Walking home tonight, and i nearly got into a fight...

Jazzspasm · 2012-11-22T17:25:07+00:00

Keep walking, turn your music off if you've got headphones on, watch your shadow so you can tell if someone's coming up behind you and go about your business - I supect if you were sober that's the way you'd have gone about it.

One of the things about violence is that it's totally unpredictable, the effects are immediate and all too often permanent - That's why it's best avoided and the ultimate defense is to not be there when it happens. If you feel physically threatened, get out of there, get anyone who's with you out of the way and put as much distance between you and the aggressor as possible.

If you don't have a choice, then John McAleese has some very good advice and he knew more about violence than any of us will ever know.

Giving crazy eyes and getting into verbals with someone very close to where you live means that you might bump into him again - if you're on your own and he's got mates, you might regret your previous actions.

Guess what - he might have been that psychopathic asshole who just decided to stab you. Alternatively - He might have had a really bad day coz he can't meet his kid's dental fees, mouthed off in his frustration - you punch him so he cracks his head open on the pavement and you've made an orphan. And all for what?

That's what violence is about. Anyone who thinks it's acceptable or tolerated is the problem and not just for men, but the whole of humanity.

And the pink swoosh on the Nike's sounds like you're someone who has enough confidence in his sexuality to not have reacted in the way you did. They sound awesome, by the way, but really? Getting upset because someone called you a faggot?

You asked why this sort of behavious is tolerated - it isn't. It's base, lower level, antisocial, unattractive and ugly. It's petuitary retarded and nobody cares for it. You might not want to hear this, but you can do better than that and you know it, too.

((On a side note and a pro tip: learning how to actually fight, (boxing, kung fu, muay thai etc etc), means that the better you get, the less likely it is that you'll ever have to use it. Your body language is completely different so people don't subconciously see a potential victim and you can read other people's body language better so you don't find yourself in violent situations. You're beating up on your mates in the gym or dojo and hitting pads instead of random strangers, so you have less pent up rage yourself. Very importantly you learn that appearance, gender or size are no predictor of how tough, hard or vicious a person is - no matter how well trained, how hard you think you are, there's always someone better trained and harder than you and they never look that way on the surface. You might want to give it some thought.))

In future, keep walking, turn your music off if you've got headphones on, watch your shadow so you can tell if someone's coming up behind you and go about your business.

Linium · 2012-11-22T23:58:50+00:00

You say violence is never the answer, but if every time someone shouted faggot or whatever at a passer by they were guaranteed to be punched in the face, i don't think it would happen as often.

C0CKPUNCHER · 2012-11-22T16:19:53+00:00

If you feel threatened defend yourself, if you don't don't.

I think what you are describing is feeling bad without feeling threatened, ie hurt by the attack, the best defense in this regard would be an excellent comeback and rapier wit in general. I don't have this or any idea where to get it.

rightsbot · 2012-11-22T15:18:19+00:00

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ignatiusloyola · 2012-11-22T18:00:24+00:00

When a person feels ridiculed, they feel that a lack of counter-challenge would mean that the ridicule is warranted. So they counter-challenge, and it escalates.

2012-11-23T02:36:59+00:00

It's not the worst reason to start a fight I've ever heard. You could have always yelled back (That's a shitty pickup line, if you want in my pants just try asking).

2012-11-23T03:07:05+00:00

Violence often is the answer. It may be unpleasant but violence as a last resort is very effective (of course it will always be abused). I always recall when I was in senior school (high school) if there was an argument amongst 2 boys they would have a fight then that was it. All over back to square one. With the girls the bitching and snideness and isolation could last months and was definitely more destructive.

Never be afraid to defend yourself, most bullies are the biggest cowards anyway

ullere · 2012-11-23T11:29:42+00:00

Every invitation to fight is an invitation to die, or to go to jail after killing. I let idiots wash over me. They are nothing.

ThePigman · 2012-11-23T00:32:18+00:00

"I know violence is never the answer except in self defense"

Thank god the french peasants didn't see things that way.

2012-11-23T15:29:31+00:00

You tell that drunk mother-fuck, man. Don't take that shit, dudes who call random assholes on the streets names are just trying to make themselves feel tough anyway.

EDIT: also carry a knife where ere you go, and none of this pussy "folding retractable" bullshit, get yourself a 4 inch + Gerber with a fixed blade, carry it in a sheath. Don't take it out, just have it. No one fucks with people when they got a big-ass knife on them. You won't need to use it, and if you do, well, better with a knife than without, you know what I mean?

Collective82 · 2012-11-22T16:07:23+00:00

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Title	Walking home tonight, and i nearly got into a fight...
Author	heavy798
Upvotes	24
Comments	26
Date	November 22, 2012 3:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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