Branches: How do/did you discover them?

justpickanyusername · 2018-04-09T16:02:45+00:00

Your spidey sense has been tingling for a while now.

2ndal · 2018-04-09T15:54:44+00:00

What is your boundary? What is your action if it is crossed? Answer those, and then decide whether it has been crossed.

This is either enough evidence for you or it isn't.

Regardless of whether it is or is not, you need to develop your go plan.

If it is enough evidence, execute on that go plan and don't hesitate.

If it isn't, hire a PI.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-04-09T18:33:43+00:00

Been following your story. Just as a reminder, the stay plan is the same as the go plan.

Look. If this woman is bound and determined to cheat on you, nothing you do can prevent that.

Yes, all these red flags speak to your gut. But right now, as you are deployed, you have limited options.

Your job right now is to greatly improve your SMV and to prepare yourself for all circumstances. That includes financial, mental, and so forth. That is your mission.

Like u/ReddJive said, treat it like a OP. And no showing your poker hand or doing stuff against your best interests.

88Will88 · 2018-04-10T09:14:05+00:00

Look you are still posting because you are hurting. You are hurting because this shit hurts. Go and fuck another woman, pronto. Keep up with the self improvement and mentally divorce her right now. You know she is cheating or she is planning to so you need to give her up. You are only posting because you still have feelings for her and you are hurt. Like Rollo says, you need to kill the beta. One day you will look back and be ashamed you put so much thought and emotion into the breakup.

red-sfpplus · 2018-04-09T19:00:02+00:00

Jesus man. You need to chill the fuck out on this woman and LIFT while you are deployed.

STFU. You have spewed this hamster shit on here so many times now, it is sad.

The same fucking advice applies. Ignore her. Lift, STFU and when you get back fucking divorce her before you put a baby in her. Go fucking non-contact now. People do it all the fucking time. Go lift until you puke and eat your chicken rations and STFU up. Dont fucking post this shit again on here.

You are wasting our time. What have you done since the last fucking post like this to improve yourself?

redpillrobert · 2018-04-09T16:21:40+00:00

the only way to keep a woman honest, for any amount of time, and from any distance, is via competition anxiety

whether a man leaves on a 2 night business trip or a 9 month deployment to iraq, the likelihood a woman will cheat is inversely related to how worried she is that YOU will cheat

i'm guessing the main reason soldiers get cheated on so much is their wives are convinced there's very little competition for them wherever their men are currently deployed and their men continually reassure them of that

if you've gotten to the point that you're stalking your wife online then yes, it's probably already too late and she's already fucking someone else (women can smell your fidelity and your fear and they both stink)

i would suggest something extreme at this point. drop some mild suggestion that you've got a female friend out there or that you're now in an area with a lot of westernized women, stop saying i love you to reassure her of your fidelity, respond very little to any messages she sends, etc.

it won't erase the dick she's probably already sucked, but it's the only thing you can do to get her to stop sucking it until you get home

good luck

coluorred · 2018-04-09T20:21:49+00:00

Bloody hell.... if you really are military, then you should know to get a good grip on the command and control of a situation. Being away, is not good command and control situation. She is there with your stuff and you are not. Just wait until you get back home before doing anything that tips your hand.

mrpthrowa · 2018-04-09T16:25:26+00:00

Given the hero worship of the troops in the US, it simply amazes me that the female imperative is so entrenched in American society that women feel no shame at all from cheating on their "heroes putting their bodies on the line for country".

fuckmrp · 2018-04-09T17:17:51+00:00

The crux here is establishing what is your ego/insecurity and was is an actual red flag?

Are you cool with her going on overnight camping trips with other dudes in general?

ReddJive · 2018-04-09T17:34:41+00:00

First. Watch this and follow is much as you can. I am sure you have a good buddy still at your duty station that can assist.

DOn't say a damn thing. Treat it like another op. You're training should kick in now. Stop with the emotional BS. This is battle. What would you do if you were going into Hadji territory?

I was an an officer. Company command 3 times. If you call her out you just run them to ground. If the dude is a soldier as well gather intel then burn them. Any action you take will contribute to the PTSD fear the media projects about vets.

While you are overseas. Focus on your assignments and yourself.

It's just another op.

Rian_Stone · 2018-04-09T18:35:27+00:00

My boss's wife was a sailor, she did cheat, and he did leave her. She grabbed his french doppleganger.

I'm bias. I've know too many military girls to give you any good news

BobbyPeru · 2018-04-10T03:39:51+00:00

she and him deleted themselves from the list.

You already know the answer right here.

Go with option 2. So the paperwork, and then call a meeting with her and present the papers. Try to keep it amicable.

pridebrah · 2018-04-11T01:41:28+00:00

Curious, how old were you when you married her and why did you do so? I'm always curious at why fellas marry when they're still in the midst of their career and actively deploying etc. Why not wait until after? What is the driving force?

Title	Branches: How do/did you discover them?
Author	broneilbro
Upvotes	11
Comments	83
Date	April 9, 2018 3:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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