I (34m)have been with my wife (34f) for 17 years and provided for her for the last 14 years. She did not work but took care of our 3 children for the past 10 years. She has been asking me for a divorce for 5 years, so I finally gave it to her.

Now that the divorce is almost finalized, all she does is verbally attack me everyday saying that it is all my fault that the marriage failed. She doesn't want to face the real world, get a job, and fend for herself because over the years, I feel like she became entitled of me taking care of her and everything financially. She's upset because she believes that since I took care of the bills and she took care of the kids while I worked that all of this is unfair to her because it is not what she signed up for.

I told her, I didn't sign up to get punched in the face by my wife on multiple occasions, I didn't sign up to be abused and disrespected in so many ways. I didn't sign up for a wife who wants me to be physically attracted to her, but let herself go to the point where I sometimes have to remind myself that she is the same person I met 17 years ago at my first job. There are so many things I can't stand a out her, but most of all is probably her lack of accountability. She owns up to nothing. She simply thinks I just stop trying. I have never cheated or put my hands on her. Yet, I'm the bad guy? I don't believe it.

What makes it all worse is the fact that she refused any financial help from me but want to fucking complain. I offered to pay her rent for a about year so that she could take time and get her shit together. If we didn't have 3 kids. I wouldn't offer her shit, not even my ass to kiss. But I don't want them to suffer as much when it comes them being with her. Everything else has already been agreed upon with 50/50 custody. So again, I'm just trying to make this transition smoother, but she wants to have a pity party and complain everytime I see her. What sucks is that we have to cohabitate until she moves out. I don't know how much longer I can be around her crazy ass. Once she's gone, I can exhale and live life peacefully.