The Redpill made me wish I was a woman

Note: as a western man I wish I was a western woman. Not a third world country woman.

I am a virgin, 20 year old unattractive man and my life is terrible because of it. Women aren’t interested in me because rightfully so they are interested in men with good genetics which is a good thing and is natural. Men are the same. Human beings are shallow whether we like it or not. I am currently working on undoing what the Redpill and Blackpill done to me and this post is to help me as well as show people the damage the Redpill can do.

Before the Redpill I liked being a man and never once wished I was a woman. Due to the subconscious programming of the patriarchy, I felt like being a man was better than being a woman. I tried dating women and also trying to find a hookup however no woman was interested including unattractive women. I felt like women also found it this hard to date and hookup and part of me enjoyed the chase and using my personality to win women over. I thought women mainly went for personality but then I discovered the blackpill 3 years ago and realised it’s mostly hookups and exclusively looks when it comes to hooking up with women. I never practiced the Redpill as I believed it would only work for genetically gifted men and I felt like women didn’t want average men no matter what he does. Both Red and Blackpill showed me the insane number of options women have when it comes to sex. Less options for relationships but still a good number and way easier to find one. My hypothesis for why women can find relationships easier than men is because women are a lot happier single and only a few women are interested in a relationship. Meanwhile most men are interested in a relationship. Of course a lot of men also just want sex but if they cant get sex, they settle for a relationship. But women can get sex easily so they have no reason for a relationship unless they want children. Being an average man, it seems like dating is where women have all the power. The only time women dont have much power is with very attractive men as these men tend to pump and dump women. As an average man, trying to find an average woman to date is as balanced as me trying to win a tug of war against 20 strongmen! Even the creator of Tinder said if it was a country, it would be the second most unequal in the world with women holding the privilege.

As a man the dating process seems like I have to make all the effort, pay for dates, do my best to not make one mistake, compete with 100s of other men and yet be made to feel like I am lucky and that I can be replaced whenever. I feel like my boss treats me better than any woman I have tried to date! I have felt way less replaceable at my corporate job than I have in dating and this is no exaggeration as I know its a personal story but one time my friend and I got fired from my job and they couldn’t replace us both so they went out of business. But every time I have been rejected or dumped, another guy is already hooking up or dating her the next month. Also most women have FWB situations so I cant even enter the door as it’s preoccupied by someone else. Its worth pointing out the gender ratio is 100 women to 106 men. So the verdict is dating as an average male sucks and I get treated better from my boss even at my new job I feel less replaceable and more like a human.

As for an average looking woman, I can assume the dating process is have 1000 guys chasing you, 500 send boring or creepy messages so not a great start, of the other 500, 300 aren’t that interesting and 200 are really engaging. Of that 200, 50 are local. So now a woman has 50 guys to choose from. Unfortunately from the 1000 matches, 3 guys decided to be assholes and stalk her social medias and had to be blocked. This created some anxiety in the woman but the 50 guys left seem very nice. Choose the 5 most attractive ones to talk to on the phone and arrange to meet the one you get on with the most. Go on a date and have a fear you may be raped so you need to take precautions. But luckily the date goes very and he pays. You then get to decide if sex happens that night. But as the woman you know full well that if there is one small thing you don't like, you have the other 50 men to choose from and you can find more at the bar, more tinder swipes or go back to your ex.

So while the woman had to worry about creeps and the potential of rape which is a serious issue, the rest of the woman dating process has tons of benefits and is easy. Meanwhile for men its safer but there is almost now reward. As a man I feel as valuable to a woman as an apple I feel so worthless and that I can be replaceable as I am so common.

Out of the two dating processes, I would choose the female dating process as much easier than the male one. There is more risk but the reward is a lot more higher. I feel like the dating and hookup culture is so much better for women.

This post is getting long so I better wrap this up but more detail is needed. I understand the orgasm gap is an issue affecting women however a woman can easily find another guy to have sex with and soon enough she will find a good sexual partner. Meanwhile as a man myself, I feel like during sex I have to put in the effort like stamina, pleasing the woman, making sure I stay hard (not in my control this one), competing with her previous partners, and the reward is a hopefully still a great experience but as for the orgasm, a woman's orgasm is way more pleasurable than a mans.

The next point is slut shaming which only affects women. I understand this is a problem that effects a woman's reputation and the Redpill is misogynistic in its belief that a man can sleep with lots of women but a woman cant. It is a double standard that needs to get removed. However due to dating apps, a woman can be very secretive and invite a dude over from another town for sex that no one will know about. She can do this a lot and people will still believe she hasn’t had much sex.

Another point is periods. Yes I do agree this is a negative for being a woman. Childbirth is also a negative but I personally dont want children as I am interested in r/antinatalism as well as I don't want to pass on my inferior genetics to my sons. My daughters would be fine with my genetics as unattractive women have a great dating life too.

Adding on, free drinks, simping, validation, onlyfans, escorts, attention, great social life are all great benefits to being a woman but do come with drawbacks like creeps. Men tend to have to work the hard jobs like sewage and construction while women can find a provider and not work or do onlyfans or be a cashier. A man who is a cashier is seen as a failure by his parents.

A small advantage to being a man is being 5 inches taller and being 90% stronger than women on average. This advantage isn't that useful and short men suffer a lot more than short women in society and dating. Even average height (5’10), isn’t that great for men.

Men tend to commit suicide 4 times as much as women but I have heard women attempt just as much so I suppose the cat is still in the bag for this one.

Men seeing women as sex objects is a disadvantage and one which I have never experienced. Id like to learn how women truly feel about this one.

There is more to be said but I covered the important parts. To close this post, I try to look at this male vs female thing with as little bias as possible. I am hoping commenters can offer insight into this. We may never know who actually has it easier men or women. Maybe its objective. Some may prefer the male lifestyle. But remember the life of an attractive man is very different to an average man. Same applies to women although all the benefits of being a woman I mentioned apply to all women. I understand age will makes those benefits lesser and no I am not spreading redpill anti older women bs, I am just pointing out aging is something us men and women have in common and it sucks and makes our lives worse if you give it enough time. If there was something where I could be reborn as a woman I would instantly take it. Would I be happier? Would I be a virgin at age 20? If I had the same parents I would be a 5’5 blonde hair blue eyes girl and my face would probably be pretty as I am feminine already as a man so if I was a woman my face would be even more feminine. I would have a big nose however. How would my dating life look like? Would I become an onlyfans model or an escort if I was a woman? Who knows but its an interesting thought and maybe readers may provoke thoughts on what their lives would be like if they were the opposite gender.

To conclude I wish I was born a woman thanks to the Redpill. I do not intend to offend any women with this post. I understand some women have had it tough solely because of their gender and reading this could understandably cause offense and I take responsibility for if any offense is caused. I feel like a lot of work needs to be done to reverse the damage the Redpill caused. I am willing to do the work as a post such as mine is a huge indicator that maybe I have overdosed or am suffering from a mental illness or not seeing the full picture. Perhaps the grass isn't greener on the other side.