Hello ladies!

Today, I was making a list of What I Look For In a Man and I got to the 'sexual compatibility' part. I've complied a list of steps I'd like to follow if we ever get sexual. What do you think?

I'd like to preface that this was taken with the FDS 3 month rule in mind (i.e. no sex until after 3 months of dating - at least) and also with saying that you have the right to say "NO" in any time of any physical activity with a man for whatever reason without feeling guilty.

I'd appreciate it if you could give it a read and let me know what you think! Do you have a similar list? Is there anything you'd like to add/deduct? Thanks!

  • NO PORN: I guess this goes without saying, but he should not be consuming pornographic material in any way, shape or form (Only Fans, Insta Gram models, etc.). It is harmful for women and it will destroy your sex life. He also should have no record of paying for sex in any point in the past (such as prostitution, strip bars, etc.)
  • FIRST BASE: Kissing & making out is allowed only when in a committed relationship (i.e. GF/BF). Any physical contact before that can be friendly only (e.g. hugging, holding hands...). Good to gauge if he's a good kisser. (If not, drop him).
  • SECOND BASE: Making out & petting. Only in a safe place and AFTER one month at least. Good for gauging sexual compatibility (how he touches you, does he listen to your body, etc.). If it doesn't work out in this stage, THIRD BASE and FORTH BASE are not an option.
  • THIRD BASE: Oral sex. He should go down on you first & please you. Since it might be difficult for some women (including me) to cum in the first couple of instances of being sexual, it is okay if he does not make you orgasm. However, he should darn •try•. He has to be gentle & listen to your body again. If he fails in any of that then you shall not proceed.
  • FORTH BASE: Full on penetrative sex. We use condom only. Always. If in LTR, he might consider vasectomy. Otherwise, we're using a condom (I'm NOT going on a BC). If he wants to go inside me, he has to make me cum first. No exception. WHY do women have multiple orgasm? It's so that we're still interested in having sex after we've cum. The vagina is much more looser after orgasming and otherwise it hurts. He has to respect this boundary or he's out.

BONUS!

  • KINDS OF SEX: Sensual, loving, vanilla sex only. No kinks (e.g. hair pulling, spitting, throat f/cking, gagging, spanking, name calling, ejaculating on any part of your body, and so on). Focus on your pleasure only (he will cum 99% of time). Does he have an ED? Does he ejaculate prematurely? Does he stare into a void & not look at you? All of this are signs of porn-sickness & should not occur if vetted properly.

Thank you for reading!