Is it normal to feel regret after a breakup?

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-01-25T02:37:38+00:00

For me, that’s just how breakups are. I always second guess myself and I always see the best in people.

You said you’ve been struggling to decide if you should break up and felt relief when you decided you should. If you weren’t making the right decision you wouldn’t feel relief.

_bethiebabes · 2021-01-24T23:38:14+00:00

sometimes good people make bad partners

sometimes people aren’t as good as you thought they were

it’s very normal to cycle through all kinds of emotions when going through a breakup. you’ll have days when you want to cry constantly and are miserable. there will be days you’re ecstatic about all the options that have opened for you. sometimes you’ll be angry at him or yourself, you’ll miss the good times, or realize they weren’t really that good actually

you should be proud of yourself, you did something really tough: you recognized that he didn’t want what you want and you walked away. now it’s time for the other hard part: you can’t go back

it’s a process. it takes time. and the only way out is through

BabyGothQ · 2021-01-25T06:21:03+00:00

It’s the hardest to let go of people who treated us really well, even if there were incompatibilities, or red flags. You start thinking about how if you had done this or that or had this conversation or made that clear or.. No.

Nothing you could’ve done or said would change the outcome, when people or things leave our lives they weren’t meant to be in it.

So yes, it’s normal, just don’t let it fester and consume you. Interrupt the regret by understanding and accepting why you broke up, and telling yourself that it was for the best of everyone involved.

MakeURegret · 2021-01-26T00:44:58+00:00

Planning dates is the most basic thing out there. Like every guy knows that’s what you do when you’re in a relationship.

Him not doing that is a huge sign of disrespect. Him not planning dates is him communicating that he didn’t care about losing you. It’s also him communicating that he wanted you to beg for his love. And we at FDS don’t beg.

If I were you I’d take myself out on a couple dates to prove to myself how easy and fun it is to plan a date to really recognize and drive home how disrespectful that was. He knew what he was doing was wrong he still chose not to do it. If he wanted to he would’ve.

If you’d stayed - begging for dates is a fast track to low self esteem.

Eta: It’s normal to feel regret. And the way to combat regret is to make a list of everything they’ve done wrong to counteract the rose colored glasses.

Title	Is it normal to feel regret after a breakup?
Author	VulperaBae
Upvotes	52
Comments	7
Date	January 24, 2021 10:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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