Getting (discount?) Flowers delivered to you the day after Valentine's Day.

cinderella_rising · 2022-02-16T04:22:24+00:00

My bet is she was disappointed yesterday with his lack of effort, so he tried to make up for it today. It’s also possible that it was supposed to come yesterday, but was late due to supply/shipping/staffing issues.

MsWriteNow07 · 2022-02-16T07:05:39+00:00

It was my aunt’s birthday today and I literally sent her a different gift instead of flowers because I didn’t want her getting cheap leftover roses from Vday crowd

MofoMadame · 2022-02-16T08:56:27+00:00

It would be great if florists doubled the price on the 15th.

space_cataz__ · 2022-02-16T04:01:06+00:00

He probably did it on purpose. Just sayin'

katiekat0214 · 2022-02-16T13:31:26+00:00

I've told this story before but it bears repeating: first LV husband Peter and I had issues from the start, but I was young, a pickme, naive, inexperienced, and just REALLY wanted to be married. Among the issues was that he was ace/aro and oblivious; he chose to work 6p-6a while as a teacher I worked just the opposite; he was more than likely avoidant, and got easily overwhelmed/flooded, and could not handle any intimacy. All this was in the 90s; I knew something was off, but didn't have the words for it.

My birthday was yesterday, Valentine's Day. Peter's birthday was precisely two weeks later, on February 28. One year, he "forgot" my birthday. This was after I had received presents in the mail from my father and sister, who have been 100% faithful to send presents and cards as well as call/text me every single year of my life! I also back then really hyped up my birthday and looked forward to it immensely every year. Besides, two birthdays in February, precisely two weeks apart, and mine is on VALENTINE'S DAY? And yet he "forgot"? Ugh.

I woke up that morning in a great mood; hey, it's my birthday! Not a word from him. I went to work, got a ton of well-wishes, a few little presents from students. The mood in a school on Valentine's Day or any holiday is always extra festive, so energy was in the air. Something I bought for myself came in the mail, too, so a bonus.

I got home, still no word, and by this time, I'm beginning to be angry, but like so many young 20somethings, I still had to learn to own my anger, to understand it was not just okay to be angry but sometimes essential. That night, because for some reason his truck had mysteriously disappeared (and I never could get a straight answer; I would swear he pawned it to pay a bill and was ashamed, too ashamed even to tell me, his wife), he simply HAD to borrow my vehicle, the only vehicle, to go a MILE to work. Previously, he had been picked up and dropped off by other campus cops, since we lived so close, and it was not at all out of anyone's way. I was left stranded at the house. All I wanted to do, ON MY BIRTHDAY, was just go out and watch a movie. But no. First screaming match of the day, and he left with my car.

He came home later, asked what there was to eat, and I LET FLY: there I was, little miss Good Wife, in the kitchen about to get food for myself, and he walks in and asks what I've cooked FOR HIM. Talk about screaming match, on my birthday, and I was so incandescently angry, I have no memory of what was said, but I LET HIM HAVE IT WITH BOTH BARRELS. The next morning, he came into the bedroom with a Walmart bag (not even a gift bag) of cute little stuff. I was pathetically grateful, but also underneath it all, simmeringly angry as hell. And I vowed never again to tell him anything important or meaningful to me, since I now suspected it would be used against me. Looking back, this was a blood in the water test that should never have had to be: a person's birthday is something that's important, and should be celebrated. For reference, I once told him I hated the sound when people smacked their lips. Of course he regularly started smacking his lips. Cue me shouting to stop, since I have misophonia, and have had it most of my life, just didn't know back then. Blood in the water. Such a stupid, childish jerk move.

It was the beginning of the end, that birthday, and I divorced him a year or two later. Such, such were the joys.

CactiAndFungi · 2022-02-17T00:16:27+00:00

February 15th is Side Piece Day.

Title	Getting (discount?) Flowers delivered to you the day after Valentine's Day.
Author	HolyIsTheLord
Upvotes	185
Comments	10
Date	February 16, 2022 3:43 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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