By now, I trust you've read this: https://archive.is/Xw6wy by Man in the World and internalized it?

I'd like to add what I've found useful, as an addendum some homework to the Diagnostic Scenario portion. The last part here:

" Could you [overcome your need for Egalitarian validation and] fully embrace and fully enjoy her offer, by

  • turning on the lights and uninhibitedly telling her every dirty thought, feeling, and desire [Overcome need for Respectful validation] as you stare at her naked tits, stroke her hair and skin, slowly insert yourself inside her, and focus on having the perfect orgasm? [Overcome need for Good or Giving Lover validation]
  • eating her pussy entirely for your own pleasure without making her cum [Overcome need for Good or Giving Lover validation], while telling her how she tastes and feels? [Overcome need for Respectful validation]
  • climbing right on and pounding away, if that's what you really desire at that moment? [Overcome need for Good or Giving Lover validation]

You're not fully comfortable with your own sexuality or with hers, or you're hung up by validation needs or covert contracts, if you couldn't."

Here's a challenge for you:

Until you see a change in yourself, by killing the last vestiges of neediness and good-guy validation, you are not to include any dirty talk which asks questions. None. No more:

  • "you like that, don't you?"
  • "you love this cock, don't you?"
  • "have you been a good girl/bad girl?"

None. Make your mindset fully about yourself, she is there by chance only; this is your lay.

Instead, state what YOU feel, what YOU want and what YOU sense:

  • "play with your tits"
  • "that pussy feels so good"
  • "squeeze my cock with that pussy"

Try it for a while, make it about you and see how this shifts your mindset.

Like many (M)RP concepts, (1) I did it for me, but (2) the corollary benefits don't suck. What has emerged is like the 3:1 texting ratio, it gives her room to fill the shape of container you create (emotionally) while you mold her vaginal container with your junk. Own it. And you'll own it.