NOTE: First I have to say that I'm not a newbie. I've seen plenty of women do crazy shit. Also, I'm spinning a few plates right now, so this isn't the end of the world or anything... Still, this caught me off guard and, honestly, was kind of fucking traumatic.
DRINKS: The other night I went out for a drink with this girl I had met at a coffee shop earlier in the week. She messaged me first. Everything went great. No psycho red flags to be seen. We were all over each other at the bar and she came back to my hotel room.
SEX: She was playing a little of that "conservative Asian girl" game, so it did take a little coaxing, but soon enough clothes were off and I thought it was going to be an awesome night. Then, 5 seconds after we started having sex, she suddenly jumped up, said "I can't do this," threw her dress over her head and was heading for the door having a full on melt down.
CRAZY: She stopped at the door - I was still in bed - and spouted some BS about how she's not this kind of girl and had never agreed to this. I tried to not react and calm her down, but I had never experienced this particular brand of crazy. Then, came the scary moment...
ACCUSATIONS: She started talking some mess about how I had forced her into this. At that point I just pissed off she would say something like that and I said, "You took that dress off, not me."
RETURN TO REALITY (?): She backpedaled... She agreed with me. "Yeah, you're right. I know. I guess I just went crazy for a moment. You're a good guy." Then she just kind of stood there in the doorway looking stupid with the door half opened. Trying to salvage the situation (probably not a good idea), I told her to come back in. She awkwardly stood there and didn't move. She mumbled something about feeling guilty and then left.
AFTERMATH: I'm a pretty cynical bastard in general and I thought I had seen it all... But having my night go from from awesome to awful in like 5 seconds flat (not to mention being halfway accused of rape)... I don't know. It left me feeling pretty out of it.
RECOVERY: You guys are probably all gonna call me a touchy feely little bitch - and maybe you're right - but honestly this was one of the roughest experiences I've had in a while. Left me feeling kind of fucked up.
BOUNCING BACK: How do you guys bounce back from something like this? It kind of ruined my weekend. Some of the girls I'm seeing are great, so I know I'm full of shit, but right now I'm stuck in that "all women are immature assholes," mode. Kind of zero desire to go out or meet women. Recommendations to get past the drama?
EDIT: On the upside nothing will come of this accusation she made in the moment so I'm fine. Also, I have definitely stopped contact. Never reacting is the way to go and emotions and blue balls aside is likely what I should have done. In a way, I suppose you could say that dealing with this kind of freak out and accusation is the ULTIMATE frame test - and maybe one I failed this time. And just when I thought I had seen it all.. Live and learn. Thanks guys.
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