progressing. The fact that I also called it out unlike before is again another step in the right direction. I do find it funny that I saw her actions coming based on the RP readings. I am sprinkling Stoic readings onboard and it is showing to have a good supplementary to the RP foundations. | /r/askMRP | 04/06/18 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Is the Trophy Wife Inevitable?Thank you. I can't have gotten here without this place. I'm sprinkling Stocism into RP which I see a lot of similarities within it. Real test comes when I get home in 90 days...till then lift, learn, live. | /r/askMRP | 02/06/18 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Is the Trophy Wife Inevitable?I know exactly what you mean. There are couples that pretty much have an agreement where it's "You do you and I'll do me, but nobody in my bed". You learn through other people's stories. I had a sailor's wife cheat on him with a coworker when we were looking at Facebook images and noticed that when he was home she would go out in sweatpants etc, and when he was gone she's out in a cocktail dress etc. Another sailor's wife, who wasn't a cheating cunt, got a package and went to drop it off at the … | /r/askMRP | 02/06/18 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Is the Trophy Wife Inevitable?I am currently in the same place. I'm deployed so my wife is thousands of miles away but I've been lifting and improving my SMV and noticing IoIs and it's like a hunger in the back of your throat. The wanting of pursuit is a bitch especially when a girl comes up to you and opens you up and you sense more desire from the strange that you had all year from your wife...yeah it fucking sucks. Realize this though...you are where you are because of your actions. Inaction is an action. | /r/askMRP | 01/06/18 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Loss of momentum and provoking shit testsNo one wants to fuck a sick person...Reset and regain your momentum. | /r/askMRP | 29/05/18 01:48 PM |
| 3 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingYup. Comes with the territory and goes both ways. I'm considering this and if you see my PI posts. It was a hard decision to make but based off the experiences of others (another sailor did it, protected himself) and focusing on my wife's actions vs words I have been keeping track of it, just keeping a tally of shit but not addressing it. She is the master of her own actions. There are two things that are making me not go Rambo right now. 1. 99% of her friends are guy friends, so it COULD be mut… | /r/askMRP | 29/05/18 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Main event coming up? LONG AF post warning.That was talking about the OP | /r/askMRP | 29/05/18 12:33 PM |
| 8 | SO said I don’t give her enough attentionGiven the fact that you could recall more of the actions of her friend than what your wife was doing that is a sign you arent paying enough attention to her. There is a deficit here that making a sprinkle of dread. If she is wearing more revealing clothes to get your attention pay some or Chad will. How old is your wife? | /r/askMRP | 27/05/18 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Making Male FriendsI worked at a paper mill so yeah a bunch of good ole boys that worked hard but never really partied. Only time was my going away party as I deployed and that was fun but boy it was bad. | /r/askMRP | 26/05/18 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Making Male FriendsLook at Meetup.com or try to build them at work. I've been in your position but no excuses. All my coworkers at my last job were 50+ and didn't do anything on th he weekends but just tried to survive through it. You need your tribe, it will take work but you need them. | /r/askMRP | 26/05/18 06:55 PM |
| 5 | Making Male FriendsFind an MMA gym. Or pickup a hobby. Where in FL are you located? | /r/askMRP | 26/05/18 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Shoulders getting stressed. Best adjustment?Are you stretching before hand? I spend about 15 minutes stretching. Ill also do triflex and fish oil as I had those issues. Worked like a charm. I've gone from 95 OHP to PR of 185. | /r/askMRP | 24/05/18 01:36 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Love After MRPI'll be back in September. I won't lie as it will be eye opening. I saw the post about the 1000 foot rope and that is where I am at. OYS and avoiding Rambo. I have dropped weight, got bigger lats, and honestly feeling the best I have in a long time. Still get tinges of BP when it comes with dealing with the past red flags (PI Posts) but honestly it is concerning how accepting of both Stay or Go outcomes I am. A year ago I would have choked to death on my BP victim puke, now its so different its … | /r/askMRP | 23/05/18 01:47 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Love After MRPYup, definitely it was hit on by the OP. The CC is a bitch! | /r/askMRP | 23/05/18 02:34 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Love After MRPI meant that she will never love you like you want her to, so they need to be within your frame and not theirs. | /r/askMRP | 23/05/18 02:11 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Love After MRPGreat post. I am in this same situation of unplugging right before I left for deployment for 11 months. It is shocking and almost nerve racking based on how my perspective of loving and being love has changed. I have that anger but it's subsiding because my wife doesn't know better just like how I was raised that is how she is. Now I can't change her but I'm changing myself and creating my OI and options. I am loving her for being both roles while I'm deployed but as I return I know there will b… | /r/askMRP | 22/05/18 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Anger phase, does it ever leave?Copy. I know I guess that is the BPB dying. One day it will be dead and I'll be pushing my dick into her throats. | /r/askMRP | 20/05/18 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Radio Silence?You shifted frame from one woman to another. Drop the plate and own OI. She might be running into the sisterhood protection syndrome where she doesn't want to be a home wrecker. | /r/askMRP | 19/05/18 05:30 PM |
| 1 | EscalationYeah its been a long way but reflecting on years past is what makes it bitter. All the BP actions of the past are lessons for the future. | /r/askMRP | 19/05/18 08:38 AM |
| 1 | Anger phase, does it ever leave?Well the rape happened before she went to Harvard. She was at Miami, then UPenn, and Harvard for her PhD. She's a psychologist who focuses on those with depression, and rape victims to help those like her. She has high functional depression where they focus on xy and z to "self medicate". I met her in Miami because of the way she was talking and I remember going back to her place and realizing I had hit rock bottom because I could have cheated because her desire for me was there, but it was more… | /r/askMRP | 19/05/18 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Anger phase, does it ever leave?Nope. That was a girl I dated about 10 years ago. It wasn't that off putting because I dealt with some dark shit and was white knighting it. She was really really good but after that their was hesitance. I had a female friend attempt suicide because I turned her down to prom, she had a lot of shit going on and that sort of stuck me in "Capt. Save the Crazies" so there was guilt with that. Looking back if a girl wasn't crazy she bored me because I felt that I needed to be their emotional support … | /r/askMRP | 19/05/18 06:46 AM |
| 1 | EscalationThank you, but I have still ways to go. I realized that is the thing that attracted me but at the same time, since I was usually dealing with sorority chicks, I was hoping she would become the "ideal" girl. That is a false reality because women are who they are. I finished the RM series and moving on to the other books. Rollo definitely hit the main points and while I am developing the anger phase it is going away. It's more of a shock to the system and when you reflect on where you were and whe… | /r/askMRP | 18/05/18 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Anger phase, does it ever leave?Again...why do you WANT her to do them? Is it because it's in the porn you fap to? There are boundaries like the ones that we are to set and you cannot expect her to read your mind...you aren't a woman. If she started to stick her finger up your ass when blowing you what would you act like? | /r/askMRP | 18/05/18 08:46 PM |
| 6 | Anger phase, does it ever leave?I'm going to go out on the limb here...why do you want to do all that? Seems like you need to dominate her physically and that might have to do with something deeper with you. She could also be reluctant to that point because she might had bad shit. I had a girl while I was fucking her for a couple months and she was good, went to put my hand around her neck, not to choke her or anything, but she went eyes wide open and froze. I saw fear in her eyes and I knew something was wrong. She started cr… | /r/askMRP | 18/05/18 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Slacks for after 5x5I have the same problem. I find Levi's denizens or the ones with slight stretch allows for compensation without looking like ass | /r/askMRP | 18/05/18 05:21 PM |
| 2 | EscalationMy wife has maybe 2 girl friends, rest of her friends are guys because she's into cars, motorcycles etc, so I get shit all the time. She got some bolt-ons and when she told me her Orbiter said "nice tits" I told her "he keeps that up, hope he can afford the payments". She will tell me she's going to meet X and Y and go for a ride (she has her own motorcycle) and I'm cool with that because I'm not going to put wife on lockdown. That's how you get expressway to cheating. The issue I have and I set… | /r/askMRP | 18/05/18 05:17 PM |
| 3 | Main event coming up? LONG AF post warning.Well he is Mormon... | /r/askMRP | 16/05/18 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Lessons from two divorce casesCopy. We live in FL and while we have a prenup I am selling some homes and looking in a way to protect myself because she is getting AWALTy if that makes sense...or maybe I'm becoming woke and seeing shit that might not be there or could be there. Fuck this rabbit hole | /r/askMRP | 15/05/18 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Lessons from two divorce casesHow should one setup a go plan that is always ready? I have seen that but it seems like one would have to approach it in a way to minimizing co-mingling of assets. If we have a joint account that I feed into I would be responsible for that amount I feed in correct? | /r/askMRP | 15/05/18 06:16 AM |
| 2 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingThose are solid words. As the more I read it seems that I'm in the anger stage but moving towards acceptance and actually laughing at the RP shit that I see. Become RP and watch avengers or any Disney movie. | /r/askMRP | 12/05/18 02:34 PM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingYou are right. One form would be pool or going for a run on the non-lift days. You are also correct as I'll revert back to level 1 with our interactions. While I'll be in better shape and wearing better clothes and hygiene levels, the actual testing of frame will be determined. | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 07:59 PM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingI'm going to the 16-8 as I workout around 6AM most days and have BCAAs after. Follow that with lunch at 12 through 6ish and head to bed around 9:30 | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 02:34 PM |
| -1 | Wife - gift for coworkerDamn...the wall is a coming... | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 09:38 AM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingThank you for the words. That is the thing that I guess I'm overcoming in my mind is seeing where I came from to where I am and where I want to go. It will definitely be a 180 body wise but I am focused on the mindset as pretty much I have been training myself and now actually going to "battle" with her frame if that makes sense. The FO has control over the ship and it is an uphill battle but the advice here is golden...thank you again. | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 06:11 AM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingExactly on her frame. That is one area that I am trying to build but limited due to being deployed. I am going to focus on getting my shit right (Sell 2 rentals, find a new job, build social life in a new city) but I am excited about it. Old me would have been trying to tail along to all the things she would want to do (I understand there is a balance there) but now its like "What do I want to do?" Thank you for the advice. | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 06:08 AM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingI'll head over there as I still want to cut. I've been eating quinoa thinking it was low carb because it was a "good carb" nope...my mistake. You are right about the bench. The difficulty I am having is engagement of my right arm when I am benching. I try to set the blades but when I rep out my left arm will keep going and the right fails prematurely, from the grip (hand literally opens up randomly) to actual press. I will work with a PT out here to see if something is off... | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 06:06 AM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingExactly, I'm checking myself out in the mirror and noticed the arm veins and was like...ohhh fuck need to get those arms bigger, but I guess the biggest delta has been is in my mindset when I approach things at work, life and socially. | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 06:03 AM |
| 1 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingCopy. I need to think of it as being a leader. I avoided that because that was an extension of work (Navy Officer) and it was tiresome to have to deal with her shit when I got home. I can see where I went wrong with that. I fell for the FI and FEmpowerment. | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 06:02 AM |
| 2 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingYou are right on the taking over. I work with Navy EOD guys here and one who has been married for 20 years gave me this "Arrive, observe, ask, act" He stated he would do the kick the door in and change everything after deployment and it blew up in his face once. Ask where immediate help is needed (ie. taking the kid to school, mowing lawn, etc) and work from there. I think there is definitely a change my mindset and accepting responsibility for where I am. It also helps to know that I stopped de… | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 06:00 AM |
| 2 | 6 Months in...100 days until home...not going to lie I'm fucking worried about RamboingThank you for the feedback. I'll look for those posts. I guess with all change there is that uncomfortableness that comes with it but evolution is better than regret. | /r/askMRP | 11/05/18 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Wire bought major piece of furniture without discussing with me and I’m butthurt about itShe's child of divorce and contributing financially means something for her. She was spending about 80% of her income to household shit for a while and I stopped that. I'll call her out now when she buys clothes for herself from the joint and she knows she's wrong. She did it once because she was paying down debt fast but put extra in the next month. | /r/askMRP | 09/05/18 02:09 PM |
| 3 | Wire bought major piece of furniture without discussing with me and I’m butthurt about itShe puts $800 into the joint account which is equal to % of my pay that goes in. | /r/askMRP | 09/05/18 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Wire bought major piece of furniture without discussing with me and I’m butthurt about itYup. I went out and bought two ARs and a Sig without any word. She only cares when bills aren't paid for which they always get paid. | /r/askMRP | 09/05/18 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Wire bought major piece of furniture without discussing with me and I’m butthurt about itYup...she will do what she will. | /r/askMRP | 09/05/18 10:36 AM |
| 6 | Wire bought major piece of furniture without discussing with me and I’m butthurt about itMy wife bought a $2000 dollar raw edge table after I deployed. She hid the fact of how much it was but it was an "emotional" purchase because she wanted financial independence and it was her first big purchase after getting her first real career. When I went home for Christmas, I remember seeing it and it wasn't anything fancy. Old me would have been like oh wow, "How much was it?, etc" but when I just STFU, she just offered up "I paid $2000 for it..." expecting a reaction. I raised my eyebrow a… | /r/askMRP | 09/05/18 08:25 AM |
| 1 | KETO: Your shortcut to (part of) being attractive or how you can get shredded in 4 months.You should get blood work done. I read that if you replace the minerals that come from the carbs it can help boost the T levels. I started taking Zinc and Mg as I felt that I was missing some boosters. I've leaned out and put mass on but feeling better...got that prowl that you get when T levels are high. | /r/askMRP | 03/05/18 09:04 AM |
| 2 | Spending money on your own self-improvement vs on the kids' education?I got two scars from hot ammo casings that I want to get fixed. They are small but noticeable. Did that stop women from hitting on me? Nope. It's about the attitude. Focus on your strengths and work from there. Think as if you were mauled tomorrow by a bear how would your life be? | /r/askMRP | 01/05/18 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Fuck it or fix it...Yup, I'm in the middle of this issue. Read my posts but I'm prepping to protect myself as I'm getting the same red flags that many post her. Wife is Alpha widow as I didn't own my shit and played beta victim. I've dropped 30lbs with more to go. Gained mass but the biggest is my mindset with the RP reading and countless knowledgeable posts here. | /r/askMRP | 30/04/18 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Fuck it or fix it...So does AWALT mean they have the ingrained capacity to be a shrew? | /r/askMRP | 30/04/18 02:38 PM |
| 0 | Wedding ring at the gymI put it on my watch band. I have taken my ring off and lost them and also the silicone ones don't well either. | /r/askMRP | 30/04/18 09:28 AM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?Yeah...it is. When it first happened was angry at her and reading and expanding my knowledge it's mine. You can't control people's actions but hypergamy gives two shit about your life lol. | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 07:32 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?Thank you! | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 07:30 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?I'm doing the training route but the pedestal has been removed if that makes sense. I have 115 days until I'm done with deploymenf and I'm going to use all of them. | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 07:15 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?You are right. I lost my way. Emotionally cheating is the flirting, mental escape of the fantasy per Esther Perel when the emotional demand of the SO gets overwhelming that the cheater looks for an escape. She mentioned this and I DEERd that my wife stopped talking to me, isolated herself and I'm about to be gone for 11 months so I had a right to ask wtf...or go pound strange. | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?That is a solid post. I'm recovering because the wife emotionally cheated and I found out right before I deployed. This is why I'm actually here, to fix my shit but deeper I go I'm feeling more cynicism about the situation. That only have to beat one is a solid theory and true. | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 06:43 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?Yup, and seeing red flags. I just finished all the books but don't know how to call her out in her bullshit because honestly Ive been reading conflicting ideas. Also I don't want to come home to empty house lol. Finished Rational Male year 2 in 5 days...on to 3 | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 06:27 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?You ever consider the reality that's slapping you in the face? Over the time and distance, she just stopped giving a fuck? That's brutal but could be...fuuuuck. What do I do now? Find some strange? | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 01:00 PM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?You are right. Unfucking my mindset is what I am working on because that is where it starts. I do pose this question: I am reading Rollo and its hitting hard. One of the biggest ideas he presented and true to the fact is the "She loves what you are vs who you are" I am looking at this and agreeing with it. He also has other great ideas on the phases and with those new ideas I am looking at the past years and realizing my wife is AWALT when I was denying it because I didn't want it to be true, bu… | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 07:06 AM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?here are dudes out there in that position. Lower that pedestal. Copy. That is what I am looking at. I have plans when I get back as I will be in a new city and need to get into the gym and the hobbies since I will actually be living in a town with shit to do. | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 06:58 AM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?Well I meant physically she will. I have dropped 25lbs, gained mass, 6 inches off the waist, and sort of see abs for the first time in a long time. You are right about that covert. I meant that my mindset and perspective would have changed since I left so it could be an unfortunate and unintentional Rambo situation. The process involves slow methodical evolution in her presence to promote dread and such. I don't have that ability but I'll focus on throttling it over the 6 months I am back (1 mon… | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 03:05 AM |
| 1 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?That is the point right there. It's for you not them. | /r/askMRP | 26/04/18 03:02 AM |
| 2 | How did you get here and what are you going to do about it ?I went from Alpha about my life to a Beta fuck when shit started hitting the fan. Started blaming everybody else and it just went south. Dreams crushed etc, took hearing shit from my wife like "I love you but don't lust for you" and "I liked that you were gone" and eventually an emotional affair to kick her off the pedestal right before I deployed. She didn't know that I had found an RP mentor led me here and showing the way. She saw a bit of it when I went home for Christmas leave but she will … | /r/askMRP | 25/04/18 06:58 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of this? Incel being blamed for Toronto Attack...More about the fact the media is attributing the attack to him being INCELS sub group without any basis of what he could be. Hell he could be ISIS for all we know. | /r/askMRP | 25/04/18 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Funny how I see it everywhere now...especially movies.That was year one, year two changed it. I don't think I'll explain it (DEERing) but just keep record for myself. | /r/askMRP | 25/04/18 01:10 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of this? Incel being blamed for Toronto Attack...I think he isn't blaming it on that but media is blaming it on the sub culture of INCELS and other groups such as them. | /r/askMRP | 25/04/18 01:10 PM |
| 1 | I've lost all interest in women.I'm there with you bud. I have been reading Rollo and now I am thinking like you. I think the biggest thing is the realization that the Disney view on love is bullshit. Rollo's talk about how women will never love who you are but what you are is what is evolving my viewpoint. It hit hard as I was just agreeing with him and saying "shit..." as I read the book. I won't go mgtow but it really has me seeing women for what they are as my wife and I have been going through some difficulties. Now I kno… | /r/askMRP | 25/04/18 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Funny how I see it everywhere now...especially movies.I agree with you on that. I have been reflecting on characters that are true RP or Alpha. Lewis was always a strong character until Jessica comes down on him and he cowers. I think he could have been a stronger character if he didn't seesaw like he did to the extremes. I agree with you that Harvey is faking until he makes it. Mike is the same. Put those together and Harvey stands out because of the lower Mike character. I think Don Draper (Mad Men) and Bobby Axelrod (Billions) both embody RP. Th… | /r/askMRP | 22/04/18 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Funny how I see it everywhere now...especially movies.The fact that its within the writing shows that it bleeds through all aspect of our lives. Once you see what surrounds you sometimes you either laugh, shocked, or shit your pants... | /r/askMRP | 22/04/18 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Funny how I see it everywhere now...especially movies.Rollo hit this and its true. Once you open your eyes sometimes you will want to close them. I see it in myself and dealing with my wife. I reread our past convos and its victim puke all day everyday. I hope I don't get to the point where I am questioning my marriage...but I think once you get to that point of IDGAF if you go or stay that is freedom. I'm just writing down the red flags that I see now in my journal (yes) and that way if D-day comes, I can lay it out for her and be like "I'm woke" … | /r/askMRP | 22/04/18 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Best practices for finances within marriage?We have mine, joint and hers. All income comes into mine with the exception of rent from a rental property. I did a budget and told her X number is for the joint account. If you go over you will cover it, she agreed. She did it once and it was because our dogs got sick and had to go to vet. She also had to borrow when her wallet was thrown in the trash by our daughter. | /r/askMRP | 21/04/18 06:55 PM |
| 1 | How to call out without vomit?Well, honestly it's because she said she would. If she said she would do it and I ended up doing it it sets precedent. | /r/askMRP | 19/04/18 04:00 PM |
| 1 | I dont understandI'll say I'm still growing but definitely seen changes in my attitude at work, in the gym, and overall life. You cannot Rambo in, nor can you just put the tip in. You have to commit, make course corrections and work from there. It is difficult and the change is noticeable but it's better. Today I did 10 to 1 rep sets of 185. It's not much but I was PR 185 before RP. I'm sitting at max 315 with goals of 400+ before I get back. Would I have done that without RP prob not. Would I still be a fat(ter… | /r/askMRP | 17/04/18 05:02 PM |
| 1 | On SnoopingYes, the veil was removed after the fact. Now when I see it I address it but gents if she is going to cheat she will cheat. I'm just protecting my ass lol, oh and laughing at my insecurities... | /r/askMRP | 17/04/18 04:48 PM |
| 8 | On SnoopingHere are my thoughts as I am one of those that has snooped. I did the assume, and don't worry about it before, and I got burned a day before I deployed finding out she had an emotional affair. I knew something was up and while in her frame because of the upcoming deployment, I trusted her words vice actions. I found RP afterwards. I learned about hypergamy, when are emotional thinkers, and listen to actions vice words. I noticed her actions, asked her about it, she denied, I snooped and found so… | /r/askMRP | 17/04/18 03:08 PM |
| 1 | How to call out without vomit?I read Rollo about the psychology of females and men how we differ. It was eye opening. I talked to a coworker at lunch to see how him and his wife were and he stated his wife does the same where she will do something and not follow through. It was the first talk and I explained to him why women are emotional and drop things when they lose emotions from getting the job done. | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 04:37 PM |
| 3 | How to call out without vomit?Copy. She sent me a text today stating she was sorry for missing FaceTime and we talked. She skipped over it at first but she brought it up again. I told her that it was important that I connect with my daughter and she understood. Told her that I a simple text would have sufficed. She tried to dog me and asked why I didn't call, I told her I don't do what others tell me they would. She hamstered at that and stated she was busy with xyz. I held and just stated it's important for us to connect (B… | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How to call out without vomit?Copy. The driving, lunch with friends, etc was for FaceTime. My daughter is 3 so if she was older I would call her directly. I am being more observant of her actions and my responses to them. If I was present I could isolate or address on the spot but since I cannot withdraw to a greater degree it is a challenge. Appreciate the support and the sound advice. | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 12:52 PM |
| 1 | How to call out without vomit?Text and FaceTime minimizes affection per Pook (or Poon) but I was doing things wrong in the past. The 2/3 rule and don't say I love you first. I have be reviewing our previous convos and I was tracking how many times I initiated vs her, the context, and who dropped love you at the end. Found myself to be doing most of the initiating, breaking the 2/3 rule, and being first to state the emotion at the end. I am able to pull that affection in line with the 16 rules/laws and that should be somethin… | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 12:49 PM |
| 0 | How to call out without vomit?I didn't initiate as their day was open ended. In the past when I have FaceTime it was catching them while my wife was driving, or they were having lunch/dinner with friends so not the best time if that makes sense. | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 12:44 PM |
| 1 | How to call out without vomit?Copy. You are right on the specific questions and I guess I'm nuking it. A lot of the principles that MRP promotes, I understand, though there is difficulty in applying them while halfway around the world. Rollo mentions that with long distance, you pretty much have no relationship or something of that accord. I'll have to learn the principles all over when I get back as it will be a different ballgame instead of dealing with FaceTime and text... For all the frustration, I appreciate the support… | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 06:35 AM |
| 1 | How to call out without vomit?This is the advice and to the point. Clean and simple. NMMNG has a fault where it mentions that you state "I feel, when, etc" while other RP lore states you don't drop the emotions because women are emotional minded and don't want the burden of you, regardless of the bullshit they tell you. | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 06:30 AM |
| 2 | How to call out without vomit?You are right. The more I read Rollo, it is like what he mentions "those whose eyes are opened to the truth, may want them closed" That is the focus on my daughter. I think I did better because I was about to call her out on it and let the hamster loose (still it runs), but I caught myself and reach out because if my daughter wasn't in the picture it would be simpler. Appreciate the support amid the frustration. The guys out here are oblivious to what system they are attached to. | /r/askMRP | 16/04/18 06:28 AM |
| 2 | The hamster running overtime...Yup, since starting here I've dropped 30lbs and put more muscle on. Today I noticed my rib muscles for the first time in mirror. At the store noticed an older fat man with a HB late 30s, two kids in tow. I noticed she was throwing glances and stares my way. Might be because we had worked out and were slightly sweating and in gym gear and pumped up, but caught her stare and held, she returned it, held it, and smirked. Her husband came around the corner and she broke contact. Later at the checkout… | /r/askMRP | 14/04/18 07:03 PM |
| 7 | Girlfriend said "maybe" to my birthday invitation. How should I proceed?Oh god that's true. I'm so old...apologize OP | /r/askMRP | 14/04/18 03:23 PM |
| 6 | Girlfriend said "maybe" to my birthday invitation. How should I proceed?I'm not want to speak if you read my posts but who the fuck goes to AppleBees on their 21st? | /r/askMRP | 14/04/18 01:33 PM |
| 1 | A MRPer's Divorce TaleGreat read: One question that I am dealing with and my threads are on here is what signs of branch swing did you see? Note: to others that read this I am doing this for my SA, to add up the ticks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/18 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?That hit the nail on the head. That is the biggest thing I am catching myself doing. I find myself falling back to the BP ways and the frame switch. I laugh at it sometimes but try to stop the impact on the hamster if that makes sense. The boundaries are something I am working on as I am recovering nice guy who put others before myself, so therefore there were no boundaries. I think the questions come from the fact that I am putting our daughter first. I think my wife would go Rambo vice the wor… | /r/askMRP | 11/04/18 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Advice on how to handle the new RP perspective. The BP is hard to swallow but seeing my actions from the RP perspective is fucking my head up. It's like "Really? Wow that is stupid BP BetaBitch move" yet I am glad that I am noticing these follies. Trying to kill the anxiety and there is point where I accept the last statement as "People will do what they do", and I am getting better at it but its like a hurdle that keeps throwing itself in my way. If I was home; I would be okay with her hanging … | /r/askMRP | 10/04/18 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Solid advice here. As for finances, honestly I am set on that as I have a prenup that is in effect. Zero'd out is something of a hard reset. I have seen it before with my godfather who became a millionaire because he learned what he truly cared for after being taken to the cleaners. AWALT is what I am learning and it is bitter because it is something in the back of the mind when I meet girls now. | /r/askMRP | 10/04/18 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Kill the beta aye. I read that part through and when I think about it I could justify plates but I ask this, and I might be overthinking; if the BP me thinks this and is not sure about it, would plates be the true answer? The BP could be distorting it and make my actions/inactions based off false perceptions. | /r/askMRP | 10/04/18 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Copy. This is the thing that I'm trying to kill: trying to fix shit that I don't have control over. I'm reading more of the stoics than before and I catch myself falling back to them when I notice my actions are like the old me. | /r/askMRP | 10/04/18 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Increased my PRs on Friday and currently looking at 400 SQ and DL 5x5 by end of the month. But you are right. I've posted on here because you guys are guidance. As I read my ideas evolve and I post to make sure I'm headed the right course. Yes, I'm lifting, and eating and shiting (chicken and sweet potatoes clean you out) As for the kid, already have one with her and I do shift most of the convo to her away from wife based on the advice before. I have cut the convos down and I'll post up a FR af… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Yup, I think it's like that... | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?That is the thing. As I read deeper and on here the only thing I care outside of me is daughter. She is definitely my direction for my future actions. I'm focusing on my SMV, unnoticed more IOIs now that I have dropped 20 lbs and put on 10 lbs of muscle. Still got a slight tummy but you can start to see the Vee. Don't know how that works but still. Finances I think I'm in a solid place. I have some RE plays going down that will be worth six figures within the year. But again biggest thing will b… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Haha I know. It is what it is. I'm going to take the advice and do my SMEIAC or whatever that marine corps planning is. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?This! When we first started dating, she had her laptop opened up she had a post on a forum for dependas and mentioned how I had my shit together (Car, House, Job) ala security...back then I laughed at it but now its like jesus...did I see it coming? | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?The specifically mentioned that General POA are horrible and leave you with an empty house and account when your stripper fiance leaves...the JAG was brutal at the pre-MOB. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?That is what I am reading between the lines on. It really does change your whole perspective. Fuck, I can't even look at girls the same way...I look at them as agents now. All the same. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?I actually didn't give her a general power of attorney. The military doesn't do that anymore. I told her I am able to do 99% of everything and if I need something I'll provide her a POA. We sold my truck (changing things up) and got her a limited POA. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Being the child of divorce, it would be brutal but I could leverage it it gets to that point. Her mom was a cunt during the procedures and her Father knows that I treat her well, so if I was asked by him why, I would be straight to the point if it gets that way... I agree with the ideas here. There are some things that come with the territory have heard the stories of the guys around me and asked their advice. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?I did the PI because two things. 1. Prove my fucking insecurities to myself which would make me realize still beta as fuck 2. Find something which I did. It eventually was a mixture of both, but I am actually laughing about it as I type because it made me realize how beta I still am and need to work on it more. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Copy. I had seen that before. I keep all accounts separate and I have a Trust where I put my money into. He is not a soldier and honestly idk what to make of it. She's never mentioned him but maybe once, but again old me would get hella jealous about stupid shit like that. I'm dumping this emotional shit. I can actually catch myself and sort of laugh at it. I'm an officer and had FB pretty much show my sailor that his wife was cheating on him with a coworker. RP has opened my eyes to hypergamy o… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Just to clarify it was an entire group of 20-30 as she has gone with them before. The big thing was this time she asked if she asked me if she could leave the kid at home with a sitter because off-roading with her was a nightmare. She also hasn't had a night away in 7 months and MIL, mother and FIL stated she was burnt out. So with that I agreed. She asked multiple times if I was sure and I said go have fun. Again insecurities is what I'm actually noticing and throttle off. A lot of the help fro… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Yup, actually there was this HB7 age 28 or so that wanted to go on a date. The other guys were all over her and I left it open because she wanted concert tickets that were $$$ and I had a set. She stated she would dress up slutty and such to get them. I asked her would the dress match the end game which she "blushed" and gave the fuck me eyes. I have to brush my game up and learn how to date again. Would running game be bad if I didn't run it till it end? How about Tinder? Learn how to kino and … | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Agree. The fact I'm away from my daughter for 11 months and I have seen it worse but having RP is something different as the others didn't have it. Remember the FI is something strong and they can say they were neglected or the job came first etc... | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?This is something brutal. I get the gist of this and again it's taken with a grain of salt. There is a difference as my wife is a tom boy and hangs out with a bunch of guys so there is difficulty in shifting through it. I'm going to throw some dread as there are some plates out here as I agree with the statement about no competition. There is plenty out here so I'll do some pix with the plates. I have minimized the initiation but my goal is to max out my SMV while I'm here, dust off the game, an… | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Deployment does that and her previous action does it too. Minimize distractions and focus on myself and deployment. I can't do anything now so what's the point? Create a bugout and prepare myself? | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Branches: How do/did you discover them?Already hired a PI, and that is where I got the initial info about them hanging out. PI stated it looked platonic and nothing was amiss. The spidey sense is there but deployment does that. It heightens everything. | /r/askMRP | 09/04/18 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Your wife is not your friendMy wife as of now is my roommate. I'm deployed and it is absolutely terrible in having pillow talk while overseas. Now, before I left yeah we were roommates that fucked once or while. I found RP and when I get back there will be a dwell period as I have been lifting, reading and evolving, in which I see where we stand. If she doesn't welcome me back or we go into roommate mode again I'll have the talk that I will not accept a roommate. Won't go to Rambo but we'll see. She is the child of divorce… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/04/18 06:56 PM |
| 3 | Who cares if she leaves?It's like the stoic...if you see everything as broken once it breaks you have already accepted it... | /r/askMRP | 01/04/18 01:50 PM |
| 3 | Is MRP material beneficial to guys not experiencing dead bedrooms or sexual issues in any way?He is thinking about the mindset change and how to view things in context. | /r/askMRP | 01/04/18 10:53 AM |
| 3 | Who cares if she leaves?I got your gist. Question do you have kids? I kicked the oneitis but its still there as she is the mother of my daughter and I know how important a solid family is. She is the child of divorce and so she is aware of the impacts as she lived them but she isn't really aware of the impact to her emotional and relationship abilities if that makes sense. I went from "OMG I can't live without her", to "She will always be the mother of my child but she might not always be my wife. The catalyst for this… | /r/askMRP | 01/04/18 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Path: She needs nobody's.I would have slight issues but if I was with this 10 before she blew up I would get out of the way and support her but at the same time with that, hypergamy comes into play... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/03/18 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Path: She needs nobody's.Sounds like you are emasculated by your 10... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/03/18 05:18 PM |
| 1 | 'When I say no' one of the most useless books I've read. How is this rec'ed?I have used some of it in work and with my wife and got positive reaction. The AA and BR have worked. I'm the deployed spouse so I have to approach being the oak differently as I can only communicate. I understand it's not straight to the point like NMMNG which is a a great and easy read. | /r/askMRP | 26/03/18 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportYes and I understand this is the biggest thing. We only communicate through text or FaceTime and limits the dread. She isn't taking this deployment easy because of the kid. On Friday she was complaining about the challenges and the feeling of being shit on. I oaked her letting her know these are our challenges and not just yours. I asked if she want to talk about anything else "Nothing" was her response which means something. Old me would have tried to pry it out of her but I just told her "I am… | /r/askMRP | 25/03/18 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportSolid question. I am currently deployed and I noticed a change in our interaction and had a gut feeling about it. I thought it was this orbiter that comes out of the woodwork each time I deploy, and would drop comments on her FB that would push boundaries. I noticed he wrote something on her FB and I called her up about it because it was inappropriate. She didn't realize he had blocked me on facebook but everybody else could see. She admitted to that being outside boundaries. Previous deployment… | /r/askMRP | 24/03/18 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportCopy. We have done 3 deployments and each one we do a lessons learned. First deployment I got envious of an orbiter she was always hanging out with. She called it jealously I told her I'm not jealous of a LARPer. Slight DEERing but it was a boundary I was enforcing. We tried the talking everyday but I found out it was me reaching out looking for external validation and talk got boring as not enough time had passed. Second deployment was better but still slight BP, this deployment is doing better… | /r/askMRP | 19/03/18 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportI used the monk term incorrect. I meant period of reflection and revision, not shutoff to the world. Focus on self improvement and get yolk like those Thai fighting monks. We have scheduled Skype on Saturdays as my schedule is Sunday through Thursday and 8 hours ahead. She works full time but at lunch we FaceTime some days. We were doing everyday on previous deployment but minimized the time for shit to talk about if that makes sense. Today our daughter told her she threw away her wallet. Wife a… | /r/askMRP | 18/03/18 05:40 PM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...I adjusted that to 4 weeks when I get back, and I'm not just sitting on my ass lol. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportShe told me she does this. Our daughter can be a hassle sometimes. My wife would call me just sitting in the car to talk. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportThey did 4 events. She has class Monday and Wednesday. She buys groceries every other week. So the two days they just hung out. Idk about the other days and not going to worry about them. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Update: I hired a PI...reportShe would say she went to class, and ran errands. I'm thinking she would not say she went and hung out with him because previous BP me, would get jealous of her hanging out with her car friends while I was deployed. It's most likely a carryover because I would ask question like "who you hanging out with?" She would say who and pussy me would be like "I don't like that". I've minimized/stopped asking and worrying about because looking back it was jealously well more like envy because I'm deployed… | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportI will have to agree with that. I did it, not because of what it could produce, but because previously I felt something was up but listened to what she said vice what she did. For months I was a mess because I knew it but trusted her and didn't want to rock the boat. When I got that same feeling I had to kill it or it would have eaten me up for months while deployed and didn't want that to drag my attention away. I'm going deployed monk; reading, lifting, reflecting, and burying the BP deep. Not… | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 06:09 PM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...That is why I'm changing it...I can't interview for a job when I'm deployed but yes I'll change the reasons for me taking a break. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 04:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...Copy. That's what I meant. I'm setting myself up for when I come back. I'm changing careers so I'll need a break as I transition. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Update: I hired a PI...reportThis right here. My deployment is allowing to monk it out and really reflect on the past couple years. Again it's a bitter pill to swallow but learning from the tribe on here and within other groups is what is needed. A year ago if my wife wanted to divorce me I would probably be in shambles. Now if she would, I would act 180 degrees off of it. Is it what I want? Absolutely not but that saying "you aren't hers, it's just her turn" kicked down the pedestal. The main thing I care about is my daugh… | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportThat last part was interesting. She's into guy stuff because her parents divorced when she was 8. Her dad was the best parent and her mom was and still is a psycho saying "if you don't talk to me I'll kill myself". She learned how to make better relationships with guys than girls because of that. I had to explain it to her once and see the perspective of it. She has traits like her mother where she is unable to step back and see from other viewpoints. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportAppreciate the suggestion. I do find myself suppressing more of the "primal" reversions back to the old me. It is something that sucks but I will see what options are available in town once I get back It does suck that I spent the money but again maybe its good to see punishment as myself as in..."You are a dumbass and spent xxxx to find out your insecure" | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Update: I hired a PI...reportI'll agree with you on this. We have done three deployments and each one is slightly different. I am a recovering BP, and still have the RP deep within but stuff like this shows the "awakening" or recognization of stupid actions and tendencies. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Update: I hired a PI...reportI wanted girl who loves cars and sometimes it comes with the territory. We had discussions about this in the past because some of the guys didn't take the "lets be friends" and was showing up at weird hours. It took me explaining it to her and reading her texts (she handed me the phone) to read it in the way he wrote it. He did write some things like "I could treat you better" blah blah blah. I told her if a girl was writing that to me she wanted me and she would raise the same eyebrow. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 12:42 PM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...Copy. I need to work on getting that million...honestly that 2-3 month was a fucking lie to myself. I wouldn't know what to do with all that time. I do have a home to sell that month when I get back and shit to do so that will keep us busy. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 12:37 PM |
| 5 | Update: I hired a PI...reportI'm more disappointed in my insecurity now that I have bitten the RP... | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 08:40 AM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...Not going to be staying home all day. I'll be finishing up my 3 courses for my CFP, studying for the exam, and working on finding a career that fits that need. Fuck...maybe you are right, a couple weeks off will work. Last time I deployed I rolled a week later into having a kid, and it was a shock. I'm going to be going to a new town, so I need a new gym, and tribe to kick with based off the RP readings and shit. I'm trying to plan this transition well, but I see the main points. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 07:41 AM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...Ha, chad sabbatical...that's funny but true. I am also doing my course studies to be a CFP/ChFC and move into that career. But you are right, sometimes typing shit out and having someone be like yeah...that's fucking stupid try this. helps out a lot. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 07:39 AM |
| 1 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...You are right. Does seem vague as fuck. I think a break would be better than sabbitical. I don't want to jump back from deployment right into a new career and life without taking a breather. I understand the busting ass, she also is too so I was doing the oak idea that I understand she has been holding the fort down for a year without me, playing dual roles. | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 07:37 AM |
| 2 | I'm taking sabbatical during career change...Thank you for the educational response... | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 05:50 AM |
| 2 | What do you guys make of being constantly being threatened with divorce?Call her bluff... | /r/askMRP | 17/03/18 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Rule 0: No exceptionsShit that's deep. I find solace in the fact guys have been through the same shit I'm in and have made it out. Now it's inspiration or whatever you want to call it but it's a since of combradiery but I understand about people posting in here and not taking action. I think we need to also add as a Man Thinketh to the sidebar. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/18 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Rule 0: No exceptionsI'm lost...what is this? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/18 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Advice for lust and confidence issues?Number close and throw it away if you don't trust yourself. I was in the same position, seeking external validation. When I broke past the need I had girls demanding I take their number. I turned them down and the disappointment on their face was the validation. (Note: at the time I didn't trust myself not to fuck them) | /r/askMRP | 12/03/18 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 06, 2018Relationship Basics: Married 5, Together 7, 4 year old daughter ME 32 6'3, 230lb @17% I have dropped 20lbs and decreased waist by 4inches. Lifts the past week: Getting back into it as I have tendinitis in right elbow and scar tissue in left ankle that flares up. Bench 185x4, Squat 305x5, Press 135x5, Row 155x5 I am working on my fitness and have been as I am able to focus out here while deployed. I am overworking myself per the PT but most workouts are Crossfit in the morning (3X a week) and 5x5… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/03/18 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Trust.You can read my posts. I trusted my wife without verifying. I was also BP and other shit. She told me for 3 months nothing was going on etc etc, but looking back her actions were talking another story. She isolated herself, went to bed, face in the phone, etc etc. I found a "i love you" letter in her wallet which I left and saw her check for the next day. I later confronted her about it and she denied and denied until I asked her point blank about the note. Her whole tune changed. I told her fla… | /r/askMRP | 05/03/18 07:31 PM |
| 1 | I think I agreed to this with my wife for the wrong reason.This...go and fuck other women. | /r/askMRP | 03/03/18 06:11 PM |
| 1 | I think I agreed to this with my wife for the wrong reason.Are you a troll or you serious? | /r/askMRP | 03/03/18 06:04 PM |
| 1 | A Nice Guy LiesWhen I was in my frame years ago my wife asked me what I thought about so and so. Girl was cute and I went up and struck up a convo and got her number...walked back and she was shocked I did it... Years later, I'm a recovering BEta bitch. | /r/askMRP | 28/02/18 05:14 PM |
| 1 | FR: Pulling her into my frame...sort of...and mother issuesLol, thanks for the reply. I pretty much did tell my mom to fuck off in Jan. I laid out all the boundaries she had broken over the years and she tried to guilt trip me and use my dads Alzheimers against me. It got a little heated with that. She is going down the maniac depression road but in denial. Now take those boundaries described and times it by 2 because the mother in law does the same thing. She visited for Christmas and ruined my leave period because it's chaos and she can be a twat and … | /r/askMRP | 27/02/18 07:56 PM |
| 3 | FR: Pulling her into my frame...sort of...and mother issuesOngoing...the PI has delayed due to my mom being in on the previous nights that wife had her class. While better, still get that vibe. I also was notified that my inheritance is about 5X what I thought it was going to be and money makes people stupid. Myself included. | /r/askMRP | 27/02/18 07:45 PM |
| 4 | Wife asked for open relationship...Advice?Next... | /r/askMRP | 26/02/18 06:40 PM |
| 3 | (Advice) unsure which way would have been best to play this scenario.Cheers There can be some confusion with doing tasks on here. My reflection would be when I told my wife I would be going to gym after work for an hour a couple days a week. She told me that was great news. Started going to the gym and she started guilt tripping me for not coming home and taking care of the kid and giving her a break. I worked 7-6 most days so I would be home around 7:30, which was after dinner and only had 30-45 minutes with the kid. I saw it from her viewpoint and stopped going… | /r/askMRP | 23/02/18 10:45 AM |
| 1 | What is your mission?Become a financial advisor and help people kick the corporate bullshit that I did for 3 years that made me fat, high BP, and almost killed my marriage. I would also like to open the following 1. DIY auto hobby shop - business plan in works, but think of full service garage with membership so you can actually leave the house. Financial advisor practice - working towards this; flat fee and AUM model. Men's only social club - think RP/MRP man cave with gym, lounge, reading room etc to get away from… | /r/askMRP | 23/02/18 09:13 AM |
| 9 | (Advice) unsure which way would have been best to play this scenario.Did you have anything else to do? If not, you fucked up. You can refuse if you actually have something to do, and she is able to do it herself. I'm on deployment and I will have been close to a year away from my wife who is acting as a single mom. If I get back and she asks for help to do the dishes or x y or z I'll gladly do it knowing she held the fort down. If I don't, resentment will grow and fester. Remember you can lose the battle but win the war! | /r/askMRP | 23/02/18 09:06 AM |
| 2 | NMMNG Safe PersonI'm going to diverge on this - Some people are so socially isolated that they just need to have that communication and to have someone hear them out. Lend that ear or that minute to talk to them. You don't need to cry in front of them but venting is perfectly fine especially if its over a fine scotch and making that connection if that makes sense. I have my best friend and we vent all the time. He still hasn't gotten over his ex-girlfriend over 3 years ago because she cheated on him. He thinks a… | /r/askMRP | 22/02/18 04:34 PM |
| 5 | NMMNG Safe PersonJust hit you up in chat. | /r/askMRP | 22/02/18 08:55 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...hopefully that isn't what is found. I've been thinking hard about it and just can't explain it. Like I'm Jekyll and Hydying this stupid shit I worked out hard twice today to think about something different. Did get some IOIs and I am down to 227 from 245 in Oct... | /r/askMRP | 19/02/18 04:20 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...Lol, hopefully that isn't what is found. I've been thinking hard about it and just can't explain it. Like I'm Jekyll and Hydying this stupid shit. | /r/askMRP | 19/02/18 04:10 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...He presents it as it is. | /r/askMRP | 19/02/18 06:11 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...I will be honest in and say that there is a chance that it is me and deployment. Deploying does a number to you especially when you are away from your support and you can only do so much. She recently told me I was being jealous of the orbiter which I calmly responded that "I am not jealous of a man boy that doesn't know what he wants in life and decides to crawl out of the woodwork when I deploy, I am envious of him because he is there and I am not. Two different things" She STFU because she kn… | /r/askMRP | 18/02/18 07:01 PM |
| 2 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...I signed the contract and made the payment. I have to say it didn't come easy but the flags and vibes are there. I will use any evidence to make a decision. One of the big reasons I am doing this is because I have read on here guys getting blindsided by their spouses with the red flags I am seeing. I'd rather prepare any COA and go into ready or a simple stand down (from divorce) then be caught off guard. I appreciate the words of support. It really means something as this was a decision I didn'… | /r/askMRP | 18/02/18 06:58 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...I have to say that is what it is. I've been thinking all day about it and I thought about calling it off but there is a nagging feeling that I had before that I ignored and it blew up in my face. The outcome is the outcome, how it affects me is what I have control over. We facetimed yesterday and I could feel her pulling me into her frame. The issue I had with our convo is that it was House Management Inc. and none of that talk that that separated me from a roommate. I focused on our kid but at … | /r/askMRP | 18/02/18 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Facebook: opinions on married people friending and messaging ex's?I myself ran into this. I had a bunch of GFs and they would message me out of the blue. It would be cordial and if they tried to reminisce I would reply with "ok" . Wife found one last year when a girl who ghosted me because I got married came out with a bunch of emotional on my message. My wife asked me who she was and I said an old girl friend who got through a dark time (ex had suicidal tendencies). Our convo was nothing bad, but I didn't blow up at the wife about it. I later asked why she wa… | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 06:24 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...She is someone I want to be with. Life was/is chaos right now with so much going on. I could be reading it wrong or right. This is the big thing right there. It's a damned if do and if don't. You have a valid idea with what you are saying. I don't know what to say. If nothing shows I can check my gut or if it does I can trust it more. I know that's a shit excuse but it is what it is. | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 03:27 PM |
| 3 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...This guy seems legit. I read reviews and him being a veteran holds some weight. He was very upfront with the "if we do find something how will it affect your deployment" because he has a secure "Dropbox" where any video or photos go. He is also insured and licensed through the state. I checked the state database and such. | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 06:19 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...Since I'm deployed I would not. I also need to take the impact it would have on my daughter into consideration if I come back and do a Main Event. | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 06:16 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...That is true. The plan is the same until that very main event, which hopefully doesn't come but fuck my intuition when it comes to shitty things. Building the frame sucks when you got this on the mind. The main thing on my mind is my daughter. | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 03:35 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...I come from a family where divorce is highly frowned upon. She is a child of divorce and so she has been through it. She sees it as the atomic option instead of working through it. Her mom cleaned out her dad and so if it gets to that point I might be able to leverage that against her if she tries something crazy. I'll provide updates but hopefully it's just the shopping list but we will see. | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 03:32 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...That's the thing. Her previous actions might be clouding my head but it is what it is. PI is deposit of around $1500 which would be about 20 hours which is inline with what it runs. | /r/askMRP | 17/02/18 03:28 AM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...That is the thing. I fought with myself on the mental frame but with the way it is I want to build my frame knowing what I'm building it for. Two outcomes: nothing, or something. How I build myself will be based of what transpires. I know that is not the answer but it is the action. | /r/askMRP | 16/02/18 08:13 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...I know. It fucking sucks, but we will see. If the PI finds anything then it's IDGAF hardcore, if they don't I'm still framing and working on myself to kill that BP traits. It sucks, because as an officer I have seen and carried the impact when it happened to my men. Add the "red flags" from them it could be making me go Rambo but we will see. As for the kid, I think she would do every other week as her parents were divorced and she stated she would have preferred that. We will see gents and I'll… | /r/askMRP | 16/02/18 08:10 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...I know. It fucking sucks, but we will see. If the PI finds anything then it's IDGAF hardcore, if they don't I'm still framing and working on myself to kill that BP traits. It sucks, because as an officer I have seen and carried the impact when it happened to my men. Add the "red flags" from them it could be making me go Rambo but we will see. As for the kids, I think she would do every other week as her parents were divorced and she stated she would have preferred that. We will see gents and I'l… | /r/askMRP | 16/02/18 08:08 PM |
| 1 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...Hard but probably true. | /r/askMRP | 16/02/18 08:04 PM |
| 3 | PI Update: I've hired a PI...Yeah...that was what raised my eyebrow but he also hadn't seen her in a couple years but he is a trusty guy. The main thing here is if it what it is and verified I am going to prepare myself so I can be the best father to my daughter and that is the focus/reasoning for it. I don't want to be blindsided like my multiple friends when they returned home and were in a funk for months afterwards. | /r/askMRP | 16/02/18 06:55 PM |
| 1 | What'd you do for Valentine's day guys?I gave my wife some non roses because nothing would have been Rambo. I'm deployed but got two fucking texts..."omg the flowers are awesome" and something else. She probably sent a pic to Jodie. | /r/askMRP | 15/02/18 03:45 PM |
| 1 | FR – Valentine’s Day Soft NoI did this. Didn't do roses but got a little beta when I only got two texts from the wife yesterday and no gift. I'm deployed but still her acknowledgment of her not sending a care package means more than the package. She could be fucking Jodie for all I care. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/02/18 03:40 PM |
| 1 | V-Day and all thatSo funny thing; while I'm deployed and I mentioned it earlier I wasn't sending flowers I read it might be to Rambo...so I sent her not roses but they did the job... All I got was a a Text and response. Not gift or apology from her for not getting me anything. Should I neg and game her? Don't care but noticed it. Hmmm | /r/askMRP | 14/02/18 05:46 PM |
| 1 | I need advice from other men. I think my marriage is over and not sure what to do next.Kill the puppy... | /r/askMRP | 14/02/18 04:19 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2018OYS #1 Stats-6'3, 230, BF17% down from 255 and a way higher BF since Oct. Lift: Squat 275 5x5 PRx1 315 BP - 185 5x5 PRx1 225 - weak as fuck but working with coach as right shoulder is wrecked from sports. Should be 275 or so DL- 315 5x5 405 PRx1 Readings NMMNG- read Mating in Captivity- read State of Affairs - reading WISNIFG - reading Married Sex Planner or whatever it is - next Life- Currently deployed to sandbox. Been here for about a month and finally getting into a rhythm. Been away from th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/02/18 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Cardio for fitness (MA) and bulkingThis. I had a job where it was 7-7 most days. I tried the early workout but there was no 24 hour gym. I would run in the morning and try to go the gym in evening for an hour. Left me with less than an hour with my daughter and wife guilted me for working out, which it was true. My new life I'm going to take 3 months off and set my schedule and find a job that fits in it. I have enough money saved to do this since my job almost killed me, my marriage and most importantly my relationship with my d… | /r/askMRP | 11/02/18 04:01 PM |
| 1 | SO is in Italy for 12 weeks, how do I replace the physical intimacy?Yeah, I've deployed so many times based of your advice I would have many wives or mgtow | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Cardio for fitness (MA) and bulkingFuck me, I mean hgh tapers off as you wake up. Thanks for the corrections | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 07:20 PM |
| 1 | SO is in Italy for 12 weeks, how do I replace the physical intimacy?Are you talking about my wife or the OP LDR gf? | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Cardio for fitness (MA) and bulkingThat is true. Lifting in the morning when your T and HGh levels are higher is key. I have noticed a significant gain in mass and burn. The more muscle you have the higher the calorie daily demand which will cause your buddy to burn more and also raise your T levels with heavy weight. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 03:30 PM |
| 2 | V-Day and all thatYes the RP is hard to swallow. It is definitely a swift kick in the nuts but there is always a catalyst for the rude wakening up. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 02:29 PM |
| 1 | SO is in Italy for 12 weeks, how do I replace the physical intimacy?Uhhh so lift and read? Spin plates? | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 02:17 PM |
| 3 | SO is in Italy for 12 weeks, how do I replace the physical intimacy?Does doesn't apply to marriages right? I'm married and deployed. This applies to the LDR without a ring. I know Rollo and I don't want to read it ;-) | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Cardio for fitness (MA) and bulkingI'm at the gym on base around 6. Put in an hour in the morning. I have a slow time in the afternoon and that's when I do a 3-5 mile run or jog (based on morning workout). I rest on Saturday and Sunday. I understand about the cardio thing but it's a false notion that cardio will kill muscle. Your body will burn fat first then muscle later. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 10:07 AM |
| 1 | V-Day and all thatThis right here. I'm deployed and she hasn't asked for my address and I haven't given it to her. She is probably expecting flowers or something but it was always a covert contract and "oh I MIGHT get laid tonight" She'll notice it and I'll have to maintain frame as it will be a first. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 10:04 AM |
| 1 | V-Day and all thatThis right here. I'm deployed and she hasn't asked for my address and I haven't given it to her. She is probably expecting flowers or something but it was always a covert contract and "oh I MIGHT get laid tonight" She'll notice it and I'll have to maintain frame as it will be a first. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 10:03 AM |
| 6 | V-Day and all thatThis right here. I'm deployed and she hasn't asked for my address and I haven't given it to her. She is probably expecting flowers or something but it was always a covert contract and "oh I MIGHT get laid tonight" She'll notice it and I'll have to maintain frame as it will be a first. | /r/askMRP | 10/02/18 10:03 AM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?Well fml, I've been looking at it wrong. Sometimes this place does have the streams of context crossed and makes it hard to figure out. 351 ways to skin a cat. | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 05:43 PM |
| 0 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?So if I CUCK her is it not the same? If me not owning my shit made her wonder, is it not on me? Or would I not be the excuse? I'm slightly confused on the context. | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 05:24 PM |
| 0 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?Well you have to own your shit right? I was a beta ass bitch. I was a demand signal because I was whiny and didn't own it. I felt I needed external validation and the captain was fucking crying. The boom State of Affairs by Estel is really RP in the sense, people are driven to have them because their spouse/SO does not provide. I've accepted that part. This is because of the boundaries we both agreed to and still get that gut feeling like I had before. Thanks for the input though, and my rant is… | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 04:52 PM |
| 0 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?I had an affair too. This is like the kettle calling the pot black. We both know about each others issues and agreed not to. We have a lot going on in our lives but there is just a weird feeling and maybe a PI is the best way to confirm. | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 03:34 PM |
| 0 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?I'm halfway around the world in the Sandbox, so that's out of the question. Money is good so it's not an issue. | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 03:32 PM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?She did not openly admit it. She had denied it for months until I found a "I love you" letter in her wallet. I left it in there and I later saw her check for it the next day. After I saw that I asked her about it which she denied until I dropped the "wtf do you have an I love you letter" and she spilled it being an emotional. I've been reading up on Affairs and I can't really fault her. I was a BP mofo but I set the boundaries and yet I'm still getting those weird gut vibes from halfway around t… | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 03:30 PM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?What I mean for the trust is that when I die it goes to my daughter. I understand how that read wrong. | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 03:25 PM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have hired a PI?It will be going it's a trust I have. My daughter is the sole beneficiary of it. This is mainly reading other threads here and be like I don't think she would but she has. I know it sucks but sometimes evidence reaffirms that gut feeling. Just trying to get things inline | /r/askMRP | 08/02/18 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Rude Awakening - need some adviceSorry I meant if they were having them at the same time i.e. "I am having an affair" "Really? Me too" Would it be at that point to go separate ways? Reading up on State of Affairs by Estel and they mentioned it too. Wife had an emotional affair while I had one too. We are working through even though I'm deployed. | /r/askMRP | 07/02/18 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a guy disappointed in having a girlFocus on yourself. Take care of yourself before others... | /r/askMRP | 06/02/18 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Advice for a guy disappointed in having a girlEasy, take care of yourself, own your shit and don't settle for a beta. | /r/askMRP | 05/02/18 04:13 PM |
| 5 | She ended it last night. Best way to handle fallout?Go get another dog from the pound..,a male one. | /r/askMRP | 05/02/18 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Improving to spontanious bj’s, pregnancyQuestion: how often do you eat her pussy? It depends on the woman but I would eat pussy because 1. I fucking like to 2. Gets them wetter than the ocean. Wife got caught off guard once when the kid was down and I lifted her up onto the kitchen island. Ate her out and she returned the favor. She started to do random times and I returned to the point I eventually puttered off on the frequency of the pussy eating. She kept providing the BJs on her accord. | /r/askMRP | 05/02/18 03:46 AM |
| 10 | Advice for a guy disappointed in having a girlOld saying it takes a man to make a man... Just kidding. I was in the same place. I wanted a boy to carry on my name and all that shit as my dad was the only son. I realized fuck it. It's just a name. My daughter is fucking awesome and she will wear a dress and ride a motorcycle. Embrace that kid that you created. Man up and teach her the way of RP | /r/askMRP | 03/02/18 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Dinner with another manI'll put this out here because I dealt with it. My wife has a lot of guy friends because she is a tom boy. She rides motorcycles and is into car so it comes natural. With that she is attractive and surround by orbiters. She sometimes doesn't see it from the normal persons perspectives. I'm away from home as I am deployed. Wife tells me that she is going to meet a guy friend for dinner. They usually do this when they go out and ride at night. But they weren't riding. I brought this up to her in f… | /r/askMRP | 02/02/18 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Wife gets funny because I didn’t take her rejectionI recently ate the pill. I used to be controlling over my wife when it came to expenses but it's her money. She got her first big girl job and went out and bought a $2000 raw edge table. She brought up the expense on our date night. She led on to the cost of it. I asked her how much and she told me. Old me would have freaked out and whine. I looked over at her and was like "Nice, that is expensive" and I stfu. It truly caught her off guard that I didn't throw a fit or anything. She did the look … | /r/askMRP | 02/02/18 04:18 PM |
| 8 | So why do women shit test themselves out of a decent relationship ?Had this happen to a friend of mine. Dude was SMV 9 and she was at best SMV 6. He was very RP but at the same time didn't realize it. He would get shit on and I'm like wtf? One day at dinner we are eating. She starts to go on a bitchfest. He looks at her and realizes he's done. Tells her to get her shit out of his house (not married but very LTR) and leave in front of 10 of their best friends. She hamsters and tries to brush it off but prob 6 years of shit testing broke this guy. He ends up thro… | /r/askMRP | 01/02/18 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Wife wants to take Girls Weekend to TahoeGotcha. I was making 125K but killing myself at a paper mill as a project engineer. | /r/askMRP | 01/02/18 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Wife wants to take Girls Weekend to TahoeDear god...Rome GA mortgage is $750 for a 3/2 2000+ with a pool. | /r/askMRP | 01/02/18 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Wife wants to take Girls Weekend to TahoeHow is she going to fund it when she's a stay at home mother? Start cutting back on the expenses. No one is forcing him to pay that much back. I went from 5K in debt to over 30K because of hurricanes, a new house, a wedding ring, and the wife's German shepherd that needed a new hip. Life goes on...but how the hell are utilities $700 bucks? | /r/askMRP | 31/01/18 04:20 PM |
| -3 | Wife wants to take Girls Weekend to TahoeBro, let her go. I'll ask this...why don't you want her to go? You think she being around her trashy sorority girls that she will want to go hunt dick with them? You tried to hide your insecurities with your blame. Look at it this way, if you don't let her go she will use that against you and based on your frame rip you to shreds. | /r/askMRP | 31/01/18 04:39 AM |
| 1 | Helping a friend?I didn't do this with MRP but I did RP a friend of mine after I found it and I recognized he was me in another life. He was BP as fuck and major cuckold. He gave me a book on real estate investing and I gave him NMMNG. He ate that shit up. He read the book in a weekend and moved into it... He is more PP than RP. He used it to get a girl and that girl is on a pedestal...maybe when he realizes that he kicks the pedestal out | /r/askMRP | 31/01/18 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?This is where it hits. Back when we first met I was RP. I was dating three chicks at the time and I ended up with her. I'll admit life made me go BP. It's fucking bitter. We had our kid and we were not prepared. We both got fat, stressed, and life was chaos. I went from "I got this shit" to "fuck this shit!" Since I deployed I have lost 20lbs and I would say I'm more attractive. Less dadbod but I'm N closing when I go out and wing with a friend. I'm set the workout plan and going to run a half m… | /r/askMRP | 30/01/18 03:39 PM |
| -1 | FR: Stick Up for Your FOAlpha is a mindset not body set...with that said. Lift motherfucker! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/01/18 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Rude Awakening - need some adviceWeird question...what if both of you are having affairs and stay with each other? Comment from CNN article I read | /r/askMRP | 28/01/18 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Thanks for the feedback. I have a copy of Meditations that I read every deployment as I had it since 2007 and has coffee stains and all the goodness. I have added to that with most of the sidebar and others. I know I need to be a captain and that I was drunk. We had so much chaos going on that we lost it. This deployment will be a reset for me. In the past the plans have worked most of the times but fallen apart because I was doing it for other people instead of myself. My main plans direction a… | /r/askMRP | 27/01/18 09:53 AM |
| 1 | getting / having childrenI'll tell you this. I love my daughter but I could I would had her 3 years later. Wife and I didn't have our time together which is showing it's effects. | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 06:24 PM |
| 2 | I fucked up. Need advice on where to go from hereSide bar...I did this to the wife to kino but it was at the end of the day when she was burnt out. Made myself look like another demand and she went off. I stood there and let her vent, but damage was done. Let her vent to you. Reflect you acted like a child. | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 10:14 AM |
| 3 | On catch and release...Yeah...a lot recently, to see if lifting and STFU works. I went out recently with my buddy who turned me onto RP. Solid PUA and MGTOW I was at the bar and I turned around to see a solid 8/9 blonde. Next to her was some drunk that was in her comfort space. I look at her and could she was uncomfortable. Looked at the guy and asked she your Gf? No. awesome. I gently nudged him about 2 feet back to give her some room. She tried to shit test me like "Oh I can handle me own", "didn't look like it" and… | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Yeah we have been moving towards it. I did reward her recently because I found some art of her favorite motogp rider and ordered it because I know she would like it. I can see how valentines gifts can push covert contracts. | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?You are right on that. That is what I'm doing for deployment and focusing on. I have a lot of time on my hands and I'm reflecting on the past two years maybe more of BP bitch. I'm going to carry my lifting, eating right, doing what I want over as I will be taking the last 3 months of the year off as I am changing jobs. That will allow me to build that foundation of this is what I'm doing. Previously I was working myself to death and out of my marriage. 5-6 days a week, 10-12 hours and no lifting… | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 03:35 AM |
| 2 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Funny...happened to my friend John... | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?This is the thing. I know I was drunk, now I'm hungover but it feels like I'm sailing in waters known to many. | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?She will be pretty much single mom for 11 months while I'm deployed/mobilized. | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Well it's 0300am | /r/askMRP | 26/01/18 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?That is solid and is what I'm going to get back on. I was reading a post of desire and kinoing and I think i went too far. 0-100. The desire thing is what I was hunting and I think I chewed some BP in forcing it. It's hard to create value from 6000 miles away. How would one do that? Only thing is I can communicate. Flowers? Nope. Cleaning service for Valentine's Day? Maybe. Fuck the truth hurts...going to have to lift tomorrow. | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?I have made progress in not rewarding bad behavior but that is mostly in person or on the phone. Text is a lol different as I don't think it's covered that well... | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Copy. That is how most of it was going but I think I Rambo'd it in there. I'll do that for a test and see how it is. As for the local dick? She has a bunch of orbiters to pick from. | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Yeah, that is one thing. I could have N closed multiple girls while I'm out with the guy that introduced me to RP. Ironically I get the attention compared to him because I'm wasn't looking. Had one girl that I small chatted with as some drunk was smothering her pretty much in her space as she waited and I nudge him out of the way. As I went to step out for a breath of fresh air, she literally bolted out to catch me. I stopped her on her way in and she said she never felt like chasing some guy bu… | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Lol, it's a chick that we know...so cool if that happened! | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?That is what my only weapon is. I use to over saturate her and I was doing well. You are correct in the fact I've been in her frame for so long it sucks. She is the mother of my daughter but damn sometimes she can be stubborn. How does one invest less when the only thing you have is communication? | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?My god...true words hurt the most... | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Yeah, I think that is it. I didn't know how to kill it after the "Right" so I said well I'll let you go in which she did her spiel. Should I have just not responded by that. | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Lol; how the fuck do you Kino from 6000 miles away? I'm catching myself asking her but I guess I'm getting conflicting shit from MRP. | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Tried to sext wife in a while; got the "time and place, connect with you" etc, What now?Haha I did send some pics. I'm considerably slimmer now. when I go out I n close to just confirm- one girl stated verbatim "I desired you so that's why I chased after you" after I left the bar as I stepped outside to make a call. For the STFU it is hard as I am deployed but if it goes downhill I just do, "I'll let you go" and not talk. On previous deployments I would BP myself as I felt that I needed to talk to her everyday but now since she's busy with kids, I let her text me, and it will be a … | /r/askMRP | 25/01/18 07:06 PM |
| 1 | the elephant in the roomI had this happen. I found a I love you note from my wife's coworker right before I was to deploy. I knew something was up because of her actions. When her actions speak louder than her words and the truth, that's when you lose trust. I told her the boundaries were ever there but it was assumed. She realized it and I told her that now they are set I won't be disrespected like that again or we will have to go our separate ways. Again kill the puppy and move on. I have realized I had gone BP bitch… | /r/askMRP | 24/01/18 06:05 PM |
| 1 | How to handle thisYea, you need to call it out there and not be a bitch. I got home from military training and noticed my wife for some reason not getting undressed in front of me. Called her out because it was something out of the norm, and she stated some BS reason. I told her if I need to get on SnapChat to see you naked we can do that ;-). She chuckled but later explained she gets weird when I'm gone for months because it's like a stranger is in the house, as me being there is out of the norm. | /r/askMRP | 19/01/18 08:10 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with bitterness?Tell her to get rid of them. Don't DEER. That is a boundary that you need to set. She is looking at what if and not what now. | /r/askMRP | 19/01/18 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Female Mate Guarding?I'll put my cents in might get long. I recently changed my style. I went from baggy loose fit dad jeans because I was squishy and fat, to switching to a basic capsule wardrobe (think J Crew). After MRP, I focused on what I wanted to wear vice my uniform of the day (military or carhartt). I felt better about myself and I actually looked a lot better having dropped 20lbs and waist size. I was able to wear pants and chinos that actually fit well and showed my ass a lil (why squat?!? Lol). Anyways I… | /r/askMRP | 12/01/18 07:20 PM |
| 1 | OT: Has anybody read Mating in Captivity? Really good read and has a lot of ideas and perspectives on desire/dread/third shadow!Damn right it is BPP. I'm picking up her latest one, State of Affairs, as that I what was the catalyst for me seeking the RP. My wife and I both had emotional affairs; just big difference in the want, but same trigger: me. Me: I felt abandoned by my wife since I was enmeshed (NMMNG) and felt I couldn't survive without her and needed external validation and attention elsewhere; argh the victim puke is bad Hers: She felt such a smothering demand from me that she could not supply. She felt that for… | /r/askMRP | 12/01/18 05:06 PM |
| 1 | OT: Has anybody read Mating in Captivity? Really good read and has a lot of ideas and perspectives on desire/dread/third shadow!That's it. I feel like an ass because I was so BP and victim puke but I'm recognizing it. We had a talk about me owning my shit and jealously and she was like yeah it's bad. I know it's STFU but acknowledging it leads to owning it. She called me on my inaction prior to the finding of the RP. She stated I would change for about 2-3 weeks and fall back to the norm. She liked the change but for me I think I was changing just to get laid (beta bux) and when it didn't I bitched out. Her pretty much s… | /r/askMRP | 12/01/18 02:42 AM |
| 1 | BPP Reads the "Complete Marriage Counselor": Confirmation Bias galore in the belly of the beastThank you appreciate the feedback. I understand actions speak louder than words and in situations that call for walking out to cool off and say something stupid (because that's the only thing she will hear) is what is needed. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/18 08:07 PM |
| 2 | BPP Reads the "Complete Marriage Counselor": Confirmation Bias galore in the belly of the beastI pose this question: Does MRP have any counseling at all or moderator to deal with say differences in communication techniques. I understand the bias that could be in but I have been listening to Esther P and she seems legit in being neutral and present RP views? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/18 01:35 PM |
| 1 | OT: Has anybody read Mating in Captivity? Really good read and has a lot of ideas and perspectives on desire/dread/third shadow!Thank you! I was having issues with jealously and shit like that when it comes to my wife's male friends. She is into the car scene and motorcycles as she rides. I held their actions against her regardless if any boundaries were broken. Ester talks about that rope needs to be lengthened in order for the freedom to be felt and minimized the desire for said freedom if you control them. | /r/askMRP | 10/01/18 07:17 PM |
| 2 | how do you deal with a wife that breaks a boundary?I have a question on this. New RP only account and I have read through the sidebar and books. The question I have is if boundaries are broken by outsiders and wife doesn't enforce them or is ignorant to them ie "Oh don't worry about him". If a male friend of my wife who blocks you on facebook so he can post on your wife's page (pretty much-confirmed Orbiter status), how would you go about discussing this with her? Wife didn't like random female friends posting on my page and now the same happens… | /r/askMRP | 09/01/18 10:27 PM |
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