INTERNAL DIALOGUE

Recently re-read Atomic Habits. A key point that re-affirmed the importance of Internal Dialogue for me;

”To change your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself. You need to build identity-based habits.”

~ James Clear

Habits are best formed when you first believe in yourself. Or as I read it; you identify as the person you wish to become. From there the process is honed. Until the outcome is achieved. As opposed to setting at a goal and working backwards. It’s a small but powerful distinction.

Field Report

I loved drinking. Specifically binge drinking. Friday rolled around and until Sunday, the beers flowed free and clear. I destroyed my first marriage because of it. After my divorce I knew I had an issue. So I got help.

Through counselling I delved into the causes. Better understood cues, urges, responses and rewards. Not just the processes around my drinking; but more importantly; my identity as a drinker/party boy. Which was “The Lightbulb Moment”, for me quitting alcohol cold turkey. For almost 5 years. I changed my identity, internal dialogue and processes first by telling myself daily; ”I am a non-drinker.” Then reinforcing that internal conversation, with my daily actions and habits. Eventually I simply became a habitual non-drinker.

Conclusion

It’s a small but pivotal tool to drive habits. First having that conversation internally. Then reinforcing that dialogue, with daily actions that become habits. Hopefully it can help you too.

Godspeed and good luck!