How can I be a better ally to the men In my life?

dishwatersupper · 2022-03-10T04:40:27+00:00

Simply treat them as you would want to be treated, just like anybody else.

Men don't need special treatment, they just need equal treatment.

ThreeHourNap · 2022-03-10T04:47:16+00:00

Never tell them that feminism is the solution to men’s problems or “Patriarchy hurts men too.”

Ok-Ambassador3244 · 2022-03-10T08:33:47+00:00

Give them sympathy and listen to their problems like you would do with a women

arrouk · 2022-03-10T08:55:37+00:00

Stop telling men how they feel and how they will react, then ask and listen.

We don't hate women, we hate women who hate us.

We don't want men to be above women we just want equal rights.

If a man is baby trapped he's paying for a kid he didn't want for 18 years. If a women gets pregnant through a man's actions he's in a lot of trouble for SA.

Once a baby is conceived a man has no rights until the mother gives them or he is proven to be the farther.

lavenderenergy1 · 2022-03-10T08:15:58+00:00

This has been an awakening and evolution that has taken place over the past few years for me, but I started by no longer identifying as a feminist, and no longer supporting that culture or anyone who promotes that culture with any money. I consider myself an egalitarian, amongst other things. I send posts from this subreddit to my husband to invite conversation about a topic. I will not tolerate any hatred or discriminatory remarks about men or boys in my presence. I remain awake to gynocentric culture, and how it is affecting men and boys. While I want to make my full support known, and I also want to know how I can more fully support men, I mostly STFU and listen, because aside from this subreddit, where are the spaces where men can go and talk about these things?

No_Fap_is_My_Life · 2022-03-10T10:06:43+00:00

Just hug a few and give some compliments, we never think that someone will like us

Even a handshake or "you look cute" will make the boys get going in life happily for even months, maybe even years, or even forever :)

It gets stored in our brains as permanent memories :)

hehimCA · 2022-03-10T05:58:38+00:00

Understand their issues, recognize those issues when you see/hear them, and don’t allow anti male rhetoric to be spoken.

Introvert82 · 2022-03-10T07:43:38+00:00

Don't fall for the modern feminist lie; gender wage gap, equality of outcome, women don't need men, career more important than family, sleeping around like crazy, male patriarchy....the list goes on. I rarely see women challenging these issues, only men.

Eedoryeong · 2022-03-10T12:08:27+00:00

Listen to their stories. Join the reform effort. Join an NGO or lobby or other activist group that is prepared to move their legitimate reform requests forward, and help them push. Understand that some feminists will call you their enemy for doing this, and for justice's sake make your peace with the fact that that is coming. Stand up anyway. Most men aware of the issues - via personal trauma or otherwise - do not want to silence the story of women or undo their achievements. The problem is mostly an incomplete advancement of rights, especially in the lower classes. Men want the story of men included in legislative reform. There are active blocks preventing that from happening. Some of them are politically motivated. Throw your weight (i.e. volunteer, or even just show moral support) behind the raisers of political capital for these issues and help leverage to get stuff passed. It's a big pallette of issues, you can pick from a wide range and be part of the effort to move just one issue forward. For example custody reform. In most cases it should be presumed 50/50. That's what the latest research shows. Help with that. There is newer research not making it into legislative assemblies, showing the closer to 50/50 that kids have, the better their chances in life.

There is a great YouTube interview between Dr. Warren Farrell and Jordan Peterson. Some of the most pressing issues are laid out there. No fair-minded woman should feel threatened by the information they share or the call to action their findings imply. Finally, be an advocate for fairness. Wrongdoers who happen to be men still need to meet justice. But so do those who happen to be women, yet so many don't. Many men know this and resent the current state. Good luck being an ally to the men in your life.

BeepBeepYeah7789 · 2022-03-10T14:57:15+00:00

Appreciate the things we do or say without also insisting that you could have done or said those things better.

bluegreenliquid · 2022-03-10T15:51:38+00:00

Look deep within yourself and how things men do make you feel. You may find you still perpetuate the “men who feel are weak and unattractive to me” mentality in ways. Most people seem to

DavidByron2 · 2022-03-10T17:07:19+00:00

You just did it.

Just speak up (whatever your style - quiet, loud, peaceful, aggressive, "debating", didactic, whatever). People today have never known a time when men were not vilified by our society. be the voice that says something positive, or refutes the negative.

This will lose you some friends. Don't dial it up to eleven right away.

Same answer whether you're a man or a woman btw. Technically you didn't say. The word "ally" suggests an outsider and so female, but really supporting men and equality is something men and women can both do the exact same. There's no "ally" just people.

Prof_Bean · 2022-03-10T18:19:06+00:00

Be there for them. Most men are lonely, physically and mentally, if that makes sense.

xx_DEADND_xx · 2022-03-10T04:59:32+00:00

Compliment men. We like to hear them as much as everyone else

iainmf · 2022-03-10T11:16:25+00:00

I don't like the term 'ally'. Men and women are already on the same team, there is no need to imagine a common enemy to work together.

pappo4ever · 2022-03-10T12:40:58+00:00

You don't have to do nothing, women are naturally men best ally.

Only have to stop listening to toxic quasi-religious doctrine like modern feminism.

Redpahnto · 2022-03-10T13:05:15+00:00

Be a nice person.

MGTOW_and_Bitcoin · 2022-03-10T14:30:06+00:00

You first have to be capable of making a very important decision the earlier the better: do you want to be a wife and have children or do you want to become a fully responsible adult like men are expected to be...

If you want I'm more than willing to have this discussion, but you have to be very clear from the start if not you're not even ready for this discussion.

superstonkape · 2022-03-10T14:52:17+00:00

Simply ask how they’re doing

SmoothStill8198 · 2022-03-10T15:09:48+00:00

Dont act like a victim when it comes to everything in life and carry ur own weight without feeling the need to be praised and hate on men bec u carry ur own weight by saying shit like women don’t need men in society and we’d do a better job than them and whatnot

Sperm40mmSprintChamp · 2022-03-10T15:14:44+00:00

Listen. Pretty much it. All most of us are asking for, listen and accept what you hear, not reject it.

XpHAHAman · 2022-03-10T07:43:23+00:00

Why do I feel like I see this question at least 3 times a week

vocabb · 2022-03-10T21:20:25+00:00

Just see the humanity in everyone, the race gender etc doesn’t matter

kanniget · 2022-03-11T01:00:26+00:00

1) treat them with respect, which includes things like acknowledgement for what they do for you and others. Acknowledgment of difficulties they face purely because of their gender.

2) stand up for them when feminists claim stupid, misleading or even incorrect "facts" about men and masculinity.

Ironically these are the core things most feminists claim they are trying to achieve for women but will not tolerance a single utterance of this where men are the receivers...

jamesdanton · 2022-03-11T04:37:37+00:00

r/Mensrights mods told me a post I tried to put up was 'stupid'. They didn't mention how it was, just that it was.

Don't do what the mods have done here. I know they ARE Reddit mods which means that hell has to open some new real estate for these folks but the point is: don't dismiss us out of hand. Listen to us, it's a way of making us feel appreciated and you might see that, well, a lot of us? We know stuff.

Title	How can I be a better ally to the men In my life?
Author	godhatesnerds
Upvotes	30
Comments	55
Date	March 10, 2022 4:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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