I'm not sure if any of you have seen the latest buzzword being used by FDS and radfem types, but weaponized incompetence has resurfaced as a popular topic. What it's supposed to mean is that there are men who try to fail at household tasks on purpose so that their wife or girlfriend will reluctantly do it for them instead.

I see two problems with this,

  1. If a man legitimately doesn't know how to do a female coded task, what he probably needs is patience and understanding, not abuse (which is what this is). After all, is it "weaponized incompetence" when women refuse to do yard work, the trash, automotive work, masonry, carpentry, appliance work, or any other male typical task? At best this goes both ways so any woman thinking about this should check herself first (don't throw the first stone and all that).

  2. More often than not, men are perfectly capable of doing female typical tasks around the house. What is happening is that men and women have different opinions about how those tasks need to be done. So when a man does a task, he does it differently than how a woman would, which somehow means that he's wrong and incompetent.

Relationships would be much healthier for everyone involved, including women, if we stopped treating male preferences as wrong and instead started talking about respecting our differences and having patience with each other.