Am I overreacting or was it harassment?

apommom · 2021-09-20T00:08:57+00:00

You’re not overreacting. It’s sad that your friends have this response, they’re essentially gaslighting you and invalidating you which is making you doubt yourself and probably making you feel a bit crazy. Unfortunately you won’t be able to talk to them about this situation. I’m sorry that this happened, this definitely qualifies as sexual harassment and your feelings about it are valid.

Candid_Check_4843 · 2021-09-20T00:44:24+00:00

That is sexual harassment. They were pressuring you to sleep with them, despite you saying no. They even went as far as to follow you and touch your thigh?? What a loser he is. If this happened in the workplace, it would definitely without a doubt be sexual harassment. Therefore, it is sexual harassment regardless of where it happened. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Your feelings are very valid.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-09-20T01:38:05+00:00

I think touching your thigh after unwanted advances that were rebuffed sounds like sexual assault

sruslywhytho · 2021-09-20T02:41:26+00:00

This was totally harassment. Sometimes ppl will ignore the truth because it makes them uncomfortable.

KindredMaximus · 2021-09-20T01:51:02+00:00

If you felt harassed - you were harassed. Full stop. Don't let others try to talk you out of the way you ''should'' feel. I've been touched so many times by men, without my permission. I've been licked, grabbed, spat on, spoken to, shouted at, by complete strangers. Last year a man grabbed my breasts - it was only this time, I finally went to the cops. They already knew because they had it on CCTV and 3 other women had complained. They had wondered who was the one who happened to be recorded was - it was me. You have the right to feel invaded and you own your truth. Women don't over react ENOUGH. We need to start making stinking, loud shrieking noises about every little crap thing a man does. It needs to be screamed from every mountain top. I'm over protecting men and their sly touches, looks, licks, comments and grabs. I now say very loudly ''FUCK OFF" (if I'm safe to do so) - men can't hack it because they aren't used to a woman standing her ground.
I've gone to mens homes who have shouted obscenities at my daughter while walking our dog and made them apologise and told them they were pedophiles. I have shouted at old men in bars who have tried to crack onto my daughter. Effing pervs. I have also started - when a man approaches me on the street putting my hand up, palm out like ''talk to the hand'' gesture right into their face, without saying a word and I'm surprised they move away very quickly. I think my age is on my side now - I don't think it would have worked in my 20s.
Don't let anyone minimise all these ''minor transgressions'' that men get away with every, single day. I for one am sick to death of it.

catlady4u · 2021-09-20T03:09:18+00:00

They touched your thigh against your will. That's actually sexual assault.

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Title	Am I overreacting or was it harassment?
Author	Toritoises
Upvotes	58
Comments	8
Date	September 20, 2021 12:02 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/prjixy/am_i_overreacting_or_was_it_harassment/
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