Anyone else have someone just come up and feel your muscles?

Suck-Less · 2021-12-25T02:48:20+00:00

Yup. Even had a woman lift up my tshirt, but that was some time ago.

It’s more common for women to touch my arms, shoulders. The last time it was my leg while,sitting next to a woman on a plane. And no, it doesn’t matter how often I wave my wedding ring in front of their face.

KingWhoCared86 · 2021-12-25T02:31:50+00:00

Outside of my grandparents not really something I can say I ever encountered

2021-12-25T04:32:26+00:00

Not usually at random. It was usually when women-girls wanted to take their flirting with me up another notch.

I didn't feel discomfort though, it was what I was after.

New_Engineering3987 · 2021-12-25T10:50:15+00:00

A few times I’ve had female friends lift my shirt to feel my body then when I get mad everyone makes me out to be the dick even other men. I’ve said can I feel your tits now then, you should see the faces they pull

WeEatBabies · 2021-12-25T14:03:23+00:00

You sound like you just started working out.

You have no idea the amount of girl who get away with what I call "The Move". They raise their hands to their shoulders, palms forward, smile, walk towards you, palms lands on your chest.

//Edit : Here is a video of "The Move" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ou5W-lKksF0

The more confident ones will then massage your chest and move on to your shoulders.

These girls will be : friends, work mates(at work no less), acquaintances, and random girls you never met at a bar or a party.

This is legit sexual assault, nowadays, I tell them : "Please don't touch me." Or "I'm not comfortable with this."

I used to let it happen because I thought this was normal :S

Some of them are not stupid, and after : "I don't feel comfortable with this." realize what they've done, their face go pale and they have the expression of "Am I the baddies".

BelCantoTenor · 2021-12-25T02:59:42+00:00

Yup. It’s horrible when women touch me without permission. It’s happened my whole life. I’ve learned to ignore it because no one takes it seriously because I’m a man, and I’m gay. Still, it isn’t ok to touch anyone in a sexual manner without their permission. If it were a man touching a woman like that, people would loose their shit over it. Double standards suck.

JacktheRipperColour · 2021-12-25T09:03:36+00:00

Purple aki

mollboy · 2021-12-25T02:21:54+00:00

I did my first bodybuilding show this year. It happens a lot to me but I don't really mind.

The best one though is I met a girl at a bar years ago and she just randomly groped my arms. We ended up hooking up that night. Still good friends to this day

UnconventionalXY · 2021-12-25T03:27:51+00:00

Imagine a man touching a womans breasts to feel the size simply because he wanted to: there would be outrage and cries of rape.

It's simply more double standards for men versus women.

I think we need rights to bodily sovereignty that make any unwanted touch, even a hug, off-limits by default. People should have to seek consent to invade another's personal space without enthusiastic invitation.

TheMentalMarauder · 2021-12-25T12:31:39+00:00

Had a drunk woman put her hands down my pants. When I asked her what the hell she was doing, she laughed.

frenchtoastwizard · 2021-12-25T13:17:03+00:00

I'm not muscled by any means, but I am tattooed and little old ladies will walk up grab my arm and pull up my sleeves to get a look. It can be very uncomfortable

HuskiesForever3985 · 2021-12-25T14:04:45+00:00

It goes back to the double standard that if you’re a woman it’s creepy and unwarranted and if you’re a man you should welcome it and take it as compliment. All people should have agency over their body and live without fear of being groped.

OldSamVimes · 2021-12-25T08:52:56+00:00

No.

But I used to have people demand I take my shirt off to show new acquaintances my tattoos.

If I wanted to be showing off my tattoos right now, I wouldn't be wearing the shirt to begin with.

macrian · 2021-12-25T08:08:30+00:00

Happened during dance lessons. I mean yeah, bachata is sensual dance and all, but not during lessons.... and not unprovoked. I mean if we had some flirt going on etc maybe, but unprovoked just grabbing my muscles while we dance (like groping and letting go while the teacher is showing as a routine). It kinda felt good? As it was kind of a compliment, but also awkward.

Starmind0 · 2021-12-25T17:45:06+00:00

It doesn't matter how it was done and what their intentions were, touching a man's muscles without consent is disgusting and against the law.

no_not_this · 2021-12-25T18:30:54+00:00

Yeah I don’t mind at all. And I don’t think it’s the same as a “man grabbing a girls breasts”. It would be the same if I touched a womens arm. If she grabbed my dick yeah maybe a bit uncomfortable depending on the situation

360_no_scope_upvote · 2021-12-25T18:31:44+00:00

Old women touch the most, the heiny, the arms, one time my chest. In front of their husbands, people I don't know at all. Old men get a rep for being pervy but it swings both ways.

RockAndGames · 2021-12-25T17:38:41+00:00

Once a girl i was working with groped my ass, so i slaped hers in retaliation, the bitch got fucking mad at me!! Wtf is wrong with some females.

shamblam117 · 2021-12-25T20:31:45+00:00

Happens with strangers in public all the time.

I don't mind it when family or even friends do it, but when strangers touch me it gives me the creeps.

It happened at least once every Friday and Saturday when I was a bouncer.

AaM_S · 2021-12-26T00:02:21+00:00

Anyone else have someone just come up and feel your muscles?

Yes, had it quite a number of times with familiar girls. But again, it was only with the girls I knew.

BitingBalisong · 2021-12-26T02:53:33+00:00

I work with the public and it's so irritating when a customer does that to me. It's usually women who comment on my physical appearance and touch my arms, shoulders etc.. It's really hard to confront it in a professional setting too, because my immediate reaction is to be repulsed, but I can't create a scene at work.

When I was younger, I had one older female coworker who exhibited no sense of personal boundaries. She would get right up in your personal space, and even lean her chest against your arm while showing you something on the computer, for example. I wish I wasn't so naive back then and had been taught to respect and guard my personal boundaries.

NoUsernameIGuess1 · 2021-12-26T11:08:48+00:00

Mostly I have people commenting on how thin I am, and how big my friends are. You can never be right in this society.

papmeiser · 2021-12-25T15:25:28+00:00

When I was playing at a club in San Diego in a band , had a women grab my gluteus maximus whenbI was on break.

BerdlyIsASimp · 2021-12-25T07:57:04+00:00

I mean, at least people like your muscles.

danr2604 · 2021-12-25T08:12:46+00:00

Won’t lie I’ve had more men do it than women, feels like a more of a compliment when men do it tho

Title	Anyone else have someone just come up and feel your muscles?
Author	Knight_Of_Orichalcum
Upvotes	141
Comments	43
Date	December 25, 2021 2:17 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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