How can I stop feeling like women are my enemies when it comes to physical/sexual interactions?

wtknight · 2022-09-07T20:06:42+00:00

Removed. No advice posts.

AnUnstableNucleus · 2022-09-07T19:43:11+00:00

Just show interest and stop thinking about it. If she's not interested, back down. Not that hard.

Sad_Entertainer6312 · 2022-09-07T20:02:20+00:00

What do you mean by showing sexual interest? If you like her, just ask her out on a date.

KombuchaEnema · 2022-09-07T19:48:38+00:00

If you showed sexual interest in a male upon first meeting him, how many times do you think they would treat you like a creep or even become physically violent with you? How many of them would be disgusted?

Your response might be “yeah but I don’t see guys as potential sexual partners.”

There you go. That’s it exactly. You don’t walk up to him and treat him like “potential hole to fuck #2556.”

When a man shows sexual interest in me despite not knowing me, I’m already looking down on him because for all he knows I could be the type of woman to baby trap him or commit paternity fraud or poke a hole in the condom and destroy his life. But he still wants to sleep with me? Even though he doesn’t know me? What…because I look good and he’ll sleep with any willing woman who looks good?

That makes you look bad.

Opening_Pattern_301 · 2022-09-07T19:48:39+00:00

stop believing that your value as man comes from how many women can you bed, that is a blatant lie and witness all this anxiety and fear vanish

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mustbepurged · 2022-09-07T19:51:19+00:00

Stop caring so much.

2022-09-07T19:51:32+00:00

Don't show sexual interest when you first meet.

Women are not your enemies, but the will have no tolerance for creepy behaviour, so don't be creepy too often.

To overcome that, you are going to have to be OK with fucking up sometimes. You need to show confidence, which means that sometimes, you may overstep and get called out for it. That's fine as long as you know when to stop and retreat.

poppy_blu · 2022-09-07T19:55:12+00:00

What you really need to squash is the feeling that their rejection of you is a measure of who you are and your self worth. There’s nothing humiliating about being rejected and if she calls you a creep that’s just her defense mechanism (or she’s just a bitch).

We should really start having ask a Chad clinics here. You guys would be amazed at how easily your beliefs would be shattered. Yes, chad gets rejected too.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-09-07T19:59:51+00:00

Well as has shown over the past week the word "creep: coming from a woman is absolutely meaningless at this point, so the same way that women have an abundance mindset when it comes to male options, you have to remember that 99% of female complaints are just abundant and meaningless noise

That being said, the best thing you can do is to not care, if she's not interested you can do the "you sure?" And if she says no again you just go on about your day, for all our differences as men and women they're just flesh and blood like you and me

sd2iv · 2022-09-07T20:07:16+00:00

It is obviously possible to overcome it. How much work it takes depends on your starting place. The truth is that world treats you differently depending on your status in the social hierarchy. If you are lower in the hierarchy having good game / attitude can make up for being lower but it does take much more effort and perseverance.

This is why any reasonable person would encourage you to do both: increase your status in the hierarchy and increase your ability to interact with the world. Active and passive. So passive advantages would be things like lifting, fighting ability, dressing better, making more money, being taller, having better facial symmetry, having a masculine demeanor, having high status, living in a target rich environment etc. Active things would be like approaching more, better social awareness, having better game, bigger social circle, throwing parties or connecting people, spinning plates etc. etc.

Now the fundamental issue is that your value will be a combination of the two. In different areas / stages of life certain things will be more important. E.g. if you’re in your 30s in NYC money will be more important than access to parties at 18.

If you put yourself out there you can absolutely do well with women. It will just be harder if you are lower down the higherarchy. If you make it up to the top 20% or so you will be able to have desirable hookups. If you can’t make it that high you can still do fine with women and not be called a creep often, or get rejected harshly often, but you may have to focus more on relationships.

RestingWings · 2022-09-07T20:20:40+00:00

Yooooooooooooooo
I love women, and I want them to love me back. I hate when I treat a women well, and she doesn't respond well to my liking, I get furious.

Come ON, I'm not saying she needs to drop to her knees right then and there; I'm saying that I want to be treated with kindness and respect.

Anyways, this taught me to just not give women the chance to respond poorly/rudely to me. I treat a lot of men like this too, but I usually don't enjoy men like I enjoy women.

As a guy, let yourself feel that sexual desire, just don't overact on it. People like to know that other people find them sexually desirable, even if it is creepy (in which case we don't want it to be acted upon).
It's our responsibility, as guys, to pursue women, and to filter out the bad ones (that we don't like and that don't like us).

So, find ways to not be creepy, and when you show your desire to girls in that non-creepy way, if they call you a creep, rest easy with confidence knowing that its not true, but that she's just a nim-witted fool.

Obvious-Rise9199 · 2022-09-07T21:10:30+00:00

It is such a gray area. Because truth be told - sometimes you will fail.

Some dates will be really cool with woman you are attracted to. Others will be fine, but no attraction. Others will be looking for a reason to say all men are assholes. It could be something simple, a disagreement on a view or someone who puts in zero effort to be a good person.

Title	How can I stop feeling like women are my enemies when it comes to physical/sexual interactions?
Author	Felizem_velair_
Upvotes	1
Comments	19
Date	September 7, 2022 7:39 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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