How can I (26F) control my feelings for my FWB (33 M) so I can keep seeing him?

LivelyLychee · 2022-09-27T16:12:48+00:00

Red Pill Women concern themselves with commitment and relationships, not casual sex. Unlike the experience of men, casual sex is so easy for women to achieve that it requires no strategy. The Red Pill calls women in this position plates, and it is off-topic and against the rules of this sub accordingly.

sweetiewrap · 2022-09-27T14:56:47+00:00

Why do you want to be okay with that?

mistressusa · 2022-09-27T15:13:45+00:00

So you are good enough to f*ck but not good enough to date. So insulting. I'd cut him off already. Also, no way the sex is that good if he doesn't even find you attractive.

DoppelGangHer88 · 2022-09-27T15:48:50+00:00

Casual sex isn't casual for women. Our biology dictates that we become attached to men we have consistent sex with. This is evolutionarily advantageous because we're the ones who bear children.

You should stop having sex with him, mourn that (non)relationship and in the future only have sex when you're in a long-term, committed relationship, ideally a marriage.

ladida1321 · 2022-09-27T15:08:34+00:00

You can’t :(

It’s not healthy to try to hide your feelings like that. I know you don’t wanna give up a great lay but honestly… is that worth you feeling upset and tanking your self esteem?

I guarantee you this won’t be the best sex of your life- it only gets better… and with the right person who loves you/you love them - phenomenal!

tamara090909 · 2022-09-27T16:22:04+00:00

You never had him so you can’t loose him. Why do you want to be with a man who makes it so clear that he doesn’t want to date you. He only wants you for sex. Why would you let him treat you like that?

Also ask yourself what happens if you end up becoming pregnant by him. Then you are completely alone and have to make major decisions that will impact your life all the decades to come. Why would you risk that?

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Title: How can I (26F) control my feelings for my FWB (33 M) so I can keep seeing him?

Full text: I (F 26) have feelings for a guy I sleep with (33 M)

He doesn't feel the same

It's also the best sex of my life

Is there any way I can keep sleeping with him and keep my feelings separate?

I want to be okay with him seeing other people and not committing to me

I find myself comparing myself to the other girls (I'm not physically his "type")

I know logically we would never work in a relationship but I still get jealous

What can I do?

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SunshineSundress · 2022-09-27T16:25:51+00:00

None of the advice that we have as a community will be helpful for you because EVERYTHING we do is focused around getting/keeping commitment, which you have already willingly given up on.

Ask yourself: is it easier to pretend like you don’t need any commitment and stay exactly the same in this miserable situation, or to work hard to improve your value, both SMV and RMV, as a woman so that you have better options and can actually get commitment from a man with mutual desire for you instead of getting tunnel vision on some guy who thinks you are beneath him?

Maybe he’s right. Maybe right now, you are beneath him. But if you want to be happy in the future, you don’t accept that kind of treatment laying down. You work on yourself so much that it is unimaginable for you to let a man treat you that way. Become the woman who men would run to commit to, and do it for a better man who treated you well from the get go.

Title	How can I (26F) control my feelings for my FWB (33 M) so I can keep seeing him?
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Comments	14
Date	September 27, 2022 2:49 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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