Ten Things Not to Say to a Trans Man

thetrollking · 2011-06-30T03:48:51+00:00

"What does being a man (or a woman) mean to you?"

It means not being asked that kind of question, because you would never ask a non-trans man (or a non-trans woman) the same question

Uh, wut? This is like 90% of what we do in the MRM. We are constantly asking what it means to be a man in todays world, how has masculinity changed, how are those changes forced upon men, and so on.

Hell, a good chunk of literature is about asking these questions. Same with art and science fiction and philosophy and so on.

What is the measure of a man? If you prick me, do I not bleed? Etc. Etc. Etc. I mean, it isn't just MRAs and poets and comic book writers and sociologists and anthropologists and psychologists and so on.

Much of feminism is also about asking these questions about women and occasionally, almost always in the most dismissive ways, about what it means to be a male.

I just picked this last bullet point but many of the others are also subjects of great investigation and contemplation by all sorts of groups.

Romeovoid21 · 2011-06-30T02:17:47+00:00

Half these questions are more or less what people ask when they are not fully informed about being trans. Sorry, that is part or the deal, you are going to have to be patient with people if you want them to be accepting and patient with you. Be glad they are interested in learning and loose the attitude.

overcontrol · 2011-06-30T02:55:52+00:00

I fail to understand how this is a men's issue. Someone want to explain?

TheGDBatman · 2011-06-30T06:34:34+00:00

Also, notice the site being linked to. Womanist-musings.com is one of the most incredibly anti-white and anti-male sites on the web (unless you're a transman, of course).

kronox · 2011-06-30T02:57:25+00:00

Yeah im gonna have to say deal with it on most of those issues. Those questions generally seem based on curiosity not judgement. If your worried about people asking you what you didnt like about being a man/woman then you have some SERIOUS self-evaluation to do.

brunt2 · 2011-06-30T02:58:41+00:00

Maybe they should be less fucking touchy.

Title	Ten Things Not to Say to a Trans Man
Author	mensrightactivist
Upvotes	4
Comments	49
Date	June 30, 2011 1:41 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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