UK children need more volunteer male befrienders | Economic and Social Research Council

Bulbort · 2012-06-06T10:20:28+00:00

I thought about doing the big brothers big sisters deal a while back.

No way in hell am I touching that with a 200ft long pole. All it takes is a bad look from some woman and I'm sitting in jail accused of rape.

Sad thing is I think it'd benefit me and a kid if I could interact with them.

I always wanted a younger brother, cause my big brother was shitty to me.

But we all know males are just walking rape machines who can't be trusted.

MaunaLoona · 2012-06-06T09:27:45+00:00

Befriender? Is that a UK thing? Something like a mentor? In the US men have to be careful of being alone with children who are not their own because of what others may think.

PlainRubbish · 2012-06-06T11:51:30+00:00

I bet they do, but after all the negative press men get through the tabloids and all of the battles that fathers4justice have to go through, for me it seems that Children are not worth it. Be it just befriending, adopting, fostering or just having a biological child.

When in public, the best thing to do it seems is just to ignore children no matter what... at least its better than being accused or labeled as something you are not.

eberkimer · 2012-06-06T12:15:51+00:00

FTA:

"The shortage means many boys in need of a strong male presence in their lives are missing out on the adult male companionship they would like

How about their fathers? Where are they? Maybe if there was a less adversarial process in divorce proceedings, and visitation interference was punished as heavily as child support non-payment, all of this wouldn't be an issue.

Ted8367 · 2012-06-06T09:48:04+00:00

Male befriender? What man in his right mind would do that?

dermanus · 2012-06-06T13:37:27+00:00

It's true, they do need them. Pity the incentives are so stacked against men getting involved.

I'm a volunteer with two groups like that, and they're constantly struggling to get men to join up. I'm scrupulous about following the "two-deep" rule at all times, which means I always have another adult in sight when I'm with kids. That avoids the vast majority of trouble.

One way to get more volunteers would be to attach a little bit more status to the whole thing, but that's a social question, not a legal one.

Stophon · 2012-06-06T11:29:57+00:00

I would say the lack of male interest is due to lack of ever knowing about it. if they need men then advertise for the help somewhere men might notice it.

Title	UK children need more volunteer male befrienders \| Economic and Social Research Council
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Date	June 6, 2012 7:45 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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