Such a common story.
Exactly as described by Erin Pizzey when talking about a large percentage of self described “victims” at her refuges

Where the ‘victim’ was highly abusive, physically assaulting and gaslighting her partner, following them from room to room in an attempt to start a fight, and then claim it was them that was assaulted, even if retaliation never occurred https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10728481/Johnny-Depps-texts-doctor-Amber-Heard-revealed-defamation-trial.html?ito=social-facebook&fbclid=IwAR0-H21ku5Nj1DszcBz-N7ER3FlvniVGJZnisPeuDz1k7GHN0wizgmY87jw