I (21f) have been acquainted with a girl (24f) for almost 3 years now. The majority of our interactions were virtual after we met, because I moved away. Sometimes we’d end up in the same country, hang out, and even do photo shoots together. I had a great time with her in general.

It wasn’t until I moved back to our city that she showed me her true colors. First thing she asks me when she picks me up from my aunts house is “oh you have a sugar daddy now?”. I told her that’s it’s my aunt’s place, and that the sugar baby lifestyle isn’t for me. She insisted that there’s nothing bad about sugar daddies, and that she wouldn’t judge me if I had one. But I have nothing to confess. I found that weird, because she met my family in Europe - and had dinner at our place. After being exposed to my background, it would be weird to assume that I have a sugar daddy.

.On the first day back, she introduced me (now) to this low life 28m whom she’s seeing right now. Apparently she’s seeing two hvm (medical and finance fields) overseas (they already met) and is indecisive about them.! Since she asked for my advice, I told her to ditch him and to focus on the HVM who want a serious relationship with her overseas. And that she’s just wasting time with the current guy. Her fling has a friend who I’m going to name Poot. We all had dinner with her fling, poot, and her. She urged me to sleep over at poot’s place since he lived close, and my house was an hour away. I told her that I’m fine with taking a ride back home.

The next day, she tells me that Poot (28m) is “obsessed” with me and that he’s looking for a girlfriend. I laughed it off and changed the topic, because he couldn’t be further from my type. She kept on bringing him up and telling me that he’s rich and I’m going to like him. Firstly, rich isn’t the main reason why you should be with someone. He looks unkempt, has a room mate (her fling) in a dirty house, and abuses substances. Didn’t get into those details, but I firmly told her that I’m not interested. I felt her energy shift.

She was extremely mean to my potential partner when he came to pick me up from a party she invited me to. I didn’t feel like staying, and he suggested to pick me up. I saw the way he looked at her, he looked so disturbed. He asked me if that’s my friend, or someone I just met. I told him that I met her a couple times, and this is the first time that we spend time consistently. He told me to be careful with her.

After getting picked up from the party, she told me that Poot was extremely sad that I didn’t stick around to see him. She told me that he’s really influential in the industry we’re in, and that he’d be the perfect partner for me. Not that I care anyway..

She asked to borrow my top (super cheap, so I accepted), and she “forgot” to give it back to me at the end of the night. This was 3 weeks ago, and she ignored my text about it the day after. I could care less about the top itself, but the gesture irks me. I’ve borrowed a coat from her before, and made sure to hand it to her before going home.

My last drop was her inviting me to brunch, and hyping up that event for a week. The day or the brunch arrives. I live 15 minutes away from the hotel, they live 40 minutes away. Strangely, she suggested that I uber to their place in advance, so that we can “ride together” to the venue. I told her that it’s unnecessary because I live right next to the venue, and she knows it. 15 minutes before the brunch time, she told me that our reservation is cancelled because it’s overcrowded. Apparently, there were only outdoor seats, and it was too cold to sit outside. I went there myself, she wasn’t there like she said - there were plenty of indoor seats and the hostess told me that no reservation was needed.

I actually ate there but didn’t tell her a thing. She Acted devastated and told me that I got “all dolled up for nothing”. She imposed this “solution” to go to lunch with Poot instead, since he’s available. I didn’t even know what to reply, it was ridiculous. I don’t understand why she’s so desperate for me to be seen with Poot.

She also told my other potential partner’s (previously posted) friend that I’m secretly dating Poot, and that he’s funding my lifestyle. I found that out because he recorded the voice notes and showed them to me. Of course, he doesn’t believe it - but he showed me just to give me a heads up of her intentions. I’m getting to know him privately, but he posted us skiing that day - which led her to call his friend to spread the lie.

I have absolutely no motive to see her again. The version of her that I met while we were overseas isn’t the same. She was so poised and fun to be around, now she’s a hypermasculine mess. I’ve outgrown parties every day/week, and I look like a librarian next to her lol. I haven’t seen her in almost a month now. I just feel hurt because I grew up with a lot of girls in my family. When I see another woman, I see my sisters in them. None of my friends have done this to me. We came to the conclusion that she’s desperate to set me up with Poot, so that my image can be tainted. It’s easy to avoid her now, because we’ve been away for Thanksgiving.

How can I go about this in a subtle way? Our industry is small, she knows a lot of people I work with. I don’t want to make cutting her off a big deal. Should I continue what I’m doing (being silent) and find excuses to not hang out with her? Or should I be blunt snd tell her that we’re on two completely different pages.

Sorry for the little rant, I’m just so disgusted. I’m also half asleep writing this, so the articulation may be off :(