Do girls take ages to reply to texts as a shit test?

Borsao66 · 2016-05-15T16:45:24+00:00

No so much a shit test, as it's a sign of low or waning interest.

Personally I'd start looking for other gals. Right now she doesn't see you as the prize. By leveraging pre-selection and dread, she'll up her game if she's on the fence.

103342 · 2016-05-15T16:56:30+00:00

It can be both, shit test or little interest.

If it is a shit-test, you just wait and she will go back looking for you, find an excuse to talk to you.

If it is low interest, she won't look for you.

Most attractive girls do this. Don't be angry or w/e.

I, personally, just don't give much attention, go get distracted with something else. And if she is in it just for the attention (doesn't want to meet you in person) just drop her and move on.

Another tip: Don't try to "game" these girls, most of the times it will just come off needy.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-05-15T17:40:12+00:00

Text only for logistics.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-05-15T20:12:13+00:00

If it's bothering you, she's got you in her frame and she's content. Under NO circumstances do you tell her it bothers you. If you think a girl is actively shit testing you in normal situations then you're overthinking the equation. You can fix most with ignoring her or amused mastery.
If you wanted to train her (and don't go out of your way to do this stuff; otherwise you're in her frame or basically afflicted with Oneitis) start texting her time sensitive stuff that she'll fail at and she'll be disappointed. This works well in any relationship including kids and work. For instance, maybe you're at a deli that you know she really likes. Wait until you hit the checkout line and text if she wants her favorite thing from there. If you're right and she is playing you, she'll respond immediately to these texts but still ignore the others. If she isn't playing you, you'll power up her hamster with a lot of "too late" or "nvrnmnd" responses. But don't break frame and get butthurt. Just laugh it off because it's really no big deal.

thor_away92 · 2016-05-15T18:02:21+00:00

While the comments are semi right. They missed the "LTR" at the beginning.

This a shit test. She's bitching about mundane shit hoping you'll bend. Dont.

"I'll bitch at him then he'll do what I want."

99.9% if she's bitching it's just a shit test.

JohnDoeDude · 2016-05-15T17:43:47+00:00

Who gives a shit about her making a big deal.

Too much drama?

Next, please.

[deleted] · 2016-05-15T18:22:45+00:00

women are entirely self-involved, meaning they think everything is directed toward them in some way. She most likely genuinely thinks you are playing a game with her when you don't text immediately so she in turn plays this make believe fantasy game thats all in her head. A way to solve this is to text her back immediately sometimes and then other times (when your actually busy) just get back to her when you can or have a free minute. Her hamster thinks your playing a game.

oprahsghost · 2016-05-15T21:36:37+00:00

Dated a girl who was kinda immature and played the texting game like that. Kind of matched how long I'd take. I never placed much importance on texting so I'd take awhile to respond but quickly noticed if I took an hour she'd take 2 hours. If I took 5 minutes she'd take 10 minutes.

She ended up being interested but I think was trying to show she wasn't. We fucked a lot then. Turned out she got annoyed that I took so long.

Devilsalwayscry · 2016-05-15T16:38:53+00:00

And also, how should this behaviour be dealt with?

nooomaam · 2016-05-16T01:07:17+00:00

Ween her off of texts.

TheRedStoic · 2016-05-16T10:21:53+00:00

I don't know, i keep my phone on silent or vibrate only. I respond when I'm done with what I'm doing, when i see something.

It ends in very randomized response speed i guess, but I've never intentionally made someone wait, and haven't had a problem either.

People can always call, that'll go through if they call twice in a row, aside from that, just do what you're doing, respond when your ready. If you have problems putting your foot in your mouth, it's fine to just wait and think it through.

ecosci · 2016-05-20T01:05:15+00:00

She is about to cheat or already has and is trying to justify this with the texting issue dont fall for it check her out fast or she is trying to tell you in a subtle way its over women never take blame for break ups so she is hoping you take the hint hint.Thats why they hate nice guys like yourself because they cant play victim in the end.

[deleted] · 2016-05-15T21:21:25+00:00

Sometimes they don't reply to see if you'll send more texts or call, thus lowering your SMV -- that's a shit test. Other times, they are just nexting you.

rajesh8162 · 2016-05-15T19:33:05+00:00

Shit test to test what ?

Title	Do girls take ages to reply to texts as a shit test?
Author	Devilsalwayscry
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Comments	26
Date	May 15, 2016 4:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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