I'm 18 and for most of my teenage years I thought I had phimosis. I had horrible sex, felt inadequate because of my foreskin and was scared to go see a doctor because of the stigma around it. Well, stupid as it sounds, I found out I was just not used to pull my foreskin back. This led me to think a couple of things (well, three if you also count "God I'm such a dumbass").

First one, this could have been so much more avoidable if there was better sex-ed and consequentially less stigma around weenies' health. I mean, my friends are mostly girls and literally any of them have seen a gynecologist for the first time (first of a lot more) as soon as they got their period, but I don't think half the boys saw a urologist in their teens. I understand that period-related stuff needs more clinical attention and that's the reason behind this gap, but isn't there any way to normalize seeing a doctor to make sure your penis is okay? If a girl tells a friend she saw her gynecologist they'll be "yeah whatever", if a boy tells a friend they saw a urologist he'll probably be mocked or seen as something's wrong with him. Also, I know the anatomy of a vagina but I had to Google what a fucking frenulum is.

Second one, ARE YOU TELLING ME JERKING OFF ISN'T JUST UP AND DOWN? Like, we talk so much about how many ways there are to pleasure a woman and I always felt like being a man was sexually more boring, but boy was I wrong. I don't want to bore you with details, but I never thought my tip could be this sensitive in different ways and with different intensities depending on where, how and how hard/fast you stimulate it. Little side note (but this probably depends on my and my partners' lack of experience): any girl who ever blew me had no idea what to do, and it felt like putting my dick in a jar of warm jelly, having to fake it feeling good (yeah I know communication is key and all that stuff but I'm 18, bringing it up with most girls would mean not getting laid ever again).

On a final note, even if it's not really the point of the whole post, I feel like there's a lot of shaming towards male fantasies. Online it feels like if you're a kinky girl that's a plus for men, but if you're a kinky guy then you're a disgusting perv.

I hope this all makes sense, this was more of a stream of thoughts than a well structured post. I hope to read some interesting comments!