[Urgent advice] LTR is gonna break up with me today.

vandaalen · 2017-09-07T15:41:03+00:00

She told you over phone she wants to break up face to face with you?

Cancel and say you know all you need to know. Then block and delete her everywhere and go fuck some other women.

Ain't nobody got time for such bullshit.

If she went nuclear, there is no going back. She told you that she wants to throw you away and there is no going back from this. This amount of drama is reason for a hard next anyways.

SoSmoooth · 2017-09-07T14:58:51+00:00

Stoic mindset. Few words, don't give her emotional drama to indulge herself with. Act indifferent and I guarantee you'll leave that house with three texts from her apologizing. From there... it's up to you whether or not you want to grow or jump back into a dumpster.

walawalawa · 2017-09-07T15:18:00+00:00

Then I replied, "I only fight for the love of the girls who wants me in their lifes, not the ones who want to break up with me" Then after I said that, she said she "isnt sure" about breaking up

You're learning. Now... you break up with her.

Ghost her for a minimum of 2 months: ignore all calls, texts etc.

IF after that time you still want to be with her, meet up, bang her and demote to plate.

The minute a girl starts with the "I want to break up" I say "k" and disappear.

It's never the same after that because 1) I can never trust her 2) the idea of a girl threatening something like that is cause to break up

I kept trying to leave a head case but she kept throwing herself at me because she just didn't want to be the one dumped.

Finally one day she blew up on text and said "i'm done".

Me: "k"

I never spoke to her again---it's been 8 months now. I feel great.

quicklogaccount · 2017-09-07T15:22:31+00:00

Immature girls have a knack for playing that card, "I want to break up with you" and then, "you didn't oppose, you didn't fight to keep us together, you're a monster".
They break up and then decide it was a ultimatum and a "love test" together.

A bro gave me a line to give back for these chicks and help them with a quick reality check.
"I would have fought for our relationship. It wasn't sucking just for you, obviously. But you had your mind made up and fighting to change your mind is hardly the same as fighting for the relationship, so it basically makes you right, it was time to end it."

moorekom · 2017-09-07T15:15:05+00:00

By your edit, it looks like this is her nuclear option. She has already caused you unnecessary trouble. She's your ex girlfriend now. That's your frame.

SoSmoooth · 2017-09-07T15:14:58+00:00

Probably because you were being weak the previous months and then you showcased stoic strength which made her think: "Hm. Maybe he's not as bad as I made him out to be." However. This girl just showcased she's willing to breakup when you're slacking rather than work things out. Is that someone you want to be with? Someone who will drop you when you start to slip? Probably not. I'd grab this red flag by the base and send her off.

MattyAnon · 2017-09-07T20:18:30+00:00

What do you guys think it's the perfect frame to adopt here?

"Thanks for all the great times".

And she started like "You don't care about us, you aren't fighting for me, you just wanna dump this up"

Wow. Breakup shit test. She wants you to care so that she can feel better about dumping you. Hope you maintained indifference.

"I only fight for the love of the girls who wants me in their lifes, not the ones who want to break up with me"

Nice!

, she said she "isnt sure" about breaking up

Very nice.

Well done. She set a beta trap and you avoided it. In the face of your indifference she has her doubts.

You can probably salvage it a bit, but I doubt it would last longer. Convert to FWB.

[deleted] · 2017-09-07T15:28:11+00:00

Ghost her. Do not meet in person. Just keep telling her you are too busy. If you cannot avoid seeing her in person, fart in her face and just walk away smirking.

Kommanderdude · 2017-09-07T15:50:37+00:00

Well for starters you don't live with her so.... Stay stoic. Change the locks to your place if she has a key. Let her know any items of her will be in a box outside of your front door for one of her friends to come get and just ghost her at that point. There is no need to talk. She wants to talk so she can keep you as an orbiter. Ghost man just ghost her.

StraightGlueWater · 2017-09-07T20:14:16+00:00

This shit isn't urgent. This is 101.

Why are you even asking about this; she's moving on to something she thinks is better. She has someone else in line, 100%.

The ship has sailed, your LTR is over. Don't see her, don't listen to whatever manipulative shit she will say to you. Just cut and run. Add 10lbs to your squat to make up for the lost weight of an unworthy woman.

max_peenor · 2017-09-07T16:19:15+00:00

Last night she called me, saying that she wants the talk today face to face, that she decided she wanna break up with me.

Fuck off. She already broke up with you. She's a ghost. She gets nothing more from you ever.

Kisstafer1 · 2017-09-07T16:19:37+00:00

Bro don't even show up, just tell her it's not going to work out long term so there's no point. Then ghost her. Improve yourself . She will start stalking you on social media and probably in real life and at that point you can plate her

LordThunderbolt · 2017-09-07T18:50:18+00:00

Don't even meet up. She already broke up with you last night. Delete her and all her close friends off your social media. Delete her number and text thread. Don't bother play any little games.

Title	[Urgent advice] LTR is gonna break up with me today.
Author	TxnyMontana
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Date	September 7, 2017 2:45 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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