I (35m) have been with my wife (35f) for 15 years, married for 10. She filed for divorce this past spring and now that its almost finalized she lashes out on me about the marriage ending. She often says "you're going to thorw these years away/waste them because you don't want to fix things." Now mind you, I've been the only one going to counseling, reading books, self-improving, etc., and coming to peace with myself and my situation.

She on the other hand, refuses to go to counselimg, extremely disrespectfu, ungrateful, talks down on me even though I dont talk down on her. She always talk about how she will "finally get to be with a real man" after I've provided 100% of the time, loved her the best I could, treated her well, made tremendous sacrifices, and defended her with my life. She says this stuff in front of our 3 young children. It got to the point where I realized she don't deserve me anymore. She has been abusive in everyway imaginable but she says "you're the one with the problems?" Well why does my life get so much better after she leaves me; why would I continue to bust my ass for someone who doesn't think they have any issues when she clearly does? For some reason 4 years ago, she started to treat me really bad out of the blue. I was treating her very well still and now 4 years later she files for a divorce but is mad at me for being done?!

Reddit, what do you think? Thanks!