Feminist women can't find love, so ofcourse they blame it on men and maleness.

imbecile · 2010-12-07T18:51:47+00:00

I'm as forever alone as it gets. But at least I'm honest enough to say that it's my character that makes it so.

If the choice is between being yourself and being with someone, then it's not really a choice.

nlakes · 2010-12-07T18:20:07+00:00

I know a couple where the wife outearns the husband. He is 100% OK with her earning more, but insists on paying for 100% of the tabs. “Just don’t take that away from me,” he says.

...

Look, it is feminism's ideal male.

Quazz · 2010-12-07T17:12:08+00:00

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XFDRaven · 2010-12-07T18:52:35+00:00

These women pick an ideology that is intentionally antagonistic to men, then are surprised when it keeps them distanced from them? What a shock.

Dawgz83948 · 2010-12-07T16:42:22+00:00

Shocking, women who are so sure of their correctness can't find someone to tolerate them. hmmmmm

rantgrrl · 2010-12-07T16:58:19+00:00

From the article quoted:

"“The male ego can be a more fragile thing than the female ego, which is used to a regular battering and has hence developed a sense of humor!”"

Hm... that's strangely counter to my experience and deserves a hearty 'WTF'?

Grayswan · 2010-12-07T17:37:35+00:00

The writer wants to embrace "new models of romance" i.e. women should drop hypergamy and date men that make less than them. Yeah, good luck with that!

TDOM · 2010-12-07T21:42:29+00:00

Ok this week they've all got their panties in a bunch because men are too sensitive and fragile to deal with women who make more money than they do. Next week they'll be all hot and bothered because they aren't attracted to men who are less educated and make less than they do and they can't find "real men" who are good enough for them.

thetrollking · 2010-12-07T17:21:50+00:00

I thought the comments were telling. Feministing has a totalitarian commenting system so those are all from long time readers and contributors of the site. The first one emasculates men. Then go on down and it talks about changing men and masculinity to fit womens ideals.

onlyvotes · 2010-12-07T18:14:24+00:00

Who the hell...

than it is to be taken by a weak misogynist male (note I say MALE, not “man”)

Who are these people inventing their own little rules?

The article says: Feminist women can only not find men because they are so successful they scare men away.

Right. Is this someone trying to force this idea on the world again? You know how many of these ideas I've seen being forced into the mindset since the inception of reddit?

Soon, any mention of relationships will result in the de facto "I bet you aren't even successful enough to have a feminist girlfriend, and not because they want your money, but because you are weak".

That seems to be a special kind of insanity. I don't think it needs addressing.

pcarvious · 2010-12-07T18:42:56+00:00

Gotta love the double standard being applied here. The male gender identity has a fundamental portion rooted in being the breadwinner, the primary supporter. We are trained from birth as men to support a family either completely independently of our S/O or with minimal help. In this time and era where more women go to college than men, and the wage gap between men and women is disappearing (If you consider relevant life choices) is it really surprising that men would seek what they were traditionally brought up to aspire for in a relationship?

Racehorse593 · 2010-12-08T01:41:56+00:00

I don't have a problem with feminism and the desire of women to achieve all they want to in terms of education and financial success. I just get the impression that many of these women are trying to push the issue further, they want everyone to be a feminist, including the man they are dating, they want him to bend over backward to help support her successful dreams. They are addicted to the idea of the movement, it's not okay for him to want her to have plenty of time available for him, and the catch 22 is, assuming they actually find a guy who wants to prioritize her idealized feminist aspirations, that as soon as he does this, that is, when he puts her before himself, she is not attracted to him anymore. They'll cheat and/or eventually dump him and go back to complaining about how there aren't any real men up to the task of loving a real empowered woman.

It would serve these women well to learn about their own attraction mechanisms before they start putting the onus on men to act a certain way. Speaking to my understanding and that of people very much in the know, whether it be Pick up artists or evolutionary psychologists, women are notoriously bad at knowing and even more so at articulating what they want. (What they are sexually attracted to, obviously, I know they want shoes.) That's why every girl's account on Plentyoffish.com or eHarmony is looking for a walking contradiction:

-"He needs to be really good at everything and know it, but not cocky." -"I want a man who's tough but sensitive, that understand his emotions and feels, but I don't want to have to mother him." -"Need not apply unless you know how to talk to a real woman, but you can't be a playa either, nuh uh."

If they understood the playing field that their hopeful pursuers are playing on, they might not be cause of their own romantic frustration as so many other commenters have astutely pointed out:

kuppers 9 points 4 hours ago[-]

Or the fact that women like to marry up in social status, and men earning less than them they consider to be beneath them.

Dawgz83948 12 points 7 hours ago[-]

Shocking, women who are so sure of their correctness can't find someone to tolerate them. hmmmmm

Also, they don't say it, they would never say it, but here's what they really want, or what they think they want (sorry, I know this gets confusing): Women are naturally attracted to successful men. They want men, contrary to billions of years of evolutionary pressure, to be sexually attracted to them for their social prowess and provider skills. The things that make them feel proud of themselves, the way they have been able to achieve their feminist goals, they want a man to feel this too, herein lies the elusive goal, the final boss of ultra feminism. He can't just say, "good for you honey! I am happy that you accomplished that thing that was so important you" It has to be, "you got a promotion?!" followed by a look of lust in his eyes and 4 hours of cunnilingus. I have not seen it, but I can guarantee all of you that there is an episode of Sex in the City where the red headed goblin looking woman gets some kind promotion or raise or graduation and then her man chowder rewards her with a romantic evening. This is the chick crack entertainment. Penis envy anyone?

Come to think of it, I might try making that kind of statement if I'm dating a feminist girl who gets a promotion. "You got a raise!? That makes want to have sex with you for some reason besides that you have killer legs." I mean hey, I'm not one to swim upstream if I don't have to! For the record, I have told an achieved woman (in an MD/PhD program), not a feminist, "you're not that smart." Contrary to how a feminist would think she should have responded, she seemed not upset and tried to convey that she was pleased I understood that, she wanted people to know that she was not some unrelatable brainiac and we were making out later. I'm no casanova but I could tell the last thing she wanted was a guy trying to make conversation with her, in interview format (if you catch yourself doing that, STOP! STOP for the love of zombie jesus STOP! we've all done this, it creates no vibe) about how smart she was, how she got to be that smart, what her accomplishments were. That smacks of insecurity to most women, and it's even unnattractive to the feminists whether they know it or not!

Know theyself ladies =). Feminists are like communists, they are great at spouting things that make a lot of sense to a lot of people, but if you try to put it into practice it all collapses brilliantly and miserably. Still they don't learn...

I leave you with a quote (by the way, thanks for the link thetrollking, you've lived up to your name, you got me posting):

Tom Leykis always said, "I'm the ultimate feminist... I won't get up on the bus for a woman."

elebrin · 2010-12-07T20:54:35+00:00

I have a slightly different strategy, that works as a way to avoid women like this: Don't interact with women socially. Ever.

I don't have any problem working for or with women (hell, my direct boss has been a woman for most of my time spent working) but I stick to all male social situations otherwise. Being a man, I can take care of my sexual needs myself much faster and more effectively then any woman can.

If they think I am throwing out the baby with the bathwater, then I can say they do the same thing every time they look uncomfortably at a man taking care of his kids by taking them to a park or to a store to buy clothes or whatever or whenever they want to claim rape AFTER they have come three times on your dick and decided they regret it.

Forget'em. I can take care of myself.

Quazz · 2010-12-07T20:47:16+00:00

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alphabetpal · 2010-12-07T19:54:24+00:00

I'm new here. What's the differene between a male and a man?

realdoe · 2010-12-07T22:17:18+00:00

Just my 2 cents:

Life is more complicated than that. Women like these (the author) with these desires and expectancies have been around forever. It is just recently that they have the freedom to utter them. This is not a trend. People will always be different. There will be women like the author and women with completely different desires and expectancies. And fortunately for everyone, there will always be men to forfill these desires and expectancies. End of story. What else is on?

2010-12-08T02:40:13+00:00

Dear feminists, it's not your success that scares me away, it's the fact that you have deep-seated issues with other males in your life and take them out on me. I refuse to be the whipping boy for what your dad's golf buddy did to you when you were 7. Piss off; go eat a rug.

TheEnlightener · 2010-12-07T23:44:10+00:00

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professional646 · 2010-12-08T04:59:13+00:00

Yes, feminists are all angry, empty warmongers who can't let go of the fight for rights they already won. No, there's no inequality left in the system. Women are TOTALLY viewed as equals by the majority of men and by the mass media. Women aren't AT ALL continually reminded that their body are their only asset There are PLENTY of movies where two women talk about something that isn't a man.

Right? It's so easy to pretend you've scrutinized yourself without actually doing it, isn't it?

2010-12-08T03:37:36+00:00

I know women like the writer. I avoid them like the plague, because I know they'll turn into a bitch at the drop of a hat.

Liverotto · 2010-12-07T20:18:48+00:00

Why should I fucking care what a pig wants, what really matter is what I want, I want bacon, fuck the pigs.

Why should I fuckign care what a cunt wants, what really matter is what I want, I want pussy, fuck the cunts.

TheEnlightener · 2010-12-08T00:48:24+00:00

I barely skimmed it and some comments, and noticed some blabbering about how men can't handle powerful women.

It's pretty simple.

Men don't like bitches, except for getting their dicks wet once in a while.

2010-12-07T19:03:01+00:00

Who cares what the trolls from feminfisting or jezehell have to say?

More and more men are realizing that marriage, cohabitation and kids with feminutised womyn is a losing proposition and going their own way.

Title	Feminist women can't find love, so ofcourse they blame it on men and maleness.
Author	thetrollking
Upvotes	37
Comments	107
Date	December 7, 2010 4:35 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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