Ex-spouse is no longer interested in our co-parenting agreement, next option?

hifi3xx · 2022-03-09T00:43:41+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this is your situation bro. This is the right place to vent. I don't know how a court case would play out, as most courts are biased against fathers. But if you have evidence abuse and assult you could make the claim that you are scared for your daughters well being as her mother is violent. I don't think you'll get this resolved out of court. It seems like your ex is the kind of woman that uses children as a weapon against the father.

Own_Appointment6721 · 2022-03-09T01:01:16+00:00

Without understanding fully your co-parenting agreement you can not violate written law. In my example my sons mother is legally able to call 3 times a day for 15 minutes each time (our agreement states phone calls not FaceTime) This can not be violated regardless if my son is sleeping, shitting, in the shower, or even at school. She could take advantage of such examples but continue to do what you are doing and mark it down of why/how your daughter was negatively affected. Please keep a copy of your agreements handy and if she’s in violation of black and white then you can build a strong case and pursue further action.

IronJohnMRA · 2022-03-09T13:21:56+00:00

I hope this is the right place to vent.

Yes. Welcome. Please stay awhile.

Dynged · 2022-03-09T12:29:21+00:00

Coming from the situation you left.....with all the love and respect in the world, how did you not see her using your kid as a weapon? Your first step leaving her should have been getting some type of agreement through the court so it could at least be legally binding in theory. You NEVER take a psycho at thier word, especially after they blatantly admitted to emotionally abusing you (in addition to the physical abuse) and said something so absolutely vile about you doing something like that to your kid.

Get a lawyer ASAP and get the ball rolling on a custody suit.

Songg45 · 2022-03-09T13:06:04+00:00

My ex once broke our court ordered custody plan and completely stopped all contact with me for two months.

When we finally went to court, the judge told her she better not do it again or else, and gave her a 30 day suspended jail sentence.

Nothing but court action would have gotten her back to speaking terms with me.

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-03-09T00:49:43+00:00

Check out the laws in your state. Get a lawyer. The longer you wait the longer she'll say she has a stable relationship without you. The clock is ticking. Tell the attorney about the DV and bring all your evidence. Say you are concerned for your daughter because your ex is violent toward you. Don't make up any stories here. Be honest.

Then ask the court for 50/50 equal shared parenting. To get full custody you would have to prove your ex is a danger to your child, which according to the above, you don't. Don't ever go back and only talk to her in email. Listen to your lawyer.

redditburner4me · 2022-03-09T00:50:00+00:00

My next move if I was you was to set a co-parenting agreement in stone through mediation. If that's not an option due to time or whatever you probably need to get a lawyer. I know where I'm from the court has a law library and somebody that can help you fill out paperwork and what you're looking for is a motion Pedia -lite . If they have that resource available of the person that knows what you might be talking about then they can put you in the right direction and you could save some money. I can't speak to your situation but if you feel like things are going to get contentious and that's going to limit your ability to be a parent in your kids life then maybe you should bite the bullet and get a lawyer.

Sorry man, I know how it is when your ex spouse limit your parenting time because you don't have an agreement in place and there is domestic violence involved. As far as the allegations go the day I retained a lawyer and my ex knew we were going to get a divorce I was feeding my son dinner. It was like squash or something messy and I wiped his face with a cold wet wipe and he winced and my ex accused me of hitting him when I never had him or her before not even the threat of violence. Since that allegation I've been accused many times of intimidation, stalking, threatening they just keep escalating. If your state is a one-party consent state for recording audio I would do that. I believe there is a sticky on the sub explaining tactics for contentious divorces and what you need to look out for and how to protect yourself. If you have any questions send me a DM

Keep your head up, sounds like you put up with a lot of crap. In my case which was similar I learned through therapy to not accept a behavior I would be ashamed if I did myself . this helped me set boundaries for our future co-parenting. Sorry if it's a long-winded hope it helps

KillaKunna · 2022-03-09T01:15:38+00:00

You need to seek legal help now because it takes a long time to go before a judge. A friend of mine got laid off and it took almost two years to get the child support altered. He had a lawyer and would go to court and they would push court. The mother would keep having it pushed. When he finally got to court, judge told then they needed to try remediation one more time. About 6 months later they get a court date. The day before the mother contacted court saying she needed time to get a new lawyer. They pushed it.

They're gonna drag your around for a while, might as well get the ball rolling.

Raychao · 2022-03-09T02:39:37+00:00

Okay first thing is to write her an email setting out the current agreed co-parenting agreement.

Then in that email you set out the examples where she has started to no longer abide by your agreement.

You then invite her to Family Law Mediation. Book an appointment with a Family Law Mediator for yourself and take the co-parenting agreement.

Ask for a certificate from the Mediator to say you have attempted mediation with her.

Then you file in Court seeking judicial intervention, you set out the co-parenting agreement you had, and the examples of where she is now refusing to follow the agreement.

You set out that you have attempted mediation with her and include the certificate from the Mediator.

Then you seek that the parenting agreement be made into a Court order..

You need a lawyer and a Family Law Mediator ASAP.

I'm in Sydney Australia but this is how it would go.

tired_hillbilly · 2022-03-09T02:59:52+00:00

GET HELP NOW DO NOT WAIT

mikesteane · 2022-03-09T06:29:16+00:00

Start by gathering evidence.

Ok-Ambassador3244 · 2022-03-09T10:20:13+00:00

You should talk to a lawyer

AffectionatePapaya13 · 2022-03-10T02:05:37+00:00

Get a lawyer idiot. If she's abusive why wouldn't she abuse the courts?

CrypToroMx · 2022-03-10T20:46:12+00:00

She's fucking crazy Probably getting fed anti-men ideas and lies by bullshit support groups that also hate men.

AirSailer · 2022-03-09T01:10:47+00:00

I'm getting vibes that the two of you are actually still married. I say this because you don't mention a court order, you're talking about mediation, and you are calling her your ex-spouse not ex-wife.

Title	Ex-spouse is no longer interested in our co-parenting agreement, next option?
Author	Alone-Pressure538
Upvotes	41
Comments	23
Date	March 9, 2022 12:28 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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