I can cope with initial rejection when approaching, but getting rejected after a few dates is horrible. How do I get past this?

CypherWolf21 · 2016-06-02T16:54:05+00:00

I don't have too much context here but perhaps you're waiting to long to escalate. The sooner you get to sex, the more power you have, the less likely rejection becomes.

Apanthropos · 2016-06-02T11:00:47+00:00

You are hoping that if you spend enough time with a girl and get to know you, then she will 'actually' like you for who you are.

Think about how much value a strange woman has for you. Rethink how much value your time has. Decide wether she deserves to get to know you.

If you still can't see where you are going wrong, you are either lying or you haven't read the sidebar.

AlfredApple · 2016-06-02T11:39:35+00:00

Could it be that they are thinking you are more interested in them than they are in you?

redpillnobody · 2016-06-02T14:35:16+00:00

"If a bitch don't like me, something's wrong with the bitch."

Keep working on yourself

noFunnyLoginsLeft · 2016-06-02T09:43:46+00:00

Rule Zero. Read sidebar if you haven't.

Learn, memorize, internalize AWALT, AWALT, AWALT, thus implement abundance mindset. If she rejects you, there's plenty of fish still.
Write Field Reports. Sleep on them. Read your Field Reports. Post them here. Search for signs of: a) inconsistent or broken frame behaviours b) beta disguised as alpha behaviours c) failed shit test
Understand and accept rejection will happen. There can be internal and external problems. You might act wrong, for example. You might be overweight and ugly. Also, PUA tricks are just tricks, they don't work 100% time. Sometimes, there's just no spark. Even if AWALT, they're not clones.

From what I see, you have yet to understand basics of TRP. Your post shows signs of overinvestment on your side. Mostly the part where you feel hurt when get rejected after 3 dates.

a) you sound a bit like a creep, too much focused on getting laid - this is usually 'beta disguised as alpha' behaviour, where you push for F-close while your SMV is low

b) you really sound like someone who is overinvesting in these dates, if after 3 dates you feel rejection stings, it's because you feel you have invested and lost too much of resources (same reason people sometimes stay in relationship after it dies)

c) you might show girls you date you value them a lot, this makes them a prize where you should be a prize instead - remember, women (like men) on subconcious level don't want to be pursued, they want to pursue, this in turns lowers your power in that relationship, as /u/CypherWolf21 said

Nucka574 · 2016-06-02T15:41:48+00:00

https://therationalmale.com/2012/02/07/three-strikes/

Sounds like they are bar dates. Don't do that, do action dates. Bowling for example.

Title	I can cope with initial rejection when approaching, but getting rejected after a few dates is horrible. How do I get past this?
Author	reacon2016
Upvotes	8
Comments	16
Date	June 2, 2016 8:02 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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