I have nothing to ask, I just want someone to listen.

moxymoxalone · 2020-09-19T03:25:39+00:00

This is a painful, brutal lesson dear, but you are doing the right thing.

Alcoholism is no joke and you will never be an alcoholic’s first love. You will never be able to trust him or rely on him. He will always be more of a burden than a pleasure. He will embarrass you in front of family and friends. You will be judged by others for his behavior. There will never be true clarity in your relationship because the goalposts will always be moving. Nothing will ever be his fault. He will be selfish in many ways, not just about drinking. He will hate you if you try to come between he and his mistress, Alcohol. If you give him an ultimatum, the booze or you, you will lose.

Burn that dress. Free yourself. You are too young to tie yourself to a problem that has no solution, which isn’t even yours.

dzgata · 2020-09-19T03:52:28+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that love. Truly. I recognize the amount of strength and willpower it takes to end a relationship with someone you love. You’re gonna feel a lot of pain and you’ll probably cry a lot and that’s okay. It’s human and it’s a testimony to how much of a loving person you are. It’ll take time to heal from this but you will heal. Just make sure you don’t feel weak or lesser than because you have these feelings or experience a great deal of grief. It’s normal. You’re strong for choosing you in the end. You can cry as much as you want, it’s healthy and will help you move on in the long run actually. Sending you warm wishes and hugs.

sewingmachinesavior · 2020-09-19T04:32:32+00:00

This hurts. It’s so SO hard when you realize people are choosing their addiction, over you.

I used to love men for their potential. I can see you saying you see his potential. But, I also see you standing in your queen energy, and saying, “but I am not okay with what is. His actions don’t align with my values.”

You are right to leave. He has to deal with whatever it is that drives him to drink. You cannot fix it for him. You can only save yourself.

It hurts, absolutely. But you will not regret it. And don’t let anyone guilt you into staying. You DESERVE someone who will treat you with respect.

You are brave and stronger than you think. 💖💖💖

miloba_ · 2020-09-19T04:23:08+00:00

My heart breaks to read this. I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. Sadly, addiction is difficult to overcome, and no amount of begging will change his mind. He needs to want to do it for himself.

I have close family members who battle with addiction everyday, and it has been a losing battle for my family. We have tried every tactic. It doesn’t work. Until they make the effort on their side, the addiction will win every time.

Take the time to cry, yell, scream, whatever you need to cope with this. The real man for you would not say he “only makes you cry on Fridays”. Sending you all of my love and strength. You deserve better, Queen 👑

Title	I have nothing to ask, I just want someone to listen.
Author	2021IsOurYearToShine
Upvotes	83
Comments	6
Date	September 19, 2020 3:06 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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