As a dad who usually sees his kid 50% of each week, I have to say that I think she's way, way better off being able to see both of us. And I'm not dissing her mom. She benefits from her relationship with both of us.

Many fathers stay in downright horrible conditions within their marriage or relationship-- just because they want to have contact with their children.

On the other hand, many women are very happy to get divorced, or to treat their captive kids' dad in completely emotionally abusive ways, knowing that if he dare complain, he'll never get to see the people he loves most in his life. His children.

Any legal system that systematically rules fathers out of their kids' lives without a good reason is basically just systematized child abuse.

edit: these comments detail so much heartache and blatant unfairness. to the dads who got caught up in the legal machine that sealed them out of their kids' lives and that then made them pay the perpetrator of this separation on a monthly basis. I just want to say that I hear you, and you never know, maybe in your children's adulthoods you can get to know them... I hope so.