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| 1 | I've done the inner work. I've done the outer work. Still not approaching & I recognise what it is. It's that fear of becoming an autist who just defies social calibration and just does questionable shit. Has anyone had this issue and still followed through?If I do the approach where I just go for it, I could probably add some steps in the right direction, but my biggest issue is sexualizing things or creating a man-to-woman frame during the interaction. I can jump in and start convo but it goes nowhere. She might ask questions back, or be polite back, or receptive (you can't always completely tell until you interact with them longer if they're truly receptive). But like during a pause, throwing a random push-pull seems so fucking random. "Part of … | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 04:58 PM |
| – | I've done the inner work. I've done the outer work. Still not approaching & I recognise what it is. It's that fear of becoming an autist who just defies social calibration and just does questionable shit. Has anyone had this issue and still followed through?When I have a plan, it goes right out the window as soon as I'm in the convo because I havent got the experience to be comfortable enough to exist there AND mentally navigate my approach. I probably need to get my numbers up. Also, the issue with having a plan is that in doing that, whatever approach anxiety I have goes up x10. So then I'm like okay wtf I basically have to free-for-all during my approach. Which leads me to my worry of lack of social calibration. My most relaxed approach was free… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 07:34 AM |
| – | I've done the inner work. I've done the outer work. Still not approaching & I recognise what it is. It's that fear of becoming an autist who just defies social calibration and just does questionable shit. Has anyone had this issue and still followed through?I can't read the context of that comment so I'll take it literally. I'm not | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 07:28 AM |
| 6 | Do you guys ever get shocked at how many people lack self awareness?I'd disagree with high school aspect of it though. Grade 12 and under, you could have gotten 90s for all of your years, and you wouldn't learn shit. That's what happened with me. Like straight up failing obviously isnt ideal, but dudes who were barely passing are either now REALLY succeeding or REALLY failing while everyone else is just cruising through the system. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/20 07:19 PM |
| – | Game is really just flirtingOverthinking theory and body language makes your more insecure ironically. Confidence, self-esteem, and calibration comes from watching people interact in real life, focusing on your purpose, and exercising/lifting. Not from mindsets. They're words that hold no internalised meaning. From someone who wasted so much time on theory, I could have done well with the advice this dude suggested. It's not some ninja mental shit. It's not a logical process. Abundance, value, and being playful. That's IT.… | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Most of the girls that I'm able to attract with my real personality are introverted empaths that literally worship/obsess over me for my authentic self, despite being average looking. But all other chicks tend to treat me as invisible/weird, or I can only pull them when I'm putting on a mask.Thanks. Very productive conversation | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Most of the girls that I'm able to attract with my real personality are introverted empaths that literally worship/obsess over me for my authentic self, despite being average looking. But all other chicks tend to treat me as invisible/weird, or I can only pull them when I'm putting on a mask.I get that you're an endorsed contributor and probably generally give good advice but I'd have to disagree with you because I wouldn't ever put these chicks on a pedestal and they would be the ones chasing. Literally one of them was dming me begging to sext. Like at some point, you start realizing that the beta hierarchy bs isn't completely applying here. Well, that's incorrect. It applies, but definitely is a lot easier with those types of chicks. I wouldn't invest much time in my interactions … | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Should I (29M) continue to tolerate my insecure (29M) friend ?Could you explain more about how he acts? I can relate a bit to what you're describing because I used to be like that so I might be able to help. Is your issue the fact that he acts out when he fades out from the group, or the fact that he fades out from the group? | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 07:00 AM |
| 1 | I met a girl at a party who models and I agreed to painting her (which I don’t actually feel like doing). How do I turn this into a sexual encounter?I'm not going to act like I know your situation but if you're agreeing to do something you don't want to do just to force a sexual encounter, you're already entering that interaction in a needy way and you're not living true to your own wants/needs. What's the difference between doing that and becoming friends with a girl in hopes of getting sex? It's disingenuous and even if you manage to get sex, it'll be bitter sweet. Maybe you could have tried being honest and saying something like "look, I'… | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 06:55 AM |
| 1 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?I've been doing it for a long time purposefully and going out 3-4 times a week to speak to groups and make social circles and forcefully interacting with family groups outside of those outings. What I realized was that this is my natural disposition over time in a group. I become the chilled out guy who doesn't speak much just naturally. Even without thinking, the speed of group interactions doesn't match my vibe. Unless I find a way to provide value as the "chilled out dude" and not be a follow… | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 12:24 AM |
| 1 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?I've taken psychedelics before and I've dabbled quite a bit into mindfulness meditation. The issue is, I can ignore the patterns but the results are still the same. What happens is that I end up being a confident and grounded person, but still faded out. It's true that I don't care about it in the moment, but it still doesn't negate the results of what it means to fade out in a group. I can vibe with anyone on an individual level, it's the group interactions. I literally said that at my most com… | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 06:30 PM |
| 4 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?I figured man. Back in high school my social skills were trash, but I managed to get tons of dates by leveraging social media popularity and building a sort of passive status for myself. I would also just bullshit everyone as a way to compensate for my lack of being genuine and speaking my mind. And yet, girls were getting crushes and I literally couldn't believe how easily swayed girls could get from the image of social status. The thing is, by doing that I fucked myself because now 5 years lat… | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 05:59 PM |
| 2 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?This is actually good advice, thanks. I'll give it a shot for what it's worth. I have a feeling that I'll end up making friends with a bunch of introverts, which kind of goes against the whole "outgoing" idea since they'll most likely be the types to not speak much in groups and just chill out. Maybe I could try becoming the extroverted introvert who invites all the introverts to shit I go to. Maybe get in with some introverted chicks. Who fucking knows. Extroverted chicks aren't my type, but th… | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 05:27 PM |
| 1 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?Jesus dude, this sounds like it goes beyond the scope of this post but I feel you. Sometimes life will throw some bullshit at you. Especially if you don't fit the status quo of what society wants. I'm guessing you've cold approached before? | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 05:21 PM |
| 4 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?Once again, you're just throwing vague cookie cutter advice like it's somehow going to solve shit. Like thanks for the effort, but straight up this is trash advice. I literally learnt nothing from this. I've BEEN staying on my purpose. And social interactions are a BIG part of any sort of business-oriented goal. | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 05:18 PM |
| 15 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?I appreciate the advice but you're straight up just throwing vague and obvious advice without even understanding context. I've been staying on my purpose and mission. I do what I want. And you know what I want? To figure this shit out. I've literally seen dudes on here straight up lifting, are actually good looking, and making over 6 figures with NO chicks and you've got people saying "bruh just lift more. bruh youre not on your purpose bruh". Like ffs that's not how it works. If someone actuall… | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 05:16 PM |
| 13 | If you're an average-looking introvert, is forcing social circle game in college even worth it if you don't thrive in groups and that type of game isn't as applicable after college? Am I better off working on myself and doing cold approach?Any suggestions for how to take advantage of being the "rebel"? I see all this shit online about sigma males but I'd rather not get into bs hierarchies arbitrarily made which aren't based in actual science. I speak when I want to, I give off confident non-verbals, and don't take too much value, but at the same time, in groups I'm straight up trash after the initial one-on-one interaction with everyone. Like let's say I'm chilling with a chick and her friend bumps into us, I would be fine having … | /r/askTRP | 24/11/19 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Whenever I'm stressed, my whole body can seem confident but my voice always indicates that I'm stressed as fuck. It's like there's someone grabbing my throat every time I speak under stress.I'd agree if it wasn't a physiological issue. AA doesn't disappear. | /r/askTRP | 22/11/19 08:54 AM |
| 2 | Whenever I'm stressed, my whole body can seem confident but my voice always indicates that I'm stressed as fuck. It's like there's someone grabbing my throat every time I speak under stress.If someone says something like "stop pushing me" even if I didn't push them. Or if I'm focused on something and someone gets me out of my trance and I'm in fight or flight mode (ex. I was playing music and changing and some dude randomly said "love the music") and I was caught off guard too much. Or approaching a chick in general. Like I wonder if I should just pause for 5-6 seconds and recenter myself while doing my own thing, then resuming with eye contact and normal convo and just playing it … | /r/askTRP | 22/11/19 07:19 AM |
| 2 | Whenever I'm stressed, my whole body can seem confident but my voice always indicates that I'm stressed as fuck. It's like there's someone grabbing my throat every time I speak under stress.It's fucked and I don't know why. It's like there's a lock on my voice. My stress doesn't go to the rest of my body. I look like I'm just chilling in the moment. All the stress goes to the voice and it closes up. So when I speak it sounds like this, https://youtu.be/SqzfsKMaLqk?t=131. From that point until 2:30, except with my voice. It's that shaky anxious strangled voice. | /r/askTRP | 22/11/19 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Learning about the distances with the most intimacy, eye contact, and how to approach and increase the sexual vibe makes me uncomfortable now with family. Has any of you of you guys experienced this?lmfao | /r/askTRP | 22/11/19 01:27 AM |
| 4 | Learning about the distances with the most intimacy, eye contact, and how to approach and increase the sexual vibe makes me uncomfortable now with family. Has any of you of you guys experienced this?Did you read the full post or are you just trying to be edgy? When someone gets into that personal space and holds eye contact you don't feel tension? With chicks it's fine because it's sexual. With business or conflict it's fine because it's intimidation. But with family it's uncomfortable af | /r/askTRP | 21/11/19 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Did your perception change when you started approaching seriously? If so, how? It's like I'm already defeated before seriously starting. I've been non-stop self-improving. All that's left is to approach, and I go out, yet I'm blocked.I like to think that it was the only possibility because of how we saw the world. "If only" is easy to say in retrospect. Like my 40 year old self would probably slay if he was in my current body. All we can really do is speed up the process by putting in the work somehow | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Did your perception change when you started approaching seriously? If so, how? It's like I'm already defeated before seriously starting. I've been non-stop self-improving. All that's left is to approach, and I go out, yet I'm blocked.I'll give it a shot. I had no issue with asking 10 chicks for the time in a day. It's the context of expressing sexuality or any sort of interest which brings the ego into the table. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 01:08 AM |
| 6 | Did your perception change when you started approaching seriously? If so, how? It's like I'm already defeated before seriously starting. I've been non-stop self-improving. All that's left is to approach, and I go out, yet I'm blocked.Yes. Unless it's a 3/10 because it's low risk. It's retarded but it is what it is. I've been trying to repeat new mindsets but nothing's worked. I literally approached a 3/10 chick without even thinking about the fact that I'm approaching or feeling any stress and asked for water and directions and we had a convo and teasing and there was zero nervousness. I literally felt like I was blessing her. Even a bit entitled but still empathetic. Like it's hard to explain, and definitely some ego shit b… | /r/askTRP | 19/11/19 07:06 AM |
| 3 | It's so demotivating to approach in the winter because it gets dark by like 5pm and even the mood with the weather gets you feeling like shit. When do you guys usually daygame in the winter?That's a good suggestion actually, I'll look into it | /r/seduction | 18/11/19 10:49 PM |
| 2 | It's so demotivating to approach in the winter because it gets dark by like 5pm and even the mood with the weather gets you feeling like shit. When do you guys usually daygame in the winter?RIP. I made this post thinking that someone would be like "listen, it's all about approaching in the morning, get up early and get your sets in", and then I'd get pumped because I'm getting advice from someone who probably had success approaching in the winter. But it seems like everyone's actually agreeing with me lmao | /r/seduction | 18/11/19 06:15 AM |
| – | This is literally what gives me approach anxiety. "What if I had a job interview one day or became successful and known and all my shitty approaches came to light? Would all my hard work go down the drain because now people look at me differently for what I did in the past?"This is it \^ | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 08:30 AM |
| – | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?It's awesome that you ended up opening sets. Have you been seeing any success? I did the wandering aimlessly for 2 days for 3 hours. But asking girls for the time was no issue, which is what I did on the 3rd day. So I realized that it's not that I can't tap a chick and open my mouth to speak. It was an ego-related thing and a fear of consequences. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 08:28 AM |
| 4 | This is literally what gives me approach anxiety. "What if I had a job interview one day or became successful and known and all my shitty approaches came to light? Would all my hard work go down the drain because now people look at me differently for what I did in the past?"That's actually comforting to hear. People tend to have shit memory | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 12:52 AM |
| 2 | I can get girls. I just cant keep them or do shit with them.That's the hardest part. It's a long journey of therapy, working to be aware of your emotions regularly, meditating, and learning about non-verbals. If you're not even aware of yourself, how can you be aware of others? The only exception to this are the naturals who just pick up the behavior because of seeing it so much in their childhood. This isn't some "get good quick" scheme. This is real life. It'll take time. If you want quick tips to get you results now: (1) learn how to read body languag… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 06:19 AM |
| – | I can get girls. I just cant keep them or do shit with them.When I was in HS I wish I did what you're doing. I missed so many opportunities out of fear of escalating and I'm paying hard for it now. I had the same thing happen. Girls would check me out and talk about me being in shape, but this dude who was unfit, weird, and slimy somehow managed to get those chicks and more, left and right. I remember he gave me his FB account once and he was literally easing in by getting the girl to open up, and then putting himself in a position to meet their needs. H… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 03:43 AM |
| – | Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual Conversationsone of those discussions when I say “it is 6” and you say “no, it is 9”, while sitting opposite side of the table. I'm stealing that analogy. Really well put | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 03:24 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys tell the difference between a shy girl, a girl who's giving IOIs, or an anxious person (likely an abuse victim)?That's a good point. Some girls can be more flirty than others and send more IOIs naturally. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 03:14 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys tell the difference between a shy girl, a girl who's giving IOIs, or an anxious person (likely an abuse victim)?Yeah that does sound pretty concerning. Especially since apparently 1/25 people are sociopaths. Did she have the sociopath stare? The sort of one where she's zooming in on you 24/7? Or any sort of tells at all now that you look back on the situation? I want to increase perceptiveness. I feel like being confident and having good boundaries while having a back-up plan with every relationship makes it easier to counter-act manipulation somewhat. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 10:04 PM |
| – | How do you guys tell the difference between a shy girl, a girl who's giving IOIs, or an anxious person (likely an abuse victim)?I appreciate this. What does the stare look like? Is there anything else that gives them away? And it looks like I'll have to dive deeper. At parties it's wayy easier because it's expected, so it's more obvious. In public, it seems more high risk. I found some well-known PUA mention prolonged eye contact on the street while walking can be an IOI, but that can also just be coincidental so I don't know about all that. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 08:37 PM |
| – | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?Canadian. It's practice. You're honing your skills. | /r/seduction | 14/11/19 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Staring in the street. What are the rules for eye contact when you meet someone's gaze? I look confident and have good body language and look up, but I've noticed some issues. Sometimes I'll notice someone looking and look back, and then it's a staring contest.When a situation makes you feel uncomfortable, you don't ask questions to understand what to do? Imagine if I continued giving staring contests because I assumed that it was the "confident thing to do". I over-analyze it because I have no point of reference for it mate. It's as simple as that. Instead of saying "you're sperging" you could easily reply and say "this will make people uncomfortable and you're better off not giving people you're walking past a lot of eye contact". | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 12:48 PM |
| 0 | Staring in the street. What are the rules for eye contact when you meet someone's gaze? I look confident and have good body language and look up, but I've noticed some issues. Sometimes I'll notice someone looking and look back, and then it's a staring contest.The goal is not to, but that logic can apply to everything we do here. Why having confident non-verbals? You shouldn't care what people think of you right? Why wear nice clothes? Why shave? You don't need to do these things if you didn't care about peoples' opinions. There's a mask and there's the authentic self. The mask is for the natural passive behaviors you have when you don't speak that you turned into instincts which give confident vibes that pull people in. The authentic self is your bou… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Staring in the street. What are the rules for eye contact when you meet someone's gaze? I look confident and have good body language and look up, but I've noticed some issues. Sometimes I'll notice someone looking and look back, and then it's a staring contest.You say that but there's no posts about eye contact that refer to this specific situation without conflicting opinions. See what I told the other guy. I've googled this myself and also found conflicting advice so I came here. It's like when someone that looks like a 1/10 but did 3000 approaches, lifted for years, read tons of theory, has great fashion, and worked hard to get a good career but with still no success asks for advice and then someone acts like a drill sergeant know-it-all and says "… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Staring in the street. What are the rules for eye contact when you meet someone's gaze? I look confident and have good body language and look up, but I've noticed some issues. Sometimes I'll notice someone looking and look back, and then it's a staring contest.I appreciate your intention to help, but approaching someone is if you want to approach and disengaging is if you're doing something else. My situation is different. There's people that just look at you. I'll explain for context. I go to college and constantly have to walk from place to place and I like to be mindful and enjoy that present experience, and I've noticed that maybe 5% of people will just look at you and size you up because you're walking confidently. This isn't about "having nothin… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal to seem like an anxious, creepy, sarcastic, shameless mother fucker in your first few cold approaches?Go out to do something you enjoy, be social doing it, and if you meet women during it then cool. I've had that same mentality and it worked but the ego got in the way. I'm average looking but I was dancing and having fun and one girl was literally smiling and dancing with me but then I turned around and kept dancing because I was too afraid of what would happen in that high risk situation. The only way I could see getting over this is killing off my empathy and viewing women as objects, which is… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal to seem like an anxious, creepy, sarcastic, shameless mother fucker in your first few cold approaches?I think it's an ego thing, this anxiety only applies with higher smv dudes and any chicks I'm attracted to. With shy higher smv dudes I can still force it for some reason (maybe because their lower smv due to not being social), and one guy was literally seeking my validation in my conversation with him. It's because I viewed it as low risk to my ego. Like I hate to admit this, but any situation of stress involving my ego IRL, it's like tears forming in my eyes. Like it's that bad. I fucking hate… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 05:21 AM |
| 6 | Is it normal to seem like an anxious, creepy, sarcastic, shameless mother fucker in your first few cold approaches?Jeez dude, as soon as I mentally visualized that, I already felt the anxiety and nervous laughter coming in lmao | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 04:37 AM |
| 8 | Did I get ghosted and how to proceed?bluepilled double text beta faggot lmfao | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 04:25 AM |
| 2 | No issue approaching low smv dudes, old men and women, and really ugly chicks for convo. The issue I have is approaching any chick I find remotely attractive to me at all, or approaching any dudes with higher smv than me (at least looks-wise). Could this be an ego problem? How do I fix it?Thank for you for this. Seriously. I've just looked into ego investment and I think this will help take me to the next level. It goes beyond frame or forced mindsets, and also goes deeper into the importance of assertiveness, and emotional maturity. It just straight up explains why you are the way you are and ways in which you try to protect your ego. I'll give it a look and start approaching. | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 12:09 AM |
| 1 | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?I appreciate it, looks like even if I'm doing something with goes against my empathy signals or worry of creeping people out, I'll have to do it until I'm comfortable and can be "sort of" in control of my outer state eventually. | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 11:20 PM |
| 3 | No issue approaching low smv dudes, old men and women, and really ugly chicks for convo. The issue I have is approaching any chick I find remotely attractive to me at all, or approaching any dudes with higher smv than me (at least looks-wise). Could this be an ego problem? How do I fix it?The best way to get advice is by giving context, don't you think? | /r/askTRP | 13/11/19 11:19 PM |
| – | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?Follow the hint, go talk to that person but don't expect anything. "hey, I wonder what she is like and what I can learn from her" Interactions are about learning who you are, it's about challenging yourself. You might be on to something here. Thank you! I've been getting into meditation. Hasn't helped with approaches, but I'm better able to give eye contact and handle silences now. | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 04:16 PM |
| – | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?I've been doing the whole "loving yourself" mindset but it looks like I need to put it into practice by seeing that maybe rejection isn't so bad IRL? By the way, I appreciate the effort you're putting in to help. It's so tough to embody that mindset outside of the theoretical. I love myself but it looks like maybe not enough as I think. I know I have the non-verbals down though. The ability to truly embody "idgaf" despite all outward results seems like god mode. I'm hyper-aware of body language … | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 03:54 PM |
| – | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?I'll give it a try but the mental block's been there despite my recent efforts to push past it in all situations. It's just with any women I'm attracted to and high SMV dudes. It's like I classify myself and I'm afraid to fuck with the hierarchy. I'm also a fucking pussy when it comes to expressing myself sexually. All the sexual shit I've ever done in my life was back in HS when I managed to get with some popular people so I had an "in" despite being average looking and would ask the girls for … | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 03:45 PM |
| – | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?The thing is, I can speak to old ladies and low smv dudes, and old men. I can do this anywhere and it's easy. I had an old dude happy af when I spoke to him, and old lady pumped when I said bye, and a few low smv dudes seeking my validation in interactions because I had no issue speaking to them. The issue is with HIGH smv dudes and most girls (except for REALLY unattractive ones). Like I remember running across to a chick's station and asking for water because it was really hot, then drank from… | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 03:30 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on this theory on masculine-feminine energy?That's a good point. Good catch | /r/askTRP | 13/11/19 07:58 AM |
| – | Whenever I look forward and walk confidently, I've noticed quite a few times that the girls that walk by me turn around and look behind them if I'm looking at someone else.Are we seeing these things or is this just how it works? I literally am so confused because I'm just walking like I would normally without acting shy. Back in the day I used to be afraid of being my confident self because I thought that it would intimidate others. But now that I'm being that, it's strange. Even in the gym, when I'm pumped, I walk with my back straight and take my time. I notice people giving me looks like I'm trying to intimidate or something when I'm literally just being myself… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Feeling stuck. Monk mode tips?I feel this struggle. Are you INTP? | /r/askTRP | 12/11/19 01:02 AM |
| 1 | I had a chick on POF who replied to me saying "Wow. Someone’s cocky. Bye". Does this ever happen to you guys?https://imgur.com/a/YHUaPUU | /r/askTRP | 11/11/19 04:10 PM |
| 1 | What I've been noticing from online dating that might also apply to real lifeIt's even more important to increase your skills and SMV so your odds increase. When you hear about guys who are somewhat good looking and have no options, it's usually because they're afraid of rejection and aren't approaching. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 03:44 PM |
| -1 | Some quick questions about girls as friends, long-distance relationships, and validationI find myself questioning this because even if you talk to them about something interesting or treat them as a male friend, I feel like the attraction kills that benefit because your animal brain kicks in and it ruins things. This is in the post, if you read it. You can view someone as a human being, but the attraction destroys it. I'm not talking about someone from a class or meditation that you do activities with and very casually meet up with. But having a close friend who's a girl that you'r… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 01:23 PM |
| 2 | I had a chick on POF who replied to me saying "Wow. Someone’s cocky. Bye". Does this ever happen to you guys?https://imgur.com/a/YHUaPUU | /r/askTRP | 11/11/19 09:11 AM |
| -1 | I had a chick on POF who replied to me saying "Wow. Someone’s cocky. Bye". Does this ever happen to you guys?Chris Hansen would beg to differ but I feel you | /r/askTRP | 11/11/19 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Any improvements for my text game? I feel like my openers are trashPOF | /r/askTRP | 10/11/19 11:48 PM |
| 1 | I'm at a cross-roads right now as an introvert. I've loaded myself with all the theory over months, and now have to deal with beating my approach anxiety IRL and loading up the dating platforms to get real experience.thank you | /r/askTRP | 10/11/19 11:14 PM |
| -2 | Any improvements for my text game? I feel like my openers are trashthe entire opener shtick is just fucking gay honestly. excuse my french but i'd much rather do an approach and use my vibes to pull in a girl then have to forcefully come up with some shit and waste my time on some bs for a wet hole. like i'm debating whether or not to just cold approach. text game doesn't even benefit you in life, like tackling AA does | /r/askTRP | 10/11/19 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Day 3 of Approaching: I lowered the stakes a bit and finally found some successI would agree with you and that's why I went for the extremes. But you don't tell someone to run a 50km when they haven't even ran a 5km before. I'm realising this because I've been going out. I'm walking the walk. I've seen what the anxiety's been doing to me. Even in other areas of life you can do the same, outside of things you can't control. You do something that you can somewhat handle, but that still gives you discomfort. What you're recommending sounds nice, but is impractical for most. A… | /r/seduction | 09/11/19 11:37 AM |
| – | Day 3 of Approaching: I lowered the stakes a bit and finally found some successThe issue is I spent 3 days attempting that but as soon as I tried to approach it's like my body stopped itself out of my control. It's hard to explain. So slowly hitting the edge of my comfort zone seems to be the better approach in this case. Like what's recommended here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SipTJ44qhyM | /r/seduction | 09/11/19 11:10 AM |
| 2 | 30 mins left to approach. Any tips?shit dude i just started it, thank you. that actually helped a lot. | /r/seduction | 09/11/19 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Approaching as a Complete Noob: Day 1It really seems like it. Two months ago I bumped into some guy I knew from high school and something seemed different about him. So back in High School he had this dorky walk, a voice and stutter that makes you feel bad for him, a weird look (not ugly, but just strange looking but average looking), super honest and naive and reveals everything about himself etc. The sort of person you'd think was harmless but not someone people care to be around. Well, he has those same traits still, but somethi… | /r/seduction | 02/11/19 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Could it be this whole time that it's been my own self-belief and approach anxiety that's been fucking me over? I need to take action and I feel stuck. How have you guys with REALLY bad AA forced yourselves to approach?In a fucked up way, this actually gave me a lot of perspective. Thank you Now I remember why I was so confident when I lost my virginity. I was no longer uncomfortable with contact around women (ex. on the bus). This makes way more sense. The effect disappeared after a 3 year dry-spell though. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/19 12:20 PM |
| 5 | I'm humbled, you guys were right. This chick really tried to turn me into an orbiter and an emotional tampon for her relationship bullshit. Looks like it's time to close that chapter.Thank you for this. Have you ever read 48 laws of power? I feel like this same mentality applies with your male best friends. I feel like all of this info is best put in a diary, therapy session, or creative outlet, though I'd love to hear your perspective | /r/askTRP | 30/10/19 07:56 PM |
| 3 | I'm humbled, you guys were right. This chick really tried to turn me into an orbiter and an emotional tampon for her relationship bullshit. Looks like it's time to close that chapter.You're right. Where's the line drawn though because intimacy is needed at some point. Is it about sharing harmless vulnerabilities like scars or boundaries? I know that emotional baggage is a definite no-no. And what about when you're on a date and talking about sexual shit you've done with old partners as a way to increase tension. It's when it comes to the specifics that I get fucked | /r/askTRP | 30/10/19 12:38 PM |
| 2 | When a chick starts revealing everything about herself and wants you to make decisions for her, and you're still in your frame, but you're not dating, are you in the friend-zone or what? This specific situation isn't clear for meI appreciate you bringing up the concept of ultimatums. I found this online. Ultimatums come from a desire for control and force. Boundaries come from a place of power and strength. Ultimatums shut down options. Boundaries open up choices. Ultimatums stop a conversation. Boundaries start one. Ultimatums threaten with consequences. Boundaries offer a chance to seek a solution. Ultimatums are rigid. Boundaries are firm, yet resilient. Ultimatums often end a relationship. Boundaries invite a relati… | /r/askTRP | 29/10/19 08:41 PM |
| 0 | When a chick starts revealing everything about herself and wants you to make decisions for her, and you're still in your frame, but you're not dating, are you in the friend-zone or what? This specific situation isn't clear for meI like talking to people to gain new perspectives and have people who support me on my purpose. Whether that's someone who's a chick or a dude or someone much older. Sex is nice but when I started talking to her I didn't even have that in mind as an end goal because I was actually learning shit. For example, if I'm talking to a superficial chick and all she can offer to me in my life is sex, then yeah she can fuck or fuck off because otherwise she's just wasting my time. But if it's someone who … | /r/askTRP | 29/10/19 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Lost at 28It's your life so do what you want, but what's the end goal? I'm going to type a bit because this is something I'm passionate about. There's people who donate their sperm and have 100s of kids. Their life doesn't particularly change and they usually don't even get to meet those kids. At best, their just a conduit for genetic code which is over 99% similar to just about anyone else's. And if that's your goal, then sure, go that route. Have you ever seen a chimpanzee and said "oh yea he looks just… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/19 06:41 PM |
| 1 | What happened here? Do the rules apply to unstable girls?Could you explain what you mean by rationalize? I've used the DARE deflect technique before but I also feel like it could be similar to the "rationalize" part in DEER. I've used the technique as a way to re-frame a situation. I randomly sent a chick a picture of my face during a boring a conversation and she said "that was random!", and then I re-framed it so that she was the one asking for it, not me (I was explaining/rationalizing while also deflecting the blame). I said something like "really… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/19 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Lost at 28I'm interested to know what's making you eager about wanting kids and getting maried | /r/askTRP | 27/10/19 09:29 AM |
| 2 | Outside of SMV, how do you naturally radiate social value? I always hear "you need to know what value you bring" being thrown out and read this in so many books but I still don't fully understand it and would appreciate an example or actionable advice on this.Two-three very close friends, access to any new challenging life experience possible so I can grow as a person (so access to parties, event, travel, meditation etc.), ability to get laid when I want without draining my bank account even if I don't care about getting laid (you want to make a choice out of options not be forced to make it), and access to business opportunities through skilled networking. | /r/askTRP | 21/10/19 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Outside of SMV, how do you naturally radiate social value? I always hear "you need to know what value you bring" being thrown out and read this in so many books but I still don't fully understand it and would appreciate an example or actionable advice on this.Thanks for this. Okay so let's say I want to make a friend. The fact that they have a unique opinion and bring positive vibes while giving validation and being genuine is enough value in and of itself? Obviously it's cool to find these in a person, but how does that value differentiate from most people? Is this the "value" explained in TRP? What if you have all those traits but your life purpose or interests are 90% different than the other person? You just move on and find someone else? That ju… | /r/askTRP | 21/10/19 11:29 PM |
| 1 | I always hear these stories of dudes with gfs who are BP, get fucked over, and then turn to RP and gain huge success. What about for the people that never got far even while being BP? How would you know when you're successful and what to compare?I know how to approach, I understand kino, I understand abundance and being grounded in your own frame/reality so you're not reactive to shit tests and can push them aside. Working on your SMV and lifting and having a purpose. Not seeking validation from others and knowing how to not give too much of it. Inviting the other person to shit you're already going to and not being affected by it. Having plates so you don't get one-itis. How women communicate through non-verbals and their actions, not … | /r/askTRP | 21/10/19 08:56 PM |
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