Is it Alpha to cry?

fnordsnord · 2016-04-30T23:18:33+00:00

A man is permitted to cry under four circumstance: The death of a parent. The death of his dog. The death of a child. The last five minutes of "Old Yeller" and/or the "Jim Brown Runs With Grenades" scene from "The Dirty Dozen."

Anything else shows weakness.

If you must cry, cry alone. Above all, don't cry on your woman's shoulder.

GreeneRed · 2016-04-30T22:30:29+00:00

You're allowed to have emotions. You are human, after all.

citizenkane66 · 2016-04-30T23:37:20+00:00

I never cried in front of woman. But I did get visibly watery-eyed. I regret it. You should work to have complete control over your emotions. The way society is, men crying is not acceptable.

RPFlame · 2016-04-30T23:13:24+00:00

There's only one rule about breaking your frame aka. not feeling like things are under control: Don't do it in front of her.

It's not about the act, it's about why. If you watch a movie with her and it resonates with you is different than crying because you're feeling that your load is too heavy to handle it, aka. have a breakdown.

bbm72 · 2016-05-01T01:01:25+00:00

Giving my dad's eulogy in a few days. I've been crying. No problems with that.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-05-01T01:52:45+00:00

It's alpha to do what you want without worrying about what others think.

Caucasian-African · 2016-05-01T03:09:31+00:00

Dude. Crying does NOT keep someone from being Alpha. Unless you cry when you stub your toe, or something like that...

GainzdalfTheWhey · 2016-04-30T23:49:37+00:00

I cry, sure I hate it, but sometimes I do. Fuck it, can't control it I do it. Just don't be a pussy and cry supplication.

Ketomasterrace · 2016-05-01T04:04:53+00:00

Everyone cries. It's beta to cry on front of your girl with the exception of loss of a loved one or pet.

play_time_is_over · 2016-05-01T15:21:37+00:00

When I was living in a dojo waking up at 5am everyday, cleaning for 2 hours a day, training for 3 hours a day. Praying for 1 hour a day. Yet still studying/working 10 hours a day. I would literally and randomly burst out in tears every few weeks.

I think its a good sign. If you're crying it means you're pushing yourself to your limits and growing. Hell I always seem to have the biggest "awakening" right after a breakup.

Yup cry, cry like a lil bitch. Tears are weakness leaving the body.

throwawayylmao7 · 2016-05-01T17:54:36+00:00

Don't.

SoRedSuchAlpha · 2016-05-02T17:55:59+00:00

Rules: Avoid asking questions like "is this alpha" or "is this beta?" Instead focus on asking whether or not your actions were congruent with your goals.

theimmortalmortal · 2016-04-30T22:33:21+00:00

Once or twice a year - fine. Any more than that and I might as well call you beta.

balalasaurus · 2016-05-01T01:00:06+00:00

I find crying a waste of time. Back in the day I would have told you that it's ok to cry. But honestly it's a waste of time.

Crying for yourself is basically self-pity. "Life is too hard for me" is what you're communicating.

Don't get me wrong it's ok to have emotion. Get angry/ upset/ sad; but don't allow it to be on top of you. Translate that emotion into something productive.

Life is hard? Lift. Take a boxing class. Hell, write it down in a journal if you have to. But don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. That's bitch behavior.

Title	Is it Alpha to cry?
Author	ethreax
Upvotes	4
Comments	23
Date	April 30, 2016 10:23 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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