I’m fricking scared

ApeWieldingBasalt · 2022-12-01T00:35:08+00:00

She said if you do you know like 20 people will come and murder you including your friends.

Yeah, I had an ex once who said that if I ever hurt her, her family would kill me.

I said it was messed up to suggest I'd do that to her and to basically threaten me, and later I ended up dumping her because she was emotionally abusive.

Not because of that (she did a lot worse before the breakup). But I maybe should have taken it as a warning that she was immature and didn't care how she made me feel. My advice is, don't become accustomed to people treating you like that.

Amazing-Bit6140 · 2022-12-01T01:25:44+00:00

I know you’re young, but my advice is to dump this girl and get with someone who respects you and makes you feel safe, instead of threatening you and promising harm.

Know that the consequences she’s setting up and threatening aren’t only if you hit her, it’s if she says you hit her, and no one will think twice.

Which makes this very akin to, if we flip the genders, a boyfriend telling his girl “hey I could totally beat you to death if I needed to.” And playing songs about beating women to death. This is not ok for her to do to you.

urmumsadopted · 2022-11-30T23:54:03+00:00

Dump her. She's either doing it to impress her friend group and is super toxic. Or she's actually a violent person and I do not suggest being around when she fully realizes it

BoTheJoV3 · 2022-12-01T03:58:40+00:00

Dump her and tell a trusted adult about what she said.

In high school I had a few teachers/ counselors I could talk to

Stripes1974-a · 2022-12-01T04:37:40+00:00

@therandomdude750:

Please do break up with your girlfriend. Make sure that you do it gently, but do it in public, where your interaction with her can be seen. Do make sure that you speak with civility and clearly, that you state WHY you’re breaking up with her (so that any others listening might hear your reasons/fears about the situation), and then do not communicate with her again without a witness around. Additionally, if you can, before you break up with her, find a way to record your interactions with her and her friends, especially if they play that song again, and then also record the breakup (or have someone record it, but DO NOT POST IT ON SOCIAL MEDIA), for your protection.

My_name_sucks64564 · 2022-12-01T02:59:35+00:00

Quit dump her (idk what it’s called) just stop talking to her to the point y’all not couples

youscrew2 · 2022-12-01T03:47:04+00:00

dump her ASAP

mikesteane · 2022-12-01T00:37:08+00:00

You're in seventh grade. Everything you do should be seen as a learning opportunity. Here are a couple of possibilities in the current situation: 1. Learn the art of Socratic argument; ask them loads of questions about the song ("which I don't really understand"). Get a recording of the song. Don't express an opinion, merely let them go further and further towards whatever the underlying mentality is. You might also ask if she agrees with the song's sentiments. If so, why does she think she is relationship material? If she spouts anti-male rhetoric, this is also your chance to learn some red pill skills.

You can break up with her in several ways:

A. By becoming unattractive to her so that she leaves you and thinks she is doing the break up. I don't recommend doing that here because it is a closed situation, you can't leave and she might well get together with other girls to bully you.

B. By behaving ultra red-pill, another learning game. Here what you need to do is separate inner game from outer game. The inner game in this situation requires the ability to float above things without getting drawn in to anything emotionally. Red pillers sometimes refer to this as "amused mastery". It is an invaluable skill in all walks of life. The outer game, which is all most people ever think about, is how you actually handle the situation.

C. Ignore her and see what happens. Use the time to concentrate on your own affairs; getting good grades, getting into shape, learning new skills and becoming the person you would wish to be. You can always just be "too busy" to talk to her etc. until she gets the hint.

coming2grips · 2022-12-01T08:58:50+00:00

Walk Away

Hype-And-Style · 2022-12-01T06:48:06+00:00

They're being taught to create a hostile environment in the name of preventing a hostile environment.

PactScharp · 2022-12-01T01:05:33+00:00

You're way too young to be on this sub. I advice you delete your social media & stop consuming poison like TikTok or what have you.

What those girls did was stupid, no doubt about it, but at your age, it's very hard to deal with these kinds of issues in a healthy way. I'd say it's just best to ignore it, don't listen to those types of "songs" & go and have fun.

Don't focus on how "bad" the world is. Enjoy your childhood while you still can.

I wasn't really faced with "feminism" until I was 19. I know for a fact it would have harmed me a LOT more if I faced this lunacy at your age. Glad to say I was "clueless" to those issues throughout my teenage years.

For the sake of your own mental health, please, do not consume this type of content.

AlongRiverEem · 2022-12-01T13:45:22+00:00

calmly state: "Abuse is never ok. I'm breaking up with you, I think you need help." Then walk away

AndyBrown65 · 2022-12-01T05:28:10+00:00

Don't be scared. Just your standard power trip.

However, let this be a shining warning beacon to you and your mates. You see society is here to protect women based on the assumption that women need to be saved as they are crucial for breeding. Women know they are a protected group and so it is easy for them to shed crocodile tears and swing a room against an innocent man.

She can easily lie and tell some moron white knight simp you tried to rape her and suddenly there's a posse of brainwashed fools looking for your blood.

My advice to you is simple. Avoid the "drama Queens" These girls are pretty obvious. Low cut tops, short skirts, mass makeup, sexually provocative. These girls peak in High school and end up as obese single mums in they 40s. Be careful what girls and young ladies you interact with. Teenage girls in particular like to see how much power they have without consequences and when you spot those red flags, just keep your distance.

Trust me as a man in his 50's who can look back 35 to 40 years are compare and contrast how girls have turned out. Avoid the manipulative ones. They are generally the popular girls now, but always hit the wall and have problems with relationships later. Avoid the "issues girls". Girls who have been raped, girls who are overly passionate about saving the earth etc. These girls always seem to end up with BPD or other mental health issues.

The girls you really want to hang with are the smart girls, or the "goofy girls". Girls who are relatively pretty, but are smart, value friendship and have half a sense of humour. These girls grow into sensible women. These are the only girls you need to interact with at school. Be polite to the others, but don't seek their friendship and at the first sign of a bad feeling in your gut, just ease back...

_BlueShark87 · 2022-12-01T12:54:23+00:00

Uh transfer schools, go dark on social, and break up because WTF. She literally threatened you. You two are like 13. God when she gets older..

0R0V0H0 · 2022-12-01T16:44:11+00:00

This is psychological abuse and you need to get out of this relationship. You’re both young, but she needs to understand that this isn’t cute or funny. She doesn’t get to torture you for fun. If you break up with her over it, you will be saving yourself some trouble and hopefully showing her that behavior is not acceptable.

donnasunderland123 · 2022-12-01T05:45:12+00:00

Young Padawon, when she misbehaves, remove your attention. Do not engage. Arguments is still (negative)attention.

Attention is why they do what they do. Cute outfits, make up, Insta.

If she misbehaves enough, remove attention permanently

Bronxietheturtle · 2022-12-01T01:38:50+00:00

As a middle schooler if a girl hits you nobody actually really cares if you fight back assuming there are MALE witnesses.

PrudentTemperature72 · 2022-12-01T03:24:40+00:00

Don't get married and don't make Ur bank account shared with ur significant other

F1Since2004 · 2022-12-01T10:37:58+00:00

most women today are like the witches being burnt during the inquisition.

SouthernStereotype45 · 2022-12-01T13:08:33+00:00

Firstly, it’s a song kid. Bob Marley didn’t shoot the Sheriff. Colter Wall didn’t kill Kate McCannon. So don’t be flustered by a murder ballad. It’s just art. Second, if you don’t feel safe in the relationship, bounce. That is the one place a man/woman ought to feel safe. And you’re young. The relationship is fickle by proxy anyway so you’re not losing anything by nipping it in the bud and moving on.

OhGodNoWtf · 2022-12-01T18:14:06+00:00

I'm scared that somebody as young as you ends up here.

gafgone5 · 2022-12-01T11:48:04+00:00

"Would you ever hit me" "Depends on what you do beforehand"

pbj_sammichez · 2022-12-01T17:29:40+00:00

People talk big when they are in groups. A quote from a cartoon comes to mind: "It doesn't matter how many dogs you have if they are all too scared to bark when they're alone." I'm starting to think women want men to be scared, like some sick reparations for the few men who preyed on many women. Except they want all men to be scared, even those who would rather be allies than enemies.

Let your girl know that you will never hit her, but make it clear that the first threatening/abusive words she speaks to you will be the last words she ever speaks to you. Be ready to walk away if you need to.

Title	I’m fricking scared
Author	Therandomdude750
Upvotes	109
Comments	38
Date	November 30, 2022 11:38 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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