Hey so I’m a guy in a relationship. Don’t know if I’m allowed to post here, but I genuinely want to hear red pill womens take in this.

I completely agree that no one is entitled to someone’s body or sex at its core. Somebody can say no whenever they want, and there needs to be consent.

Here is my problem though. It seems as if this “your not entitled” attitude is most applied to situations that have nothing to do with entitlement.

Like sorry Becky, but your bf or husband isn’t some entitled asshole for asking for sex more than once every 2 weeks. He isn’t an asshole for being disappointed if you rejected him every-time he has asked for the past 3 weeks. (Assuming he objectively isn’t being an annoying ass about it)

I just feel as thought Reddit has become a place for a lot of self serving radical ideals. It’s funny because this advice doesn’t seem to apply to women. If women aren’t getting sex, they are encouraged to leave. Men are encouraged to figure it out.

Which brings me to my next point. Some women do indeed have responsive desires. You see this on subs like r/deadbedrooms or r/sex. I understand women have a different type of sex drive than men. But it shouldn’t take a man having to do all of the emotional and physical leg work just to get you to be aroused and intimate. I feel there is a difference from “hey I’d really like flowers every once and a while”, than “I need the stars and the moon of Saturn to align while you dance like a monkey for 3 weeks straight, just to consider being open to having sex next month.” It seems as though most people who claim to have a “responsive” desire don’t actually take responsibility for it, but instead just have a low sex drive and don’t want to admit it. Or the husband became a fat slob who eats chips off his belly and doesn’t help around the house.

I really want to know y’all’s take. What’s y’all’s position in sex for a marriage? How often should you have it? Shouldn’t both parties be up for a more spontaneous sex and romantic life?

Ps. The sex and romantic life between me and my gf is great. I do what I can to show her i love her.