How soon should men make it official?

seraphinelysion · 2022-04-15T20:31:06+00:00

At whatever speed you want/find comfortable. Only you can make that determination, not us.

My rule of thumb is to follow Deb Cooper's advice of "If he's not giving you the relationship you want, get rid of him." Very cut and dry. He has to be on the same page as you to be truly compatible.

CannonEyes · 2022-04-15T20:16:40+00:00

4-6 weeks

VintagePallor · 2022-04-15T21:01:26+00:00

I wouldn't make "exclusive" and "bf/gf" separate categories. Why would you commit to him like that, taking away one of your biggest tools, dating around, and not get being officially in a relationship in return? It's VERY important to keep roster dating while vetting so that you don't get hyper-focused on one man and start excusing or overlooking his faults and letting him feel like he's "got" you so no further effort is required. Don't be in a rush to give that away. You want to be actively vetting and dating around for probably at least 6-8 weeks or even more. A man, on the other hand, needs FAR less time and vetting to be sure about a woman so he is expected to stop dating around much soon than you, probably within 3-4 weeks. Read that again: HE SHOULD BE EXCLUSIVE TO YOU WELL BEFORE YOU CONSIDER BEING EXCLUSIVE TO HIM. Note that there's no sex happening in any of these roster relationships but if a man is serious about you and thinks there's a good chance you could be his wife he should be cutting off all other women quickly, and a HVM will also understand that a HVW is not going to drop everything for him until he's THOROUGHLY proved himself. Give the Handbook another read sis, a lot of this is covered.

2340000 · 2022-04-15T20:33:20+00:00

BEFORE you consider getting sexual.

Every person here is different, but initial vetting takes months. They should discuss exclusivity or relationships before broaching intimacy 🤷

candyfox84 · 2022-04-15T21:01:41+00:00

For me personally, 4-6 months.

Title	How soon should men make it official?
Author	kolsen92
Upvotes	25
Comments	7
Date	April 15, 2022 7:31 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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