Advice needed. I feel like I’m running out of time

mindyourown_biz · 2023-01-11T04:43:33+00:00

As someone who is about to turn 28, you’re not old. Age aside, ask yourself:

-Does this man treat me well?

-Will he treat our future children well?

-Would I advise my future daughter to stay/marry someone like him?

It’s not too late for you I promise.

Slimchicker · 2023-01-11T07:37:26+00:00

I know this space is for women, but I have two cents to add and you can keep the change.

A man is supposed to lead, not berate nor knock you down a few pegs. Like another has posted that we don't know all the details. But I will give you this bit of advice, we have roles to play. Man leads, woman follows. It does not mean man can do what ever the hell he wants, and she is supposed to accept it as well because he is a man. A leader who leads with a firm but gentle hand, his people will die for him without question. But a leader who torments, berates, and belittles his people, then his people will come to fear him and not respect him. And only going on what you posted, if he no longer has your respect, and you fear him because of his words, then leave. Abuse does not equal love, nor does it equal respect. And a woman submits to a man not because he has abused her into being submissive, but because she trusts him to lead. And if you know he is not a good leader because of his actions, then leave. Guess what ? You can do this at any age, just sooner the better and especially better if there are no children involved.

And to the ladies of this forum, please forgive me if I posted out of place. Been a long time lurker here, and it has been awesome learning of the different opinions on the other side of the aisle.

Kind_Entertainment_6 · 2023-01-11T12:15:03+00:00

24 is not old I met my husband at 28, Married him at 29. Many women have walked your path and wasted years with an unsuitable partner only to find themselves on the other side (in their 30’s and single). It is a much better strategy to devote the next few years on finding your real captain. God/the universe/ whatever you believe in - presented you this man and opportunity to learn about the red pill. Use what you have learned, and go forth and find a man worth following. Best of luck

Jenneapolis · 2023-01-11T05:12:09+00:00

I’m not saying you need to leave, there’s really not enough information here for us to understand, however, it’s much better at 24 than 34 or 44. Really think through what the right thing to do is for your life because if you want to do it, it’s not going to get any easier years down the road.

Wife_and_Mama · 2023-01-11T15:27:46+00:00

I got married at 19, because that's what people do in the South. After four years in a horrifying and abusive marriage, I divorced and wow did I feel like I was running out of time for the life I wanted. Here I was in my single girl apartment with my hot pink Christmas tree and emotional trauma, while everyone else was posting pictures of their engagement rings, new homes, and ultrasounds. It was devastating.

Over the next four years, I worked on myself and just really enjoyed my twenties with purpose. I finished grad school, had a career, learned to crochet, read by the pool every day of the summer, worked out, spent time with friends and family. I dated on and off, learning to talk to men and figure out the kind of guy I wanted to be with... if I even still wanted that life. They were some pretty great years. I met my husband at 27, married at 29, had my twin girls at 33 and my boy last month at 35.

If you stay with someone who isn't right for you, you're just going to waste more time. I'd say you have just enough of it right now, so don't squander it with the wrong person or by panicking instead of enjoying this stage of life.

rosesonthefloor · 2023-01-11T14:47:52+00:00

Think through this, and be honest with yourself. When you think about spending the next 60 or so years with this man, does that make you happy? Do you think he would be a good father to your children? Is he the kind of man you’d want your daughter to be with?

I found the love of my life at 28. Others find their perfect match at 26, or 32, or 35+ even. Your life isn’t over. So think about what you’d like to do with the rest of it. And make the choice that’s best for you.

sunglasses90 · 2023-01-11T13:56:37+00:00

I met my fiancé at 28

ladida1321 · 2023-01-11T15:36:40+00:00

I started dating my fiancé at 30.

24 is still very young. You don’t need to settle. Kindness, to me, is one of the most important characteristics a man can have. Your partner should protect you not hurt you. Bottom line.

LeicaRedEye · 2023-01-11T14:52:13+00:00

Abuse, adultery and addiction are all reasons to leave. Please take good care of yourself.

Jazzlike-Emu-9235 · 2023-01-11T17:53:49+00:00

If he is verbally abusive he is no man that you should accept leadership from. Abusive relationships usually start out with cruel comments until they escalate. They don't just start physically assaulting. On top of that I am assuming you want children if you talk about running out of time. Would you honestly want to bring a child into a home with your husband? One of my favorite things I plan to keep in mind when I decide I'm ready to start dating (figuring myself out rn ) is "you shouldn't marry a man unless you'd be proud to have a son like him". There's no point in sticking it through a bad relationship so you "don't run out of time" plus you're 24 until 30 you don't need to really worry about running out of time like this.

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Title: Advice needed. I feel like I’m running out of time

Full text: My (24F) bf (26M) introduced me to the “red pill” lifestyle when we got together. In other words I was ignorant and I had a lot of childish tendencies. This started almost 3 years ago and I have changed for the better, I’d never stray back to the girl I was before.

However my boyfriend has become verbally abusive and I feel his words are starting to get to me. When I start to consider leaving I feel as if I’m too old already and won’t find a man to care for me.

I just feel confused and I’m really looking for honest thoughts and opinions, I wish I would’ve known what I know now back then.

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coolmoongirl · 2023-01-13T01:16:15+00:00

24 is young still. Many people get married a year after dating. You should not stay with someone who is abusive to you. It is better to leave now before you have children involved in the situation. If your goal is to find a husband and you are a good woman, you should be entirely fine at 24.

ShockingTurn0fEvents · 2023-01-14T07:07:11+00:00

You're not too old, just yet. But get a hurry on and make your choices because 26-27 you're going to be in a whole different ballgame, all the good men will have settled down.

Title	Advice needed. I feel like I’m running out of time
Author	DreamAffectionate778
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Comments	15
Date	January 11, 2023 3:44 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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